YOU ARE DYING.

PleaseF-for-respect · 2019-11-04T19:55:25+00:00

25 with zero approaches and a long ass dry spell it's hard to get out of my own head but you speak the truth.

2019-11-04T21:19:30+00:00

We are all slowly dying, and our life will be what we made of it. So make it spectacular, take chances, be bold, look like a fool even.

Drink life to the lees, all we have is the present moment.

TeslaNicole · 2019-11-04T20:38:35+00:00

The older I get the hotter the women find me.

bigguccihound · 2019-11-04T19:56:04+00:00

soo true 🙏 plus the fact that regret always feels worse than rejection... don’t even give yourself time to hesitate!

CidaoBarreto · 2019-11-04T21:10:06+00:00

Those are powerful words. I also like to think that there's no such thing as stuck in time, you're ALWAYS going in some direction.

If you take a step to do what you want to do, you're going in a direction of being the future self you want to be. If you don't do anything and don't create or miss the opportunities you need to grow, you're going in a direction of being miserable and unhappy in your future.

The life is about choices, and the quality of your life will depende on the choices you make.

2019-11-04T21:03:07+00:00

I am dying? Speak for yourself .... /s

Yeah the last thing we want on our death beds is a list of regrets.

ThoriAm2 · 2019-11-04T21:07:49+00:00

Cause you can’t keep the ground from shakin, No matter how hard you try. You know you can’t keep the sunsets from fadin. You gotta treat your life like You’re jumpin off a rope swing, baby Cause the whole thing’s Really just a shot in the dark. You gotta love like there’s No such thing as a broken heart.

spartan1337 · 2019-11-05T00:16:21+00:00

This was oddly motivating

ArmitageShanks69 · 2019-11-04T20:43:05+00:00

By the time I reached 40 it just became even more obvious that none of that shit matters because once you're dead everything including regret ceases to exist.

So worring about your last dying minutes is pretty irrelevant in the grand scheme of things - your actions & inactions are only relevant to the moment.

If you're confident enough to speak to a girl and think you'll be better off for doing so, you're right. If you're too anxious to speak to a girl and think you'll be better off not doing so, you're also right.

There's no sense in regret as whatever choice you made was the right decision at the time.

ImJustSo · 2019-11-05T12:32:11+00:00

Bunch of people reading this and taking it the wrong way. I'm not sure you can really take this the correct way without the context of almost dying, or having something extremely profound happen to you. This point of view on life isn't about death, or that it's just around the corner, the point is that you are still here. Whether you gain something from knowing this or not depends on if you have almost had it taken away.

"I'm still here" means a lot to me. I've had so many close calls with death, I've gone partially blind and will continue getting worse, I have multiple sclerosis and it takes my abilities away one by one sometimes.

"I'm still here" might mean something negligible to you. You might be in your 20s, maybe you've had a relatively sheltered life, maybe not many bad things have happened to you yet besides your parents divorcing. Maybe your biggest gripe is that you just want girls, but everything else in your life seems okayish. "I'm still here" in your head is maybe like saying, "so what?"

You're scared of girls. I'm scared of never being able to talk to girls again. I'm scared I won't be able to walk down the street. I'm scared I won't be able to brush my hair tomorrow. I'm scared that my right eye will finally fail and I'll never see a pretty girl smile again from that eye. I'm still here means a lot to me.

You're still here, too. It really should mean a lot to you and I wish that you appreciated it more. I wish that you didn't have to go through living hell to appreciate living heaven, but you do. Until then, you'll be soft and protected. Your feelings will be spared, your ego will be spared, you won't get any booboos.

In the mean time, I'll be out there getting my heart broken, getting rejected, breaking a leg, but I'll be living every minute that is possible. None of my real problems will stop me from seeing a pretty girl smile at me (from my left eye) except the problem I create, where I don't go out and live life.

Edit: I have been posting here for years. I have been diagnosed with MS for 9 years. I have been learning seduction for a decade and I will continue learning until the day I die. I will learn and grow my interests everyday. I will keep sharing my experiences with you all in hopes that some do not have to go through hell to find their happiness.

Novatonavila · 2019-11-04T21:08:49+00:00

I am sorry but this reminded me of this here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0mGr5sc5ic I don't know why.

rRenn · 2019-11-04T21:10:34+00:00

Don't let your frail little ego prevent you, be good to everyone and don't put such weight on rejection.

Captain_of_Skene · 2019-11-04T23:27:03+00:00

Thanks for reminding me that I'm nearly 33

Sometimes I doubt whether all the looksmaxing and gymmaxing is really worth it

Am I just trying to over compensate for missed opportunities when I was younger?

I'm full of regret about how I spent my twenties, my early 20s especially

Just utterly wasted them and went from a young attractive guy into a fat alcoholic loser dropout

And then I had to rebuild my life again and I'm still doing that now

Wish I could go back in time and do things differently

mxxfun · 2019-11-05T00:23:50+00:00

I'm 20. I was always the ugly kid, bad hair, glasses, generally ugly face. One year ago I started to grow a facial hair, and tried out new things with my hair.

Since then I've never approached a woman, but 3 approached me.

Nothing happened tho except a small flirty conversation, because I was just a pussy.

But maybe next time I'll do something

Sandvicheater · 2019-11-05T00:26:42+00:00

If you are in your 30s-40s, single, child free, relatively wealthy and healthy body. You can be closing 20y/o like no tomorrow.

TheSidMonster · 2019-11-05T02:30:14+00:00

Well thanks for the existential crisis.

udaan04 · 2019-11-05T10:27:07+00:00

I am and will always be good enough right now.

pelvis_thruster · 2019-11-04T21:40:13+00:00

This is a great post! Thing is that I'm 17... I really wanna get into game but I'm wayy to young

Stevpie · 2019-11-05T03:03:15+00:00

Bravo sir!

mxxfun · 2019-11-05T05:41:55+00:00

Thank you! I needed that.

samkominesamko · 2019-11-05T07:30:25+00:00

Quit reading the tips, and starting doing, it is called the power of action. You dont have to see the whole staircase just take the first step.

fabmarques21 · 2019-11-05T11:24:01+00:00

every time you don't try it's a time you fail.

go for it

movieguy43 · 2019-11-05T11:44:08+00:00

Are you a copywriter by any chance? I feel like I just got an unwarranted email that I couldn't help but read

danielcrestwellbestb · 2019-11-04T23:41:42+00:00

I just feel like a loser sometimes because I’m not doing as good as other 18 year olds.

I never focused on school but now I’m making it my priority, with this I’ve lost a lot of my friends and my current girl hits me up once a week.

I can’t help but feel like I’m not enough sometimes and I’m going to do something about it starting tonight.

I’m gonna got chest and biceps with my new friends who will hopefully be my new roommate and I’m just gonna take things slow and focused.

jairzinho · 2019-11-05T00:41:01+00:00

The sun is the same in a relative way but you're older, shorter of breath, one day closer to death.

kzreminderbot · 2019-11-05T02:26:57+00:00

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caesarfecit · 2019-11-05T05:01:48+00:00

Yeah yeah, 28,000 days to live and all that.

But if I could make a counterpoint, it'd be this:

You're good enough when you have nothing left to prove to yourself.

Because then you actually are. When you truly accept yourself, rejection stops bothering you. I know this because I've experienced it. When you get really good at something and one particular time you don't make the shot, it doesn't rattle you, you literally don't care. Rejection only bothers you when it contradicts the thing you're trying to prove to yourself or others (or you're really desperate and you know it).

Believing you're good enough because you are and always will be is circular logic. Even if all you're missing is essentially some better marketing skills, that's still a competency deficit.

Self acceptance is important, don't get me wrong. But self acceptance based on itself is placebo bullshit that leads to a narcissistic shell.

Talking to and persuading the opposite sex is a skill and don't let anyone tell you different. You're here because you want to git gud.

But part of the secret to getting good is letting your self-image in response to real changes, not "I think I can, I think I can". The secret to rising to the moment is getting out of your own head, not chanting an internal mantra.,

Repairing your self-esteem is a goal that far transcends getting laid or finding love. But the process is always the same. You do the things you fear, you get better, you reap the rewards.

mxxfun · 2019-11-05T05:48:59+00:00

!remindme 30 days

youKnowImRightBitch · 2019-11-05T10:02:50+00:00

Someone got high for the first time.

2019-11-05T15:29:18+00:00

I was 100% sure I was still in r/shortscarystories

FreshNigerianPrince · 2019-11-14T02:54:30+00:00

Had this saved for the last week. I needed this wake up call. Thanks for this!

Woujo · 2019-11-04T20:47:36+00:00

> I AM AND ALWAYS WILL BE GOOD ENOUGH RIGHT NOW.

I disagree. Sometimes you are not good enough. But that's fine. You don't need to be good enough for anybody else. Your goal should be to have fun and enjoy yourself. If a girl wants to join, great. If not, that's fine too. Your focus should be on enjoying yourself, not being good enough for her.

2019-11-04T21:38:17+00:00

Go b suca blyyaat

Wobblewobblegobble · 2019-11-04T22:38:14+00:00

Speak for yourself I’m living

Deez05 · 2019-11-04T23:36:36+00:00

But what if you actually aren’t good enough and are in the process of improving

2019-11-04T23:53:20+00:00

What if you would rejected many times as you approach? Okay its the imaginary scenario for me: 1. I would approach to hottest girl in the cafe, club whatever , i would get rejected. I will think that okay I should not give up. The Sun will rise after the darkness. 2. Next time I will use my willpower and with high enthusiasm I would approach to one of the hottest girls again. Answer is no. In a Worst case: I would be even ignored completely without any interest. (In my case I only want to approach only high smv girls because in my head I am considering myself attractive) 3. Next time I would approach again to the girl which I find attractive then rejection again.

I believe that this fucking approaching will completely destroy my self beliefs about myself that I am ATTRACTIVE because from time to tome I see girls staring at me and told me they find me attractive. I am afraid this will happen over and over until I will meet with another reality which will make question myself. I choose to stay in my beautiful comfort zone which says in my head you are attractive. This is the reason I never approach. I know may sound weird but I am not sure about approaching...

2019-11-05T05:38:57+00:00

Yeah. Thoughts like that actually only feed my misanthropy and make me less motivated to do anything. Thoughts of death don't scare but liberate instead. What's the point of talking to women when we all gonna die soon? It's a waste of time and I won't end up with an intelligent conversation either way. I guess people will react to this point differently.

Trowawaycausebanned4 · 2019-11-05T08:37:16+00:00

This same reasoning is making me take a step back from girls because I’m realizing I don’t enjoy chasing them all the time anymore and just want to be myself and hang out with the guys. Be happy, meeting girls naturally still happens

2019-11-04T22:39:26+00:00

I just don’t like that it ends with “you player” as I don’t want to be a “player”

yrogerg123 · 2019-11-04T21:20:54+00:00

I'm immortal. How dare you

Khower · 2019-11-05T10:50:39+00:00

I feel the exact opposite about cold approach now. Just don’t feel like sleeping around is really something that’s worth my time anymore. I have almost no motivation to fuck around with a chick if I’m not trying to date her. Went out with a girl tonight, she moved in for a kiss and I just slapped her with a friend side hug and sent her on her way. I’m gonna die soon and fucking randoms is just not worth it anymore

brdifilp123 · 2019-11-04T20:14:08+00:00

Ok Boomer

Title	YOU ARE DYING.
Author	Leionart
Upvotes	758
Comments	106
Date	November 4, 2019 7:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/drn1ai/you_are_dying/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/you-are-dying.1428289 https://theredarchive.com/post/1428289

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