Wha can I do?

Lonely-Pikachu · 2022-10-05T18:40:12+00:00

Go completely bald but grow a beard, hit the gym and get nice clothes

pkuforlife · 2022-10-05T18:19:10+00:00

Why don’t you just stop focusing on woman and focus on getting strong and rich for like a year?

Pour all the energy into yourself and tell yourself you are not going to focus on woman, because it’s been energy draining and fruitless for you for 1 year. Only after a year of only focusing on being strong and rich you’re allowed to talk to woman. See how that works out for you.

SolidPuzzleheaded984 · 2022-10-05T17:59:18+00:00

People here will tell you to work on your personality, self esteem, etc.

Don’t listen to them.

You need to get rich or something.

Necrosaro_123 · 2022-10-05T19:51:05+00:00

I'm 37 (M) and let me explain to you my trip so far in life:

- I started investing in myself in terms of fitness. I lost 26 pounds so far. Now i'm on my correct weight. I still have fat to burn and I try to do excersise regulary. My diet changed completely. I removed sugar, fast food, sodas and bread. I have never felt so great in my life.

- Because I lost weight, i needed a new wardrobe. So i changed my style, based on how other guys (with girlfriends) dress like. So instead of dressing like a weirdo, now i dress like the rest of the guys and my clothes fit my size correctly (No longer buy "L" size shirts, now I get "S" and they fit my torso just right). I got some brands I never had in my life, like Vans, Nike or even dress shoes. Now I look better.

- I started practicing stoicism and mindfulness to remove stress and anxiaety. I also removed video games from my every day activity and now i study topics related to my job and skills that i would love to have (Excel and programing). I remove negative thinking and promote on myself possitive thinking.

- In terms of social skills, I have been working a lot to turn myself into a social animal. I talk to all the people around me. From the lady that serves my coffee in Starbucks to the guy in charge of my bank account. Or even my coworkers. I'm no longer afraid to start conversation.

- In terms of dating, i'm working on removing filters, go out with the ladies just for fun and enjoy the ride. I have been practicing cold approach, but those have been challenging in the city i'm living. So i'm going to keep working on cold approach elsewere.

Don't focus on the goal too much, enjoy the trip. Women can smell "neediness" from miles away and also....You have to put your shit together. So work on yourself, love yourself, have fun. Women also have a hard time and they are also looking for a serious relationship. There is a lady out there for you, but you need to "fix" yourself first and then, start looking for her.

You are not running out of time. Enjoy the ride dude!.

Ok-Class-1451 · 2022-10-05T17:58:17+00:00

You gotta find something else to bring to the table. You do need to have at least something. Maybe you’re the funny guy or the rare emotionally intelligent guy or the shoulder to cry on or the guy with a hauntingly beautiful voice, or the guy with charisma, the super educated guy, and of course let’s be realistic, guys with money get far too. Or something else. You need to have at least 1, ideally 2-3 things you bring to the table. Focus on the positive: what’s YOUR thing?

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-05T17:56:11+00:00

for you dude, you have to start with actual professional mental health treatment. your self-esteem / self-concept etc are just absolutely fucked, and as such it would be cruel to force you into these sorts of complex social situations.

IndigoChild422 · 2022-10-05T20:30:58+00:00

Record yourself reading this post. Then play it back, and then ask yourself if you’d even want to hangout with that guy? Let alone date him. I know of plenty of short bald dudes dating models

zerohelix · 2022-10-05T18:06:47+00:00

Dude. Get jacked and workout for 90 mins a day like 5 times a week. Get to it now trust me this will change a whole lot about you.

You'll look better and feel more confident. Oh and cut down the whackin off if you're doing it alot. I'm not saying stop but make the only exception is if you're crushing hard about the pussy you smashed so hard last night that she wants to do it again.

Wa_llet · 2022-10-05T18:12:32+00:00

First stop saying all these negative things about yourself

morphiusn · 2022-10-05T20:33:19+00:00

You can't change your looks, but you can change and improve: your style, your hygiene, skin-care routine, your conversational skills, your charisma, humor, career choices. Women care a little less about looks, you just have to get your shit together, focus on things most guys ignore. Once you improve as a man, its a numbers game. If you are selling a product to 10 people per week, chances you're gonna sell is slim, but if you try to sell for 1000 people, someone gonna eventually buy it. You are the product.

Surfpig86 · 2022-10-05T22:38:13+00:00

Get fit like super fit. Shave your head grow facial hair dress like a boss. Ugly dudes get chicks all the time coz the are fit and dress well and treat people well. If I can get married to a pretty girl so can you.

hundred_mile · 2022-10-05T18:25:31+00:00

Bro. You know what's more attractive than BBC and model physique and appearance? Money!

Work hard. Make shit tons of cash.

A_Rabid_Doge · 2022-10-05T17:55:34+00:00

Yea that's not a good combination.

Get extremely rich?

Okcomputertje · 2022-10-05T18:40:53+00:00

Its not how you look but how you think you look. (For a part obviously)

Why cant I make a new post in this sub btw??

PlayHardGoBroke · 2022-10-05T19:22:28+00:00

First of all, you were not given the best cards to work with, but you can cry forever or do something about it. Life is not fair, just move on

1# priority Lookmaxxing. Most people could go up by several points if they just actually cared. Some steps are actually very simple and for everyone. Get jacked/lean, haircut(depending on your balding stage)+well groomed beard to your face style, nice fit clothes, decent skincare routine. It is usually the least attractive people that neglect them because "why bother" when it is actually the opposite, the uglier you are the harder you should work on it

2# Priority - Just make money. First to take your looks to the next stage: Perfect smile for example. For balding, you even have options, can do hair implants or professional fitted hair wigs if this is really killing you. And 2nd as it will help with women and lifestyle

Height there's not much you can do about it, the height surgery sounds crazy to me, I would just accept it. Yes, you are small and probably won't go out with a 5'7" girl, but there are loads of 5ft girls out there too

Being rejected 100 times is actually nothing. Dating is a numbers game. I have got friends that would hit on that amount of women just in any random club, just for the 101 to say yes. Aim to be rejected 100k times

hayasaka_best_waifu · 2022-10-05T19:31:53+00:00

You can leave the things you cant do aside and focus on what you cant do:

diet, if you're skinny bulk, if you're fat cut, and train to build an aesthetic masculine body, cardio for stamina, sleep well for good teatosterone generation, muscle building and healing and a fixed mental health

-study something, learn a skill, be ready to have skills to handle business and income sources which is what you will aim for

-work on your mental health, meditate, learn to love yourself as you are enough to try to better it just for yourself, and SLEEP, I CANT STRESS ENOUGH HOW IMPORTANT GOOD SLEEP IS

-work on your social skills

-NEVER LOSE HOPE (dont u fall into the nice guys narratives, x pill narrative and so on)

Side note: you're a piece of art given by the creator whose artist is you, you know best how to style it. The necessary constants are masculine features like jawlines which you create by being fit, the rest is up to you, you can work on many combinations of hair (if you're only partly bald) and facial hair and one of them must be right

Hope this helps

jsbach123 · 2022-10-05T19:37:59+00:00

To those who say "get rich", they're are plenty of guys who work in Silicon Valley who earn $100k+ who are still hopelessly single. A lot of those guys are from India who also claim no women likes them.

The first thing is, your attitude is pretty bad. I read your post history and almost all of it is you complaining how pathetic you are. Even your Reddit screenname shows a defeatist attitude. You should forget about women for now and work on getting a better outlook on life. If you find yourself worthless, you can't help if women think you're worthless too.

Then you should get something going for you so that it shows ambition.

They're are also image consultants who can advise you on how you dress better and sport a more fashionable hairstyle.

Remember the world is 50 50 gender balanced. That means there's always someone for everyone. You might just have to lower your standards or find a woman overseas.

Jasonhardon · 2022-10-05T20:40:51+00:00

Shave your head or get hair surgery. Work out at the gym 5 days a week. Get a better wardrobe of stylist. Educate yourself on pickup knowledge cause it sounds like you’re lacking

SkyluxTM · 2022-10-05T22:27:38+00:00

Bro if you started bald, 5'2 and ugly then I really hope that you at least played your cards right to get a good job

Mr_Mercurial · 2022-10-06T00:38:10+00:00

Before even working on your appearance. I'd focus on loving yourself, find and connect with your inner confidence and start to think and feel better in your own skin. That Is the most attractive underlying trait a human can have.

Nalayak_Launda · 2022-10-05T19:23:35+00:00

Get a height increase surgery, get to like 5'5 or 5'6.
Go completely bald, Hit the gym

OR/AND

Make tons of money

MusicgoonV2 · 2022-10-05T20:28:32+00:00

Your attitude is shitty and you're complacent and cowardly. I want to say work on yourself, but I doubt you will. You've already heard what you need to do, you just probably won't do it. I suggest going to therapy first. Your way of thinking is abysmal.

Acerthechaser · 2022-10-06T00:36:05+00:00

This is what you need to do in order: 1. Get an escort (no shame in that rich and good looking guys do it all the time) 2. Looksmaxxing: Buy shoe insoles and elevator shoes (tallmenshoes.com and Amazon you can add up to 5+ inches instantly) Hair loss: use minoxidil and finasteride if those don’t work use a hair piece/get a hair transplant Workout: Go to the gym at least 5 times a week and get as close as you can to 10% body fat and maintain from there around 10-13% body fat Beard: use minoxidil to grow a beard if you don’t already have one and keep it at 4mm length (dark stubble is the most attractive to women) Jawline: if you don’t have a good jawline start mewing and get either braces or Invisalign cause it can help Style: Go on Pinterest and type “men’s style” and dress exactly like them Piercings/tattoos: you need to get your ears pierced and get some tattoos for your sex appeal 3. Social skills: you need to be going out every weekend while improving all these things simultaneously (lifts and piercings will make you more attractive instantly and give you a boost from your current state) Go to clubs every weekend and cold approach 3 women per week. Club game women are more rude but daygame they’re more friendly 4. Stop consuming the black pill 5. Get a therapist to fix your negative mindset 6. Make some friends at the club to become your wingmen 7. Get your money up you need to be rich bro (work full time and do Uber part time for the extra cash) 8. Hygiene has to always be on point (Manscape, deodorant, cologne, ball powder, beard balm, etc)

This will give you results… a lot of people gave you the “just workout bro “ response. This is what you need to win in this life… you only have one life bro. We live in a superficial world that’s the reality, you were dealt a bad hand, no need to play fair. Use everything you can to get an advantage. I believe in you g!

dobbs1997 · 2022-10-05T19:39:21+00:00

lmaoo you know your only REAL problem is your view on yourself right ? Why do you think it’s been so hard to attract women ? cause you believe you’re ugly, you think your height matters and you think your bald head is a disadvantage, all of this shit starts in your mind & you project it out into the world so when you try and interact with a chick to make something happen your insecurities & negative view on yourself come out and so that turns the girl off. It’s not your looks that turn her off, it’s the view you have on yourself that turns her off…let that sink in. Women care more about what you think about yourself than what she thinks about you.

SilverSkyer · 2022-10-05T20:51:57+00:00

You're not a loser. Youjust don't fit a section of your societies ideals. Maybe getting laid or getting a women isn't all its built up to be?

useless27118 · 2022-10-05T18:24:07+00:00

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noahgoddard98 · 2022-10-05T20:01:52+00:00

Embrace being bald. If you have any hair left, shave it. Get some oil on that head so it's nice and shiny.
Get a gym membership. Focus on increasing muscle mass, take supplements and eat lots of high protein food.
Get a really nice watch.
Go to therapy. The result you want from this is high levels of confidence and not giving a fuck what people think. The negative self talk in this post is an indication that you have some self-esteem issues which women will pick up on a mile away and which are pretty easy to fix with a good shrink.
Work like a demon on your career. You need to be rich if you're not handsome. Sorry. That's just the way it is. Luckily most people can work their way, if not into legitimate wealth, at least into a decent living.

No-Cryptographer8074 · 2022-10-05T23:23:23+00:00

I once dated a 5’2 guy. He had also made money and I think it affected the fact that he was able to approach girls more freely. I am 5’10 myself.

I left him because he was cheap, the type of cheap that does not want to pay luggage to the airplane, only bring carry on when traveling to another country. He was also getting bald. Nothing bad on those things, but dude. You can’t be really short, CHEAP & be loosing your hair. Also he was not able to stand up for himself, easy to push around. That is not attractive at all.

// Edit. He is 37, wants to get married and have kids but never been in longer relationship than 3 years. Good luck with that mix.

Nalayak_Launda · 2022-10-05T19:27:17+00:00

I went through your post history my guy. Get a prostitute first. And then follow the steps people are telling you.

I want to reiterate my earlier reply though. Get a height increase surgery 100%. It will change a lot. And hit the gym and shave your head.

Making a ton of money isnt that straightforward. But you'll have to figure something out in this respect.

Costos · 2022-10-05T19:05:32+00:00

Money then get an Asian wife

Fate-in-haze · 2022-10-05T18:48:46+00:00

Try speed seduction, if a guy who looks like Ross Jeffries can get laid with it then any guy should have a chance.

Halewynn · 2022-10-05T18:52:34+00:00

Girls will see you as 6 feet tall if you're standing on a big stack of dollars.

FIVE_6_MAFIA · 2022-10-05T19:22:32+00:00

Grow out a beard and work out.

chechecherrybomb · 2022-10-05T19:45:24+00:00

Speaking as a woman on this sub, yes, money will help but you may end up attracting a gold digger.

But it was also show women that are stable which can be a huge factor in attraction.

But, overall, you do have to work on you. People can smell desperation and it doesn't matter what you look like - it's a huge turnoff.

Plus you're basing your self-worth on attracting members of the opposite sex. Mentally, this is not healthy.

Like everyone is saying, work on yourself: money, fitness, but most of all loving yourself.

Then you'll exude a vibe that won't be overlooked. :)

Gaydame · 2022-10-05T20:03:30+00:00

Well...

I mean, it's not impossible for you to attract someone (plenty of people in a similar situation or worse have done it), but with your learned helplessness that barrier would have to be overcome.

On the other hand you're not completely hopeless or you wouldn't have posted here.

2-pronged approach:

A fit, successful, well dressed, outgoing short bald man is much more attractive than the opposite, even if it's the same man. [Work on yourself and your life]
Sounds like you have problems of self- worth. Which it really takes therapy to work through. [Get therapy]

As for rejection, I used to be an approach coach, I've had around 80 or so sexual partners, some ONS, some relationships and I've been rejected probably 500 times, so don't take rejection as a metric for failure.

And "I'm a loser."

Well, that's true, but only because you say it. I doubt your assessment of yourself is as objective as you think. There's still hope!

(Also, 32 isn't old!!)

debthedee · 2022-10-05T20:06:56+00:00

why dont you date an ugly woman
99% of this subreddit's users would vanish by tomorrow if they follow this songs advice https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jybuuw-svRI

SpecialistDesk9297 · 2022-10-05T20:25:03+00:00

Well, can you list some things you like about yourself ? There's somebody for everybody. A lot of times it' not how ugly or pretty you are, but how you present yourself.

YoungStarchild · 2022-10-05T21:06:48+00:00

God damn bro start with a little bit of confidence. Half way through this post and you had already obliterated yourself with all your supposed faults. Find out all the good shit you have to offer and stop focusing on what you don’t have.

devHaitham · 2022-10-05T21:10:14+00:00

Bro hmu i can help you

devHaitham · 2022-10-05T21:10:44+00:00

You need to get in the no fucks given mindset, act like you literally have nothing to lose. Own your disadvantages

Noooofun · 2022-10-05T21:49:33+00:00

Not sure what you mean by extremely ugly.

But yes. Change your looks. If you’re balding, own it. If you can grow a beard, do it. If you can buy some better fitting clothes and dress better, do it.

Approaching a woman is mostly about confidence. As long as it isn’t taboo to do so in your country, go for it again.

If one woman rejects you, go for the next. It’s a numbers game to be honest.

CaptainSaveBPD · 2022-10-05T21:51:05+00:00

just got to have a good mind set bro!

mural030 · 2022-10-05T21:53:50+00:00

My partner is bald and to me that is insanely attractive. Stop focusing on how awful you are. Start educating yourself, start being active and working out. Educate your mind. Try finding out what colours and cuts in clothing look good on you.

beenpimpin · 2022-10-05T22:05:51+00:00

Where a tupee if ur bald. I’ve got full hair but I’m thinking of shaving it just to wear a tupee coz it looks better

neversleeps212 · 2022-10-05T22:24:52+00:00

I mean it’s good that you’re being honest with yourself about what you’re bringing to the table. Now that said, you maximize what you can offer. Shave your head or get a hair transplant. Get in shape. Dress well. Get a solid stable job if you don’t have one.

But ultimately you’ve gotta realize you ain’t gonna be pulling dimes. But there are ugly women out there who just want to find a decent guy to build a family with. Make a list of all the non physical qualities you find attractive in women (eg loyalty or a good sense of humor) and find women like that.

No-Historian-6391 · 2022-10-05T22:27:17+00:00

Muenster_Cheez · 2022-10-05T22:32:33+00:00

I've seen attractive short men. So height is not always the issue. It's your confidence, how you take care of yourself, and how well your life is going. Women are attracted to men who aren't stressed or worried. Sure everyone has their own worries and stress, but you don't want to project that, and you want to look like you can handle them/ look put together. People in general can sniff out/see insecurity, and t's not attractive.

Best to shave your head, find facial hair style that suits you (if applicable), hit the gym, eat healthy, and maybe find a stylist or a friend who has good taste in clothes help you find a style that suits you. Make sure clothes fit correctly! Women notice little things like that. It helps to have a good stable job, if you don't have that, work towards one.

Women like men who are respectable, listens and shows interests in them. So just learn to socialize casually without seeming desperate/worried/too eager/too attached. Just take things slow and do your best. Might help to seek out a therapist or dating coach or both depending on where you're at mentally.

I hope the best for you!!

burncushlikewood · 2022-10-05T22:41:09+00:00

Diet, exercise bro! I always think of it like this, even if you're ugly there's a woman out there for you bro! You just gotta find her, there is a woman that is similar to your looks, and she fits your personality well too

Bradthefunman · 2022-10-05T23:25:20+00:00

Shave your head, grow a beard keep it trimmed and lined up nicely. Stay in shape, run and hit the gym. Do cold approaches, my personal favorite is the drive thru of random fast food places (not the highest quality girls ofc but easy to pull)

Joel504 · 2022-10-05T23:44:40+00:00

Start w/ changing your fuckin mindset about urself, before u start worrying what other people think. Stare at yourself in the mirror long enough to either love yourself or hate yourself and thats all up to you.

peace_love_mcl · 2022-10-05T23:45:09+00:00

Do as well as you can at your job, workout, dress clean, and have good hygiene. Aspire to be the type of person that you think the type of person you want to date deserves.

thederbear · 2022-10-05T23:46:20+00:00

Working on appearance won’t help you. Get rich.

CigarFrog · 2022-10-05T23:53:29+00:00

At 40, I started my 2nd life, left a 10 year sexless Marriage/15 year relationship. I left with my 2000 Jetta and whatever worldly possessions I could fit in it. I got into the Game, lived life like a pornstar for a couple of years, found the perfect woman(for me). 10 years later, we're married with a kid both making mad money! Life is good. Can be for you too, if you want it bad enough! Look me up if you want more details!

ZenMachine

PS at 40, I was bald, short (5'5"), minority and BrokeAss renting a room, initially sleeping on a cot! So yeah, I completely changed things around and do can you!

AK1010 · 2022-10-06T00:23:32+00:00

Get your money up, stop giving a fuck, go gym, dress better, smell expensive, fuck escorts to get comfortable with beautiful women and if this is too much to do, then just give up G lol try to find happiness within yourself, no one outside of you is gonna ever give you fulfillment that you can get from finding peace within.

Remember no one will remember us once we are gone, like we don't think about people that were alive a 100 years ago. This should give you some relief that your life won't matter to others as much as we think in our heads. Knowing this you can get ballsy and stop being in our headspace, be respectful and just go after what you want even if it means rejection. Frame it so rejection is a win for you, that way you will always win whether you get it or not. Good luck.

Noble_-_6 · 2022-10-06T01:48:15+00:00

You’re not fucked, there’s a reason you see some girls that are absolute knockouts with goblins, not saying ur a goblin. But girls value looks less than you’d think compared to us guys

Successful-Funny-518 · 2022-10-06T01:48:53+00:00

Commit to being bald, it can be a good look! Grow a beard and work out. Focus on the physical attributes you can control. And work on loving yourself. Confidence is big in dating. I date shorter men because I like that height but they have to be confident and charming.

inawlaah · 2022-10-06T01:52:57+00:00

Thank me later, but go and read The Manual by W Anton

Frankiedrunkie · 2022-10-06T02:04:17+00:00

Make a shit load of money

I’m not rich or anything, also I’m not good looking, but I attract a decent amount of women coz I got my shit together and drive a nice car

I’m 6’0 130 lbs, so I’m underweight and I’m also a minority were I stay.

Focus on improving your life/lifestyle and women will want to be part of it, if all you worry about is getting girls then it will show and girls will run away from such guys plus that shit drains your energy, trust me, Ive been there.

Title	Wha can I do?
Author	useless27118
Upvotes	90
Comments	216
Date	October 5, 2022 5:52 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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