“good girls” still slow me down

wtknight · 2023-10-01T22:24:29+00:00

Removed. No personal rants. Comments like this are welcome in the chat megathread, though.

Zabadoodude · 2023-10-01T20:11:27+00:00

Find yourself motivated woman. If your girl is going to the gym and drinking protein shakes you're not going to stay home and eat ice cream

Electronic-Zucchini9 · 2023-10-01T19:58:48+00:00

You may want to pursue women who feel likewise if physical fitness matters to you. A woman who cares about her health isn't going to want to spend every night with you on the couch eating ice cream. You might even find a relationship where you can call each other out if either of you is getting lazy and letting yourself go.

A relationship where both parties hold each other accountable is great.

baiser_vole · 2023-10-01T20:10:16+00:00

It is not the women who are slowing you down, it is you doing it to yourself. I work out even when I go on trips at hotel gyms, and when I go to the other side of the country to see my boyfriend. He praises my looks too, but it doesn't slow me down. Stop making excuses.

pink-bubbly · 2023-10-01T20:10:36+00:00

I have experienced this too. Made me a fat pothead who never went out. He wanted to be over every night eating drive thru munchies watching a TV show. Now that I'm out of the relationship, I work out almost every day and cook for myself every meal. My solution? I avoid people who offer up "quality time" as their love language. Gym, reading, & cooking time is a non-negotiable for me. The oxytocin can wait.

purplish_possum · 2023-10-01T20:45:22+00:00

This is how guys get "dad bods"

Ironically, when you do become a fat ass she'll lose attraction.

Sillysheila · 2023-10-01T21:16:30+00:00

I cook for my husband and make treats for him but we’re both not obese people. This is because we’re active, don’t do it very often and know where to stop. Also a lot of the cooking is healthy cooking.

We also have more heavily overweight family members who have a lot of health problems and know we don’t want to be like them.

Stop at one bowl of ice cream or one glass of wine. Limit your portions. Don’t say yes to it every day.

Couples activities can be healthy ones. My husband is on my gym plan as a “buddy”. We also walk and hike together. Taking a hike together can be very romantic particularly if you’re secluded.

SecondEldenLord · 2023-10-01T22:19:00+00:00

Usually people develop themselves physically and mentally to attract a mate, and once you have it, you lose interest in self development, so do not blame it on the girl, it's on you. I had so many mates who were so determined to go to the gym and once they got a gf, they gained weight.and forgot about working out altogether.

januaryphilosopher · 2023-10-01T20:31:35+00:00

Just go to the gym and eat healthy together. Problem solved.

Curious_Attention719 · 2023-10-01T20:08:03+00:00

The thing is, she has to be basically bonus material in your life. You still have to find the time to work out or time to remain in caloric maintenance or deficit. You have to find the time to hang out with the bros. You have to find the time to, at a minimum, maintain what you have. Women will try changing you, and then when that's achieved, lose attraction and then leave you.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2023-10-01T20:23:39+00:00

That sounds like a you problem, and I don't mean this in an insulting way. If wine and ice-cream every evening is too much for you, it's on you to let them know you don't want to eat/drink. If you want to go to the gym 4 times a week instead of 2, you should let your partners know this is important to you and that you'll keep doing it. If they're not okay with that, that sucks, but your lifestyles just aren't compatible.

Now, relationships will inevitably take up some of the free time you have. But you need to figure out exactly how much of your free time you're okay with going to a relationship and enforce your boundaries on that.

wheartv · 2023-10-01T20:25:29+00:00

Just don’t let them do that and try to include them in your activities and be honest about it all

If they are that into you, then it will be okay

Also, if your schedule allows it, working out right before or after work is easier to maintain

If there is a gap in time then it feels more optional

Workaholiconew · 2023-10-01T21:25:04+00:00

It is because much of what drives men to improve is sex.

After a somewhat successful week I also lose all my willingness to improve.

But the opposit ehappens if the week goes remarkably poorly....

I dont know if there is a fix for that man.

dogsmoking · 2023-10-01T22:20:59+00:00

This is intentional. I feel like a lot of men are completely unaware that a lot of "good girls" and "traditional women" still seek to control their relationships via the soft sell or "gilded cage" method. It's essentially when a woman removes all challenge and conflict from a man's everyday life, taming him in the process.

therealcosmicnebula · 2023-10-01T20:59:28+00:00

You're a grown ass man blaming a woman for you turning into lazy?

You know how ridiculous that sounds, right?

I can't stand people who displace responsibility for their choice in behavior over to other people.

Nothing is more unattractive than a man who needs a woman to be XYZ or else he can't be ABC.

That's bullshit. You can be ABC because whatever you choose to be or do does not depend on what a woman is or what a woman is doing.

Men like you are just weak. Weak willed. With no self discipline.

I can tell you one thing, a man can't make me into anything. And I don't want to make a man that can be made into anything.

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Title	“good girls” still slow me down
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Date	October 1, 2023 7:51 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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