So a comment I recently wrote motivated me to make a Post on my own as I didn't want to derail the discussion.

Lets assume, for the sake of the discussion that the TRP/Incel theory of "Dual Mating" is, at least in some form or variant "true", i. e. a non-neglible amount of women have enthusiastic, "tear of your clothes" sex with "Alphas", especially when they (the women) are young and later in life (mid-20+ish), especially but not only when they want to start a family they choose "Safe provider types" who they may not find unattractive, yet they are not extremly attracted to for their long-term partners.

So I read a blog post on a non-Manospherian related blog on it and I noticed that they agree with the Manospherians that it happens - but they are totally calm about it. I was flabbergasted. There are two groups of people who observe the exact same thing - and they have totally different reactions

TRPers:

>throw fits of rage over it, Rollo writes blog post after blog post on it, they encourage each other not to marry those women, share strategies on the internet how to find out if she engaged in this behaviour, shame men who commit to those women as "simps" who get "leftovers" etc.

Other people:

>Calmly and rationally discuss it with their wives whithout batting an eye, like Shery Sandbergs (later in life, find a man who does the dishes) quote on Goodreads or, when told to their faces by their daughters that they are "guy to marry when old" pride themselves on beeing the "winner" and post it on the internet. (Cant find the QUORA Post rn; anybody has it and can help me out?)

So anybody like to dig deeper in the psychology of this, the reactions men have this this couldn't be more polarised! But why? Anybody have some theories? I have some:

1.) That they are not very sexually attractive to women flys over some guys heads, so they don't get mad over it; they just think "WhoA SHe Chose mE, I WIn!" I suspect this is true for some guys, but only a minority.

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2.) While they may not like it that they are the "Provider Types" throwing fits of rage over it doesen't change anything, since you can't negotiate attraction. Beeing the the Safe, predictable guy is not great, but it's better than beeing alone, so they live with it, getting furious about it doesen't help and they realised this.

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3.)People are just different. Psychological variability is a thing, some Men really dont care that they are less attractive, more pragmatic choices, as long as their wive isn't unattracted to them, they couldn't care less. They still get sex, love, emotional support, a family and all the other great things you can have in a relationship without your wife beein that sexually attracted to you.

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4.) TRPers engange in some form of game-theoretic blackmail where they hope to influence the behaviour of women by scaring them that they will never find a man to marry if the engage in Dual Mating Strategy. "I will write on the internet on how I would never marry a women who engages in Alpha Seed/Beta Need, that'll scare em, maybe this way they will sleep with me"

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What do you think? What explains the different reactions?

PS: Oh, what I would give to be on this "Marginalrevolution" Dinner Table Discussion where the wives freely talked about that they don't find their husbands (who sat next to them) that attractive. What was their reaction like? Or do I miss something here. I would have learned so much about relationship dynamics and different "types" of humans than any Dostojevsky book could teach me.