I slowly give it up with women

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just-jake · 2025-11-10T14:59:39+00:00

Damn. 100+ ghosts. Bro is a ghost buster

UnitedShift5232 · 2025-11-10T13:48:39+00:00

Put women on the back burner for a bit. Instead, pursue a passion. Once you get good at that passion, pursue a second one. When women find out you are really into a couple things that you care about, you will instantly become boyfriend material in their eyes. For me I spent a good 2-3 years learning to dance salsa. I got quite good at it and I really enjoy it. Next I taught myself woodworking. I've built some amazing things, and when I engulf myself in a project I absolutely love it. My options for both casual and serious relationships expanded notably after reaching these milestones. Other potentials: playing a musical instrument; starting a group of any kind; moutain-biking; jiu-jitsu; break dancing; any sport; singing; fixing cars; weight-lifting; volunteering (animal shelter; food bank; tutoring). Out of all these I bet there is at least one you could sink your teeth into and enjoy. Then, once you've achieved a certain level of fulfillment, start putting yourself out there and a relationship with a nice woman will come.

trazcer · 2025-11-10T17:08:14+00:00

You look good but they don't want a relationship with you. That means your vibe is too friendly. You're all about comfort.

You should introduce sexual tension. Touch her.

Challenge her. Don't be too agreeable with everything she says.

Alarmed_Box1198 · 2025-11-10T18:44:00+00:00

There's several things to unpack here. First, yes it is a numbers game to some extent but if what you are doing isn't working you need to stop, assess what you're doing wrong and course correct. It sounds like you're banging head against the wall with the same routine.

Second, the more you learn about what makes women tick, the more jaded you can become with almost near certainty. It's actually quite disheartening to truly understand that all of the romantic ideals are mostly all BS. The flip side is that they all behave in more or less the same predictable patterns and so you can work with that.

Lastly, women are designed to be the ones chasing men. Not the other way around. This really throws people for a loop because our society is the total opposite reality for most men. But the actual desirable men are not chasing at all. They are swatting women away like mosquitos and choosing who they want. If you put yourself in the position of chasing women around trying to lock one down, they will run from you like cats. Women wait at the finish line for the winners. You have to either become a winner in life outside of women or find a way to act like a winner with your confidence and vibe.

Don't give up. Just redirect that energy into yourself while still immersing yourself around women if possible.

Ladline69 · 2025-11-10T15:33:33+00:00

Work on yourself, stop this bitch type shii - you don't need it. You are strong, go out there and better yourself - when you get horny, jack off, and keep it moving 💪

refreshingface · 2025-11-10T13:41:21+00:00

This year, I have a different perspective on “giving up.”

I believe that no man has the right to complain until they have accomplished this: a decently muscular physique with a 10-12 percent body fat.

This is the male equivalent to breasts/ass on a woman.

Once you achieve that and STILL get no love, then you have the right to complain.

It’s probably best to divert your time and attention away from dating and hit the gym, update your fashion.

Thin_Protection5616 · 2025-11-10T14:47:22+00:00

It's your wining pessimistic attitude and willingness to emotionally vomit on other people

ResentCourtship2099 · 2025-11-10T19:29:43+00:00

It's just another reminder

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-11-11T05:45:00+00:00

How do you have 100+ ghosts but only from15 numbers. That's not adding up lol

spacemangoes · 2025-11-11T12:53:06+00:00

Bro. Honestly, I would seriously advise you the following. It’s imperative for the mental health. First, have a financial source. A steady source. Then pack your bags and go to either Eastern Europe or south east Asia. You still have to put in effort but atleast you won’t been seen as an NPC. Don’t date to get laid. Date to marry. It’s better in the long run. Good luck. Don’t give up

DrBarackPendergrass · 2025-11-11T14:16:19+00:00

Knowledge of Self/Spark/Vibe turns into Logistics/Sex which evolves into a continuation of Logistics/Sex with a specific woman, evolving into a Mutual connection that becomes that "Relationship" that you're clearly yearning for.

But the problem is that you're putting "The Cart" (Relationships/Relaxing In Love) before "the horse" (Developing your personal Spark/Vibe that only comes from Knowledge of Self/Belief in Self and Self Respect/Passion & Purpose).

This makes you seem extremely needy which is repellent/revolting to people in general, especially women.

Which btw, explains all the ghosting....... 👻

BurnItDownSR · 2025-11-10T15:16:36+00:00

15 numbers, 10 dates, and 300+ rejection in 3-4 years? Pathetic.

I can do 300 approaches in a month. That's only 10 a day. That isn't crazy.

And if anyone thinks you can't keep up with a full time job and the rest of life with 10 approaches a day then you're deliberately sabotaging yourself to give yourself an excuse.

In a place that's actually crowded you can get 10 approaches done in 30 minutes.

300 approaches in 4 years means you only approached 1 girl a week.

If we assume it's 3 years then you only approached 2 a week.

No wonder things haven't gotten better for you. That's like strumming a guitar twice a week and expecting to be recruited into a band.

I've been rejected thousands of times over 10 years but I've also been successful hundreds of times and have gotten to the point where I reject girls for relationships because I'm holding out for one that checks all the boxes, and I have had a few relationships with women who checked all my boxes.

You've just been half assing this and you're already feeling sorry for yourself? Quit crying about being one of the guys who has to work for it. This is the hand you've been dealt. Just play the damn hand instead of wishing you were born with a different one.

SuitOfWolves · 2025-11-10T13:25:34+00:00

Hey, I know some good new video games you should try!

basafo · 2025-11-10T23:27:46+00:00

Write reports, with all the details from each date, here. When you go to those specific details, I'm sure people will find where to help you.

Of course you have the right to complaint, but just complaining and giving a bunch of numbers related to fails doesn't help as much as going to the point, when you ask for help.

Title	I slowly give it up with women
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Date	November 10, 2025 1:18 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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