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I'm afraid telling her would come out as the FM(TWIWTBF)OFY speech. How has keeping your mouth shut for fear of being misunderstood/hurting someone's feelings been going for you up to this point? Why do you think it would lack congruence? And why does it have to be some kind of speech in the first place? Going to have to take this time to work on my mental models and keep trying new things, see how my internals change. This is all you have control over anyway. Once you figure out if it's complia…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/22 05:51 PM
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Right...you need a better paying job before you can do what you want to do. And also this before that and that before this. Blah blah blah.... What do you want? And what are you going to do about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 09:42 AM
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Good, you sprouted some balls and stated what you want. Now quit being a bitch by dancing around your shit. Either it doesn't bother you and you enjoy it. Or you don't wanna fuck a bitch that rolls her eyes at you, and you tell her that. Pretending it doesn't bother you when you don't really like it isn't very congruent...get off the fence.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 08:54 AM
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However, I’m pretty ready to go smash this pilates instructor I met... If this was true you'd be telling us how you smashed the instructor, rather than your fantasy of it. ...that made it abundantly clear she’s DTF. What is it? You want a woman that pretends to desire you? Or you want one that takes the burden of controlling your sex life off you? Something else....?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 08:49 AM
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What's your goal with this?
/r/askMRP08/12/22 08:41 AM
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Don't be retarded dude. You can tell your wife yes or no, because you want to or don't, without making it some big thing.....what's really on your mind?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 08:31 AM
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Looks like you're phishing for feedback on her actions, instead of talking about the actions you need to take...?si o no?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 08:21 AM
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Could be the novelty of being away from my wife for the first time in a few months. Could also be I just like being on my own. Could also be that you're too scared of what your precious wife would think of the "real" you... You are who you are at home, or on the road. You can only blame everyone else for so long...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 08:16 AM
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You say you're not scoreboarding...but you're giving us a weekly count and breaking down when the "best time" to get laid is...? That's scoreboarding. When you want to fuck, let her know without being a cunt about it. If you keep giving her first dibs and she keeps denying, do what you need to do. If you're not willing to do that [another chick(s)] then figure that out before you waste anymore time with the shit you just wrote
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 08:11 AM
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It's also ok to be turned on by Carpy Hunts too. Whatever floats the boat
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/22 12:37 AM
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Not even with something as life altering as having a kid?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/22 12:34 AM
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Not if you fuck like an animal when you fuck
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/22 12:15 AM
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To fuck like an animal when I fuck u/threekindsoflucky it's a god damn shame you just got rid of flairs! It just became a problem
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 01:10 AM
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Its very hard for me to think this way after having a "we" decision-based relationship for 13 years. What do you want and what are you willing to sacrific for it?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 01:07 AM
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It's ok to not be turned on by harpy cunts. Even if she is your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 01:01 AM
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Start building the life you want to live. Invite her in if you like her and she adds value. Keep building said life, even if she doesn't add value. It really can be that simple.
/r/askMRP13/08/22 02:33 AM
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Wtf are you talking about? You're one of those cunts that needs a RP book to tell you how to act in every aspect of life, aren't ya?
/r/askMRP10/08/22 10:00 PM
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Why do you suppose you're amped to fuck in the future and bored when ya actually get it in? I think actively trying to bang some strange is a good idea at the bach. party. You may find out whether it's her or you...
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 09:55 PM
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Lose the format and write about the shit you actually did during the week, and what you may have learned from it or any sticking points you encountered. We don't care what you're thinking about, or planning to do. Acta non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 09:44 PM
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Re: Twidling thumbs during downtime There could be something to be said about a life long plowhorse habit that hasn't been broken. But, at this point, if you haven't figured out that you're a grown man that can do whatever he wants....well then I'd say you missed a pretty big part of it. It's more likely you're just boring. If you're not run down from work/stress and you have some downtime, it shouldn't be hard to fill that time with hobbies or socializing. Your whole post is about work and divo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 09:40 PM
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The insinuation here is that if she won't fuck you, someone else surely will. Whether or not you dump her first is up to you.
/r/askMRP10/08/22 02:32 AM
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What's the problem? Is she the only woman in a 50 mile radius of you or something?
/r/askMRP09/08/22 09:56 PM
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A tale as old as time. STFU and figure out what you wanna do. Then actually go do it. THEN come back and tell us how it went.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 08:19 PM
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"I went to a party and had a blast. Met some new people, had some fun conversations, and spiked the punch bowl with LSD around 7:30. Later in the night I took over the DJ booth and played WAP on repeat. Nobody noticed, but everyone took their cloths off. Somehow we all end up on the roof, naked as the day we were born, and did some more wild shit. The next day my wife mentioned how fucking aLpHa I was. That was cool too." vs. "I went to a party and found out most of the people there knew more ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 08:06 PM
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Dude....when a woman tells you to find someone else to fuck or says she sucks at something after doing it, she's generally looking for 1 of 2 things. 1) your approval of her performance or 2) guidance to be better at it for you Stay congruent in those situations, don't try turning it into some weird chess match. If you enjoyed it, let her know. If she could do better, let her know that too...but softly at first, especially if she's already dealing with self esteem shit. The only reason you shoul…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 04:11 PM
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Whether it was dancing monkey or not, I am not sure, guessing not because I wasn’t doing it for anyone’s approval. Considering you framed the entire night of socializing as being on display for your precious wife and the rest of the party, I'd say you're full of shit. Same with the mention of your wife peeking out the window while you work out. Do the shit because you enjoy it, not because of how others view it/you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 03:25 PM
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Have a 4some with her SIL, mom, and MIL.
/r/askMRP08/08/22 03:38 PM
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Leaning towards exposing the truth So ya wanna waste even more time....interesting. Fuck her sister instead, you fucking cunt.
/r/askMRP02/08/22 02:16 AM
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So....why not keep the sweet home gig and get your dick wet on the side? I see guilt, per your post. But why not face the guilt instead of forcing yourself to deal with a nonexistent sex life?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 05:53 PM
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You want to fuck. Your wife, who you don't even like and plan to divorce one day, doesn't want to fuck you. Tinder girls do though. But you feel bad/guilty about cheating on a wife you don't like, who won't fuck you, and who probably doesn't even like you? The fuck dude...?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 01:28 PM
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Other than lifting and chasing new pussy (before monk mode "activation" anyway)....what other hobbies or endeavors are you doing with your free time? Also, don't stop fuckin. Maybe just don't make it a main focus? But if you see a chick and your pecker flinches, go for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 01:18 PM
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By all means, tune those strings. All I'm suggesting is try plucking the "idgaf what she has to say, this is what I wanna do" string once or twice and see how that sounds. You seem to have an idea of what you want/like, and she has every right to tell you to stop if she's legit not into it. Get out of your head (and hers) and just....go. There's as much room for being understood in a broad stroke catchphrase as there is in a firm hand to the back of the neck.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/22 04:29 PM
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congruence and authenticity are put on pedestals at times What do you mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/22 04:02 PM
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It reads to me like she said some things about sex that has him writing on the windows like Russell Crow. He wants, probably even needs, to be understood by his wife right now. What do you suppose he's doing here? Looks to me like he sees a Rubix Cube instead of a woman. And now he's on Youtube looking for the sequence of moves [words] that will solve it. All I'm suggesting is he get out of her head, center himself in his, and then speak freely in any and all situations. Or not speak a word, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 07:19 PM
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A wise man once said "there are no shit tests and comfort tests. Everything is a congruence test." As soon as you start trying to figure out the "best" response, congruence goes out the window. If you're in a playful mood and she says "don't talk to me like a pornstar"....respond playfully. If you're all rialed up, respond dominantly. A clumsy, natural response is better than a poorly scripted one.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 09:07 PM
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Looks like you need to get your head out of your wife's ass and figure out how to tune into what you actually want in any given moment
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 04:23 PM
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That wasn't a main event...it was a train wreck. She wasn't looking for your guidance to make things better either, she was looking for you to get back on your hands and knees like a good little bitch to soothe her own anxiety. That's it. Say what you need to say. But quit giving a shit if she "understands" or not. For every 1 that won't, there's 10 that will.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 04:21 PM
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Are you calibrating your verbal responses to hers (verbal &/or physical)? If so, do you see how reactive this is? I've seen it work on varying timelines and to varying degrees. But ultimately its best to respond congruently, not like you're trying to sneak up on a sleeping animal without scaring it off. What are you working toward here?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 04:10 PM
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I can't find the Theo Von clip that explains it, so I'll try not to butcher it. But a single raisins dad is a dude who keeps raisins in his pocket and hands them out, individually, to kids he may or may not know. He may also put a little cinnamin on his palm and let kids he may or may now know lick it. Feel free to DM me for any other life advice you may need
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/22 12:35 AM
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You should definitely block Tinder girl. Delete Tinder all together actually...you absolutely CANNOT prove your undying love to fiance with that app on your phone. Then, gain a solid 45+ lbs. (chicks LoOoOoVe dad bods, all the married ones say so) and leave a BIGGER mess in the house for her to clean up next time she comes. While she's cleaning the mega mess, tell her you'll help...but only if she blows you afterward. If all that fails, call off the wedding (even though you don't mean it) and th…
/r/askMRP18/07/22 12:28 AM
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I’m not attracted to my wife because of her weight. Then why are you bitching about her not being "sexually adventurous" enough? Asked another way, if you're really not attracted to her then what the fuck do you care how adventurous she is? By your own admission, you haven't been either. So you have some mental revelation that means fuck all in the form of tangible shit in the world and all of the sudden expect her to be your slut.....? And when she doesn't pony up to your little CC you play the…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 05:38 AM
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It doesn't matter what word you use. What matters is: fuck last year, it's in the rearview. This is, or at least can be, your new normal. Forgetting or not following through with special plans (or whatever) for her isn't a fuck up anymore. It's more of an "oh fuck"....as in "oh fuck, he might have forgot because he doesn't want me anymore. And I don't want that. I need to do something about this." Enjoy that shit, but don't give it enough headspace to write about it here. Even if it's only 1 sen…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 05:00 AM
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Cool, so you got the mental masturbation on it mapped out. Any idea on what actual actions to take though?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 02:11 AM
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There was preamble though...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 02:10 AM
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There's nothing wrong with initiating bc of the reasons you mentioned either though...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 02:05 AM
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What was so interesting about getting some pics sent to your phone?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 07:47 AM
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Identifying when I want to vs when I'm initiating bc I feel like I should is the mental work. Jesus fucking christ...keep it simple. If you're thinking about fucking, for any god damn reason at all, then try to fuck her. And I don't mean timidly feeling her out and gauging her interest either...do what you want until you get what you want, or a hard stop...whichever cums first
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 07:43 AM
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So when I do withdraw she doubles down as stated above. Why are you letting a her-peoblem become a you-problem? Obviously I need to set up a more clear boundary in this regard. Yeah...because verbal contracts work so much better than covert ones, eh? You don't need a more clear boundry here....you don't even have the balls to enforce your current one, which is merely avoidance. We are both very stubborn, and I don't apologize unless I really fucked up. She expects apologies for a lot more shit t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 07:35 AM
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Stop keep score dude. "#/## for initiating sex" isn't going to help your sex life. All the things you're bitching about....do something about it. Want to fuck more? Initiate more. Want better sex? Then make it better. Your cunty little metrics aren't going to cut it. You think you don't like your wife right now because she's reflecting your dicklessness back at you. Quit being a pussy....or at least quit blaming her for it. What do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 07:22 AM
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And that's my work to do. Learning to be joyful. I (genuinely) don't know if working, the way you do, toward the goal of finding joy will work. You mention knuckleup and cold showers being self imposed slavery, but what about all the other stuff? Is all that high-drive work for the reward what you want to do, or just another prison to transfer out to when things get dull? Things like dream homes and fun toys are goals that must be worked for. But joy....that, to me, is more like floating a river…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 03:35 PM
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Ya don't say... No need to rush to the keyboard next time she's being a bitch then. Right...?
/r/askMRP02/06/22 10:05 PM
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Did the scary woman kill ya or are you still alive?
/r/askMRP02/06/22 09:55 PM
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Not these days....most scratch off tickets have better odds than guessing a gender
/r/askMRP02/06/22 09:44 PM
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I see. So....what are ya gonna do then?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 04:02 PM
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You think she wouldn't notice you're telling her because of some cunty tick in your brain? Now if bar thot got so pissed you turned her down that she cocked back to hit you, snaps her heel, and busts out 4 teeth on the table on her way down, then gets bounced like Billy Bob Thorton in Bad Santa.... yeah, go ahead and share that hilarious trainwreck of a story with your wife and anyone else you talk to over the next couple of days.
/r/askMRP04/05/22 11:54 PM
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What kind of things makes you angry? There's a great movie called Revolver (newer Guy Richie flick, not the 80's western) that shows the concept of "using your perceived enemy to destroy your real enemy" far better than any words on a screen could. Find it on Amazon Prime and watch it
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 11:42 PM
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I highly doubt your wife is leaving laundry lay around so she can get a kick out of how weak you are for doing it. I definitely know though that it shouldn't fucking matter why your wife is leaving laundry lay. Either do it or tell her to do it. It's pretty fucking simple. Shit tests are things like taking jabs at your clothes or the way you do something. Not doing laundry could be anything from entitled princess to lazy slob, or a million other useless things. Screaming at you is cunty behavior…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 11:35 PM
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Why don't you want to go to the event? Do you have other plans in mind, or are you just avoiding being social/having your lack of social skills spotlighted?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 11:26 PM
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I see a lot of guys struggle with enjoying the validation that can come with sex. Everyone, in and out of this sub, gets something different out of sex. It's for you to decide. And it could change with time. Figure out what YOU currently get out of it, and then own it. Validation seeking behaviors are unattractive...until they're not. Have fun with it and get creative. Just don't be a cunt about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 11:03 PM
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I think what I need is to stop focusing so much on sex in general, and instead, focus on enjoying/improving every other area of my life. When I feel like initiating, I need to sit with that feeling for a minute and ask myself: Am I actually horny or am I just feeling needy? I get what you're trying to do here. And by all means, give it a shot and see where it leads you. But I gotta ask...isn't sex an "area" of your life you'd like to improve as well? So why force yourself to avoid it? And why do…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/22 05:59 AM
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Ahh...you wanna take the scenic route.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/22 04:46 AM
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How long you gonna keep yourself and kid in that shit show?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 09:06 PM
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Dude....how in the actual fuck is a woman trapping you in rooms? Did she used to be a Navy Seal or some shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 05:32 AM
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Maybe I do decide I’m not willing to do what it takes to get there or that it’s not worth it. Do you think it's ok and/or acceptable to make this decision?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 05:01 AM
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They don't co-exist. #2 is usually a means to getting to #1, and is usually advice given to men who are so focused on their wife that they can't even figure out what they really want.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 03:08 PM
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I'm starting to realise that what I need is to set a clear boundary. I won't be in a relationship that doesn't provide enough sex. You're working this backwards. A boundry is something you won't accept other people crossing without some sort of consequence; a standard, would be another way of saying it. You've recognized you fill your time creating these CC's and various other unproductive, uneffective, and unattractive modes of living. So step one is changing those habits and thought processes,…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 02:48 PM
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You can really have some fun with that repression. Sky's the limit with options, but is telling her to cum something you're interested in?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 11:44 PM
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When I step back and overview my week this way, I’m able to feel pride in my achievements, which means I feel less of a need for external validation from my SO. Really? You're entire post is either "Yay, progress!" (because she helped you cum = validation) or "Waaaaah, trying to supress butthurt subcommunication" (because butthurt subcommunication = no validation) Quit eating horseshit. I want to be wealthy enough to live a fun, exciting life More horseshit. Money won't change your personality. …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 11:32 PM
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Sex/Marriage section is the only one where you're trying to get in someone else's head, assuming their intentions. You wanna explore her head? Use your dick to do it instead of your brain.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 10:09 PM
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I'll take a different approach and tell him not to think about the starfish at all. If it's a turn off, zip up and go do something else. Or if ya just wanna nut, throw a circus in that pussy. Who cares what killed the starfish? Enjoy yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 09:57 PM
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Maybe when I am back on track with my mission and my finances line up, things will improve. Maybe. But probably not. Do you even have a defined mission, or is it just a buzzword you're looking at...hoping it's a light at the end of a tunnel? I am not holding my breath, it has been a negative growth and hostile environment for years... Crawling out of this negative headspace may very well make things improve though... Indentify some of the root causes and figure out what you can do to improve the…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 09:49 PM
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Fuck the cops
/r/askMRP14/04/22 01:38 AM
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I don't know if I've ever seen anyone use this many words to say absolutely nothing at all.
/r/askMRP14/04/22 12:56 AM
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I left the "why" out of that advice last week and I'm honestly a little suprised how well you filled in the blanks. Monk mode can be whatever you make it. When she initiates it'd be pretty retarded to reject her, so go for it. Or, if you're so horny that it's all you can think about then go for it. Hell...you may be so wound up at that point that you'd actually initiate like a man. It doesn't have to mean no sex at all. You set the rules, just like in the rest of your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 12:52 AM
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Exactly. Saying no "bc MRP says so" is really no different than saying yes because [woman] says so. If you're willing and able, and want to, then forget the chess match and just help whoever is asking something of you. If not, say no. Which leads me to another distinction...."compliance tests." Analyzing every single request to figure out whether or not that's what it "really" is is still being "in her frame." She may or may not be testing for compliance....it doesn't matter. Like I said above, …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 04:34 PM
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Whoa, Tonto! That ship has already sailed. Don't bring it up now. Just saying, if she asks you again or future reference...
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 03:09 AM
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What question are you referring to? "What should I do to recieve love and affection from you again?" Now.... this very well could translate to "What should I do to get you back in line like the good little 'BeTa BiTcH' you used to be?" But remember, that's her frame, not yours. The answer you gave me is your frame, not hers. So your overt honesty, followed by broken record, will most likely cause her to try and bait you into saying some unattractive shit, and will likely be followed by some hyst…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 02:32 AM
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Try finding them for yourself first. And fine, it's your hair. But don't show up next Tuesday whining about how you still never leave the house and have no social life.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 01:23 AM
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She doesn't add any value to my life right now -- no sex, no help with chores, almost nothing. I want to try and surround myself with people who add some value. That doesn't sound like negotiating to me. Seems more like answering a question honestly. Sure, it's probably all your fault because of past blah, blah, blah. I'm not sure biting your tongue in the present because you failed to open your mouth in the past is the answer right now though. "What better place than here? What better time than…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 01:01 AM
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Now that's a level of honesty I can truely respect man. So the million dollar question, is that work you want to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 12:50 AM
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It gave me a chance to think about validation and whether I initiate based out of desire or whether it’s out of validation. Still haven’t figured this one out yet. Why can't it be both sometimes?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 12:36 AM
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Frankly, I'm not discontent with the lack of sex at the moment. That might be, I hope, a result of the drop in validation seeking. Previously, the lack of sex upset me as an insult to my identity as a man. I'm beginning to see that while she doesn't want to fuck me at the moment, that I am in many ways, and improving to be, an attractive man. I'm building a great life for me, and while I'm hoping she gets on board with it, if she doesn't, I'm going to be happy and create options for myself. Thes…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 12:32 AM
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Shakes and pills are supplements, not staples. Are you eating enough raw foods to be able to cut the shakes/pills? If not, could you? They have their place, but nothing beats the actual food. No initiations. I’m not feeling any attraction. Realized all of her touchy feely from last week was cycle related. I’m tired of the bullshit. I’m tired of being led on. Got shit tested one night because I didn’t kiss her goodnight when I went to bed after I thought she was already asleep. “I’ll remember thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 12:18 AM
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I chose to say no because I want to embrace my fears and anxieties, overcome nice guy behaviours. I could feel that knotted up feeling inside me, which feels like resentment if I comply and I feel like a lapdog. I don't always feel this when she asks for something, but this time I did. So I chose to say no to face it firsthand. I'd like you to "get into it a bit more" so I can learn and see different perspectives. I'm pretty sure I never replied to this. Before I go into it thoigh, did you come …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 12:04 AM
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In fact I'll tell you mine right now: What if the search for and enjoyment of this peace and happiness that I find proliferating in my life from my current mental focus and habits...what if I come to find out that the reason I kept trying to explore that peace was simply because I was afraid to push harder? Not to hijack the thread here...but I'm curious to hear how you, personally, answered this question, if you have yet. And a follow up question...if peace and happiness (in the overall sense) …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 10:54 PM
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I never wanted kids and I allowed myself to be baby-trapped by her mother Do you feel some relief that she moved out? Or worded another way, are you denying yourself the feeling of relief for fear of "how would this look if anyone else knew I was thinking this"...? Not trying to shit on ya here. I agree with chuck, you have a very stoic view. I like tugging on threads too, that's all.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 10:12 PM
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So you learned the difference between a soft no and a hard no, right? And how maybe, sometimes, listening to their mouth noises is a fool's errand....right? It's the same when they're bitching about this and whining about that. Sometimes it's just horseshit. Now ask yourself, is her voice the one you want guiding your life and basing your decisions on. It changes. It says things it doesn't mean, outside of the 45 seconds it took the air to escape the lungs anyway. How much weight do you give tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 09:17 PM
1

Why are you worried about "going overt"?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 07:22 PM
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I don't give this advice often....but monk mode might be a good idea for you, right now. No fap. No initiating. And ffs, no talking about it to her either.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 07:18 PM
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You're still putting too much weight/focus on her responses. 47 weeks in. Boiling it down to one short sentence isn't going to fool most of us... I have a feeling you've been drafting CC's ever since you read that article too.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 07:07 PM
2

Every section is laced with validation seeking or excuses. Both, in most of 'em. Start small, go to a damn barber shop this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 04:26 AM
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Why is it hard to keep your mouth shut? Why is it hard to tell her to shut hers?
/r/askMRP27/03/22 09:06 PM
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Ah you cunt! I'm not gonna give you a thesis paper on it, but I'll tell you this... You don't need to change the dynamic if she's being this vocal/forceful about getting you off. It's not some weird power game on her part. And it's fucking retarded on your's not to shoot a wad down her throat every once in awhile. It sounds like it is literally a reward to her...so get the fuck over yourself and just enjoy it. You don't need a main event. You don't need a D/s contract. You want a sexual wife, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 07:47 PM
1

I just asked if this was it and we were done, to which I got a "not yet". I fully realized in that moment that I like where I arrived and don't want to go back whatever the outcome. I don't think it's coincidence or clumsy writing skills that caused you to write about your realization immediately after her saying "not yet." I'm not going to spell it out for you... mainly bc you came in with a bag of coins, dumped it on the message board, and asked us to sort them out for you. Let's hear what you…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 11:27 PM
1

...now that I know/am accepting that I still don’t want to be married but can it all just be better if I just actually improve myself. Only you can answer that. I would say it's worth asking yourself what the "why" of it is though. As in, why don't you want to be married? Of course it can be better if you improve yourself...assuming improve means letting go of the anger so you can lighten up and have some fun, and are willing/able to invite her along for the fun, aren't a needy bitch, etc. But i…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 06:30 PM
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If you don't like being married, then why not get on with it and file for divorce? Seems like an easy problem to solve. And there's really no one way I got over it. Aside from consciously working on self control while experiencing anger and putting the time spent being angry into perspective as being a complete waste, the big thing for me was learning empathy to curb my ego. I took most of the shit people said or did that made me mad personally. Turns out, there's usually other reasons (their ow…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 04:42 PM
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Anger can be a hard snake to charm man, ask me how I know. You're on the right track though if you're starting to recognize how useless it is a majority of the time. Make no mistake, it has its place. But controlling it is the key, not trying to get rid of it altogether. Make no mistake, it's still anger you're feeling toward your wife. Not apathy, like you're trying to convince yourself. Lot's of "she's" in your marriage section that wouldn't be there if it was really apathy. You wouldn't be in…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 03:54 PM
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Next few times were met with shit tests and duty sex. I'm also noticing I lack the balls to just go for it. These 2 things are directly related. Don't you go worrying about her opinion of you and how "you need to change it." Not quoting you there, btw...just giving you the mental model to avoid at all costs. You keep doing what you want to do, because it's what you want to do. Understand she's going to resist and test, and rightly so. Own what you want, build the confidence to take it without fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 03:37 PM
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My fear of rejection mindset was kicking in. That hamster went on running in my mind for a minute or two, until I remembered.... my “mantra” that if I don’t try, it’s a definite no. So I initiated... Good stuff man. This is literally the point of all of this MRP stuff; noticing old bad habits, replacing them with new habits/thoughts, and most importantly doing something different. Keep getting the reps in and this will become your new autopilot...little to no thought involved. Just a side note, …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 03:30 PM
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But rushing to it to early simply sounds like going Rambo. And what do you suppose spending so much time and mental real estate to solve this rubics cube sounds like?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 03:48 PM
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I'm not competing for her attention. I have things to do, so I go do them. Bullshit. Anyway, she often comes to me later for sex. I don't withhold it from her like some butthurt I'll-get-you-back incel. Of course not, you already covered that butthurt base earlier in the day. I'm starting to think my wife might like sucking dick. As long as that dick isn't attached to someone begging pretty please. This is your big revelation after 63 OYS posts? Jesus fucking christ...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 12:06 PM
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Divorce is the main focus right now. You sure about that? You're OYS is: "Short filler paragraph about nutrition and an old realization." "I'm writing, again, about my reputation potentially taking a hit in a small social circle. But I swear guys, I really don't care. Also, here's my wife's divorce plans." "My new gf is sooooo fucking dreamy. So I have to force myself to back off because deep down I'm still a faggot." "I'll never admit to myself or anyone else that even though this is what I wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 11:45 AM
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Sure, that could be the situation. It could also be a "please just kill the fucking dog already" situation, it could be a "I feel so guilty for getting all this side dick that I wanna paint the walls with my brains" situation, or it could be a million other situations. The question is, what situation do you want to be in? You're so god damned wrapped up in solving the rubics cube with tits and a slit that you seem to be missing the bigger picture.... You don't have to put up with it. You don't h…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 11:21 AM
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what is the difference between doing this in an attractive way that builds tension, Doing it bc you're into her and you want to and doing it in a way that comes across as thirsty and needy as fuck? When you're expecting something from her
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 08:07 AM
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I need to embrace a more OI mindset so I won’t be scared to initiate in these situations, pushing through that fear of rejection. No... you need to initiate when you want to because you want to. The OI and overcoming your fear things will sort themselves out after a little time and consistency. When she's not receptive, but also not killing your boner about it, have some fun with her and keep going. See how serious you take them after witnessing the fickleness firsthand...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 07:41 AM
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Wait....45 weeks in and you're the same weight/bf% as week 1, plateaued at your bw on bp, aren't squatting at least 2x bw yet, getting rule 9 bans, and follow up statements like "I need to look at my wife's disturbing behavior" with something along the lines of "I'm just going to keep providing comfort"...? I guess this... Most of any kind of kino/gaming instantly shot down. Silent treatment most of the time. ....makes a lot more sense to me now. What's your goal here? And a super loaded questio…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 06:57 AM
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I have a buddy still doing this with an 8 year old. You'll thank yourself later for teaching him to self soothe at bedtime from the start.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 02:21 AM
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...or use it to.... help get him laid. Instructions unclear. Tried to fuck my buddies, now I don't have any friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 04:18 AM
2

The other day Lol! How many days, exactly, have you been brooding over this?!
/r/askMRP08/03/22 04:11 AM
2

What do you think it will take to stop keeping score and just play for the love of the game instead? What does that transition point look like to you?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 09:45 PM
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I have the ability to create what I want in my sex life. Still need some tweaking though. I've never understood the "shark week" reasoning for not fucking. But that's beside the point. What do you want in your sex life? Clearly, I am still scoreboarding. But it is different than it used to be, the Scoreboard is all on me....It is still scoreboarding, maybe even still dancing monkey, but it is all focused on me, so it has been helpful. The goal is to get to point where there is no scoreboard, I a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 06:19 PM
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Instead of pandering some internet stranger because he took the time to respond to you, how about you shut the fuck up, pick ONE thing to DO, and then GO DO IT. It doesn't even have to be a fun or exciting thing....drive 2 counties over for a gallon of gas station milk and say hi to the cashier, ffs. The only way out of stalemate is action.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 06:02 PM
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Like ragnar said, you seem a little tied up in the perception (by others) of your words and actions. You seem to also be aware of your own thoughts and actions. It really can be as simple as answering her question to engage in a conversation that will get you guys on the same page....or, to let the bitch know how it's gonna be if ruthless dictator is your flavor. It can also be as simple as being horny enough to initiate, but too tired to push through resistence. I don't know why you're here, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 05:20 PM
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You don't have to be smooth in your responses. Genuine is just fine. It sounds like you gave her a genuine reward in both moments, but missed the message in retrospect ("surely she's not this uncomfortable taking the lead after years of doing it?") Your thought after the lawyer call in your OYS is laced with insecurity. Take care of the insecurity and the rest may just fall into place....without having to go to a Smoothness Seminar
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 04:51 PM
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As in, she's melting into you for comfort and looking to you for approval. Re: the lawyer call..."Did I do a good job, Daddy?" I'm hesitant to point this kind of stuff out. It's not so much her actions that are important here, it's whether or not you want to nurture and encourage that kind of behavior from her. "Feminine grows through praise" and all that... These are opportunities to "be the oak," so to say. What was your response to "sorry, did I talk to much?"
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 07:27 PM
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Divorce prepping at "dread levels 1 & 2"....while still initiating....while still being swept away by an angel's touch after 6 days of silent treatment.... Why not, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 06:21 PM
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Oh damn, you worked late late. I was way off.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 05:00 PM
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Maybe she's "not receptive to your comfort" because she's looking for guidance....not comfort. Is she doing enough? What do you want from her? I think if it was only dread she is feeling, then she'd be melting into you when you give her whatever form of comfort you are giving. If she'a not receptive, then she's picking up on something in you that's communicating "I'm not happy here and you are not enough for me." Is there any of that in you? Or am I throwing spaghetti in the air instead of a wal…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 03:18 PM
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Smells like bullshit and Mexican street food in here... You knew dinner wasn't made, but only picked up enough food for yourself, huh? And I suppose you have some weak ass rationalization for doing this....it definitely wasn't intentional war gaming, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 03:10 PM
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After a couple of minutes of this she stops, begins to cry and nuzzles into my chest for comfort. Something I've never seen happen before. The next day we have a call with a lawyer, an area my wife has a tonne of expertise and I have none. Afterwards: 'Sorry, did I talk too much?'. Surely she doesn't already feel uncomfortable taking the lead, after years of this being the norm? Dunno. Taking all of the noise between these 2 things away, does it make more sense to you what is going on?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 02:59 PM
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"I feel disgusting" is not a "hard no" you fucking twat. She may very well be having some negative thoughts about herself, specifically her body....but that's her shit to own, not yours. The whole relationship section reads like you're trying to program a computer. Reading and learning about kino and gaming isn't going to do fuckall for you. Here is everything you need to know about it.....if you want to squeeze her ass, do it. If you want to give her a hug, do it. If you want to kiss her, do it…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 02:52 PM
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And how, exactly, do you think denying your most animalistic instinct is going to make you respect yourself more?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 02:21 PM
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But sometimes it feels like she’s the one doing the validation seeking. Get used to this. But don't allow yourself to be distracted. I do see her as a poor choice of a pretty pathetic beta......And now I look back on it and think I holy shit, what was I thinking. You wrote pretty poorly of yourself in your post. Someone else already mentioned the idea of her being your reflection. Sounds like a good time for a clean slate, for the both of you. Get your shit together, game her, date her, and see …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 10:33 PM
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Does she know why you're pushing the safeword? Do you?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 10:11 PM
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Her thought was probably.... Wtf?? Who cares what her thought was? Your leadership sucks. You're right about this though. Anytime silent treatment last 2+ days, there's a leadership problem. Sit her down and snap her out of it...better yet, lay her down and fuck her out of it.
/r/askMRP12/02/22 04:43 AM
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I'll bet ya $1,000 he was in his "man cave" working on a fleshlight fuck machine to go with the VR headset he drained the savings to get. Any takers?
/r/askMRP12/02/22 03:31 AM
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I am mad at myself for what I've become over the last decade. I'm also mad at her for the situation she's putting us and our family in. You're mad at yourself for being shit for 10 years...and still think she's putting you and the family in a "situation"?? YOU put yourself and your family in the situation you're all in. Why on earth would you expect her to want to stick around? Self pity is a mother to break out of. Fuck this, and fuck you for saying it. Keep this shit out of here. Grow the fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/22 10:53 PM
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Add make friends and find hobbies to the list
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/22 10:08 PM
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I've just been trying to lose weight, STFU and read. Posting this dumb shit question isn't helping with any of the things you claim to be focusing on though. Neither does brushing off the only solid advice you got so far.... If you were reading, you'd know to always be gaming. And if you knew that, you'd know it really was a lob ball. Who gives a fuck what her intentions were when she asked to clean your desk. Who gives a flying fuck where it was at...if you can't fuck her with your dick at work…
/r/askMRP11/02/22 09:31 PM
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It was definitely a step forward. Any action, especially when it's an action outside of "the norm" or your comfort zone, is a good action. It either works out, or you learn from it...both are wins. I don't think either of us commented to put you down for it, I know I didn't at least. Just sharing notes, is all. Red is spot on about stfu too. Use it more as a non-response to her mood swings...or, like he said, if you're unsure whether you're horny or needy. The idea is to get so damn comfortable …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/22 02:34 AM
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Focus on telling her what’s happening or going to happen not asking her. 2x this u/FutileFighter "Tell me to [xyz]" would've been better than what you said u/FutileFighter Don't get me wrong, it's good on you for getting out of your comfort zone. But Red Letters is probably right that it came off needy instead of dominately commanding her to say explicitly what you wanted to hear. Keep movin forward, and don't forget to make it fun and enjoy it along the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 06:16 PM
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If I want to game and date my wife (and lead to a cultivated, satisfying sex life), then I need to take notes on what works and take notes on what doesn’t work. If you're really going to do this, don't do it for long. Game and date your wife the way you want to. Want to. When you want to and either don't do it at all, or don't do it the way you want to....ask yourself why. And answer honestly. Then get to work on it. Eventually you are going to have to get uncomfortable, might as well do it soon…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 05:19 AM
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But, as stated earlier, I’m obviously missing something. Congruence.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 01:52 AM
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Depends on the lie. You know damn well what lie Stoney was talking about. Begs the question....what's up with avoiding a direct answer?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:59 PM
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I'm still confused on who's who lol Says NorthernFacing here, Asthmatic in my inbox, and rip her panties off advice guy is now [deleted]....
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:39 PM
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Or maybe they're best not thought of at all? "I guess that makes you one of the lucky ones" Wink and leave. End scene. You'll be an asshole 3 days later. And back to the best ever a day after that. Not quite Hillary Clinton in the middle of the Lewinski scandal...but at least the common one's have a hint of foresight within a week's time?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 03:18 AM
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Try this for 1 whole year: Stop thinking about why she does this. And everything else for that matter. Make the latte (or don't) because you want to (or don't), not bc she offered her golden pussy in return. Go ahead and try fucking her after you make it anyway....that should be a good learning experience for you. Read the sidebar. Judging from your post & replies, you'll need to do this part multiple times. Lift. And read up on workout routines, diet, and all that when you're not lifting. If yo…
/r/askMRP02/02/22 01:01 AM
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Isn't the act of sex kind of the whole point of having side pieces though? I'm confused by the brevity of the post....side chick with a no sex/kissing boundry, but also getting off on the control. What is the reason for the time investment in side chick? No right or wrong answers here, I'm just curious
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:21 AM
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It's odd you read it as him telling other guys they shouldn't enjoy compliments. I read it as him telling other guys it shouldn't matter, because we already know what they're telling us in their compliments. Either you get it, or you don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:12 PM
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If the financial hit would derail your goals, why not stay married and spin plates?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:00 PM
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Sarcasm, that's what. Your problem isn't really that she drove home drunk. It's not that you think there is a set time for "removing time and attention." It's not that you view removing TAA as a weapon instead of just a natural response. Your problem is you ask internet strangers to micromanage your emotions, reactions, responses and your wife instead of understanding what becoming your own mental point of origin means, to you. Whenever you figure that out, if you do at all, none of the above wi…
/r/askMRP31/01/22 03:40 PM
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I handled it better than I did the day before. Tomorrow I may get a chance to do it even better than today. FTFY It may seem like splitting hairs. But talking to yourself like that^ vs. your original comment really can go a long way. You may have more stepping stones ahead of you, but don't discredit any of the steps you take along the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 03:29 PM
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What do ya mean, barely? Like they did a half assed job or are you downplaying your effectiveness of having them clean the house? Bc.... When I got home it was done ...sounds like progress for everyone involved. Praise their effort, and yours. Don't downplay it....build off of it instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 02:48 PM
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Well there ya go. Stick to what works, I'd say
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 02:30 PM
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3 days 14 hours and 27 minutes exactly. A minute less and you're seen as weak, a minute more and you're just being butthurt... ...seriously dude?
/r/askMRP30/01/22 08:33 PM
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It really can be as simple as "get off your lazy ass and clean up." Doesn't mean she'll do it. She may even get mad. Both are her problems, once you've decided you're done supporting a lazy bum, anyway. In the meantime, clean your house and don't worry about whether or not she can see ypu doing it. You are a man that doesn't like to live in filth, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/22 08:23 PM
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RE: wife with kids I'm definitely interested in feedback on this I'd like to point out that you acknowledged both of these things in the same section; her progress and her "complete inabilities." If you're typing both of those things out to internet strangers, you're more than likely subcommunicating them as well. STFU is good for avoiding mouth noises for unattractive reasons. It is not a good leadership strategy. And that's what you're trying to do, isn't it? Leading your wife to your goal of …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/22 11:14 PM
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u/BobbyPeru is absolutely right about her being pissed when you don't slap her ass when she walks by... ...but taking your word for it that it'a playful on both sides, I'll offer a different perspective than what you've got so far: Her switch happens when she realizes you're going to sit there like a limp dicked fuck until she initiates the actual escalation. Number 2 from your hamster list. I dunno what your escalations look like. But if you're saying some shit like "sounds like you need the sa…
/r/askMRP28/01/22 10:29 PM
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I’m in no position yet to be demanding respect. I knew I smelled bitch in the air
/r/askMRP27/01/22 12:42 AM
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Leadership really just boils down to making decisions, being comfortable making the wrong decisions, being understanding when the people around you fail, acknowledging "the team" in your successes, being open to other ideas, and giving the people around you the support/tools they may need. I suspect I know exactly where you're at with this right now, no good role models to look back on and reference? How to Win Friends and Influence People had a few little anecdotes that helped me start to get a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 11:50 PM
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My wife looks and tells me that that my dad would disappointed .... but I’m really proud that in that moment I didn’t react and didn’t break down, I was able keep my calm. If keeping calm is your ultimate goal then....good job, I guess. Would've been nice to read "I'm really proud that in that moment I didn't give a fuck what her or my dad think because I like myself." But that's a steep order for this kind of an OYS shit-post. Aim higher. And how hard is it to say "why would I need to be sneaki…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 11:03 PM
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That's the one. It's long, but well worth the time spent reading it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 02:19 AM
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I've made everything way too complicated......Now, it's so much clearer and simpler. Just work on it until it's done or abandon it and move on to something else. That's all. Aaaayyyee!! That kind of simplicity, in all areas of life, will serve you well. Yet, the more I push things sexually, the more closed up I notice her becoming. Consider the idea that she's not closing up, but is uncomfortable or adjusting. Blarg has a great post deep in his post history about his idea of the "female matrix" …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 10:25 PM
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There's a post literally called "Keep it simple, stupid" in the top 3 new ones on the main sub.... If you want your wife to "have a discussion with you" first, then quit being a bitch and just tell her that. But....that's not really the problem now, is it? If I can see through it from 1 post on a Reddit forum, she will definitely see it for what it really is because she knows you're a bit of a bitch, from experience.
/r/askMRP25/01/22 06:12 AM
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So if I take my wife at her overt words I kind of have my answer. I really hope you know better than this by now.... I'm torn between "read through Horns' post history because his wife tried the same hand right before he turned her" and "I think you want a submissive bc you think it will insulate you from dealing with her emotions"....and that won't work, btw. But ultimately, what I'll leave you with is a question I was asked years ago by u/weakandsensitive: What's her incentive? I'll also add t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 02:31 AM
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It is also possible though, that this relationship we just want different things in which case compromise is a shitty alternative to collaboration. It's absolutely possible. What do you suppose the best way to find out for sure is? Does she already know what you want? Do you? I know I keep urging you to open your mouth, and also that you don't really seem to want to. But make no mistake....this will come to a head at some point, one way or another. All I'll say is that I could've saved myself so…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 10:48 PM
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I've tried to describe it to a few guys as replacing a "BP Matrix" with a "RP" one. One may be more effective than the other, but they're still outsourcing their own thoughts and actions or begging for validation in either case. The sub as a whole ends up replacing their wives, in their minds anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 06:42 PM
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I like the idea of OI, but wonder how we are ever completely torn from any external feedback from the reactions of others. OI and total dissociation from external feedback are not the same things. OI is saying/doing what you want, simply because it's what you want to say/do. You may have an outcome in mind, but you don't get butthurt if that outcome doesn't happen. It's a mix of understanding people don't always want what you want, when you want it, and projecting your "energy into the world" si…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 06:09 PM
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Strike 3 advice was given on my own assumption that this has been often and on going. If I assumed wrong, then you can stop reading right here. If I was right, well then you have some things to figure out. Imagine working your ass off for a boss that only acknowledges your efforts when it benefits him directly. And even then, his acknowledgement is nothing more than simply saying "you were great" as he wipes his dick off with a towel, or worst....a pat on his own back disguised as a compliment t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 05:51 PM
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During her fits... have you tried putting her on the nearest flat(ish) surface, ripping her pants off, and eating her out? It can be a pretty good non-verbal answer to a "shitty comfort test"...or whatever you wanna call it. If she's prone to pushback though, you can't be a bitch about it. Think 3 strikes: 1st pushback, tell her to shut up. Firmly. 2nd, hand over her mouth. 3rd, full stop. "If you're not going to cum this attitude away, then you're going to talk to me about it. Clearly. Get dres…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 11:34 PM
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No you won't.
/r/askMRP18/01/22 01:22 AM
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For sure. Truth be told, I was prodding a little. His non-response is as good of answer as any. I'm left wondering if the praise he talked about in the paragraph above was given in one way or another...or if he's gonna crawl back in his head and get in a 4D chess match instead of making that whole scenario the new norm. Time will tell I suppose
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/22 10:21 PM
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who the fuck is this woman A woman who spent too much time wondering if you're going to fuck everything that moves now that you don't have to worry about knocking anyone up.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 02:53 AM
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One thing i’m trying to get rid of though is my need for outside « love ». I look at women and think « would she make a nice GF? ». I catch myself doing it every time i see a pretty girl. What is this longing? Is it just sexual energy in another form? How do I use this to my own advantage? Still working on it. I think you answered your own question here. For starters, asking yourself if someone would make a good GF is way better than "Would she think I make a good BF?" And we all like outside lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 02:32 AM
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Hell, you may even realize that everything you really ever needed was inside of that unlocked, sleepy guarded prison cell the whole time. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders....my bet is on you seeing it for yourself sooner than you may think. I am going to spend some time this week exploring places and experiences outside of my own head. Why not make it 2 or 3 weeks? Explore and experience without thinking about reporting it in next week's OYS post. What's the worst that could …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 02:10 AM
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Once you figure out what you want (shit getting done, or compliance) the path forward should become more clear. If you want compliance, that's fine. But you have to own it, then decide how you want to communicate it. It can be overt right off the bat, or it can be subcommunicated via [non]actions/body language when you're met with noncompliance. That will be up to you. In your example, did you tell her to pack for the kids? Or did she take it upon herself to do it the first 2 times? Btw, I smell…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 11:21 PM
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the pattern as I see it is that my wife withdraws and weaponizes sex expecting me to apologize. I don’t really want to play that game so I’m finding things to occupy my time, figure me out, get out of the house, do stuff with friends, spend time doing activities with my kids, plan things, and workout. I edited that a little...but how comfortable are you in owning this? I know STFU is preached hard around here, but if she decides to ask you about the distance...this would be a great answer (inste…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 10:53 PM
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Controlling and leading are not the same things. Do I just continue to lead and do things myself without help. Or do I create some sort of consequence to all of this lack of following. Both? What's the goal? Get things done....or get compliance from the wife? She has to give a shit about your time and attention to make removing them a "punishment." It doesn't sound like she gives that shit, or she would be following. Or maybe you're just a shit leader giving shit direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 09:49 AM
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What are you trying to accomplish by disengaging from your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 09:37 AM
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Some things to consider: I’m afraid that I’ll never understand myself. I have a lot of trouble finding clarity. You are actively transforming yourself, so confusion should be expected. But at some point things just....click. These new ways of thinking and acting begin to happen naturally without much thought at all. You become comfortable and confident with the tools you've picked up and the process itself becomes the prize. I like to suggest taking extended breaks from the subreddits, and all t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 08:59 AM
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Sounds like she's getting bored. Sign up for Hulu to spice things up a bit.
/r/askMRP12/01/22 06:03 AM
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Oh look, a personal standard Ftfy
/r/askMRP10/01/22 09:21 PM
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Sounds like she's trapped in the maze. Game will definitely help. So will some leadership. Also, stop taking her questions so seriously. If she's associating sex with trauma, fog...and by fog I mean talk to her about it like you give a shit about her. It may just be feelz or looking for a reaction from you, or it may be the 100% truth. Either way, that's her shit...not yours. Hugs and foreheads kisses, man. Keep it simple for awhile.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/21 02:13 PM
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baseline of “ok, now I can think more clearly, what do I want?” MRP is fairly linear up to this point. I like the toolbox analogy, and right now you have a box full of nice shiny ones. Bust out a wrench, take off the training wheels, and take the bike out for a spin for a couple of weeks. Seriously. Log off of Reddit for a few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 07:56 PM
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So now we know what your wife wants. Cool. So uh....what the fuck do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 07:31 PM
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Or maybe it's boredom? Floundering? Like you went to the hardware store and bought a bunch of nice tools. And now you're looking for something to build. But what? And what makes you say it's "harder" at home? Harder to do? Or harder to get the response you want? (I ended up reading the rest of your post)
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 12:36 AM
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You absolutely should've STFU, but at least you pouted instead of having a full blown tantrum. So...good job? I can't tell if wanting to talk shit in bed is for validation or if you're actually into it. But it reads more like wanting validation...and I can only imagine meekness when you said it. If it's something you're actually into then start with "I..." statements, not "you..." You also gotta say that shit like you mean it, because you do...right? No woman on earth wants a 10 year old talking…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 10:41 PM
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By that point, everything is a congruence test. If I had $1 for everytime I thought "Damn, I said exactly what the MRP guys would say. Why isn't she blowing me yet?" back when I first stumbled in here, I'd be scalping that company right out from under ya for double the price...with fun money to spare! It seems so simple and easy now, but back then I was hell bent on taking the longest, bumpiest road I could find lol
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/21 07:30 AM
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I know the odds on my effort, and I give anyway, and I'm okay with that. The beauty of this place is the effort is rarely wasted. It may not click for the dude you're talking to, but someone else will see it and take something from it. I, for one, learned a lot from your comments left to other people.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/21 06:38 AM
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If you think so, then so it is. The question is....what do you intend to do with this information? I wouldn't suggest using it as a conversation starter. But there may be a mission swimming around in there somewhere
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/21 06:27 AM
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Sounds like she's bored. And why do you care what she thinks about you enjoying your hobbies? Here's a bone...line up a sitter next open mic night and tell her you both are going. Don't get faggy and call it a "date night" either. She may piss and moan...that's ok. "You don't have to go if you don't want to."/"Ok, I will call the sitter to let her know baby won't be there on my way to [open mic night place]." 20 bucks on her going with you and it actually being a good time, if we're taking bets.…
/r/askMRP18/12/21 03:25 PM
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Ok. So what's with the focus on her level of willingness and struggling to stfu about her commitment? Or asked another way, what would you like her to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 09:48 PM
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Horn's said "I don't remember..." Which could be different than "I don't get..." Or maybe not. Truth is it doesn't really matter which it is as long as he's happy standing in front of mirrors
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 01:02 AM
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Serious question here...do you like fucking your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 12:53 AM
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constant state of improvement Sounds fun...
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 12:48 AM
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Bummer. I was looking forward to the meltdown when he finally realized why he singled this one out and dug in so hard against it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 04:07 PM
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Spill the beans on that missed opportunity dude, what happend? Doing something in real life, at a very local level has been really rewarding. Looks like you've found your compass. Keep using it
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 04:43 AM
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...the moment she stops fucking you be out that door That's a nice stick of dynamite ya got there. I'm kindda suprised there hasn't already been a "My wife wouldn't fuck me in the bathroom at her mom's funeral so I left that bitch" post on askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 04:36 AM
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Through the quad to the gymnasium!!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 04:26 AM
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She found some ebooks. So what? If you're looking for cookie cutter responses, and going with "it worked, didn't it" in the meantime...then your reading comprehension sucks.
/r/askMRP23/07/21 02:10 AM
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So far, all my solo activities have stayed close to my house and therefore family (gym in the basement, tennis court a stone-toss away...). I don't see a problem here? I want to do more things, like diving, going out with friends, etc., most of them require me to drive for a considerable amount of time (living in a more rural area). Do it, or don't. But don't bullshit yourself with excuses. You feel guilty. There's a book about that but I can't seem to remember the name of it atm... My kids are …
/r/askMRP09/07/21 06:21 AM
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Planning is everything. Nah. It's not. Adventure and spontaneity are incredible, particularly the kinds that occur outside the realm of hidden agendas and, yes, plans. Amen to that. Some of the funnest times I've had were when I set out with no plan at all!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/21 01:29 AM
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I'm thinking if she divorces me over this, she's a psycho and it's her loss. Nailhead, meet hammer. Don't worry about why she wanted to fuck, that's her job. Yours is to fuck when you want to (with a woman who wants to, too. Obviously.) Might be worth asking why you asked yourself, and then us, though...
/r/askMRP30/06/21 11:11 PM
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I haven't experienced this level of behavior. Ah, so it's new behavior then? Not that it should be the focus...but it could just be her testing the waters or trying to claw back some control. u/HornsofApathy has more experience with this than I, but maybe consider an approach other than the spanking idea he suggested. If she ends up getting off on that shit, you'd only be reinforcing her bratty behavior. If you were into it, that'd be a different story. I took the "fuck the bitch out of her" app…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/21 04:39 PM
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Suggesting an IUD is a weird way to initiate.... why are you so scared to rock the boat a little?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/21 04:59 AM
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Do you like bratty bitches or not? Judging from the loss of attraction, I'd say no. But I'm interested to see how your hamster responds to that question...
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/21 04:53 AM
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Right now I can't tell the difference between what I'm doing right and when I'm just lucking out. Damn he wasn't lyin...you are dense as hell lol You. Are. The. Prize. If you're having great sex, then you're doing something right. It really can be that simple. Don't start muddying the waters by trying to go back and dissect every interaction to figure out "what works." That leads to predictability and dry coochies. You're having fun gaming her, and enjoying yourself (and her) at the end of it. J…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/21 04:44 AM
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Your journey ends at your funeral. I'm confrontational as fuck, so take this with a grain of salt: the most congruent thing you could've said, in that moment, was "shut the fuck up." "I got it." "If I need help, I'll ask." "Why do you still have cloths on?" all send the same message too.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/21 04:09 AM
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Being engaged in my son's mental health is far from a game. But what I cannot do is be pulled into her game in that process My man. With that ^ frame, she's bound to look like a crazy broad screaming "the sky is purple!" at some point. You've also been able to open people's eyes to their own bullshit here in the forum with subtlety...don't forget that when/if things like "Mom says you're a pos...but I don't see it" start to come up. It might feelz slimey planting those subtle seeds of truth to e…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 09:39 PM
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I think red is onto something, something you should at least consider. Just.....not playing her game. Your focus is your son's well being, everything else is noise. Stay congruent to that and he'll have no choice but to see it. It may even help him. What would he see if you played the game with the ex? And more importantly, is playing along what you really want to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 01:42 AM
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If I were to meet someone new I would be very clear that I would expect her to take a larger part of... And what would her incentive be to do these things? Am I am setting up a covert contract here? ”I do a lot of housework expecting you to do more too”. Yes. Do a lot of housework because you want to live in a clean house. If you want her to do more, then just tell her that. Then give her the opportunity to let you down. True, its just that I feel like a nagging parent. Not like a fun dude. Well…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/21 03:46 PM
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It annoys me I have to think about these things. Why do you "have" to? As long as I....take the initiative she does the work. If I don’t remind her she slacks off. Yeah man...that's kind of the cornerstone of MRP. Quit'cha bitchin. Everything else kind of sounds like you're just checking boxes. Keep checking those boxes, just be sure to do so with intent. The idea isn't to get her hamster going by getting out of the house....but rather it's simply to do things you genuinely enjoy doing. And last…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 06:09 AM
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Take a breath and listen to what you're telling yourself. You claim to be checked out, but also hesitant to pull the trigger. There's a signal in there, and I'll give you a hint: you can't be "checked out" and reluctant to leave at the same time. Checked out are the words you're using....staying is the [in]action you're taking. It's up to you to figure out which is filet, and which is horseshit. You also have a list of fears in there too....where do you suppose those fears are coming from my man…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 05:27 AM
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reading material on this? Your thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 01:11 AM
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It’s fun and I have zero investment in this. It’s a good feeling to have a girl aggressively want to fuck me and tell me how much she loves my body. Is that validation seeking? Why can't it simply be both (fun and validating)? The validation isn't the issue. Being a fiend for it is what makes it unattractive. You could just as easily say "I enjoy fucking a woman that has no reservations about showing her desire." It's always better when it doesn't seem like you're the only one enjoying it, right…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 08:00 PM
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No, what I meant was it sounded like you want her to hit the gym to validate you. Kind of like "if my wife gets into shape for me like the other MRP wives do I'll be the manliest man to ever man." But you're probably right that it's a bit of both, being that you need a pill to fuck her. So I assume you've told her you think she's looking a little sloppy and would enjoy her more if she got into shape? Don't beat around the bush, or quietly lead by example and hope she follows your lead (while bei…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 07:59 PM
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Of course she's capable. Does it bother you that she's capable, but not exhibiting it? It's fine that you want to. Just be sure you haven't made her your mission...enjoy the process of bringing it out of her. Don't get stuck on a version of her you have in your head though.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 03:14 AM
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And she never even mentioned my sexts when she got home. You poor thing... I seriously did not care; 😂😂😂 Thanks for the laugh!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 02:42 AM
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Did Daddy_Thundercock make a new account? This was not negotiating desire. Calling a red car blue doesn't make it blue. You negotiated desire. Same as your plan for addressing your "fun nights out." You're a boring piece of shit and you know it. That's why you're giving her these speeches instead of...ya know...being a dude that can go out with a woman and naturally cause her and yourself to forget about the responsibilities for a bit. FMOFY was you telling her to take control of the sex life, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 02:38 AM
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Are you not attracted to your wife anymore or do you just want the ego stroke from her trying to keep things nice n tight for you? If you want to fuck skinny bitches then do it, but it sounds to me like you're just chasing a dragon.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 02:16 AM
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“it is in the defensive crouch that tingles are born”. I tend to forget this and get annoyed with the drama Is she shit testing, or being a bitch though?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 09:33 PM
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If she's 100% responsive, then what's the issue? Or asked another way, why the need for her to give unsolicited...what does it matter?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 09:18 PM
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What's up with the anxiety in your downtime?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 09:07 PM
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Crossbows are prepubescent. Next year I'll be jumping out of trees with a machete. Then I can call myself a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/20 08:05 PM
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The biggest blood pool I found was where he stood for at least a minute, and it wasn't even that big considering he stood there for so long. So if he did die, it probably took him awhile and he definitely didn't do it on any of the surrounding properties I have permission to be on.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/20 01:15 PM
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There's probably a reason for that. Could be a her-problem, could be a you-problem. Could be both...but you can only control one of those things. And again, this is only if you want to. You're here talking about it, so I assumed so. But I've been wrong once before...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 11:14 PM
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You didn't have to. Point is if that's a habit and you don't like it, but otherwise want to be with her, then maybe you should quit typing in MRP codes and just tell her you don't like it, it's not productive, and you're not going to be her punching bag. Then show her another way to express herself without all the build up and explosions. That's only if it's something you would want to do [congruent], of course. Going from AM and sarcasm to "shutting it down" is not congruence.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 10:30 PM
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You're not sure, even though it's been a "habit" of hers in the decade you have been with her. Got it. So then, if you thought it was disrespectful then why would you respond with humor and sarcasm in the first place?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 09:40 PM
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Kind of, but more so about forgiving others the way you forgive yourself. You understand you're flawed, so you shouldn't be suprised that other people are too. Someone's shitty attitude could be viewed as the expression of their flawed mental mode. Pair that with the fact that you've made their shitty mental models effective (for them) and you can see where it goes from there. You needed a place like this to "wake you up," and more importantly, to get the tools you need to make a change that wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 09:25 PM
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This woman has a habit of holding things in, then exploding with little control. Who taught her this was ok? Is she mirroring you? Something does seem off here. Reads like you gaslit her and then held her reaction over her head. If the AM and sarcasm was a genuine response from you, could you think of a better way to reign things back in other than "I know I just lit you on fire, so you gotta leave til you cool off now"....?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 08:13 PM
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Any plans to take your hunting revelation and project it out into the world? Understanding the world through yourself, kindda thing. It helps with the anger...things can become more "matter of fact" pretty quickly, vs. clutching to the anger like a life raft.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 07:59 PM
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lol! Or she's trying to absolve her own guilt for fucking her friend.
/r/askMRP01/11/20 07:45 PM
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What was the boundary you thought you needed to enforce? WISNIFG covers the basics of someone bitching at you for a decision you made (getting the kids to bed late, in your case.) And I'm sure you've seen the "it's not about the nail" video (if not, type it in on Youtube.) So...back to the question, what boundary do you think you need in place for that fragile little ego of yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/20 07:21 PM
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If you put in the work on yourself to find what is and isn't acceptable, how to address it effectively, and what to do when you might as well have had that conversation with a brick wall....then you wouldn't be asking. You got bigger fish to fry.
/r/askMRP17/09/20 04:55 PM
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Is that really your question? You quit letting it influence you. Or better yet, you never let it influence you in the first place.
/r/askMRP17/09/20 04:49 PM
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Intended or not, this tells the story of how sometimes covert contracts work out the way you expect. It might be worth asking yourself why you're projecting this subtext on his story. I read it more like he was sitting there amused that she's going on about how she's not appreciated and blah, blah, blah....all the while a nice bundle of flowers (that says "I thought of you when I seen these"....not "maybe you'll touch my pee-pee later") was sitting out in the open. Of course it's possible I'm ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 04:32 PM
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Here's an external reason for why you want the D, coming from an internet stranger that has only read this one post of yours.... Because you know you're still a cunt. You said it yourself in this OYS post, actually. So I guess it's not as external as you were hoping for.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 10:18 PM
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You sound hawt.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 10:11 PM
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You haven't checked out of shit, except doing the "hard work." A checked out response would've been "Nope." Plain and simple. You're confronting by avoiding. And you lied your ass off in that little speech of yours. I know it, so she damn well knows it. You did beg, and you did negotiate, when you said all that dumb shit you said. Enjoy the passenger seat, if that's how you want to live. But this ain't the sub for all that so there's no reason for you to be here.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 10:06 PM
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What did you get clarity about? Had to of been her actions, cuz it sure the fuck ain't yours. Between his lines he wrote this: she's not going to grab the rope if it's flailing around. And she's not going to grab the rope if you aren't showing her you want her to. What exactly do you want? There's no right answer here, other than an honest one. But you need to know it before you can set any expectations (read: standards) for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 10:01 PM
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Jeesh Blarg, just let the man convince himself she misread him wouldya?! :)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 09:23 PM
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What are you actively doing to fix the not seeing your kids situation?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 09:20 PM
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Did....you actually say that? Like out loud?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 08:26 PM
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Hear him out. If there are legit medical concerns for even very light weights, then that's one thing. If it's just part of his "master plan" though, start lifting. And find a new trainer.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 11:08 PM
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...and drop at least 30 lbs before getting into weight training. This is retarded. Start lifting some weights. 5 lbs. dumbells, if need be. But lift something. The why of it is, weight training boosts fat loss. But what's more important is it doesn't allow you to be one of these "I can't do that until I do this" dipshits...in all areas of life, not just the gym. SOCIAL: Nice! MARRIAGE: ...I am employing STFU in all dealings with my wife over the past week....maybe even to a mongaloid level. Noth…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 06:39 PM
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It's Jack's responsibility to stand up for himself. Not yours. That said... if your gut told you it was shitty for her to do that, then it was shitty. You don't have to force yourself to ignore your viceral responses and replace them with AA or flirting back if you don't want to...you do understand this, right? What's wrong with simply thinking to yourself "wow that's a little fucked up", not saying a god damn thing out loud, and going about your day?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/20 06:24 PM
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Lol Insults are one of the cornerstones of this sub, don't ever take them back...especially in here. But hats off for the humility. As far as what I want, it's all a bunch of personal shit that doesn't [shouldn't] really matter to anyone that would be reading this. But details aside, I don't want to be the only one working toward those goals, and I definitely don't want to be with someone who is actively working against them.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 10:46 AM
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That may very well happen with this one too. My thinking on coming up with the agreement ourselves is to avoid the expense of having lawyers do it. It will most likely be a negotiation process...I highly doubt she'll take the first offer and run. She doesn't want this divorce, she does seem to understand why I do though. Even if the judge does say that, we'd have most of the work done. So maybe we have to pay them for 10-20 hours instead of 100's. I very well could be wrong though, it may all en…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 04:55 PM
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There's a lot in here and most of it is off the mark. That's no fault of yours though...as you said, I was pretty straight forward with where I'm at now instead of taking the time to rehash everything out on why I'm here. There's also a lot of baiting in there too, which makes me pause before taking the time to break it all down to potentially help you or anyone else passing through that would read it. If there's something you're genuinely curious about, I'd be more than happy to expand. To answ…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 04:44 PM
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This is really odd because I don't mind getting up and getting her water, but she does! And it's not really about the water either. I still find this bizarre. What if I told you you could get her the glass of water and get her wet still. Blow her some (playful) shit before you get it and pick up something for yourself while you're at it. If that don't get her wet....well, you are holding a glass of water afterall
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 04:02 AM
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Re: withholding sex No, not yet. If you want it, go for it. If she wants it and initiates just enjoy whatever she's doing. You won't have to ponder a god damn thing when you're actually ready to turn it down. It's not a chess match. You'll simply really not be into it and you'll just stop. Words will come out of your mouth without having to ponder them. And that'll be that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 03:50 AM
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Yeah, it's been a long time coming. I don't regret hanging in there as long as I did though. Plenty of good memories and growth are in there too. I'm also not discounting the fact that it may work out. Reasons 'n "she" shit that I'll spare. But my money just isn't on it anymore, and more importantly....my time.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 03:18 AM
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I'm at the starting line of a DIY divorce atm. I'm almost positive the whole thing will implode once the papers get left on the table, but at some point this route was mutually agreed upon to save money and time. We both watched one of her family members go through (still on going for that matter) an extremely ugly divorce. Neither of us want that for the kids. She also wanted to try a separation first, for reasons not related to "look crabs, I triiiiied."....as far as I can tell anyway. But she…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 01:26 AM
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Sex is great and never ending. She does pretty much anything I ask. [Followed shortly after by hamstering about her reaction to Chad's dirty talk] Just pointing this out for you to recognize....you're stepping on your own dick when you run this train of thought. Leave it at "sex is great and she does anything I ask"....then just have fun with that. AA/AM yourself, the way you would someone else, when your recognize the negative self talk that follows. The thought is there, but it doesn't mean yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 01:34 PM
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It's not so much "let it go" as it is stop letting my ego vomit it back up again. One in the same. 35 years ago I acted for what I thought was right (raising the kids) given the erroneous information I had at the time. Your own words. You recognize you did what you thought was right at the time. Begs the question, what do you think is right (now)? Which is a very different question than "what do you think (now) was the right thing to do (back then)?" The former gives you the opportunity to move …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/20 05:11 AM
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I need to work on being more cold blooded What's your aim here? Radical DGAF can be a form of conflict avoidance too. A looser tongue, however, is something I'd highly recommend. Worst case you say some shit you actually mean, she can't handle it, and leaves. But it can also be effective. And what's the point of the DIY divorce papers? I've seen it recommended to have some on-hand to lay down when they threaten with a divorce. But the kicker there is you have to actually be willing to leave. Not…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/20 06:08 AM
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It seems like she responds well. I've seen you mention her high anxiety several times throughout the years and wondered if she had learned to navigate some of that on her own, or if she required constant guideance. Mine is more on the constant guidance side of things. And admittedly, I decided long ago that wasn't for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 12:37 AM
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I've been MIA for awhile. Are you gearing up to file?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:03 PM
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I've wondered for awhile now, are you "red pilling" her semi-overtly? Or is the carrot always on the stick?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 10:00 PM
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Re: Social Good realization there. Re: Shark week "Is your mouth bleeding too?"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 09:52 PM
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Do yourself a favor when you're making plans and just ask your wife if she already has plans.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 09:45 PM
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No empathy no remorse no emotions: learnt the lesson from the best. Sounds petty. And the opposite of this logic would be "year-ago wife was always there in my times of need, so I owe her"....which is obviously fucked. Do what you want. Because you want to do it. It really is that simple. The second you start expecting anything, including gratitude, in return is the second you shove your own dick up your ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 09:41 PM
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Go see a lawyer. Seriously. Get the price tag, then compare it to what you're willing to spend.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 09:30 PM
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It probably helps that you were willing to be "the bad guy" by taking the responsibility for saying no, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 07:05 AM
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What I'm sayin is my wife will flip shit and ask who I'm fucking. Sometimes it's not cute or funny (I guess we call these shitty comfort tests)...so I don't fuck her brains out afterward, or give any forehead kisses, etc. It's not a turn on nor would I go out of my way to be around anyone else acting like that. When she settles down, I get tears and "I've just been so hard on myself lately, I've gained some weight, blah blah blah" Who knows if that's really the case, or if it's just an excuse fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/20 07:03 PM
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That's what she has said, in so many words. Who knows...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/20 03:47 AM
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John...is that you? https://youtu.be/rJjKP8vYjpQ
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 03:05 AM
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Odd you view it like that. When I hear it my first thought is "oh fuck, she must've stepped on the scale recently."
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 01:28 AM
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Your separation of LTR vetting and "practicing MRP skills" is interesting. What does practicing MRP skills even mean? Reads like you're setting a trap
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 08:30 PM
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Does your work experience involve anything (i.e. programming, web design, etc..) that you could subcontract yourself out for? Checking online forums/classifieds for potential "gigs" could be enough to keep the belly's full. Seems like an awful lot of trouble to change names and create a whole new catfish profile just to land a lily-pad job (or 2, 3, 4 jobs, depending on getting outted). If you're worth $350k on the market, you shouldn't have any problems getting another $250k offer. But then aga…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 12:19 PM
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"Right now, I want to be here and solve your biggest problems. What happens after seems are problems for you to solve." I really like this. As a "play" it may or may not land, depending how big of a faggot CEO is. But it takes far less time & effort to speak this truth than it would to change one's government name.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 10:49 AM
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WOTSM...Instead of a demonstration of my control and heightening my pleasure at the next release, she just saw it as me punishing her for not being good enough. The difference, I think, is that she was pushing through being tired and emotionally raw to try to please me and when I didn't cum it felt like she couldn't be enough for me. Frame. If you did it because you wanted to try it out, "you were great, it's just something I wanted to try for myself. Next time I'll shoot you off my dick like a …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/20 04:24 AM
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Jesus Christ dude. Why are you even here? Read the pile of trash you just wrote. It's all in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/20 10:49 PM
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Stop gaming your wife then. Chances are you're just fishing for validation anyway. And maybe she does think busy = important. Or maybe she thinks busy = better than being around boring. Whatever she thinks, don't worry about it and just make sure to do what needs to be done, and what makes your day enjoyable.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/20 10:43 PM
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I didn't DEER for him, and I'm not going to for you either. Followed immediately by DEER'ing in the same comment and writes a novel as a follow up response. Solid work.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/20 08:55 PM
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I've thought a lot about that. Quit doing that. Knowing the why won't change the fact that she is in over-drive. Have fun with it. Enjoy yourself. Enjoy her. Not everything requires deep thought and figuring out.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/20 11:02 PM
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Cool. Keep it internal next time. Eventually you'll be able to read or hear responses like that without giving them any second thought at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/20 05:36 PM
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I'm laughing my ass off right now. And yes, it's at your expense. So the question is, if you're going to do this much DEER'ing to some internet strangers about the toys you wanna buy....what's gonna happen when your wife starts grilling you?! Hint: dry vagina Keep it up and you might dry the lake out too. Then wtf are you gonna do with the boat??
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/20 04:59 PM
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The art is in making them think it was their idea
/r/askMRP13/05/20 12:46 AM
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I have some really important projects going, and am procrastinating big time. I find myself very obsessed with researching MRP You will learn far more about MRP if you give those projects your full effort and take pride in the work you do on them than you will learn by reading all day. I promise you that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 10:39 PM
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Mix some of Machiavelli's stuff into your reading....if your moral compass is cool with manipulating people, anyway. I know there's a certain level of cringe attached to that word, but all I'll say for now is it doesn't have to be. DM's are open if you want to dive into this more ...but only after you internalize this: You're absolutely right that this is a clear example of the stoic idea of things I absolutely can't control. This is the real takeaway.
/r/askMRP12/05/20 10:15 PM
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Looks like you missed a lot of things in the sidebar you fucking faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 09:59 PM
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I'd highly doubt she understands it if it's framed like this: I get what you're saying about the naughty/good part though. I think of it more as explaining what the consequences of both sets of actions will be. This is literally what NMMNG was about. As soon as naughty and nice get brought into the equation, any linear, logical train of thought that may have been going on in her 3 year old brain will go off the rails. Like WAS tried to tell you, it's manipulative and it becomes more about pleasi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 09:56 PM
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Only thing I see missing is acceptance that it was a decision that was out of your control. You may have been able to sway her decision if you supported her emotionally, whatever that means. But it sounds like it's water under the bridge. If it's make or break boundries or situations, the only play is ruthless dictator. And that's still no guarantee. If the person across from you does what they want anyway, your willingness to leave is all that's left. Your choice to use it or not.
/r/askMRP12/05/20 09:29 PM
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Embraced it how? Like gave the idea a big cuddly hug and made matching bff bracelets for you and the idea to wear 4-eva? Rhetorical... I'll check back in tomorrow to see whether you're a fag or if you actually had a realization and then acted on it. which shows to the world that some of it is still an act.. What the fuck do you care? Stop waiting on the world to reflect a confirmation back to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/20 10:45 PM
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I'd say money isn't happiness....once you have a lot of happiness lol Sure it makes things easier. But end of the day, it's just stuff. And there's plenty more for the taking.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/20 10:00 PM
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That's exactly what Bezos would say....🤔
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/20 09:00 PM
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Something tells me you're not looking for suggestions on a good time with weed here...but I'm gonna play devil's advocate and give one to ya anyway lol A medium dose of edibles about an hour before you go to bed can be fun. Edies hit different than smoking it, you're more likely to get a body buzz vs. that foggy headed paranoia. It's a hard feeling to explain...best I can do is it's like feeling your soul and your body seperate at 100 mph. Weightless and heavy as a ton of bricks all at the same …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 11:19 PM
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u/persaeus Click on that, find his recent comment about becoming the prize over your wife's dead body, and read that whole thread. I have yet to figure out how to avoid and/or get out in a strong, non autistic way. I got some bad news for ya here, man. There is no strength in avoidance. She relies on my [x,y,z] and needs to realize that support changes drastically if she is not my wife. She doesn't need to realize this at all. You need her to realize it. That's not splitting hairs either. There …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 11:00 PM
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Reading comprehension isn't your strong suit, is it?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 08:57 PM
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Questioning what value she brings to my life as I realize what value I bring to hers Maybe I misunderstood then (re: scorekeeping). So tell me, what does one have to do with the other? I don't get what you're saying here. I'm saying you got sucked into a conversation you had no business being in. But hey, at least she knows her replacement will be telling you how the holidays are gonna go! Shit....now it looks like those J's came from Wish.com Let me ask you this, why do you need her to understa…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 08:49 PM
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I see what you're getting at, but it doesn't have to be that complicated. If it's a waste, it's a waste.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 07:36 PM
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For me, sometimes. On slow days at work it gives me something to research/plan/look forward to to pass the time. But I also enjoy the work that I do too, so it's kind of a win-win situation for me. Hobbies, in general, make life more interesting imo though.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 06:44 PM
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I think you might be onto something here.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 02:16 PM
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No, buying a boat is not a mission. There are limitless missions that could involve a boat. But buying a boat because you're fantasizing about the wind blowing in your hair is not a mission. I am solidly in the anger phase.... Questioning what value she brings to my life as I realize the value I bring to hers and this family. This is a dangerous combination. Tread light if you want to avoid Rambo. And quit keeping score, dummy. If you need/want her to do something, open your mouth and tell her t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 01:56 PM
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Re: Career What do you want, as far as your career goes? Do you want more of a challenge at work? Or would you rather use that energy somewhere else in your life? No wrong answers here, I'm just asking.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 01:38 PM
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Be the guy who you want to be ALL the time. I get what you were getting at with your questions, but I also think they were a little loaded. Fun guy all the time may not be feasable. Moods, energy levels, and emotions ebb and flow like most other things in life. I recognize the points you're making, and they are very well advised. But drawing a line and saying choose one then be that all the time may not be practical. Fun-guy-playing-pool may want/need to just chill out and "recharge the battery"…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 01:22 PM
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It just has to be for the reason you state. Why's that? There's no "right" answer and this is not a trick question, btw.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 12:57 PM
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Wife going bat shit, worried I'm fucking other women, yada yada yada. Granted, I'm still working my regular and seasonal side gig...so I suppose the dread is a little more understandable in my case.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 01:08 AM
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women excel at self delusion in terms of themselves being the prize (hence "solipsism"). True story. I've watched many, including my wife, jump some pretty low bars and immediately start looking for the tiara.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 06:50 PM
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I'm wading in the same AWALT river as you 2. There must be more than a virus in the air lol Well done on the turn around though. I'm still "stuck" in NGAF mode, but that's more her problem than it is mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 06:44 PM
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I like how you try to disqualify him, tell him to fuck off....and then grotesquely paraphrase his post. He's more like they guy thats had 2 girlfriends his whole life, but has fucked 500+ women on the side. And you...well you come off as one of those 500+'s boyfriend. Not a good look.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/20 05:31 AM
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DEERing offensively, in an attempt to change someone's mind or get them to "get what you're saying" can be a bad idea too. It's a little more nuanced than DEERing defensively. But I've seen a lot of guys here put their foot in their mouth, thinking they were showing some kind of leadership quality, when all they really neeeeeded at the time was for her to see it his way.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 07:25 PM
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This comment is great. Really great. Maybe even the greatest comment in the history of commenting. I don't know. But it probably is. Fantastic. No one knows ratings as good as I do. I'm the best at ratings. And I can tell you this. Your ratings. They'll be tremendous. And big.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 07:20 PM
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Man... I sure hope you are recognizing the steps forward you've been taking. I know how easy it can be to focus on all the negatives you want to get turned around. But when you make any progress in the right direction, regardless of whatever the catalyst was, you need to recognize it and take a moment to yourself to revel in it. I decided to do what I want on my own and start living life again. Good stuff man. My plan has been to get focused on my goals and hobbies More good stuff and not to giv…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 07:09 PM
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Don't cop out and just agree it's butthurt bc some internet stranger said so. Was it really? I'm not talking about the not asking her to go part either. I'm talking about the reason(s) why you didn't ask her. 1:1 time with the son sounds like a great response n all, I'm sure that's what you think people want to hear. But I ain't buyin it. Spill the beans. Why didn't you ask her to go?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 11:40 PM
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You sure you're at peace? There's an awful lot of back and forth in this diary entry. I need to take the training wheels off. I need to own my shit. Shut the fuck up and do it then. None of this is owning your shit. You're talking about your feelz and taking the dopamine-good hit that comes with talking about shit you're "gonna do." Acta non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 09:03 PM
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I like history and psych., I'll bite. Likely selection was for a man that could feed the family and also fight off the wolves. Looks like "beta-bucks" with prehistoric currency to me. I don't know if anyone can say for certain what was going on in our ancestors heads. But my take is selection, for both men and women, has always been centered around serving ones own self interests. Back then I'd imagine it was relatively easy for both sexes to answer the question "what do I want?"
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 03:05 AM
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Have you tried blowing in her snatch like an old Nintendo cartridge?
/r/askMRP17/04/20 01:12 AM
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I am trying to figure out a mechanism to how to run game on an anxiety-driven wife Lessons Learned Dancing like a monkey a hell of a lot less, that's good. Sure doesn't look like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 12:57 PM
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In a classic case of one-more-thing-itis, she gets so focused on the elusive orgasm that everything else pleasurable about sex gets left behind. Same could be said for you, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 06:43 PM
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So you owned your wife and your boxing instructor's shit last week? Good call on picking up NMMNG again. Editted after reading your response to me on Horn's post: Is your infatuation with her cumming driven by ego, fear, or both? Again, you want her to cum. Fine. But you want it so damn bad that you forget to enjoy yourself in the process of making her do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 06:36 PM
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It's not mental strength you get from the a.m. gym visits. It's A) something [you want] to do and B) something that makes you feel good about yourself. Seems like it's more of a problem figuring out how to fill that time void. Why can't you workout at home? What else do you like to/want to do? That said, I can't shake the feeling that I'm learning to win a game I don't want to play. In your metaphor here, what's the prize for winning? What's the game, for that matter?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 03:51 PM
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how much I liked it... Just here to highlight the missing piece to manys' puzzles. I'll let them put it together.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 01:47 AM
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The nuance, for me, is enjoying the validation as it comes vs. seeking/needing it to feel better about myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 01:36 AM
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I'm in a time crunch atm, so I didn't read all of the post. I may be redundant here. Gonna tag u/balls_wellington_ as it's a 2 for 1 response to his oys clip as well. Somewhere along the line my wife was so focused on pleasing me that she overlooked her own pleasure. Don't discount that being the case for yours as well. I'm not saying it's your problem to fix, but if you suspect it's the same for your wife...you can use that to your advantage. You want her to cum, for whatever reason. So just ow…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/20 05:40 PM
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It's ironic you got your panties all twisted up about pillupass's. This is his response, with a candy coating added. We're talking about kids picking up after themselves here. Everything doesn't have to be profound.
/r/askMRP11/04/20 02:13 PM
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No. This is what allowing a cunt to disrespect you looks like.
/r/askMRP08/04/20 12:05 AM
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Awful lot in here about your wife losing her shit. Got any of your own shit to own?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/20 02:31 PM
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But it seems like you’re saying because I’m considering her viewpoint that automatically means I’m not in my mental point of origin. Look at it this way, you can load the kids up in the car and drive them to the park....then sit on the bench and hope they enjoy themselves. Or, you can load the little shits in the car, morph into some crazy monster on the way there, and chase them around the park for hours on end. On the bench, you're sitting with your thumb up your ass hoping they have a good ti…
/r/askMRP30/03/20 11:29 PM
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My problem is about 50% of the time I can sense she’s in “duty sex” mode. It is compliance but not enthusiastic compliance. Your answer is in bold. Imagine the possibilities if you'd quit using your faggy-senses to figure out what's going on in her head, and started using your aLpHa-senses to tell her to do all the nasty shit going on in your head instead. Or yeah, find a mission and follow it with reckless abandon. Maybe that covert contract will get you the sex you're too scared to command out…
/r/askMRP30/03/20 11:11 PM
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I'm working on eliminating that outcome the hardest. That's the only one there is man. And don't discount your "off days" as being as simple as you're either just not in a sociable mood at the time, or you're looking more for validation than to have a good time. Once you're aware of where your head's at those days, you can operate from that instead of trying to force something that just isn't there at the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 12:14 PM
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You're talking about leveraging, what I'm hinting at is enjoying it, or at least as many parts of it as possible. The choice of word, prison, is what really struck me. You have your reason, which is rad btw, for taking a job offer. So now you get to choose to look at it as another prison, or another playground.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 01:13 AM
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If you learn to simply enjoy socializing, the rest will take care of itself. ...giving freely my time and presence as a HVM. This is one of those weird things where the more you focus on this, especially the bold part the farther you'll get from it. Even more so when you set an expectation for yourself going into a social function and then give the gavel to everyone you talk to. How do you really know that 5 didn't want to fuck you?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 11:56 PM
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The me today would never have been married or attempted to be "monogmized". What the fuck are you talking about here? You are the "you today." And you are still married. And you are fucking on the side. At some point it's all going to come to a head and I'm fine with that. I'll own it. Then why even mention it? I've already written and thought way too much about this. Why not just file and live the life you, supposedly, want to live instead of jerking your mind off about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 11:23 PM
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Back to the grind of searching for a job that I would take willingly to put me right back into the prison. I'm curious to hear the reason(s) behind this perspective. Seems you'd either look for something you enjoy doing, look for ways to enjoy (on a personal level) doing what you need to do (on a financial level), or start your own gig doing what you want to do. At this point, being an inmate is optional.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 11:01 PM
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Is www.google.com shutdown?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 09:39 PM
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National Guard troops have shown up at the nearby military base near my hometown. Which would normally be odd. I have a hunch your friend may be right...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 09:36 PM
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If you can't say "I love you," without worrying about whether or not it makes you appear weak, to a woman that you do (presumably) love, then you should probably still to the logistics only rule of thumb.
/r/askMRP19/03/20 07:39 PM
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Yeah the whole market is dropping, to some degree. Could just be panic selling on top of a normal correction...could be the start of a recession. Either way, it'll go back up one day. If it doesn't, we'll have bigger problems than paper money having no value.
/r/askMRP18/03/20 07:44 PM
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We're on the same page then, I'm looking at the cruise industry, RCL in particular bc of the dividend and extremely high potential cap. gain (if it ends up back where it was before virus news broke.) I'm checking daily for news of any of the cruise liners getting a Gov. bailout...they will all likely jump before the overall market starts to recover if the government shows they won't let that industry fail. And I'd say most of them fall into the "too big to fail" category too, same goes for the a…
/r/askMRP18/03/20 04:43 PM
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That's probably a good timeline. If you notice any of the stocks you're watching start to level off while the general market stays on the decline, it could mean it reached its base...which would be the bottom, give or take. Barring another round of panic selling from the longs anyway. What do ya have on your watchlist? And if you're open to suggestions, check out RCL.
/r/askMRP17/03/20 10:50 PM
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Buy when there's blood in the streets -- Warren Buffett Amen!
/r/askMRP16/03/20 10:33 PM
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I've loaded up on slugs for the shotty. Not against shooting a deer or turkey out of season to keep food on the table, if needed. Sold all stocks with any amount of profit a few weeks ago & hoarding cash in my Roth account to start buying when the bloodbath on the market is over. Holding the rest of my stocks through the storm. Cancelled spring break vacation. Continuing a slow and steady stock up of canned goods and meat for the freezer. Looking forward to a mandatory minimum 2 week at-home vac…
/r/askMRP16/03/20 06:26 PM
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Are you fucking retarded? Or do you just not check the main sub?
/r/askMRP13/03/20 04:01 AM
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IME, these same dudes end up miserable as fuck at some point down the road. Admittedly, I haven't met them all.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/20 03:48 AM
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Seems like you're leaning toward a mental block. Is it something ya need to straighten out or think it'll just pass?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 02:25 AM
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Did you miss the part where he askes you if that's how you wanted to respond? I mean, I read your half assed reply...that you "wanted to engage." But wtf does that even mean? You wanted to engage as in, give defensive counterpoints to all her bullshit? Tell her to shut the fuck up? Start digging in on her and all her bullshit? What do you mean "engage"...and why didn't you? I sure fucking hope it's deeper than "I knew it was the wrong move." What was your endgame for kicking the can down the roa…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 01:58 AM
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Good stuff man
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 01:35 AM
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It's so damn easy when you know what you want, and understand that the person in front of you is under no obligation to give it to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 11:33 PM
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It's all about being your own mental point of origin, you twat. The fish tales are just that.
/r/askMRP04/03/20 05:10 PM
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Woman at this point are only for sex or because I enjoy their company. Looks like you answered your own question
/r/askMRP04/03/20 05:05 PM
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Put her in a gimp suit (look for the straight jacket style) and unzip the mouth for eating and oral only. You'll have to do this until she gives birth. Don't let her nurse with that poison milk of hers either.
/r/askMRP04/03/20 05:03 PM
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I guess we wait for the market to turn them. The official lube of divorce rape... Might be cheaper to buy her a gym membership. The Y is fun for the family. And do you even meal prep bro? Fuckin lob balls man...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 04:58 AM
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The overall goal is "learning while doing" This is the fucking money shot my man. Keep up the good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 01:41 AM
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Looks like he might have gotten locked out of Twitter too. That, or a bad link.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 12:02 AM
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She reached out again, the next day. I don't plan on chatting over message again now that I've piqued her interest, I'm a busy HVM who doesn't have time for idle conversation with a girl that isn't in person, and isn't leading to fucking. Yet you spent an awful lotta time texting about her here. So I told her I dont talk or text over the phone unless it's for logistics, I prefer to chat in person. I told her I'll contact her when I'm back from my business trip about catching up. Then she apologi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 11:59 PM
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I like that someone upvoted this
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 11:47 PM
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2 pieces of advice... Never file for divorce in a Bull market. If she's fat, and you're hawt, you can cheat (discreately) without question. Learn the Dark Arts, or learn to like fatties. You should have bigger things to be worrying about anyway...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 11:45 PM
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God dammit....... Look man, if you wanna set a personal goal to "achieve DNGAF" then by all means, go for it. But before you do, consider this. You can certainly "work on" personality traits, actively, until you adopt them. You can also adopt the traits, passively, as you "work on" other things you do want in your life. When the focus is "I need to not give a fuck," you'll begin looking for things to not give a fuck about. Which are inherently things you don't want, obviously. Is focusing on not…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 07:13 PM
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How could I forget, no engaged woman has ever took a strange dick! My bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 05:48 PM
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And this fitness homework is important to her I'm sure his lesson in fitness whole dick down her throat was very important to her
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 05:43 PM
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Your shit post is going to get pulled down. But in the meantime, I'll play... but how do you guys reply to these kind of texts? I don't get those kinds of texts.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 05:37 PM
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The thing you're missing about Stoney's hot tub story was he was done wasting his time with a harpy prude (tbh, I don't remember the reason he ditched her and hit the hot tub...but it doesn't matter) and decided to do whatever he wanted to do. He didn't give a fuck what her reaction was going to be. He wasn't even counting on her walking up there and seeing it, if I remember right. You're looking for potential dread events to illicit a response from your wife...which is very different from doing…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 05:28 PM
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Looks like we each have our own take on this post.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/20 05:35 PM
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They think that being kinky and submissive is just some inherent quality some women have. I think the whole point of this post is geared toward this false-belief. Fact is, some of these dudes wives may be open to it, they just don't have the know-how to do or express it naturally. Essentially, it's red-pilling your wife. Teaching her how to express her true desires, if they are there. When a man can say some form of "This is what I want and I can help you get to where you can give it to me. Or, …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/20 10:46 PM
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Looks like someone is angry.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/20 03:21 AM
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SO just red pilled me like the little faggot I am. FTFY
/r/askMRP28/02/20 11:33 PM
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Another problem is the element of trust. If you're leaning on open and direct communication, you're trusting that they will accept the message at face value. You can never be certain that the message will be received as intended. Or, you're trusting that if they don't understand something, they will ask for clarity. But what's more important is your list of fears to back up this point you have made. So what if they turn it against you? So what if they do any of what you mentioned? The antidote i…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 10:41 PM
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And in our growth to find not only who we are and what we want, but also how to be congruent to that, we send enough mixed messages such that she can no longer understand what our actions mean. u/OptimusRP - You may wanna give this a read
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 10:29 PM
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You keep talking about this female matrix women can live in as well, and you're gonna shatter the MRP matrix some of these dudes traded up to! :) Not that you need the atta boy, but ya did a great job explaining this concept. It's a great peek up the skirt for a lot of the guys struggling. But I think they're struggling for reasons other than not understanding this concept you just wrote about. The reasons seem to be various, but the opposite of all of those reasons is the same. Those of us that…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 09:37 PM
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but youve failed entirely to back up youre point Did he, though? I understood what he said just fine. So did u/hack3ge and, surely, several others. Seems like you failed to understand his point. That's on you, not him btw. And there's a good lesson to be learned in that. so for me it seems your either in denial or experiencing cognitive dissonance Well that's pretty telling....
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 06:42 AM
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What do you mean, "go back"?? Back from what? Re-read your fucking comments. "she she she...my frame can't take her nuclear shit tests...wah wah wah" Shut the fuck up. You're still blue as you've ever been.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 05:58 AM
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You overthought the shiiiiiiiiiit outta that lunch. "I want to take her to lunch." End of thought. Line it up. If you keep wanting to have lunch with her, and you keep not having a good time at lunch (and not because you're just sitting there like a fag waiting for various forms of validation to start spewing out her mouth...and you don't get it), then you'll probably stop wanting to take her to lunch. And so you won't. Applies to literally every possible scenario, with every possible person on …
/r/askMRP15/02/20 07:06 PM
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At least you learned why you don't catch a leg wrong
/r/askMRP15/02/20 07:00 PM
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Going to act on the attention I get from other women. Not saying this is a bad thing, but... She admitted she wants to fuck around. ....this is a pretty weak reason to do it. Also, click on this u/red_sfpplus and read through his comments about keeping your dick dry during a divorce. Then, make your own decisions.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 03:46 PM
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Let's be generous and say she hasn't already cheated. The whole thing was just an expression of her boredom and she's feeling you out for potential consequences to the actions she's, up to this point, only fantasized about. Is that any more acceptable to you than if she's actually done it? I know my answer. And to me, it seems like a complete waste of time and resources to try and figure out if she has physically crossed the line....aside from collecting evidence to use in court. You see where t…
/r/askMRP31/01/20 03:35 PM
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I've learned a lot from him, as far as healthy communication and accepting others faults as I do my own. I was also the guy that would punch a dude in the mouth 2 sentences into an arguement....so there's that.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 03:17 PM
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Women aren’t like men - they aren’t just looking to fuck around they do it to branch swing. Some are more so than others. I'd have no problem believing a woman wanting to have her cake and eat it too. Bitches love cake. Not saying you're wrong here either. The messaging is pretty strong from her. Whether she did or didn't isn't the issue though, really. The fact it's what she wants would be enough for me to end it. Coke doesn't keep an employee on the payroll if she's spending 8 hours a day figu…
/r/askMRP31/01/20 03:14 PM
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I am reluctant to have a conversation about it as I don't want to negotiate desire. Probably a good idea. There may come a time for "the talk" but this... But I'm equally avoiding making her aware that a no sex marriage is completely unacceptable. ...I'd bet this is a little deeper than simple avoidance, or fear, of an uncomfortable conversation. Meaning, I think on some level you may know that your approach and past history plays a part in her recoiling in the present. Pressure flipping (playfu…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 06:29 PM
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So are you softening up your input to try and get a different output? Or do you generally not enjoy being a hard ass?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 12:11 PM
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she's not receptive at the moment What I'm saying is, don't get so stuck on this that you miss the fun in playing with tension. A broader stroke would be to use her to practice your game, instead of looking at her as a rubics cube you must solve. Which is what it reads like. I'm curious, is this something you plan on having a conversation with her about? <--not a trick question
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 12:07 PM
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Don't get lost in the training tactic and miss the fact that it's also a good way to tease and build tension throughout the day too
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 12:44 AM
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I've been failing a lot of those comfort tests lately because I'm struggling to adjust to my wife's new orientation. Huh? I don't want to regress in terms of my frame, but I'm at the point where hard enforcement of boundaries, nuking, and too much DNGAF is not getting me the peace and joy that I want. ......what? Looks like it's true what they say about dogs chasing cars...
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 12:02 AM
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If mimicking a frame got me a few steps further and it wasn't operation critical, I'd use it. Interesting choice of words here. Especially for someone who claims they draw a blank when asked "what do I want?" (per your response to u/Blarg_Risen below). When you look to the sun for light it can be a bit blinding, huh? "A few steps further" tells me that, on some level, you do know what you want. So if I told you that frame - as we call it - has 3 simplified sections that boil down to 1) the "fram…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 10:03 PM
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The foresight of living out your life with everyone at a good safe distance, and the potential loneliness/emptiness that could come with it. If you've thought that out already, and are good with it, then I suppose you don't really need to calibrate anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 08:13 PM
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Nor is the history lesson needed. I get it. You also seen the comfort seeking at work, you didn't flat out mention the dread...but I suspect you recognized that too, as obvious as it was. All I'm suggesting is some foresight and calibration. But if you've looked, and you're good, then there's nothing to talk about here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 06:42 PM
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Nothin wrong with trial and error in my book, man. A word of caution though is that you also have to be ok with the consequences of your action (ie, don't "call her bluff" and draw up the paperwork if you are not prepared to follow through, should she not be bluffing.) Just some food for thought in the fitting room. Yes, I do. Plenty of that bullshit in the past. Last time would be 10 months to year ago. Here's another coat to try on then. Cut her some slack on her threats. Hamster it as "I have…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:52 PM
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Lots of ego protection here. And I get where it's coming from. But it begs the question, what do you want? If you want to spend the rest of your life in self-preservation mode, then carry on. But, if you want a meaningful relationship to go along with all the "stuff", you should consider calibrating. I gotta ask too....do you know what her behavior in bed that night was all about? I really can't tell if you do and just don't care, or if you missed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:06 PM
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Do you know what it means, though?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:39 PM
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re: divorce threats Have there been more, or was it just the one from a few weeks ago? Another question, do you have a history of threatening divorce as well? re: frame "Trying solutions before adding them to my frame." Can you expand on this? Your choice of words made me pause, but I'll wait to hear back from you before I start splitting hairs.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:34 PM
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I fucking hate that box too. Time to put her the box instead. If you hate it, why would you want to put her in it? And more importantly, what would you expect the outcome to be?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:10 PM
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I may have been reading too far between the lines. But this: I have no control over others perception. ...paired with some of your responses to others about you thinking your wife will never "just get it" gives me pause. The whole thing kind of reads like one big push on your part for her to just get it, see your value, and understand she "needs" that value in her life. Like I said, I may be reading into it too far, splitting hairs, or even projecting. You know yourself, and her, better than I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 04:19 PM
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I am high value enough... Sounds like it takes an awful lot of convincing to get people to see it. Why do you suppose that is?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 12:48 AM
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If she's just a fuck puppet, it doesn't really matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:47 PM
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Ever heard of a self fulfilling prophecy? Sounds to me like she's putting in an awful lot of effort for a guy that's "not her type"....but what the fuck do I know.
/r/askMRP13/01/20 03:48 AM
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"i'M oWnInG iT" No, "I still have insecurities and am letting them control my decisions and behavior. I need to stay focused on my life and not hers. [followed by action plan to do so]" is owning your shit. "Frame drop" is the equivalent to a woman's "I slipped an fell on a dick." Don't be a bitch. You acted within your "frame", it's just that your "frame" is still garbage. Work on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/20 10:53 PM
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In other words, be willing to move sex in a direction that she might be uncomfortable with... Yes. if you're going to explore new holes though, ease into that shit. There are plenty of posts on all that. I don't know you, so I don't know if that needed to be said. Better safe than sorry... "show me that you want it...” Go for it, sure. Just keep in mind she might not know how. Don't get butthurt and be ready to do some coaching if that's the case. Your other examples are fine though. do girls ha…
/r/askMRP09/01/20 06:29 PM
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A boner is a pretty natural response. So is losing one. What do you think about your ego getting in the way now? Getting jacked would help, as far as getting a natural [sexual] response from her, sure. But it's also likely she doesn't know how to be sensual either. I'm not sure any amount of muscle will change that. You're definitely gonna have to take the lead on this one. You could sit around and figure out how to robotically do so, or you could start exploring your desire by trying new things…
/r/askMRP09/01/20 04:44 PM
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From the outside looking in, seems like you have a pretty solid setup. What gives you the sense of it being a "shaky house of cards"? The setup itself, or is there some residual fear/anxiety from the divorce you just went through?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 01:20 PM
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WTF is going on? He's living his life. Does his affect yours somehow? Or do you have your own so well figured out that you need to figure his out now too?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 01:06 PM
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Maybe she's scared of your dick dying too. lol!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 07:59 AM
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to the delight of my wife who has to put in no work of her own. And who do you suppose is to blame for this? Sure, it's her choice to put in no work as you say. But what's stopping you from finding someone else who will?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 07:51 AM
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Fish on!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 01:22 AM
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Now that my friend is what owning your shit looks like. There's a lot in there, so lets get to digging... Probably fear of rejection and resistance. Being vulnerable and feeling hurt. Overcoming these things right here is probably where 90% of your work is gonna be. A lot falls into place when you accept these as a part of life and stop allowing those fears to guide you. I could tell you they're just temporary feelings that eventually pass anyway, "don't be afraid, go for it." But, while it's go…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 01:19 AM
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I couldn't keep lifting like a little bitch... Now if only you could stop responding to internet strangers like one...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 07:44 PM
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The vagueness in all of this makes it hard to give you any advice. I'm not asking about your past, and why she may or may not be the way she is to you. What I'm asking you is what makes it hard for you to "love her through her mood swings" now, in the present? What does that even look like to you, and why do you think you are failing to do so? What do you resent about her, and are you willing to let go of it? Or does it need to be addressed? What expectations do you have for yourself? Do you wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 07:37 PM
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Is your goal to win the race in the Lets Get A Divorce 5k? If not, then it's not about being proactive in ending the relationship. Hell, it's not really even about ending her threats. I think what you're failing to see is that sbill did those things because he does not give his time/resources to people who do not want to be around him.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 02:13 PM
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I'm still being a faggot. Listening to WOTSM, it's one thing to understand the concept of loving your woman through her moods, it's another to actually be able to do it while maintaining OI. Let's dig into this, and the residual resentment. But first, knock off the negative self talk. The nuance between recognizing it and calling yourself a faggot outright is there. I'd urge you to find it on your own before I write you an essay. So...you have this new concept in your head, but your own thoughts…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 02:01 PM
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I've noticed those terms have never settled well with you, and I've never understood why. As more time has passed, I've began to agree with you. I still don't understand the why behind my own shift on this. I can't put words to it. But the slight cringe when I see it said here is real.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 01:41 PM
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re: carpal tunnel - do you keep your wrists straight, or let them "roll back" when you bench? Holding the bar on squats can wreck your wrists too. Definitely have a Dr. take a look as you've planned, but how you're holding the bar may be a factor.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/20 04:11 AM
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I wasn't asking for advice. I asked because Blarg made a very good point, and I think you missed it. Save his comment and reread it in a few weeks, see if you get something different out of it. If I am already in the kitchen or going to get myself something in there I'm not a dick and would get her a glass of water. But this is what I was heading toward. Just making sure you aren't saying no all the time, just for the sake of saying no all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/20 11:16 PM
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Curious, what's a normal response from you in the water example?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 09:02 PM
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Percentages and bullet points, you sound hawt.
/r/askMRP28/12/19 01:26 PM
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Flip flip flip. "I'm not leaving my house. If you don't want to be around me then you can leave." "Why would you assume I'm cheating?" (Note, this is rhetorical. Don't ask like you're actually looking for an answer.) "Is it a problem for you that I'm staying on top of my health?" (again, rhetorical) You can't control her, her thoughts, or her actions. You can only control you. So do what ya gotta/want to do, let her make her noise, and if you wanna have some feelings and dwell on some shit...mak…
/r/askMRP21/12/19 07:30 PM
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The problem: a core value in my life has always been that infidelity results in divorce — no questions asked, good riddance! Oh good, you do have some self respe.... However...... .......oh you fucking faggot. You know you're gonna stay. We know you're gonna stay. The dog knows you're gonna stay. Just fucking stay. And yeah, no fucking wonder she slipped and fell on just one other dick....it has been just one, right?
/r/askMRP21/12/19 01:55 PM
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It's the ego thing. He doesn't like himself, his wife is only the mirror. He doesn't even know his wife, really....never even gave her the chance. I'm projecting a little here because at one point I thought my wife was tainted goods too. Depression, anxiety, and shitty copeing mechanisms handed down from her mother. Turns out I was wrong. We were both fucked up, but the apples have rolled far from the trees.
/r/askMRP20/12/19 10:49 PM
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Must be somethin about full moons and faggots. For you and your wife, and this sub apparently. You hairy booty fuckers came out the woodwork tonight.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 04:21 AM
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I love posting pictures of me half naked on Insta. You know how easy it is to pick up 20-30 year old chicks if you have a good insta and some gym selfies? I don't even need to talk much, just add them on insta. I hate social media whores, it's fucking gross. Still projecting your self loathing....? You got any plans to quit being a faggot anytime soon, or is the low fruit good enough to get you through this one life you got?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/19 04:06 AM
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You're fucking retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/19 03:53 AM
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and I am still struggling with how to deal with situations like this. Why not just ignore her until what needs to be done is done, for now? Her attitude shouldn't really matter when there are bigger fish to fry. Or said another way, dealing with her when there are other things to be dealt with will not bring you any closer ro getting it done, it will be the exact opposite. Also, how common is this kind of thing for her? If this was just a once in awhile thing, it's easy to chalk it up as tired/g…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 02:00 PM
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You're thinking way too much about the kid waking up thing. You did fine. Overtly telling your wife you had no faith in her being able to help the situation would have been retarded. The truth. But retarded nontheless. "I got this, get some rest." is just fine here. If you wanna dig into something, dig into your initial frustration with your wife. And quit pussyfooting around her emotions when you do. It's just as likely you were frustrated with her coping skills at the time. She was tired and c…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 03:18 PM
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Looks like you're in the manic phase. What happens when all the external dopamine hits quit coming through for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 02:38 AM
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Here's an exercise for you. Read your comment in a loop (that means read it all the way through, then start at the beginning and read it all the way through again. And again. And again.) Read it until you are sick of reading it, and then read it some more. That is you and what you are doing. It's your answer. You're just too damn focused on the (wrong) prize to see it.
/r/askMRP08/12/19 07:56 PM
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First of all: first post so please support !!! Fuck you. Second off: who destroyed my life Fuck you. you guys can check my post history on how my ex fiancé cheated on me Fuck that and fuck you. It's just that, history. What's done is done, pal. No going back and unfucking dicks now. Only forward and unfucking yourself. I'm not goin through the rest. Just get your shit, only if it's something(s) worth recovering and keep your self respect. I imagine this is going to have to faked. And that's fine…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 04:18 PM
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There is no luck with this. There is only you sticking to your guns and getting your needs met, with or without her. Sex is cheap. And your wife will probably start to wonder if your words were too. When she does....the answer is not more words. Of course I could be wrong. You could have very well led her into an exciting sexlife. And you very well could continue to do so. The choice is yours, as it has always been. Then again.....you could find out she's been fucking the mailman this whole time…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 02:40 AM
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No reason in particular, just curious why you wanted to retest so soon. All are good options, but if you're not feeling all beat up at the end of the 4 week cycle I'd suggest a 5th week of regular workouts, 5x5 or whatever you're doing. The main thing is not going into meet prep beat up. Did you find a prep program you like?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:53 PM
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Why are you planning to test your maxes again so soon?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 04:58 PM
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How do you change the approaches of very bright people who are lacking the soft skills or business understanding? That seems like the problem I need to solve. You know as well as anyone the difference between theory and practice. If they are bright, then brushing up their business understanding should be a cakewalk. As far as the soft skills go, there are no substitutes for repetitive exposure and guidance. A good model never hurts either. Enjoy all the travel man!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 04:52 PM
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I want to be the oak to my wife.... The oak tree gives shade to whatever is walking by and wants to get out of the sun. It does this simply by being an oak tree. Do you see? This goal you have set for yourself is a good one. But if you stare at the sun in your search for light, you're bound to go blind.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/19 06:22 PM
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if/when this plays out like this again. That's fine and all, but look for other ways you could use the same kind of thought process too. The back rub was only an example, but the applications are near limitless.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/19 06:08 PM
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re: the back rub I get what you were trying to do there, but don't make a habit out of it. If you don't want unenthusastic sex, then turn it down. But maybe give it a chance to play out next time before shutting it down. The fact is, she wanted to blow you and you wanted her to blow you too. The grey area is your thoughts about her thoughts. What do you suppose would've happend if you stayed out of her head and just enjoyed her sucking on yours instead? Could she have really gotten into it. Coul…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 10:07 PM
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....I think you missed the point
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 06:35 PM
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I can't find my meet prep program, but I think it was an 8 week program. Week of the comp I remember doing 3 deload days, and no lifting at all until comp day(s) after that. Run Cube or any other program up to that 8 week mark if you want. The first 2 weeks of a meet prep program are fucking booooring anyway. Light weight.... You should be able to find something on Google: "Meet prep percentage based workout program"
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 02:18 AM
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It's not a breakthrough, just hysterical bonding. FTFY. Prove me wrong, in the following months/years/decades.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 04:35 PM
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+1,000# total by April is extremely doable, if ya don't fuck around. I'd recommend running that Cube program for a cycle (16 weeks) then starting a meet prep program.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 04:15 PM
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https://www.menshealth.com/uk/building-muscle/a748257/how-to-calculate-one-rep-max/ You can use your 5RM to calculate an approx. 1RM
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 03:18 PM
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Slow down, DEER.... I totally don't fault her at all for this, i understood the dynamic. I didn't say you are faulting her. I said you are projecting your own fear (of "becoming a faggot" again) & insecurity (of having no job) onto her intentions. Scattered throughout your OYS and replies, you have said this much yourself, in so many words. I mean, it's not insane to think that maybe she just wanted to go shopping, or ask for a hand with her chores & picking up the kids. She did ask, right? Not …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 04:22 AM
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He says in our "league" it's 2 seconds tops. Then train for 3 or 4 seconds. The 2 seconds will feel like nothing. I don't go atg but maybe split the difference. Perfect. Keep training like this. But as soon as you get the lift command at the meet, stand up. By not burying the weight you can potentially lift more weight, and will definitely save some energy. Remember, you'll be lifting for the heaviest total weight, and if there are a lot of people it will be a long day. If you max yourself out o…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 02:24 AM
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It's most likely him projecting his own fear/insecurity, at this moment, onto her intentions. You don't understand because you don't have the same thoughts clouding your head as he does.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 12:21 AM
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EVERY set of bench press, or bench variation, begins and ends with a paused rep from now on. Do full sets of paused reps as a bench variation in your workouts for extra practice. Plan for a long pause in your training too. 3 seconds minimum. Most judges will give the "press" command very shortly after the bar stops moving, but I've seen some make the lifters pause for 3-4 seconds too. Train for a long pause, and if it ends up being short at the comp then you've given yourself an advantage. Same …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 11:51 PM
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So make a choice, dipshit.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 02:12 AM
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God damn man, you're really gonna take on training a dog just so you can fuck this chick? Must be some good pussy...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 07:28 AM
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Is your wife u/Daddythundercock? I knew and FELT her sincerity that she is aligned with me on our relationship. Serious question now, are you even aligned with you?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 06:57 AM
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If you don't already do it, add in db floor presses to your routine. You'll be shadow boxing with those 150's by Christmas.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 06:34 AM
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I don’t think i can do it simultaneously right now. Build up frame and be open, that is. How much time are you willing to waste with this limiting mentality? And more importantly, why do you STFU, what do you want to get out of it, and how does it help you reach your goal?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 05:59 AM
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You don't pet the dog by its steaming pile of shit on your floor and expect it to quit shitting on the floor. So first, you need to get rid of the mentality of "...I like the reset because it shows her..." Anytime you do or say something to "show her", you're fucked. It reeks of weakness and will not work the way you think it will. Feel free to try it anyway and see for yourself. Second, you need to decide if what she did is acceptable to you. In other words, are you ok with her threating you wi…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 08:51 PM
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Don't be fucking retarded. It's your choice how much time you give her to adjust. And honestly, I think that's more of a mindfuck because "they" know dudes come in here with tunnel vision to fix their marriage, instead of themselves. Putting her on lag setting from the get go buys the man more time to realize what the fuck is really going on here. 9/10, the marriage improves as the man does. But there's still that 1/10. That's why...stay plan = go plan. Work on yourself/marriage improves+awesome…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:03 PM
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I'm going to play my "nice card" and re-establish the boundary that divorce should never be used as a threat. I hope you realize, sooner than later, how retarded that sentence is. I'm feeling generous today. So if ya need it spelled out, you let me know.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:54 PM
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You haven't heard? Shitty comfort tests excuse all threats and outbursts now. Chase her down and shower her with your love!! /s
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:41 PM
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Her tantrum?? Dude, she told you she wanted a divorce, to take your home, and the kids. You call that a tantrum? Clearly she's going through some shit. Spouting "girl power" one second then threating to take your house and kids the next. That's her problem. I'm usually one to preach mindset mindset mindset, but regardless of what your mindset was, in this case, leaving for work without saying a word to her seems pretty fuckin reasonable to me. You don't have to agree with every internet stranger…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:35 PM
2

I'm wondering if you having some sort of spiritual experience through every experience is something that will pass, or not. Seeing the world as energies and vibrations. Don't get me wrong, I see the value in this view. It's humbling, among other things. Personally, it's interesting as well. But that's my thing so I'll leave it at that. It can also be somewhat hindering too though. You don't really wanna be the guy that takes his family to the beach just to stand in awe of the amazing view, inste…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 05:42 PM
3

MRP >>> Transforms the relationship (this feels miraculous) >>> Mrper gets the relationship he wanted (with his OGF) >>>She appears transformed >>> Mrper reverts to mawkish or rage behaviours >>> fucksup >>> Harpies eat fuckups The only difference between this progression and the progression that led most men here is it's a progression of "aLpHa" behaviors, until the end anyway. But it's still a covert contract from the get-go. "Red Pill" actions to get a "Blue Pill" reward. This may be the kind…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 09:55 PM
1

I want to fuck a woman because I am attracted to her and she I don't want to play games with my maniac wife. I'm just bored with it. It's not attractive at all. All she wants to do is play games. I want financial security. I want a different house that I actually like. I want peace in my home. I'm done with constant drama and chaos. u/hack3ge - spot on with "he hates himself, he just doesn't see it." We've all tried showing him over the last month. He may never get it...
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 05:16 PM
2

The main person I am fooling is myself. I’m not sure how many layers of ego left to shed - each time I make progress I have another incident/ set back. Are you still looking for a finish line to cross? A gold coin at the center of the ego-onion, maybe? Stop looking. There's nothing to be found. Your ego is not an outside force that you must "fight" or "kill." You and your ego are one in the same. You made the decision to go through her phone, instead of taking a breath and talking some sense int…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 04:44 PM
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She sounds fun. You sound insecure.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 06:02 PM
2

That's right, until it's not. One could spend a lifetime blindly following blueprints just as easily as they could slow down and understanding the building process. Blue or Red, it's all the same if you aren't drafting your own prints.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 02:27 PM
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It's so simply complex. I've been kicking around an idea of unplugging from one matrix ("BP") and plugging right back into another ("MRP"), and how it's all one-in-the same. I did it for awhile. I see a lot of other stuck in it. Once I recognized that and took a gigantic step back for a wider view, the real progress came.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 01:59 PM
1

You might be suprised how it goes. I've shut several bitchfests down by ripping my wife's pants off mid-babble. It all depends how congruent that kind of thing is to you, and how confidently you do it. YMMV. If you're going to do it, do it. She'll let you know if she's not cool with it, don't go catching a rape charge like an idiot.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 12:50 PM
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I would have been so angry (ego) she didn't want to have sex... She did want to have sex though, dummy. Her line when she crawled into bed naked was alpha bait, not beta bait. Mindset, faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 11:14 PM
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I used to get this same shit man, so I'll leave it to the rest of the group to call you a faggot for this and be real with ya instead. Take the rest when you need it. Plain and simple. You don't owe us, her, or yourself an explaination for it. I can also tell you I don't hear this shit anymore. So it can change. But I'm gonna direct you to the sidebar and OYS thread on how to change course, if you're not already taking advantage of those resources.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 12:46 AM
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the inability to show emotion for fear it shows weakness and I’ll go back to the whiny bitch I was a year ago. It really shouldn’t be complicated - just be authentic. And don’t expect anything in return. I’m just fucking it up. I know exactly what you mean. Expect it to get very uncomfortable as you work your way through it, and expect more fuck ups to come. I don't know if we ever entirely quit fucking it up, really. But the pressure we put on ourselves to reach perfection is maddening. For me,…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 04:51 PM
0

lol ya'll are wild
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 02:17 PM
1

I actually know what I want now. Lets hear it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 02:15 PM
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I wouldn't say retarded. Just getting you to think about whether it's a need or a want, and what it's really worth to you. Like I said, your choice, as it always is. Own it and lead her there if it's something you really want. But if it's a need, it may be worth exploring why, is all.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 01:05 PM
1

Leverage it then. And looks like a weak area was exposed at home last week for ya. I naturally withdrew. This wasn't what I wanted. Can't be both my man. Blarg already covered it, so I'll save my full $.02 for another day. But he's right, ya can't move forward by taking steps back. As an avid Jack10 reader, I'm suprised you didn't see how his idea of "dealing with a problem in phase 3 by using phase 2 tools isn't going to work like you think it will" applies here. And how a different, more direc…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 02:17 AM
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Her hamster told her to just be a slut for you. No, dipshit. He told her to be a slut for him. So she tried. Now she is fucking to survive. Now she's fucking to pacify the wittle baby in the house to keep whatever semblence of peace that can be saved before another tantrum breaks out, because she tried afterall and he kept his bullshit up. What you fucks don't understand is trying = effort. Effort = desire. And harping = desire killer. Kill her desire for you, and the desire to not be berated by…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 01:50 AM
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They showed their hand giving you their range AND saying they may be able to do more if it didn't meet your requirements. Not to mention you got the follow up call 3 minutes later. Let that sink in. So give them a number higher than $310k, throw in some stock options, and negotiate a 401k match % that's higher than their norm. Doesn't sound like they're going to blow you off for making a crazy pay/benefits request. Worst case scenario is a counteroffer. Which isn't bad at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 08:30 PM
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Why spend time fearing a reversion when times are good? How will that serve you and your endgame well? Judging from her response to your sexually laced text, and your response to that, I'd say not very well. By doing this, you're setting yourself, and her, up to fail.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 07:01 PM
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She she she she she she she she wife she wife wife wife she. Gave up on the tango, now trying the foxtrot I see. Good luck to ya.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 06:27 PM
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Lighten up. She's just fucking with you.
/r/askMRP20/10/19 04:21 PM
2

Yeah, I know plenty of gamers with game and personality too. Stereotypes can be funny too though.
/r/askMRP17/10/19 12:43 PM
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a red pill guy at the gaming convention lmao!
/r/askMRP17/10/19 02:18 AM
7

Is that a faggot move? It wasn't...until you revealed your reasoning behind it (ensure she comes to your room every night.) So yes, it is. Here's the thing you need to come to terms with, whether with her, or anyone else. She knows "cheating is bad" (not moralizing here, mods. A lazy lurker gets a lazy paraphrase.) But she also has the ability to choose to do it anyway. And you have no control over whether or not she chooses to exercise that ability. If she does, you pack your shit up and leave …
/r/askMRP17/10/19 02:13 AM
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They were all loaded questions. Nice frame ya got there, and I mean that sincerely.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 01:44 AM
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Cool, I get following through with a self-commitment. Now lets rephrase the question. How does this pageantry serve your MAP? What purpose does it serve you, aside from following through on a self-commitment that seems to be no longer a necessity?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 05:09 PM
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The brevity of your oys makes sense then. I think you knew the answer to your own question, just had to spit out a few chunks of the puke you caught in your mouth, huh? So....if your main concern, right now, is maximum kid time, then what's the harm in continuing to invite your wife along? Worst case she either says no or comes along and pisses her time away. Which is no big deal. A lot more good could come from continuing to extend the invites though, IMO. Edit: And before I go on about nothing…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 03:24 PM
1

Shhh... you'll scare the fish away.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 07:57 AM
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If you’re married with kids, you can’t just ghost her. Bullshit.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 06:47 AM
2

I gotta ask man, why do you still post in this thread every week? You get whatever you want, you do whatever you want, and you're the epitome of the family alpha/leader. Why bother writing about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 05:22 AM
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Slow this thought down... The question for other men is: what am I missing? What are you looking for? Have I given so much comfort, that it has overwhelmed the effects of my own dread? Are you running formulas, or trying to make your life better? Sounds like both, but on a long enough timeline the former can't be a means for the latter. I'm convinced I'm missing something, because if she's a reflection of me, then I need to get my shit together. The only thing you said that's worth a shit. And i…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 05:01 AM
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The point is eventually realize as you get what you want it’s not actually what you wanted and all you have done is flipped the power dynamic in your favor. The moment you have to exercise that power was the moment it ended. It's a shame this bit of gold had 2 rolled up ball of shit comments follow it, but I'm not suprised considering the sources. Kudos to the guys generous enough to continue trying to give those dudes advice. I'll be in the back eating popcorn and watching them flounder for awh…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 04:42 AM
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I may have worded that poorly. But after going back and re-reading that part of your post, I don't think I needed to mention it at all. Full steam ahead. Edit: Between your oys and the Retarded Waterboy/bat shit crazy comments, it's hard to tell where your head is really at. Full steam ahead may have been ill advised.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 08:55 PM
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Careful with the thinking that your wife is an actual child. There is a difference between her (read: anybody's, man or woman) outbursts being perceived as that of a child vs. you believeing she is an actual child. You wouldn't let a 4 year old talk shit to you and take it seriously, in the same way, you don't allow other adults to have that control over you either. That's what that saying is getting at. Imho, it's horseshit past the point of the mindfuck. I hold adults to a higher standard than…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 06:54 PM
1

Percocets are the best thing for sexual stamina. ftfy
/r/askMRP15/10/19 12:42 AM
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Reframe it. Sure, you feel 10 foot tall and bullet proof when you can give a woman a mind blowing orgasm. But it's not all bad to want to make her do that either. If it comes from a place of wanting a mutually enjoyed sex life and experiencing a woman's desire for your own pleasure, and the validation from it is nothing more than icing on the cake...then so be it. It's all that "I ain't shit unless I can fuck for 4 hours and make her gush all over the bed" bs that's gonna show through in your ac…
/r/askMRP14/10/19 01:33 AM
1

Shiiiiit...skip breakfast and let that metabolism do it's thing. Hell, fast for a day and watch it melt off....after you pack on some meat of course.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 12:18 AM
1

5/3/1 will spur muscle growth. More muscle = more calories burned (usually). The idea is that you burn calories during the lifts themselves, more calories burned (used) in recovery (when your body is healing all the microtears in the muscles that causes them to get bigger), and more to maintain the muscle mass. So, in theory, the more muscle you put on, the more calories you are burning just to maintain the muscle....on top of what you burn during the lift and recovery stages. I never had the te…
/r/askMRP11/10/19 08:37 PM
1

I'll keep working towards building a frame that doesn't break under pressure. What does this mean to you exactly? Specifically the "building" part of it?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/19 06:23 PM
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Don't tell her anything. The only reason you're going to open your pie hole is to try to manipulate her into coming back or filing so you don't have to be the one to do it. Neither will work the way you think it will. Instead, show her...with your actions. Either serve her papers, then tell her why when she asks, if you choose to tell her anything at all. Or wait around for her. You can wait around with your thumb up some chick's ass, or your own. That's your choice too. Option 3 is to live in l…
/r/askMRP09/10/19 11:06 PM
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I mean, if you need to leave for a month who am I, her, or anyone else to say you can't just do it? The judge may have some thoughts about it though. And it's likely he won't give a flying fuck abour your personal "journey." That being said, I would recommend working through it while you're present with and for your family. The journey is the destination, keep that in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 09:11 PM
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If things don't get better, I want out. Did you write this before or after your epiphany on the mountain? It's pretty telling that the only mention of this climb is kept breif in your comments. But your before and after stops at the strip club are pretty well documented. Let me tell you a story from just a couple nights ago. I tied my wife up and used a toy on her for the first time ever. I wanted to watch her leak through her panties, so I left them on. I put on the blindfold and restraints, th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 05:09 PM
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Improving and moving forward. My man... The stoic in you is coming through this week. Some good groundwork is getting done. Begs the question...what do you want to build on it?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 02:42 AM
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I don't larp, I just regress at times of intense stress or weakness. Sounds like textbook larping to me. This was my biggest frame collapse in a while, I have been doing really well. It was my fucking hamster, it went into turbo mode and reduced me to a faggot for a bit. If I had just STFU and took the kids bowling, I would have never had this issue or massive frame collapse and faggotry. Good word choice, "collapse." A frame built from a deck of cards is bound to do just that. And yes, you woul…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 02:28 AM
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Here's my thought process, the best I can remember it, for when I was working through the whole setting boundries before/worrying about GNO's thing. She knows how to act when she's not with me. There is literally zero need for me to give her a list of do's and don'ts or remind her what would happen if she did cross the line. Eventually I internalized that doing these things is not only unnecessary, but is also a real desire killer for her, and that goes directly against what I wanted to be doing…
/r/askMRP05/10/19 04:05 PM
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it’s because I really don’t care. I know I can’t control anyone else and I’ll handle anything that happens. A PSA for anyone scrolling by, "I really don't care" doesn't necessarily mean it wouldn't hurt (for awhile), or that the thought alone doesn't turn your guts a little. You can still not care and have all those negative feelings when the thought does cross your mind. It sounds counterintuitive as fuck, I know. The "trick" is to, in spite of those feelings, not act on them (send her on a gui…
/r/askMRP05/10/19 03:01 PM
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Yeah, it's getting in her head. But that's a broad stroke. You could just as easily have gotten in her head by assuming "she's being playful acting all hard to get to build the tension." Which would be a step in the right direction. Eventually though, you may get to a point where you don't really think about it at all. You will go for the fuck, get that soft no (which is basically what that was...."I don't want to fuck, but I'll blow you instead"), and game the shit outta her while she's doing h…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 07:50 PM
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Identifying my thinking allowed me to understand and stop it. It was like flicking a switch. I understood, again, what was going on and why. The next morning, I acted from a place that was true rather than one filled with expectation that came from a place of congruence rather than a place of neediness. There was a night and day difference in our interaction and the dry spell ended. I am a bit ashamed of the whole situation. Why on earth would you be ashamed of a situation that brought you this …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 02:30 AM
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Filter out all the noise here and it reads: I'd rather focus on an assumed power struggle, and project it onto her, instead of getting my dick sucked by my willing wife. Dude, she gave you the ultimate compliment...."you wrecked this pussy last night, it needs to rest." Whether she meant it or not, she's trying to play your game here. You chose to overthink it and assume her intentions. And in doing so, you completely miss the fact that you could have turned that blowjob into some incredible sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 02:14 AM
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Was it? Read his post and the link again, then tell me it's not possible she's actually repulsed with herself for letting this dude run it in her ass just to keep her security blanket secure. Maybe not? But I'd say it's a strong possibility. Not that it's our job to get in her head and figure it out. But... Something tells me the only thing this dude is learning when he shuts the fuck up is that shutting his pie hole now might get him a few alpha points he can trade in for another anal sesh late…
/r/askMRP01/10/19 05:28 AM
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So look man, the "right" answer here is to tell her to get the fuck out, then go eat some shrooms and climb a moutain. But you don't know what you really want right now. Do you? So here's another option. Take it or leave it. Tell her you've thought about it and you like the idea of a break. No more. No less. Just broken record that shit until she starts to seriously consider if you're retarded. Hell, do it until you start to think you might be retarded. Then do it some more. Help her pack her sh…
/r/askMRP01/10/19 05:10 AM
1

You've actually seemed really congruent in the last several OYS's. You show your pleasure and displeasure with her well. Sure, you could communicate it more effectively/directly. But it's congruent nonetheless. That's what I'm sayin man. You're either really fucking close to cracking yourself open, and bringing her along with you....or really fucking close to cracking yourself open and realizing your wife isn't a compatible FO for your vision (and that's ok). It could go either way. Keep in mind…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 01:25 AM
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Could her ego protection be a reflection of your own? Take the training wheels off and stop tracking her cycles homie. You are so fucking close to lifting the skirt of this MRP thing. Read Horns' advice til your eyes bleed, over and over. It's all right there. And it's a whole lot deeper than "pass comfort tests."
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 12:27 AM
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There's drill sergeant yelling, and then there's Drunk Kyle yelling. 50% of the time you're right everytime.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/19 09:29 PM
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It doesn't get anymore clear than this : There is no gap. Go to the Dr. and ask him to x-ray the void if you don't believe me. You've chose to guide your thought processes, actions, and on the grand scale, your life, through anger. Or at least parts of it. You and anger are not 2 separate things. And once you thought you overcame it, you went and got yourself all good and pissed off just so you could get through a workout. You are still choosing to let your anger guide you. But you still have no…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 08:51 PM
1

They're so fuckin awkward. I did them for 3 weeks with nothing on the bar just to get used to the positioning/movement. Even then, I was uncomfortable and borderline terrified I was going to mess myself up when I put some weight on the bar. Very hard to get used to. Where do you rest the bar? I would dig the bar into my front delts and criss-cross my arms. So my right hand holds the left side of the bar, left hand holds the right. The bar always ends up on the front of my neck too...not the thro…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 07:01 PM
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Well.... looks like you got all the answers. Why are you here then?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:37 PM
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Paranoid from herniating my disc last year, so twice I bailed out from workouts early, afraid pushing through would lead to injury. Seems like a running theme... So started at the beginning. Treating myself like I've never done this before. You mean avoiding the realization that you've been half-assing? Lose the habit, build it back up from the bottom. Frustrating, but it is what it is. No, it is what you've made it. Wife initiated after, which I appreciate. She knew I was pissed, she helped me …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 03:21 PM
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Front squats helped me get the form down for deadlifting. I don't know the science behind it....but it worked for me. I also noticed a lot more carry over to the deadlift bar, as far as adding weight goes. Worth a shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 02:50 PM
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There's also a risk that if I always give, people will come to expect it. What does it matter if they start to expect it? Force yourself, if you have to, to push through this for awhile, hand in hand with Blarg's advice though. Keep this in mind while reassessing, it's not the world's fault you feel taken advantage of in those moments. It may be something you try on then put back on the rack. Or it may end up in your closet. Either way though, it may shed some new light on all that stuff about d…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 01:40 PM
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Why the need to hear from the class what happend after we let go of that brooding anger? Why not just go forward with the life you have left without the anger, proud of yourself for conquering it? Not sure where to go? Why do you think we should tell you, or that we even could? Why the assumption that life is a never ending grind? Because you've seen the words repeated here for years now? Does that make them true? You can use tools to fix things, or you can use them to build things. What do you …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 01:11 AM
1

Sexual desire? Or sexual desire for their partners?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 12:25 AM
1

Handled it fine. But you don't need us to tell you that. I will say that, and this is part mental masturbation and part something for you to consider and work toward if you choose, had you responded to the first "shit test" with some sarcasm (i.e. "I know right, I'm usually such a pushover.", "Me too! I gave myself a gold star on my way back out here for it") the conversation would've most likely shifted right there. Meaning, she wouldn't have been following you around pecking for a reaction. Re…
/r/askMRP14/09/19 08:21 PM
1

I agree, the reading material is out there. Your Youtube channel was a great tool for me back when I first got started. I know he's been around for awhile though. Just suggesting he put some of what he has already read into practice vs. more reading is all. Not that the 2 couldn't go hand in hand. But he took action shortly after and seemed to get what he wanted when he did.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/19 02:16 PM
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It's all the same. Your wife is a woman, just like any other woman. The difference is a new woman is just that....new. And just as she is new to you, which makes it more exciting, you are new to her. And she experiences the same effect. Truth be told, I doubt anyone here is always "on" with their wives. Like you said, we got a lot on our plates (minds). I don't know what the vision you have in your head is, or where you're at right now, but I know I've tried the literal always be gaming....and t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/19 03:37 AM
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What I've learned, after countless books and Youtube videos, is this....a direct approach, eye contact, and a shit eating grin is the best "opener" out there. Next time you go out for dinner, walk to your table with said shit eating grin and make eye contact with every woman you pass. Even the ugly ones. Watch how the majority of them light up. You don't even have to nod or say a word. I've watched married women, sitting next to their husbands, turn 4 shades of red and gush from nothing more tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/19 11:56 PM
1

Why fog when she's threatening to leave? Don't get me wrong, I get it. We see it for what it really is. But that doesn't change the fact that she's being a cunt about it. It really all comes down to the man, what he wants, and what his woman brings to the table. But for me, that shit either gets ignored, nuked, or the bitch fucked out of her in the middle of her tantrum. For the formulators....shitty comfort test = shitty comfort response.
/r/askMRP30/08/19 06:27 AM
2

It's she-centered and reads very reactive still. That's not to say it's all bad, I see some steps in the right direction in there. You want her to just get it. You want to make the statement "I want better sex" and for her to just give you better sex. Hence, you get the crazy sex you desire when she's ovulating and is naturally hornier than normal. Does it bother you that this spike in desire isn't triggered by you? You want to create immersion. Awesome. But sending anal training articles in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 11:50 PM
1

Right now our crazy is a few times a month around ovulation time. Read through the relationship section, as if it was written by a stranger and not you, then ask yourself if this is suprising to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 10:57 PM
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That's a nice checklist you got there. Next step is to put it all out on paper. Then take that paper and fold it up nice 'n neat like. Then go ahead and shove it up your ass. Stop setting expectations for your wife, and start setting them for yourself instead.
/r/askMRP09/08/19 01:39 AM
2

I agree, a lot of what he talked about reminded me of the rut I was stuck in too. Learning to reset has definitely curbed my anger, toward myself as well as the wife. Which in turn has seemed to "create the space" for her feelings to flux and return back to the mean whenever she's ready. I could write a book on the benefits it had for me personally, but it'd all boil down to no more stewing and no longer "needing" a resolution to whatever non-issue was behind the extra tension. Which keeps the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 12:56 PM
2

I haven't put everything on the table You asked Horns and RPeed how they reset everyday, this may be the key to that. You're so focused on her that you've missed this piece to the puzzle. You expect her to open up for you but you aren't willing to do the same. Is the anger/resentment/disappointment/whatever you want to call it, that you're directing at her actually just you projecting your own shortcomings onto her? If you were to lay yourself bare, it's still no guarantee she will follow suit. …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 10:02 PM
1

That's all we can really do. It's on her to follow ahead or stay behind. It's all easier said than done my man. Best we can do is stay as congruent as possible to our mentality. We're human. We'll slip up. Trick is to take the lesson and let the rest go.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/19 04:38 PM
3

My advice on balancing vacations and home improvements would only echo johney's advice. But I urge you to consider it and find the way that works for you. What do you have in the form of retirement/investments right now? And I gotta ask...have you let go of your mistakes from the past yet? I mean, it's one thing to own them and self correct. But it's another to self depricate over it. Those kinds of thoughts may never fully go away. But if you're giving them enough time and attention to spell it…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/19 12:05 AM
3

Feeling helpless and stuck in your shitty mentality/behavior pattern. There's a way through. You're not special. Get to work.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 06:48 PM
1

I doubt that's your biggest issue
/r/askMRP23/07/19 12:24 AM
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I hung out with her on Weds and she has similar behaviors so I had to pull back. So maybe you aren't angry, and that's being generous. But you are still reactive. That might explain blowing you on command then spitting your load on the floor "defiantely." I was going to take her to the gym to work out with me but her behavior doesn't allow for me to do that anymore. It would be rewarding bad behavior and I can't do that. Why not? Ego or anger? You decide. But those are the only 2 options here. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/19 08:34 PM
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There is no lack of frame. You spelled your frame out right here: I do like her, she does add value. I see where I went wrong in resulting communication, but I’m still not certain about what kicked it off, why the fact that I initially held frame and gave a little AM set her off the way it did. So "your frame" (right now) is that you like her. You value her. And you're able to see why she didn't "hear" your I love you's. And you can own it. You're also still mulling the non-event over, trying to…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/19 08:12 PM
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Look my man, you can sit in math class all day and solve problems on paper, but at some point ya gotta get your ass up and start applying those skills. You've checked all the boxes and it's still "not working". Why?
/r/askMRP19/07/19 06:24 AM
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Long before MRP it was clear as day that if I ever slept on the couch it would be bc I wanted to, nobody is gonna tell me where I can or can't sleep...especially when it comes to my own damn bed. To answer your question, directly, who gives a fuck what ends up happening in this scenario? If you're telling her to sleep on the couch and actually expecting her to "obey", your mentality is fucked and you're a faggot. If you're just mocking her, well then you wouldn't be racking your brain trying to …
/r/askMRP19/07/19 01:37 AM
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I've done my best to be patient and humble with my misgivings about the church in front of her. We say women are masters of subcommunication for a reason. If you are thinking, or feeling, it she will "hear" it. We don't have to say a word. Just like I am not allowed to curse in front of her I'm certain that any indication that I am not living according to her definition of righteousness will be similarly personal affronts to her, called offensive and result in shit tests and disrespect. We are t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 03:34 AM
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Her picking fights and general bitchiness is probably linked to your "I suck at comfort tests" statement. You've turned your back on your lifelong religion and openly criticize it. She is still planted firm, so her mind associates herself to said religion. Guess what she hears and sees when you trash it and just....walk away....from it? There's some insight to her perspective, maybe. And I tell you this not so you can hatch some new trick to win her over, change her mind or whatever. I tell you …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 08:26 PM
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That'd be for you to decide. If you're getting what you want, and the both of you are happy, then I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about it. You'll know for sure where your frame is at when/if she starts pushing back hard and/or outright refuses on a continued basis. Like I said, still seeing flashes of paranoia and mindreading in your writing. Just be sure you're not building a house of cards is all.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 12:56 PM
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We're all on dofferent paths here, so take it all with a grain of salt. But there are some undertones that you think she is out to get you and of you trying to get in her head in the way you write it all out. If that thought process keeps you sharp, and works well for the both of you, then go for it. I also wonder about the amazement with the specific sexual acts (requesting your cum in her mouth, "needing" to work on her swallowing, anal, and the title of your slut). Careful not to get topped f…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 02:38 AM
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I realized I was still afraid of her reactions and words if I pushed too far. How can you push too far if your intentions aren't malicious? My frame still isn’t strong enough, but its improving. I had to internalize the idea that I don’t care if she leaves. TRUE ngaf is frame. Limiting thought. It is strong enough, you just haven't fully grasped what's holding it back. NGAF is only half of it. It rids needyness and infatuation. But not caring whether she stays or goes is different from not worry…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 09:40 PM
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It's been about 2.5 - 3 months. but is that something you’ve planned for? Not necessarily with her by my side. But yeah, I didn't pull my head out of my own ass for nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 07:13 PM
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"...there is zero motovation from your wife to turn into a Mandy unless you are willing to walk away." u/Persaeus dropped a comment to someone a long while back that said "you'll have to hurt her to help her." I came to understand exactly what he, and you, meant. You've urged me to rip the band aid off. I met with 3 lawyers. None of them painted a picture worthy of hanging on the fridge. But she found out I had been to 2 of them. I never confirmed or denied it, to this day. But that was all it t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 06:16 AM
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Things have been going well, until Saturday. Still keeping score, eh? Our son was in the room sleeping and our baby monitor went off, she went and handled it, and came back. The second time it went off I was reading and as it went off she said "your turn". I simply was trying to finish reading the last part of the paragraph of the book (maybe an extra 10-15 seconds, this was non-emergency) and didnt respond (I assume in a timely manner suiting her) and she just snapped at me "are you just going …
/r/askMRP01/07/19 10:55 PM
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I have read Rollo's essay. I've also read OP's main post. And I also have my own personal experiences that have shown me one can be just as true as the other. I don't think this was wrote for the men who are still trying to be both though, but rather the men who have become both. Hypergamy tells them AF/BB can NOT exist in the same man. This is the source from which Shit Testing flows. The more a man tries to be both, the more intense the testing becomes. One way to look at a woman's "shit testi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/19 07:46 PM
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And not because of the hypergamous alpha and beta shit. It's because she never learned that they can be the SAME PERSON. The harsh reality is that they can't believe it because they're not wired for it. This maybe be true for some women out there, and maybe even the woman you are with. But he wrote very well about the bigger picture surrounding this tidbit. And it may be telling that you pulled the tidbit out and put it back under the microscope.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/19 06:13 PM
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Maybe? I haven't read your post history to see where you're at mentality-wise, or how congruent your actions are to that mentality. And I damn sure don't know what's going on in her head. It's a little telling that you are trying to get in there though, per your response. I got the sense, from your dread checklist, that you're sort of going through the motions waiting for a response from the wife. IME, that waiting was basically waiting for her to fill in my weak spots. I wanted her to beg for m…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 05:02 PM
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definitely a defiant one. Why do you suppose that is? What exactly is she defying? And it's saying a whole lot more than FMoFY.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 01:04 PM
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It doesn't matter how you chop it up and spit it out, all she's gonna hear is "You're not good enough." It's highly likely that most of her mouth noises will revolve around this narative, and less about the expectations set for her. It's to be expected and is ok, keep your cool and stay on topic. Then watch her actions, forget the words. What worked best for me was moving away from "I want X, Y, & Z to be happy in this marriage..." to "You're a human being with needs and desires too, stop hiding…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 04:19 PM
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Do you even like your SO?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 04:36 PM
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she quickly apologizes and wants to get back in my frame where she is content and feels safe. You're Daddy TC in her phone ffs. Give your hamster a weed brownie and go have some fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 11:55 PM
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I think that MRP needs more focus on these intermediate to advanced stages - where you've established a frame that is strong and masculine but you are unsure of how to use it effectively to create escape. I'm on the otherside of this one. Sure, some note swapping could speed things up. But by the time a dude gets to those "stages" he's realized all the fun is in the journey, not the destination. The trial and error is what drives him forward, not the cheat code. I think this is why there aren't …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 11:40 PM
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Again I only care about any impact on my daughter and if anyone says it doesn’t matter to them in my situation is lying. Bullshit. You're a) trying to control her, b) butthurt you didn't alpha widow her, and/or c) (a+b). I asked her “if you were deployed and I had a girl spending the night and playing family would you care?” ^ Exhibit A. ^ If you were that worried about your daughter's safety, you would call the cops, CPS, and a lawyer.
/r/askMRP11/06/19 08:06 PM
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My failure is I've been removing presence and affection along with time and attention. Why do you see this as a failure?
/r/askMRP10/06/19 02:40 PM
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the form of this i get (last time was February) is "i'm never good enough for you while crying and blowing snot bubbles". she wants to play the victim in her own mind, and have me rescue her feelz. i want to say "quit crying, and do better". i STFU My god I get this a lot. STFU is pretty fucking hard for me when it happens too. How do you keep the trap shut instead of letting her hear what you have an issue with? (I think I may be in the process of answering my own question here. All the same, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 06:07 PM
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All those hot-words just to ask a retarded ass question?
/r/askMRP07/06/19 05:51 PM
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When you step back and look at the bigger picture though, the bible is a great guide for growing a strong mind. Read it through with a more narcissistic, self-actualized, god-complex lens and see if the deeper meaning behind the symbolism doesn't show through. Not trying to be snarky. Your mind seems to be wired up like mine when it comes to this shit though. Same as diving into the social conditioning through pro sports. Might interest ya. As far as literal sky gods though...hell no.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 03:24 AM
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Well, what do you think? Are you an emotionless robot? Or do you just express emotions differently? There's a difference between an oak tree and a cement statue.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 05:53 PM
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You don't have to want to have one. It could be leveraged. But if ya don't want to, ya don't have to.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 03:09 PM
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What's the real reason for not wanting this housewarming party? "Not wanting to impose burden of travel..." ....what a Nice Guy you are. But it smells like horseshit. And don't kid yourself. You were butthurt on the shopping trip. You did good not to engage, but you were butthurt. Face it and own it, don't deny it. To us or yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 07:12 PM
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Weird thing started happened as wife is starting to ramp up her ASD. She’s a submissive little thing in bed that does anything I want. I can’t tell if it’s shit-testing or ASD, but when she isn’t a good mood she will say shit like: “You just take me to bed and beat me with your dick every night”, or “I don’t know if you have some kind of fetish where you want a slut”, or “Sometimes you hurt me, why would you hurt me?” …. She doesn’t complain at all during the act but I have taken the feedback ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 04:14 PM
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I started her with a silicone one then got one of the metal ones with the jewel. Mine prefers the metal one. We use the Chain Reaction lube that Trojan makes (and LOTS of it) with the plug, drives her wild. YMMV
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 08:02 PM
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She says I am too dominant and bossy. She tells me I talk too much in sex and to shut up. Shit test. Or you're not being firm enough/too faggish in the way you say it. I tell her I like it and don't care. Tell her this with your actions, not words. If you're going to say anything here, make it something along the lines of "you like being dominated..." Make it part of the experience, not a DEER break. Once she gets going I can boss her around and do what I want. This is the key. You can't just wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 07:02 PM
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u/man_in_the_world is onto something with the lack of dominance and emotion...which leads to the immersion. Talk to her. Let her know what she's doing is pleasing you. And if you want her to do something, tell her. She wants to please you...that jumped out at me, from your post anyway. Don't think about it anymore past that though or you could get in your own way. Build off that and start really bossing her around during sex. I don't think it really matters what you say, more how you say it. Tel…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 04:58 PM
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I can tell you your wife is the submissive slut you want her to be. And she wants to be that submissive slut for you. I'd bet a check on it. Only you know what barriers you have for filling the role of the Dominant man that makes steep declines go unnoticed, but I urge you to find them and barrel through them without a second thought. You will be glad you did. If you're waiting for her to just start doing it...it won't happen. If you think you can have "a talk" with her about it...it won't happe…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 01:43 AM
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He said "master plan." While all that female psych. maybe be true, she is (most likely) not actively plotting to takeover the ship. The exceptions prove the rule. That's why we frame them as "tests" to the new guys. When it's all said and done though, the why of it becomes irrelevent. Tell her to shut up, make fun of her, smack her ass, whatever...if she wants to leave she knows where the door's at. Otherwise, mouth noises....
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 01:00 AM
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What's funny about having a grown ass woman going to her playbook instead of, ya know, actively enjoying her time with you?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 11:08 PM
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Cower or continue. Your choice.
/r/askMRP19/05/19 05:26 PM
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Holy shit man.... Well done. Sincerely.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 08:42 PM
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not knowing how I want the desire expressed Is it that you want it done a certain way, or that you just want it expressed in her own way, whatever that may be?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 07:44 PM
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Have you considered that she just doesn't know how to please you? A lot of your post resonated with where I was at about 4 months ago. I also didn't want to have to instruct her on expressing her desire. I, like you, didn't want to sit her down and force a talk either. Instead, I just started commanding the things I wanted during sex. I don't know where this will lead long term. She may "learn" what I like and start doing it on her own (expressing her desire to please me, now that she knows how …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 03:13 PM
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Looks like FA is the new go-to rationalization.
/r/askMRP17/05/19 04:05 AM
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Flair checks out
/r/askMRP16/05/19 08:39 PM
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My anger for the hypergamous behavior seriously pisses me off. You know it's anger. Dipshit. You're also aware on some level that the anger is your problem, not hers. So good on you there. You're still insecure. Still butthurt (this is why the sex was shitty). And yes...still angry. Good news is, it'll pass. Maybe. That depends on you too. STFU and get to work.
/r/askMRP16/05/19 08:33 PM
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u/weakandsensitive was right about taking advice from any ol asshole too. The process that worked for me may not work for you. Gnaw on it and figure out what you like or don't like about it, and/or how/what you could apply it in a way that's more congruent to you. I was a confrontational prick when I strolled in this sub, so again my process may not be the one for you. Take any advice I give with that in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 04:54 PM
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And I got into an argument. But did you die? Really though, her comment was one of those "shrug and ignore" things. But can you see how walking around with the mindset of "I need to start shutting down my wife's bitchy behavior" works out? You're actively seeking opportunities to work this new muscle out and creating arguements. I don't say this as a means to point fingers and play blame game...don't miss my point here. So now, what do you suppose would happen if you changed your current mentali…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:55 PM
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Have you thought about doing a long term monk mode? Nipping the validation seeking mindset in the bud, while still trying to fuck, is a bit like a junkie trying to quit heroine while continuing to shoot heroine. It's not advice given here much, but I did it early on and it was pretty helpful. Might be worth a shot?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 06:12 PM
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Sounds like a little Rambo could do you some good.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/19 04:28 AM
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Do you have control of the finances? If not, get on that asap. Work into the budget what she gets per week to take care of groceries and house shit. Bare min. Use the rest to knock out any debt (aside from mortgage) you may have. Cars included. Or go one step further and give the broad nothing, make her come to you with purchase requests then go buy it yourself. Ignore her entitled ass. Yeah yeah, it's your fault that you're here... end that now. Ghost her in her own home. She doesn't respect yo…
/r/askMRP12/05/19 12:14 AM
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Why ask? You, and everyone here, already knows you're gonna follow through with this marriage (after whining like a bitch to her, same way you just did to this sub). Act like a bitch, get treated like a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 04:33 PM
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Is posting online about her silent treatment "ignoring" it? why the fuck am I still carrying this rock? Well, why are you?
/r/askMRP10/05/19 01:42 AM
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Their walls look like swiss cheese and the battery covers on the remotes stay shut with masking tape. But damn do they fuck....
/r/askMRP09/05/19 04:43 PM
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If she wasn't there, with no silent treatment to dissect what would you be doing with your time?
/r/askMRP08/05/19 11:08 PM
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Why are you trying so damn hard to make her problem your problem?
/r/askMRP08/05/19 07:20 PM
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Sounds to me like you've been a shitty leader by not giving her an outlet for her need for emotional drama. Have you encouraged her to do.... anything? Not his job. Not his problem. I set a trap for myself awhile back, that it was my job, as a man, to lead her through nearly every aspect of her life, as a woman. It's not. And you'll drive yourself crazy trying to do it.
/r/askMRP08/05/19 07:17 PM
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First and foremost you need to understand you can only tear down your own scoreboard and it is in her nature to leave hers on 24/7. Your wins are her wins, and your losses are her wins as well. Accept it. So, when you catch her keeping score you can just have fun with it...assuming you don't really give a fuck about her scoreboard (you don't, right?) Answer that for yourself, but I think you do or you wouldn't be asking. Quit giving a fuck about her scorecard. When you catch her keeping score, m…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/19 01:12 AM
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I don't disagree with ya man, it's always an option to just say "this is how it is" and be done with it....if you(we) so choose. I also think there are other options. That could be because I have more unplugging to do, or it could just be the meeting of two different views. Edit: Well damn...just seen he deleted the post. You were probably right then, came from neediness and pissy he didn't get his gold star here at MRP lol
/r/askMRP06/05/19 12:50 AM
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I don’t think he enforced any boundary. He failed there because he DEER’d He didn't enforce one, no. But I think he did good at setting one. The way I see it, he refused the conversation until it was civil and then used this as an example of how he intends to support his child. This wasn't just financial support either, he ensured his kid the experience as well. I also see it as her prodding to see if he's shelling out money to the ex because he's a faggot pushover, which he made clear (IMO) tha…
/r/askMRP05/05/19 12:41 AM
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Isn't that condoning fagot behavior? More like turning a profit on it. Can't knock the hustle.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/19 02:16 AM
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Developing financial literacy is less complicated than most think. Absolutely! Another thing I look for with Index funds is the turnover rate. Lower the better as all that buying and selling racks up fees as well. Having multiple income streams is another big one I've learned over the last couple years. Like your dividend checks for example, the more places you have money coming in, the better. I'm in the process of taking this one step further, looking for people to farm the work out to. Pay a …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 12:13 PM
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There's always a choice, I suppose
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 10:54 PM
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I wouldn't fold, holding a straight flush, just bc everyone at the table thinks I'm bluffing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 09:07 PM
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Napoleon Hill told a story about a gold miner who quit 3' from the jackpot. Don't be the gold miner.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 04:59 PM
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News flash, Rain Man....every fucking one of us here is human too. It may seem like it's all blowjobs and anal, but my money's on every last one of us losing our shit in some form or another, at some time or another. So, how do you suppose we all "regain frame"? Accept the fact that "making mistakes" (read: bad decisions) is part of life. Nobody's perfect. Take your lessons, leave the rest, and move the fuck on.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 10:15 PM
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Edit: Apparently I am overthinking everything. How the fuck do you stop that? There's no 1,2,3 cookie cutter program, but the end game is to just enjoy it. That's it. Be present and just enjoy what you do to her and what she does to you. I'm prone to overthinking too and I "had to" mindfuck myself out of it. I seen in one of your other comments "how the fuck do you know what to believe when you can't trust what they say?" The question you asked is deeper than you realize, but you already have yo…
/r/askMRP24/04/19 09:58 PM
1

Will be keeping an eye out for "Man Fucks Woman to Death" headlines
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/19 09:34 PM
1

The go-to movie recommendation around here is The Matrix. But you, my friend, could learn a lot more from Revolver.
/r/askMRP19/04/19 02:23 AM
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Jesus fuck dude..... Look asshole, do you want to have a threesome or not? Sounds like not. And despite your attempt to make it seem honorable "I mean what guy doesn't want to fuck 2 chicks at the same time? But not me cuz it's a slippery slope and blah blah blah..." Then you start asking about HER possible motives for asking. You're insecure as fuck and a shit leader. You have no clue how to fuck another woman with your wife and get through all the meltdowns that may follow. You worry she has c…
/r/askMRP18/04/19 08:58 PM
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Good FR. Keep it up and eventually this will be something you don't even think twice about. Let alone type up a FR on. Your OP does read like you're fishing for responses from her. But you are taking action and seem to be enjoying yourself in the process, so it's not all bad. Just do the shit because it's fun for you and let her enjoy herself around happy, fun you....while you enjoy happy, fun her. Let that feedback loop run. I don't know if you realize it yet, but your mention of wine and whate…
/r/askMRP13/04/19 03:11 PM
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Why does it matter?
/r/askMRP10/04/19 01:37 AM
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Hidden in plain sight with the plausible deniability of a free market. Name one stadium (that isn't a run down shit-hole) that isn't owned by a bank or big corp. And of course mainstream media covers it so heavily only because it's "what the people are talking about", which leads to more ad revenue. I remember catching news headlines in the breakroom at work years ago, watching Goodell getting squeezed on a political news station, all the while thinking "what the fuck does this have to do with t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/19 10:47 PM
2

When do you want to start initiating again? More importantly, how do you initiate? Be honest. Is she a rubix cube or a sex toy?
/r/askMRP06/04/19 05:40 PM
1

Showing empathy and having empathy are 2 different things. I can empathize with a mugger and the hard spot he must be in. But he won't get a dime without a fight. And if I lose said fight, best believe I'll have the cops get my money back for me.
/r/askMRP03/04/19 06:49 PM
2

Why are you jumping through hoops for this one single pussy? There's literally billions of 'em out there. Incredible amount of reading, my ass. And you wonder why you're getting prodded...
/r/askMRP30/03/19 12:56 AM
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stop reading everything for three months and instead, go do. Can you expand more on the theory behind this? /s In all seriousness though, this is great advice. I don't see it given around here often, but it does help to unplug from unplugging at a certain point.
/r/askMRP28/03/19 01:20 AM
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1) 50/50...she did or she didn't 2) Ask a lawyer Bonus answer: get a dna test to put your fragile wittle mind at ease
/r/askMRP28/03/19 01:01 AM
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There you go again man. You're not missing any parts of your brain. Your flawed mentality isn't something the universe forced upon you. This is not God's doing. It's all on you, fuckface. Life has tested you, as it has us all. And you bent then broke, as most of us here did too, to some degree. Accept that. You're a soft pushover bitch because you choose to avoid confrontation at all cost. ALL cost. I'd suggest the Rambo program if you weren't so goddamn unattractive. But you absolutelt have to …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 02:50 PM
1

Brandon Lilly's Cube Method if you newbies wanna put your beginner gainz on overdrive! In a nutshell, the main compound movements (squat, bench, dead, and hell why not, ohp) get a heavy/rep/speed split. If you bench heavy in one session, next bench day is either a speed or rep day. Cycle through. Add 1 or 2 other variations of the compound lift before moving to accessories (decline bench, incline bench, floor press, ect.). The accessory and complimentary lifts target the individual muscles used …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/19 07:55 PM
1

You may find that happiness has little to do with pain and pleasure. You can't avoid the challenges, and certainly not the rewards (nor would you want to?), of life. But you can choose to be happy, overall, through it all. Then again, happiness could easily be replaced with optimisim, by my own standards. Marriage is falling apart for reasons outside of my control? It sucks, but I'll be alright, whether I stay or go. Plant shutdown? I was lookin for a job when I found this one. Death in the fami…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/19 07:55 PM
1

We ask ourselves "what do I want?" We answer that, then set out to get it. The chase is exciting. The work is rewarding. And when we finally reach our goal we often times wonder "where's the dopamine??" So what gives at the endgame and the downtime to the next chase? You know what to do brotha. You're just in limbo. The in-between. Look at the in-between as just another part of the process. The world's your playground, and you got some downtime til the next goal is set. Go play.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 04:56 PM
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Look dude, if the way she speaks to you crosses a line. Then fine. But own it while you do some reflecting in the meantime. The fact you went nuclear isn't the issue here. The fact you "enforced a boundry"....and then took to ask MRP to make sure you "handled it correctly" is the issue. We don't get to tell you that.
/r/askMRP19/03/19 02:47 AM
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It's strange, huh? "MRP is a sexual strategy." Yet when you quit strategizing about sex specifically, you can't so much as turn around without sticking your dick in a willing hole.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/19 03:26 AM
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The difference, tracking your own actions vs tracking her actions. Good distinction. Some are starting to track initiation-to-close percentages now too. On the surface, it seems like a step in the right direction. Time will tell if they're actually just tracking their "rewards", I suppose.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/19 03:07 AM
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Why the need to change their entire mindset? "Look Unc, these were my options and this is what I can offer. Do you like it? Will you lose the house if you take it? If you're ok with this offer, then take it. If not, then I'm sorry I couldn't do more. Do what's best for you and auntie, then show her why it's best. Either she'll come around or she won't." Lead by example, when the opportunity presents itself. If it opens the wider conversation of "How are you so objective?" then sure...send him a …
/r/askMRP16/03/19 02:13 AM
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Overall question is how do you deal with people who have views, ideas, and opinions different from my own? FTFY As far as an answer goes, I dunno man. Still working my way through that same question myself. But cutting through your own bullshit is a good first step. Understanding her/their point of view, even if you only get as far as "It's different than mine. And that's ok." is a good follow up. I could drone on about my own parenting style, but you're not me and I'm not you. And that wasn't r…
/r/askMRP16/03/19 02:01 AM
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If your goal was to straighten up the mess in the entryway, then why are you here posting about your fucking wife's shitty attitude about it after straightening up said entryway? Share that covert contract with the class. As far as she goes, it's not about the god damn organizer. And who gives a flying fuck what it's really about?? If she has a panic attack everytime you put your big boy pants on and make a decision then that's her problem. Until you make it your problem too, anyway. You did jus…
/r/askMRP09/03/19 04:04 AM
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These were mandatory during comp training for that exact reason. I had to drop anywhere from 10-25# to do em though. I never did get the mechanics down for rack pulls either, but some of the guys could put an extra 50-75# on the bar for those and overload that way.
/r/askMRP06/03/19 01:55 AM
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Increased feeling of general anxiety and mild depression. I've continued to be exhausted daily and it's hard to get motivated to do anything (I still do shit though, just hard to push myself to do so). I've been in and out of this for the last few months. For me, it's seasonal. Happens every year. I've also started trying to get ahead of it. Vit D, niacin, l-arginine, fenugreek, and zinc supplements. Been hitting the tanning bed a few times a week as well as pool and sauna at the gym. Basically,…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 10:25 PM
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Dunno if you're interested, but you can train your CNS as well. Back when I was powerlifting I would load the bar for my goal comp weight +10-25# and just hold it. Only worked for squats and bench, never could figure out how to do this with deadlifts. Obviously you'll want a spotter for bench and some straps or spotter-bars on squat. Banded squats and a Slingshot (made by Mark Bell) for bench are great tools for "overload training" as well. Just make sure to eat a little more and get your rest a…
/r/askMRP05/03/19 07:16 PM
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I agree on all points, when appropriate. But...if you can't ask someone, wife or otherwise, what's up without getting "sucked into their frame" (having it ruin your day/night/mood) then you got bigger problems than oneitis. Lack of empathy and a rampant ego are the first 2 that come to mind.
/r/askMRP04/03/19 03:25 PM
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others a message to slow down and think. I got a much needed PM just last week urging the same. It seems pretty common to me. Then again, I could just be spotting yellow cars.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/19 04:50 AM
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"Swallowed the pill yesterday. I quit thinking and stormed out of the house at 2:30 in the morning after wife wouldn't wake up to blow me. Came home 3 days later...still no bj?? What am I doing wrong?!"
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/19 04:41 AM
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Instant classic! Dude's phone blowing up before he could even exhale was hilarious
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 10:17 PM
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I've seen countless sticks of dynamite get handed out over the last couple years... seeing "stop thinking" engraved on one of em is a first. I expect askMRP to be busier than usual over the next few days.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 10:15 PM
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You’re still operating in her frame in all 3 examples because you are overly concerned with making the right moves to get the right outcome. I agree to an extent, but would argue that he's in some kind of in-between stage. He's out of hers and concious of his (planned on doing something other than watching her puke her feelz all over when they met up). But he's not projecting and/or pulling her into his frame, or controling the overall frame of the relationship. His situational frame was spot on…
/r/askMRP01/03/19 07:50 PM
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Man, she's packing an awful lot in those short little texts. How's your womanese comprehension? edit: Don't get lost here. She's telling you what any other woman would be telling you right now. Avoid dancing for bananas the best you can. Sex, with you, is a chore to her. Exams or not. Refer back to my first comment.
/r/askMRP01/03/19 05:31 PM
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I have been giving some space each night since she is obviously not in the mood. If she's busy with shit you're not interested in, then sure give her space to get it done. But there's a big difference between giving her space, and creating space. Ya feel me? Last night she came downstairs in a good mood, I got her a drink, she left her phone on the table and was actually present for the first time this week. You pulled her into your frame, which is "I wanna have some fun and spend time together.…
/r/askMRP01/03/19 03:21 PM
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The problem here is I feel this attempts to pull me back into her frame of pleasing her and counter productive to my mission. What if she is giving you these clues as to say, "hey, your mission is for us to come together and enjoy this life together....and I like that. Here's a few things I like to do. Make it happ'n, capt'n."?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 12:49 AM
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Sometimes we're the mirror. Sometimes we're the projection screen. My best guess is you're the screen right now. "Mrs. LongRoad's Insecure Meltdown" is playing in Ultra 4K. You have a list of bullet points giving your interpretation of her thoughts and feelings right now. You'll be told here at MRP to stay out of her head and so on. And sure, there are times where that's a good idea. I don't think this is one of those times though. You're empathizing with her, at least in your post. So I ask, ho…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 10:25 PM
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Am I suppose to just keep talk to minimal and logistics and not engage if she displays verbal disrespect? I'll give my .02 to you and u/muchomucho101 here. Once I got passed the "I need to do [X] now to 'punish' this disrespect" phase the whole thing clicked. It's nothing more than "I don't have time for this" or if she's being extra harpy "I will not accept this." It really is that simple. When time and attention was removed on these grounds, it helped take the anger and butthurt out of the equ…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 01:43 AM
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I appreciate the time brother. Sounds like it's been a rough road. I've had ringside seats to my SIL's 2 year long divorce/custody shit show. It's def not something I'm looking forward to, but at the end of the day when ya know your worth ya don't accept any less. I know for a fact mine will be just as ugly, if it does come down to it. This much my wife has let me know everytime I remind her where the door's at when she starts the threats. All I know for sure is ya can't put a price on happiness…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 01:24 AM
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Damn dude, it's fucked anyone can get away with that really. I'm sure these judges can weed out the bitter ex's, why they don't shut that shit down is beyond me. 'Murica, I guess? What're the chances she'll drag ya back in for custody modifications after the div. is finalized?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 08:57 PM
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I know man, I hear ya. Here's the "but..." of it though. This isn't the first time I've been at this point. But it is the first time I've been at this point with such a clear head. Every other time I've came out the otherside with lessons learned. Invaluable lessons to my own growth. And that's the main reason why I'm not so quick to file immediately. The other being that I need a plan. I'll get a ball park idea of financial damage, division of assets and so on on Monday when I meet with the att…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 07:54 PM
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More of the same this week. There is no more resetting on my end. Looking objectively, there is not much worth resetting for. There's a laundry list of her behavior and actions, but ultimately it's not what I'm willing to accept. You don't keep dumping money in a slot machine that isn't paying out a damn thing. Outside of a quick "Get your shit together and start acting like my wife, or don't. It's on you now." message, there is no more talking about it with her. We've had the talks. Not wasting…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 03:20 PM
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A tale as old as time. A new OYS thread starts on the main sub tomorrow. You should start there too.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 01:51 AM
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So here's one for ya....what happens when the adventurous lifestyle becomes the norm? Kindda like opiods. Take em long enough, and you'll need more and more to get that euphoric feeling? I wonder if it works the same for women on this one. I haven't been thoroughly suprised in well over a year. I see things coming from a mile away now. Career to the bedroom, and everything in between.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/19 07:27 PM
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IME, "your money" hasbeen a shitty comfort test. Does she know her place in your vision? Or are you floundering atm?
/r/askMRP16/02/19 02:26 AM
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Mine hates cards. Bday, Vday, whateverday....she doesn't like em. So this year I got her one of those gigantic cards from Wal Mart.
/r/askMRP14/02/19 10:15 PM
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I like to fuck with mine about it. I'll start talking about whatever it is as if I'm lost on it or not sure what to do. By the end of the convo she finds out that it's been resolved days ago and goes from anxious to wtf to laughing at my sand bagging. Low hanging fruit, as far as providing feelz goes, but I like watching her facial expressions change so fast
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 05:10 PM
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Fair enough - if you are vulnerable about things you have handled then she may see that as you handling your shit. That's it right there. The difference between dumping our feelz/making it her problem vs. talking about what's bugging us, while also having a plan to get through. The kicker is, it doesn't matter how she sees it when it's the latter. You know ya got it handled, that's all that matters. Fuck the medium and the message at that point.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 05:44 AM
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Great insight off the bat. This guy's going places. Treat the reasonable requests like shit tests too, if ya want. When she breaks off crack a shit eating grin. Keep having fun with it until she realizes you're just fucking with her. Push/pull...when you're ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 11:21 PM
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Eh, it's not ideal. And no, quite the opposite. All her friends blow her shit for "having a husband with his shit together." One's got a drug addict hubby who hates going out, the others were divorced, lonely hens. Her attitude shifted when I asked if she drove from dinner (where the bottle of wine got cashed) to the bar they went to afterward. She got defensive, I kindda chuckled and reminded her I knew she was responsible (she really is). She never came back from the shift though, I opted out …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 03:49 PM
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Sat - I took the boys out to catch a game while she was out for dinner with the girls. Get home and she's got a shitty attitude. Went to bed. Sun - Same attitude as the night before when I try talking to her. Ended up ignoring it and her and just went about the day with family plans. Mon - More of the same. Tues & Yesterday - Reset just enough to have convo's but looking at her more like a coparent. Giving the effort given. I'm not gonna puke it all up, there really are no details worth mentioni…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 02:13 PM
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Ah, I must've missed that part. My bad. So, then, if you can't lead her from the frame of "this is stupid, lets fuck like we hate each other and move the hell on"...then how else could you frame this? If she was some rando at the bar, what would you do? If you're looking at it from Dieda's point of view (you hate to "watch her put herself through that"), what would you do? Think outside the box. Then setup a hut and live there for awhile. If it doesn't work for you, go back to the drawing board.…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 03:19 AM
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Work, gym, parenting, and social are going great. Not gonna keep patting myself on the back in these areas. One area I'm still struggling with is hitting the reset button. Not right off the bat. But 2-3 days into her shitty attitude cycle and I basically quit trying to even talk to her. All desire is killed, so I don't initiate, let alone touch her, either. It seems I'm reaching a breaking point. Not emotionally or anything faggotry like that. Just that it's time to put a timetable on this and c…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 12:07 AM
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I will have to find a way to effectively lead her through these situations while being in my frame. Have you tried fucking the bitchiness outta her? Another thing to consider here is if that's the "kind of person" you wanna stick your dick in in the first place. That shit can be a real desire killer. I have no other options right now. Eventually I am going to have to work on this I know. The sooner the better.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 08:44 PM
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Point he's making is it doesn't matter. If she's really not into it, it can get ugly quick. You don't have to leave a bruise...all she has to do is tell a story.
/r/askMRP05/02/19 04:29 AM
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Do your family a favor, go full no contact and let your 6m be the head of the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/19 03:59 AM
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Just in case you're missing the bigger picture, the IOU/barter thing can be fun (as you found out already.) The "problems" come up when she flakes out and you get butthurt. So don't get butthurt. None of that "Bu-bu-but we had a deeeeeal" bs. I bet and barter sex acts sparringly anymore bc, quite frankly, it's shit I can get anyway. Only used for variety purposes, and only if it's fun for both me and the wife. Sometimes I can tell she feels more pressure than fun, that's when I'll shift the bet …
/r/askMRP01/02/19 05:36 PM
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He was prodding, and OP already knows the trick. It's not their first go-round...and as long as OP keeps posting it won't be the last.
/r/askMRP31/01/19 10:06 PM
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I'm not using it derogatorily here. Think less literally, an "inner slut", if you will. Sounds like you both have the Madonna/whore complex, being that she seemed to feel guilty about it when you confronted her. I'm not spellin all that out for you. Read, or reread, up on M/w complex and draw your own conclusions there. Point is, if you can quit being a big ol bitch about her flirty personality, you'll be able to have a lot of fun with this one.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 09:54 PM
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Both. AWALT is a spectrum. They'll all take it in the ass and suck it off for the right guy. But yours is the type that would actually enjoy it (vs. just "going along" with it to keep her man locked down.) I know girls like the one you've just described. Most have flat out told me all the nasty shit they'd "looove" me to do to them. The others have only ever said it with their eyes. Enjoy the ride or get the hell outta the park, man.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 05:11 PM
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Sounds like emotion and immersion are lacking. Are you trying to reproduce the shit you see in porn? Or asked another way, are you taking a serious approach to your displays of dominance? Try a satirical version of what you think you want to be doing. Go so over the top that even you can't keep yourself from laughing about the things you're saying and doing. See what happens.
/r/askMRP31/01/19 05:04 PM
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Sounds like textbook Madonna/whore complex. She IS a slut. She can be your slut, but you gotta kill this insecurity first. Stop confronting her about this shit, it will not end well for either of you. Your insecurity isn't her problem. If you can't handle it, leave and find someone more compatible.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 04:27 PM
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Was he demanding an apology though? She baited him perfectly into announcing "that's all I wanted" after her half-assed apology. But even then, that could be translated (by someone who's not bat-shit) to mean "I wasn't looking for you to defend yourself &/or an arguement. Those are my terms, take em or leave em."
/r/askMRP31/01/19 01:32 AM
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Jay Rock - WIN
/r/askMRP29/01/19 12:17 AM
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Curious to know, how does/did she act after you would be overtly disrespectful to her?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/19 07:33 PM
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Interesting, I was under the impression that I didn't. I got the same impression when I read your post. Just a word of warning for the weeks ahead, is all. There will probably be lots of little tests like these for awhile. The more aloof you are about it, the more anxious she will get. I don't know your wife personally, but most will turn up the heat to some degree as the anxiety sets in. Just keep initiating when ya want to...foot on the gas.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/19 02:49 PM
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Caught myself rising to the bait a couple of times and managed to stop myself. Good show of self contol she doesn't want any pressure to have sex until she's ready Focus on the emotion, not the words, when women talk like this. Pressure = anxiety, to some degree. Break the tension or ride the wave. Just don't waste your time trying to debate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 03:55 PM
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leading back to square one It's a process man, not a program.... ...which you had already seen, judging from the last half of your post. Nice rebound, looking forward to this week's oys
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 02:36 AM
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Women do what they do to A) bring out the best in their men or B) berate him for being a faggot. So in a sense, she may be right. Or at least, not wrong. Question is, why is this quote so threatening to you that you need to post up about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/19 10:15 PM
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31 - 190# - 15% bf - 6'1" I started lifting again a few weeks ago, man I forgot how good that feels. Been taking it way too easy to avoid DOMS and injury, but I can feel all the little muscles already getting stronger so the weight will start going up to some good training levels. Had some curveballs at work, but ended up knocking one out of the park. Preparation met opportunity, and I'm looking forward to the year ahead. I'll be getting the ball rolling on a side gig that will pay the mortgage …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/19 06:08 AM
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What you said about getting sucked in to them resonated, I've recently had that same realization. Does your wife start to pull back or even push when that happens?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/19 05:36 AM
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What I'm sayin is 2 different men can say the exact thing and it can have 2 different meanings. "I love you." is probably the easiest example to explain (for me). From strength, you just wanna tell a loved one they are loved. The weak man says it because he needs to hear it back, for all those unattractive reasons. The words hardly matter compared to the mindset they are spoken from.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 02:02 AM
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but rather do more for yourself This is the name of the game, always. apparently the efforts aren’t working [for her]. If you're good with your efforts then who cares what she thinks. Who's the prize?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 07:38 PM
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I've been in your spot...hell, still refining it really. But anyway, that's why I'm apprehensive to hand out another template here. The whole teach a man to fish thing, ya know. I can tell you you're thinking too much. Thinking too much about her, about what to say, how to say it, and worrying if you'll fuck it up. Think less about all that and focus on what you want. The secret is you can say whatever the fuck you want, really, as long as it's coming from a position of power and not weakness. D…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 05:13 PM
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If she’s not seeing that, then do more. Fuck this shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 04:47 PM
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Why are you worrying about conveying anything to anyone? Shouldn't be a problem if you're living (and communicating) congruently...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 02:01 AM
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You're asking the wrong questions. Who gives a shit? That's the only question worth asking on that subject.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/19 03:17 AM
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AWALT man.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/19 04:13 AM
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First off, god damn that 405 flew up! Secondly, you have a good plan moving forward. You also sound (and seem to already know) you're burnt out. Check out sensory deprivation tanks, book an appointment if ya have some in your area. It doesn't get anymore alone than being inside one of those...no sight, no sound, and the only thing you end up feeling is your heartbeat in the water surrounding you. A great place to recharge and refocus. I have no doubt you'll find your way through all of this man.…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 04:34 PM
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First step, stop trying to get her to do shit. Second, buy a family pass to the local gym. Third, use your pass. Move your gym bag to the backseat when she decides to use hers. Fourth (if you absolutely have to have a wife that works out), file for divorce and propose to one of the gym broads. Is there a buried question about your leadership duties in here too? I've recently gained some insight on that as well...nothing ground breaking, but if ur interested I'll expand.
/r/askMRP11/01/19 11:54 PM
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I need to build the foundation first. Do you, though? "I need to do X before I can try Y" is such a limiting mindset. How about just trying Y first, instead? And get that "letting the beta out again" bullshit out of your head asap.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 10:58 PM
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I hope OP can see the forrest through the trees in your response. ...and go in for the next thing I wanted. Depending on my mood. I envy your autopilot here. I'm wired up more like an engineer, great for when the car breaks down...not so good when it comes to social interactions in general. Something I've wanted to change about myself for awhile now, very little of the reprogramming has stuck...yet.
/r/askMRP11/01/19 03:12 PM
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What exactly was the boundry she crossed? And how are you so sure she "got the message"? Letting her know you don't like her manipulation reinforces her choice to do it. You can serve it up to her however you want...the fact you're serving her at all is all she sees.
/r/askMRP09/01/19 10:48 PM
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Like Stoney used to say, let her punch herself out.
/r/askMRP09/01/19 10:36 PM
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One more time....the only difference is the way he takes her so seriously (bc of his own lack of confidence) and I don't (bc her words, no matter how serious she may or may not be, don't change the way I think of myself). I do get the point you're trying to make, but you're making it based on her mindset, not the man's in question. See the problem with that?
/r/askMRP08/01/19 05:15 PM
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Like I said,in OP's case... If OP had options and believed he was the prize it'd be a different story. I have a buddy who's highly insecure, his fiance does this shit all the time to him. She also wants my dick, and throws the same kinds of "put down" jabs at me when we're all hanging out. Difference is I either AA or jab back at her. I laugh, she laughs, everyone around us laughs...my buddy sits on the sideline and sulks. Mentality makes all the difference.
/r/askMRP08/01/19 03:18 PM
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In OP's case, maybe. But when they're with a man that can come back just as humorously, it can be a little show off moment. She jabs knowing you'll jab back, everyone laughs, and all the girls around get jealous they can't do that with the faggot they ended up with.
/r/askMRP07/01/19 07:38 PM
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How about this, do some reading then come back and reread your post in 6 months. She's teaching you mrp in real time...listen. For your sake, not hers. I'd translate it all for you if it weren't so obvious that you haven't read a damn thing.
/r/askMRP05/01/19 01:04 AM
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“I got burned in my last divorce, and I will never put myself, or my kids, in that vulnerable of a position ever again...." Then proceed to put yourself, and your kids, in another vulnerable ass situation....? "I'm never getting married again." should be your only serious reply, every other time you crack a fucking joke about it or ignore that shit. You told her waaaay too fucking much. She is a woman. She will manipulate to get what she wants. You should know this. So you give her a list of you…
/r/askMRP03/01/19 11:06 PM
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I think you missed my point. You and OP should spend more time in the grey.
/r/askMRP03/01/19 08:48 PM
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when my other solutions listed above are not available to me, like when the gym is closed, my friends aren't available, etc. All of these things are hinged on other people or things. Hang the hinges on your own frame. We can't figure that out for you.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 02:54 AM
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I agree with ya 100%. Really, though, I think it's just mental masturbation on my part. No real urge to follow through with either MMF or FFM scenario. I do understand my turn on behind it though. Ultimately it's just as satisfying to stuff her mouth, use a toy and plug, and force her legs apart all the while I make her squirm.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/18 02:32 AM
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Not bad As long as the other guy cums in his wife so OP can raise his child (husband wins). Would've been better. Take an upvote anyway
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/18 07:36 PM
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https://youtu.be/pWdd6_ZxX8c Have an upvote
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/18 07:15 PM
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Enjoyed this FR. Just recently my wife and I have talked about our fantasies around threesomes. Hers being a MMF, mine FFM. I'll probably get shit on for saying this, but I'm actually kindda into the idea of tag teaming her with another dude as well. It's a dominance thing, not a "sit in the corner and watch like a cuck" deal. We've explored hers via toys and had some fun, but I don't think (atm) either of us really want it to happen with another person. I have seemed to have been more comfortab…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/18 06:06 PM
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You done took the pussy off the pedestal and put it right back up on a spreadsheet.
/r/askMRP29/12/18 05:07 PM
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it’s more aloof around the house or a general demeanor of disengagement. Bingo! And don't lose the reset button.
/r/askMRP29/12/18 12:02 AM
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It's not thee way, man...it's just my way. That could change. It's worth asking yourself why you're not looking forward to embracing those things though.
/r/askMRP28/12/18 10:03 PM
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Well said. the removal of time and attention (dread level 4) should be used mostly for repeat sexual denials Works great to get the message across that you won't be her punching bag, too.
/r/askMRP28/12/18 07:50 PM
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Other than... Let her message me several times before responding. ...yeah, pretty much. But none of it really means shit without a mental shift on your part. 1 message (barring attempts to keep the shit show going) on her part should be all it takes, really. Let me guess, the thing you asked her to do was send some nudes? Really doesn't matter what you asked though, the fact you feel the need to "punish" the noncompliance shows a total lack of OI. It's no different bc she's been upgraded to LTR …
/r/askMRP28/12/18 07:47 PM
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Bonus if you can get tagged in a pic in Vegas or another form of debauchery. Petty, but lol!
/r/askMRP28/12/18 05:39 PM
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A man removes time and attention (presence) simply because someone isn't acting in a way that he allows in his life. He has better things, and people, to be doing with his time. Nice guys do it with intent and the expectation to change another person's behavior. Not because he has the self respect to remove himself from the situation.
/r/askMRP28/12/18 05:33 PM
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Re-read your 3rd paragraph. Then, take your LTR off the pedistal, wipe the snow off her, and take an objective look at how you handled your not-so-special situation (ultimatum = "I'm not talking to you for 2 days because boo-fucking-who...") vs. how it should've been handled (I'm not filling in this blank for you...but to get you started, overtly stating a time frame was fucking retarded.)
/r/askMRP28/12/18 05:27 PM
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Understand this, she's not mad you lied. She's mad she married a big ol bitch that can't buy himself a box of stogies without feeling like he did something wrong. That's too scared to make some waves by owning it.
/r/askMRP28/12/18 05:10 PM
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Dance monkey dance!!!
/r/askMRP27/12/18 09:30 PM
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The only way to win is to quit playing.
/r/askMRP27/12/18 09:18 PM
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And how exactly would your wife having a membership at the same gym change any of that?
/r/askMRP25/12/18 05:57 AM
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15%, Paul Revere. Where ya headed with this?
/r/askMRP24/12/18 05:31 AM
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The irony of his comment + Law 36 being mentioned in the post...almost too much
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/18 01:31 AM
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Ah, I forgot where I was. By conversation I mean her crying when she's stretched herself so thin, asking me how I do it so easily....and me sayin "fuck em, that's how." lol I'm not yakin her face ofd about it by any means. Get some new shirts or something. Alpha Wolf tee's, Merry X-Mas to me!!!!
/r/askMRP23/12/18 01:25 AM
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Can I still pull her face into my lap by the hair though?
/r/askMRP23/12/18 01:22 AM
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Maybe you should explain the role of a linebacker vs a safety while you’re at it. Eh, that'll have to wait til she gets the difference between fuel injection vs. carburetor systems. In all seriousness though, I'm looking at it more like leaving a door open for her, and nothing more. I full well understand I'm not her life coach or shrink. But there seems to be a duality in the concepts of "it's her problem" and "be her leader"...at least in my mind atm. This is a perfect example of that line bei…
/r/askMRP23/12/18 01:08 AM
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I gotta ask, are you having the sex you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/18 02:56 PM
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I read the title and assumed an autist. The first paragraph confirmed. I get what you're asking. Been there myself. But the end game isn't to put anything "on display." In fact, once you get to a certain point, Law 38 becomes almost a necessity to avoid driving off potential value adds and causing unnecessary waves, usually in a work setting. What you're asking has a simple answer: do what you want to do. Wife/LTR/plate/rando's being shitty toward you, remove time and attention/next/exit the con…
/r/askMRP19/12/18 07:44 PM
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Glad to see you're still gnawing on it. The sooner you internalize your part in the situation, the better. I am working on getting to a position of strength. How so?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 12:07 AM
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An awful lot of overthinking goin on in here. 2 options: 1) Don't talk about fight club. 2) Send him a link to the sub. The rest is on him. Anything else is a waste of time.
/r/askMRP18/12/18 11:40 PM
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It's not all bad, man. At least you did something, that's more than most who come in with questions can muster. Take an honest look in the mirror. Desensitize, then escalate. IME (I tried. Failed. Tried & failed 2 more times. Then finally started making some progess), the juice was worth the squeeze. YMMV.
/r/askMRP15/12/18 05:07 AM
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Too much talking. Way too much. edit: I have a little more time to expand. Slut training is like anything else really, the slower the changes, the more organic it feelz to her. The more organic it feelz, the more likely she is to relax, enjoy, and want more. Which leads to... Leave her wanting more. If your end goal is to use a vibe on her, knowing she has a thing about it, then start with something similar. Hum on her clit while you're down on her. Buy one of those cock rings with the vibe buil…
/r/askMRP14/12/18 08:37 PM
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Don't share any of the books you hear about with your wife. Don't recommend books for her to read either. That's not to say that you should hide them like a little kid though. When and if she comes across one, it's the perfect opportunity for some fogging/aa/am practice. Just don't go giving her the typical askMRP post intro of "I've been a beta faggot for so long..." speech. Share your life's mission with her, but keep your personal self improvement mission to yourself.
/r/askMRP10/12/18 12:22 AM
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...once I make myself attractive I’ll have options. Try to get rid of this limiting mindset, without blindly ignoring what traits you have that still make you unattractive. In otherwords, think of your areas for improvement as ways to make a good thing better, not things that you need to attain before you can even start to go after what you want. Especially when I travel (usually 1 wk per month). Sounds like lots of opportunities to get her hamster all wound up. Carpe diem. I’m not too concerned…
/r/askMRP07/12/18 05:17 PM
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She'll wanna be your hooker as soon as she realizes she has to keep up to keep you around. The AF with a side of BB, if you will. I heard all this just a few months back...now I hear "I can't wait to get home so I can take care of you." Does she know you have options? Hell, do you know you have options?
/r/askMRP07/12/18 03:12 PM
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I know exactly what ya mean. But, if a little kid comes up to you while you're working on something/trying to relax/having a conversation/whatever...and starts climbing all over you, yelling in your ear, and doing all that other annoying shit kids can do, you gonna just AM that? Hell no, and if you do you'd better expect that kid to take it as a signal that you want to play too. Most likely you're gonna communicate, one way or another, that now is not the time. If the juice of AM'ing 100% of tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 10:44 PM
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Well done. And to expand a little, there is a chance that eventually she may stop acting like any little thing that goes wrong is the end of the world. This of course come with consistency in dealing with problems swiftly and calmly. Keep it up! Sounds to me like you telling her to shut the fuck up about it came more from a frame of not wanting to be on vacation with a negative nancy, and not that she was making you feel bad/causing anxiety. Not a bad thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 07:50 PM
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Which is it? So I just been letting go. Acting like it’s just another day. But my mind can’t help but creep in with hypergamic thoughts. “Hot girls. Mexico. Alcohol. Hit on Insecurity. Fuck this”....So I just been staying busy. Yes my concern isn’t her cheating. Whether you're full of shit or not, and you are btw, you're still balls deep in her frame. And that's the main issue here. You worrying about her "begging for comfort" and how to respond is no different than sitting around worrying about…
/r/askMRP03/12/18 09:57 PM
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Ok, so what have you learned about the laws of attraction, specifically your availability to her, and how are you exercising this knowledge? Do you want to be the guy she (or any other woman) can get ahold of, at any hour of the day, for this kindda shit? You're answering now bc you're worried she's catching some strange dick. But how would you view this if she was just home alone (read: bored/hamstering) doing the same thing? Would you take time from your work to reassure her you're her good li…
/r/askMRP03/12/18 03:20 PM
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You're insecure as fuck. Stop acting busy and start being busy...with something other than hamstering what she may or may not do. She'll either cheat, or she won't. Get over it, quit worrying about it, and deal with it only if/when some red flags or a trickle truth comes out.
/r/askMRP03/12/18 01:45 PM
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lmao!
/r/askMRP01/12/18 06:04 PM
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The DT author doesn't, from time to time, enjoy a good game of chess where the pieces have a pulse?
/r/askMRP01/12/18 12:37 AM
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In my experience, the game is called "how hard can I get him to fuck me?" She doesn't give the signals, per say, but instead gets very cold and shitty for no reason at all. Won't soften up when I crack a joke, and does not come around when I start withdrawing attention. I cracked the code when I gave a half assed initiation attempt early one morning. She hard no'd and I got up to get around for work. She was shiiiiitty the rest of the day, in spite of my bubbly mood. Later that night she tried a…
/r/askMRP01/12/18 12:08 AM
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Those replies are usually little tests of frame to see how much work has been done. If an internet stranger can make you DEER or lose your shit...then there's a really good chance that person is even worst with his wife. Anyway, take a breath and relax. Her bad day is not your problem to solve. Listen, actively, and validate those feelz. Then do something fun/relaxing with her. There's no perfect string of words you need to memorize and recite here.
/r/askMRP24/11/18 05:26 AM
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It's a doubled edged sword, huh? One I know all too well. The "fix" is hitting reset and being regular ol' fun guy. On the otherhand, I wouldn't spend any time or energy on someone else acting the way she does. Seems like a sacrafice of self respect. I always opt to withdraw time/attention until she softens. If my sex drive picks up before then, she gets hammered like a ONS. No cuddles. No pillow talk afterward. Just smash and go to sleep lol
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/18 02:46 AM
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Same boat. Keeping you around/pleasing you is her motivation.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 09:35 PM
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Do you even know what changes you're wanting to work toward?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 11:24 PM
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That right there is why I haven’t put in the amount of effort that is needed. You have this backwards. "That right there" is the result of not putting in the effort. You also seem to be trying to run a MAP backwards as well, and for all the wrong reasons. You will still be hinging yourself and your sucesses on other people (not becoming your own mental point of origin). You know what you think you want, but no clear vision of what that looks like or what you need to improve to start working towa…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 07:45 PM
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Your wife LOVES status quo. Why do you think she loves it so much? Because it is far easier for a woman to hang out with status quo, than a high value man who is always on the move, changing, growing and as a result - she has to keep up. Take heed, readers. Especially those of you with a LSE shrew of a FO. She doesn't want to keep up, but she doesn't want to lose her HV man either. Ask me how I know... matrixofspartan's comment in this thread is the only real sound advice for "dealing with" this…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/18 05:45 PM
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Something you need to understand, though, is that she is into it. And she did enjoy it with you. This is a test. It will happen again. Don't let up and don't back down. Next time she starts with it again, if it's possible, pick her up and carry her to bed. Or better yet, rip her cloths off and fuck her where she stands. If kids/reasons make it not possible at that moment, laugh it off ("That's not true, I think about anal/bj's sometimes too" is a fucking great line at this point), interrupt her …
/r/askMRP09/11/18 11:52 PM
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Lotta talk about your feelings here...faggot.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 01:36 AM
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Read up on your weaknesses, not strengths. I suggest: Total Money Makeover - David Ramsey The Bogleheads' Guide to Retirement Planning How to Make Money in Stocks - William J. O'Neil
/r/askMRP09/11/18 01:22 AM
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You've been around for a year, and still ask us how you should live your life? I think you're missing the point.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 12:54 AM
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"take the sex and enjoy it" ?? I mean, enjoy it, sure. But conditioning her to chores leading to sex is horrible advice. How about conditioning her to the fucking caveman when "she doles out" instead. By the time OP gets his business up and running, and finds his inner fun-guy, she'll be taking commands from him when he chooses.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 04:57 AM
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Right on man. Just makin sure you recognize it, which is half the battle. You gotta realize that's your kid too, without going out of your way to make a point of it. It can be a tough balancing act especially when you're still being heavily tested. But it does sound like you have a vision and a plan, stay the course. (re)Read up on the anger phase and women's nature (Rollo, PFP).
/r/askMRP04/11/18 04:46 AM
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She knows I'm bullshitting myself. It's not natural. I have to force it. I'll reset and add more cocky funny. Experiment with it and see what she likes best, because this is all still for her, afterall. ftfy
/r/askMRP03/11/18 03:55 AM
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I'm not even trying to pull the cocky funny anything right now because I'm not good at it. At least not with her. Why's it any different with her?
/r/askMRP03/11/18 12:24 AM
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Well wtf you waiting for then?
/r/askMRP02/11/18 08:28 PM
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Great pressure flip.
/r/askMRP01/11/18 06:40 PM
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Start With Why by Simon Sinek Free audiobook on Youtube even...
/r/askMRP31/10/18 01:16 AM
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If you haven't read Practical Female Psychology yet, you should. Sounds like you, too, have a low self esteem good girl on your hands. IME, it can change. Heavy dread will get her there, but once she starts getting out of her comfort zone the dread can start to be counterproductive. Leadership trumps dread at that point. It's up to you to decide if the juice is worth the squeeze though, and YMMV.
/r/askMRP27/10/18 02:08 PM
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My understanding is that MRP would encourage me not to bring up these old points. what's done is done. Live in my frame, and let her come to me, if she ever does. There's the what and the why all wrapped up nicely. I'd add not to bring up the old points because it's what you allowed, it's not her fault you listened to her words and took the time to build a shed. Can you "lol" at this story yet? From the outside looking in, I can. If you can't yet, you still have some anger to deal with. However,…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 02:26 PM
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writing checks their dicks can’t cash. lmao!! My alligator mouth/bumble bee ass metaphor just got replaced with this one
/r/askMRP20/10/18 10:49 PM
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"We" will figure it out?? I know what you meant, but try to avoid that "we" shit in situations like this. "I will take care of it." Don't tell her shit like "Don't take it out on everyone there" either. Lead her emotions instead. I'm fresh outta garage door fucking up the car trunk jokes to give an example...but crack a joke, make lite of the situation, somethin to shift her emotions from mad/guilty to giggly/it's not my fault/damn he's unphased I wanna suck him dry right now....you get the pict…
/r/askMRP20/10/18 06:55 PM
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They call MRP red pill on hard mode. You see wifey 6-8 days a month, so you're already on super hard mode. But after this response, expect it to be near-impossible mode...at least when it comes to getting advice. Good luck faggot.
/r/askMRP20/10/18 06:48 PM
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Does the black market have a stock exchange?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/18 02:45 AM
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Don't get too hung up on "appropriate responses" and all that just yet. Start by doing things around the house that you want to get done, vehicle maintenence, household chores...whatever. If you see it needs done, just do it and shut the fuck up about it. When she asks you to do something, first decide if you think it needs done. If it's a good idea, do it. If not, don't. Just be cautious here. There's a difference between a bad idea and a good idea that your ego doesn't like. That'd be a good p…
/r/askMRP19/10/18 12:26 AM
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The nuts and bolts of it is, she's acting shitty because the role of family leader has been left open. For awhile I'm guessing. She's not happy about filling the role while you eat your eggs and direct your anger at her, instead of yourself. That's your reality right now. That's where you start. Keep reading. Keep looking for opportunities to exercise what you've read. Keep asking questions here when you get stuck, but only after you've tried, failed, and tried again. Stick with it long enough a…
/r/askMRP18/10/18 10:58 PM
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I have more questions than answers now lol
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 10:06 PM
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TLDR - I made a decision this morning and I'm worried mommy's still gonna be mad when I get home. Help!! 1) It ain't about the lunch kits man. 2) I have a feeling silence was better than anything that would've came out of your mouth at the time. You're still a fag though. 3) Go home and deal with it you fucking bitch. 4) Lighten the fuck up.
/r/askMRP18/10/18 10:00 PM
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Sometimes you noobs really just overthink shit. The last couple of days have been over the top with this kindda bullshit
/r/askMRP18/10/18 09:45 PM
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Turning down the bj would be an ok power move. But if you REALLY wanna show the bitch, farm her monthly bj out to a dude. That'd show her who the fuck is in charge! /s (I put this here because you might actually be retarded enough to take this seriously.)
/r/askMRP18/10/18 09:44 PM
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Pure curiousity here, what's a SJW?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 09:17 PM
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Step back and take a look at the bigger picture here. Do you see how you could've avoided the shitstorm "about the chips" in the first place? Do you think you could listen to your wife unload her stresses of the morning and relax on your lunch break, all at the same time? If the answer is no (which it is, so save the bullshit) why do you think that is? When you noticed the house was cleaner than it had been in awhile, was "ah-ha!! I'm winning" the only thought in your head? Did you say anything …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 09:13 PM
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Now you have a clear path forward. This has been the size 12 on my dick the whole time, at least at home. Your butthurt was showing through, and she could see it. They always do. Work on your OI. This is where the FR would be nice, as far as the sexual strategy side of RP goes anyway. She was expecting butthurt, but didn't get it. I actually almost didn't go home at all on break, figuring even if it was a soft no she'd still be too distracted to really enjoy it with me. Not that it's a bad thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 06:50 PM
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I'm a little suprised by all the cheerleading goin on for OP in this thread, honestly. He said himself in one of his comments he dumped her cuz it was "too hard" ...oh well, not my problem I s'pose
/r/askMRP18/10/18 03:36 PM
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You can also make the insignificant shit seem difficult by being a little bitch about it.
/r/askMRP18/10/18 01:58 PM
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Sounds like you made a strong move from a weak position. I'm curious to see how this plays out... *edit - I was gonna take it easy on you, but fts. This ain't Facebook. And just because you're acting like a bitch, it doesn't make you a woman. Keep this "wah wah make me feel better about the decisions I make" bullshit outta here. Or at least put shit like this: I couldn’t take the nagging. I couldn’t put up with her. it was too hard to juggle her and all my other shit going on in the original pos…
/r/askMRP17/10/18 10:34 PM
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lse/ld end of the spectrum, but that could be me putting blame on her. I'll ask you the same thing Persaeus asked me not too long ago, has she always been this way or has it changed over the years? Is she the same around other people as she is to you? It very well could be her personality type, and you guys are just growing apart. It could be she has checked out, hence the non-response to dread while daughter clearly sees it. It could be a lot of things you have no control over. Or, you could be…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/18 09:24 PM
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Sounds like you're making some good strides everywhere except with your wife. Are you lacking the confidence to try gaming your wife? Loss of desire for her? What's holding you back at home? You gotta understand, your wife is in mommy mode and probably grieving all at the same time, all hours of the day. It sounds like you may still be expecting her to come home from doing all that and then take the lead in the relationship as well. Just throwing darts in the dark here. There's a reason young ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/18 06:58 PM
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True. But companies like Canopy Growth, Canaroyalty, Aurora and several others could end up taking off now that the legal side is covered. I'm not goin all in, but I'm def gettin in close to the ground floor. Better than checking stock prices a year later, seeing they've doubled, and kicking myself in the ass for having no balls lol
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/18 01:41 PM
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Reading Haven't read much more of Practical Female Psychology this week. Been too busy working, having a good time, and getting some much needed rest. Fuck You Position With Canada having a big day tomorrow (wrote this on the 16th) n all, I made some investments with some savings money. I also filed the paperwork for my 401k so I can add stocks to my portfolio as well. I heard about this a little late in the game (the 15th, to be exact), so by the time the paperwork gets processed everything I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/18 12:44 PM
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think about the disservice you're doing to yourself by pearl clutching for your fragile ego. This is fucking golden man, and anyone struggling with this concept needs to pay attention. This mindset is a game changer. It wasn't word for word, but this was your advice to me in the PM a couple weeks back. Took a few more days for me to get the fuck over myself, but acting from this mindset since then has proved to be invalueable. This shit right here is the skeleton key to every door in the buildin…
/r/askMRP15/10/18 12:50 PM
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The area I always get stuck is sometimes you do have to say something if she’s totally disrespectful and crosses the line. In other words, sometimes you do need to give a fuck. Do you have any insight on that Our lines are our lines, and when she crosses them we still have every right to speak up. Even if, by the textbook, speaking up will dry her up (in that moment), she'll ultimately respect you for respecting yourself. And with enough time it'll be water under the bridge anyway and you can ge…
/r/askMRP15/10/18 12:43 PM
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Coming from Red Pill Rambo, that's exactly what it means...trying to improve everything at once. Too many irons in the fire will get you there eventually, but you'll make it even harder on yourself and it still takes just as much time as if you were to move 1 step at a time. Enjoy the process, instead.
/r/askMRP14/10/18 03:36 AM
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Her actions speak louder than words. How about the act of texting another dude during the entire movie? Telling you they plan to do edibles in a fucking hotel room together and "watch their favorite movie"? That sayin anything to you? Have some self respect man.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 12:49 PM
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Reading Prac. Fem. Psych. atm, and holy shit. It's tying a lot of things together for me. I should've read this sooner. In short, she is far more feminine than I expected, even when I think she's acting like a "dude with tits." The "Mrs. Independent" talk I've been hearing lately, for example, could be 1 of 2 things. She's either fighting herself from looking at me as the provider, to maintain her sexual attraction. And/or a direct response to the ever growing realization that I don't need her a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/18 10:12 PM
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How similar are your initiations with wife to the hottie in the office? And did you decide to start spinning plates, or did you let your wife make that decision for you? If you get caught will you blame her, or own it as your decision? I ask, because your last sentence is you hamstering why your wife seems to be willing to put in the effort. That's not to say you are wrong in your assumption, but the why of it really shouldn't matter. She's following, even if it is only checking boxes off your l…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 12:51 PM
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You should spend some time scrolling through r/marriedredpill. Read everything that has a [FR] in the title. Then, head over to r/deadbedrooms and take a look into that crystal ball. If ya end up back here, read the sidebar and the books in it before you ask another stupid ass question like this one.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 10:43 PM
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is this a description of who she is or what she does and how she behaves towards you? was she always like this or has she changed in this way? She has always been this way, though I was the dude PFP described when we met as well. you'll also need to really reflect on what hole or gap in your life you're trying to feel with companionship from a more feminine woman. in particular, is this a gap you should really be filling with more strong masculine life on your own part? Maybe so. I'll have to th…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/18 07:15 PM
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I could ramble and give examples til my thumbs start to bleed, but it really comes down to...she's not very feminine. Like a dude with tits, as Stoney would say. She's a great life partner, responsible with money, keeps a clean house, raises the boys the way boys should be raised (imo). Just not a good lover/companion.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 05:57 PM
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How did things work out when you did talk about it? I'm throwing noodles at the wall here, but overthinking it to get to a more "secure place" may hinder you instead of help. You know what you want, let it be known. It really can be that simple once you drown out all the other noise in your head. You've said yourself that what you're trying now isn't working, afterall. [edit]: I misunderstood at first read, and see now that you meant the talking didn't work.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 12:49 PM
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Also, I'm considering if I should do like wife do and "play by the rules",for example invite neighbors for BBQ or coffe and flirt subtly or just be nice and friendly OR if I should go all in and try to fuck some French exchange student or whatnot, i.e. spin plates behind her back. I'd say, try it. Women give off enough subcom. that she'll still feelz some dread. So you're not missing out there. Maybe she'll respond well, maybe not at all. Never know til ya try.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 01:05 AM
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Why not just tell her what you're looking for in a partner? Say it, then stick to your point while she tries to stuff words in your mouth and derail you. It may be a touchy subject, but the rules of verbal intercourse are the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 12:54 AM
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I'm about 75% of the way there, but I still step out of frame too often with the kids. Meditation will help me here, so I need to step that up. What may help more is confidence, built up from experience. And a clear vision of why you're punishing/rewarding. Are you taking away privleges because they're getting under your skin, or are you setting a path for them to follow to become confident, productive adults? Knowing your deeper reason for doing what you do makes it much easier to settle into y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 09:42 PM
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Hope for you, yeah. She may or may not follow along. What a waste of a victim puke... get to work.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 09:17 PM
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Operation: Fuck You Position Progressing nicely. Side business season is underway, picked up a few more clients this season so there's good money to be made. Good chance to knock out some debt, invest in the 401k, and plan a vacation. I'll be bidding on another client next year. Big client. If I get the bid, and can continue to outbid the rest for the next few years, I will have the mortgage paid in full within 3 years time. So that's exciting. 401k is growing and growing. Nowhere close to early…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 06:16 PM
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Sounds like it's worth the time, I'll check it out.
/r/askMRP01/10/18 06:46 PM
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Like anything else, jump right in or build it up. I never spoke to some random woman, let alone fucked, before I started internalizing abundance. Eye contact goes a long way. Not that "Sorry ma'am, didn't mean to look at you that way" bullshit either
/r/askMRP29/09/18 03:24 AM
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It's buried, deeeeep, in the "I see where I failed." I wanted to enjoy my time with my wife. The want wasn't bad, but hinging it on her became my problem. I started to miss the companionship. It's been more off than on for the last few weeks, and I was doing good at auto-pilot withdraw up until the weekend anyway. Toward the end of this passed weekend I started letting it get to me, and that's when I started fucking up mentally. Luckily, I kept most of that in check with my verbal communication.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/18 06:56 PM
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Huge mistake. If she says she wants out, the answer is always “the door is right there.” OP pay attention to all of what BobbyP said, but especially this. ANYTIME ANYONE threatens to walk out of your life, this is the answer. Say it word for word if ya gotta fake it til you make it. If you truely get to this point, there are a number of ways it can be communicated. Now, unfortunately, it won't be affective...being that you flat out asked her what you can do to make her happy, sacraficed your map…
/r/askMRP27/09/18 06:43 PM
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It's what I'd rather do, and have been doing. I also see how it's feeding the negative loop. Just a little stuck between my short game and long game vision's right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 12:50 PM
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Due for one of these right about now, it's been awhile. The "problem" I'm working through is I don't enjoy spending time with my wife, at the moment. She's had stuff going on within herself over the last few weeks, has taken action on it, and is most likely experiencing a lot of anxiety/insecurity over it...this much I've come to understand. She also has done very well at walling up and keeping me at a distance to "figure it out on her own", this coming in the form of snapping at me when asked a…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 08:31 PM
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Fuck dude, that linked post was exactly what I needed to read right now.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 06:40 PM
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or worse yet... fear mongeing faggot This stung a bit. I have no doubt this is the perception, at times. And I can understand why, as well. I also know it's not my intent (I now see the deeper meaning to u/weakandsensitive 's comment about how something can be flagrant, but not inherently malicious). My moments of showing anger and discontent are the same as smiling/laughing when I see/hear something funny. I just own it as my current mood, and know it will pass. Make my peace, learn my lesson, …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/18 08:46 PM
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you haven't internalized jack. Except what people, and "especially women", think of him
/r/askMRP23/09/18 03:48 PM
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The parenting change? Or breaking plans?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/18 03:31 PM
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A better perception of the situation is a precursor to a “main event”... What is it, a week later, and you were spot on with this. I was onto it at the time, but couldn't say for sure. Main event came tonight after backing out of plans to go do my own thing. A (implemented) change in parenting sparked it. Seems to be the trend too over the last year and a half. Something new takes hold and there's pushback. Good eye! I take it you've been there a time or 2? lol
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/18 04:50 AM
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societal influences This could also just be the catalyst. Look at the ways they try to get what they want, or reaffirm what they have (e.g. shit testing). We see it for what it is, and it makes sense. But, it's usually subconscious for them. That behavior is in their nature. They (verbally) hate our smartass responses, but their body gets wetter than fish pussy. Their only tool is manipulation. Make a scene, get angry, cry, scream...whatever the case. And it's win-win for them. They either trigg…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 09:22 PM
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For sure, the mindfuckery that goes on here is incredible. I've had it happen to me, and I watch the same guys do it to others. Leading questions, baited statements...it's pretty fasinating really. In the end, I think most have to get there on their own for the changes to be organic. But those subliminal nudges definitely help get the ball rolling though. It's interesting how that all worked out for ya too. Could've been much different if she never seen the email. Did you end up telling her you …
/r/askMRP20/09/18 08:38 PM
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Now if she cheats on the RP me or I even think there's inappropriate shit going on then she gets paper's without even a discussion as I don't have time for that drama in my life. It would be met with a "meh, turns over" and I'd replace her with two half her age in a fortnight. What I'm talking about is all sematics, really. But what you said here is basically saying that you'll hold her accountable for her actions, via your own actions of filing and moving on with your life. It's a solid gold mi…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 06:52 PM
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I have no patience nor sympathy for people who are surprised by the obvious. Agreed, we took 2 different highways to end up at the same destination. I'd still say "what'd you expect?" to the guys that I don't think deserved it. This has made me realize I view [masculine] men as a notch above women. I'm not real sure what, if anything, to do with this info yet, other than gnaw on it a bit...see where this wormhole goes lol
/r/askMRP20/09/18 05:26 PM
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I agree it's to be expected, even understandable. IMO, though, for the man to "deserve" it would require the woman to tell him "I'm not attracted to you because you're a [x, y, z] piece of shit." Which they won't, for the most part, because they want us to "just get it" and all that other women's nature stuff. Same as us telling men here, posting about weighing the options of cheating. A lot of the responses lean toward "have you tried leading her to a healthier lifestyle? Have you told her she'…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 04:44 PM
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"...deserve to be cheated on..." Is this just something we tell men here to mindfuck them into OYS? Or do you really believe this? Same for "the oldest teenager in the house". A good trick we tell ourselves in the beginning so we can quit taking their bs so seriously/personally. But there's a reason men here will say they'll file papers if they ever get cheated on. Don't hear any saying "I mean, if she cheats I guess I deserved it one way or another/it was just her lizard brain. No biggy, she ca…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 03:37 PM
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Sounds more like the epitome of abundance mentality than ego protection, to me anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 02:10 PM
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OP has 2 questions: [states he needs to play catch up] ... "Do you all agree?" Obvious answer. and: "What are the odds my wife is going to serve me papers?" How is trying to sort out his wife's mixed signals going to help him in this situation? OP needs to get out of his wife's head, the fuck off reddit and into a lawyers office to start a divorce MAP asap, whether it's him or her that pulls the plug. Either way, he needs a plan...a vision for his future, with or without her. If you wanna take t…
/r/askMRP18/09/18 02:15 PM
1

Did you do that powerlifting comp yet?
/r/askMRP18/09/18 12:05 AM
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Great update on your hamster's thoughts about your wife's hamster.
/r/askMRP17/09/18 11:32 PM
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I used to be you. Hell, I can say everything you've just said about my wife still...minus all the being angry about it shit. And that's just it. That's the secret. It's not about changing her behaviors, it's about changing yourself and your reaction to those behaviors. You don't withdraw time and attention to change her behavior. You withdraw because her behavior isn't worth your time or attention. Pull back. let her hamster do its thing. Come back like nothing happend and start opening doors fo…
/r/askMRP17/09/18 02:28 AM
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And angry he doesn't have the balls to leave her, as well.
/r/askMRP17/09/18 01:44 AM
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...with my new understanding of women in mind that didn't seem to be their goal. Does the term plausible deniability ring a bell? More importantly though, stop thinking about what women are thinking about!
/r/askMRP14/09/18 04:38 PM
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It's easy to overthink. Even easier when you're trying to please everyone in the process. Take a breath. Pick something, anything, and envision yourself having fun with your family doing said activity. If you can see it, then tell em to load up and go make it happen. You don't have to lay out a play by play of how it's going to go, or even where you're going to go, either. Part of the fun, for them, is wondering where you're taking them on the way there. For general leadership skills stuff, Simo…
/r/askMRP13/09/18 01:41 AM
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lol word! Not the case this time around though, but then again I didn't get shitty to get my dick sucked. If she dries up for a few days, but doesn't resort to shitty parenting just to push buttons for another 12 + years, then all is well in my book.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 10:41 PM
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who gives a shit? This thought stops me from sharing "learning moments" here all the time. It's the same reason that when I do, I leave out a lot of the fine details. In the grand scheme, the events are meaningless. Tomorrow's a new day. Hell, a day can be turned around in hours or minutes depending on your ability to learn from it, let it go, and move on. It's the lessons learned that hold the value. But I know what I was looking for as a new guy here. Real life accounts of this stuff in action…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 04:27 PM
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My .02 for whatever that's worth to you. I always look forward to it. Even when I don't agree, it's still a great reminder that the nature of things depends on perception. And, that I have no control over the former, but do have the ability to change the latter.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 02:15 PM
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This: You will make mistakes. You will fuck up. You will fail. this... Never set the bar so impossibly high that you cannot get over it. this... butch up, and move on. and the added point that there is a place for [controlled] anger, were the main driving points I was trying to make for the newbies when I decided to share this. Seems like they come in with the sentiment that anger = bad and those of us that have been at this for awhile never get angry. But I'm also always open to input, so when …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 11:58 PM
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Let's assume it was flagrant (I don't want to write her autobiography any more than you want to read it). Is a bit of a spanking still the recommended Rx in that case? WWW&SD?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 10:58 PM
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Or how many times thereafter if I were to make lite of it and laugh it off. It's a non-negotiable, no-fly zone for me, this much was made clear. I've also seen u/weakandsensitive has commented, I just haven't got to it yet. He's been notorious for making me rethink boundries in the past that, at the time, seemed pretty hard. We'll see what happens here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 08:31 PM
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Think more BPD on the AWALT spectrum in this case. She's actually extremely insecure, about herself and the relationship. Extremely. And she's prone to self-fulfilling prophecies. Over the years I've seen, scattered throughout the comments sections, that things may be a little different when it comes to BPD/ish women. I just never looked into it for, reasons. Maybe this will open the door for more discussion. If not, that's cool too.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:59 PM
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I was a black belt in the dark arts long before I found this place and realized what it was. And I have to say, it looks much better on a Gi than it did on diapers. I hear you man, and sincerely appreciate the heads up. I too have a mind for war, and this is one thing I won't waiver on. I have no interest in raising kids alongside a person who will knowingly weaponize them, to any degree, as a play. It's horrible for the kids, shit parenting, and not a trait I want to see in the people I surroun…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 06:54 PM
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The consequence, this time, was feeling my anger followed by getting none of my time or attention. I cannot, and will not, say for sure that the very next time will lead to her becoming Ms. MaidenName...but if she decides to cross it too many more times, or tries to find other ways to involve the kids, it will be the outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:11 PM
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Ok, I see now where I omitted some relevant details. It wasn't cheering on, but yelling his name to get his attention. "Bubby, [inaudible 3 year old rambling]. Bubby. Bubby! BUBBY!!" That was when I told him not to talk to bubby while he's playing. Followed by her pointing back to the fence where he was standing in the first place and said go tell bubby to hit the ball. That alone, even, would have led to nothing more than a conversation between the wife and I. It was the flagrance of it, she ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:06 PM
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Not at all. I get what you're saying too, but that wasn't the issue here. If you're interested and we're just having a conversation here I can go into more detail. I'm not gonna DEER just to get my point across though. I respect the hell outta ya, from what I know of you on here anyway, but I don't need your stamp of approval on this one. I know where I faulted and I'm good with how I handled the rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:53 PM
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I'm interested to see your take, so for you I will. Kid's 3, we were at my oldest son's tennis match. He was serving and we were about 3 feet behind him on the bleachers. My 3 year old started yelling at him through the fence, calling him by his nickname, bubby. "Don't talk to bubby while he's playing, he's gotta concentrate" was what I told him, verbatim, and about as nonaggressively as it gets. In other words, I wasn't scolding him for it. She (who's sitting right next to me, clearly heard it)…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:21 PM
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...but I can't get my fucking brain to come up with even a halfway decent response and the conversation always dies. Sounds like you neeed it a little more than you let on. Have fun with it and stop putting so much weight on getting nudes.
/r/askMRP07/09/18 11:53 AM
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I figured it was somethin like that. Sounds like a real boner killer... Just remember, for every 1 that won't there's 10 that will.
/r/askMRP07/09/18 11:43 AM
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Just curious here, but have you just drug her to bed/tried ripping cloths off on the spot? If so, what happens after?
/r/askMRP06/09/18 04:33 PM
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NMMNG, and namely covert contracts...for now. u/UEMcGill gave you great advice for the other side of the coin. But basically, clean the house because you want a clean house. Try not to resent her for not living up to your expectations, whether you've communicated them or not. Easier said than done, at first, but keep at it until you don't even have to think about it. Start there, and keep reading/applying. Moving forward, try making decisions and dealing with the consequences (negative or positi…
/r/askMRP05/09/18 02:20 PM
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If only there was a book we could recommend to people like you... Mods, could you guys put up some info in the sidebar please?
/r/askMRP05/09/18 02:09 AM
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I learned a lot from you under the Gargan- handle, but I couldn't remember a single comment if my life depended on it. You're advice and shared experience is a part of the man I am today. For that, I thank you. Have fun out there, brother!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 02:04 AM
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...just noticing... It's a double edged sword, one I had a hard time figuring out how to grip as well. It served me best to figure out how to leverage it vs. just looking at it with amusement (hell who am I kidding, a lot of resentment as well). These road blocks are really just you standing in your own way, man. If you choose to, when you catch yourself observing these things, consciously remind yourself to stay on track. Acknowledge it for what it is, have your chuckle, then hatch a plan and s…
/r/askMRP04/09/18 06:50 PM
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While I have her figured out, one big question is how shall I go about handling the transition to being separated from my daughter? You could've had the latter figured out if you weren't so concerned about the former. You continue to bullshit yourself, and consequently all of us as well.
/r/askMRP04/09/18 02:01 PM
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Ah, the ol' roadkill in the fridge test! I bought 4 new fridges before I learned to pass this one. We've all been there bro. AWALT, amiright?!
/r/askMRP30/08/18 06:41 PM
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You already have your answer. But, to highlight, her suggesting a LDR = you don't have the balls to kill the puppy and I don't want blood on my hands. It's the beginning of the end. Send her on her way. And if she stays, don't put up with any of that "I stayed here for you..." bs. It'd be her decision, not your problem. You won't owe her jack shit.
/r/askMRP30/08/18 06:39 PM
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...manipulative, more emotional rollercoaster... I do the light hearted shit too, but what you're talking about here is my cup of tea. When she's trying to schedule sex (but lazy af about it) it's almost a guarantee that I'll play this game..."...meh, not now. We'll see how tonight goes", "...if you play your cards right" or "what makes you think you deserve any of this dick?" My wife, like clockwork, goes through these spells every month where she's super anxious, disconnected, cold and general…
/r/askMRP30/08/18 02:58 AM
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Think of the sidebar material on women's nature as a list of cheatcodes. These aren't things you're "supposed" to do...but rather things you can do to have fun with her, get a good sexual response, and keep things generally spiced up and interesting for the both of you... + what everyone else has said about "arguing" from your frame/push-pull When I have time, I'll post a FR on the main sub with an example of this. Just had a little fun with it myself the other day.
/r/askMRP26/08/18 03:55 PM
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As far as the work gossip goes, nothing wrong with an honest "I really don't care." But, it could also make for good practice on guiding conversations and sharpening your smart-assery I talk less and less to the wife. When she disappoints me in some way, I just stop talking. Again, you could play this another way and pull her out of her shitty frame and into yours. But, I also fully understand that sometimes the juice ain't worth the squeeze. As long as you keep busy and don't just mope around..…
/r/askMRP25/08/18 02:16 PM
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Thinking about frame, in order to build frame, can be like someone telling you "don't think about purple elephants." Having been there myself, I can tell you eventually you'll get there. And about 1,000 times along the way you'll think "holy shit, I made it!" ...just to lose your shit over something stupid a few days later. Learn to love the process, not the finished product. There may come a day when you'll miss the discord and/or the thrill of a suprise.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 11:11 PM
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It ain't about the oil dude. She might be sick of people asking if she lesbian, being with a big ol bitch like you. Until you read NMMNG, my only advice to you is: quit being a big ol bitch.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 11:00 PM
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Could just be poor vetting too. I know we're to assume AWALT around here...but we all know they vary. My wife is most enthusiastic after I've been playing with my DT traits pretty heavily. Her hysterical bonding is how some other women initiate everytime they wanna get off. There are several reasons behind this, I know. But the point is, every woman will not respond the same to a masculine man. u/helaughsinhidden is right too though. The fly is OP's expectations, and his response (even if it is …
/r/askMRP23/08/18 06:44 PM
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Balancing what I want in the moment with the "type of dude I want to be" and how it fits into my long game. Namely, Jesse's girl.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 02:03 PM
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in other words, if a dick falls in the forest and no one there is to see it why do you care? This is fucking hilarious! I'll be using this phrase in the future
/r/askMRP23/08/18 02:00 PM
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Sad thing is, he doesn't even need a Shelly. Just needs to A) fuck her like he wants to while B) realizing her "I can't even think about sex rn" is just her ASD for wanting to get piped down this soon after her loss. Or maybe getting fucked is just an escape from her pain? Doesn't matter...she's still dtf, Nancy Pants just can't pull himself outta her frame long enough to initiate it.
/r/askMRP21/08/18 08:09 PM
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Now tell me how to change them when my FO is grieving. lol you're the worst, Steve
/r/askMRP21/08/18 06:59 PM
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FOs need leadership while grieving. How is supressing your needs leading? How is sitting around waiting for her to make the move leading? How is reactively trying to fix her feelings leading? Or are alphas supposed to provide comfort sometimes ? You've been here far too long for a dumbass question like this.
/r/askMRP21/08/18 06:50 PM
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Jesus Steve...all this time and still at square 1? She, she, she.... I'm not breaking down your steaming pile of shit, re-read it and pick out all the incongruence for yourself. Watch what they do, not what they say ffs. She had 3 O's and verbally tells you she likes it when you fuck her hard....and you still can't find the balls to initiate when you want? No wonder you feel like a beta bitch...
/r/askMRP21/08/18 06:35 PM
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The issue is in your other comment, "could not detatch from STBX." It's not really an issue (edit: the fact you owned it, though, is a good start.), but it's one of those "pings" you wanna pay attention to and (I'm assuming you want you) work through it. You've had a million of these pings in your lifetime, and you've gotten comfortable with quick fix soothes to the anxiety they bring. The men here thrive in that anxiety. We did it by reading the sidebar material and took action in one form or a…
/r/askMRP20/08/18 01:44 AM
1

I do this, often without even intending to. When the "man projects" are at a standstill I focus that energy on keeping the house up. She almost always gets shitty and for the longest time I couldn't figure out why. Then I caught on. She would get shitty, but the next day she starts going hog wild on housework. And I usually get an unrequested rundown of all the work she did too ("look what I did, Daddy!") It was a game changer when I recognized this. Nonverbal cues like this send a stronger mess…
/r/askMRP16/08/18 02:30 PM
2

What's the difference between a "display of anger" and an "imposed consequence", if the consequence is coming from anger? Are you talking flipping tables vs. withdrawing attention?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 09:21 PM
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You can worry about her getting some feelz from this dude, or you can capitalize on it. It's all about how you frame it. When my wife went back to school, there was a "pretty alpha dude" there as well. The few times I went in to help her get some credits, I seen firsthand what kind of feelz she was catching. Nothing sexual, but everything that came outta dude's mouth was smooth as eggs. Pre MRP, I would've been an anxious wreck. But instead I just rolled with it. As soon as she walked in the doo…
/r/askMRP14/08/18 06:57 PM
2

I lift. It's not like I can drag them into my car. Which is it?
/r/askMRP14/08/18 06:31 PM
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That's a good distinction, one I will keep in mind. But even still, the point is the same. It is neither our fault the horse doesn't drink, nor our responsibility to shove its face into the lake. If it chooses to dehydrate while we're water logged, then that's the choice it makes.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 02:18 PM
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Not sure why this was downvoted, not that it matters. Would've loved to see the opposing view though. Usually I'm a fan of "assume it's my fault." But what I'm personally learning is the old saying, "you can lead a horse to water...", holds true as well. What these dudes do with their wives, I could care less. But I'm with ya on this one...there's gotta be a point where we quit shouldering the blame and start figuring out what we need to do to live the life we wanna live, with or without her. At…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 12:22 AM
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What is the redpill version of increasing your value for friendship? Imo, it's all the same...friendships and relationships. I have a pretty new friend that has complained about his old buddies never coming around, not staying in touch and so on. It was pretty off putting when he started in on me with the whole "I never hear from ya" bs. Comes across as needy and makes even the thought of hanging out with him exhausting. I also have lifelong friends that go MONTHS without hearing a word from me.…
/r/askMRP13/08/18 04:35 PM
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if you can't deal with that fact, you should probably not be in an LTR. Golden advice right here
/r/askMRP13/08/18 04:28 PM
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Lol Hell no she won't admit it, it would make blaming your cheating for her shitty behavior from here on out a lot less effective. Hook, line, and sinker...she ran a good game on ya, sucker.
/r/askMRP13/08/18 02:15 PM
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Sounds like she wants to be Taken. If you're not Liam Neilson, it's cool. Have fun with some catch & release.
/r/askMRP13/08/18 02:05 AM
1

Give less fucks, like the others have said, but also give 48 Laws of Power a read. Law 38 is the goldmine, but can feel like walking a tightrope in the beginning. Like anything else though, it becomes more natural with practice and patience. Cake and wolf shirts aren't bad ideas either.
/r/askMRP10/08/18 06:35 PM
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My best guess is he meant he will fuck his wife whenever he wants. But to answer the buried question, it doesn't much matter how you introduce it to your wife, so long as you know it's so. This isn't a parlor trick. You cannot string the perfect words together to make her either put out more or promise not to divorce rape you after you attend Fuck-Fest. You can only state a fact. What she does with that information is up to her. If she's already fucking you on the reg, however, it may be wise to…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 09:02 PM
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Why, at a time like this, are you worried about her hamster/emotions? Own your shit, dude.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 12:04 PM
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Your MAP still revolves around her. Change that.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 01:14 AM
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If you're not going to put in any effort to figure it out for yourself, then why do you expect me to waste my time spoon feeding you? Want my help? Put together a coherent, congruent thought and share that. We can go from there.
/r/askMRP24/07/18 04:31 PM
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No.
/r/askMRP24/07/18 02:13 PM
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You should steal the Tren from your hamster and start shooting it yourself
/r/askMRP23/07/18 02:45 AM
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..I think I have to have some sort of understanding... Do you think this is true? Or do you think it's what society expects you to think, and you'd be branded an inconsiderate asshole if you decided not to treat her special and cut her extra slack? And, why do you think her yelling is so disrespectful? Are you too sensitive? Do you take her bullshit too seriously? Or is she just an extra cunty woman?
/r/askMRP23/07/18 12:11 AM
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I don't think this was a main event. She's got you right where she wants you. Sitting at home, rearranging her shit, telling yourself you're a "real man" bc of it, and sharing your incoherent internal monolog about her with internet strangers....all while she's out getting fucked like she wishes you would do. Did you choose the cuck life? Or did the cuck life choose you?
/r/askMRP23/07/18 12:05 AM
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Wait...you've been reading books on manhood for 2 years and you still handle this shit like a teenage girl?
/r/askMRP17/07/18 10:01 PM
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And if you'd pay attention, you'd see that Mr. Thundercock (still can't type that without laughing) is saying "he's still in that situation from 4 years ago..." Expanded version is, because he has allowed it to continue for 4 years. What he gains, by splitting asap, is his fucking self respect back. He makes the decision that her behavior is no longer acceptable, and he lives his life congruently. Or...he can choose to try turning things around and get ragged on by the men here who see it for wh…
/r/askMRP17/07/18 03:46 AM
1

So how long until I pull the pin? If this is your end game, then why wait?
/r/askMRP17/07/18 03:36 AM
2

For me, the realization I only have 1 crack at this thing called life, and it could end at any moment. I'd rather spend as much of it having fun and being happy as humanly possible. Like u/SteelSharpensSteel said, it's all small stuff...and the small stuff can be as humorous as you make it. I still get mad, but it's not prolonged and it never affects my overall mood/worldview anymore.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 06:38 PM
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"She, she, she." Hard for her to follow you when your head is still shoved up her ass.
/r/askMRP07/07/18 05:41 PM
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Oh man... You're in a world of shit and your main concern is what the fucking fuck is going on with that woman? Slow the fuck down for a minute and think about what just happend....she walks in on you reading "Divorce for Dummies" and responds with some AMUSED Mastery. (Most women would lose their shit, even if they hate their husband). Next day she buys a new security system on "impulse"....what else do you suppose she did on impulse? $100 says he set it up and fucked the shit outta her while t…
/r/askMRP02/07/18 09:14 PM
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I'm getting another hunch that you're not here for a lesson on cutting through people's bullshit to see their real intentions. I'd gladly run that clinic if I'm wrong on this hunch too. If I'm wrong and he has nothing but good intentions, then my 2 cents is irrelevant. What's got your panties bunching up so much here?
/r/askMRP30/06/18 02:49 PM
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My hunch is OP wants 2 kids angry with mom when the custody hearing comes 'round. I may be wrong. And who gives a shit how hard he labored and tried to keep things peaceful. She, nor the rest of the world, owes OP jack shit. This is his situation now.
/r/askMRP30/06/18 02:05 PM
2

A blind squirrel leading another blind and crippled squirrel across the road. What could possibly go wrong?
/r/askMRP28/06/18 06:41 PM
1

"Woe is me" is all I see here. You're aware now, what's your plan?
/r/askMRP28/06/18 04:34 PM
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"This has totally fucked with my frame all week and has knocked me off my groove" What frame? You hate spending time with her, but you do it anyway. Where's the congruence? What other bullshit excuses do you have for staying? It's a slow day at work, I could use the entertainment.
/r/askMRP28/06/18 02:27 PM
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6 weeks in and you're already thinking about fresh pussy like me (the freshest, btw) AND worrying about your bro and his shitty life!?! You're off to a great start!!
/r/askMRP28/06/18 02:05 PM
2

"Hey askMRP, is there anyway I can tell my kids their mom is a cheating lesbian whore and she is the reason our family is being destroyed? I really want them to hate her as much as I do right now." Go hang from a rafter. They're your kids man. Divorce is hard enough, don't go confusing them even more by playing this stupid fucking game too. Take it on the chin and move the fuck on with your life, ya piece of shit.
/r/askMRP28/06/18 11:02 AM
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Good work Capt. Save-a-Bro. Did you guys jerk each other off before ya went home too?
/r/askMRP28/06/18 10:55 AM
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You want to punish her for being a great FO? In all honesty, your lazy ass should've either painted the damn windows yourself, or paid someone else to do it for you years ago when you first noticed the issue. Don't be mad at her for being a better captain than you are.
/r/askMRP28/06/18 01:29 AM
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She gets her kicks by being desired, as long as the one that desires her is a motherfucker worth kicking over. So...her reward IS the kiss. In that kiss, she feeeeeelz your desire. Her "punishment" is you not wanting to take her out/hang out/whatever other scenario that ends in a goodnight kiss. But again, if you're a mopey fuck then that'd still be a reward for her too....that is, until "Chad" is unavailable for the night and she wants attention. Make sense yet? You can use all this MRP info li…
/r/askMRP27/06/18 10:32 PM
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How comfortable are you shipping with UPS? Asking for a friend...
/r/askMRP21/06/18 01:08 AM
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Motivation is misguided, if you hit the mark then it's not needed.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 09:33 PM
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Caveman the starfish. Grab a handful of her hair (at the scalp, don't be a dipshit about it), pull back and tell her to turn around, or some other command that you want her to do. Make it fun for you (for now)....she's just there. Once you put some meat on them bones and she starts feelzing the dread she'll come around. Or she won't and you'll have plenty of practice/confidence for the young tail in marketing. SGM and Revolutionary Sex 3.0 by Alex Allman have some good ideas to get started. You'…
/r/askMRP11/06/18 09:31 PM
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Who gives a shit what is perceived? Just the other night my wife tried telling me I was pissed after a mid-day sexual denial a few days before. She needs things spelled out for her, so I made it clear I'm busy as fuck and have a million other things on my plate. If she's being lame, I will all but ignore her and focus all my attention on whatever it is I'm doing. If she's being fun/flirty, I'll show her more attention while I'm getting my shit done. If she's dtf, well I'm takin a fuck-break. I d…
/r/askMRP15/05/18 08:49 PM
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Posted in a sub call marriedredpill.... You're entire ramble (which I didn't bother reading passed the first question) could've been a simple 3 words: I am scared. This, said to a group of men who are working toward living in that boundry, or who already are. Yeah it's possible. Now shut your trap and do some reading. Then put it to action.
/r/askMRP11/05/18 01:52 AM
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She, she, she. You're a thirsty cunt, Steve.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 04:15 PM
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He's "just agreeing and doing what [he's] told" right now. Maybe seeing someone, in all seriousness, tell him to bend her over his knee and spank her will make leaving to go to the gym seem not all that scarey in comparison.
/r/askMRP02/05/18 12:06 AM
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Ever thought about getting off your lazy fucking ass and getting the shit done before she has a chance to ride your ass about it?
/r/askMRP01/05/18 11:42 PM
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For not a lot of text and detail, there's still a lot going on here. Let's start with the title. You don't fix your marriage, LTR, FWB, friends, family or strangers. You fix you. Everyone else treats you different as you become different. And the ones that don't, well...it doesn't matter all the much to you. I broke up with her but BP me got back with her and then married her. This was a decision you made. A shitty one, but all the same. Own it. I look at her now and where once I saw a unicorn n…
/r/askMRP01/05/18 03:00 AM
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The fuck do you think? "If I quit fucking her maybe she'll get the hint and start losing weight" is no different than "If I do all the dishes, laundry, sweeping and dusting around the house today I'll get laid tonight" There's a million ways to say "you're too fat". Just remember, most women don't respond to the challenge/drill sergent approach. As far as fucking, do what you want. There's no cut and dry answer to this, at least not once you reach a certain point. The fact that you're asking (an…
/r/askMRP01/05/18 12:37 AM
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Or maybe she's weird about sex because you approach it like treating an ailment? Whatever the case, you sure did put a whole lotta road blocks on the path to it. Edit: I'll throw ya a bone. Next go-round on this mental loop, stop here: I realize that I just hamstered about things that I can’t change. I can only change myself and should not be concerned about how my changes are received by her. But..t sex sounds good tonight
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 05:34 AM
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Leave as soon as she walks in the door. Don't say a word, she knows what she did. Don't answer the phone, respond to texts....nothing. Your presence is the greatest gift you can give her, do you agree with this? You're here asking, so I assume you're not all-in on this concept yet. Coming home late on a night you had movies on the couch plans is one thing. Not telling her friend to fuck off bc you have an event to be at, and making you late bc of it, is another. That's my .02 anyway. The decisio…
/r/askMRP29/04/18 01:33 AM
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Fuck dude, what a long haul. I gotta ask though, why continue to give yourself to someone like that? She gets to sleep on the job and still have the insurance cards in her purse.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/18 03:58 AM
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You again? With the same old shit to boot. What the fuck are you looking for? You want a fucking hug cuz a wittle guuuurl called you names? Get. The. Fuck. Over. It. Stay. Leave. Nobody gives a shit. Hit up SteveMcQueen, maybe you faggots can hook up and have the perfect blue pill relationship together.
/r/askMRP27/04/18 10:31 PM
1

Boo fucking hoo. Eat a Snickers and hate fuck your wife, faggot.
/r/askMRP27/04/18 10:27 PM
2

And then there's Advanced STFU: "Shut the fuck up."
/r/askMRP26/04/18 10:24 PM
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2 months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7t5vl0/z/dtardjw Stop giving a fuck.
/r/askMRP24/04/18 03:04 PM
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Even the seasoned guys' wives shit/comfort test, it just may not be as frequent and/or shitty as the BP days. The difference is it's not a big deal and there's no need to post about it when they we do. The "tests" never stop completely, However, a seasoned MRP wouldn’t be here. ...be wary of your expectations.
/r/askMRP23/04/18 06:26 PM
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I'll check that out, thank ya. The Ted Talks with Simon Sinek are pretty good too.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/18 03:26 PM
2

pounds
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 04:44 PM
2

Have you tried snooping through her phone for evidence?
/r/askMRP20/04/18 03:34 PM
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6'1", 196#, ~17% b.f. Squats were at 255x5, bench 205x5 and DL 315x5 last I went heavy (a month or so ago), but lately I've been doing high rep pyramid routines when I go in just for maintenance. Those numbers may not be accurate now. Tbh, lifting hasn't been a high priority here lately. 2x a week, sometimes 3. Sometimes none. I'm really just riding out the effects of a powerlifting addiction from a few years back, and have always had a crazy high metabolism. So I was already in pretty good shap…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 02:47 PM
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Pride is a great hiding spot for the ego. Truth be told, you're not afraid of being a bitch, you're afraid of being perceived as a bitch. Keep gnawing on it, you're onto something here.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 01:38 PM
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I,don't,look,at,death,as,the,ultimate, vacation,desination,anymore%
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 05:04 AM
3

You have totally missed the point of ALL of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 06:30 PM
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He's fresh off one lol
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 06:28 PM
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i think that statement is somewhat misleading and the idea seems to have permeated a fair amount of our community Again, it's not black & white. The idea leads to a shift in mentality for some, which leads to more dominate initiating, which triggers tingles, which leads to sex...really good sex. Who gives a fuck if science says women aren't as horny as men? That mentality is somewhat of a victim mentality to me... "My sex life isn't fulfilling because of hormones."? fts. Doesn't mean you can't g…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 06:52 PM
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I envy how you can say so much with so little words, you've got a gift man. Raises a good question too, can the religious men that wonder in here ever fully "get it", or worded better, have you seen it happen? Or do they end up just taking their woman off the pedistal and replacing her with Jesus, God or some other existential higher power that they end up serving, instead of themselves?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 04:57 PM
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Yes, I think the general understanding of AF/BB needs a slight revision. You're projecting your own misunderstanding onto the concept itself. It has been talked about, mainly in the comments section, that this is a sliding scale. Not a black & white, all or nothing concept. This entire post is written in black and white, which gives us insight into some of your thought process. The pudding of your projection. edit - prematurely hit send instead of save The other point you tried making that stuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 01:12 PM
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You good with the quality though? More specifically, are you one of the guys sharing "I need to get a hooker so I can X,Y,Z her"? Or are you the guy chuckling at your buddies bc you do X,Y,Z with your girl on a Tuesday night?
/r/askMRP17/04/18 06:56 PM
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What men, and even Red Pill are afraid of are being Cucks. When really a cuck is a man who does nothing about the cheating bitch he has in his life. if he finds out she was cheating then act. And act quickly. My thoughts exactly. Don't snoop unless there are some red flags. At that point, you know what you're looking for. And if you find it you should already know what you're going to do about it. All this "I went snooping and found something and now I don't know what to do" shit is for the bird…
/r/askMRP17/04/18 06:47 PM
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I think he has that part covered I don't think he realizes he's doing it. DT with a BP backdrop isn't gonna cut it. This dickhead pulled the wheel clean off the ship and threw it overboard and sent up a MRP sail to do his navigating for him. He has no vision. No plan. Just reflexively doing what he's told here. Action is half the equation, he doesn't have the frame (yet?) for the mess he's in. Let him flounder, I say. "Listens when he commands" or not, she's seeking advice for divorce behind his…
/r/askMRP17/04/18 06:32 PM
1

Make her eat the papers.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 03:18 AM
1

All the fag posts blurring together for you too, huh? This isn't the SnapFag...same heaping pile of shit though, just in a different commode.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 01:40 AM
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Jesus Fucking Christ dude....you want your hand held through this whole process or what? Sure, it's possible to shred the papers and move forward with the wife and a newfound "position of power"....in theory, anyway. Unfortunately, for faggots like you, that theory means fuck all. Good luck fucker.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 01:37 AM
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You have one of the more refined egos I've ever seen, I'll give you that. I'll also cut ya some slack and say it is a tricky situation to be in, not knowing for certain if G is this guy, and if so what kinds of conversations they're really having. She knew you wouldn't want her giving out her Snapchat info when she did it. So at best, calling her out will lead to a trickle truth. But most likely you'd just get fed one giant lie after another (assuming it's not just platonic conversation), gaslig…
/r/askMRP16/04/18 11:34 PM
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Nowhere in your post or comments is there any semblence of a plan on how you plan to deal with this. Just another faggot coming here asking a bunch of strangers "what do I do?" What's you plan, Captain? Tell us what you want to do about it. Figure out for yourself if you're ok with being cucked in exchange for blowjob alarm clocks and sex on demand. Or give me her Snapchat handle and I'll let ya know how easy or hard it was to get a pic of her finger in her ass.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 09:31 PM
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You're masking your insecurity of the on-going situation with your wife as "this is about talking to my 3 year old daughter." I don't doubt that you want to hear your daughters voice and see her face, even if it is only on screen. But I think you're main objective here is getting your wife to answer the phone whenever you call, where ever she is at, so you can check in on her at all times because you're scared to death she's cheating. How's that for calling someone out without getting pukey?
/r/askMRP16/04/18 05:37 PM
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You're right, you do understand "be attractive." "Don't be unattractive" on the otherhand....
/r/askMRP16/04/18 05:01 PM
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Then quit being a faggot and figure it the fuck out. "Hey guys, tell me what to think about all this" is horeshit. You're fishing around for someone to either absolve your guilt of going nuclear, or to tell you you're a special snowflake and you can make it work. That's what women do. Are you a fucking woman, or just a faggot?
/r/askMRP16/04/18 04:49 PM
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Those things are for you to figure out. All we can tell you is what we would do, but the mileage varies. The reality is she has contacted a lawyer. Still unclear (to me) if she's paid for a consult, or just talked to a friend about setting one up. Either way though, she has mentioned it to someone other than you. What is your plan for your reality? What do you want? What is acceptable behavior to you? What actions are you willing to take on the unacceptable behavior? It doesn't matter what any o…
/r/askMRP16/04/18 04:19 PM
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Like I said, it was great advice to go on the offensive...it just didn't sound like you were ready for that. The lead is always buried in the comments. So if you've already spoke with a lawyer and have the paperwork signed and ready, what are you waiting for?
/r/askMRP16/04/18 12:07 PM
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u/UEMcGill gave you great actionable advice, but you gotta be willing to go through with it. And it doesn't sound like you are. I also agree with u/simbarlion. Your best bet, IMO, is to look at it the way he described, ignore it the best you can and continue working on yourself, and she'll either come out of it, if he was right, or you'll be in a better frame of mind to follow McGill's advice if not. Do not talk to her about it though. If she would deny it, you'd still have your doubts (rightful…
/r/askMRP16/04/18 01:54 AM
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Doesn't look like it.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 11:52 PM
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Took the pill a year ago. Bullshit. roller coaster of up and down of emotions and good and bad circumstances. You mean typical female behavior? Or was it you on the roller coaster being a big ol' bitch? once I stabilize emotionally There it is, you big ol' bitch. there’s no chance of creating desire from my ex. At least you've realized one concept I know she loves me and wants our family. Hamster. Brought me back to zero. And I have become undesireable. Become? hold frame for 30 minutes with her…
/r/askMRP14/04/18 11:50 PM
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emotional violence lol!!!! Did you and the ex meet in a safe-space back in college?
/r/askMRP14/04/18 11:20 PM
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Username checks out
/r/askMRP14/04/18 12:55 PM
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I discuss this with her tomorrow and hear her side of things. Would you use gasoline to put out a housefire?
/r/askMRP14/04/18 12:53 PM
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Does swiping right count as approaching? Asking for a friend...
/r/askMRP14/04/18 01:58 AM
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You are letting that shit consume you man...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 02:05 PM
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Not "tried", did. And the consequence to a breach in that contract is her little bitch gets on his phone and talks to strangers about it. That'll show 'er.
/r/askMRP11/04/18 05:40 AM
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"I don't have time to stand over four people to keep them from making messes". We have three kids. I'm imagining you doing that Jim from The Office look into the camera. Your wife has an awesome sense of humor.
/r/askMRP11/04/18 04:02 AM
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I would tell you to rib her and say something along the lines of "I'm starting to wonder why I keep you around" But this: I was hoping that... tells me you haven't even got step one of book 1 down yet...so she'd probably just laugh your faggot ass out of the house or put the dirty litter in your food or some shit. Quit being a big ol bitch. By then you may not even have to tell her, and if you do I'd bet a check she'll listen.
/r/askMRP11/04/18 03:57 AM
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She's gotten the hint.... Quit dropping hints and unloading on her like a faggot. You don't intend to repair the marriage, so stfu, demote her from "wife" to "sparring partner" and get to work. Read, figure out how it applies to you, then act. Game the fuck out of her. If you can get her to fuck you enthusiastically, in spite of your long history of being a faggot, then you can get anyone to fuck you. That's when you kill the puppy....knowing the days of being treated like a bitch by women are l…
/r/askMRP10/04/18 09:30 PM
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Yet whatever method you pick only works if you have frame, as you said, you truly believe you are the prize. With this in mind, I can see now that you gave OP a great stepping stone with looking at himself as an equal to the orb. What isn't in question is how you handle it confirms your alpha status to her. Absolutely. I thought my example was so subtle that she may not have even noticed. But her behavior since then says otherwise. Boyfriend Busting Ya know, I've always viewed this as weak, thou…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 09:13 PM
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For the shoulder pain, I'd echo u/ReddJive and stop benching altogether until it heals. I'd add to start doing some rotator cuff training. I would use an insanely light dumbell, 5# max, sit on the preacher curl bench with my elbow resting on top of it. Then you move the dumbell in an arm wrestling movement, down and back up to straight. I was told this isn't a strength building exercise, and not to increase weight so I will pass that on to you as well. But I did notice an improvement after I sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 05:00 PM
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To much work on what she will think or do. It's not work if it's self-entertainment, fun for some of us to watch them squirm.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/18 06:41 PM
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Don't knock the Dark Arts til you try it. It'll have you stopping mid-fuck to check the room for a Brazzers camera crew.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/18 06:36 PM
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help him figure out why he isn't leaving and how he can get to the point where he can leave. I'd say he left a pretty decent MAP for that, or at the very least a more focused image of OP's blurred far-sighted vision. But what do I know...I'm just a guy that looked in the mirror instead of trying to divorce my problems away.
/r/askMRP06/04/18 06:22 AM
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So why slow the boat to wait on her to come to you? DB for 8 months now...I'd be, at the very least, seriously considering parking the boat at a few new docks. She knows the boat isn't leaving the harbor.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 11:41 PM
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Why not PIV where she gets something for the effort? Anything from performance anxiety on her part to her just not enjoying it. My best guess would be performance anxiety. She just took off all her clothes at once and was like lets go... Have you ever just took her over and had your way with her? If so, how does she respond to it? My wife, for being shy (borderline ashamed) about her sexuality, thoroughly enjoys being completely dominated. I would've never guessed it from her. She will do the qu…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 11:34 PM
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This shit pops up all the time. "I want to burn it down and start over" which is really just "I want to take the easy way out and go through the RP motions with someone who doesn't know how big of a fuck up I am/was." News flash, you can kill the puppy but you're still gonna be a fuck up shit faced captain. Won't be long before the new pup starts shitting on your floor too. It's called hard mode for a reason. Read the sidebar (there's anger phase material there), apply what you've read, and if s…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 06:41 PM
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No PIV but offering BJ's is a good sign she wants to please you. Definitely sounds like she has some self-esteem issues of her own too. My wife is the same way. Not comfortable with her body or sexuality, though she's getting there with the latter. You could continue to try to understand it, and that may be worthwhile in that you find new ways to lead her. But I've had much better results just going after what I want. The last few times I've heard "turn the lights off", for example, I just tell …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 05:33 PM
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The more I initate the more it pushes her away the less she wants to be around me and when I don't, she makes more of an effort to be around me and have my attention. Get her off the pedestal. You're still seeking her attention and approval. Her response is the prize you're after. You went to show this woman affection and she tells you she doesn't even want to be with you. Fuck her wants. What do YOU want? I see this is OYS 4, but how long have you been working at this? I'd swear I've seen your …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 04:40 PM
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Substitute “I’m” for “marriage”. The former is the reason for the latter. When a "RP man" says his job, marriage, relationship with kids/parents/friends/whatever is better, he's saying he is better...whether he realizes it or not. We can call this a sexual strategy all we want, but getting the sex we want is no different than getting the job, for example, we want. See it, then go after it til it's yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/18 01:54 PM
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aaaaaaaand [deleted] lmao
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/18 01:54 AM
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I was just thinking about saying fuck this shit and plugging back in. Your post came at the perfect time, my motivation is back!! Faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/18 01:48 AM
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Look man, just because you had a conversation doesn't mean you "fucked up." She found the books and you talked to her about it when she brought it up, big fucking deal. Having a meltdown when she later tries to belittle, manipulate or use it against you some other way will be a fuck up. And she will. Probably sooner than later too. If you weren't on a verbal quest for validation then it'll be no big deal when she does.
/r/askMRP31/03/18 03:39 PM
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Welp, that was like sitting through 25 shitty opening acts just to find out the headliner died backstage....
/r/askMRP29/03/18 01:53 AM
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married game this is not congruent with: treat your wife like a girlfriend .....? Because you see the words married, wife, and girlfriend in close proximity? ....and I thought I was autistic
/r/askMRP28/03/18 10:35 PM
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Entertaining yourself is fine and all, as long as you're still getting the shit done. If she hasn't fucked ya in 2 months, I (personally) wouldn't worry too much about how she views it. When/if she gets onboard, maybe do some calibrating then. That's ultimately your call.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 09:25 PM
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Raise 'em on it so they never have to take the pill.
/r/askMRP28/03/18 08:22 PM
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Where do unicorns go for Easter?
/r/askMRP28/03/18 06:09 PM
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It's not just confined to suburbia. I'm not quite "in the sticks", but close to it. It's an epedimic here, too. This whole exchange is about 95% of my town.
/r/askMRP28/03/18 03:33 PM
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This has been an important "discovery" for me (yes, i'm a dumb ass). It's something I can work with in a positive way. It's an easy miss. My wife used to be a fucking pitbull, no brain mouth filter...especially when rialed up. Didn't matter who it was. And it always appeared as confidence and dngaf. I had the same discovery as you recently and, looking back, I've realized it was more like a nervous tick to sooth her anxiety. Push a motherfucker hard enough and they'll either go away for good or …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 02:55 PM
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Start delegating the housework. After breakfast yesterday, I told my son to sweep the house and put the wife on dish-duty. The sweeper broke, so I went to the store for a new one. Came home to the dishwasher running and she took it upon herself to get the laundry going as well, instead of just doing the dishes and then finger fucking her phone. Mileage may vary, but it sounds like you've led by example up to this point. I wouldn't expect much, if any, pushback. You could be her plow horse, or sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 06:54 PM
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Whatever advice I tried to give him it is explained away by him with excuses... This is where I quit reading. Do yourself a favor and dngf, there's no helping him at this point. Or do him a favor and tell his wife he's fucking other women. Or dudes. Whatever would get her to leave him.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 12:49 AM
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Think you're confused now? Wait til these guys start chiming in..."go for it!", "She's setting you up for a MMF, don't do it!", and everything in between is headed your way.
/r/askMRP27/03/18 12:46 AM
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So do you see the bigger picture yet, why u/weakandsensitive was spot on, or do you need that spelled out for you too?
/r/askMRP26/03/18 11:26 PM
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Great comment, thanks for the value added. If your gonna call me a bitch, at least be worthwhile and explain what exactly your referencing. This is AskMRP it's designed to educate, not just fucking insult. Take your redpill rambo bullshit to another thread if you have nothing to add. I don't mind being called a bitch, I've had people with red beret beside their name do it all the time, but they educate, explain what they mean... You add nothing, anyone can respond to everyone calling them a bitc…
/r/askMRP26/03/18 08:59 PM
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Specifically how do you keep competition anxiety without demoralizing progress toward being the girl I want her to be? I've been negging the ever loving shit out of my wife lately. She doesn't know what the fuck to think about it, and that makes it even more fun for me. If you can give her a muddy answer and get a genuine kick out of her reaction, then do it. If you push hard ("Eh, you've got some work to do if you wanna catch up with her.") then you better be ready to pull even harder. That, or…
/r/askMRP26/03/18 08:24 PM
2

Damn man, you hiring??
/r/askMRP22/03/18 09:16 PM
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It just feels like she's ALWAYS getting sick for whatever reason. Have you tried telling her to stop?
/r/askMRP22/03/18 02:48 PM
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I can tell you this post hit pretty close to home for me, minus pulling the plug. I'll speak on my experience, but I would guess that what I'm about to say will hit close to him for OP as well. Once I had rediscovered some self respect and the backbone to go with it, I went against the advice I'd seen given a hundred times before..."don't go throwing boundries around." I would decide something was unacceptable and set the line. Then come here and share the experience, only to find a new way of l…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 05:23 PM
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Be the Oak, not the punching bag...but first, define what the punching bag looks like to YOU. I've struggled with this for months now. Just when I think I have that defined, I share the story and get a whole new way of looking at it. The new views turn an old hard boundry into a new soft boundry.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 05:52 AM
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Since she was jk, I'd say don't worry about your assests. Women joke about wanting side dick all the time. AWALT, amiright?! /s
/r/askMRP20/03/18 05:45 PM
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Oh man, it's a rush. When I'd compete I would almost always hit 10-15# more than what I planned, be ready for some big pr's. Have you looked into meet prep workouts? They're usually percentage based, so the first few weeks are light/boring af but they work.
/r/askMRP19/03/18 03:16 AM
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Do you need more tips? Yeah, I'm always open to advice. I've been watching some youtube vids to try to get a better understanding of the concept. A lot of them are business related though, I'm wondering how much of that would carry over to interpersonal relationships.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 03:12 AM
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Is this gonna be your first comp?
/r/askMRP19/03/18 01:46 AM
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So here's where I'm at with all this as of now. I shared a link with her a few days ago to an interview Laura Doyle did about The Surrendered Wife. In it, she talked about women not being taught this because their moms/grandmas didn't "know about it." I talked to MIL yesterday, with no mention to her about sharing the link, and she says my wife said the same thing to her. This tells me it's a role/dynamic my wife is realizing she wants and enjoys (things do go good for awhile, and she wasn't bit…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/18 05:18 PM
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Is this a vague generalization of some detailed goal you have in mind? Or is this the actual internal dialog, verbatim? Seems like you're holding something back. You definitely have some expectations of her, which is fine in and of itself. BUT, you're not here saying "this is what I am doing and the results are shit. This is what I'm going to try, but do you all have any suggestions?" Sounds like you've hid a covert contract in the attic and you're getting pissed she hasn't signed it yet. So I g…
/r/askMRP16/03/18 11:39 PM
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I know I need to lead her, but by example isn't doing the trick. You and I are fishing from the same boat here. W&S set me on the stove to stew, so I have no advice to give you on this other than: Do what ya gotta do, and stfu up about it. What exactly do you want though? Kindda sounds like sex from the wife, but not sex from the wife cuz she's a fatty? Or are ya just a little butthurt that your beached whale isn't fucking you like a pornstar after "doing all this work"?
/r/askMRP16/03/18 10:28 PM
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I'm gonna let you stew on this a little bit. Shouldn't be a problem for a guy like me lol
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 06:42 PM
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There are many ways to not tolerate. The newbie approach is to remove yourself. What's a man to do when his wife repeatedly takes her insecurities out on him? Note that there is no "comfort-test" talk during this, right out of the gate it's accusatory, like she wants to shame me for taking the lead. Like I'm doing something wrong by taking care of my self, house, and family. The "I feel like..." talk comes days later, if at all, and so treating these like comfort tests right out of the gate woul…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:44 PM
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the attitude that you inject towards the relationship is going to be reflected back to you. This is where it gets confusing for me. Things will be going great, we're getting along, I'm taking care of shit and taking the lead on a lot of things. She'll still offer her input, but she also gets pretty submissive and is starting to just "enjoy the ride" per say. Then out of nowhere she's shitty that I'm "taking control of everything" and the cycle of trying to cut me down starts over again. Instead …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 03:48 PM
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You should probably ask your wife what she thinks about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 01:09 AM
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I'm not getting all I need at home though. Not even close. I tried having some fun with it, but it only escalated her anxiety/shittiness/whatever the hell it is. It wasn't fun for me. At this point, indifferent to it all is where I'm at. Just staying busy with other things that I either enjoy or need done.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 04:52 PM
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There would be no faking it. It's not about getting a reaction, my mention of it was just a preemptive strike. She's had first crack, and her effort here lately has been bullshit. So instead of getting frustrated I'm just going to get what I need elsewhere...I just know, from experience, that dread will be a result. Reminds me of a recent trip to the casino. Wife comes to the table I'm at as I'm chatting with a woman next to me. Her SO checks in around the same time. We're just talking about the…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 04:27 PM
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Rule 0 = don't be a pussy
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 03:57 AM
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The Legend!! Btw, I've heard him in some interviews, off the cuff type stuff, and I'm preeeetty sure he's in here, or at least has been a member of this sub at some point. That, or he just gets it. It's one of those things, I'm not planning on it. It's not the point of going out for some game. But I am going to have fun and "live in the moment" per say. And if a chick wants to blow me in the hallway, in the moment, I'll go with the gut and either will or won't. I'd own it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 08:58 PM
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Hey, that's as good a plan as any. More importantly, it's a great mindset to have. I'm currently in the same situation, have been for a few weeks now. I can tell you, the opposite mindset will leave you feeling pretty shitty. You're on the right track man. Have fun out there!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:53 PM
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Sex You came to some good realizations under this section. So I ask, what's the plan?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:14 PM
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I've come way down since last week. I came across an audiobook, The Art of Communication, and it was kind of eye opening. My main takeaway from it was that instead of getting myself worked up by going through all the details with a fine toothed comb, I should instead just acknowledge the angry/fearful/anxious feeling when it comes up and then dig into understanding where it's coming from. Once I figure out what is "missing" then I can go about finding it, on my own terms. Work is going much bett…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:07 PM
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Really the whole point of the post is not even about the wife I, for one, am glad you told the whole story. It was a great example of how to handle that situation. As far as the kids, it sounds like they already have a great role model. That is to say you've set a great example of what a healthy sexual relationship between man and woman looks like. There may be some "talks" as they get even older, but a lot of good groundwork has already been laid. Terrible thought incoming, but ya also gotta re…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:49 PM
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A virus looks much bigger under a microscope. This place is great for getting it out then taking a step back. Even better to go through it, then share, which seems to be the case with this one. When I'm gnawing on something and getting nowhere with it, I'll post then go back and reread it as if a stranger posted it. Different light. Sure, I could write it all out in a notebook and do the same, but then I miss out on the knowledge from the guys who have already been through my situations. That's …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 01:07 AM
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Sounds like you considered her input from the right frame of mind, what you think is acceptable. Wouldn't expect any less from you though. I still catch myself from time to time putting too much weight on my wife's input, you gave a great example of how to process it. The rest of the day was business as usual. Excellent. Great FR!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/18 06:26 PM
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I put the plan in motion the night I posted this. Radio silence after the one text I sent, initiated as soon as I walked in the house. Then again the next morning. And night. I was hesitant to put it on her for good reason. I had quit leading, sexually, and I should've seen that long before I posted this. Sure, kinoing a statue and playing catch with a brick wall was killing my desire. But instead of throwing in the towel, I should've been throwing her over my shoulder. Initiating and escalating…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 11:18 PM
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That it is.
/r/askMRP08/03/18 07:35 AM
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I like your writing style. Assume responsibility - Make excuses/implore for sympathy - Answer your own question. Should go over well here.
/r/askMRP07/03/18 11:03 PM
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https://youtu.be/dDW6FYdIoYE Turns out, negative thoughts aren't all fire and brimstone. There's a reason you're having those thoughts, find it. This book suggests finding and holding onto that anger or suffering "tenderly"...I have better luck grabbing it by the throat and throwing it against the wall. You do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 04:24 PM
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What's wrong with "fuck your career?" It's just not the message I'm trying to send. That, and I see the boost of self esteem and confidence she's getting as a result of it. 2 things that have eaten at her for a long time. It's been awhile since I've listened to HTWF&IP, I'll revisit tonight. the correct answer is a joke. Funny, I almost sent back "anal." but the humor would've been lost in translation. If she asked before she left and I could've seen her reaction that would've been the response …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 10:30 PM
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This may get a bit pukey, my mindset has been fucked here lately. I just wanna get this shit off my chest without someone stroking my fucking ego trying to make me feel better. I know it's my problem and it's on me to get over it, and I'm still getting my shit done so it's not all bad. But fuck... I'm struggling trying to transition to the 3rd stage Deida talks about in The Way of the Superior Man. I've relistened to the audiobook at work twice in the last week now, and everytime he gets to that…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 07:34 PM
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Do what you want, just don't let the hamster run wild over it. Trust me on that.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 04:17 PM
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friends and male relatives They're all blue pill as fuck lol "Happy life, happy wife" types. This place, and myself, is all I got when it comes to this stuff.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 01:22 AM
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I know what you're saying here. But I also know that when I drop my ego and listen, like really listen, I find that what they're saying is true, to some extent. It's either outright true and I just couldn't see it, or I am on a path that will eventually lead to it. Sure, sometimes they're off the mark, that's for you to decide. But you're too quick to jump back on here and tell them they're full of shit. BobbyP mindfucked me 5 days ago now....took me 4 to see the connection and how it applied to…
/r/askMRP04/03/18 03:28 PM
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u/markpf73 outlined a great way to troubleshoot and fix. Just pick one thing, apply his thought process, repair/replace, rinse and repeat. While you're fixing shit, you learn a lot of the preventative maintenence stuff you can do to stay ahead of total breakdowns.
/r/askMRP03/03/18 08:48 PM
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It was a bit of a loaded question, there was just too much plausible deniability (on my part) for her to outright call me on it, so she got defensive. What I was initially suspecting might even be more pathetic than hamstering a ONS scenario, tbh. I don't think she plans on cheating, and honestly don't believe she will slip and fall on Chad's dick either. If she does, dude's gotta have some damn good game. BobbyPeru left a comment that racked my fucking brain though. Took me awhile to see the co…
/r/askMRP03/03/18 08:17 PM
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Youtube, Google, and shadowing other "handy dudes" are all great tools. But nothing beats hands on experience. Do you have a specific project you're wanting to do?
/r/askMRP03/03/18 04:36 PM
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Took me 4 days, and revisiting The Way of the Superior Man, to make sense of this. If I can figure out how to articulate it then I'll post something on it. But for now, just wanted to say thanks for the zen-fu kick to the face.
/r/askMRP03/03/18 06:16 AM
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You have some great insight here, as well as this from your (edit 2: well fuck, this was also from u/reddjive too ) reply to sbill: IDGAF. If she's going to cheat she will no matter how Alpha I am. The real fear is being cucked which is allowing it to happen. This is what I was getting at in my response to steeltoeshitkicker, you articulated it much better than I. It raises the question though, as far as praxeology goes, is this a good mentallity to settle into? Or is just another stepping stone…
/r/askMRP27/02/18 10:27 PM
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Fuck, stop wargaming everything. You sound like a total autist. Accurate. It's not a lack of abundance though. It's my ego. The chance that I'm being played like a fool while everyone else is in on the gag is what stirs the shit up in me. It's like I'm looking for something that may not even be there, but if it is I want to get ahead of it and turn the table. I realize this puts me "in her frame", but it's like a sore on the roof of my mouth. I can forget about it for awhile, but then I start ru…
/r/askMRP27/02/18 04:45 AM
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You can pull it. I'll re-write with more details when I have the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 06:17 PM
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Your writing style is shit It will get better. The overall point I was trying to make is being talked about in the comments of the Marriage Therapy thread. They're far better at verbalizing these kinds of things than I am, atm.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 03:20 PM
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I know I would get wordy if I tried sharing all the details of it and missing context. And in the end it would all boil down to what I wrote anyway. I don't have enough info to confront, but I'm good at extracting more of the truth and know how to spot a red flag. Ultimately, the plan stays the same regardless of whether I read it right or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 02:49 PM
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Let's talk about frame, instead. And namely why you've decided to live your life within hers. If she hinted at, or flat out said she needs a break...then live your life like a single man for the next 3 days, if that's what you want to do. If she didn't and you're just hamstering, then knock it off and do what you want for the next 3 days. If she wants to talk, that's on her. If you have something to say, say it. It's really not that complicated.
/r/askMRP24/02/18 12:20 AM
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I've had one, but your background and mine are not at all the same. Doesn't sound like you're gonna have one given the circumstances....unless you decide one day you wanna start bangin like a Brazzers actor. Or have ya already been doin that shit for years too?
/r/askMRP23/02/18 03:00 AM
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I'm the same way, wordy af. Although I've gotten better at shortening things down at times too. Don't worry what other's think about it though. If you're serious about making a change in yourself then more details will yield better insight while you're getting started. Some will call ya out for DEER'ing, but the vets will see your intentions through all that and help ya all the same. This is a good place to practice holding off on DEER'ing, but don't forget this is a mens' locker room. I assume …
/r/askMRP23/02/18 02:09 AM
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Lead with that level of honesty next time. Even if you don't, we'll dig it out of you eventually, so long as you don't [deleted]. I'll tell ya this once, do what you will with this info. What you did was bury your question. Maybe you did it on purpose to avoid outright asking "how do I respond?", maybe it was subconscious ego protection? Don't know, don't care. But I, and several others, did pick up on it and called you. Responses like the one from u/ReddJive may not outright answer your questio…
/r/askMRP22/02/18 11:49 PM
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His response to 2ndal is all we need to know why he's here. Post translation: "I don't want to operate in her frame anymore, but I don't have my own yet. Can I borrow yours?"
/r/askMRP22/02/18 07:49 PM
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Good point. Dude is making leaps and bounds, mentally. It's only a matter of time before the habits and behaviors fall in line with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 07:19 PM
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When looking at it from that angle, I can see the value of it. I used to get creeped out when I'd see a snake out in the yard until the day I decided to pick one up instead of kill it with the shovel. What got me though is that he ended up getting upset, after trying to logic her. There's no shortage of reading material explaining how big of a waste of time that is, and I'm sure he already has plenty of personal experience trying this method to reinforce the reading. What's the definition of ins…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 03:44 PM
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I kicked off the fight on purpose - I didn't have to, and I wasn't driven to by anxiety. What was the point of doing this then? You ended up getting sucked into her frame and she whipped you to a bloody pulp with her verbal kung fu. If you're going to use ego efforts as a strategy to test yourself, at the very least have a good vision of how she is going to respond and a good plan for handling it. Another thing, do you even realize why she went into "grumpy mode" in the first place? And can you …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 12:26 AM
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I think I would have this problem with any woman. This right here says a lot. Essentially she is your sparring partner, not the prize. Good stuff! Moving forward, her hamster is gonna get some good workouts when you're lounging around in Siberia with a tank and swimshorts on. Have fun out there man!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 07:27 PM
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I enjoyed the FR from last week. It seems you're still thinking about it as doing it for your wife's sake though ("I need to start leading my wife's emotions...") If I'm reading too far into that, then disregard. But it also seemed like you had some fun toying with your wife that day at work, and you are definitely enjoying the benefits of the playfulness. Frame it that way and I'd bet good money it will start coming more naturally to you. Keep up the good work, pedal to the metal!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 06:40 PM
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How I build myself will be based of what transpires. I hope this is just the feelz talking. No one here is gonna blame you for being mad right now. But this is not a good strategy to move forward. Take heed u/red_sfpplus 's comment. The stay plan is the same as the go plan, your current situation is a textbook example of why that saying is the gospel around here.
/r/askMRP17/02/18 12:35 AM
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well gaaaawd damn
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 05:44 PM
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I've wondered how things went after seeing your oys a few weeks ago about tip-toeing the laws of power. Sounds like checkmate is only a few moves away.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 02:24 AM
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There's a story behind this FTFY and I want to hear it
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 02:08 AM
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Just learned this a few weeks ago, but if you go to your state's attorney general website and do some searching, you may be able to find a list of pro bono laywers. My state has a list anyway. Good luck
/r/askMRP16/02/18 02:03 AM
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10 months in and go through the same. I enjoy them though, not necessarily the overall feeling or mood I'm in. But it's happend enough for me to know that a change is right around the corner, like you mentioned, and that makes it more of a positive experience than negative.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 11:46 PM
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Sounds like her hamster hopped on the wheel for a run. Good job staying in frame and not engaging. Next time, try pulling her into that frame and fuck 'er raw.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 07:14 PM
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She liked the idea of you literally sweeping her off her feet, next time just stfu and do it. Let her feel your desire instead of hear about it. It sounds to me like she's wanting you to step up your dominance and just ravish her. You ended up negotiating so she played along. If I'm off the mark and there are other issues in the relationship that may be holding her back, then disregard this advice.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 06:20 PM
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crystal meth and 14 straight hours of choreplay. she went to bed early so I went for a 47 mile jog...fuckin bitch
/r/askMRP15/02/18 06:23 AM
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I really like the blender metaphor. As far as your questions at the end go, I'm not real sure what the 2 days of silence meant. All I know for sure is I'm moving forward with the value loop mindset Jack10 talked about, phase 3 if memory serves correct. Maintain leadership where it's been established and look for new fun ways to lead in other areas. Still plenty of work to do, but my mind is in a good place at this point. Solid bones to build on.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 03:09 AM
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She has been mistaking my removal of time and attention as "running away from the problem" vs. not tolerating disrespect. Or worded in a way we all can understand, mistaking a strength as a weakness. Straius is on point with his interpretation, just trying to lead the hamster through the maze. I do see what you're saying though, and it is something I've just recently become much more comfortable with. But as soon as it goes from angry venting to direct disrespect (unless it's well deserved, in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 12:45 AM
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She can either start laying bricks with me or gtfo! lol
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 09:54 PM
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lol I knew I'd get called on that. I know there's always the chance of it happening, no matter how good shes got it at home. It's just not in the cards right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 09:47 PM
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Depression and self esteem issues, which I have picked up on, I didn't know about the self loathing that went along with it. There's zero chance she's gettin banged out somewhere else.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 09:16 PM
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Amen. It's not choreplay if you're just taking care of your shit, afterall.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/18 07:51 PM
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I'll do the ol' copy/paste here in a bit
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 07:27 PM
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I assumed "illegal" immigration spoke for itself...women and their feelz, amiright?!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 07:17 PM
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I don't know what to do with this info if anything Put it out of your mind or use it as motivation to not be "that guy." Anything else is hamstering and hindering.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 12:12 AM
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MOOD/ENERGY - I ended up making an appointment to have my T-levels checked out. I've been in a slump for awhile with my energy level. If nothing else, it will rule out a problem. I'm not unhappy or feeling depressed/anxious. I'm living with more focus than ever before, it's just that my drive seems to be off. The flame's not blown out, but it's definitely not as hot as normal. The main event came this week. Looking back I can see all the precursors, and where I could've done things better to may…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 08:50 PM
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....but I never properly engaged her. I'm just now starting to experience this realization, but it seems like a huge piece of it all that has been missing for me. Great advice given here.
/r/askMRP12/02/18 10:26 PM
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Man, I could write a whole other OYS on what's come to light over the last few days. It goes even deeper than I ever expected. I'm actually a little trapped in my own head over it atm, but there are some new things I want to try out. I see the way through, just gotta stop thinking and start doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 07:26 PM
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The world looks much different when the wife goggles come off. Have fun out there, man.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/18 03:54 AM
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