Rethinking Self Improvement: "FDS hAs HaRdLy aNyThiNg aBoUt SeLf iMpRoVeMeNt, iTs aLL jUsT mAn HaTiNg"

It's time we start rethinking the concept of "self improvement"

Low Value Men will say shit like "I never see FDS talk about self improvement like how to lose weight and fuck like a pornstar! They're all just a toxic cesspit of man haters!"

Uh... yeah?

Low quality men only think of female self improvement through the lens of what he deems valuable to him. Anything that is done for the woman's benefit is deemed worthless or even "man hating"

On FDS, we talk about self improvement all the time, but it literally just does not register as such in the eyes of LVM, because what it means to "level up" is very different from the perspective of an FDS woman.

For example, advice like spotting red flags of emotional abuse, women having strong boundaries, learning about the harmful effects of pornography, and increasing your standards are things we talk about all the time on FDS. All are beneficial to the woman but are deemed worthless because it doesn't serve men's interests. In fact, true female empowerment is seen as threatening to low status men, so they consider it something negative.

Toxic men such as redpillers actually depend on women having low self esteem, always giving men the benefit of the doubt, having weak boundaries, and remaining in the dark about their abusive tactics. So, what we teach on FDS is actually considered undesirable to them and is therefore dismissed as "misandrist" and "man hating"

The best example of this clash of perspectives is learning about radical feminism. Personally, I consider reading about radical feminism an essential component of leveling up mentally. Learning about all the ways that women are exploited by men, and learning about the power structures in place that allow men to dominate women, has been instrumental in untangling all of the confusion, cognitive dissonance, and "crazy making" tactics that are used to suppress women. While it's true that it's also made me a lot more angry, I feel that this anger has given me a certain mental clarity in that I no longer mope around feeling confused and sorry for myself. This anger has helped me organize my thoughts, take action, and empower myself and other women through collective action.

In contrast, a low status man would probably consider it a downgrade for a woman to transform from libfem pickmeisha to empowered, angry, radical feminist. That woman now sees right through his cheap tactics and is no longer as easily manipulated, so she is less valuable to him, because he can no longer extract time, attention, money, labor, and sex from her.

An empowered woman is worthless in the eyes of a worthless man.

The part of that Vice article that pissed me off the most was the section that said "FDS isn't going to smash the patriarchy, it's just going to alienate men, it's just going to create a more toxic rift between the sexes"

So fucking what? If the price of "gender unity" is female subjugation, then I don't want it. If men are alienated by women having boundaries, that is a good thing because it means FDS is working. If women having a spine is undesirable to men, great! I love not being desired by misogynists.

Also, saying that FDS is bad because we're not smashing the patriarchy is like saying that soup kitchens should be shut down because they're not solving world hunger. Or saying that domestic violence shelters should be shut down because they're not doing enough to prevent male violence.

Obviously, most men aren't going to like FDS, because what we do here is going against their interests. We don't care to make ourselves more appealing to men who just want to dominate and exploit us.

"Self improvement" for women is about seeing men for what they truly are, because it allows us to finally stop feeling guilty for putting ourselves first.

"Man hating" IS self improvement 😘