What is wrong with me

Lakeyute · 2022-04-02T04:03:48+00:00

Honestly you look like a slob.

Go get a haircut, and remove that shit off your face: And go on a keto diet + lifting regimen to drop some weight fast. Then get some better clothes.

hildegardpep · 2022-04-02T04:20:06+00:00

I can’t see your pictures but I would ask you this - would you be interested in dating a female version of you? The weight issue, the fitness level, the grooming and clothing/style? Would you be an attractive and desirable woman exactly the way you are? If not…that is the answer.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-02T04:03:56+00:00

Yes, you need to lose a lot of fat first if i’m honest, and also trim your beard, give it a better shape, it looks like you don’t take care of it at all

nuc1earwessels · 2022-04-02T04:22:00+00:00

Your caption in one of your photos is "when you just don't care anymore"

Beyond your appearance, which u/Lakeyute pointed out (and accurately too, I might add), no woman would want a man who doesn't "care anymore" If you don't care about life, how do you think she predicts you would care for her in a relationship.

swissarm · 2022-04-02T06:33:29+00:00

Warning, this is mean: fat guys with bushy beards look like they don’t give af about their bodies. Trim that thing. Beards are an excellent choice for skinny and fat guys alike, but it needs to be well-kept. Also buy some nicer clothes. You don’t have to shred the pounds overnight but look like you give a shit.

FYI fat guys have a lot of muscle hiding under that fat. Look up Ethan Suplee from My Name is Earl.

BL4CK_AXE · 2022-04-02T04:40:59+00:00

You’re in gym my guy. Keep up the good work 💪🏾

freehenny · 2022-04-02T06:39:13+00:00

harsh love my guy take it with a grain of salt happy you had the balls to post this now it’s up to you to use this criticism to change your life

SadBox4529 · 2022-04-02T05:05:16+00:00

Lose the baggy clothes, cap and beard bro, because you look like a hardcore MAGA supporter. Work on cardio and do a lot of squats and bench presses.

You’re welcome

Skizznitt · 2022-04-02T07:32:03+00:00

Shave that head, trim that teddy bear beard into a 5oclock shadow or shorter, treat your body better, get your diet on point, hit the weights and dress better. Right now it looks like you don't care about your appearance, which many women find off-putting. Gotta love yourself (and look like you love yourself) before people will love you bro. Just gotta do some self work, it'll be worth it.

I'm into the whole fitness thing pretty seriously, if you need some help on how to get started getting into better shape, feel free to pm me and I can point you in the right direction.

rohankent · 2022-04-02T06:58:45+00:00

Also, those who say you need to lose weight, that’s one opinion. I see plenty of moderately overweight men with girlfriends.

Only lose weight if you need to/want to. If you don’t, you will limit your options, but you need to be happy in your body. Confidence is attractive and my other suggestions will be a good start.

wooshoofoo · 2022-04-02T06:44:20+00:00

Everyone here has given you the conventional wisdom so I’ll add something new: if you’re not into losing weight, becoming a gym regular, at the very least switch your clothes for better fitting ones, and learn to be FUNNY and FUN (those are two different things, note). If you can do that you can be heavy and still charming.

Potential_Swimming83 · 2022-04-02T07:45:18+00:00

Okay. So everyone will talk about grooming and weight loss. This stuff is true and it’s more of a superpower than you might imagine. Unless you are ugly (which you aren’t) attractiveness is being thin-muscular—athletic.

Anyway. I really think you could do will actually finding women interesting as people and not just a sex vending machine. Seriously.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-04-02T08:24:01+00:00

Because you're fat as fuck. Obese. Why should they? Lose the damn weight.

Gemselleramazon · 2022-04-02T07:46:46+00:00

Awhh bro that beard… ditch it! It doesn’t grow in properly and is way too straggly. I have a proper beard and even then it makes you niche. But unless it’s super nice get rid of it.

Mundane_Natural5131 · 2022-04-02T05:07:54+00:00

You need to hit the gym hard bro get on a 1500 calorie diet to U need to shave your beard bro or atleast trim it looks like you dont take care of your grooming at all i can only imagine your sack

universityhound · 2022-04-02T04:04:48+00:00

You look great!

2022-04-02T06:42:25+00:00

I think the beard is a little unkempt if I’m honest.

But another thing is confidence. I’m a girl and I probably wouldn’t make the first move - but I’d be happy if I guy did. I think most women feel this way. You’ll gain confidence by investing in yourself, whether that’s your personality and honing charisma, or weight loss, and even maybe finding a style or fashion sense that you think suits you. Working on yourself and putting time into you can really make you feel good and you’re more likely to step out into uncomfortable situations.

Consistent-Count-890 · 2022-04-02T06:43:17+00:00

All people want to date someone of quality. No one would want to date someone who brings out the worst of them

dnaisdmt · 2022-04-02T07:40:05+00:00

Start intermittent fasting bro (look it up). It's the easiest way to lose weight fast, plus you can eat whatever you want (during your eating window at least).

Mriconicdev · 2022-04-02T07:45:54+00:00

Bro you need to lose weight, clean your self up and get your finances together. Period. Take yourself seriously first before women take you seriously.

Justbardia · 2022-04-02T07:51:43+00:00

Mate, it's because you don't look serious. Study men's wear on youtube, Gentleman's Gazzette, Sartorial talks and Real men real style and Gent's Scents are channels that help. Get your beard and haircut by professional, and care for your skin and hyngine. Be ambitious in your career and have long time goals. Have two or three hobbies and travel. You'll see the results, not immediately but definitely. Do give me feedback on your journey if you like to.

NotANerdReally · 2022-04-02T07:54:50+00:00

I feel like you made this post specifically so that people will push you to lose weight, get in shape and get healthy. You do know what the problem is, don’t you?

harvey_croat · 2022-04-02T08:25:43+00:00

Just work on yourself every day and you will be fine

Cage0816 · 2022-04-02T08:26:43+00:00

The way you look in these pictures, if you're a guy who's just living life and don't care about dating it's fine but if you're looking for women to approach you or at least have a chance with them this is not a good look. To at least have a chance, hear me out.1-You need to learn how to dress .2- you need a haircut, 3- you need to buy yourself a skin care routine kit to keep your face fresh , 4- you need a signature scent, a perfume that smells very good and that will leave it's scent behind even when you're gone(i recommend Hugo boss) ,5- you need to lose some weight.This one is not really necessary but if you could find someone to take your pictures it would be cool, last but no least don't be creepy.Good luck though.

Matt_Bigmonster · 2022-04-02T08:44:57+00:00

Loose weight take care of yourself, evolve mentaly (read books and listen to smart guys fe TED talks).

Have some value to offer.

Nixu123 · 2022-04-02T08:50:58+00:00

Tbh lose the beard and lose weight

Powerful_Bowl8277 · 2022-04-02T09:06:22+00:00

I can’t see your photos, but if you six foot and not getting women it means that those 285 pounds are way more fat than muscle, from comments about your beard, I suggest looking up what kind of face you have and seeing styles that compliment your facial features, for example if your jawline sucks get a trimmed beard that makes your jawline look good. Good luck

AbjectSavvy · 2022-04-02T09:31:59+00:00

This is ridiculous. You believe your worthless you'll feel it. You believe you got potential youll find it. When you carry yourself stronger and more put together it will show you are confident and likely less awkward to talk to. When you lose weight it will look like you care about yourself and likely others well being. You will boost your self esteem and confidence along with it. Eat how you like within reason... Just eat less and stay active. Groom the beard. Avoid Babyface. But once your put together you still have to anticipate loss. Good advice all over the place really. Follow all of it because you want to or you'll never get there. Good luck. Also consider reading Literotica. Good examples of dialogue selection and body language.

Title	What is wrong with me
Author	Less_Tangerine8001
Upvotes	29
Comments	60
Date	April 2, 2022 3:55 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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