What does it mean?

Seoulandspirit · 2021-06-04T11:48:29+00:00

Only she knows, so just wait. I see you’ve posted this multiple times and I’m not sure what you want to be told here. Relax, she’s said she’ll let you know and that may well be the case. If not, shrug it off and move on

SithLordJediMaster · 2021-06-04T13:27:47+00:00

It means she's had a hectic week because she just started an internship

Infinite_Worker2745 · 2021-06-04T12:22:40+00:00

Yeah you don’t want to come off as desperate or needy that is a vibe killer and will doom you with this woman . Take a step back and work on your own self improvement .

Snoo-20788 · 2021-06-04T12:46:55+00:00

Doesn't seem like she lost her interest, she does have a good reason to be busy, and even points it out.

I'd say, take it easy, see if you can see her, but keep your options open by seeing other people, otherwise you'll obsess about whether that girl in particular will be available or not.

andonly333 · 2021-06-04T12:11:43+00:00

Be respectful of the situation. Let her know you're interested and keep living

RPLLOIAY_16 · 2021-06-04T13:49:21+00:00

You re way too focused on the her. Switch the focus on your purpose and go get after it

JambiChick · 2021-06-04T13:40:18+00:00

It sounds to me like she definitely enjoyed your company, but her top priority is her career. That means, for now, most of her energy is going to be put toward her career & internship. A romantic relationship simply takes a back seat to the career. It isn't personal; it's just a matter of priorities. It sounds like maybe you put a bit more focus on a relationship than she does.

Simpleplan3030 · 2021-06-04T13:47:44+00:00

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theresettowin · 2021-06-04T13:56:36+00:00

Step back. Do your thing. If she comes to you then so be it.

Infinite_Worker2745 · 2021-06-04T11:41:01+00:00

She could have lost interest or she is truly busy and needs to focus on her new internship. Remember the old saying “ men chase women choose”

tryingtochange72662 · 2021-06-04T13:58:23+00:00

You probably came across as being too needy with the daily messages. She’s starting an internship and is clearly career focused so was probably hoping that you guys would just do stuff casually without the relationship type stuff like the daily texting

Iamamindfullsoul · 2021-06-04T13:20:44+00:00

Women have tens of chats going on with men at any point in time. There is also Snapchat and tinder on top. They have a buffet of choices and at times date multiple people. You could also do the same. You may have a better chance winning the lottery than figuring out why she is doing this.

Don’t reply to her and be busy yourself. Replying shows weakness and she loses interest.

Big_Loud · 2021-06-04T11:44:01+00:00

See how it goes but if you lose interest move on or talk to someone else as well if you're not too sure where this is going and if you want to, you're not in a committed relationship with her, she could be talking to other people too you never know

But she does sounds like she's legitimately busy but then again I'm not her idk what she's thinking

Almightyjets · 2021-06-04T13:16:23+00:00

Just take it slow. If you show signs of frustration to her, it shows that you don’t have much else going on in your life and as a man your life purpose should always come first. To me it still sounds like she’s interested as long as you play your cards right, by letting her know you understand and to let you know whenever she is free. After that I would wait for her to reach out to you first, by giving her space it will allow her to think about you more without feeling the pressure of constantly texting. In the meantime just focus on yourself

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2021-06-04T13:23:22+00:00

New attraction fades each day. Can't really fight that sometimes.

elyuma · 2021-06-04T14:07:28+00:00

Just tell her to let you know when she is not busy to meet again and keep going with your life. If she want you, she will. Otherwise, keep going with your life.

stasiaeurasia · 2021-06-04T15:03:41+00:00

Pray she doesn’t find your Reddit account.

PaintingCool · 2021-06-04T12:03:32+00:00

PLEASE DONT OVER THIBK THIS. If this continues longer than a week then you know it. She is actually busy...

El0vution · 2021-06-04T13:46:26+00:00

It has nothing to do with her job, and everything to do with you. STOP MESSAGING HER THROUGHOUT THE DAY. Starting dating other girls and wait for her to reach out to you and then plan a date.

VDKay · 2021-06-04T13:54:02+00:00

Yeah, that's mixed signals. Several things could have triggered them which may or may not have to do with you (but chances are you'll never know or you'll never get an honest reply). She seemed very excited at first and that's good, but after the date her feelings changed. She was not that excited any more, and she felt like toning-back your expectations as well.

One question though. You said you already went out, what 1 or 2 times already. Did you do anything intimate? Did you go out as platonic friends? or as man-woman? Did you flirt? did you kiss?

What could have gone wrong? You name it:

she met someone else who she is more interested to invest in
she started talking again with her ex
she got her program messed up, got very stressed or is simply too busy
her dog died
something happened to her family
she feels like you expect something different from her than she is from you (could it be that you met through tinder and she expected a hookup++ but you gave off that stable BF vibes)
she felt that you are on different stages in your lives or are too different personalities and you'd never get along in the long run (it's very easy to miss this especially in the early stages when you are both very excited)
she just didn't quite feel the same excitement when she was with you the second time
she simply changed her mind (the point of going out on dates and meeting people is exactly to gauge if you enjoy and are compatible for each other)
she's crazy

These and another million reasons.

Don't pressure anything. If you are really uncomfortable without closure, you could try to set-up a date one more time and if she dodges that/ghosts you as well, you could simply text her that you really had a fun time together, that you think she is an amazing person, and that you could see this going X direction, but you get that the feelings are not mutual and that's totally respectable, so bit her goodbye and hope that you meet her again at some point maybe under different circumstances

Pringles__ · 2021-06-04T14:22:25+00:00

I once asked a girl out and I dated her. Things went very well and I told her after the date that we should do this again, she was really up for it. A few days after, I texted her to schedule the date and we got it settled up. So, I added the event in my agenda and moved on. After this, I didn't have anything to text her.

The day comes and I go to the place where we were supposed to meet. However, she basically didn't show up. I waited 30 minutes, thinking that she was probably late. I was working on something meanwhile (was not going to waste time). After these 30 minutes, I texted her. She basically had forgotten about the date. I told her "no worries" and left it here.

Why am saying this? For me, dating is not about forcing someone to hang out with you. There is a 50/50 rule that I like to abide to. There was no reason for me to be 100% into her as there was no reason for her to be 100% into me. I took the initiative to ask her out and to repropose her, all I expected from her was to remember the date and just show up.

I could have kept texting her, I could have at least messaged her something the day before, yet why should I have done any of this? I didn't feel the need to chase her.

I won't tell you "don't come off as desperate or needy", this is still neediness itself as you are still shaping yourself towards her. Instead, I'll ask you, do you feel like there is something you should be doing? She told you that she was busy, how are you feeling about this? If it's a problem, tell her or don't consider anything with her. If it's not a problem for you, then just tell her to contact you as soon as she's available. Don't be nervous.

rookieMale · 2021-06-04T14:44:21+00:00

It means you developed too much comfort and not enough tingles. The desire is dying down. Completely ghost until she texts to reach out.

a-little-spice · 2021-06-04T15:05:01+00:00

You should just believe her. And chill

bbcDaddyRw · 2021-06-04T15:26:30+00:00

My thought process is your friends until you fuck and Even after she’s still just a friend until y’all agree on being in a relationship

Simpleplan3030 · 2021-06-04T14:09:07+00:00

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Jazzlike_Weakness_83 · 2021-06-04T14:33:47+00:00

Go one dates with other girls while she is living her life. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket or your going to obsess with her. You only went on one date so throw a causal answer back and leave it. If she messages you cool, if not your busy with your life and the dating world.

One top, don’t over text after one date. Ya text her once and while but if she never initiates then stop. If she isn’t answering don’t send another text. This scares girls away. Over texting is intense and makes you seem desperate.

alexminne · 2021-06-04T15:01:01+00:00

I’ve had success just dropping women and moving on. A few weeks later they hit you up wondering why you lost interest I guess. Sometimes the best way to chase a girl is to not chase her at all.

kittybrehbreh · 2021-06-04T15:01:25+00:00

Stop texting her so much.

IamWisdom · 2021-06-04T15:33:29+00:00

you were talking too much via text and there's no more mystery. Rookie mistake.

Actual-Gap-9800 · 2021-06-04T15:35:32+00:00

Just don’t text her so much man. It doesn’t mean never text her or start putting less effort into conversations. Just don’t text her so much. It’s that simple. Yeah, there’s this internship but regardless, maybe she feels you’re beginning to talk her ear off? We all know how it feels when someone you’re cool with talks to you for a little bit too long and you just want to do something else- even though you’re cool with them- right? You guys don’t know each other that well yet for her to honestly tolerate it, and the same for you. I’m not saying she isn’t interested in you though. Just think. What if she’s telling you she’s taking an internship when A) She really isn’t but she wants to use it as a nice way to not have to talk to you as much, or B) She is taking the internship and honestly won’t be able to talk to you as much, and right now, for her, that’s okay. I mean, it wouldn’t be lying. She’d also benefit from being honest if she thinks it’s too much talking, right? Anyway.

Don’t think I’m trying to shit on you for trying or anything, I’m just telling you what I had to learn the hard way. Don’t text her so much. Other users might be more blunt but they’re right when they say it comes across as needy. Maybe pushy is a more gentle, yet still accurate word. Just like they say, “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, a certain aura of mystery is exciting because you don’t know what’s coming 24/7. Actions, not words. Best wishes.

Edited for better grammar, or what I think is better grammar lol.

Luminary9 · 2021-06-04T15:55:42+00:00

You went on 2 dates and no kissing yet??? Bro move on.

Either you're too slow or she got tired of waiting for you to make a move and decided to look elsewhere

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Title	What does it mean?
Author	Simpleplan3030
Upvotes	88
Comments	104
Date	June 4, 2021 11:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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