So, I’ve been a lurker for ages, ever since some guy told me “look at this sub, it’s called FemaleDatingStrategy, it’s the girl form of incels hahaha the things they’re saying are ridiculous”. (That was the point where I started questioning my own beliefs, that were also very female-unfriendly just like the beliefs of the toxic guys I surrounded myself with)

I started reading and immediately felt so heard and understood and things that have been posted here have opened my eyes so many times already. It has also brought up a lot of bad memories of abuse (that I didn’t even see as true abuse before FDS), but has given me the opportunity to see those memories for what they were, and not from the pickme mindset I had back then.

I just wanted to thank everyone on here, for changing my life. I have gained so much self-respect since I’ve been reading here. I noticed I wanted to comment a lot, because suddenly a lot needed to come out, because FDS really shows me exactly where I was wounded, on so many levels. So I made this account specifically so I can finally join the conversation and share my experience, because I finally feel like I am ready to freely share the crap some men put me through. Because I finally see that it was ABSURD what I went through. Thanks to this sub.

So, I just want to share my gratitude. I try to share as much as possible of what I’ve learnt on here with my friends, which has also shown me how deeply the pickme mindset is embedded in our society. I can only laugh at the idea that the things discussed on here are seen as ridiculous by some, because these things should be the norm. And I will do everything I can to share this knowledge and make ladies around me wake up from the nightmare they’re living in just like FDS helped me wake up. I can’t even begin to count all the things FDS has taught me.

Again, thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Much love to you all.

Edit: awww thanks for the awards guys <3