Not sure if I fucked up

bisanti · 2020-01-27T22:10:35+00:00

Whoa weird 😳 The fact that he found your post is creepy because this isn't a big subreddit at all. Did you ask him why he was lurking here?

I would be cautious. I feel like the men who lurk here are MGTOW types who like to hate-read. Plus the whole splitting bills thing, I'm sorry I don't buy he genuinely didn't know. Trying to evade the bill is a deliberate choice.

heythere360 · 2020-01-27T22:07:23+00:00

I’m skeptical any of this is true at this point. Why would he have to see your reddit to understand what happened? You allegedly ran out after the date. That should have been enough. Instead he goes home and searched through FDS? Finds a post about him then calls you? Hmmm...

opalkhaleesi · 2020-01-27T22:01:27+00:00

He didn’t know the etiquette? Did he not date his ex girlfriend? You didn’t miss out, I would personally move on.

SavvyInNYC · 2020-01-27T23:51:40+00:00

Girl, the majority of men that read FDS are MGTOWers and Red Pillers.

FDS hasn’t had (in my memory) a post that has reached All yet so.. how did he find your post??

There’s one easy answer how and it’s not a good one.

Nope this one.

bbunny220 · 2020-01-27T23:51:17+00:00

Well if he read the last post then he’s reading this one too. It’s bullshit that he wasn’t aware of dating etiquette that the man pays for the date. My guess is that he’s playing games and wanted to see how bothered you are by the fact that he still hasn’t texted you 2 days after he graciously agreed to do the bare minimum and pay for the next date. You obviously have to give up on this.

Firefly10886 · 2020-01-27T22:01:45+00:00

Why would he go through all that effort to contact you just to ghost you? I’d give it another day, but if he doesn’t reach out first for another date, then he’s clearly not worth your time.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-28T00:19:50+00:00

Maybe, just maybe he has a friend who trolls here. He asks his friends what he did wrong to have her walk out like that and he directed her here. That's the only thing that makes sense besides you accidentally dating one of our regular lurkers. In that case, lurkers KNOW we expect men to pay for dates, so that means he's a POS lurker who didn't pay ON PURPOSE just to stick it to FDS.

This is all really bizarre.

SaddleUpBucephalus · 2020-01-27T22:28:36+00:00

I wouldn't date a guy who regularly reads through a women's subreddit 🤷‍♀️

RiteWriter · 2020-01-27T23:07:25+00:00

The post mention is giving my gut bad feelings and also he hasn’t yet contacted you. We are now at Monday and nothing. Block.

lasolterita · 2020-01-27T23:29:44+00:00

All for guys visiting this sub if it's to learn how to genuinely better themselves (and not just try to pass 'tests'). But he called you out & hasn't contacted you since? 2 likely possibilities

he's trying to have you chase him... the way this sub tells you (the woman) to see if he'ss willing to chase you.
or,
he's been off-put by your involvement in this sub & decided to cut ties

If I were you, I'd just walk away and move on with my search.

dishonoredcorvo69 · 2020-01-27T23:51:43+00:00

If he hasn’t contacted you, it means he doesn’t like this sub like every other low value red-piller out there. NEXT

cantstopthemachine77 · 2020-01-28T01:59:55+00:00

For everyone questioning how this guy could have randomly come across her post, I have a theory:

Reddit has a filter feature that allows you to see “popular” posts upvoted and posted by people in your area. It’s possible that he was looking at reddit using that local filter and her post showed up based on that.

Reddit does have this feature, that’s not the theory part, that he used it to find her post, is.

kinnnion · 2020-01-28T02:11:20+00:00

Block that number and do not meet with him ever again

laeriel_c · 2020-01-28T02:55:36+00:00

That's so strange. I still think you did the right thing 100%

randomgirlimok · 2020-01-28T03:33:27+00:00

Are you using the same username here as you do on IG or whatever, that you have shared with him?

sugaredberry · 2020-01-28T01:50:53+00:00

Please next him cos you did nothing wrong. I’m kind of creeped out that he found your post, or that he was so sure it was about him

idiosyncraticg1 · 2020-01-28T15:46:14+00:00

Did he mention it was FDS? Or did he just say that he saw a post on Reddit? It could’ve been another post in another sub and he felt so insecure about not paying that he thought it was you.

idiosyncraticg1 · 2020-01-28T15:49:32+00:00

Did he mention it was FDS? Or did he just say that he saw a post on Reddit? It could’ve been another post in another sub and he felt so insecure about not paying that he thought it was you.

rainbowforeskin · 2020-01-30T00:27:11+00:00

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Title	Not sure if I fucked up
Author	rainbowforeskin
Upvotes	13
Comments	44
Date	January 27, 2020 9:46 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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