What advice would you give a virgin?

Gi2312 · 2019-10-27T14:22:58+00:00

Pussy is warm. Never accounted for temperature difference such an obvious thing until I slid in and it was warm. God bless. Also it’s not that serious in all honesty it only gets better with time

TheHalfMonty · 2019-10-27T14:10:01+00:00

It doesn't have to be perfect the first time. Calm the fuck down.

That's my advice to the younger me.

getyourlifeplease · 2019-10-27T14:35:18+00:00

The first time is never ever EVER like the movies.

You will be awkward and feel weird about what you are doing...but your body takes over once you actually are "inside" her.

And lastly...and I mean this sincerely - SEX DOESNT CHANGE A DAMN THING IN YOUR LIFE! If you are socially awkward, weird, creepy, or sad and lonely before sex, you will be exactly the same after it. Sex isnt a bandaid for all your troubles and woes - it is a friggin moment in time where you 'feed a need' - thats it. Once that moment passes, the need comes back stronger, and there is NO guarantee you will get laid just because you desire it...remember that!

pornaccount1282828 · 2019-10-27T14:01:26+00:00

Find some pussy mate

caesarfecit · 2019-10-27T15:07:59+00:00

Losing your virginity in and of itself means nothing. It's just a milestone and it's the journey there that counts.

Conquer sexual neediness and opportunities with women are inevitable.

Oh and read Models.

SpaceTaha · 2019-10-27T15:31:45+00:00

It’s nothing like how it is in porn. Trust me.

axe122 · 2019-10-27T16:39:26+00:00

First time just get it done sow you can get it out of your head that it’s a big deal. The younger you are the less the girls expect skill or stamina. Best bet is to find a girl you can fuck a lot and get practice with someone you feel comfortable with cuz you’ve been there before(doesn’t have to be a girlfriend but a fwb/ fuck buddy type situation even) practice using a condom or two and opening it without it being a big deal. Have it ready when she’s back to your place so when it’s time you don’t get all excited and run to grab a condom so you don’t lose your hard on or can’t find them. also bring more than one Incase something happen with the first one, sometimes they break, I fucked in from of a fan blowing on us one time cuz it was a million degrees out and the condom kept drying out around the base and if we would change positions it would dry out from the wetness being hit with wind so bring a 3 pack at the least, plus if you can always fuck her again if there’s no issue with the condom. Think of the way it was in high school with the bases, 1 st base makeout, 2nd feel her up, 3rd is handjob finger or the grown up version eat out and blowjob homerun is sex so when your with a girl for the first time go around the bases in order and you’ll get there. If she resists one of the bases that’s okay but it’s basically little compliance tests if she lets you feel her tits she’s more likely to let you feel her pussy than if you just stuck your hands down her pants. She more likely to let you fuck her if She let’s you rub her pussy or eat her out. Once you e fucked her a few times you can often skip foreplay, I personally live the foreplay I think it makes def better but my point was just go around the bases like that and if she stops you at 3 rd let’s say, just take a step back and stay on second for a few minuets and try again. It’s like 2steps forward one step back. I’ll also her tell her I’m in no rush often makes her feel super safe and comfortable and then she ends up giving in. I had a girl take form 9pm until 9 am the next morning before she let me fuck her she gave me head the night before and I fell asleep at her place we woke up but because I was escalating but not forcing things and letting her get comfortable with me and my touch she ended up fucking me the next morning (first date) even though she kept telling me she wanted to wait so she didn’t feel like a slut sleeping with me on the first date(even though she blew me the night before lol)

OHouseStirFry · 2019-10-27T16:37:42+00:00

It can happen in the most unexpected of circumstances, be in the moment and be engaged, you never know when it will be your shot.

omega_constant · 2019-10-27T18:08:50+00:00

Biology ensures that you already know everything you need to know. Stop over-thinking and just be present. Don't form preconceived expectations for any particular outcome. Just enjoy yourself and she will enjoy herself and that's the key. If everyone is having a good time, the outcome doesn't matter. This is the true meaning of non-attachment to outcomes, not all the BS about negging or pretending that you've gotten laid a million times before when you're actually a virgin or that you have a million other options when this is the only date that you've managed to secure up to this point in time.

Another redditor mentioned the base-system and that's a good way to think about it. You've got a date. You're somewhere private with her. You're up to bat. How far will you make it around the diamond? If you have a gratitude-mindset[1], you are as happy with first-base as you would be with a homerun even though these outcomes are, obviously, very different. Obviously, you're swinging for a homerun but you're not going to be disappointed if it doesn't happen this time. The golden key to non-attachment mentality is gratitude. This woman has seen enough value in you to spend an evening having dinner, hanging out, sharing moments and even intimacy with you. Be thankful, dammit! You don't necessarily need to say it out loud but you do need to feel it. It will show in your non-verbal cues and she will sense it. It's the ultimate aphrodisiac. We waste all this energy trying to "devise a strategy to make her fall for my charms" when all of that is based in non-gratitude. It's all about "how do I get what I want from her?" rather than, "how do I enjoy my time with her and make this an enjoyable time for her, a time that we will both think back on with fondness?" If a homerun was ever going to happen, this is the most likely way it will happen. Nature is smarter than you are... she has already aligned the incentives with the ground-truth, so stop trying to "game" and make a fool out of yourself. Just be real. Then you won't need all this over-thinking crap.

[1] this is not often discussed in this sub but is arguably the single most important aspect of connecting with a woman

sprinkledbutthole · 2019-10-27T14:46:10+00:00

It’s awkward, it feels weird, you may cum too fast, or maybe not at all. But that’s ok. It’s not perfect like it is in the movies. Just relax.

Also, never ever let yourself feel like you have to do it. If there’s even a hint of doubt (beyond the normal jitters), just don’t.

Atriev · 2019-10-27T15:08:07+00:00

My advice is to learn how to initiate a make-out and then, sex.

I went on YouTube and learned how to touch a women and how to have sex. Donofdesire on YouTube will teach you how to eat pussy. Learn from him.

GraveyardZombie · 2019-10-27T19:35:41+00:00

You will eventually get laid. Focus on yourself, get yourself either an education or a trade, start a business. Go to the gym. Find a hobbie to entertain yourself.

WOLFnexus · 2019-10-27T16:25:04+00:00

Wait. As a guy who just did it with a girl who threw at me. I wish I would have waited tell I was with someone I cared about.

deeskraad · 2019-10-27T22:10:44+00:00

Take your time and enjoy yourself. Also, it will be better with someone who you have actually gotten to know a little first.

Xx420noscopeXx98 · 2019-10-28T00:32:41+00:00

Put yourself in more places, functions, and situations where girls are

For reference I lost my virginity to a one night stand on NYE. Ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me. No longer in a relationship with the girl but now I’m constantly searching for opportunities to recreate the scenario.

yeahiblaze · 2019-10-27T17:47:31+00:00

Don’t be a virgin

Bittermike · 2019-10-27T20:32:32+00:00

look, you could get hit by a bus tomorrow, be stricken by a deadly illness, be the victim of a stray bullet or a hundred things. life is fleeting at best and way too short even if you live to be 100.

when you die, according to christian belief, you are going to heaven or hell. Now, most of you who are holding out for the right guy, or the girl of your dreams, or worst case, marriage, are most likely going to heaven. You should know that once you get to heaven you'll be greeted by about a million god fearing Muslims who are waiting for the fulfillment of their god given right to 70 virgins.

So, you need to ask yourself what you want for yourself? An enjoyable sex life for the time you have left on this planet or to be a Muslim sex slave for eternity?

My point is that once you (DO IT) you'll realize you should not have waited. We all need intimacy, gay, straight, LGBQ, we all need that someone to be with, share with, even to fight with. It is an important piece of what gives our lives meaning. I think the only thing better is to make babies and watch them grow to become good people.

(The Muslim thing is a joke, if you are offended that's your problem, I don't care what you think)

FrankyCastiglione · 2019-10-27T17:28:49+00:00

Go crazy.

Lezonidas · 2019-10-27T20:21:03+00:00

I was kind of drunk the first time I did it and it went pretty well, I was there giving my best for 30 minutes, 2 days later, with the same girl, sober, I ejaculated within 30 seconds after she started touching my penis. So my advice: drink some alcohol.

I have to say that after 15-20 sex encounters I could control myself and last about 15 minutes so don't worry about that.

yardapesbb · 2019-10-27T21:22:42+00:00

Go get laid. If your old enough go to a brothel.

PleasantTomorrow · 2019-10-27T21:43:58+00:00

Don't ask too much questions during. Her responses and reactions will help guide you.

DarthCatch22 · 2019-10-27T22:03:31+00:00

I don't know what y'all are talking about. The first time I felt the inside of a pussy it felt way better than anything I could expect at the time. It helps that it was with the right girl. That would be my advice. Wait for the right girl. You're going to lose it eventually, might as well lose it to someone who can make it memorable.

positron360 · 2019-10-27T22:27:51+00:00

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gbnz87 · 2019-10-27T22:37:21+00:00

Sex is a natural thing. Everyone knows how to do it adequetely through instinct alone

Dont overthink it as something more or as something that requires skill or your lack of experience will make it bad for you or her. Also everyones first times together can be a bit awkward until you find out what they like and you learn about each other.

Thegame0123 · 2019-10-27T22:58:52+00:00

What kind of advice are you actually looking for?

Thegame0123 · 2019-10-27T23:02:54+00:00

Are you a virgin?

jackstine · 2019-10-27T23:55:45+00:00

I would say definitely lose weight, so that you are attractive. You can’t have a attractive lady if you aren’t attractive or have a huge wallet. Also know what attractive looks like, get a style and get some clothes.

Know what you want to find your lady! I want someone to encourage me and drive me. I want to share everything I want to be goofy and loud in public areas I want to talk to random people

Bobandjim12602 · 2019-10-28T00:15:54+00:00

Stop asking for advice as a virgin, would be my advice.

adriano515 · 2019-10-28T01:13:09+00:00

Advice on the actual act of fucking follows:

- Focus on your breathing.

- Read (or start reading) sex god method.

- Try to sync your breathing with hers.

- Be vocal.

- Have fun.

- Read up on LMR.

- Have some music (makes my experience different, you can move with the flow of it) the weekend works fine.

- Trim down. (This one's obvious but then again)

- This one may be personal but one of my first times i tried a retardant condonm or some like that, it has like a sedative (idk) and it fucked with me, dick went down like 10 secs after i tried it.

GulliverDude · 2019-10-28T07:17:31+00:00

I assume you're a guy. I think most importantly don't be ashamed of being a virgin, everyone once was a virgin, and unfortunately, it seems that society/friends can shame you for not having done it yet. Stupid. Just know, that women are not an unreachable fantasy of porn - and if you watch porn I do recommend to quit doing it, it will not help you in bed. Women are people, too and they have shitty things as well. When you approach go there like "she is a person I want to get to know" not like "she is a cute girl I want to fuck". This mental attitude if done right can take off the burden you may feel when talking to them. Also, try to masturbate less often, think of 1-2x max 3x a week and see your level of horniness rise. This is good! When you're horny you'll want to fuck and will give less shit when approaching or talking to girls. Just fucking do it. Go there and talk. Girls actually fantasize about being approached. Also, if you live close to Jack Denmo, he's now going to pick a virgin and bring him to the club and you can imagine what will happen if he sets him up. Also, read Models by Mark Manson, No more Mr Nice Guy by Dr Glover. These two books should give you a good start.

MyStIcFusiion · 2019-10-28T13:56:35+00:00

If it tastes like chicken just keep lickin'. If it tastes like trout get the fuck out.

yrogerg123 · 2019-10-27T18:04:19+00:00

Just have sex. The less it means, the better. You might not be able to get hard, you might cum almost instantly. Just put yourself in the situation, realize that most girls have a degree of empathy, and move on. If you wait for that one-true-love moment for your first time, it'll probably be worse than just getting it over with.

maru_wowza · 2019-10-27T19:33:19+00:00

It’s not that big of a deal, just a social construct. But I’ll say be confident in yourself, confidence is sexy! And if you’re a guy... then pay attention to trying to pleasure her, she’ll really appreciate that lol

Xombie0991 · 2019-10-27T23:17:32+00:00

These people are just going to tell you to go work construction then marry the first meth head that talks to you.

Title	What advice would you give a virgin?
Author	quinnmcd
Upvotes	45
Comments	71
Date	October 27, 2019 1:48 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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