What's my problem?

SmurfESmurferson · 2017-02-28T23:14:02+00:00

Who knows, but listen to your gut. Something's not working for you, and you can't force it.

wtknight · 2017-02-28T23:38:31+00:00

I can't handle the way she sees sex.

How do you think women should see sex?

DashneDK2 · 2017-03-01T02:12:48+00:00

The pussy carousel got to you. It's hard to commit. There are so many options, and you compare with previous girls. It got to me too. I don't really think there's any coming back.

TheBlackQuill · 2017-02-28T23:17:22+00:00

It's not hypocritical. You have preferences. It's okay if you find the way she views sex troubles you. If it doesn't work out, don't force yourself through it.

LSTW1234 · 2017-03-01T00:58:25+00:00

I think you should always trust your gut with this stuff, even if intellectually you can't make sense of your reasoning. There are other women out there who you will connect with, and (hopefully) not have the same instinctive reaction to. Every time I've gone against my gut when it comes to romantic prospects I've been wrong.

SetConsumes · 2017-02-28T23:51:25+00:00

Because your gut knows you can't trust her, that she has no dignity. Women are not men and you can't hold her to same standard you hold yourself and your brain knows it.

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Randommorningkiller · 2017-03-01T09:37:10+00:00

You lose more in committing and breaking the commitment than she does. You know deep down that the only thing to keep her tied down is your performance.

Unabummer80 · 2017-03-01T12:38:32+00:00

She is very upfront with me about how she has a gigantic n count, and views sex incredibly casually, and has even slept with some abhorrent people because she found them attractive.

She views sex incredibly casually just isnt a good sign, so your mind threw up a red flag

goatismycopilot · 2017-03-01T16:18:32+00:00

People are often very hypocritical so that is not something unusual. I personally don't want to date a man who is promiscuous and sees several women at once so my advice is pointless. Either continue seeing her or don't.

blackheartblackmask · 2017-03-02T02:39:32+00:00

The reason you can't make sense of it intellectually is because the feminist lie that sluts are as good as chaste and virtuous women is an anti-intellectual stance and your gut knows it deep down.

buttlollipop · 2017-02-28T23:22:06+00:00

I'm guessing she's slept with way more people than you? I mean, I don't blame you for finding that to be a turnoff, I consider it pretty weird that she's slept with people she doesn't even find attractive. I don't see the hypocrisy here.

Eastuss · 2017-03-01T08:23:44+00:00

Ah! someone that admits being hypocritical! Nice OP you're a good down to earth person!

I'm against any of what people said here, don't listen to your gut, man up, sex is not a big deal, there's no need for emotional charge in it. If you're that way, you should be happy she's like you too.

And even though, make her feel like sex is best with you, don't let that put you down, it's only supposed to give you more motivation, that's your challenge now. :)

midnightvulpine · 2017-03-01T11:21:46+00:00

Some people can't give others the freedom they give themselves. This seems to be your issue. This is not to say that you have to. You don't. But you should be prepared for moments like this.

Question I would have is, why can't you handle her seeing sex the same way you do? That's a question you should ask yourself and try to answer honestly. Insecurity? Jealously? Views on women's roles? Or something else. Ultimately that will give you the perspective you need, I think.

Duppyconq47 · 2017-03-01T17:22:44+00:00

I have been with a few women who had relatively high n counts (aged in the 20's, more than 15 guys, which for the Southern US is a big deal), and they were also seeing other guys on the side. Generally, idgaf about what they did when we weren't together. We weren't building a life together, so we were basically Saturday night companions. We met up to share an experience and a fantasy, but that was basically it. In the instances when one of us brought up other men and women, it broke the spell! These ghosts of lovers past are sitting next to you at the bar, in the bedroom with you when you have sex, an invisible partner in your text threads. It ruins the intimacy and makes those moments feel cheap and expendable. Maybe for your friend, those moments are already cheap and expendable. If they are more important for you, then that's just how it is. Also, trust that not all women are like this one you describe.

prodigy2throw · 2017-02-28T23:34:09+00:00

Men and women like different things. Just because you don't like high n count women doesn't make you a hypocrite. I like women with nice tits even though I don't have tits myself.

Also, did you have sex with this girl?

HitchensTwoPointOh · 2017-02-28T23:16:48+00:00

You want what's best for you. She's a slut, plate or next her. Even if you believe male and female promiscuity to be equivalent, and this make you hypocritical, it doesn't mean in any way shape or form it's still wrong (i.e. a reformed heroin junkie probably shouldn't date another one, hypocrisy is irrelevant to pragmatism). Look out for #1, why the hell would you wife down a skank.

You're only throwing to the curb what countless guys have before you haha, don't worry about losing anything.

reepbot · 2017-03-01T00:48:02+00:00

Maybe you are a competitive person and hate the fact that she has slept with more people than you? Only solution now is to sleep with a bunch of prostitutes so you can get your n count way up and finally feel like a man.

washington_breadstix · 2017-03-01T01:13:09+00:00

You don't have a problem. You say you have actual feelings for this girl and so you think that intimacy with her should feel like something special and it pisses you off that other guys have gotten to be intimate with her "cheaply" for lack of a better word. Feeling this way is pretty normal.

IIHotelYorba · 2017-03-01T04:58:07+00:00

Nothing wrong with having standards, especially if you have several girls to pick from.
No girl is unique.
Resentment is the best reason to break up because it means you will anyway in the end.
All that said, the myth of pretty girls with low partner counts is total bullshit that TRP cooked up on a whim.
Women will simply lie to you and tell you whatever count they think you can handle.

Title	What's my problem?
Author	DiarrheaHelmet
Upvotes	2
Comments	123
Date	February 28, 2017 11:06 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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