Been posting here a lot lately so I hope I don't get banned for over-posting or anything.

Anyway, I was thinking back to a night a couple of years ago, when our youngest son was 4 month old. We hadn't had sex since the birth, and I felt it was time. I didn't know shit about redpill back then, I knew a bit about gaming but not much. Anyway, sexlife was not back on track after the birth, I had been biding my time. I was talking about it with my wife (see? clueless) but didn't get any response.

Was hoping for "yea I'm also looking forward to get going again". Anyway, then I came with the most bluntly formulated dread statement ever, I just said something along the lines of if we are so different in sex drive, maybe we will not be together for ever since I can't imagine to live without good sex.

I was annoyed but not angry, and I did really meant it when I said it (still do). Anyway, what happened in the evening was that she showered, got ready, was still a bit annoyed and said repeteadly "you don't really deserve this". I was in playful mode and did stuff we hadn't done before to her, she was totally up for it, got more and more turned on, she started sucking my dick without me asking for it. This turned out as one of the best sessions we've ever had. I expected a change after this, but it didn't come, next time was more like usual. I don't know what triggered this, and I'm wondering if I should bring something like this up again? I'm thinking that maybe she does need something explicit for dread to work, she doesn't pick up on overt dread? I'm a newbie, but I'm still thinking if I should go all in with another statement like this to get things going.

I think that she has a really difficult time to overcome the treshold into sex (yea, with me, I get that part) , but once she is over it stuff can really happen (even with me). The problem is her hamster is always running in 110 so it takes a lot for her to let go. She needs to be pushed sometimes. Best way to do this? Any other comments on this? Similar experiences?