What do you do when your girlfriend talks about her problems?

thedreamkillers · 2022-06-01T14:21:18+00:00

assuming you're in a serious relationship, just listen with full attention. no shortcuts in empathy.

DeliberatelyInsane · 2022-06-01T15:56:25+00:00

Girlfriend- be truly present.

Random girl I'm seeing- "You're smart/strong enough to handle that, chin up! Btw, you won't believe..... "

CrimsonSpinel · 2022-06-01T14:16:57+00:00

Just listen. We don't want you to fix the problem, we just want to vent

Graaarg999 · 2022-06-01T14:39:25+00:00

Listen and empatize, don't try to fix her problems, she just want to vent in a safe place.

Arab_CHI · 2022-06-01T14:16:58+00:00

Listen, listen, and listen. Then dick her down! Especially if it involves other girls.

Dean_Soja · 2022-06-01T15:30:03+00:00

“Wow”

“Really?”

“That’s crazy”

“How did that make you feel?”

GotThaAcid5tab · 2022-06-01T19:31:40+00:00

cover my ears and go LALALALA

^{jokes i dont have a gf :(}

originalgainster · 2022-06-01T19:21:57+00:00

no gf no problem

lildudefromXdastreet · 2022-06-01T14:22:28+00:00

Just nod your head. Something I realized is when women have problems they don't want solutions. Actually makes our job easier. All you the gotta do is nod like you're paying attention

Equal-Drawing481 · 2022-06-01T15:29:15+00:00

just listen ~ my girl

ExpensiveNinja · 2022-06-01T18:59:29+00:00

Listen and definitely don't say anything that goes against her stance. She's looking for empathy from you, the one person she should be able to get it from. So if you don't have anything to say that backs her up, just listen.

MattyMatt84 · 2022-06-01T16:31:35+00:00

Space out and nod periodically.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-01T15:41:27+00:00

Tell her you’re a better listener when she’s naked.

playadxb · 2022-06-01T23:01:49+00:00

Charge by the rate.

Therapy aint free, I expect you to feel the same.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-06-01T16:25:13+00:00

Is this getting to energy vampire levels?

misterlump · 2022-06-01T17:21:59+00:00

Listen. Relate. Ask if she wants any help. React accordingly.

entitledwank · 2022-06-01T17:42:44+00:00

If we’ve already had sex then I validate her but never before

FrequentPizza8663 · 2022-06-01T14:19:41+00:00

Ask her how you can support her. And then just listen.

Low_Fondant9911 · 2022-06-01T15:59:18+00:00

I'm pretty sure you just don't. That's what she wants.

revente · 2022-06-01T16:50:18+00:00

Girlfriend? I listen.

But if this was some random chick I just met I'd likely change the subject or leave.

3SidedDie · 2022-06-01T19:43:27+00:00

I used to feel horrible, terrible when my gf (now ex) would vent with me about the crappy life she was taking and I couldn't do shit.

And I'll be serious, I still have no idea on what I should have done/said. I used to just cuddle with her whenever that happened and sometimes just cry with her. I think depression was having a lot of fun fucking us up.

So here's a tip. Listen, and if it is normal daily shit, just nod and answer properly. But if you think some shit is going on, take her to the psychiatrist or something.

aerosmith760 · 2022-06-01T19:54:39+00:00

It depends, if you really like her and see a future with her, just let her vent and speak her piece, and the key is to keep your mouth shut until she’s done talking. Ask follow up questions and try to fully understand where she’s coming from. When you understand, and it’s over just say “well, fuck”. Don’t try to fix the situation, come up with a solution, try to make her laugh, or cry with her. Women really don’t give a fuck they just want to vent, and someone that looks like they’re listening. Let the dust settle, and then go right back to living life.

If it’s someone you kind of don’t give a fuck about, then just do it sometimes.

The key is to not say anything, or interrupt her.

Kind-Standard-536 · 2022-06-02T01:39:11+00:00

I would ask my ex as I felt she was going to talk about her problems, “do you want me to help you solve your problems, or just listen?” 99% of the time, she just wants you to listen. It really helped our relationship bc she felt that I was truly trying to empathize with her

realistfake12 · 2022-06-02T08:35:40+00:00

Honestly just listen, don't try and offer solutions up front, just sympathise

practice-wit · 2022-06-01T20:45:13+00:00

Give her solutions. Different options. :S

Available-Concert732 · 2022-06-01T19:56:06+00:00

If I love her I listen to her. And if I’m not able to manage those ones I’ll go looking for a therapist or Doctor

cbrew14 · 2022-06-01T20:09:26+00:00

One up her

FirmestChicken · 2022-06-01T20:28:25+00:00

Most the time just shut up and nod my head

cunningcaring · 2022-06-02T00:27:39+00:00

Listen.

WoodpeckerNo5416 · 2022-06-02T00:38:23+00:00

Pretend to listen

XanthicStatue · 2022-06-02T02:09:45+00:00

Listen. Ask her if she wants advice, my opinion, or just to vent. I’m happy to do all three. Ask follow up questions to her.

Reddit_user_21346 · 2022-06-02T08:35:16+00:00

Give her a snickers, youre not you when you're hungry

belka24 · 2022-06-02T10:49:22+00:00

I allocate a common part of my interest to what she is saying, so I can answer and dont give a fuck after, without forgetting what she said. Sometimes you can fix her problems, but most of the time it's just the woman nature to talk and just talk

Arthur-Shelby · 2022-06-02T14:01:55+00:00

Leave the room.

Title	What do you do when your girlfriend talks about her problems?
Author	Kevin26039898
Upvotes	45
Comments	57
Date	June 1, 2022 2:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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