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| 28 | Shocking: Man ignores what woman says then for sOmE rEaSOn he has no idea what's going onIf he’s able to learn, he’ll learn from your clear rejection of him. It took me AGES (and a dozen monologues) to figure this out. The last time went on holiday with my ex, I spent an hour running down a laundry list of everything horrible he’d said and done to me in the week we’d been traveling, explained in detail why and how these things hurt me and that I couldn’t be with him if he was going to disrespect me like this, in tears the whole way through. He thought about it for a while, let out o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 03:41 PM |
| 11 | Is dating bad or are you bad at dating?In the past when my friends would ask me why I'm not dating anyone (😐) I'd list out a few specific horrible experiences that men, and only men, have gone out of their way to introduce into my life. When I did this, they'd inevitably say something like, "Well, good guys are out there! Maybe you're just picking the wrong ones?" or "Well if it keeps happening, you're the common denominator so..." It took a few years in therapy for me to really come to terms with the (massively annoying but not untr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 10:19 PM |
| 36 | I love it when these men reveal themselves right away;He “tests” his dates by making them cook for him and his only “expert” advice is to add more garlic to everything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 07:05 PM |
| 35 | It's always the "men aged like wine, women aged like cheese" narrative with these scrotes 🙄30-something here. Can confirm; they’re still just as desperate for our attention (and literally always assume I’m in my 20s, while men my age look 10 years older than they are!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 01:58 AM |
| 70 | I ended my relationship - A cautionary tale to ALWAYS VET and ALWAYS FOLLOW FDS STANDARDSCongrats on reassessing your relationship, seeing it for what it is, and acting accordingly! Even if you didn’t see the signs right away, it sounds like you wasted NO time once it all clicked. Endlessly grateful for FDS and how much time it’s saving us in filtering out resentful, objectifying, fake-childfree manbabies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 11:22 PM |
| 23 | Dealing with being purposefully celibateA vibrator and my imagination together do a better job than most of my past (male) partners tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 08:16 PM |
| 122 | People Projecting Insecurity Onto You When You’re QuietIn American culture if you’re not constantly trying to suck up all the air in the room, you’re treated as free real estate for everyone who will. I thought it would subside after high school, but nope: if you’re not clamoring for attention in classes, at work, on dates, and at brunch with the ladies, something’s got to be wrong with you. And yeah, there’s a certain kind of LVM who outs himself as a manipulator the moment he catches onto the cardinal sin that is…gasp…introversion! And that’s all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 10:17 PM |
| 19 | Dear newbie, nothing's happening? GET UP AND GET OUT.It’s been a long two years! I’m starting to get out for fun more often, and I can’t wait to start meeting new people. Zero expectations for finding my soulmate in this city, but I’ll take vacations, travel for work, go to events, host my own events, make new friends, indulge in my hobbies and just generally be a person in the world, finally. Let’s have FUN, y’all. LVM will only succeed in making you miserable if you’re caught up in their presence, so steer clear and HAVE FUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 03:56 PM |
| 43 | I’m so glad more women are taking back the cool aunt title!If my brother and sister-in-law don’t have kids, our lineage is done and I’m perfectly okay with that. With our world being what it is now, there are SO many opportunities to leave a legacy greater than spawning another human into it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 10:23 PM |
| 129 | Vetting Professional Men: Six Things to Keep in MindMy latest long-distance ex was towards the top of a very impressive-sounding career in tech. He had hobbies, a close-knit group of friends that were always begging him to hang out with him. He looked and sounded like such a catch until I realized he never actually engaged with those hobbies, avoided his friends, worked late every day, spent most of his time after work studying and preparing for interviews for even shinier future jobs, and when he’d finally call me past midnight his time, all he’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 03:23 PM |
| 8 | Incels and the Great Fakecel RealizationEvery time I make a scrote mad enough to send Reddit Cares, an angel earns her wings | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 07:44 PM |
| 116 | Incels and the Great Fakecel RealizationNot to mention the “dream” can shift depending on his mood, what porn he watched, what the women he passed on the street looked like, etc. He could start dating his “dream girl” on Tuesday and ghost her to chase the new model by Sunday. A lot of grown, angry men on the internet are genuinely pissed that women are not a monolith; they can’t just transfer the “work” it took to get one woman over to the next woman, like airline credits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 03:43 PM |
| 108 | Let's Talk About OralA large swath of men wouldn’t think the way I do, but I and many people of all genders see making our partner happy as fun and sexy. I enjoy giving blowjobs, but only when I know it’s safe to do so without my partner acting out their favorite degrading porn the moment I start. I need to be 100% certain the person I’m with will not only appreciate and respect me afterward, but return the favor, which means I need to already be in a committed relationship with the person I’m going down on. So it’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 04:25 AM |
| 30 | News article: 4 men arrested for "r*ping" a lizardYES. There is value in some examples related to actual dating, but we don’t need a reminder that men are gross enough to fuck lizards. We know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 09:29 PM |
| 89 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.It’s so wild to know there are people in this seemingly-prosperous country who believe it’s humane to bring a baby into the world just for them to live in pain and/or poverty and pass away in their infancy. Humane for whom? Not for the baby. Not for the mom. Not for their family or community. In this “ideal” scenario for American conservatives, everyone suffers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 09:21 PM |
| 95 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.Seriously. This place is hell. I can’t wait to escape | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.It shouldn’t be, but unfortunately America is essentially made up of over 50 little nation-states each with their own rules, and if all the little nation-states filled with angry conversative pre-Handmaid’s Tale politicians and their enabling wives get together and lobby hard enough, they can do things like ban abortion, strip women of their reproductive rights, make being trans virtually illegal, etc… And if enough states succeed in pulling this bullshit off—which seems to be the trajectory—the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 09:09 PM |
| 11 | Unfortunate to be a WomanI don’t think any of the things you’re describing here are unique to WOC or even specific to them. In my experience, LVM ratchet up their ego and self-image by pitting women against women for any reason they possibly can. For example, I’m a Black woman with a high income, so LVM light to compare me to Asian women with similar incomes and tell me they’re more beautiful. I could be rich, successful, well-traveled, and generous, all of which are lovely traits in a person you’re dating, but if a man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 02:16 AM |
| 109 | If I have to see y’all dog women out under the guise of levelling up one more time…I thought we were supposed to be cracking down on meaningless roasting of LVM/W in this sub? I know it’s a lot of work to do so, but it’s also damaging to a lot of women here to see a nonstop onslaught of shitty, LV behavior that minimizes hope for the future in our dating lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 02:05 AM |
| 11 | Intergenerational relationship trauma and breaking the cycle of abuseDefinitely a mood. After repeating the same mistakes as my mom a few times, ending up in multiple abusive relationships, and getting propositioned by PUAs, cheaters, fuckboys, etc., I really don’t feel comfortable around most men. But! Thankfully, I’m pansexual. Since I’ve always had orbiters waiting for their “turn,” I’ve never been single long enough to focus on healing until the past couple of years. When I’m finally ready to date again, pretty sure I won’t be giving a cis man the time of day… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 03:00 AM |
| 59 | Living With MenMy ex would spend every weekend holed up in the bedroom playing video games, occasionally venturing into the kitchen to collect his din-din when I refused to bring it to him; complained whenever I did my own laundry because why couldn’t I just do his with mine; AND still called Mommy to make his doctor appointments. If I’d stayed longer he would have shifted that task over to me, too. And the more repulsive and childish he became, the more he wanted sex. He wanted to be “the man” in bed and “my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 07:20 PM |
| 92 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girls[Elon Musk has entered the chat] | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:57 AM |
| 22 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girlsHey, I like Paddington! Lol But I also didn’t look at a sentient plush toy and think, “Ah yes, I’ve learned a very important lesson from this bear” and have it be…this. 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:46 AM |
| 75 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girlsWhat really bugs me about everything you just said is how everyone—women, men, society, our respective governments—probably saw this coming ages ago and still did nothing productive about it. A few years ago when young men in Japan started to lag behind women in university entrance exams, they simply made the exams easier. I’ve met two very booksmart men in both the US and UK who failed their entrance exams to prestigious universities because they couldn’t stop playing video games long enough to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:40 AM |
| 76 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girlsThey’re literally ad libs. “Heroes rescue people from [dangerous situation] but destroy [entire district of city] in the process. They disband from the stress of warranted criticism. But wait! [Big bad] is here with [Nazis/giant robots/eldritch horrors]! [Main male character] must get the gang together to [find magic thing/person] and [defeat boss] before the [city/country/world/universe] is destroyed!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:24 AM |
| 105 | On Bad Habits - Why Texting That Old LVM Is A Form Of Self Harm, & YOU AREN’T A SPORT! Why He Doesn’t Qualify For A ‘Second Shot’ - Don’t Let Your Vulnerability Be His Advantage.I’ve been on this awful but powerful little journey to rediscover what my own sexuality even is outside of the whims and demands of the men in my past. Those sorts of men will only change for the 30 mins to 7 days it takes to get you playing by their rules again. You are not missing out on a shocking glow-up, or an epiphany, or the heartfelt apology you deserve. So don’t stress. Have faith that he’s still the same dumpster fire he was when you left him and focus on what makes you feel fulfilled,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 03:31 AM |
| 52 | What’s the FDS-flavoured tea on cold approaches? Advice appreciated.I want the ‘bend and snap’ to be a thing, lol. These days men think “the signal” is making any form of direct eye contact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 04:45 AM |
| 222 | If you’re scaring them, you’re doing something right.What were you supposed to do with that information anyway? Were you supposed to get both of these boys' names, get dolled up and doe-eyed and go prove to them that you're not so scary after all? Did they stroll up to your roommate and ask her to pitch BOTH of them to you at the same time? Were they planning a boxing match against each other and wanted you to be the prize? Did literally a single soul in this scenario think this through??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 11:53 PM |
| 226 | What’s the FDS-flavoured tea on cold approaches? Advice appreciated.My favorite way to meet people is through a conference, event, shared hobby, etc.; cold approaches are one of my least favorite. Men approaching me in public, no matter how good-looking they are or how politely they do it, instantly raises my hackles, which men should care about but often don’t. We could end up having a nice conversation but I guarantee you, I will spend at least the first 30 seconds of that conversation strategizing how to escape in the event he doesn’t like my responses and de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 10:08 PM |
| 28 | Men saying that women go on dates for free food is them admitting that they have nothing else to offer.Men with money who want to impress you will spend it. Men with (or without) money who view women as a kiosk for free entertainment, sex, or therapy will see that you don’t appreciate their walk date idea and treat you as if you’re defective. “Hi, is this customer service? Yeah, my Girlbot wants me to pay for stuff before putting out. She keeps talking about ‘effort.’ I thought the sex was included???” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 09:51 PM |
| 35 | Men saying that women go on dates for free food is them admitting that they have nothing else to offer.I’ve stopped actively looking, but the HVM are out there. One of my friends married a really good guy last year, two more are getting married this year, and all three are really respectful, kind, emotionally intelligent, generous, have their own hobbies, etc. Maybe my friends know a special secret ritual to summon them out of an alternate universe, but it’s equally likely that they’re mortals like us, so I have some hope. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 09:34 PM |
| 19 | Men saying that women go on dates for free food is them admitting that they have nothing else to offer.What’s truly bizarre for me about this is how so many men complain that women demand the moon and stars from them on the first date, when really it’s just considering our interests…? I’ve gone to meetups, met men I was interested in, listened to the things they liked doing, then asked them on a date within days of meeting them. It’s not rocket science. But I would never do any of that now. Not with all these swarms of LVM who don’t even like the women they’re requesting coffee dates with. They c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 09:24 PM |
| 79 | Men saying that women go on dates for free food is them admitting that they have nothing else to offer.“Women only want us for free meals.” Thanks for letting me know you’re insecure, time to block “Let’s play it by ear.” Nah, I’ll just block you “I dunno what to do, you pick.” I choose staying at home, bye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 09:16 PM |
| 8 | Is it generally "better" for WOC to date within or outside of their race?No need to compartmentalize men by race when you date someone you’re attracted to who treats you well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 11:31 PM |
| 4 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.Totally agree; a HVM wouldn’t care about making you jump through hoops to “earn” his affection. As for anyone else you’re vetting out, wouldn’t it be faster, easier, and a better use of your limited time on this earth to simply not give swarms of scrotes access to you at all? LVM like to attach themselves to women they don’t value or like, then play games while extracting everything they can from us. What are you getting out of playing games with scrotes? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 03:26 PM |
| 13 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?What the fuckity fuck ma’am | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:35 AM |
| 14 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?Your ex-narc sounds like my most recent (long-distance) one. Everything I’d say to him would go in one ear and out the other for years until I got fed up. Wanting him to listen to the words out of my mouth instead of doing whatever he wanted was just too great a demand, I guess. Every time I’d try to leave he’d lure me back in with an expensive trip (last one was to the Caribbean) in an attempt to “make things right,” except he’d ignore everything I said in-person too, which had me feeling miser… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:31 AM |
| 59 | If you don't receive romance, act as if you were a man not receiving sex. Meaning dump. Women need romance like men need sex. It's not our want, it's our need.MA’AM 😂😂😂💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 10:08 PM |
| 9 | If He Wanted to He Would, God Edition: I am pissed enough to make a whole as$ post about thisThank you for this. I’ve been looking to make friends within my spiritual practice, but super reticent to date because it turns my environment for inner work into another thing LVM get to invade. These are some simple guidelines I can keep in mind when I do begin to practice more in public spaces. Definitely a good post for the handbook! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 10:02 PM |
| 47 | Men are so damn dumb, insecure, and illogical. If you’re dusty just say that. Yeah every time I get up early to go to work and drive 30 miles to the office, it’s definitely to turn on men. No one wants you!!!!!!!!! I need some Zyrtec to clear the dust in my nose.Ooooh my bad, I’ve been working and going to school full-time to launch an entrepreneurial career that gives back to my community when I should have been marketing myself to the village rooster all alooooong 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:59 AM |
| 36 | Lost a female friend and don’t know how to process. (Trigger warning for rape and abuse survivors)Ugh…Friend breakups hit me harder than romantic ones. I’m so sorry. You’re not a mind-reader; you had no way of knowing your distant friend would react to your post that way (and it wasn’t even directed at her in the beginning.) Honestly, eventually you’ll find better people out there who will ACTUALLY stick up and show up for you, instead of shaming you when you point it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:55 AM |
| 423 | Big yikesDonating a kidney to a loved one in need sounds like a good thing until you scroll down and see “beast circle” and realize a lot of aLpHaS are going to look at this. Their one brain cell will gasp to life, and they’ll decide it means they should be allowed to use any woman they marry, right down to their internal organs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:44 AM |
| 3 | A joke eh?“You women are—“ Aaaaand, blocked! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:39 AM |
| 19 | FDS Speaks: "[You] have yet to find a man you can fall in love with."Congrats on seeing the light and getting out of there! LVM will fake their whole damn personalities for years just to trap us with a ring and revert back to being the village rooster. But we’re the marriage-obsessed ones 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 08:44 PM |
| 50 | FDS Speaks: "[You] have yet to find a man you can fall in love with."I don’t know if anyone else here struggles with learning (or re-learning) this lesson. Maybe you knew you were the chooser at one point, but your “HVM” of six months switched up on you, and now here you are, invested, trying to switch him back. Suddenly you’re playing Build-A-Man and you’re not sure how you got here. I have to keep reminding myself that mistakes are okay to make, so long as you learn from them. If he “respected” you before and now he doesn’t, well, he never did. So if you though… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Met a creep and now motivated to not repeat. How do you motivate yourself to glow up when you've had nothing but bad experiences with men?Glad to hear it! (Also I just realized…pdx. Girl we’re both trying to escape the same place lmao, I hate it here) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 07:24 PM |
| 4 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.Insecure as HELL. Not to mention loads of men will crush on women for their skills, then hate on her for the whole relationship because those skills don’t directly benefit him 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 11:01 PM |
| 3 | Met a creep and now motivated to not repeat. How do you motivate yourself to glow up when you've had nothing but bad experiences with men?I’m sorry you’ve been stuck in isolation for this long; I’m just now getting back into the world too, trying to make friends (non-cis males only) and save up to move to someplace that’s more my scene. It can feel so demoralizing, especially as Black women, to be lonely and in need of actual connection and be approached by dudes like these. (I say especially because certain men of every skin color seem to genuinely believe a Black woman should feel “lucky” to receive attention of any kind; even w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 09:04 PM |
| 44 | Men finding "love" with AI chatbots - Horrifying Black Mirror episode, good alternative to sex workers, or both? - 'I fell in love with my AI girlfriend - and it saved my marriage'Exactly. Men have been loudly and angrily comparing us with sex bots since they first hit the commercial market. We want them to be distracted by their shiny woman-shaped toys, but in reality they’re using them as our stand-ins. They’re using sex bots—things that cannot feel, have feedback, or give consent—as practice dummies for an actual sentient woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 05:54 AM |
| 33 | What do we do with LVM with podcastsMen want you to be rankled by them, and talk about them, and let their loud-boy podcasts live rent-free in your head, but those podcasts are mostly a circle-jerk of lonely scrotes passing around the same “tactics” that only work on a single woman once before we all learn the grift. The best thing to do about their podcasts is send an investigator to each host’s address so they can publicly unearth their history of abuse and hopefully end their career…but since we can’t do that, the next-best opt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 05:44 AM |
| 57 | The truth about "the wall"Men built “the wall” out of their own raging sense of entitlement and need for control, and now they’re mad because they can’t reach us while we sit on the other side, unbothered. Sounds rough, fellas 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:37 PM |
| 52 | The truth about "the wall"I’m in my early thirties now, can’t WAIT for my Fuck You Fifties! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:26 PM |
| 16 | The Struggle Is Real...Someone took precious time out of their undergraduate Java programming class to develop this cope | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 01:48 AM |
| 121 | Absence is your best, most declarative weapon against men’s misogyny.For all my Pisces sisters, bleeding hearts, and anyone else who tends to fall for apologies and puppy-dog eyes: the grey-rock method and block and delete are for you. YES, YOU SPECIFICALLY. THEY ARE PRECIOUS GIFTS. Please use them! I’ve been the girl who knew enough to put her foot down and dump him, but not enough to block and delete, which is 100% the same as sticking around and putting up with it. The best option is always to get out of there the MOMENT he disrespects you in any way. Even if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 01:41 AM |
| 4 | Bell Hooks on letting go of LVM💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Learn to be SelfishThe silliest example of those hackles is when I blocked an ex after years of him pretending every “no” was a conditional “yes.” I felt bad after a month and unblocked him. His first response was something like, “I can’t believe you would be so aBuSiVe to just throw me away like that for no reason 🥺” So I blocked him again and am learning to trust my intuition the first time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 02:34 AM |
| 5 | If they don't list in their OLD profile what they are looking for (relationship or casual) it's never for a good reason. This is from one of the OLD subreddits. OP is confirming my beliefs in the last screenshot.“I’m don’t want [a thing women hate], I just want [a synonym for that thing women hate]” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 03:46 AM |
| 23 | What in the pick-me hell? Ad on Facebook for virtual mental health help.I begged my ex to go to therapy for a year before breaking up with him. He’s wandered into my DMs from different accounts from time to time to tell me that his “therapist” said that “we both” need to work on our issues together. Men in the doghouse will invent therapists out of thin air, who always just so happen to believe that the thing he wants is the perfect treatment for his crippling condition of not getting attention 🥺 And the thing he and his “therapist” want will always be the opposite … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 03:27 AM |
| 19 | Queen. 😂🌸 💐✨ Have a blessed day! ✨ 🌻🌸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 04:25 AM |
| 15 | Dating men who are grievingWell said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 04:15 AM |
| 278 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Men hate it when women talk amongst themselves. When it’s just me and one other woman talking in public, inevitably men will start to fucking hover until they can find a way to include themselves. While I was at the gym with my friend today, we were having a great time working out and chatting, venting about our days, up until a group of men would pass us, at which point we both fell silent and avoided eye contact on instinct. Didn’t matter how old or young, what skin color they had, what their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:02 AM |
| 13 | Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle?Yeah…assuming OP lives in America, the US has been “open” for well over a year now, with restrictions. I’d wager it’s harder to meet HVM now on OLD than it is in real life, especially in popular metros where hobby stuff is still available but far more “contained” than it was before. Now that we have to plan ahead for limited-space events, or attend virtual events, people have to be intentional about self-selecting into where they spend their free time a lot more. This has made it easier (for me)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:32 AM |
| 69 | I wonder if these are high expectationsOh, honey, there’s nothing “normal” about it! I can’t wait until young women don’t even have to ask before getting tf out. My first boyfriend pulled this shit - dumped me, then came back asking me to be a “placeholder” while he looks for a new girlfriend. He continued begging in my DMs for eight years before I changed my number | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 01:26 AM |
| 39 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂Lazy: 1 - “What’s for dinner?” 2 - “Women shouldn’t expect men to take them out on dates, you know?” Smug: 1 - “Drama free no fatties” 2 - “You’re hotter than my last ex, who was crazy” Athletic: 1 - “How about a hike for our first date? No? A walk, then?” 2 - “Going climbing with the boys, see you next month!” Normal: 1 - “I’m a foodie” 2 - “Can’t wait to watch The Office with you every single night until we die!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 03:39 AM |
| 99 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂Us leaving a bad date: “It’s 2022. When are they going to update these guys with better dialogue?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 09:42 PM |
| 41 | Midlife crisis is reconciling your youth and impending death…another one bites the dust 🙄I think it’s cute. Too cute for a night out with a backwards baseball cap boy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 09:15 PM |
| 492 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂The millennial urge to swipe through 50 men who look exactly like this before finding one who looks exactly like this but with glasses Sharing the same 10 personalities among each other like they’re Animal Crossing villagers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 09:10 PM |
| 7 | 🤡They already did! Remember MGTOW? They sure did do a great job “going their own way,” didn’t they? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:36 AM |
| 11 | 🤡Oh, but those are completely different things, you see! Job interviews lead to money, and money lets you buy new gamer crap. Dates mean you spend money — money you could be spending on gamer crap — and if women can just expect less and do more, why should men have to SaCriFicE their hard-earned cash?! What monsters we are for even dreaming of it! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:20 AM |
| 9 | 🤡It’s ridiculously easy to ask someone out. I’ve gotten dates that way. Got rejected, too. Didn’t die! But it’s wild cuz the same men who sit at their keyboards whinging about having to put in effort to date a woman will also cry about being “emasculated” by women doing the “man’s work” of taking the initiative and then launch into rapid-fire jokes about feminism ruining society so like…??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:16 AM |
| 2 | We had been chatting for less then a day and this happened...Oof…sounds about right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:07 AM |
| 26 | We had been chatting for less then a day and this happened...I figured he was asking because if she did, he’d get to explain to her why she should never expect it from him and/or he’d complain about how his ex-wife was “selfish” for wanting it or something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 03:48 AM |
| 19 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesMy NVX did all of that. Six figures, Silicon Valley bro who was mad when I dumped him because I “ruined” his plans for me to share the rent with him in a ratty, dingy one-bedroom apartment with a leaky ceiling and paper-thin walls. (He also let his mom make the down payment on his car and lived with his sister rent-free through college. Man was trained from birth to leech off of women) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 01:06 AM |
| 34 | Men want me to back down even when I am rightAny variation of “Why won’t he just act normal” are words that everyone here needs to be acutely aware of. If you’re thinking them, or someone else is saying them, it’s time for a rescue mission. Lots of shitty men on here share playbooks for these sorts of tactics, but the cold reality is that a lot of shitty men learn to prey on women’s willingness to trust unconsciously, no strategies required. This is why they fly under our radar; they look HV until they decide not to be. They realize they c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:00 PM |
| 24 | Men want me to back down even when I am rightNone of this is your fault. Your bf, like your exes, is just a misogynist who tried and failed to keep his mask on. That man hates you and is mad that you won’t let him control you. He’s not even trying to hide it anymore. Also…what a weird thing to want to fight about??? I don’t even understand the logic; it’s like he just thought to himself, “and now is a good time to be unhinged” and went for it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 09:50 PM |
| 124 | “The success of single women is the success of all women.“Single women live longer AND live happier than straight women married to men across the globe, but men don’t like to discuss these statistics for some reason | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 09:44 PM |
| 322 | "b-but I'm homeless king"“Sure he’s hurting you, spending your money, wasting your time and flirting with your friends, but don’t be mad about it. Don’t be another fight for him to try and win. Be a ladder he can step on repeatedly until he gets where he wants to be! Build him up!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 09:33 PM |
| 41 | Big oof. This whole thing made me cringe really hard. This is why we don’t chase or be too forward without properly vetting. The wrong men will get the wrong idea, their entitlement doesn’t have limits.A lot of them think it’s an affectionate gesture to grab women’s necks like we’re dogs, because porn. After an ex choked me I had a whole coping mechanism around this where I tried to be attracted to it, asked men I was dating to choke me and such. In reality I don’t think I was ever turned on by it, but it made me feel a bit better to pretend that I was. I tried to translate terror into something more socially acceptable, I guess. Now I literally panic when a man’s hand comes anywhere close to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:23 AM |
| 88 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on Craigslist[laughs in 63K straight out of college] | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:10 AM |
| 79 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on Craigslist“I’ll be Tony Stark, and you be the female who does everything he says while looking hot” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:10 AM |
| 47 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on CraigslistNO SCRUBS. If you’re moving into a role that involves a lot of emotional labor — executive/internal comms, any kind of front-facing medical work — that shit deserves a significant pay raise on its own. This “CEO” couldn’t afford a part-timer, much less a 24/7 indentured servant. The deluuuusion 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:09 AM |
| 48 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on Craigslist🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:01 AM |
| 118 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on CraigslistLIFELONG COMMITMENT? LIFELONG COMMITMENT?!? Leave your friends, family and livelihood at any time on his whim! Working for 5+ years for the POTENTIAL to earn money even though half as much effort nets $60-90K in the west coast US! “Email is so last-gen” so no paper trail when you go missing! What an amazing fucking awesome super cool opportunity holy shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:00 AM |
| 28 | Men Who Hate Women Show It When Women Are Most VulnerableOh hell no. This is exactly why we’re better off alone than with a LVM. They will sit on your sofa eating your snacks, racking up your electric bill while you’re in surgery and just…forget you exist. I’ve had kinder roommates than this scrote | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 06:30 PM |
| 40 | Learn to be SelfishEven my platonic guy friends have leaned on coercive contact when trying to hang out with me. “Sorry for the short notice / Busy tonight? / Holding a party tomorrow, you coming? / Can you cat-sit for me for like two weeks? Leaving this weekend!” It took a couple of years of leveling-up and raising my self-esteem to realize I was just “grateful” for friendships that trained me to be on-call in exchange for crumbs. Setting boundaries when you’re not used to it can feel really uncomfortable at firs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 04:24 PM |
| 115 | What types of OLD websites or apps do you prefer?None, sorry. Bumble showed me a new low in effort; Tinder is fuckboy central; OKC got me a couple of great first dates but that was ten years and three relationships ago, now everybody is “ethically non-monogamous.” I haven’t tried Plenty of Fish or Coffee Meet Bagel and I’m not going to. I’ve been meeting people through girlfriends, outdoorsy stuff, and the occasional hobby/side hustle meetup! I don’t have time for dating, but there’s still plenty of interest in the real world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 04:07 PM |
| 25 | Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected?This. It’s particularly heinous when you break it down and realize they expect every woman to have these traits built-in. If men leveled up more often, not only would they be more attractive, they’d be less obsessed about finding a woman to attach themselves to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 03:59 PM |
| 14 | Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected?The ugly truth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 03:45 PM |
| 95 | Tale as old as time“We never dated 😐” Then stare at him. Stare at him like you can kind of recall his face, but not quite. Stare at him like he just might be a creeper from your last retail job. Who even is he? Where is he coming up with this stuff? Why was he having these weird thoughts about the two of you dating? Ew. EW. Let everyone around him come up with their own narratives. He’s yammering about a relationship y’all literally never had. Let him have that, thorns and all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 06:45 AM |
| 176 | Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected?This made me feel a whole lot better about how hard I tried in past relationships. I’ve never seen it so succinctly put. You can love a misogynist, care for them, spend money on them, take them to doctor’s appointments, hang out with their parents, give them as much sex as they want, and they’ll never love you, because they are dedicated by tooth and nail not to, and the relationship will still fail because they’re still thinking “girls are icky” in their adult heads and will find a way to knock… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 06:37 AM |
| 109 | Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected?🎶Could it be any more obvious 🎶 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 06:21 AM |
| 156 | Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected?Exactly. This is why it’s so important for us to vet until you find someone who benefits you in as many ways as possible. Redditors whine about how we can impress a date just by existing…and it’s true. Smart? Pretty? Caring? You’re all set. In fact, being too smart makes you overqualified, and once they realize that, they’ll turn catty and act like you’re their enemy to feel better about themselves. Thankfully, their fantasies have nothing to do with us. We hang out in the real world where there… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 06:18 AM |
| 198 | Men Who Hate Women Show It When Women Are Most VulnerableChildhood tonsillectomies are more common than adult ones because they are by far the most merciful solution should you need one. Unlike in childhood, your tonsils will actively revolt against any disturbances as an adult. My god. He would rather google it and ask for opinions from everybody within earshot than consider what would make his partner happiest, safest, and most comfortable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 06:10 AM |
| 66 | Using your hobby to vetHooooooo 🥴 I’ve literally never met a man who played League regularly and didn’t have anger issues lmao. That game’s been helping me filter my dating pool since 2012 I also have an ex who was smart enough to get a free ride through one of the UK’s most prestigious universities, but he couldn’t stop playing WoW long enough to meet deadlines and ended up having to go the long way through community college | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:23 PM |
| 291 | Using your hobby to vetI had an ex who complained about my muscle definition too. “You have better abs than me ☹️” When my response was “So work out, then,” he started inviting himself to my gym sessions. When he realized I wasn’t going to water them down for him, he stopped going and started trying to police how I dressed and ate. Shocks my system when I think about these men who act like toddlers and expect to be treated like kings | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:09 PM |
| 9 | This is why I refuse to date single fathers. Being childfree keeps certain drama out of your life.What a disgusting pile of sentient garbage 🤢 He had an agenda from day one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:36 PM |
| 3 | This is why I refuse to date single fathers. Being childfree keeps certain drama out of your life.Don’t even get me started on fkn Drake! Uggggh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:32 PM |
| 74 | If he can't plan a date, he isn't worth going out with in the first place.Not Bob Evans 🥲 “Hey baby, let’s get to know each other over a plate of hash browns and the cacophony of screaming infants!” As obsessed as men are about their masculinity, I can’t wrap my head around guys who rush into relationships so they can complain to their wives that they aren’t getting pampered enough with dates and vacations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:20 PM |
| 18 | This is why I refuse to date single fathers. Being childfree keeps certain drama out of your life.After some 13 years of raising my brother and I, my mom got back with her high school sweetheart, who proceeded to be a lazy jackass in our home 24/7. Ate her food, spent her money on his “music career,” got in fights with my brother (a grown-ass man, fist fighting with a teenager). Stole her car — a single mother’s car, with two kids, nearest grocery store several miles away — on more than one occasion. I’m still unlearning the flat-out wrong definitions of love I was taught in that house to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 04:13 AM |
| 9 | This is why I refuse to date single fathers. Being childfree keeps certain drama out of your life.GROSS. And stupid, too; y’all barely even knew each other but he thought he had you hooked enough to want his babies? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:56 AM |
| 38 | This is why I refuse to date single fathers. Being childfree keeps certain drama out of your life.I don’t know about the rest of y’all but the only baby-trappers I’ve ever met in person were men. Women know the risks of pregnancy. Women know it’s a whole damn lot of work to raise children, especially on your own. Women have to pop these babies out after what will probably be a grueling nine months. (Some) women know what having a baby by the wrong man could cost them. Men don’t seem to understand or acknowledge any of this. The consequences aren’t real for them. Most of them think kids are n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:45 AM |
| 25 | This is why I refuse to date single fathers. Being childfree keeps certain drama out of your life.I didn’t realize it had a name until years after I’d escaped the relationship, but you’re so spot-on. The moment I stopped giving him sex as a reward for the bare minimum, he was up gaming at all hours, turning lights on in the middle of the night, coming home drunk at 1am…the tactics men come up with when they can’t get their pp wet are wild. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:29 AM |
| 12 | Why you can’t take men seriously…They even record themselves getting rejected and post it for the validation of other men, because actually being in a relationship with a woman doesn’t carry nearly as much clout as spending a few seconds at a time with multiple attractive women in public. What a chad! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:21 AM |
| 12 | Why you can’t take men seriously…I’m beginning to think the most terminally-online sadbois of Reddit come here looking for their counterparts. “I can’t talk to women ☹️ I’ll bet the ‘f-mcel sub’ is full of shut-ins too. Maybe if I try negging some female-presenting snoos over there I‘ll score a crumb of female attention!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:58 AM |
| 8 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.Like an American PSA from the 1990s. “It’s 2pm. Do YOU know where your boyfriend is?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 11:39 PM |
| 18 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.QUEEN SHIT 😂🎉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:53 PM |
| 12 | Thoughts? How would you debate that? Seems like it's from a male perspective?!I agree with this. In a perfect world, we would all be able to innately tap into our own self-love 100% of the time, fully understanding our worth and attracting partners who love us as much as we love us. But…trauma is a thing that exists. Tragedies exist. Situations that chip away at our agency and happiness exist. Let’s not pretend we all wake up every single morning full of self-worth and gratitude for every piece of ourselves. Sometimes you need a good friend or a partner to pick you up off… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:33 PM |
| 67 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.‘He doesn’t have to know” “Can’t you have friends?” “Short leash, huh?” But this poor baby’s upset that women won’t talk to him without inventing a girlfriend who would hypothetically endorse him/lend him a veneer of safety he couldn’t create on his own | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:25 PM |
| 39 | I’m not like other girls, and that doesn’t mean what LVM think it doesI don’t know about you but that shit HURT me. Like I’m right here telling you in your native language exactly what would make me happy and you just…do a different, wasteful thing that inflates your ego? And now you’re mad cuz I’m not happy?? You thought spending money was going to make me happy automatically??? 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 02:07 AM |
| 66 | I’m not like other girls, and that doesn’t mean what LVM think it doesI think my favorite date was at the science museum. We had so many interesting conversations, got to relax and play and not take life so seriously for a minute, AND we both got to prattle on excitedly about nerdy things we’re into that no one else in our lives wanted to hear about! It was lovely, and if I could have gone on a hundred more dates with him just like that, I would’ve. (Unfortunately that one turned out to be a fluke, and he would go the high-salary LVM route and shove expensive trip… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:55 AM |
| 0 | I need someone to help me make sense of this...You want apology because the lady was being considerate? Because she had common sense?Old people like myself will call him “brilliant” because back in the 2000s, he actually was! There’s probably still a glimmer of brilliance in there somewhere, but he’s too busy being a hot mess to show it off these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 08:11 PM |
| 2 | What’s your take on this advice: telling a new man you’re dating all the ways your ex treated you well and that it ended because on cheating? She says it will let the man know that your standards are high and nothing could make you put up with it.Exactly. As essential as it is to build trust with one another in a relationship, I firmly believe that the second you feel like a guy is weaponizing your past against you, it’s time to start disengaging. The writing’s on the wall, and it’ll hurt a lot less if you leave early than if you invest more time and CoMmUniCatiOn just to get burned for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 08:02 PM |
| 5 | What’s your take on this advice: telling a new man you’re dating all the ways your ex treated you well and that it ended because on cheating? She says it will let the man know that your standards are high and nothing could make you put up with it.I tell my dates that all my exes lived abroad. It takes a lot of maturity (and money) to successfully navigate long-distance relationships, and a LV date often doesn’t know where to begin their interrogation with that context. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:55 PM |
| 3 | When you move in with a man that doesn't even respect youThe only time I moved in with a man, this is exactly how it panned out. “I can’t just not play League of Legends in the bedroom until 3am, you knew this about me when you met me. What’s for breakfast?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:48 PM |
| 37 | epiphany: men who neg strong womenIt’d be reeeally embarrassing if you were the same amazing woman who first recommended this book to the sub but just in case, I think you’d love Women and Other Monsters by Jess Zimmerman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 01:56 AM |
| 62 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisWhy thank you! Mission accomplished, lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 08:24 PM |
| 360 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like this“Hello I am a middle-aged man who lives rent-free in his parents’ home. They’re tired of cooking for me so come stay in my smelly bedroom filled with anime girl figurines and make me meals and give me cuddles. CUDDLES ONLY, plz I don’t want you to see my tiny ween, but we can watch h e n t a i together” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:55 PM |
| 195 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisGot kicked out of the house as a teen in the late 2000s in a metro with a sky-high cost of living. Every other Craigslist ad looked exactly like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:48 PM |
| 10 | Even Men Are Tired Of Men...The desperation…It’s impossible NOT to know when a LV man in my city is single. I’m leveling up right now and not interested in dating, but all I have to do is stand outside looking at my phone for a few seconds. It’s like single LVM are never home. They’re just…out. Waiting for a female to pass by them so they can shoot their shot. Acting like they’re afraid of being alone with their own thoughts and shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 10:51 PM |
| 106 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesGod, I wish more men rejected me. When I think of all the pairs of clown shoes I wouldn’t have had to go out and buy trying to love them into treating me better 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 08:04 PM |
| 24 | Fresh Take: Men Who Rush For SexI think both can be true at the same time; men can hump our legs thoughtlessly like animals and out of pure self-loathing! Hear me out: wouldn't a man who respected himself and considered himself worthy of love make an attempt to acquire love, rather than take the bank-robber approach on any woman who smiles in his direction? A lot of these guys perceive successfully getting laid as their sole source of pride. It may not be that they're barely human, but that they resort to anything to fulfill t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:27 AM |
| 65 | One of Y'all's 50/50 Boyfriends Is Posting About FDS lolThey couldn’t find enough valid accusations to slander us with, this is plan B 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:30 AM |
| 91 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himThere are some brides out there who actually think it’s funny, I’m sure, but I haven’t met them. Also the cake itself is expensive too, and it’s supposed to be shared with the guests! Sacrificing all that expensive food for a dumb prank | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 11:39 PM |
| 18 | Beware of « stable » families who will judge you for your past trauma.“Stable” families who feel the need to knock you down like that aren’t as stable as they think. Talking behind the back of someone your family member is actively dating — someone who very well could have become part of that family — is an expression of deep insecurity, and that had to come from somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 07:19 PM |
| 21 | Not accepting text conversations is THE BEST!These are excellent points. As an introvert I’ve always been uncomfortable with people calling, but I’m learning lately that it feels much more emotionally rewarding to have someone’s undivided attention for an hour, as opposed to being friend 5 of 15 in someone’s meme-sending chain. What are your thoughts on group chats? I enjoy being in them but rarely engage until plans are being formed, or if something big happens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:57 PM |
| 179 | A Curated Selection from OLDIf they were being honest, 100% of these profiles wouldn’t be exclusively seeking something “casual and separate” from their partners. It’s casual so that you won’t expect him to ever let you into his home, and separate because the girlfriend/fiancé isn’t aware she’s in an open relationship at all. Fun! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 05:36 PM |
| 65 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutHe couldn’t even enjoy having sex without trying to cut you down in the middle of it 🥴 Insecure men are wild. My wildest example of backfooting is, and will hopefully always be, the guy who just knew I was cheating on him because my eyes were “too brown” that day. (What he probably meant to say was that they seemed to have more life in them than usual, as I’d dared to spend time with my beloved friends for the first time in months, despite the abusive boyfriend.) We should NEVER spend time with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 08:11 PM |
| 83 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutImagine being in a long-term relationship with someone who needs to get his way so bad he’ll willingly lose sleep over it, and see everything you do or say against his will as an opportunity to teach you a lesson. Exhausting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 07:50 PM |
| 10 | The things I had to freaking hear.LV wealthy men will go out of their way to spend money on you, whether you want them to or not, only to hang it over your head the next time you displease them with your silly opinions or needs. And of course, you will be “crazy” the moment you leave, because who wouldn’t want a guy who makes 400k a year? All women want is money, riiiiight? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:34 AM |
| 5 | The things I had to freaking hear.What a creep. What is the actual point of complaining about the EYE COLOR of a woman you’re dating? If you didn’t like her eye color…why did you…go out with her…in the first fucking place?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:25 AM |
| 19 | The things I had to freaking hear.Just like men, women know when to keep their plans to themselves. She probably had a plan for her life all along but never saw a man 10 years older than her fitting into it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:20 AM |
| 19 | The things I had to freaking hear.Poor thing, belittling women when his only plan for life is to find a woman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:18 AM |
| 6 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 46 - Scamming Men in Solidarity: Combating Colorism & Racial FetishizationSame. But I’m here for it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:12 AM |
| 16 | We have to stop putting up with this shit 🤡There’s a book called Women and Other Monsters which links the behavior of shitty men in modern day with stories from ancient Greek mythology. In one of them the author describes an ex, all of whom’s previous exes were “crazy” and “abusive,” and equates them with sirens on the shore of an island, singing songs that lure sailors to their deaths. I would summarize the punchline as: Did you have to dunk yourself into the ocean to get to the potentially hot woman on the shore, dude? Wasn’t that a ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:05 AM |
| 23 | We have to stop putting up with this shit 🤡You can’t fix an entire person. Every time we try, all we’re really doing is showing that our boundaries and needs are free to be treated like guidelines. If he needs fixing he can do it himself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 03:58 AM |
| 66 | They always tell on themselves, sometimes sooner than othersPlot twist: He’s in an ethically non-monogamous relationship with his TV and car | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:48 PM |
| 10 | When your husband sets a timer for how long you spend together each dayCongratulations on your new job! 🎉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Just another day in the mind of a LVM. Men shouldn’t be allowed to date, they’re evolving from walks to wanting to run errands on dates for their own benefitWhy would he expect chemistry when this entire situation is designed to spend as little time, attention, and money on his date as possible? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 07:09 PM |
| 9 | Trust your intuitionIt feels like you might have skimmed my post, ngl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:06 PM |
| 39 | Trust your intuitionExactly. The moment you're coming on here asking the whole internet why your perfect one-and-only is making you so unhappy, you should already have your answer: he's not for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:30 PM |
| 69 | Trust your intuitionI have all of those feelings too, and I'm glad you have them. When you run the whole gamut, by the time you've come out of it you have a 100% certifiable read on whether or not he's worth your time! I've been told the cycle of grief gets shorter the older you get and the fewer fucks you give. Honestly cannot wait for that, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:28 PM |
| 17 | Man who used woman for sex is mad that she used him for sex. There is no such thing as casual sex. They will always want to keep it casual but do not like it when you treat them the same way“Me, an amazing talented smart and handsome gentleman. Her, a quiet introverted boring sentient cardboard box who doesn’t know what she wants. Anyway, she wanted my peepee and—“ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 07:24 PM |
| 10 | Man who used woman for sex is mad that she used him for sex. There is no such thing as casual sex. They will always want to keep it casual but do not like it when you treat them the same wayHe couldn’t come up with a single good thing to say about her but still needed validation from her after sex (she probs didn’t actually come, lol), tried to convince the internet his shitty car problem were somehow her fault, and still thinks he’s in the right despite people apparently taking her side in the comments. Men like these are the reason I fell off of dating. Both parties got what they wanted but he found a way to be mad about it anyway | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 07:21 PM |
| 21 | Stand in line ladies… please roast this scrote!Has to be. HAS to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 05:24 AM |
| 310 | Men Double TextingManipulation…and a childish strategy at that. No need to dwell on it, just block and let him find someone new to obsess over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 03:55 AM |
| 13 | AITA with FDS-approved commentsGood for both of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 03:44 AM |
| 61 | What are your standards when dating?Everything you’ve covered, plus: No kids or “complicated” situations with exes (aka no setups for triangulation) Same or greater income than myself NEEDS to have a hobby or a job they’re passionate about. No lazy a-holes who job-hop/quit their jobs once an ambitious woman’s in their life, and no powermongers who over-identify with maximizing income or being the “breadwinner” - they need to be doing something meaningful with their lives instead of prodding at me all day Must have a good relations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:58 PM |
| 42 | "Men don't actually like women, they want to have sex with female anatomy, but they don't like women."Yeah, I didn’t get that part. I mean it’s not like we’re continuing to perpetuate millennias-old myths touting women as harpies, medusas, hags, witches, monsters, etc. and men as the strapped heroes who slay them, right? It’s not like most of Hollywood’s “strong female characters” aren’t still permanently hobbled by half-baked personalities to make their male counterparts look better, riiiight? It’s not like many of our cultures are not even 100 years removed from a world in which our only permi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:13 PM |
| 44 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmI don’t know if “revolutionary” is too strong a word for this strategy but I’m going for it ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:30 AM |
| 87 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?Sometimes low-class and low-value meet in the middle and multiply. Upward mobility is coming to a grinding halt in the US. It’s becoming harder and harder for any of us to progress beyond the class we were born into. The shrinking middle class looks to religion or cultural institutions for support, which also gets hit hard by economic decline. So it’s like we’re living in a feedback loop of stress and disillusionment. Some people will have the ambition (and luck) to rise above the odds mounting … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 07:43 PM |
| 38 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorRacists will gladly harass light-skinned Latina and East Asian women in public and subscribe to Black and South Asian sex workers on OnlyFans where their boys can’t judge them 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:18 PM |
| 49 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorNearly 90% 😬 I shouldn’t be surprised but damn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:08 PM |
| 14 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorAnd that’s them on their best behavior! Trying to impress you by [checks notes] doubling down on being an absolute chucklefuck. And then wonder where their bad reputation’s coming from. 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:46 PM |
| 39 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorYep. No point in being exclusive to any one race of man when they’re all perfectly capable of treating you like garbage. It’s hard enough to find a guy who’s attractive, takes care of himself, and is consistently HV without filtering down to specific skin colors, cultures and nationalities | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:41 PM |
| 123 | At this point women should just complain about going 50/50 for the sheer hilarity that'd ensueMen are so emotional | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 03:40 AM |
| 346 | Husband suggests she stop buying formula rather than get a job and cancel his $80+ a month subscriptions.And probably isn’t even taking care of the kid adequately, considering how hard he’s fighting to keep multiple streaming services. For the “primary caregiver” with no job he seems to have a lot of free time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 03:32 AM |
| 53 | When it comes to "High Value" communities targeted to women, many are belong in the trashWe can be suuuuch shit about cost-benefit analysis. If you’re clearly on the road to hell, that road is also the path of least resistance from where you’re standing. Even if you’re putting your child and yourself in danger, most people are primed to not think too hard about the trajectory of their lives so long as they’re on the easiest, most natural path for them at the moment. This is why so many people “think about” writing a novel or changing their career or going back to school, but never d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:34 PM |
| 9 | “Not ready to be serious … but I want to keep seeing you!!” does NOT warrant any responseWhat a nightmare 😨 I’m so glad you got help! Men who go this nuts this soon are absolutely letting their predator flag fly loud and proud. And of course he’s a cop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 03:55 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with HVM that know they have options?LVM are trying so hard to be (their Hollywood concept of) women these days with all their SuBtLe attempts to make us chase them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:54 AM |
| 25 | How do you deal with HVM that know they have options?Side note: Avoid pedestals at all costs! When we put men on pedestals, we give them the bulk of our power to decide if a relationship is or isn’t working for us personally. We run of the risk of treating the relationship as the single most important thing in our lives, as opposed to our health, career, family, personal growth, etc. And when we allow them to put US on pedestals and treat us like we’re their world, they tend to hold us responsible for everything from their emotional wellbeing to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:48 AM |
| 114 | You’ll thank yourself laterDusty: n. 1) A scrote; 2) A man who forgoes the necessity of body lotion, basic skincare, and hygiene, and thus has ashy-ass skin and looks 20 years older than he is, with a personality to fit the aesthetic. Interactions with women often begin with the expectation to “build him up.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:39 AM |
| 23 | This is why FDS recommends snooping. Be very ruthless with your vetting process! You never know how deprived some men can beHe made all that shit up for internet points. Let that sink in. Here is a man who fabricated an entire narrative surrounding his porn stash, to share with a bunch of dudes on the internet, for clout. This man has not even a fraction of a life to the point where he’s bragging about fapping to de*d women, and he’s out there somewhere, lurking among us. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:33 AM |
| 41 | The Bar is in Hell ExpressionsThis bar is so low I found it at Dollar Tree. Bar’s lower than a pickme’s self-esteem. Hades himself constructed this bar with his own two hands, from the depths of despair and agony. A bar so low you could use it as a turnstile. Granny’s grocery store coupon looking-ass bar. CERN could find anything in this immeasurably large universe, except the bar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:28 AM |
| 31 | More of a Reason Why Blocking & Deleting is So ImportantNot him using his ex-girlfriend lines on a woman he hadn’t even met yet 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:22 AM |
| 33 | More of a Reason Why Blocking & Deleting is So ImportantHate to see it 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:21 AM |
| 338 | More of a Reason Why Blocking & Deleting is So ImportantNever explain, never apologize, just block and delete. You do NOT have to go back and forth with someone who’s already outed themselves as having no respect for you, and you do NOT have to deal with him popping back into your DMs three months later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:20 AM |
| 521 | “Not ready to be serious … but I want to keep seeing you!!” does NOT warrant any responseScrotes: “Date me! Date me! Date me!” Scrotes, one date in: “WOW we’re moving way too fast here, I’m not ready to date you yet” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:15 AM |
| 127 | “Not ready to be serious … but I want to keep seeing you!!” does NOT warrant any responseTHIS. OP’s scrote has certainly done this before but he made a noob move and forgot the order of operations; he assumed she wanted him based on their acquaintanceship length alone and proceeded as if she was “hooked.” So transparent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:11 AM |
| 85 | Saw my best friends married and currently going through IVF, uncle on tinder.Yes, please let her know! Tinder doesn’t notify the person that you’ve saved a screenshot at all. I took one of my own brother’s profile and sent it to his wife. (They’re still together 🤡) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 11:33 PM |
| 30 | Fawning like "How are you single?"/"You sound too good to be true!"/"Are you real?"The neg is a gift. He’s letting you know upfront not to waste your time. How considerate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:55 PM |
| 140 | A collection of recent bios I’ve seen on OLD, and their translationsWell imagine that: a man asked WOMEN to help him find a match and subsequently stood out from the swathes of human refuse on OLD! Love to see it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:52 PM |
| 172 | A collection of recent bios I’ve seen on OLD, and their translationsImagine applying to a job with that level of laziness. The resume is just your name, contact info, and “Any questions just ask” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:47 PM |
| 205 | A collection of recent bios I’ve seen on OLD, and their translations“Looking for a partner in crime / Looking for someone to go on adventures with” = “The only adventures we’re going on are the ones you’re planning, otherwise we’re spending every other Saturday at Costco” “Just in town for the weekend. Show me around!” = “I live 2 miles away. Take me to your favorite spots that I can surprise my live-in girlfriend with” “6’4” = “5’7” and if you call me on it I’m going to spend the rest of the date pouting” “I’m a foodie” = “The most interesting thing about mysel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:40 PM |
| 51 | Fawning like "How are you single?"/"You sound too good to be true!"/"Are you real?"“You sound too good to be true!” “What can I say, I’m an ✨experience✨” “Bit full of yourself, aren’t you? I like humble girls” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:37 PM |
| 62 | Fawning like "How are you single?"/"You sound too good to be true!"/"Are you real?"I get “How are you real” all the time too. Since going to therapy and finding FDS my responses are becoming increasingly prouder and goofier: “We’re all one-of-a-kind, but I’m one-of-a-kinder.” A guy who asks that question from a genuine place will play along or laugh. A guy who’s going to be a shitty experience will pounce on that expression of confidence like it’s his job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:36 PM |
| 133 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.Pre-FDS, my ex whom I thought I was in love with accidentally said the quiet part loud while he was trying to score some breakup sex: he said he was so surprised by the cOnNecTioN we had even though we were “never even friends.” Imagine spending almost three years with a man who can’t fix his face to appreciate you outside of a sexual context. He tried to backpedal but damn, did he do me a favor. Hurt my feelings so bad I blocked him for good | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:23 PM |
| 4 | Guy I was talking to defends his misogynistic comments and covers them up as banter and jokes with his friends and tells me if I won’t accept him then to leave which I did. I can’t accept him for who he is because I don’t reward pornsick, misogynists“If you can’t accept me at my WORST you don’t deserve me at my OKAY-EST” Honestly, you could have noped out of that conversation at his first grandstand “i Won’T ChaNge” text and enjoyed your day with 20% less irritation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:39 PM |
| 57 | Another reason why we should never date men who don’t clean and proactively manage their health: this woman’s husband has poorly managed IBS and she’s getting shamed for being disgusted (“IN SICKNESS OR IN HEALTH!”) because he makes her clean up his literal shit.“Is this normal?” She knows it isn’t, or else she wouldn’t be pleading to the whole internet. How did he manage before they moved in together? Did he clean up his own shit back then? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell my boyfriend (very recent), that I am not sure if I want to get married or have kids?An absolute cesspool. The loudest people in that sub act like the first thought of every parent in the world is “how can I inconvenient everyone around me with my spawn today?” I don’t hate children, I but I have sensory issues and find that kids have a habit of screaming a lot so I prefer not to be around them. People like me who are ambivalent towards kids tend to get chased out of there for not being “cHiLdFReE EnOuGh” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:27 PM |
| 53 | The manosphere line that men hit their peak in their late 30s and 40s is a biological lie - male fertility begins to decline once the man is over the age of 34.Hear hear ☺️ Men definitely peak by 29. Single or not, once they hit 30 men really let themselves go | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 01:40 AM |
| 46 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.My first thought right here. Cool ma’am, now everyone knows your home will be left unattended, and astute predators can follow your profile and plan for your arrival. Don’t post anything until AFTER you’re safe at home! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 11:13 PM |
| 60 | If you want a complete stranger to stop and give you the time if day, call the phone company.“Silly woman! I shouldn’t have to know you to make demands of your time and attention!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 11:01 PM |
| 7 | Should I tell my boyfriend (very recent), that I am not sure if I want to get married or have kids?Exactly. Once I decided to be childfree, my environment occasionally reconfirms that I’ve made the right choice. The childfree sub can be unhelpful to women on the fence, but a decision like this is all about the personal factors of your life anyway. It would help to sit down and weigh out the pros and cons separate from your new boyfriend so you can know for sure what YOU want and hold to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 10:55 PM |
| 72 | Ashnikko and her songs: are Gen-Z ladies finally getting fed up?I have to separate the art from the artist all the time. If the majority of female artists’ journey to empowerment begins and ends at sexuality, it empowers them by securing an income while providing us with nothing but additional pressure to perform. Women will pay for concerts, buy Ashnikko’s merch, and hype up her brand by dressing like her, often for male attention. Men will pay for concerts and encourage those same women to be more like her because look at how eMpoWeReD she is! Ashnikko win… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 07:15 PM |
| 45 | Woman translates the real meanings behind men’s dating demands. Just a reminder that men defined ‘femininity’ as submission, passivity, performance & endless forgiveness because it serves abusive men & makes us easier to exploit.Every single ex in my rear view has tried this. I neeeeed men to stop circle-jerking each other with terrible self-aggrandizing dating advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:55 PM |
| 247 | Don’t bother manipulating a LVM from doing weaponized incompetence. Just leave him. It will only get worse if you have children with him.Hm. Shaming a boy into doing his chores sounds like something a mommy would do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:14 PM |
| 65 | Don’t bother manipulating a LVM from doing weaponized incompetence. Just leave him. It will only get worse if you have children with him.if i lived with a man who switched it up like this, i’d be tempted to be this petty…while i’m arranging to lease a new apartment and leave him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:11 PM |
| 64 | Is it a red flag if he kisses you on the first date without asking first?Yes. Doesn’t matter how mutually wonderful the date was, if he’s deciding on his own that you’re into him enough to kiss him, he’s playing a script and expecting you to follow it. If you enjoy that, do you, but I for one hate it when men dropship Disney plotlines into a date to rush me into intimacy. What’s the rush? Nine times out of ten, he wants you to think that kiss means more than he thinks it means. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:42 AM |
| 41 | I really hope this guy did not actually sleep in a nest in his home and what he said is all satire 🤢🤢🤢Damn. I really thought he was about to say something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:45 PM |
| 4 | Word-salad victim blaming in progress. The highest voted comment blows my mind. (Rapido is a cab service but on a motorcycle). Let's hijack this thread and upvote the ladies' comments there.What’s with the keyword stuffing in the beginning tho 😂 This comment screams “bored SEO writer on his day off” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 09:45 PM |
| 14 | I updated my LinkedIn with a big promotion. The same week, I started getting LI ads for local divorce lawyers. Even the adbots know financial freedom *for* women means freedom *from* men.LI = LinkedIn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 09:42 PM |
| 36 | I updated my LinkedIn with a big promotion. The same week, I started getting LI ads for local divorce lawyers. Even the adbots know financial freedom *for* women means freedom *from* men.Did we date the same NVX? 😂 Mine said the exact same thing when I got my first big-girl job. Dumped me right after my first paycheck came in | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 09:41 PM |
| 185 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?LVM treat you better until they feel like they’ve locked you in. Eventually, once they’re certain you’re not going anywhere, they’ll realize the chase is over and return to the status quo The thought process goes: ”She’s out of my league. She’s better than me. I’ll show her. I’ll make her spend time on me! Oh, now we’re dating. She likes me? Why? I’LL SHOW HER…ooh another girl. She’s out of my league—” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:50 PM |
| 27 | Was approached by a man in a parking lot. How to navigate in future?This. These sorts of men are playing out a scene and expecting you to take up the role of love interest automatically; give them an ounce of attention and they’ll try to vicegrip you into playing the part. Deeply unpleasant at best, deadly at worst. When men try to flag me down to “help” them I assume they don’t actually need help. The conversation inevitably devolves into where I’m going and if I want to do this or that. So if I’m in a position to ignore them completely, I always do. Having a c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:01 PM |
| 16 | Men who fall off the face of the earth once you get into a relationship.It’s really sad that men, with all their power and sociopolitical influence, treat friendships like tenuous alliances surrounding superficial interests instead of openly supporting and lifting each other up. They have all the tools necessary to change the culture they’ve created but spend all their time gaming, using women, and generally ignoring the problem. Couldn’t be me 💅🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:39 PM |
| 53 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.They have a child together but don’t live under the same roof, and she’s okay with him “coming over” in the middle of the night. She might be dating him but he’s been single for a while 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:26 PM |
| 43 | OLD: Who needs personality when you’ve been on a boat, caught a fish that one time or go to the gym?I was really hoping that by now we’d have moved past sharing pics of small children who can’t consent to entering public life online but alas, it’s 2021, parasocial relationships and family vloggers are still a thing, and men are still using kids as props for their fake dating personas. Cool! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:51 AM |
| 106 | OLD: Who needs personality when you’ve been on a boat, caught a fish that one time or go to the gym?Not only are they unaware of what women actually like, instead of listening to women when we explain over and over how we want to be treated upfront, in their native language, with examples…they ask their equally clueless bros. More fish pics it is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:44 AM |
| 15 | Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :)that harmony at the end? [chef’s kiss] 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 03:08 PM |
| 92 | Spotted in another thread. She needs FDS!Now that you mention the friend zone…I remember that being such a huge, reeeeee-able thing back from 2009 to maybe 2012. “I told you I liked you, so why aren’t you immediately taking your skirt off?” Now we’re almost to 2022 and the argument is, “Women should pursue US due to aaaaaall the wonderful benefits we bring to the table!” Nothing’s changed. They’re still the same gangly scrotes from 2012, just louder and lazier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:34 AM |
| 205 | Spotted in another thread. She needs FDS!“YoU’rE JuSt PicKiNg thE WroNg Men. You’Re NoT PiCkiNg NiCe GuyS LiKe MEEEEEEEEE” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:30 AM |
| 152 | Spotted in another thread. She needs FDS!It’s probably not all libfem women bombarding this post. Most women-oriented subs on Reddit outside of FDS are flooded with men interjecting with their opinions, thinking they’re slick. This is why we need to praise the SHIT out of our mods; sometimes you’ll see glimmers of evidence that they’re keeping the shenanigans at bay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:27 AM |
| 68 | Spotted in another thread. She needs FDS!I’m scared to check out what those 450+ replies look like | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:24 AM |
| 16 | are guys allowed to roster date?Despite the fact that I think women with rosters operate differently than men with rosters, I also believe both should be able to date however many people they wants, so long as they’re still single. That said, if he’s encouraging you to see other people, I don’t think you’re on his shortlist. If he were really trying to be with you long-term, he’d have considered your question about him seeing other people as an opportunity to tell you so. If he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:23 AM |
| 34 | Let's assume this is a straight woman... I hope she and others who feel this way finds this sub because this was really sad to watch, and I hope she doesn't find out the hard way that 95% of men in the dating pool are trash and all the people she's seeing in relationships likely aren't that happy.Yeah…It can be really hard to maintain close friendships when everyone around you is focused on being partnered. I really hope she’s just having a moment of weakness and isn’t this hung up on finding her person, though. The dating landscape these days is looking pretty bleak, and crying on viral videos is not going to attract the type of person she wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:14 AM |
| 42 | Let's assume this is a straight woman... I hope she and others who feel this way finds this sub because this was really sad to watch, and I hope she doesn't find out the hard way that 95% of men in the dating pool are trash and all the people she's seeing in relationships likely aren't that happy.I almost wish I were in her position too, but it’s better to know of the trauma people can introduce into your life than to be blissfully unaware. Not everyone needs to experience the shitshow that is dating an abusive or redpilled guy. I remember old men in my church telling me as early as ten years old that their compliments were so I wouldn’t “hear it from the wrong man first.” I KNOW she has friends who love her and can lift her up the way she needs, but it’s that pressure to be partnered th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:06 AM |
| 60 | Let's assume this is a straight woman... I hope she and others who feel this way finds this sub because this was really sad to watch, and I hope she doesn't find out the hard way that 95% of men in the dating pool are trash and all the people she's seeing in relationships likely aren't that happy.I feel for her so hard. Being single doesn’t mean you have to travel alone, spend all of your free time alone, or that you don’t deserve intimacy. Friendships with women can be truly life-changing, and the Disney ideal of what relationships with men are is a myth if anything else. I truly hope her first long-term relationship is a perfect one that lasts forever, because if she’s this down on herself having never come in contact with the sentient garbage fire that is casually dating men in 2021, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 03:57 AM |
| 78 | Part 2 of the sh*t scrotes say about women vs. how THEY look, inspired by a previous postYou misspelled “tatwoo” 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionI’m sure this is supposed to be funny but is there, like, a reason he can’t clip his own toenails…? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:18 PM |
| 111 | Why non- verbal communication (body language, eye contact, silence, etc) is often MORE important than verbal communication (ie, “just communicate”🤢)?I’ve dated Americans, Canadians and Brits of several races, all of whom acted the exact same way: pretending they don’t know what they did and demanding I explain their own behavior to them. The last guy eventually dropped the charade when he realized I was preparing to leave, but once you know your “partner” defaults to silly mind games instead of active listening, you’re already in block and delete territory. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:10 PM |
| 12 | Just saw a guy entering the subway with a bag of laundry…Seriously, how??? I made my first baked potato at 12 years old, HOW are these men this helpless their mid-30s?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:01 PM |
| 35 | Just saw a guy entering the subway with a bag of laundry…The more you know! Toothbrushes, closet space…and insisting that you leave your things at his place for the sake of “convenience.” Unless you’re in a healthy, happy HV relationship with someone you want to see frequently, don’t leave your stuff at his place and definitely don’t let him keep stuff at yours. A textbook way to get guilted into visits, free labor and possibly sex. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 12:00 AM |
| 131 | Just saw a guy entering the subway with a bag of laundry…I used to think it was sweet when men clear out some space for me, but doing so too early is a major red flag now. It’s a sign of desperation. One guy who immediately made space in his dresser for me also called his mom to make his doctor appointments, dressed like a toddler if I didn’t pick out his clothes, and called me when he was sick to play mommy-bangmaid while he swooned in bed all day. At 25 years old. Last year I met a 36-year-old who bought me a toothbrush the day after I slept over. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:02 PM |
| 11 | Every fanboy getting ready to quiz me on the backstory of a random-ass character that was on screen for two seconds to prove I'm a fake fan:With the one notable exception of My Little Pony, which they enjoyed “iRoniCalLy” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:51 PM |
| 12 | Every fanboy getting ready to quiz me on the backstory of a random-ass character that was on screen for two seconds to prove I'm a fake fan:Some guy on Hinge did this with me, but with camping gear. “Wow, I don’t meet women very often who like backpacking. What’s your favorite water filtration method?” I got a good chuckle out of it before unmatching. He very well could have just been making conversation, but I couldn’t imagine myself enjoying the sorts of topics he’d want to discuss later. “So I heard the latest soylent product dropped” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:41 PM |
| 51 | Every fanboy getting ready to quiz me on the backstory of a random-ass character that was on screen for two seconds to prove I'm a fake fan:His perspective, probably: “Wait…a girl? Engaging in the hobby my personality is crafted around?! I need to SOUND THE ALARM” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:38 PM |
| 4 | Bikini waxing?i’ve been wondering what we all think about this too. it feels ‘cleaner,’ especially when i’m working out almost every day. but singleness combined with COVID completely obliterated my desire to go out and pay money for a wax. i still get my nails done, but as far as the bikini area’s concerned i’m apparently happy enough just trimming it so i don’t get all sweaty. the one guy i slept with last year turned out to have porn-induced ED, which of course he blamed on my pubic hair and a million othe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 09:39 PM |
| 34 | The IckThe last few behaviors that make my pussy drier than the Sahara: childishness, needing a woman to make his doctor’s appointments and shop for groceries wearing the same gym t-shirt the last three times i saw him texting “what are you up to?” and the result was “playing FIFA” three days in a row “i don’t know why i can’t get it up, this doesn’t usually happen. maybe you can do all the work? 🥺” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Please carve my eyes out of my head now“Hm, you know what? I feel like taking some of my friends’ and acquaintances’ goodwill and just, like…imploding it. With my dick. I’m sure only good things will happen!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 09:24 PM |
| 31 | As an essential worker, I’ve honestly met more male ‘Karens’ in my life than the stereotypical lady ‘Karen’Back when I was filling in front desk jobs as a temp worker at various tech companies, the only people who would disparage my position or demand services outside of my job description were…guess who? MEN. The women in these companies would treat me like I was truly one of them. One musty old man walked up to my desk without so much as a hello, rattled out a hyper specific Starbucks order 🤯 and finished it off by calling me “sweetheart” as he waddled past. He wanted the 50s back so severely bad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 09:21 PM |
| 47 | Cancelled a date today 😌 My first unmatch block delete!!Congrats! This man sounds like a whole clown, but you didn’t waste your time and now we can all laugh at the audacity in peace 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 09:07 PM |
| 23 | No one inherently HV or LV. We are what we repeatedly do.This. We’ve all vacillated between HV and LV at some difficult point in our lives, but what do we do when we’re embodying our worst selves? Maybe some of us had a pickme phase, or cheated on someone. Are you STILL doing that? Are you blaming your shitty behavior on your job, sTreSs, lack of love, financial difficulties, your own kids? Or did you reflect and move past your worst self so you could achieve better things in life and be less of a pain to the people you care about? After we’ve made ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 07:55 PM |
| 61 | Is it okay to not want to date in your 20's?Same. I felt the way OP did when I was 25, but every time I spent more than a month single, a new man would come sauntering in claiming not to be like the other boys. They always were. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 09:43 PM |
| 78 | The "you have to trust me" argument when it comes to having acess to your s/o phoneIf you have to wonder where he is at 2am, why bother following him? Why lose sleep over a man you can’t trust when you can lock him out of your house, block and delete instead? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 04:17 AM |
| 63 | How do you strategize outfits and fashion for dates?Except that’s not how most men operate. Men don’t reciprocate effort; they will gladly accept any woman who comes their way as a placeholder regardless of what they wear on the first date, then “trade up” for the woman of their dreams the moment they find her. Wear what you feel most comfortable in, regardless of what it signals. Focus on whether or not YOU like him, and whether he’s actively behaving in a way that shows investment in YOU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 04:07 AM |
| 187 | Sharing FDS knowledge with young women and girls is crucial!I’m in my thirties, meeting more and more young women as entry-levels at my office and through more “woowoo” spaces like my tarot study group. I’m so happy to share that these girls are taking NO shit at all, but every once in a while I find myself reminding a younger colleague that no, actually, you don’t have to put up with your boyfriend pushing porn scenes or kink culture onto you — in fact, you don’t have to put up with a damn thing. Remember ladies, only you can prevent pickme mentality! 🐻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 04:05 AM |
| 201 | Men think we are crazy, ugly psychos for having physical standards. Never change your standards and these “short kings” can go cry themselves to sleep. (The last guy seems hopeful though.)Translation: "I'm 5'5", one time a girl said I was 'too short.' She was definitely shorter than me by at least an inch. I really wanted to fuck her but she hurt my feelings by not referring to me as the Tall Manly Chaddington I wish I was." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 01:48 AM |
| 10 | You should have a “hoe phase!”Misery loves company. An emotionally intelligent person would face her regretful mistakes head-on instead of proselytizing said mistake to her friends. I hope she figures that out soon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 01:41 AM |
| 34 | Why do men/ LVM keep try to invite themselves into your life?Somewhat related: when you’re dating a man who invites you to other people’s activities without the host’s consent. It’s lazy and rude on his part, and oftentimes makes YOU look like the rude one for showing up unannounced. Some guys will set you up for a bad reputation this way on purpose, and some are just bumblers. I had an ex who embarrassed the shit out of me this way, twice. Whenever he’d invite me to his friends’ things from then on, I’d have to text the friend directly to see if I was ac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 04:24 PM |
| 5 | A Coworker tried to get into my cell phone 😡You can pay for a brand-new car or unlock every door in your house with a smartphone, and people are running around with no passcode on it?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 04:07 PM |
| 60 | Role of a therapistI slogged through four other therapists before finding a good therapist, and all four of them did the same as you’re describing. 🙃 A good therapist will be actively invested in helping you live your best life, which for them would mean asking you clarifying questions that help you arrive at the right choices for yourself; coaching you to notice when you’re thriving vs coping and what to do about it; gently holding you accountable when you go no-contact on a toxic relationship; or at the very lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 01:42 PM |
| 8 | Men tend to complain about women being fatter in person vs. their dating app pics... Well in my experience TOO 👏 MANY 👏 MEN 👏straight up LIE about their heightWe keep getting curious and looking from time to time but IT’S ALL CHALUPAS 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 01:56 AM |
| 34 | Ask him upfront what he values?He could tell you he's a "family man" but need you to remind him to call his mom; shit-talk you to his parents; avoid any and all conversations about marriage, children, or the future. He could say he values health and fitness on the first date but once you're with him he always pick soda over water; won't go to the gym; overeats daily; or only seems to care about counting your calories. Nah. Ask him what he values and he'll tell you whatever he thinks you want to hear. His values, like anyone's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 08:59 PM |
| 320 | When evaluating a man, don't just look at how you perceive his behaviour. Also look at the factual realities of your life before/after he came into it.Sadly, sadly, ever-so-sadly, that phone only arrives on Friday, when the plans for the trip are already so advanced that our hypothetical woman can no longer join. What a bummer! I'm just now realizing four years later that this same situation happened to me...and I called it a green flag 🤢 He didn't like my roommate, whom I was planning a girls' trip with. So he planned a trip (for "us") to the same city just a few days after I'd planned on showing up with my roommate, knowing full well I'd fee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 08:45 PM |
| 180 | Future of social relationships between men and womenRemember a few years ago when scientists created the first, um…”viable” sex robot? Men were screeching all over the internet about how they couldn’t wait to write off women and how our “days are numbered.” Now here we are in 2021. The sex bot trend is dead. Women are doing the writing-off, and meaning it. And all those men who purportedly went their own way have developed a complex, shadowy manosphere to try and, as they say, “put us back in our place.” The r*ping and pillaging has already begun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:21 PM |
| 20 | "If you aren't attracted to 17-18 year olds, your either abnormal or a liar". This makes me feel so afraid for young women. As this becomes even more normalized, the number will just keep dropping.Men are getting bolder and bolder about their pedo tendencies. When I was barely 20, I moved in with my college classmate who was 31 and he immediately proceeded to flirt and make passes at me. I wasn’t that into him as a person, but I found it a convenient FWB situation and stupidly decided to sleep with him. From then on despite my clearly stated boundaries that this is NOT a relationship he would launch into huge oversharing rants about all the ways he thinks a 10+ age gap is HeAlTHy and wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 03:20 PM |
| 95 | What are your thoughts?She’s an iNfLuEnCeR. She’s influencing you right now. No one’s putting a gun to your head and forcing you to have her on your feed, but you’re comparing your lifestyle, looks, and job to hers right now when you could just unfollow? It’s never the wrong time to take a break from social media. Delete all the apps for a month, go outside, engage in hobbies, spend time with friends, and marvel at how little Instagram really matters when you’re having fun instead of scrolling through the clout machin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 03:02 PM |
| 51 | Men's bad hygiene is so common even SNL is making fun of itTHE ACCURACY 😂😂😂 Right down to the awkward, flailing squeaks of “b-b-but I wiped! I promise Mom—I mean, honey. I did!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:51 PM |
| 55 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.Poly pickme: Love is infinite! We love all our partners equally and always have more love to give! Also poly pickme: But I live with him and I wash his clothes and cook his dinner so um technically I’m more important to him than all the others. Not that that matters! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:44 PM |
| 39 | When you can’t handle rejection. Wait until the endThe worst part about this for me is that I don’t believe there was any one right way for her to handle this; he would have circled her car and attacked like a hungry shark even if she’d ignored him. She did the only thing she could, which was to protect herself and her dog by staying on the opposite side of the car from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 07:13 PM |
| 116 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.SO miserable. The poly community is not in any way aBoVe JeaLouSy; it’s full of insecure, codependent people of all genders who can’t handle being alone with their own thoughts, so they collect partners like Pokémon cards to avoid ever having to work on themselves. (After all, who has time for self-reflection when you have a job and four long-term relationships to juggle? 🤡) What I’ve found from my short time attempting solo poly is that everyone gets jealous, has fights, and gets into it over n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 07:00 PM |
| 38 | Truth in humor?😬why is this so accurate i’m screaming 🤣🤣🤣 all but one wedding i’ve been to involved a gorgeous woman and a guy with a receding hairline | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:37 PM |
| 171 | Women: Don't accept a single neg. Check out the dating advice men give each other.They’re not looking for a relationship; they’re looking for a woman with low enough self-esteem to be converted into a mommy bangmaid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:49 AM |
| 427 | Women: Don't accept a single neg. Check out the dating advice men give each other.I want to believe that guy peeped what your date was doing, heard the lies out of his mouth and swooped in to gas you up and shut him down intentionally. I want to believe SO BADLY that men are learning to police other men! Lord let it be real 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:44 AM |
| 362 | Women: Don't accept a single neg. Check out the dating advice men give each other.And for all of you kind-hearted women who go in for the awkward type: Why would you want to date a socially unaware, dense human being in the first place? He’s already priming you to expect zero effort from him in social settings, so do you really think giving the aloof sadboi a chance is going to lead to success? It’ll lead to one more chance, and another, until you come to your senses. Skip it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:42 AM |
| 27 | Thank you, mods!Yeah, I welcome the disagreements too. We should be able to talk, argue, hash things out, and sway each other, especially on the more complex or hard-to-swallow concepts we practice here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 09:49 PM |
| 130 | Is this Instagram activity acceptable in a relationship?I didn’t think it was a big deal in my early twenties, but what I eventually learned is that men who spend their free time scrolling through Insta models are 1) boring, please get a hobby and 2) pornsick and used to viewing women as a meat market, which almost inevitably trickles down to the way they treat me. These days I’ll block and delete any man whose activities makes me feel insecure or uncomfortable, online or in-person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 09:40 PM |
| 34 | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single timeYep, I’m 5’4” and never felt the need to worry about height either. Meanwhile the tall men I’d date would be relatively chill, and the short ones would fly off the handle over anything that sounded like criticism 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 09:23 PM |
| 55 | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single time6 foot FIVE even! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 09:17 PM |
| 78 | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single timeImagine if half the men in this world who said they were 6’5” actually were. Every single one of us would have a story about being in our pickme phase dating a LV giraffe 🦒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 09:16 PM |
| 7 | quick and easy ways to vet: how to tell there is a mask in the first placehe’s seemingly memorized your profile and brings up questions from it like he’s written them down somewhere Avoid the Spreadsheet Scrote at all costs. He’s got talking points written up for interviews with you and seven other women. I’m sure not everyone will agree with me on this but dates should feel less like checking boxes and more like enjoying getting to know a potential partner. When guys step to me like this it reeks of desperation; like they want me to stand up at the end of the date, f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 09:27 PM |
| 62 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the dateDating apps feel like eBay to me now where we all line up to auction ourselves off to the dustiest, horniest men in our cities. Meetup’s been great for me, as I’m mostly meeting up with women but (very occasionally) have the opportunity to practice vetting like-minded men. Low stakes, low commitment, no money down! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 09:20 PM |
| 5 | this is queen shit!! no confrontation, just block and delete his whole existanceIt’s always the woman’s fault on this hellsite. Even when she’s done nothing wrong. Even when she’s only protecting herself from the harm a man has done to her. It’s always going to be our fault, which means we can skip the finger-pointing public shaming part and head confidently into washing our hands of the situation entirely, knowing we won’t miss out on anything important or relevant to us. Huzzah! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 05:43 PM |
| 9 | They will always show up again, one way or anotherI think that when men hover and pine for the relationships they clearly didn’t value until they were over, what they’re really doing is processing their guilt out loud in 4K. They don’t really want you back; they just want you to stop thinking they’re a bad person for all the bad things they did while you were with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 02:14 AM |
| 52 | How do you handle men in your professional life who think they’re in love with you?He invented a narrative about you and is now offended that your actual real life does not comply with his inner fantasy world. I don’t have any advice aside from having a clear paper trail of the scrote’s behavior leading up to his tantrum. It won’t completely protect your reputation after a big client throws a fit, but it might lessen the blow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 01:43 AM |
| 84 | A weird form of negging, but I can’t quite put a finger on what I should call it“Nice to meet you! Okay so this is how our relationship is going to go. You’re going to be insecure and fawn over me, and I’m going to bask in your attention, negging you every few days in a feeble attempt to further secure my sense of power over you. Ready? Wait where are you going come back-“ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 01:36 AM |
| 27 | I’ve been celibate 4 yearsGood for you for getting a Sybian! But the point of FDS isn’t to essentially “go our own way” and bash men. We’re here to level up and exchange notes on staying safe, but ultimately Female Dating Strategy is here to help you date. 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 01:29 PM |
| 12 | If he has to verbally ask for exclusivity, it's a TRAP. If was his job to make himself a space in your life, not yours.I get that. We’re talking about the title, which is a bit misleading. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 10:05 PM |
| 21 | If he has to verbally ask for exclusivity, it's a TRAP. If was his job to make himself a space in your life, not yours.Exactly. Asking for exclusivity is normal after a sufficient amount of dating. Allowing the dating process to be vague, boundary-less and left to chance opens you up to situationships and a forever girlfriend mentality without standards. Those are the traps we need to worry about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 08:48 PM |
| 95 | Buzzfeed pushing dangerous LV shitShe sounds young. There were dozens of ways she could have found out about his kinks/pornsickness MUCH sooner without taking any risks, and now she’s loudly announcing her mistake to the world alongside the worst possible advice tailor-made to perpetuate her angst. Classy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:10 AM |
| 25 | Men Know What They're Doing. Stop Letting Them Get Away With It.Many men are absolutely emotionally repressed, but allowing them to act like bumbling idiots at home, at work, and all over the place is like being a dick to your friends all day and shouting “BUT I’M DEPRESSED” when they call you out on it. Having a mental illness doesn’t give you a pass to exploit and gaslight your friends, so why do men get away with LARPing as toddlers and/or psychopaths whenever a woman is present? If men want to act like they’re defective and therefore allowed to be irresp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 09:04 PM |
| 33 | Banned from r/dating?Yeah, I got banned sometime last year. We’re just sooooo toxic and sexist over here, swapping notes to avoid abusers and gassing each other up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 08:37 PM |
| 24 | How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”?Patriarchal societies are an ancient game designed across generations by men, exclusively for men’s benefit…all you have to do to play is get off your ass and exist…but some men still find a way to lose the game, and naturally it’s because a woman didn’t show them how to play or wave pom-poms while they did it 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 08:29 PM |
| 79 | Going to therapy is not the solution to every relationship problem. It only works if the person going is willing to be honest about their situation and is open to change, which is why it doesn’t work with addicts.Definitely. He’s been jacking off enough to get caught twice within a month, knowing full well his girlfriend hates it. He’s already proven he values porn more than his girlfriend so it’s no wonder he’s intentionally or unintentionally making her feel like shit while sneaking off to beat his meat for the sixth time that day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 04:47 PM |
| 10 | Lynzy Lab - A Scary Time (for Boys), a catchy, FDS song calling out men's feeling of unfairness with datingAbsolutely love this song, but I’m a little disappointed she went with “vote and make a change” instead of “castrate every rapist.” Shucks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 04:36 PM |
| 81 | How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”?And the Olympic-grade mental gymnastics they have to perform to believe both of those statements are true is a hallmark of immaturity. Why would I want to be with someone who has working eyes and hands but still needs help coming up with things to do to improve his own self-image? And only gets around to doing them once a year in the first place? And will throw a toddler tantrum if you do it yourself?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:53 PM |
| 113 | How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”?Women talk about “needing to be needed” as well. Mostly in terms of desire: do we feel like our partner values us, appreciates us, and treats us as though we’re important to him? When men talk about needing to be needed, a lot of that is outsourcing their performative masculinity to us. What opportunities can we create for him so that he’ll feel more like a man? Can we find a nice TV for him to mount, or tire for him to change, so he can feel like he’s useful? Which puts us in charge of his sens… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:28 PM |
| 809 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS.His incredible walk date idea has been rejected multiple times, likely women have explained why it makes them uncomfortable over and over, but instead of coming up with something better he’s perfectly happy trying to roast women for not wanting to follow in Gabby’s footsteps. What a catch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:17 PM |
| 58 | Bachelor Party And Strip ClubsBest of luck to both OP and yourself. It truly, truly sucks to be with a guy whose mask falls off after months or years of appearing HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 08:41 PM |
| 32 | Self-Care, decoupled from consumerism, as a strategy: discussionI tried the consumerist approach to self-care and all it did was make me sadder (because I just spent money I could have saved for tuition or a vacation.) A lot of folks chase happiness and call that self-care, but what we often forget is that happiness is one of a full spectrum of emotions. Many goals require some frustration to accomplish. Relationships require vulnerability, which can be scary. To be constantly happy is to stop growing. Self-care for me is making sure I end each day feeling a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?The sort of LVM "intimacy" we can expect in this situation would look exactly like a lackluster 3-minute backrub (before sex) and literally nothing else | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 07:18 PM |
| 32 | a day in the life of a woman who doesn’t use a separate account for FDSwhen you realize men on this hellsite really do believe we think the same way they do, their disdain for us almost sort of makes sense | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 07:16 PM |
| 35 | Surprised by his decent behaviour, and then… the mask slipped 🚩Wild how men screech when we “emasculate” them by beating them at a video game or something, but when dating’s concerned they’re all too ready to flutter their eyelashes and swoon atop the chaise they’d like to fuck us on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 04:21 PM |
| 115 | Surprised by his decent behaviour, and then… the mask slipped 🚩Can’t wait until all these men who need sex realize they have each other for that. “Saturday is for the boys,” amirite? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 04:15 PM |
| 12 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?By this logic, I guess asexual men just straight-up don't exist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 03:33 PM |
| 91 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?If a man tells me he “needs” sex first in order to meet my emotional needs, I’m seeing myself out. Not just because I know he’s lying and forcing me to give without receiving, but because I KNOW that sex he’s negotiating for is going to be selfish and probably degrading, and will make me like him considerably less anyway, so why bother? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 02:23 PM |
| 16 | Followup to yesterday's question: When do you first remember being told that a boy is mean to you when he likes you?First grade, maybe? I remember being super confused about it; when my brother hit me it was bad, but when other unrelated boys hit me, it’s cute and I should be nice to them?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 12:23 AM |
| 88 | The good old “what’s your type” questionso he wants a girl who won’t listen to what other people say. but she needs to be loyal to him. self-awareness 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 12:18 AM |
| 33 | Can we talk about loneliness?I feel you. Recently moved to a new city but kept my remote job; since I work from home permanently, there aren’t any built-in opportunities to make new friends that way. Then I’m autistic and an introvert, so I really have to try hard to make myself go out ans socialize. Wish we were free to FDS meetups because so many of y’all sound like fantastic people 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 01:43 PM |
| 7 | Help, I’m disgustedI hate to say it but this is incredibly common; ooooold geezers hit a certain age, lose all rationality, and decide their “experience” should grant them access to extremely young women (and girls). My age of peak popularity was about 12, but I remember creepy uncles relentlessly offering me rides between 11-20. One of them found out where I lived and parked out front once. From that year until adulthood I wasn’t allowed out of the house without a chaperone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 04:25 AM |
| 39 | We need to STOP platforming this “feminine” mentality — it grooms women into compliant relationships with abusive, dangerous LVM. You do NOT praise the bare minimum, you simply walk away if he cannot “do better”.@ lowvaluequeens: learn how to appeal to incompetent sensitive manchildren who require your constant supervision | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 04:17 AM |
| 50 | How to vet if a man is pornsickIt happens to the best of us. My most pitiful ex wanted porn sex every other day, denying him an over-the-top dramatic performance turned him into such a little shit like it was the most disrespectful thing ever. Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:09 AM |
| 101 | How to vet if a man is pornsickI haven’t been with a single man who wasn’t giddy as hell to tell me every single detail about his favorite positions (that I should perform) from porn. Where are these “oh no, I would never watch that stuff” guys hanging out? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:04 AM |
| 4 | A guy I was talking to from Bumble showed his true self during our conversation: being sexually involved with his therapist. I should have blocked him then but I couldn't believe he was serious. Spoiler alert: he was. Block, delete, and move on.oooooh, you’re a therapist! that makes this incredibly TMI sex fantasy so much creepier | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 03:55 AM |
| 69 | A guy I was talking to from Bumble showed his true self during our conversation: being sexually involved with his therapist. I should have blocked him then but I couldn't believe he was serious. Spoiler alert: he was. Block, delete, and move on.he was trying to make you see him as “in demand” lmao. no therapist would risk their reputation, credentials and job for dick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 01:56 AM |
| 69 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoWomen don’t have a “one that got away.” All we have are “the ones we escaped from” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 01:02 AM |
| 4 | Women who pretend to be friendly with a man - and come back to "report" on behaviour - are pickmes. STOP and cut all unnecessary ties.I don’t get a ton of value out of posts like those - we don’t need the details of men’s depravity here, just how to avoid them. The only way to live somewhat free of their shenigans is to stop rewarding them with our attention | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 12:54 AM |
| 100 | we hold SO Much power over men. even if you are partnered up already or not interested in a relationship at all, you can still empower women (and yourself) by spreading the fds messages.It's easy to just write men off as sex-crazed zombies, but you've laid the full truth of them out so cleanly here. We've always been able to thrive in our communities and through our own self-love. Now that we're gaining financial footholds, acquiring generational wealth, and taking care of ourselves, any time spent with a man should be nothing less than the cherry on top. What a time to be alive 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 09:24 PM |
| 21 | What are your best tips for letting go of the IDEA you have a person?I don’t think there’s a section in the handbook yet for “getting over scrote-induced limerence,” but this should be tactic #1 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:21 PM |
| 35 | The first step in dating is realizing what you want, even if it differs from the masses.One of the most radical things a woman can do is let go of the need for validation for what she wants in her life. You fucking nailed it. Suffocating the guilt and shame we pick up from other people just from living our lives the way we want to is a tremendous hurdle. Feels like I’ve been struggling with this for decades but the second that self-confidence kicks in for real, I’m not giving a single fuck for the rest of my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:16 PM |
| 49 | Pick-mes Who Try to Act Powerful or Like BossesThis describes my last roommate perfectly. She was so proud of the years she spent “training” her future husband, even got together with her pickme friends for brunch to discuss new “tactics” like it’s such a fun game to keep an underemployed grown younger man as a housepet. Bought the wedding rings herself, and now this highly accomplished Ph.D. is coaching said grown man through grad school. Pickmes don’t get tired EVER. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 03:59 PM |
| 95 | Men have become so comfortable with violating women’s boundaries that they don’t feel any shame in admitting to itJesus. 😟 Congrats on getting out of there, both of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 03:52 PM |
| 18 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I like it and enjoy turning my partner on, so long as I’m getting the same effort in return. And provided they’re not pornsick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 12:54 PM |
| 184 | First OLD DateHope you had fun on your date! Be careful with that guy, though. “Just in town for business” is one of the most common OLD lies in the book for serial cheaters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:54 AM |
| 82 | Be weary of men who are raised in cultures that push machismo.Does it happen to women from other cultures too? In my culture, we call it misogynoir lol. The misogynoir pops out when they pressure black women to bend over backwards for “struggle love,” triangulate black women as inferior to any other race of woman they’re thinking about that day, pride themselves on being incompetent around the house, make a big stink about being “protectors and providers” while doing exactly zero protecting nor providing…and every date they plan is just an excuse to get us… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 11:47 PM |
| 31 | blocked and deleted a scrote for switching up on me after 2nd dateThey’re lonely and/or horny and will take any attention they can get in the moment. Messaging a stable of women all night until they fall asleep sounds pretty sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 11:03 PM |
| 13 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….lmao I’ve been the therapist bestie. I got stereotyped versions of all of his girlfriends, they got stereotyped versions of me, and we probably all hated each other for years while my “bestie” got love and attention from the lot of us. OOF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 06:20 PM |
| 25 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….I agree. Good friends will be there before your first date, and after the last one! I’m not sure if pitting your “best friends” against a woman you just met was a great dating strategy on the guy’s part, though. It’s a given that you’ll care more about your friends than someone you’ve seen in person literally three times, but there was zero need for him to say the quiet part so very, very loud. “Hello again, I’ve invited my hot lady friends, whom I have sleepovers with, to join us on our date to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 06:11 PM |
| 5 | Catch me if you can 🏃🏽♀️I appreciate this post so much. Congrats on moving on! When I first joined FDS I was worried the handbook wouldn’t work for unconventional lifestyles, but I’m finding more and more how flexible it is. My current job is fairly global, but I’m working on building a sustainable international lifestyle/career change too. Men in my current city…let’s just say they’re not the type to consider living anywhere but the US, so I only date internationally in my target countries for my future career. The la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 05:56 PM |
| 29 | The danger of using FDS inconsistentlyThere’s rarely any point in dangling a carrot over men’s heads — “I’ll give you wife behavior if you give me XYZ” — because more often than not, you’re enforcing the conditioning some men have that a relationship is a transaction. You’re also enforcing your role as the project manager of the relationship. If he manages to rise to your “test,” you’ll both feel good about yourselves for a little while, but you’ll have to keep constructing tests for him every time he slips back into his natural beh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 05:14 PM |
| 51 | FDS is BACK!FDS is the only reason I have an account apparently. I stopped checking Reddit entirely until a sub notification came up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 02:31 PM |
| 30 | Found one in the wild!You are my new favorite FDSer. You know what’s up 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:41 AM |
| 15 | Scrotes flaunting being brokeI don’t think he does. And he seems…weirdly proud of that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:34 AM |
| 55 | Scrotes flaunting being brokeohhh so THAT’S why they do the stupid fish thing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:33 AM |
| 330 | Hey scrotes, don't want women to be so hard, tough, and difficult? Stop making things hard, tough, and difficult.“waaaah why aren’t women feminine and sweet and catering to us anymore?!?” because y’all treat us like objects and compete with each other over who can break our hearts the fastest and bust your own dicks jacking off to caricaturized versions of us being brutalized and aspire to making us your bangmaids and brigade against us when we speak in public and lust over our daughters as young as you can find them and and and— | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:28 AM |
| 21 | At what age did you realize male validation means absolutely nothing?Attention from men can feel downright insulting when you know they will stick their pps into McChickens, microwaved jars of peanut butter, sheep’s butts, and vacuum cleaners, and now want to stick it in you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:18 PM |
| 21 | At what age did you realize male validation means absolutely nothing?Seriously. I’m 31 now, but I was 30 when it hit me. Every time I read about a 20-something woman giving zero fucks about male validation, my heart sings! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:10 PM |
| 34 | Men’s Childhood Never EndsThe only example I can come up with is The Way of the Househusband. Love it ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:05 PM |
| 67 | Men’s Childhood Never EndsHow do men like this function? The last guy I dated worked a 9-5 as a pharmacy cashier for ten years straight with no career progression at all. When I asked if he had any ambitions for more, he said not really because he’s still “getting the hang of it” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:04 PM |
| 22 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyLiterally explaining what a woman wants to a woman who just told him what she wants | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:49 PM |
| 22 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyI read “how do you maintain a man” and thought the same thing. Keep and maintain aren’t interchangeable in this context, kAnG, but good effort, I give it a C+ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:48 PM |
| 17 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyThey’re all looking for women who will call them by their full first name, “Mommy’s Little King” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:45 PM |
| 55 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyAnd one more thing, men need exercise! I’ll get my man a runner ball so he can do laps around the house | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:40 PM |
| 38 | Two recent "dating" experiences.He lied to you multiple times by pretending to be your “friend” while strategizing to get back into a romantic relationship with you, and by telling you there’d be “no hard feelings” when his reaction shows his feelings are made of grade-A bulletproof damascus steel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:49 PM |
| 18 | Get a female therapist, not a male oneIn the cities I’ve lived in the US I basically have to accept whatever gynecologist is available and in-network, which meant that across my entire life I’ve seen maybe one or two female gynecologists. The rest were all dudes. Only a certain type of man would want to swarm a field that necessitates invading women’s private parts, and the fact that I often can’t find a woman to do it makes me hate having to go in for check-ups. I will wait months to see a woman if I have to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:42 PM |
| 47 | Get a female therapist, not a male oneThe one male therapist I saw in my late teens sat me down in his office, had me tell him all about the six months of workplace stalking I’d endured up to then, and had the nerve to tell me I “seemed fine” and heavily suggest that I must have enjoyed the attention somewhat. He put me off therapy for years, too, but I’m so grateful for my current (female) therapist. She’s the best 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:35 PM |
| 584 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyOf course his name is “King” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:23 PM |
| 50 | Poor PickMe did a dang photoshoot 🤦♀️Hahaha, it’s a joke between two best friends and not a cope, right? …. …right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:38 AM |
| 17 | More on Why Block and Delete WorksThey sure are taking a while to “go their own way,” aren’t they | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 09:55 PM |
| 13 | More on Why Block and Delete WorksDaaaamn. Etsy’s a new one for me! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 09:53 PM |
| 17 | They always come back for a temp checkI’d love nothing more than for those blocked and deleted to stay away for good…but if they don’t, my cashapp is open lmao💵🤲🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 09:49 PM |
| 43 | A form of negging new to meIt sounds like his idea of flirty and/or friendly banter doesn’t line up with the rest of society’s. He commandeered a captive audience out of helpful people like yourself, then used that time to push boundaries over and over until said people loved him. Can’t imagine why it didn’t work! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 09:37 PM |
| 98 | You are not an equal opportunity employer. Your intimate relationships are not centers of civil rights. Your body and mind are not subject to anti-discrimination standards.It’s especially disgusting to me that people are dragging down the language of liberation into a self-serving rhetorical weapon. Preferences aren’t discrimination, rejecting overweight men isn’t fatphobic, rejecting a man who happens to be black isn’t racism. It’s just rejection, gentlemen. Grow a pair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 06:31 PM |
| 36 | I'm done with men shorter than meA ton of men went from being aggressively insecure to “omg step on me tall lady” for every tall woman in existence | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:46 PM |
| 37 | I'm done with men shorter than me“I was stalking you at your job the other day and you were spending time with another human male! You should be ashamed!” My god, the cognitive dissonance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:43 PM |
| 70 | Having standards is not a hate crimeWe’re not changing anyone. We’re not even changing ourselves; just accepting the men who fit in with who we are and want to be, right now. I never imagined just how much people despise women with standards before joining this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:31 AM |
| 27 | I saw this and couldn't stop laughing and had to share it with you all.I think the strat would be to wear it on every day except the day he thinks he’ll get laid, so after a few dates we’re sufficiently concerned for his health and our natural instincts to get him to the hospital kick in | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:49 AM |
| 11 | I saw this and couldn't stop laughing and had to share it with you all.Wish can you NOT?! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:46 AM |
| 23 | FDS is featured on JezebelSounds like the author filtered our About tab through the lens of PUA rhetoric and called it a day. We’re not looksmaxxing over here, Jezebel, but I can point you to the subs full of men where they are! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:46 AM |
| 79 | Why they neg, straight from the horse’s mouth.I had an ex who tried to neg me with this juvenile shit before I even knew was negging meant. “You have the smallest breasts of anyone I’ve dated.” “Yet you want to fuck every night.” “…ha! Ha… 😅” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:42 AM |
| 145 | Why they neg, straight from the horse’s mouth.Let’s be real, their penises are awfully close to their anuses too. Everything is too close, sweaty, and unwashed, and that should affect their confidence greatly. I mean, come on. Ew. I’m not touching that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:40 AM |
| 11 | Why they neg, straight from the horse’s mouth.……w h a t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:37 AM |
| 66 | Scrote chases woman down an alley hollering and saying “come here” aggressively. Proceeds to call the woman racist for being scared, along with “dumb bitch” a few times.This. Being “nice” doesn’t just get us killed; sometimes we just straight-up disappear and are never found, or even searched for. I’d rather be a loud bitch than a silent statistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:33 AM |
| 54 | Scrote chases woman down an alley hollering and saying “come here” aggressively. Proceeds to call the woman racist for being scared, along with “dumb bitch” a few times.If you’re being attacked, don’t give two shits about race. Scream, call the police, protect yourself in whatever way you can. You would be racist for making false accusations and putting innocent black people in harm’s way, but what’s NOT racist is calling for help when someone of any skin color is committing a crime against you. Please don’t let predatory, opportunistic scrotes weaponize your good intentions and manipulate you into compliance. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT protect your assailants! A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:28 AM |
| 163 | Scrote chases woman down an alley hollering and saying “come here” aggressively. Proceeds to call the woman racist for being scared, along with “dumb bitch” a few times.Clout and views. He thought that tacking “racism!” to the end of his rage fest would make him sound like a heroic black man with a creative new strategy against Karens. He thought he was doing something besides lurking in the shadows like an angry bridge troll. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:08 AM |
| 280 | Scrote chases woman down an alley hollering and saying “come here” aggressively. Proceeds to call the woman racist for being scared, along with “dumb bitch” a few times.If anything he enforced a stereotype she might not have even subscribed to at the time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:05 AM |
| 305 | Scrote chases woman down an alley hollering and saying “come here” aggressively. Proceeds to call the woman racist for being scared, along with “dumb bitch” a few times.This dumbass decided to make his blackness the “point” of why he chased her down, so if she wasn’t afraid of black men in particular before, she certainly is now. Disgusting scrote got his rocks off terrifying her, then threw his race in at the end to justify it. I’m glad no one’s having it in the comments | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:03 AM |
| 111 | Scrote chases woman down an alley hollering and saying “come here” aggressively. Proceeds to call the woman racist for being scared, along with “dumb bitch” a few times.His race is irrelevant; he was a man chilling in the alleyway, and she was a woman not trying to risk it. He could have minded his business but chose to terrify that woman for content. And he even has the nerve to hide behind racism as an excuse for being a fucking menace. I’m a black woman and I’d have busted a U-turn too. Racism might have contributed to his absolutely unhinged mentality leading up to this moment, but it has nothing to do with terrorizing a stranger for views. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 01:00 AM |
| 15 | My HV bf drove 4 hours round-trip to pick me up because I *might* be uncomfortableIf he wanted to, he would 🥰 This is such a sweet story, and it gives me hope that there are still men out there who can be kind to their girlfriends, instead of just Nice Guys™️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 12:42 AM |
| 51 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherBasically if I wasn’t spending money on doing something with him, it was a bad purchase. All of this guy’s hobbies were expensive mountain-man pursuits that warranted thousands of dollars in gear, but apparently spending $100 on art supplies showed that I was “irresponsible” and couldn’t take care of myself 🙄 Early in the relationship he made something like $50K more than I did, firmly into six figures. I chastised him once for expecting me to go 50/50 on activities I couldn’t afford and he proc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 10:31 PM |
| 104 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherLOL let’s do it: dressed every single day like he was going camping sulked and stonewalled at the drop of a hat, without ever explaining why regularly tried to isolate me from my friends by “accidentally” planning vacations for us that just so happen to be a day or two before my friends’ trips obsessed with his one hobby, aggressive about my participation in it with zero interest in any of mine wore the same suit to six weddings over a year. i wore a different dress every time so the photos are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:24 PM |
| 116 | Block and deleteI’ve never felt more in control of a relationship gone south than when I’ve blocked and deleted instead of sending paragraphs, but the times I send paragraphs were when I felt misunderstood and wanted his recognition of who I really am. Which, if you have friends and family who already understand you, or even if YOU understand you, that isn’t necessary at all! Writing a man an essay isn’t the power play some of us think it is; no matter how plainly you lay it out for them, how dryly and devoid o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:02 PM |
| 83 | If he wants an*l sex from you, chances are that he has the potential to be, or is, abusiveAs a woman who actually enjoys it, I can confirm that many men only want an*l when they need to coerce you into it. They will beg and plead and threaten when they think you’ve never done it, but when you’re all about it, not the least bit intimidated, and enthusiastically offering, all of a sudden it’s “oh, uh, well, that’s hot but maybe another time?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 06:38 AM |
| 66 | FDS Works. It's best just to ghost men with no explanation when they do something shitty particularly in the early stages of dating. See link for why.I’ve said it before and I’ll say it forever until I die: closure in relationships is a myth. Closure is what you tell yourself you “need” when what you want is one more chance to change his mind, make him understand, or otherwise seek attention from a man who offers you nothing of value. And in return for your callousness, he has access to you “one last time” while you’re in a highly vulnerable state of mind. You open yourself up for more manipulation when you tell yourself you need closure. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:15 AM |
| 14 | These are the hallmarks of a healthy relationship. Great insight into what DOES facilitate a high value relationship - and what it looks like in real terms.I love her. Rara for FDS mascot 2021 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:09 AM |
| 187 | Men just have to ruin their chances, don't they?Sometimes I wonder if the single most attractive thing a man can do outside of his appearance is be quiet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:07 AM |
| 156 | What in the FUCK did I just readYep. He’s trying to trade his wife to someone with a skinnier model in tow. This is an FDS rescue mission if I ever saw one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:05 AM |
| 384 | What are your thoughts?Personally I think the sentiment itself is cute, despite the fact that he’s clearly pandering to an audience. I would prefer to see more men expressing love for their partners on camera amongst their friends than on an anonymous forum, but at the same time…I wouldn’t be against seeing more men on this platform saying positive things about their partners, you know? I wouldn’t think this post reeked of male validation-seeking if it were posted anywhere else but the manosphere capital of the intern… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:01 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with an unemployed partner who is trying his best?Ahhh, an ENTJ! As an INFJ who’s always off in her own world, it’s friends like you I tend to appreciate the most, lol. Good luck! This genuinely sounds like a rough patch and not like your average scrote situation and I hope easing off of paying will help. But yeah, lack of ambition is so unattractive, employed or not. And as far as I know, it’s “incurable” 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 01:15 AM |
| 3 | How do you deal with an unemployed partner who is trying his best?This. That lack of ambition hits different when he's willing to dip into his savings for nonessential "fun money." He's unemployed in a pandemic, with dwindling savings, in an incredibly unstable job market...and does not appear to be taking any of that seriously. An irresponsible partner can wreak havoc on your future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 10:28 PM |
| 7 | How do you deal with an unemployed partner who is trying his best?Sometimes he forgets, but takes direction well. Ma'am...is he working for you? Why do you need to direct him in the first place? I know you're not living with him, but this smacks of classic weaponized incompetence. He's taken calls near you, but has he interviewed? Can he show proof that he's interviewed? Does he tell you about the specific places he's in the running for, or does he never bring up the topic himself? Also, I'm curious...who is paying his rent? If he's living off of savings while… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 10:16 PM |
| 35 | The lack of attractive men out there is so disheartening+1 for imaginary boyfriends 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:28 PM |
| 17 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.Thanks for that 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:24 PM |
| 37 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.My size 9s are clearly for the streets | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:21 PM |
| 27 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.Same 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:20 PM |
| 4 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.What is a size 12-16 waist? Don't most people measure by circumference? I'm 5'4" with a 25" waist that I had to work like hell for. If he's talking about inches, he wants to date a twig. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:14 PM |
| 91 | The lack of attractive men out there is so dishearteningI like tall, well-dressed men with nice hair too! That’s literally just three measly qualifiers and so few of them can hack even that. One of my exes had good hair but dressed like a toddler when he stopped trying to impress me; the next one was short, bald, and insecure about both. So when I met my last ex who fit all three qualifiers, it’s embarrassing to admit it but I plotted like an evil villain to get with him. I hit peak pickme to get his attention because I wasn’t sure when I’d find anot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:47 PM |
| 49 | Ghosting is the only way of dumping. Saying goodbye always opens you to being gaslighted, manipulated and places the burden of explaining what went wrong on you. Just disappear. Or slowly fade. Or run.I think the proliferation of OLD and culture shifts have conditioned some of us to believe that being infatuated with someone entitles you to a trial period of time and attention from that person, as if they’re now required to give you a chance to pull off your sales pitch. All genders do this shit to an extent, but lots of girls were groomed to give their time and attention to boys in particular. I was no more than six years old the first time my mom told me to stop crying whenever a boy hit me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 05:54 PM |
| 23 | So, how’s it going these days now that you have to make women like you to get their interest? Men:“Hello, is this Man Factory? Yeah, I received your quote for a man, but I was expecting to pay a flat fee; says here’s the price is 50/50 monthly for 2-5 years? What’s up with that? Also I read the terms and conditions and there’s a lot in here about damages but nothing about emotional intelligence, evolving responsibility or healthy communication, and there’s a big red disclaimer where the Respect section should be…Oh, the latest models don’t include them? With all due respect sir, my dog comes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 04:17 PM |
| 48 | So, how’s it going these days now that you have to make women like you to get their interest? Men:This guy really thought he did something. They’re carrying on like we’re missing out on a wonderful prize, but it took quite a lot of playing stupid games and winning stupid prizes for us to get to this point. Now we’re not playing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 04:05 PM |
| 31 | If you are confused about his intentions, read this. These are the words of men, describing how they behave when they love and respect their woman. Don't accept any excuses, ever!Emotional and spiritual maturity are what I need, too, and realizing this has helped me come to terms with the possibility that I might not date another man seriously for the rest of my life. It’s so, so difficult to find a man who can make the emotional investment, and being with one who can’t hack it saps the life out of me. It‘s as if they’re conditioned to believe that the toolbox of emotions granted to all of us at birth weren’t meant for men, so they don’t have to understand theirs or anyo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 08:17 PM |
| 112 | If you are confused about his intentions, read this. These are the words of men, describing how they behave when they love and respect their woman. Don't accept any excuses, ever!Same. Hindsight 20/20 though. Now we won’t have to waste our time with boyfriends who fake it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 08:07 PM |
| 31 | And y’all are still using OLD?LVM are constantly projecting. Everything they say we’re so toxic and ruthless for are things they’re accustomed to doing every day of their lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 07:36 AM |
| 120 | And y’all are still using OLD?This explains my OLD experience of men who seemed downright confused when talking to me. They don’t remember who they swiped right on, the same way I don’t remember getting drunk and putting six nearly identical dresses in my shopping cart | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 07:30 AM |
| 84 | Mods: Could we have a No Complaining Wednesday or a Strategy Only Saturday?Yes please. It would be so helpful. I love coming here to learn about how to date the right people and avoid the wrong ones, but sometimes the amount of depravity we post here messes with my mental health tbh. Some of it involves tactics we need to know about, but the rest is just “here’s a shitty man doing a shitty thing” which has nothing to do with strategy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 06:22 AM |
| 6 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡Hm…his explanation doesn’t sit well with me, but good luck regardless! You sound like you know what you want and won’t let any mistreatment slide. Claiming that the women he usually dates “prefer” coffee would have been a red flag for me, tbh, considering women aren’t a monolith. Seems like he’s on his best behavior now, but only because you checked him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 03:38 AM |
| 53 | I surveyed a bunch of men so you don't have to! : Why guys ask those VERY personal questionsIt’s sad that some women perceive getting grilled with extremely personal questions as “opening up” on his end. We’re once again giving men credit for our side of the conversation and getting nothing positive out of it 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:39 PM |
| 22 | 👀 Was not expecting to find FDS in the wild while engaging in some guilty pleasure anime watching. Even gamer nerd Hirotaka knows a walk is not a date!I love Wotakoi! Not every day you see anything FDS-adjacent out of anime | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 03:27 PM |
| 385 | Repeat after me: WE DO NOT DATE MEN WITH FEMALE BESTIESNot a single lie detected and your writing style is entertaining as fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 12:18 AM |
| 26 | Scrote: I have $7.5 M in assets, my wife has cancer, we have three little kids, if I quit my job I might resent the fact that I never got to my arbitrary $10 M target, I'm thinking of leaving her because the stress is too much for meIf anyone in the world is going to neglect their small children, consider divorcing their sick spouse, and delay all other joys and experiences life has to offer in favor of hoarding way more money than they need…it’s FIRE scrotes. He’s been chasing coins for his entire adult life and still has 2-5 more to go. If he’s still hoarding money instead of spending it on his family into his kids teen years, they’re going to despise him. And he thinks he’ll be a “stay at home dad?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 07:31 PM |
| 32 | Look who apparently "Picked Up" COVID (screenshot lifted from a sub almost as reviled as this one...😆)I’m having homemade beef curry 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 06:52 PM |
| 36 | Scrote is a disrespectful jerk on OLD. Gets praised and awarded for lowering the bar by other scrotesYes. Saying anything at all gives them validation that they must’ve done something right. Ghosting is the only way they’ll learn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 06:37 PM |
| 683 | Scrote: I have $7.5 M in assets, my wife has cancer, we have three little kids, if I quit my job I might resent the fact that I never got to my arbitrary $10 M target, I'm thinking of leaving her because the stress is too much for meOh, look! It’s my worst fucking nightmare incarnate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 02:52 PM |
| 46 | I think all women should have height requirements actually. 😌Short men will wait until your harasser leaves to tell you about all the protecting he was “about” to do purely to save his ego | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 12:44 PM |
| 252 | Scrote is a disrespectful jerk on OLD. Gets praised and awarded for lowering the bar by other scrotesMen who gas each other up for terrible pickup lines aren’t doing themselves any favors. Someone will use this “great” opener, get shut down, then return to the Reddit nest to hear dozens of men screech “no no no, it’s excellent, it’s the woman who’s wrong! We like it so women have to, just try again!” It’s a feedback loop of getting weirder, louder, and wronger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 12:39 PM |
| 16 | Suicidal threats and threatening self harm, and staying because you are worried about your partner doing the unthinkable.My first s*icide-baiter was in my freshman year in high school. He said he would off himself if I didn’t go on a date with him. I had never been on a date before and had no interest in one, let alone him, but I went anyway. His mom called while we were at the mall and he left me there without a ride home. My brother had to come get me. At school the next week, he told me we needed to be exclusive because otherwise he would k*ll himself, so I told him to pinky-promise me while my homegirls cackle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 06:53 AM |
| 78 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡What did you end up doing? I used to give these dudes a second chance but now it’s ye olde block and delete right away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 06:44 AM |
| 32 | Saw this on the Book of Faces. Hard. Pass.yeah if this is the alternative, it’s catlady4me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Unsolicited dick pics. Using their tactics against them.Maybe she’s just blowing off a little steam for once? It’s not FDS certified but damned if it isn’t fun on a day when you’re fed tf up. And he’ll probably be too butthurt to try it again anytime soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:29 PM |
| 76 | Sick of short males crying "discrimination"What are they getting out of that? Nothing. Maybe they’ll harass one of us into having sex with them every couple of years, but in between they’re just desperately seeking validation, looking for someone to say “noooo you’re not short! you’re a big tall alpha king” and i can’t imagine many women flock to lie to them like that, either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:06 PM |
| 298 | After hearing about savanna talking about long ass paragraph copy paste messages on the podcast“How are you beautiful? So anyway, me me me me me me me me me me me me me. I want to get to know you! Also me me me me me me me me me me. So, what do you say? Wanna give this big ol’ teddy bear a squeeze?!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 04:21 AM |
| 26 | An Ex bf keeps looking at my LinkedIn profileMy worst, most narcissistic, scrotiest ex used to do this. He too is married now, and he too reeeeeally wanted me to know that. LinkedIn was the only place I hadn’t thought to block him on. So I blocked him on it, and you can block him too! 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 11:35 PM |
| 5 | What's up with the dislike towards MBTI?There’s nothing wrong with MBTI. The real problem is there are too many LVM in the world dragging down its reputation. Their prime directive is to swarm anything that could be used to manipulate women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 09:18 PM |
| 67 | Hinder: A Dating App for Emotionally Unavailable Men (full New Yorker link in comments)Same. Virgo men sound great on paper but communicate like toddlers in real life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 09:10 PM |
| 100 | A Self Healing Post - Understand why you may be attracted to certain men - or why the bond feels so strongThis shit is so hard to unlearn but once you see the shitty patterns you’ve been keeping in your life for so long, you know it’s time to start doing the work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:52 AM |
| 126 | She’s still with him and is defending him in the comments 🤨🤨Her profile pic is literally of her kissing on the man who openly prefers porn. Ma’am, please wake up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:35 PM |
| 6 | Don’t get roped into talking about the break-up. There are no good intentions. Either he wants to “win” the break-up or he wants to coax you into a situationship with less boundaries. He is not your counselor. He is not here to process with you.Millennials | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:25 PM |
| 62 | Needing advice and supportYou’re exactly right; he doesn’t care. But he’s redpilled, sis. He clearly hates you, hates women, and probably hates himself. If he does something to end up on the news tomorrow, it won’t be your fault. I just really want you to understand that as his “girlfriend,” you’re first on his to-do list. When he loses his shit and decides to become the next mass shooter, you need to already be gone. Please don’t put his feelings over your own life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:00 PM |
| 183 | Needing advice and supportIf he is prone to angry outbursts, banging on your door unannounced, and COLLECTING GUNS, you need to get as far away from him as possible. Break up with him for good, don’t be vague about it, disappear from his life, block him, stay with a friend for a few days in case he shows up again. This man sounds like a MASSIVE risk to your life. In my 30-ish years, five men have cited their mental health issues and/or threatened suicide to get me to stick around so they can use me for whatever the fuck.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 05:46 PM |
| 21 | For those who don’t want to marry/live together, (esp over 35), how do you apply FDS?Yep, I’m of the same age and attitude as you. A few women told me similarly, that marriage-minded men are most likely to be HV, and so the only way to find a HVM is to aim for marriage, even if you don’t want to marry. Which doesn’t sound terribly in-line with FDS principles to me. We’re supposed to be dating in a way that prioritizes our own happiness here, and if hunting for a husband isn’t happiness to you, we should be able to talk about alternatives without getting all “read the handbook” a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 03:03 PM |
| 67 | Treat relationships with men like they are temporaryGirl, same. If he can afford to take me on nice vacations but picks fights with me for the whole trip, it’ll still take me a while to put a stop to my own clown-shoes behavior because “there must be a good reason, right?” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:19 AM |
| 162 | Women going to college is creating violence in men! There isn’t quality in Uni so men aren’t going! We have a mating crisis!!They even presented the statistics showing that the man-to-woman ratio from the 1970s has almost exactly reversed in favor of woman and painted it as a “crisis.” Was it a crisis in the 70s? No? Then why is now? I love being part of “the problem.” Think I’ll sign up for a few Muay Thai classes too xD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 03:34 AM |
| 12 | Are we clear? Any questions?I also disagree on gun ownership (but I TOTALLY agree with OP that we need to look out for ourselves)! This country is backwards as shit if so many people think we’re gonna protect ourselves from guns with more guns. My next order of business after my degree is to take this show on the road because the US isn’t exactly getting less unhinged. 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:37 AM |
| 11 | Do not underestimate male entitlement and their capacity for retroactive jealousy.Something tells me his girlfriend is not actually his girlfriend and he’s just mad that she has options. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:32 AM |
| 33 | Yeesh girl, no 😬 Sorry, but the guy is right here, he knows.Some of us take longer to unlearn the propaganda than others. Let’s all pray she gets well soon 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:29 AM |
| 53 | Yeesh girl, no 😬 Sorry, but the guy is right here, he knows.Nah it was a joke, she didn’t actually think she was getting picked by a stranger on the bird app…right? Right?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:28 AM |
| 90 | This really backs up the study on a majority of men leaving/cheating on their terminally ill wives. 🙄If I were the mistress and he said something like that at our engagement party, I would be a bit more concerned about whether it was really an aneurysm that killed her 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:22 AM |
| 67 | Don’t get roped into talking about the break-up. There are no good intentions. Either he wants to “win” the break-up or he wants to coax you into a situationship with less boundaries. He is not your counselor. He is not here to process with you.Men in my generation were raised to believe they can get anything they want out of a woman if they’re persistent enough. When we tell them no, my god, the mantrums are horrifying, like watching a train wreck. Here’s an entire adult acting like you kicked his dog and fucked his best friend just because you don’t want to give him attention | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:18 AM |
| 136 | Women going to college is creating violence in men! There isn’t quality in Uni so men aren’t going! We have a mating crisis!!They’re definitely acting brand-new. This has been our society for decades! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:07 AM |
| 99 | Women going to college is creating violence in men! There isn’t quality in Uni so men aren’t going! We have a mating crisis!!They’re boycotting self-development because it’s harder than jacking off all day and women aren’t catering to them enough to make them do it. Boycotting only works when your absence takes away something of value, Kevin, but go off 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:05 AM |
| 193 | Women going to college is creating violence in men! There isn’t quality in Uni so men aren’t going! We have a mating crisis!!When women outnumber men anywhere, that space becomes “women stuff” and men trip over themselves to vacate and stigmatize it. More women are going to college, they’re less likely to accept male bullshit when they aren’t conditioned and steeped in dudebro culture. Men can see the writing on the wall and instead of bettering themselves or, like, minding their business, they’re having a mantrum and pretending this Thing Women Do is an enormous social ill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:01 AM |
| 135 | A few bad datesRemember that you can and SHOULD leave a date early the second things start going south! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:56 PM |
| 6 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”Getting a bad gift is absolutely insulting. I don’t generally ask for gifts because so many men are transactional about everything they do, but I will NEVER shut up about the worst gift I’ve ever received. I told a man I was vetting that I love trying new kinds of nice, middle-budget wines, and he took that hint and bought me the gaudiest wine tumbler instead. It came with a straw and had a shitty slogan on it that reeked of “self-medicating soccer mom” tropes. And why would I drink my nice expe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:41 PM |
| 6 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 05:48 PM |
| 10 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”He missed an opportunity to give you something you could not only use, but enjoy using for a very long time! Gift giving isn’t hard unless you’re coasting through life learning jack shit about your partner. Period | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 05:46 PM |
| 6 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”Yeah, I doubt any of them actually read it. Most of them hear about love languages from an ex or lurk on women’s forums for new “intel.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 03:46 PM |
| 6 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”Starting to think they always are, tbh. “NiCe” on the outside, unhinged and spiteful on the inside | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 03:19 PM |
| 4 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”I get the feeling it’s fawning. When you can’t fight or flee, you can fawn on your attacker to calm him down. But if that’s why they do it, it sure does seem like they’re afraid of how Mr. NiceGuy™️ will react when they call them out, doesn’t it? Hmmmm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 02:48 PM |
| 11 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”My ex was a Nice Guy™️ who got pissy and then violent if he didn’t get to fuck at least every other day. After I left him he snatched up the first pickme he could reel in and married her within the year. That poor woman’s probably been going through it ever since. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 02:43 PM |
| 29 | The “Wonderscrote”: How men function like corrupt corporations and literally say whatever they can to maximize how accessible women are and make themselves look as good as possible.This is such a pitch-perfect analysis of the fuckery around us. Thank you so much! Post-WWII American women were marketed cigarettes with the promise that it would make them feel more “empowered,” in the Freudian sense. AKA “suck on these, ladies! We gave you your very own play-penises! Men will be so impressed!” If a woman doesn’t take up the marketing we’re being sold in 2021, we’re just not smart enough, not cool enough, not feminine enough to get it. Those ugly feminists and their un-fun way… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:41 AM |
| 34 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”Your acquaintance is as transparent as hell and good for him; no one had to waste any time taking him seriously! Since people still put a lot of weight on love languages, it’s a good way to use them to vet which men are just in it for their peen and which are real human beings. If their love language seems to revolve around how often they’re getting laid, block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:22 AM |
| 89 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”I want all of them too! Every single person deserves them all. Too bad so many men can’t bring themselves to give a woman even one. Loving someone is “simping” after all 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:49 AM |
| 173 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”The only book scrotes can keep their hands out of their pants long enough to read is The 48 Laws of Power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:46 AM |
| 187 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”It’s the stark manipulation for me 🙃 Once you’ve been with someone who actually touches you in a way that makes you feel loved and cared for, the salty bullshit scrotes try to pass off as physical touch becomes repellant and even more degrading | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:41 AM |
| 98 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”He sounds like SUCH a gentleman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 03:04 AM |
| 41 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”The accuracy 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 01:48 AM |
| 5 | Stay away from damaged goods - porn addictsLaunching into “i CaN ChAnGe” hysterics in tears over someone you literally just met as if she’s your fiancée is 100% code red psycho behavior 😟 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:38 PM |
| 96 | It is easy to be difficult!Most men are difficult, our culture just uses different wording for it. Assertive! Motivated! aLpHa! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:29 PM |
| 60 | We can't even have subreddits that are clearly for usRedpilled men only want to date women so they can try to win against us at games we’re not even playing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:21 PM |
| 56 | Online dating as a childfree woman can be an abusive and traumatic experienceIf a man “want kids someday,” he should only swipe right of women who also want kids someday. I’m assuming that’s not what your profile conveyed, but they matched with you anyway and felt some type of way about you not changing your mind in their presence. HMMMMMMMM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:46 AM |
| 24 | Online dating as a childfree woman can be an abusive and traumatic experience“[Insert dating app here] won’t let me change it” makes the average woman think you’re either too outdated/stupid to understand how a dating app works, or you lied and got caught. But somehow they still think their profile is gold | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:43 AM |
| 30 | Online dating as a childfree woman can be an abusive and traumatic experienceFirst of all, congratulations on your business! It takes so much blood, sweat, and tears to get off the ground. That’s HUGE. Love to see it! Second…like others have said, scrotes gonna scrote. I’m in my early 30s but nowhere near as far along in my business as you are. They’ll harp about how trash they think you’re ambitions are no matter what stage you’re in, because they haven’t done the work themselves and they feel some type of way about it. Not your problem. Not sure what race you are, but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:31 AM |
| 53 | Not sure why men can't have conversations without getting triggered into wannabe Sasuke Uchiha but wowIf a man types at you like they’re a standard self-absorbed anime main character, block them and continue living your wonderful life. The pretentiousness, the illusions of grandeur, the posturing…it’s not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:20 AM |
| 51 | Stay away from damaged goods - porn addictsI’m so glad you ran the fuck away instead of sleeping with him. My god, I fucking SHUDDER at the thought a depraved scrote like this having enough access to a woman to “train” her for anything. I can’t shut down my capacity for empathy, even for scrotes, but my subsuming need to protect other, usually younger women from being fetishized, degraded, traumatized, etc just makes sense. My last ex had everything else going for him except for the whole “not caring what I thought” thing, and honestly, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:18 AM |
| 55 | Strategies for Escaping an Abusive RelationshipYES. Multiple sclerosis is another good one. No abuser will want to hear you “complain” about being in pain all the time. Talk about the simple mistakes you make, but don’t make them. Pretend you lack basic homemaking skills. Express vague concern about debt. Narcissists and abusers don’t want to assume control of “damaged goods.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:10 AM |
| 88 | Stay away from damaged goods - porn addictsOh…this is my first time hearing of the purge cycle. It’s, um…eye-opening, to say the least. The sudden inability to connect in any meaningful way, particularly. They just shut down and devolve from there. I feel terrible for these guys. I know that empathizing with borderline criminals is not what we are here to do. But as I avoid them and encourage others to curve pornsick men, I can’t help but feel sad for them. They’re so far gone. Sexuality is a normal and healthy part of the human conditio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:00 AM |
| 18 | NYT - Why Sex-Positive Feminism Is Falling Out of FashionTragic but accurate. Our current culture is actively desecrating an entire generation’s right to a healthy sexual identity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 12:07 AM |
| 127 | Being “understanding” will get you NOWHERE with men. They will lie, use, cheat, and abuse you. Save your empathy ONLY for your close family, children, & trusted friends.Men who stress your ability to be “understanding” don’t want you to ask questions, push back, fight or debate them, get the last word, or express negative feelings about anything they say or do. You’re a cool girl, after all. You understand them. He doesn’t need to lift a finger for a mind-reader like yooou 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 09:31 PM |
| 7 | 1 DAY OF NO CONTACT!Congrats! The more days you get in your rear view, the better you’ll feel until he’s barely a memory at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:53 PM |
| 12 | Men really out here thinking having a wife is being "romance scammed" in a thread about a "girl" on bumble potentially robbing a guy.I want him to be trolling so bad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:51 PM |
| 9 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.i love you 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:48 PM |
| 17 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.It’s not a good idea at all, but lots of Americans feel entitled to not “put our lives on hold” and risk fast-forwarding to death instead 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:41 PM |
| 38 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.The yawning chasm of attractiveness between most couples I see is infuriating. My exes probably patronized the same dating coach because they dressed SO nice on our first few dates and returned to the default shit sandwich American douchebag uniform once I was hooked. Crusty behavior | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:39 PM |
| 23 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.not the stained graphic tee 😂 men are out here dressing like it’s 2003 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:34 PM |
| 21 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.Mostly European - Germany, Switzerland. London in particular is full of men who know how to dress. I briefly dated a guy in Japan who would be studying in my state soon, but the time zone difference made it a slog. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:30 PM |
| 47 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.You’re probably not imagining it. It sucks. I am fortunate to be able to save up, and tbh I’m starting to think that certain countries (like America) are designed to entrap women with degrading LV options and cost-prohibitive escape routes. For a lot of us, shitty-looking men in hoodies and trucker caps are all we ever see from cradle to grave. We’re literally conditioned to settle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 05:03 AM |
| 136 | I don’t really have words for this one.you know what? i’m not even gonna google it. i trust you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:32 AM |
| 85 | I don’t really have words for this one.well that’s fucking terrifying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:31 AM |
| 224 | I don’t really have words for this one.Aside from the whole “husband is either trying to turn himself gay or is desperately closeted” aspect…they work out multiple times a day? and would have sex multiple times a day too? do these people not have jobs? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:30 AM |
| 35 | The level of mental gymnastics hereshe hugged them. she hugged the shorts 😂 i don’t know why but that’s fucking hilarious to me. it took me three years of therapy to be able to express my anger ans she’s here hugging a man’s stinky cargo shorts to keep herself from “nagging” ma’am you need a rescue mission | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:26 AM |
| 88 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.I leave the US to find men I’m physically attracted to. Full stop. Most American men have no fashion sense and little understanding of personal hygiene. Since covid started it’s been slim pickings and I think I’m just gonna wait until I move countries to get serious about dating again for this reason | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:21 AM |
| 73 | FDS and Instructors?I think this is a bit different than the usual block and delete situations we see in here. It’s a group class, you don’t know him personally, and he’s not going to know that what he’s used to saying off the cuff is offending anybody unless he’s made aware of it. So in this case, though in most circumstances this is pickme behavior, I genuinely think it’s fair and right for you to communicate that you’re uncomfortable with it. And if he doesn’t make an effort to acknowledge that and adjust his be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:17 AM |
| 68 | Make sure he’s complete because if you build a man, they will leave.My ex roommate used to pride herself on being the “good man rehab center;” she’d date him, build them up, then watch them get married to the next woman in line. “Guess I know how to make a man valuable!” Uh…weird flex but aight? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:27 AM |
| 29 | Make sure he’s complete because if you build a man, they will leave.Since when do kings need help finding a place to live, sis? Where his castle? 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:23 AM |
| 54 | Dear Nanobot Scientists: Please don’t help lazy Sperm reach our valuable eggs. Signed, Women.Of course men would find a way to make nano-rape a real thing. I am tired. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 05:20 AM |
| 31 | Dear Nanobot Scientists: Please don’t help lazy Sperm reach our valuable eggs. Signed, Women.If the fucking BOUNTIES over people’s heads for supporting women’s rights to our own bodies aren’t enough, let’s make robots that “seal the deal.” Let’s make rape even more dangerous for women, especially when we’re preyed upon by wealthy men who can afford to hire microscopic wheelchairs to get their sad, shitty little sperms over the finish line, knowing full well they have no intention of taking care of the children they insist on conceiving. But I di-fucking-gress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 05:16 AM |
| 69 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢Every once in a while I feel a kernel of sympathy for pornsick men. It’s really sad, from every angle. This one doesn’t even have the words to explain why he does it (and somehow blames her for that). I wonder what goes through these guys’ heads when they choose the fantasy of porn over a connection with a real, live woman who cares about them. Do they even talk to loved ones about it, or do they feel too ashamed? Are they proud of themselves as they sit alone in a dark room watching porn? Drunk… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:28 AM |
| 202 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢“Porn is contributing to your poor performance in bed. Could you stop masturbating to it?” “I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU’RE TRYING TO TAKE AWAY MY BODILY AUTONOMY. I WOULDN’T DO THAT TO YOOOU” “You only talk about your job. I’d love to hear more about you and your interests and less about work.” “WORK IS MY INTEREST. IF YOU DON’T LOVE MY SPREADSHEET WORKFLOWS YOU DON’T LOVE ME, PERIODDD” “Can you please put your socks in the hamper next time?” “WHO DIED AND MADE YOU DICTATOR. Can you warm me up some chic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:59 PM |
| 117 | Dear Nanobot Scientists: Please don’t help lazy Sperm reach our valuable eggs. Signed, Women.Not even their sperm can find it before giving up. The jokes write themselves! Next time I see a scrote whining about “iT’s BiOloGy,” boy have we got an article for you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:47 PM |
| 53 | Some scrotes actually think like this--can you even imagine the privilege to complain about this???“And if I think you’re attractive and run away from me, you’re fat and ugly. Like, on the inside.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:44 PM |
| 8 | Recent discontent with (potentially LVM) bf - need insightI think some people, but especially men, really pride themselves on their professional output. Rather than having never worked before, this guy could be one of those people, I guess? Like you said, still a red flag tho. If he can’t be bothered to think about work and his relationship on the same day, he really shouldn’t be dating. I dated a guy who wasted my time this way for two years before I finally accepted the fact that I was never going to be a priority. The allure of capitalism had him ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:40 PM |
| 99 | Recent discontent with (potentially LVM) bf - need insightHonestly, this reads exactly like those “my boyfriend is amazing but” posts that we mock all the time in here. You’re telling us he pouts about being sexually inadequate, doesn’t take care of himself, and regularly prioritizes work ahead of you to the point of massive fights. Don’t you think you’re wasting your time with him at this point? He’s nowhere near HV. He’s barely a functioning adult. You’re settling and you know it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 08:44 PM |
| 209 | Some scrotes actually think like this--can you even imagine the privilege to complain about this???But don’t you see? He empathized! He even said so in the post! All he wants is for us to shut down our self-preservation instincts and be nice to a nice guy who’s got nothing but nice thoughts about us! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 08:38 PM |
| 28 | Some scrotes actually think like this--can you even imagine the privilege to complain about this???He was definitely following them to find out where they live. Men tell on themselves when they pretend women “should” have the same concerns they do. “You’ve probably even seen me walk out my front door!” Why would random women care where you live, Steven? Is it because you care where they live? Why are you paying such close attention to women you don’t know that you’re aware of their frightened attempts to get away from you? Why would you prefer for these women, whom you hate so much, to messag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 08:30 PM |
| 28 | The Body Keeps the Score and how trauma influences the people you choose to dateYou’re both right here. I love this succinct phrasing; we definitely don’t “attract” predators, and I’ll revise my post to remove that language! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:18 AM |
| 35 | What the fuck is wrong with me? I either attract people who are self destructive or destructive to others. I don’t get attached I continuously keep finding out and I feel cursed.Speaking of safety and neurodiversity, there’s a growing body of research suggesting that autistic people are more likely to be LGBT than the general population, too. The Body Keeps the Score mostly draws from the experiences of military veterans and abused women, but I wish it talked more about being treated like a manic pixie dream girl by other traumatized (or simply just bored) people. Feels almost like consumerism of human beings to me; “Oh, my life is so gray and drab. Maybe I’ll hop down … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:02 AM |
| 43 | The Body Keeps the Score and how trauma influences the people you choose to datethere’s still the question of why non-traumatized women also overstay in toxic relationships. And I believe the answer to that is cultural grooming. Really good points throughout your post, but this one especially. Even those lucky women who had securely-attached childhoods end up in situations like these. That's by design and I fuuuucking hate it! Let's not conflate the two, though. I'm not trying to say that trauma work is the single key to repelling 100% of bad men and attracting good ones. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 09:42 PM |
| 12 | The Body Keeps the Score and how trauma influences the people you choose to dateThat sounds incredibly frustrating, like your mom was trying to fill a cup that had a massive gaping hole in it 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:55 PM |
| 28 | The Body Keeps the Score and how trauma influences the people you choose to dateThank you! I’ve had people tell me I’m making this stuff up and it’s woo woo but like…entire professions are built around understanding trauma so wtf? Sleep walking through life is such a perfect way to put it. This book has been incredibly validating, eye-opening, and sometimes infuriating for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 07:58 PM |
| 30 | Example #141203 of why you should PROTECT YOUR WOMB! Even the guys who seem nice can be full on scrotey sperm donors. Does he have kids? Does he keep in contact with them? Does he abandon his children and then throw pity parties about it?Admitting he hasn’t lifted a finger and doesn’t ever intend to in 4K with “I wish I could be a better father to you. I’m not. 😌” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:42 PM |
| 310 | This insta account is great to see the entitlement that LVM have. (She’s 28 and only matches with old men for science)the……pussy snack bar……of life?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:34 PM |
| 73 | This insta account is great to see the entitlement that LVM have. (She’s 28 and only matches with old men for science)Solid brötchen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:32 PM |
| 170 | “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink”He skated right over the point soooo many times and equated “caring about her” with not acting like an adult toddler and I have HAD IT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:58 AM |
| 163 | “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink”I’ve seen this pity party play out so many times that I can’t bring myself to trust it, either. They’re always absolutely flummoxed that repeatedly ignoring their partner’s pleas for respect and acknowledgment resulted in a breakup or a divorce. I used to fix my face to say “well, at least this one gets it after the fact,” but sometimes they’ll make this public revelation to attract a new woman with his newfound wokeness. There’s an ex in my rear view who always “got it” the day after a big figh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:55 AM |
| 6 | Be careful out there with these hobosexualsMBC (mommy bangmaid chauffeur) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:45 PM |
| 11 | Be careful out there with these hobosexualsAs someone who’s been homeless before (the real, unglamorous kind), van lifers trigger a deep, deep terror in me. A guy I went on a couple incredible dates with revealed that he lived in a van and I ghosted him HARD. Apparently he got that response often though, because a year later he posted a selfie with new housekeys and tagged a whole lot of women in it 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:45 PM |
| 6 | Be careful out there with these hobosexualsI dated a guy for a couple of months who tripped over himself to performatively clean every nook and cranny of my kitchen once, but by the second visit to his house…toothpaste on the mirror, a ring in the toilet, dust messing with my sinuses in every room. I was already the breadwinner, but if I stayed with him I’d have had to be the maid, too. If he knows what “clean” is but only does it to impress or placate you, you’re gonna have a bad time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:40 PM |
| 5 | Be careful out there with these hobosexuals“YES. YES I MOST CERTAINLY AM.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:34 PM |
| 6 | Be careful out there with these hobosexualsLet’s start an FDS charm school and teach girls to vet boys and Matrix-dodge their red flags into adulthood | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:32 PM |
| 5 | Don't trust men's words, trust their actions.I CoMmUniCaTeD to the same LVM for months about how treating me like a therapist/career coach hurt me before breaking up with him over it…and then kept communicating for another year because he was “sorry” and wanted to show me he could do better. He never did, but I sure did waste my breath anyway 🤡 and got gaslit to hell and back before finally blocking and deleting. In the immortal words of Meg, “No man is worth the aggravatiooooon” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:28 PM |
| 3 | CHILDFREE WOMEN BEWARE: if a man tells you he is childfree, make sure he is ACTUALLY child free and not a deadbeatHe’s ruining that poor boy’s life and future just to be petty. That’s fucking untenable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:21 PM |
| 6 | CHILDFREE WOMEN BEWARE: if a man tells you he is childfree, make sure he is ACTUALLY child free and not a deadbeatHe confused you for one of his bros. Maybe the circle he runs with would have found his posturing impressive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:14 PM |
| 11 | Friendly reminders to block and delete your ex and live in peace 😌The worst part about that “i’M GetTiNg HelP toMoRrOw” trick is that is shows your ex sees self-improvement as a tactic to procure women’s attention and not, you know…a path to self-fulfillment and more meaningful relationships. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 09:43 PM |
| 12 | Friendly reminders to block and delete your ex and live in peace 😌Ah, that’s fair enough. I’m generally not worried about legal action or accusations from scrotes; he would get laughed out of court for going to small claims over $30 worth of comic books or 7-year-old Amazon Basics microphone. Earlier this year I agonized to FDS about returning that kind of stuff to a guy I didn’t even like after 2-3 months of vetting. If it’s that early and he couldn’t catch a case in court about it without putting his ego on the line…throw it away! lol But if he left somethin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:50 PM |
| 18 | Friendly reminders to block and delete your ex and live in peace 😌A guy I dated for maybe three months called and blew up my DMs with threats for half a year because he left a comic book in my apartment. It wasn’t rare or anything; it costs $15 and is still in print to this day. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:13 PM |
| 8 | Friendly reminders to block and delete your ex and live in peace 😌Just throw it away 😌 If he wanted his stuff that bad he would have kept it at home | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:11 PM |
| 23 | Friendly reminders to block and delete your ex and live in peace 😌They don’t stop and they don’t learn. I blocked my first ex on everything because he used these tactics every six months for seven years. He’s still creating burner accounts to this day. You can cut the desperation in the air with a butter knife 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:09 PM |
| 28 | Friendly reminders to block and delete your ex and live in peace 😌They think come out of the womb completely flawless 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:07 PM |
| 10 | Tell him you don't like to drink (even if you do)I drink at home to wave off the week, or at friends’ homes. For everyone else, “I don’t drink.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 06:00 AM |
| 63 | Imagine tolerating thisIt’s supposed to be like a smoulder but we all know Jay can’t pull that shit off. TikTokers won’t stop doing this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 05:49 AM |
| 41 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsWhen haven’t men been free to be stay-at-home dads? Women get accused of emasculating men for having the incredible fortitude to pop out a baby and return to work in two months or less. When men stay home? “Doting dad! What a great man! Look at him shopping for nappies! Wow!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 05:44 AM |
| 28 | No hiking dates— everUnfortunately we might as well be living the same life! Two LVM in my rear review mirror were absolute shit to travel with, but they had money and always wanted to perform the fanfare of a baecation despite hating my fucking guts. Then there’s the hiking scrote. I thank my lucky stars these fine gentleman are blocked, deleted, number changed, social media deleted, and never coming back 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 05:08 AM |
| 45 | Guys barging into the bathroom on purpose seems to be a big issueI have a NVX who would see me go into the bathroom and, instead of waiting for me to come out to start a conversation, just STAND IN FRONT OF IT AND YELL THROUGH THE DOOR. I’m neurodivergent, introverted, with PTSD and other junk, and the bathroom is my goddamn safe haven, and of course I CoMMuniCaTed that sometimes I just want to sit on the throne and enjoy some sweet, sweet, healing silence. But nah, he truly believed like just because we were living together he was entitled to my time and att… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:59 AM |
| 21 | No hiking dates— everGerman shepherd for sure! You need to have a lot of energy to train them and keep them healthy, but they’re so smart and strong. Perfect wilderness buddy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:45 AM |
| 72 | No hiking dates— everYou can mommy scrotes in the wilderness the same as scrotes on city trips: make sure they’re fed and watered and go to the bathroom before any major travel, find subtle ways to make them think the next item on your itinerary is their idea so he doesn’t whine about your “bad” ideas, point out wildlife and geographic features they like, etc., until you’re back in civilization. Then you can tuck your scrote-child in, go find some goddamn alone time, and commit to never traveling with this person ag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:43 AM |
| 125 | No hiking dates— everIt sounds like you repeatedly called this scrote’s bluff; he wanted you to think he loved hiking but he couldn’t hang 🤣 I dated a guy who loved to hike, but in his case, his whole world was climbing/hiking and I just was there to keep him company on the trail. He walked super fast and ignored me until I spoke to him first. If I tied a knot wrong or put pieces of the tent together out of his preferred order, he’d get passive-aggressive as shit and stop talking to me completely while we’re alone i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:36 AM |
| 99 | We are taught that dating and life in general is easier for conventionally attractive women. I think they have it worse.I’m a “niche market” since my race has its own porn category and all, but I’ve still felt a fraction of the dehumanizing effects of being treated like a trophy. Conventionally attractive women are supposed to be grateful for the privilege of being circled by wolves online and off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:20 AM |
| 173 | This sub won’t allow me to post images anymore so I’m going to copy paste a conversation I had with a long time male friend. He was asking me how my 13 yo daughter got covid and then decided to sexualize her. What the actual fuck.“I made an extremely funny and good joke to my friend about her daughter going to orgies with older men (like me) and now she’s smearing my name around the neighborhood like I’m some kind of pedo and she blocked me. AITA?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:11 PM |
| 11 | My EX’s phone called me.Your comment here makes his brand of LVM look and sound like a smooth-brained zombie on the slow, groaning prowl for FEEEEEEMALLLLE attention, it’s so accurate 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 12:57 AM |
| 28 | I keep having to delete posts I make on other subs because creeps look through comment history and find out I'm on FDS.Unfortunately, you've got to use a throwaway or burner account for FDS as Reddit is almost entirely redpilled and sees subs that empower women as "hate groups." I think it's in the handbook, but if it isn't it should be! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 11:30 PM |
| 21 | Another series of men projecting Ep. 124842: Women using men for free foodAnd so many abusive "nice guys" still haven't caught on that we know this and avoid them like the plague. They just keep reeeeing into the void, playing the numbers game in hopes they'll find one who's isolated or overly trusting to be "nice" to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:51 PM |
| 109 | Another series of men projecting Ep. 124842: Women using men for free food$15, huh? That's one-eighth the cost of my cheapest pair of shoes, one-third the cost of my favorite Anastasia Beverly Hills palette, and a whopping one-sixteenth of my go-to perfume. But oooooh boy, how I long make a bland, awkward greasy-haired man in gym shorts pay for my Chipotle burrito. With guac, of course. I could neeeeever afford guac on my own! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:55 PM |
| 35 | Another series of men projecting Ep. 124842: Women using men for free foodYou just flicked a lightbulb on in my head. Reddit really is Fanfiction.net for angry incels 😂trying to pass off all their self-insert power fantasies and shitposts as real life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:47 PM |
| 16 | Why are so many men obsessed with teenage girls?Fair enough, but I’m not talking only modern days here. Some of the more popular ukiyo-e painters in Japan started off painting naked women. Lots of renowned Renaissance-era painters made their name from painting women in attire considered sexual at the time. I am standing my ground here! lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 04:12 AM |
| 72 | Why are so many men obsessed with teenage girls?My theory is, men are not born this way. They’re socialized to be predators. That’s not the intention, of course, but it’s so prevalent because capitalistic societies have a habit of using young women’s bodies as fodder to sell burgers, cars, perfumes, etc. They’re taught that young women are the prize — the younger, the better. Sex sells. Power sells. It’s easier to have power over weaker women. Young women might not always be physically weak, but the brain is still developing before age 25. So… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 02:02 AM |
| 80 | Men Telling on ThemselvesI’ve been saying this for years! If a man my age is still broke, I have no choice but to assume he’s either lazy or stupid. So many men are dead-set on ignoring all of the loopholes, career opportunities and schemes afforded exclusively to them (because those schemes require, ugh…EFFORT) in favor of leeching from us instead. And after blatantly gold digging for generations, they have the audacity to Pikachu-face when we don’t want to adopt an adult son into our (clean, functional, well-decorated… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 06:37 PM |
| 12 | Why you shouldn’t pay for dinnerBruh, he sounds pornsick as hell. All he could think of when explicitly prompted was TV, probably because ruminating on “videos” is what made him want to invite you out. Which also explains what he was doing while sitting there eating silently in your company. 🤢 And yeah, in case of emergency I Spongebob right the fuck outta there lmao. I’m extremely uncomfortable during the escape process either way, so might as well be direct at that point! Men have caught me with the “I already paid” guilt se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:16 PM |
| 18 | Coworker wanted to set me up with her son.This woman sounds like the pickme mini-boss you have to fight before saving the world from a harrowing swarm of “how dare you not try to fix him” Pickmeishas. 🤢 Glad you were able to avoid this shitstorm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Avoid using OLD to meet menHere it’s partying, extreme sport, fishing, hiking, and food (yes, men consider eating food a hobby here). The fish pic must have worked on someone at some point, but I wish I knew how it rose to such prevalence in the “desperate 30-something man on OLD” community. Nobody cares! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:01 PM |
| 34 | Why you shouldn’t pay for dinnerThese sorts of bad dates that drag on are a nightmare. Did you stay through the whole ordeal? If it were Groundhog Day and you had to do the date over, what would your escape plan be? I’ve just straight-up said “well, I think I’ll head out” and left mid-meal out of awkward desperation, but I feel like smoother women might have better solutions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:55 AM |
| 117 | Coworker wanted to set me up with her son.She thought you’d “help him?” What could you have done at that age besides let him drag you down with him? Dude needs a therapist, not a codependent | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:19 AM |
| 98 | Black women are not protected, LVM plans to rob a woman and goes to her home pretending to want her number.“How could you call the police on the man who blocked your escape route and threatened to k*ll you? Don’t you know you're endangering him?!” Crank that cognitive dissonance up to 11 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 10:45 PM |
| 95 | Black women are not protected, LVM plans to rob a woman and goes to her home pretending to want her number.HE JUMPED OUT THE GODDAMN WINDOW, climbed down the fire ladder, and sheepishly texted “hey” three months later. I almost forgot about this but the rage is flowing back, my god. What a fucking tool he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 10:01 PM |
| 167 | Black women are not protected, LVM plans to rob a woman and goes to her home pretending to want her number.I've mentioned here similar obvious, clear facts about how black men (and the police) treat black women. Got downvoted on this topic just yesterday, I believe. When I was 19 I called the police multiple times on a stalker three times my age who'd been following me home from work and breaking into my apartment building (he couldn't figure out how to get into my unit). They hung up on me twice and one time even arrested me for "wasting their time." I needed to damn near trick them with a bogus kni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 09:38 PM |
| 141 | Black women are not protected, LVM plans to rob a woman and goes to her home pretending to want her number.This has happened to me with partners, coworkers, friendships...every damn where. The moment you decide not to "build up" and unconditionally support the people around you, you transition over from pet to threat and suddenly you're the reason they're not thriving. Last black man I dated r*ped me on vacation and tried to choke me after a bad day at work, but expected me to smile and help him with his business after all of it. The HVM are out there, but I'm not about to wade through pathological a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 09:36 PM |
| 34 | Avoid using OLD to meet menI "finished" Bumble in my area the other day without having a single encouraging conversation with a man I'd want to see in person, and Hinge is full of himbos and cheaters so...yeah. Fuck OLD 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 08:14 PM |
| 41 | SAFEGUARDING: Time, Standards, and Boundaries.Who doesn’t love an actionable self-improvement exercise 😍 This belongs in the handbook! Sitting down to write mine out right now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:18 AM |
| 38 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄I’d bet money he looked over her shoulder at her bank app or at the ATM and accidentally “stunned” his own damn self | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:03 AM |
| 125 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄The author’s “helpful” suggestions sound menacing as hell. He was fine before she knew she had her own money, but now it’s “start a joint account! Make specific financial goals with each other! Turn finances into a much bigger deal in your relationship than it ever was!” Even thought there’s only one person here feeling poor. Basically all those suggestions boil down to, “Make her build up your bank account with you!!!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 03:53 AM |
| 176 | He locks her out of the house, because men are literally the worst.He must have been waiting to power-trip this hard for ages because the throat surgery excuse couldn’t be more irrelevant. Fine motor skills and cognitive abilities are managed by the brain, which is clearly doing just fine; he can walk around, watch TV, harass his wife, and even lock her out of the house and gloat about it. So why is he being such an infant about the goddamn remote when he clearly has the faculties to problem-solve on his own? Being in pain doesn’t give you license to be a prick… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:52 PM |
| 67 | Ladies…please have/control your own finances, have a social circle and skills…even with a HVM by your side.This! Sometimes it can be uncomfortable to consider the far future in this way, but it’s important. End-of-life care is complicated and expensive. Your faculties could start to fail on you sooner than you think. My grandma outlived my grandpa by decades, and while I think she did have a plan for old age initially, she was not prepared — emotionally, financially, logistically — to rely on my mom through the bulk of her retirement years. Neither of them knew how to balance a checkbook. Grandpa tre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:30 PM |
| 5 | Making more than your SOThank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupI read it. I’ve done this, and been hung up on more than once. Maybe it’s just specific to my area at the time, or something, but the police are not helpful everywhere, to everyone. We should all be aware of that. If you’re afraid of your ex escalating the situation, not all police see de-escalation as the right choice until it’s too late. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:18 PM |
| -23 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupMale relative, yes, police…what? The police dispatchers in cities I’ve lived in would hang up on you or tell you off for “wasting” their time with a request like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:50 AM |
| 23 | Making more than your SOI’m not okay with it. I’d like to be, it shouldn’t matter, but it does. Too many men base their identity on outdated notions that men MUST be the breadwinner, and as a result, too many men are stuck in the 50s, believing they should be allowed to bring nothing to the table but money. I don’t want to have to soothe a man who thinks I emasculated him by having a good job, and I definitely don’t want a man to start pushing me to spend money on him or move him into my home. Or worse, pressuring me t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 04:36 AM |
| 130 | AI Deepfake app allows users to face swap women's faces into porn. There are also one where they can digitally remove your clothes. Lo and behold this kind of thing gained popularity on Reddit and was said to be created here.Men are disgusting and this is horrifying.I’m planning to write my dissertation on deepfakes and other ways men psychologically terrorize women on the internet. It’s yet another obviously dangerous innovation, with very few applications for good. I remember seeing some funny celebrity deepfakes on Tiktok a few years back and thinking it was cute for approximate .12 seconds before reddit found a way to weaponize it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:55 AM |
| 4 | Recommendations for "Chick Lit" Books?This isn’t exactly “chick lit,” but if you enjoy historical romance or fantasy, and enjoy a hearty dollop of plot-progressing horniness in your fiction, the Kushiel’s Legacy series is s u p r e m e Edit because I GOTTA EXPLAIN: Dope, brilliant, fun female main characters, fascinating magic system, excellent worldbuilding, and the romance? It’s uh…not the type of stuff you’d feel comfortable reading on a long plane ride. I love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:38 AM |
| 116 | How Men Became "Emotional Gold Diggers"i sent this to my ex years ago when he demanded i tell him why we broke up. the title alone offended him 😂 i wonder if he’s dried his tears long enough to read the whole thing yet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 11:13 PM |
| 116 | Man Stands her up, lies about it, then floods her inbox“I tHougHt YoU WeRe DifFerEnt” I’m the same as every other girl. FRIGHTENED FOR MY LIFE.” I love her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 11:05 PM |
| 208 | The ole blast from the past “I’m in your town let’s get coffee” textyou’re not excited to hear from him 🚩 he’s “checking on you” out of the blue without having reached out before he was in town 🚩 you can barely remember him, indicating that he might not have made much of an impression on you in the first place 🚩 a random friend gave him your number?! 🚩 YMMV, but I would block him. So many men drop in to check on “old friends” only to find 20 minutes into hanging out that wow, what a surprise, he wants sex. I’d personally rather only people I know, or want to get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 10:56 PM |
| 156 | My new definition of BDSMThere’s something to be said about the people whose idea of a relationship hinges on how well they can manipulate things. Being “good at sex” is supposed to be about how well you can please your partner(s), but some BDSM folks want it to be about what they can do to any random person with paddles and knots. FDSers might define a good relationship as a partnership built on the foundation of trust, love, and respect, while your friendly neighborhood incels swear up and down that a relationship is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 07:04 PM |
| 50 | Men and therapyWomen go to therapy to deal with the men in our lives who won’t go to therapy. I would love to meet a man who doesn’t either balk at the idea of going to therapy or weaponize it to manipulate or gaslight their potential or present partners. I’m tired of holding men’s baggage, too, and I won’t give my attention to another guy who’s “thinking about” going because they think that’s what I want to hear. Lurkers, y’all have to understand that there’s more to life than sex. We can see you pretending t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 04:24 PM |
| 5 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”Seriously, how much sex is enough? Men who are conditioned to think sexual boundaries are a game will morph into whatever you want them to be to make sure they can cross those boundaries. There is no bottom to the depravity. I’ve experienced the public transit version of car flashers with men cornering me at the end of an empty train, sitting next to me and whipping out their dick 🤢 If I didn’t want my friends who do sex work to eat I’d say we need more criminalization, not less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 12:46 AM |
| 31 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenIn my teens before I got an IUD, I spent many a morning at my part-time job hunched over the computer or whimpering in the fetal position in the library basement, waiting for the nausea to pass so I can speak and move again. But gentlemen, oh no! You are feeling slightly uncomfy! Time to pump the fucking brakes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 12:38 AM |
| 107 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenMen have ALL OF THESE easy and effective methods of birth control, but still come up with a million and one excuses as to why they can’t possible manage it. “But it makes my peepee sad, it hurts, condoms smell funny,” or, my favorite, “why should I have to?” Why? Why?! Because you don’t want to INFEST THE EARTH WITH MORE HUMANS THAN WE’RE CAPABLE OF ADEQUATELY CARING FOR?!? Because you don’t want to ruin a life — yours, your partner’s, or your hypothetical child’s?! Because you’re purportedly a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:41 PM |
| 109 | It's 2021 why is it still on women mostly to take birth control? 79% of men think it should be a "shared responsibility" its msyogynisyic that we still have to carry the burden as womenBecause when we try to start men out on reversible, non-intrusive, automatic and relatively painless birth control, they whine and complain about such debilitating side effects as [checks notes] headaches and drowsiness. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:34 PM |
| 5 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”May your day be bright, and may every pickme find your ex immediately too butthurt and overwhelming to "fix" 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 10:11 PM |
| 18 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”This happened to my ex multiple times after I left him. He tried to use the women he slept with for free therapy, so they took the consolation prize and left. And I know this because, before I learned the joys of blocking and deleting he texted me to complain about how no one was willing to be half the bangmaid therapist I was 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:50 PM |
| 16 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”It’s the same cognitive dissonance that convinces these same men they can bust open a perfectly good relationship and suddenly be drowning in strange pussy while their wife or girlfriend voluntarily stays home | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:46 PM |
| 21 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”They’re trying to turn dating sites into hookup sites. I’ve literally wasted a solid hour on one of these apps and not found a single person I was attracted to who wasn’t “just visiting!” or “ethically non-monogamous!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:43 PM |
| 18 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”They’ve been threatening us with a good time for years but nope, but none of them seem interested in going their own way at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:40 PM |
| 45 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”Ugh…That hurt to read 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 05:09 AM |
| 60 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”Ugh…you’re totally right and it hurts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:03 AM |
| 90 | If a man is willing to sleep with me too soon then I stop finding him attractive.Why should I value a dick that values itself at free.99? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 10:44 PM |
| 13 | Dailymail degeneracyYou should not need a written contract to treat your partner with basic human decency. FULL FUCKING STOP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 10:41 PM |
| 81 | It's peak PUA season. Be on alert at all times!I wonder if the “element of surprise” ever worked for him in the past 😂 My LVX went full redpill after I left him and whipped out the ol’ SPREADSHEET to help him land a minimum of one date a week. I was afraid to ask him what he was logging in it, but lucky for me he was all too excited to share! Turns out he’d harassed women at the gym, the soccer club, basically every social event he’d been to, and every city park within a four-mile radius since we last talked, as well as the last few dates an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 10:39 PM |
| 127 | It's peak PUA season. Be on alert at all times!They make it way too obvious that they just view us as objects. I mean PUAs seem to believe they’re playing Pokémon Go with live human women at this point. At the bus stop, in the café, in the park…gotta catch ‘em all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 10:27 PM |
| 193 | College student draws up 17-page CONTRACT with her boyfriendI’ve heard from lots of women older than her that setting rigid expectations in this way saved their marriage, but honesty…I just don’t want to, fam. Even if you’re drawing a contract up with equal participation from the partner…is remembering your significant other’s wishes and expectations for the relationship really this hard? What happens if someone violates the contract? Anything less than breaking up would suggest that there’s an enforcer in the relationship. Doesn’t that change the dynami… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 08:36 PM |
| 25 | What are some of the reddest red flags you’ve ever seen on a date or during a relationship?Fucking infuriating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:03 PM |
| 86 | Where is the lie, tho?When Attack on Titan got big and anime started feeling a bit mainstream, there was one brief, beautiful moment where I could mention anime to any friend and they’d go, “Oh, I’ve seen AOT. Pretty cool!” Peace. Tranquility. 😌 And then everyone started hornyposting underaged girls again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:35 AM |
| 50 | Help I’ve Become Absurdly Hot Since I Got Married and Now I Want to Dump The Only Woman Who Ever Wanted to Fuck Me So I Can Become The Porn Star Of My DreamsAh yes, it was certainly only his work and perseverance that ultimately turned him hot, with no financial or moral contribution from his wife! And yes, she for sure only got fatter and sadder while her spouse thrived! That makes a ton of sense and is not at all embellishment in order to devalue his wife as much as possible in public discourse! There’s no manipulation happening here at all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:30 AM |
| 170 | What are some of the reddest red flags you’ve ever seen on a date or during a relationship?Definitely physical violence. Validating r*pe because “we’re on vacation, I was just trying to have fun” (???) Walking in front of or behind me, anywhere but next to me Whining about “mean” women from his past…while on a date with a woman Bringing up a lot of information about me or my friends that I didn’t share Trauma dumping Gladly picking up friends and family from the airport, but I have to take the rail 🤡 Complaining about the bill when they make 2x, sometimes 3x more than I do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:19 AM |
| 41 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣I needed this post. A couple of years ago I was exploring poly, got pretty bruised by the whole experience, and am now doing a ton of introspection around my own self-esteem and boundaries. When my would-be partner showed up with a laundry list of other people’s needs I would need to meet to join his massive polycule, I almost thought that sounded fine so long as I got the validation of a community of romantic partners. Poly makes sense for a lot of people, but the amount of work and frustration… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 08:58 PM |
| 18 | I'm ready to make the bald lurkers cry.I love a man with a nice healthy head of hair! The only time I dated a balding man, going outside with him would always wind up being embarrassing. Trying to dress to the nines to the grocery store, trying to dress me up (or down) to make him look cooler. Spend that money on hair regrowth serums instead of compensating, my dude. Please, guys. Take care of your goddamn hair! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 05:11 PM |
| 101 | Some men say, men going for much younger women or even teenagers is just "biology". I just realised adult men who try to be with teenagers/much younger women usually end up alone.My first ex was 28 when I was 20. We dated for two years before he dumped me, then he spent another seven years trying to “reconnect.” I blocked him on everything a while back, but is he pushing 40 and still creating fake accounts to hit me up? You bet he is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:39 PM |
| 5 | How do you feel about video games?Does your fiancé play Fire Emblem? I actually kind of enjoy watching other people play strategy and story games, because there are usually alternate endings. You both have something to talk about, the game fucking ends, and you move on. Unlike online and mobile games that’ll have you sitting there looking for all the world like a lump, staring at the same map for hours | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:43 AM |
| 10 | How do you feel about video games?I’ve definitely stayed up late on a weekday playing my favorite decidedly uncool games (Jurassic World Evolution? Anybody?!) …but the consequences caught up with me and I stopped to stay up on my work and classes. The gamers I’ve dated seemed to have cashed in their real-world survival instincts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:38 AM |
| 9 | 20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮After one too many shitty gamer relationships, I now have special rules for gamers who aren’t developers. If he: plays League keeps his gaming computer in the bedroom doesn’t have proper adult furniture for anything but the gaming setup does not initiate plans with friends outside of gaming does not appear to have any other hobbies besides gaming he’s not an adult, he’s a 12-year-old in a taxpayer’s body and i need to RUN FAST | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:33 AM |
| 11 | frustrated with guys lying about their height, and how i’m respondingI sure am 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:21 AM |
| 24 | frustrated with guys lying about their height, and how i’m respondingSomewhat related: In college I used to bring a tape measure to guys’ houses for booty calls. Just to make sure they were telling the truth down there too. They did not appreciate it If the sex is gonna be bad anyway, might as well get a laugh in beforehand | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:20 AM |
| 67 | For women of color/ minorities, be extra careful of fetishization or familial racismI don’t date white men either. Men of any race are difficult and take forever to vet without having to deal with racist family, fussiness over my hair, fetishization, the embarrassing lack of POC friends, “you’re pretty for a black girl,” expecting wild “jungle” sex, the fucking NuBiaN QuEEn-ass comments— | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:11 AM |
| 98 | The audactiy knows no bounds.“I know bad things happen to very good people. If you’re overdue for a very bad thing, my door is open” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:05 AM |
| 35 | Destroy the concept that your teen years are supposed to be fun and once you hit 25, you’re old and it’s over. Some of us had to heal from trauma during our teen years and our 20s (30s, 40s, 50s and so on) and would like to begin a good life without constantly being told it’s too late.Early thirties now. I didn’t feel self-sufficient and whole until 29. Now that I’m happy with my trajectory in life, I can see men’s pleas to make me consider “ThE FuTuRe” for what they are — sad, lonely bleats into the void, imploring me to sacrifice MY future for their convenience, happiness, whims, etc. Why are they still whining for my attention if I supposedly “dried up” years ago??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 03:23 AM |
| 4 | We're finally seeing the effects of porn use in boys and menThis is fascinating to learn about and pathetic at the same time 😂 thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 01:55 PM |
| 324 | We're finally seeing the effects of porn use in boys and menQuick, send in the coding bootcamps! Redesign their learning environments to be as frat-y as possible so women will feel uncomfortable and stop signing up! Let’s gatekeep the most lucrative careers, just like we’ve always done as a patriarchal society! For real tho, the techbros absolutely will try to solve this problem. When boys become men who can’t earn money, how are they going to pay for meal delivery apps, OnlyFans, and porn? If they’re yoked to their mom or girlfriend those mean old hags … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 12:46 AM |
| 39 | Unilingual men and their many red flagsYES. Men who grew up in multilingual households but managed to stay monolingual…that was a whole, embarrassing choice on their part. The men I’ve dated in this camp hated their cultural background while plastering it all over dating apps to set themselves apart. My high school bestie looooved to talk about how he was a “mutt” of eleventy-hundred exotic cultures. His parents speak four languages. He only speaks English. And he never brought friends into his childhood home; we played video games i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 01:51 AM |
| 15 | Why are some men’s egos so damn fragile?Smart or assertive women in porn tend to get viciously degraded or “taken down a peg” too, which is probably why trolls respond to reasonable comments from women with weird, inexplicably horny insults | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 11:34 PM |
| 37 | Weekend plans ruined by friend’s scrote bfIf they’re primarily her friends, he definitely guilt-tripped her. He doesn’t like them as much as she does, so he decided he’d rather make money than go to the river. But he also didn’t want to be alone after work, so of course she’s got to stay home so he can maintain his usual routine - which probably involves her cooking and looking after him. :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 11:29 PM |
| 68 | Free Solo - Movies with a FDS LensI watched this with my LVX, who was of course a rock climbing fanatic, back when it first came out. He LOVED it, especially the wife who worships the ground he walks on and takes interviews purely about him. After he successfully hooked me, my ex put away his button-downs and sweaters and wore the same climbing shirts every day for the next two years until we broke up. Also, just like his idol Honnold, he blamed me every single time he was in a bad mood. Because of course, he wouldn’t be in a ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 11:19 PM |
| 46 | UPDATE: If he needs space from the relationship, it's a noIt’s like we have the same dad 😂 Every few years I’ll get a DM from a random woman claiming to be my dad’s new wife or girlfriend, reminding me that he’s “so sad” I haven’t spoken to him in over a decade. It’s always a different woman, and they never last long enough to try messaging me again, so I just ignore them. Something is mentally wrong with a man who’s pushing 60 but still LARPing as a high school jock | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 02:06 PM |
| 156 | UPDATE: If he needs space from the relationship, it's a noIt really is that simple sometimes. He saw new pussy and could not imagine anything being more important. If that’s not a simpleton’s mentality I don’t know what is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.Attractive men are less likely to want a self-esteem boost in the form of hot “arm candy;” while unattractive men will want to parade you around, dress you up to “match” them like a pet, isolate you, start fights over you, start fights with you, etc. These are all tactics for them to wring as much out of you as possible. Attractive men aren’t guaranteed to be perfect but ugly men are habitual energy vampires. Might as well go with the secure, hot one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:35 AM |
| 3 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.Exactly. The moment he gets “protective” of you over an oblivious stranger on the street, or says anything similar to “how did I score a hot girl like you?” it is time to hit the ol’ dusty trail, because it WILL escalate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:26 AM |
| 28 | Ladies of Reddit, what’s the sexiest thing an overweight gamer in his 30s can do to make you have sex with him“Aw maaaaaan. I wanted to groom her! Not fair!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:23 AM |
| 42 | Ladies of Reddit, what’s the sexiest thing an overweight gamer in his 30s can do to make you have sex with himHot and able to hold an intelligent conversation?! Girl this is not Burger King, you can’t always have it your way! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:21 AM |
| 20 | Ladies of Reddit, what’s the sexiest thing an overweight gamer in his 30s can do to make you have sex with himThis is the most embarrassing gamer date I’ve read all week | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:17 AM |
| 4 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.It’s Noah Samsen’s 25-minute exposé on Jake Paul (not Logan Paul, my bad, I don’t know which one’s the “good” one at this point) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 03:41 AM |
| 3 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.MAKE IT MAKE SENSE 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 03:37 AM |
| 116 | Women aren't morally obligated to have babies.That tweet ignores the fact that men also have sex and are equally responsible for conception. Where are the consequences for their actions? The idea that only women are responsible for conception suggests that women alone have the power to conceive, but if women only slept with each other and took men out of the equation entirely, there would be no pregnancies. Problem solved! 😏 For some reason, I suspect our guy Leonydus wouldn’t go in for this approach. Also…does this scrote see babies as a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 03:31 AM |
| 27 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.Both of the six-figure dudes I’ve dated did this shit 🤣 Nickel-and-diming dates; giddy hours-long trips to Costco; agreeing that it’s unreasonable to go 50/50 but arguing about it anyway; moving into shitty, uncomfortable bachelor pads to save money; trying to move me in to save even more money…with all of these examples it’s clear that the dude has goals or some sort of financial agenda that he’s expecting you to help subsidize, or at least never interfere with (ie. buying a house, car, expensi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:23 PM |
| 10 | My first time blockingGood job! If you don’t want your life to be as much of a hot mess as hers seems to be, you’re gonna get good at blocking, fast | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:41 PM |
| 59 | Ah, the classic “Passive Reciprocation”I once told my LVX about a time when a guy I thought was my friend took my kindness the wrong way and he responded, “Oh yeah, I’ve led women on before too, it’s not such a bad thing.” That’s not what I was describing but thanks for telling on yourself??? A scrote will get into a whole-ass marriage with a woman he doesn’t even like, simply because she made it easy for him. Then I guess when you get mad at him for not reciprocating he can say “well I didn’t say you HAD to do any of that” 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:38 PM |
| 42 | They aren’t even hiding the fact that they want to be babied into adulthood. 🚩MOMMY ISSUES🚩Maybe I’m just old but I don’t get the appeal of this TikTok e-boy look. He looks GREASY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:33 PM |
| 143 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.Scrotes like to screech about how SpOiLeD women are for being graced with garbage attention from men we don’t want, but guys who look extremely attractive on paper absolutely bask in attention from women without having to work for it at all. I was just watching a video about how disgustingly often people like Logan Paul use that surface-level reputation to get away with r*pe like they’re doing these women a favor, like they’re god’s gift. No consequences, no reason to self-reflect. But we women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:28 PM |
| 227 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.This. Six figure earners can be the cheapest ones on the market; so many of them worship bulk goods from Costco as a “life hack.” Pizza? Even if he made it from scratch right in front of you, what an embarrassing proposal for a first date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:21 PM |
| 15 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?Lmao, story time: I have a LVX who looked HV as hell in public — ironed his clothes, stylish, nice hair and cologne — but then I went home with him. He knew I’d be coming. He had time to prepare. So tell me why he led me to his room and it was covered from corner to corner with clothes, random electronics strewn over the bed, and a hamper doubling as a nightstand??? I was still in pickme mode, so I was happy enough that he looked expensive, was “nice” to me, and had a good job 😂 but then we went… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 03:36 AM |
| 7 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?I wanna know if he seriously dried himself off with a goddamn bathmat but on the other hand I hope and pray that you didn’t stick around long enough to ask! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 03:23 AM |
| 30 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?If anyone is willing to bring you into their mess or half assed attempt at presentable is automatically LV. Absolutely. First impressions are everything, and half-assing it from jump shows he’s expecting you to accept some abysmally low standards. I had to unlearn my mother’s hoarder lifestyle as well. Took quite a few years, but now I’m dusting ceiling fans and paying attention to detail like the best of ‘em. It felt so unnatural before. Now when I visit a guy’s place for first time and it look… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 03:10 AM |
| 43 | What are examples of a LVM playing red pill mind games ?[man whines in my inbox for 35 minutes] “Wow, you really shouldn’t be dating when you have this much on your plate already.” Block and delete. 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 03:41 PM |
| 135 | What are examples of a LVM playing red pill mind games ?LVM never trauma-dump on their mates or other people they respect. They’ll save it for women they’ve just met, whose fawning and attention they feel entitled to, and if you get involved with one, congratuations! You’re their supply now. I had a LVX who got “sick” three or four times within the first couple months of dating and needed me to take a 45-minute drive over to his place to take care of him. He never did the same for me, and I doubt OP’s LVM ever would, either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 20 | I found FDS related quotes from Oscar Wilde (which I've taken the liberty of sorting into SAVAGE categories) <3Oscar Wilde never disappoints! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:15 PM |
| 38 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...Ugh. I’m so sorry; these times are rough and I wish you could have spent a bit more time with your aunt. I also wish more people were comfortable with the concept of death and dying because this is for sure not a gendered thing. So many people just clam up at the time you need them most. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:12 PM |
| 13 | When an older man tries to ask “what do you bring to the table?” RUN!!!There is absolutely no reason why a woman should date their “career mentor.” Men very rarely invest in the professional development of female direct reports. They will generally only mentor other men; if a man tries to “take me under their wing,” my first thought is that his idea of mentorship probably involves his penis. Second, sugar daddies are cool for what they are, get your bag, but if you’re calling it “dating” with all the accoutrements of a sugar baby situation — trading beauty and comp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 04:09 PM |
| 13 | Okay so ik I already made a post about something similar but I came across ANOTHER post of Facebook (this must be where all the LVM and pickmes are) that proves my point of men wanting to use women and normalize it. I’m showing proof because scrotes were in my messages acting stupid.Her pride sure isn’t 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 04:30 AM |
| 25 | That’s why you should always demand proof, don’t just accept their wordsAs someone who’s been that toxic person relying on someone else’s income…for real, don’t associate with people like this until they get their shit together! Anything can happen. Maybe they’re depressed like I was, and forgot to pay rent. Maybe they have issues with compulsive buying, or keeping up with the Joneses, or they’re Peter Pans running from their debts. The reason why is irrelevant; just don’t waste your time! You don’t know if it’ll happen again, how many times, or for how many reasons… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 03:52 AM |
| 27 | Imagine an unknowing woman finally gets her guy to go to relationship therapy and it's this guy. This is why we never utilize men for any type of therapy or coaching!“No Military” = “I got rocked once by an off-duty soldier whose wife responded to my no-holds-barred booty call and my ears are still ringing from it” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 03:39 AM |
| 66 | Can we make ‘Weaponized Incompetence’ a flair? A dangerous hurricane is on its way and hubby pretends he can’t do something as simple as buy nonperishables from the store for his familyMy former roommate bought her fiancé, whom she gave money to in order to buy her a ring, a monthly HelloFresh subscription so he could learn to cook, put him on a skincare regimen, and basically instructed him on everything she could possibly want, every day, in all ways. And she would try to hook me up with her equally daft, bumbling idiot manlet friends on the regular, out of pity. I was supposed to want the exhausting, controlling, codependent life she was living! Ma’am in what world?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 03:35 AM |
| 25 | I caught my husband watching porn and kicked him outIt might not completely feel like it yet, but congratulations on losing the dead weight! May the last of your nostalgia melt away like cotton candy in a river. Being addicted to porn is bad, but basically pretending to understand real sex while addicted to hentai is gross and pathological. I can’t imagine he even considered what his end goal was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 03:20 AM |
| 15 | Is there a benefit to not adding men on social media, to "keep the mystery" and require them to invest time and effort into getting to know you? What are your thoughts?If he’s not a recurring character in your life yet, probably not a good idea to add him. I got tired of friends of friends/former dates/exes orbiting my accounts so now I don’t add anyone I don’t plan on linking with regularly. Why use social media with people you don’t actually want to socialize with, you know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 10:50 PM |
| 443 | Okay so ik I already made a post about something similar but I came across ANOTHER post of Facebook (this must be where all the LVM and pickmes are) that proves my point of men wanting to use women and normalize it. I’m showing proof because scrotes were in my messages acting stupid.I see the Adopt a Man charity drive is alive and well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 10:47 PM |
| 50 | Expose them early and often!I love that you were restfully sleeping and unbothered while he was over there strategizing 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:04 AM |
| 78 | Immature Defense Mechanisms that men usePsych grad schooler here. You read this man’s coping mechanisms for FILTH and shit, who’s gonna stop me from making this my dissertation topic. WHOOO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 04:05 AM |
| 4 | And this is why you should NEVER allow yourself to become financially dependent on a man.This sounds fake. So she was just sitting there getting “lavished” the whole time, never thinking about her own bag, never thinking about her future or career or independent ideals about her life? At all?? Then “drifted apart” from a person who was apparently the be-all and end-all of her entire lifestyle and personhood at the time??? If she were truly a gold digger she’d have at least paid attention to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 03:57 AM |
| 121 | "Do you want to hang out?" Vs "Can I take you out on a date?Men who can’t utter the word “date” but want to HaNg OuT with you all the time only deserve a group setting. In public, with zero opportunities for alone time. (Provided you even like him as a friend) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 10:51 PM |
| 14 | How can WHO make things right with WHO??? My heart hurts for her 🙁She’s so young, and he’s so shit. God, I wish her all the support and good luck in the world | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 10:46 PM |
| 13 | So close...Ooooh I think he’s got it…I think…oh hot damn he’s got it…HE’S GOT IT…OMG HE’S GOT IT…aaaaaaaaand he’s blaming women for things men do to each other. Next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 10:43 PM |
| 41 | It's amazing to me how anyone can justify manipulation!“Well maybe trying to manipulate her into doing this thing she set a boundary around is his way of communicating something he otherwise couldn’t.” Yes, he’s CoMmUniCaTiNg that he gives fuck-all about her boundaries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 10:39 PM |
| 217 | Is this why old men in current government dont care about women’s rights today? Because their dad’s wrote & believed bs like this?Always speak to your husband in low, soothing tones. Fun fact: men are actually 50 chinchillas in a skin suit, and will panic over sudden movements and noises, triggering a disturbing display of lumpy, almost-human writhing in your dining room as the rodents attempt to escape their fleshy prison. And you don’t want that, do you? Center any questions you have around past, current, or near-future meals, avoiding all other topics. Complex questions requiring critical thinking trigger anxiety in sin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 10:20 PM |
| 226 | Red Pill Scrotes are planning to invade Mexico and spread diseaseRedpills, my god, please get off the internet and into the life-giving fucking sunlight, you will learn so many things about the real world, please I am begging you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 03:36 AM |
| 646 | I…am speechlessHe’s too old to be just now learning that women on their periods do not baste in their own blood in the bath. And she’s too old to be apologizing to a man nearing middle age for his own ignorance wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 03:34 AM |
| 86 | LVM really do think we're a hive mind.If only we were Westworld characters to them. We’re Sims 🙃 Like, if they have an ex who loved grilled cheese, they’ll spend the rest of their lives thinking they’ve unlocked GRILLEDCHEESE as a secret cheat code. Like MOTHERLODE, but for sex and undying admiration | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 11:53 PM |
| 168 | LVM really do think we're a hive mind.Insufferable stuff. Men who think like this usually show their mentality a few weeks in, so at least it’s quick to detect. Taking you out to eat at weirdly specific places or ordering you specific drinks without asking what you want (because his ex liked it), bringing you the most bizarre gifts (because his ex escaped before he could give it to her), insisting on sleeping or having sex in specific ways until you can’t NOT ask “ok are you trying to reenact something, or…?” And if for some reason … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:29 PM |
| 85 | Dropping truth bombs....I love this woman 👑The patterns we’re finding in these comments need their own memes lmao: sweaty narc bf who uses a roll of TP a day to avoid touching his booty hole “menstrual blood is diseased” guy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:19 PM |
| 11 | Excellent reality check for older men who think they’re about to trade up“You ready to leave your wife of thirty years until you wake up and your body surrounded by rose quartz and moon water” it me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Skip the date rape and just move in. These scrotes actually believe porn can be reality while they capitalize on sky high rent prices and openly take advantage of naive young women. He's even gleefully admitting to not having thought the situation through. Wow.I’ve seen these sorts of listings floating around for over a decade but ok bro, it’s COVID giving you “creative” ideas. I’ll bet he hasn’t even considered the fact that his “new roommate” will almost certainly have a job, friends, and a life outside of his apartment and won’t make herself available to suck him off every hour of the day…which will drive him to kick her out after a week. ALSO, only porn-obsessed scrotes say “kinky” and “naughty” unironically. He should just seal the deal at this p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:42 PM |
| 24 | Some guy asked for my number while I was walking my dog at the park today and his first date suggestion was: "we should walk our dogs together."i love going to all-women yoga classes for the atmosphere and the social aspect. there’s very rarely a man in the class, but when there is…ugh. they can’t even do the poses right with their necks craning to catch some downward dog booty in the air | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:33 PM |
| 37 | OLD strat: what's yours?This attracts himbos and gold diggers, in my experience. If you look like you live a lavish lifestyle, certain types of LVM will show up looking for handouts and sex (or worse, a place to sleep for the weekend) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:24 PM |
| 11 | I need to learn to trust my instinctsThat’s exactly what he sounds like. Also sounds like you’re figuring out that your instincts are perfectly trustworthy when it comes to these guys! Gonna save you a ton of time in the future. How was mansplaining to you about sex supposed to make you want to fuck him, is my question 🤔 His logic isn’t logic-ing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:18 PM |
| 34 | BruhPoor thing 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 08:30 PM |
| 118 | BruhWhy is this a thing? My former housemate’s boyfriend did this too. She’d try to send me out to get more TP the day after he flew in, like it was my fault that shit was gone xD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 06:33 PM |
| 5 | New flair idea? “SO close”We got so many new members over the last year, too! I hope the open the door for additional mods soon; would love to help out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 03:56 PM |
| 4 | Actions don't lie, how does he react in these situations?Oof, I’ve seen both sides of this coin and neither one’s a good look. I had an ex who was 27 years old, still calling his mom to schedule doctor visits 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Actions don't lie, how does he react in these situations?Love to see it 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 03:42 PM |
| 8 | Dating as a neurodivergent woman following FDS principles.friend banana dick slide 😂 the fact that they actually think this will work and not just drop a big fat L on their laps | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 02:46 AM |
| 36 | Actions don't lie, how does he react in these situations?How does he treat his mother? Does he talk to her often? Is he often angry or irritated with her for no easily discernible reason? Of everything he's watched lately, what does he think of the female characters? If he has any favorites, is it because of their character or because they're his "type?" When going out to eat, is he generous with tipping? Or does he nickle and dime, finding every possible inkling of flawed customer service to save himself some money? Does he anticipate your needs? Wil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 11:59 PM |
| 57 | Actions don't lie, how does he react in these situations?because blood= disease and he didn't want to catch anything Blood is...a healthy thing that we all need to live but go off king 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 11:41 PM |
| 68 | Actions don't lie, how does he react in these situations?Americans: Even if he has all the green flags in the world, if he has a perfectly kind and normal interaction with a server, only to nitpick the ever-loving shit out of their tip at the end ("don't you think she seemed unfriendly/tired/didn't bring my soda fast enough?"), drop him. This is how obsessed he'll be with your perfect performance as his girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 11:32 PM |
| 35 | Dating as a neurodivergent woman following FDS principles.My (autistic) dating life primarily attracts men who want a quirky manic pixie dream girl, which I guess is what I look like when I'm masking? After the workweek, in an LTR my partner would always want to spend the weekend with me, which was fun at times but left me feeling drained and often unable to cope with the following week. And compromise was never an option; for some exes, "being myself" made them angry. One guy told me I was "punishing him" for wanting to go home and read a book in sile… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 10:30 PM |
| 25 | Dodged a crafty LVMI love how we can take a page from their own fake gamer girl schtick for this. “Oh, so you’re a knitter? Link three of your latest knits and your Pinterest board” 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:42 PM |
| 24 | Dodged a crafty LVMOof, THIS shit. “Wow! We have the same sign and both like cats and hiking and making nativity scenes out of husky fur, the UnIvErSe is giving us a sign!1” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:39 PM |
| 84 | Male Neurodivergent PANDERING, and my seething resentment about itI was diagnosed in my early thirties. I can empathize with all those glittering stories of autistic male celebrities, and enjoy content from famous neurodivergent male YouTubers. But in the back of my head, I usually wonder what it must have been like to have parents and doctors doting on you in your formative years; to be sought after by tech companies because the male representation of autism looks like “productivity” to them; to not feel pressure to mask, fit in, “act right,” even around love… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:29 PM |
| 80 | Dodged a crafty LVMCongratulations on dodging a bullet! He sounds exhausting. Employing all that “strategy” when having a personality of his own and an ounce of initiative probably would have worked fine… He literally tried to hook you by playing peek-a-boo 👶 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 04:24 AM |
| 140 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!Serving us those Smeagol vibes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 08:41 PM |
| 28 | OLD profiles of attractive men be likeGoes to the gym once: “YeS LaDieS, i’M rEaL” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 08:39 PM |
| 21 | Pet Peeve: When You Cut a Man Off and He Goes “Well We Can Still Talk”A FUCKING SPREADSHEET MA’AM I WAS SHOOK | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 04:41 PM |
| 48 | WOC, what modified/additional rules do you have to avoid men with race/culture fetishes?Mentioning my skin colour in a sexual way Which went hand-in-hand with weird, objectifying ways. I’m so glad “black women as candy bars” seems to have phased out. Walking to school as a teen I was supposed to answer to “Hey Caramel! Hey Twix! How you doing, MiLk ChOCoLate” stahp | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:35 PM |
| 40 | Pet Peeve: When You Cut a Man Off and He Goes “Well We Can Still Talk”I had an ex tell me he could “see us talking to each other once a month or so” during our closure talk, right before he told me about the spreadsheet (!) he created to keep track of his goal of scoring at least one date a week (!!) to find a replacement for me as soon as possible (!!!) Sir I did not ask for even a smidgen of that information go to therapy He wanted me to be a monthly benchwarmer just in case he couldn’t find enough dates to prop his self esteem up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:28 PM |
| 25 | How has FDS made you reevaluate how your father/brother(s) treat you?I already cut off my dad pre-FDS, but I’ve learned that the brother needs to go, too. All the LVM in my life have been blocked and deleted, leaving me with a stress-free contacts list! The only exception is my brother, who cheats on his wife, uses me for free therapy, and revised huge chunks of our childhoods to indulge his savior complex and expects me to go along with it. He’s the perfect block and delete candidate - I’ve blocked partners for so much less - but we’re FaMiLy so I couldn’t imagi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:20 PM |
| 134 | Sometimes I feel a little bad being single and then I read something like this and know I’m better off😂“If you don’t clean the filthy shit stains off the toilet bowl that I specifically left for you, that’ll show me who you really are!” …is really writing chapters about him, innit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:11 PM |
| 148 | Do single women really want to take dating advice from guys like this?I don’t know who this guy is, but he almost had it. He was so close! FDS prioritizes living our best lives, and only sharing our fantastic lives with men who will improve it without requiring us to sacrifice a thing. So why tf should we be too in love with our own lives to ask what our potential partner’s goals are? What men find attractive, apparently, is a woman who doesn’t care what her potential partner’s relationship goals are from the very first date, giving him free rein to step all over … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:07 PM |
| 1361 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!The bridge troll living in her broom closet doesn’t meet a woman every day who will let him be his authentic, bridge troll self. He knows a good groundskeeper when he sees her! Edit: Thanks for the award, who says wimmenfolk can’t be funny 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 02:38 PM |
| 211 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!he tried for a handful of seconds not to roll his eyes and she GIGGLED ABOUT IT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 02:35 PM |
| 73 | The sad reality of dating low-value men, who will make a woman’s home life miserableSome LVM are smart enough to whip out weaponized incompetence after months of seemingly good, high-value behavior, but when the mask falls off, you see this shit for what it is. Dated a guy who tripped over himself to wash the dishes and sweep the floor for the first month, but after he asked for us to be exclusive, suddenly he needed to be told what to do for any and all household tasks. Suddenly he can’t possibly imagine that washing the dishes in my apartment is exactly the same as washing th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 04:12 AM |
| 99 | One red flag is always enough...In my opinion, the red flag is that he’s too perfect. Scrotes will screech about this comment, but the absence of a red flag does not a HVM make, so we really do have to keep vetting until we see a man in as many environments as possible, multiple times. Plenty of men are experts at performing someone else’s idea of the “perfect man” in public while exemplifying his own busted ideals in private. In this case, homeboy knew that “doting father” was the best choice for his neighborhood environment,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 12:05 AM |
| 174 | Attention Male Lurkers: You need to SHUT THE FUCK up about your online dating problems“B-but women get SEX!” Yes, if we wade through the “attention” of thousands of shitty men who scream at us for sex, we get to have as much unpleasant, boring sex as we could possibly want. And sometimes, some that we don’t want at all! How FUN. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 11:54 PM |
| 3 | Low Value Men are like Low Value FoodThe accuracy 🤣 20s me was grateful for coffee and single-slice pizza. Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:48 PM |
| 34 | WTF is wrong with people? A kink party as a second date?! This is peak Pickmeisha fuckery. ( she posts a bunch of pics of herself in extremely sexual lingerie and then freaks out because he didn’t even bother to tell her the theme is white). Just why?!? What’s in it for her? Make it make sense...Oh no no no no no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:45 PM |
| 12 | WTF is wrong with people? A kink party as a second date?! This is peak Pickmeisha fuckery. ( she posts a bunch of pics of herself in extremely sexual lingerie and then freaks out because he didn’t even bother to tell her the theme is white). Just why?!? What’s in it for her? Make it make sense...OOOOOOOOF?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:44 PM |
| 25 | Living large and proud to show the world his mad skills as a home decoratorSports or political flag as his only decoration | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:31 PM |
| 182 | What changed when you started giving back the same energy you got?I have an old friend who gave me that energy my whole life, by text and IRL. I was at his beck and call from day one. I had to keep his mood up and conversation going in high school, entertain him enough to distract him from his IG count in college, and spend an hour taking the train to his city after work (when he had a car and could get to mine in half the time). When I stopped bending over backwards for him, the relationship completely fizzled out. The best he can do now is call once or twice… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:02 PM |
| 128 | Psychologist Scrote“Won’t anyone shed a tear for the man who marries with ulterior motives, only to find that his goals cannot be met without violating the autonomy of the woman he married? Won’t someone please think of the poor, sad, unsatisfied men, who yearn only to have more sad, unsatisfying sex with as many women as possible? What have we done to deserve lifelong love and affection from our wives? I ask you, what have we done?!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:11 AM |
| 17 | Level up your finances: budgeting, saving, and investingBLESS YOU. I’m just beginning to pay into my retirements accounts and savings and have no idea what I’m doing beyond that. This is the post I’ve been waiting for 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:48 PM |
| 19 | I used to love sexSame! Moving out on my own really cemented this feeling of cherishing my home and body. I don’t want anyone untrustworthy having access to either one. All LVM have to offer a woman is limp dick and chaos, but I couldn’t see that until I started really prioritizing my wellbeing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 06:02 PM |
| 20 | I just discovered that my boyfriend had been on Tinder for ALL of 2020 and only stopped because he kept getting rejected.Ma’am, putting up with him isn’t worth free Netflix. I’ll DM you my login if you dump him today 👯♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 05:56 PM |
| 341 | Can somebody please save her from a life of misery with an old lvmHonestly, these age gaps always prove to me that LVM date whomever they can get instead of someone they actually like. In your thirties, what common ground are you finding with a teenager? Or does the attraction begin and end at how close to legal she is 🤔 I’m glad she’s getting at least some good advice in the comments, although “dump him” would be better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 05:47 PM |
| 9 | If anyone gives you a backhanded compliment or neg at the start of a conversation, walk away...😂😂 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 05:43 PM |
| 48 | If anyone gives you a backhanded compliment or neg at the start of a conversation, walk away...Other examples of deadpan, grey-rocking “ahs” I use regularly: “I hear what you’re saying” “Fascinating stuff. Anyway–“ “Thank you for that.” “Very clever.” [In the most patronizing tone you can get away with] Although my favorite is to stare for just long enough to feel awkward/uncomfortable, then change the subject. No reaction at all, just a thin veneer of “I tried so hard to process the dumb shit you just said but let’s just move on.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:30 PM |
| 4 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sExcuse me, w h a t 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:21 PM |
| 53 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?the group with the least potential would be the climbing dudes Lol, I agree. They’re usually the friendliest/least awkward to me off the bat, but give them a few seconds of conversation and they’ll be oozing LV attitude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:56 PM |
| 954 | Woman tells her Scrote boyfriend about a bad sexual experience she had; he is upset because that means "He had a big enough dick to hurt you, and I don't. :("His first thought after hearing about her painful and traumatizing experience was of a porn scenario he’ll never have the equipment to reenact. Yeet him into the motherfucking SUN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:06 PM |
| 86 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sIn bygone Black culture, men expected women to fix and serve them a plate. I remember going to family reunions when I was little, hearing my uncles bark out long-ass orders to their wives or nieces of exactly what they wanted like they couldn’t just get up and get it themselves 🙃 These days only the pickmeishas are fixing plates and men have been reeeeeeing to the rooftops about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:00 PM |
| 59 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sAngrily texting at the table after his friends start laughing at him 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:53 PM |
| 30 | Along the same lines as the post about not being afraid to lie - saw this infographic on FB the other day, very helpful for the "too-friendly" of usBoth are ridiculously overpriced in my area. Even cabs are cheaper now 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:02 AM |
| 10 | Gentle men are so attractiveSame, with one exception: the gruff angry samurai who risked his livelihood for a really cute cat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:01 AM |
| 12 | Lvm prefers to play with the boys than fit into my scheduleWasted a couple of months of a guy who couldn’t be bothered with very clear directives: “With work and school I have an 80-hour workweek, so let’s only hang out on weekends” = “I’m very busy but I’ll see you whenever you want if you’re persistent!” “I don’t want to have sex with you tonight” = “Make a move on me, I want to fuck right nooow” “I really appreciate when you help me around the house but as far as gifts I’m super particular, probs best to avoid that” = “Buy me whatever you see at the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:55 AM |
| 26 | "Oh, the veriety is so big now theres OLD, you have to be decisive."Men have invented a dating game that they play all by themselves 😂 We don’t even have to participate; if they get sex by the third date they’ve “won,” and if they don’t and run away they’ve “won” by not catching feelings, which is…you know. The actual point of dating. Same with the insta-commit scrotes. All they want is a woman, ANY woman (provided they fulfill a fantasy for him), to fill every single perceivable void they might have, as soon as possible. They’ll try to love bomb and lock you do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:23 AM |
| 17 | "Oh, the veriety is so big now theres OLD, you have to be decisive."Every time I get the RedditCare bot, I pat myself on the back for a job well done | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:15 AM |
| 91 | Along the same lines as the post about not being afraid to lie - saw this infographic on FB the other day, very helpful for the "too-friendly" of usI ALWAYS check the license plate…now. I didn’t when Uber was new and gaining traction, had a boyfriend on the other side of town who had a car but couldn’t be arsed to come get me, so I took a lot of Ubers. A stranger picked me up. I grabbed his hand off the steering wheel and twisted his finger until he stopped the fucking car. Never again. Also, if the app says the car is “new” and they don’t have his license plate yet, cancel and get another driver. Had another incident with some friends wher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:06 AM |
| 1 | I no longer want to be partnered.I felt this way a few months ago, and kind of still do. I’m just barely considering dating again, but to get back to this part of my life I had to cut a LOT of people off. Changed my number so that hardcore pickme friends, former FWBs, shitty one-time dates and orbiting LVM couldn’t “check in.” Distanced myself from my brother, one of the biggest LVM I know. Only kept male friends in my life who were already happily married to equally happy partners. After going scorched-earth on my contacts, it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:42 PM |
| 15 | Things that I noticed in LovebombingBetter for them to talk themselves into a corner and show their cards than for us to do the same and give them an opportunity to use us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 02:49 PM |
| 23 | Yikes....... I mean.. at least he admits what 90% of men won't (scroll)On top of all the other egregious shit about this, can we all just acknowledge how his smile doesn’t reach his eyes, even a little bit? He hates her, and probably himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:56 AM |
| 36 | I subscribe to FDS values because I refuse to accept any form of abuse from any man.Not to mention that incels are known for committing mass m&rder over not getting what they want, which is sex. What we want is to avoid shitty, abusive men who will use us for said sex and k*ll us as a knee-jerk reaction to our autonomy to say no, soooooooo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:53 AM |
| 49 | I subscribe to FDS values because I refuse to accept any form of abuse from any man.LVM: Women are too stupid to be people lmao Also LVM: I paid $400 for these pug-brained tactics, why aren’t women falling for them?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:48 AM |
| 31 | Does seeking marriage decrease your chances of ending up with a man who's not serious about committing to you?Oh, my bad. Nope! Making it crystal-clear that you’re only interested in marriage won’t decrease your likelihood even slightly. Upon hearing that, some LVM will see you as too much trouble, which is good, but others will consider you a “project” and make a big stupid game of trying to lower your standards just enough to fuck you, then bust out the excuses. FDS is well aware of these ones and their tactics, and it sounds like you’re savvy too. You can weed out the LVM by ruthlessly blocking and d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:38 AM |
| 33 | LVM who share their relationship trauma with you“You’re telling me the type of shit I only tell my therapist. If you’re mentally unwell, work on that before trying to date.” Cue the explanations as to why his attempt trauma-bond is totally valid and not at all manipulative, but LEAVE before he breathes a single word of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:31 AM |
| 45 | Does seeking marriage decrease your chances of ending up with a man who's not serious about committing to you?I’m in my early thirties and in the same boat; I’m new to FDS after a good long pickmeisha run, never wanted to get married in my twenties and am also childfree — but now I only want to date men who are marriage-minded and act like it. My disinterest in commitment comes from the way men have treated me in the past, though if you’re still a virgin I’m assuming you’ve at least somewhat been able to avoid the scrotacity. Good on you! Getting sterilized was a solid move, too. Wanting marriage does n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:24 AM |
| 149 | How did this clown get a doctorate 🤡🤡🤮I wonder what his proposed solution to declining birth rates would be. Maybe something involving red hoods? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:17 PM |
| 24 | A reminder on the Scarcity Mindset: don't allow yourself to get too deep into this state of mind. 🧲We attract what we believe.🧠 Operating from a place of bitter disbelief will significantly decrease your chance of attracting a hvm. (+✅green flags)men aren’t scarce at all, especially LV ones. take care of yourself, stay positive, meet new people but cut off the ones that act saddidy and enjoy your peaceful life ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:52 PM |
| 23 | Yeah. Ok.I spent my teens wearing baggy clothes and headphones every day because I hated the way (primarily old as hell) men came at me from 9 years onward. Now in my thirties, my race, dress, and body type appeal to men who frequent certain porn categories, and it really shows from the types who want to give me aTteNTioN on the street. If it’s not homeless-looking dusties, it’s men from any and all races who think all women of my race are down to have kinky sex with strangers with no strings attached. 🙄… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 03:39 PM |
| 449 | Please stop “gifting” threesomes. Also, your friends aren’t “gifts”.Three months from now: “My husband wants to open the relationship so he can spend weekends with my college best friend, whom I ‘gifted’ to him for our anniversary. I told him no. Now he wants a divorce. AITA?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 03:08 PM |
| 147 | Women need to know never to ask Reddit for advice. This woman was violated and berated DURING SEX – her husband covered her mouth, accused her of being an attention-seeking slut and now has zero remorse. All the top comments are about how he needs mental help, might be trying sexy talk or a new kinkThe weirdest thing for me here is, I’ve definitely been with the type of guy who would try to have the loudest sex possible so that OTHER MEN he’ll NEVER meet know that he had sex. How much do you want to bet he overheard someone else having sex recently and realized other men might be having the same thoughts he did about his wife? And those men might be taller than him! With bigger penises!! The more horror stories I read, the more it looks like these assholes are just projecting their insecur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:58 PM |
| 81 | Women need to know never to ask Reddit for advice. This woman was violated and berated DURING SEX – her husband covered her mouth, accused her of being an attention-seeking slut and now has zero remorse. All the top comments are about how he needs mental help, might be trying sexy talk or a new kinkI feel terrible for laughing at this 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:52 PM |
| 42 | Why do men take SUCH offense to my reserved demeanor?These are LVM who want instant connection with a woman with zero effort. If a person expects you to look happy and uninhibited about everything on the first date, they’ll expect that for the entire relationship. So don’t take it personal! They’re internalizing every little look and gesture you make and assuming it’s about them, which is pure entitlement and insecurity on their part. Not your problem, though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:09 PM |
| 250 | Yeah. Ok.Translation: “If I can’t bother women for a week, I get depressed like my life doesn’t mean shit” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:56 AM |
| 214 | Friendly reminder: Mixed Signals = Hell No 🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️Translation: “You didn’t put out right away but I still think you’re hot, so I’ll put you on my mental back burner as a ‘project’ while I pursue easier lays” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 01:15 AM |
| 5 | What does the FDS think about being a stay at home mum?In your case, hell no. He’s given you a directive on exactly what he wants from you with no clear stated intention of his own. He wants you to work and claims he’ll put in 50/50, but how do you know he actually will? What if your baby’s needs compromise your ability to maintain a two-income household? Will he change his mind then, or will he hem and haw about it? Would you agree to a nanny, or would he whine about finances until you give up and do what he wants? If he insists on you working and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 01:09 AM |
| 280 | I am so glad I was banned from this sub-reddit so I don’t have to see clownery like this anymore!She thinks she’s manipulating him by…what, exactly? He hasn’t stopped her from doing anything. She can post puppies and kittens or thirst traps and his opinion would be moot either way. But she’s so focused on whether or not she’s encumbering his ability to follow insta models she can’t stick up for herself without feeling guilty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 10:54 PM |
| 26 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑They know. They just don’t care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:41 AM |
| 12 | Made a 3 min tiktok about how dangerous life is for women, and pointing out actual male privileges. I pointed out that even if men actually experience more violent crimes, those crimes are pulled off by... MEN.No u r dum men girls hav all the powr and men are opressed!1 At least he spelled “idiot” right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 02:42 AM |
| 15 | "Activity dates are best for first dates because they enable you to get to know each other better and in a lower-stress manner": solid dating advice or liable to make women lower their standards?I think a great first date should start with an activity and end with dinner. The activity would hopefully break the ice and help you get to know your date’s personality and interests from several angles. If you decide you’re not into them, you can always dip out early, but if you’re both still interested, you now have more to talk about when you sit down for dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 02:36 AM |
| 80 | I feel like more of our message is getting out there!!There’s some hope in this world, there’s freedom from gold digging men out there 😭 You love to see it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 02:33 AM |
| 93 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑PUAs trained him to play the “numbers game” for dates, but never how to actually talk to us 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 01:58 AM |
| 17 | What do you all think about this?I hope so too. Whether it's fake or not, she views violence and aggression as a positive aspect in her current relationships. Girl that's your trauma talking, please seek help | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 12:01 AM |
| 27 | What do you all think about this?Yeah, I'm calling bullshit. This is one of three things: She never actually saw it happen and he's posturing at her about "beating him up on sight" to make himself look like a chivalrous gent. I've had multiple dates jockey for man points with this dramatic statement, but not a single soul has followed through to this day. He did beat up the ex at least once, but she's embellishing and milking the story for internet points. (He started brutal fist fights, not unlike a belligerent drunk, in publi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 11:50 PM |
| 23 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑I think when he says she’s the “best woman he’s ever matched with” he likely means hottest | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 10:19 PM |
| 12 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑Favorite toy, favorite child, favorite girl…let me show you all my favorite THINGS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 10:18 PM |
| 86 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑The male “photographers” I’ve dated all told me in excruciating detail how they’d like me to model for them on the first fucking date. Honestly I feel like this guy’s self esteem is hanging on by a thread, relying entirely on p*say to prop it up. Latest strat is to hide behind his camera as his sole personality trait, like some LVM do with their dogs. “Thank god I got this fancy naked-woman-picture-taker, now I can just talk about THIS instead of myself!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 10:12 PM |
| 139 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑In most major cities, if you can’t afford to eat out, you can’t afford to spend time with anyone outside of your own home. So what’s his game plan here? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 10:06 PM |
| 36 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑To eat at a really nice place that doesn’t take reservations, I would wait in line for two hours with my PARTNER, whom I love and enjoy spending time with. Not with a goddamn stranger wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:59 PM |
| 26 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑Many of us have hit it off well enough with a LVM to get involved with one long-term, but if this one is dedicated to keeping his own personal standards of hygiene and conversation topics this egregiously low he’s not going to be one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:55 PM |
| 53 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑I do 🙃 When I’d set up dates right after work, I would brush my teeth in the office bathroom, quickly freshen up, change my shirt, and still arrive on time. The guys I dated showed up sweaty and disheveled, with the faint aroma of a mint on their breath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:38 PM |
| 47 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑You can be a NVM and a boss at the same time, unfortunately. It’s called failing up 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:34 PM |
| 31 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑A mirror would be a special day for him. Sounds like most dates are with his hand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:29 PM |
| 125 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑Some LVM seem to think a date is their own private episode of MTV Cribs. “Welcome! Let me show you around: here’s my TV, and my PS5. Here’s my sofa, this is my kitchen but there’s nothing in it so let’s move on, this is the new camera I’m thinking about using eventually, and HERE IS MY BEDROOM, where you’ll be spending plenty of time this evenin—what’s that? You have to go? But there’s still 24 minutes left and I have to bone you before then” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:26 PM |
| 210 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑“I’m worried I’m being an idiot,” said the idiot, as he willingly did idiotic things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:22 PM |
| 277 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑He had to have thought about that. I’ve never met a man who wasn’t keenly aware of the effort women go through to prepare for a date, to the point where some of them get offended over us not painting our nails, smelling nice, etc. So surely he must have considered the appeal of at least changing his shirt! He made the deliberate choice to prioritize convenience over putting his best foot forward, and now here he is, performing Reddit mens’ famous audacity to pikachu-face about it after his lack … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:14 PM |
| 1134 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑She signed up for a date, not Photography 101. A real date would have been visiting a gallery or museum, then maybe discussing his hobby over dinner, at a comfortable table outside under an umbrella, without making his hobby the core focus of the conversation. But he chose not to plan ahead at all for his “best match ever.” Standing around outside watching a guy point as his expensive gadget for 20 minutes isn’t a date; that’s selling your camera to a stranger on Craigslist. It sounds like she h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:38 PM |
| 5 | IMPORTANT SAFETY NOTICE: The Plymouth Shooter has complained about FDS. DO NOT DISCUSS FDS WITH MEN. These are males with murderous intentions who desire revenge on women.The block feature didn’t know up on mobile for me as first. I had to go to desktop to see my followers, and for some reason I couldn’t see them right away. Had to refresh a bunch of times 🤨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 02:38 PM |
| 4 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesMen: Why do wahmen just want to be friends with me?!? I’m being oppressed! Muh I want to be LOVED!!! Also men: Thanks for the sex, ol’ buddy ol’ pal! See ya when I need ya, friendo! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:04 PM |
| 3 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesI sure fkn did! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:49 PM |
| 2 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.I’ll bet someone’s angrily cross-posting about this comment right this moment, but hey, if the shoe fits 😂 😂 😂 Good luck, lurkers! I know you’ll come out of the closet one day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:40 PM |
| 8 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesI know I shouldn’t have even messaged him after that shitty proposal, but my frustration got the better of me. These scrotes will never understand what an actual “free market” looks like in the dating world; they’re content to just say it’s whatever benefits them most and expect us to play along. Infuriating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:36 PM |
| 10 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee dates“Hinge: Designed to be Deleted.” It sure fucking is, isn’t it 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:32 PM |
| 10 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesThere it is! 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:31 PM |
| 93 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…Your twin flame is a KEEPER 😍🥺 Wishing you both a long and happy relationship! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:33 AM |
| 14 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesoh shit good point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:33 AM |
| 13 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesPEWP FROM A CUTE BURGLAR IS STILL PEWP LADIES 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:25 AM |
| 26 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesI can’t sleep if I have a coffee after 2pm, so what are all these scrotes trying to have coffees at all hours of the day for? Walking around the mall in 2021 just to clock in hours with a woman is like grinding in a video game for them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:24 AM |
| 46 | 🚩Why you shouldn't settle for "no red flags"🚩This belongs in the handbook. When it comes to male depravity, there is no bottom of the barrel, so "we" (aka, I, lol) can't keep assuming that "no red flags" means he might sorta kinda hopefully be a HVM. He could just be a really good actor whose mask hasn't fallen off yet, and if there's one thing we've confirmed here again and again and again, it's that men will be whatever they think we want for a crumb of p*ssy and/or power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:34 AM |
| 104 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesLVM and LVXs started me out on walk dates for over a decade before I figured it out, like test-driving a car. I was such an easy mark for PUAs pre-FDS. I loved walking; what could possibly be insidious about walking?! But the more I learn about their tactics, the more I understand that my exes got lucky with me and those relationships were doomed from the start. Better to skip it and expect better on day one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:37 PM |
| 36 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesThis. I personally won’t care if a guy feels it’s awkward or not, but I’m glad he scroted out before even deciding on a gym. If we actually did meet up and he decided he liked me but I didn’t, he’d be able to keep tabs on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:22 PM |
| 42 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.I remember being 18 dating a 30-year-old (roast me, I deserve it) and that thirty year old complained about my tampon in his bathroom bin too. He acted like I placed it on his dinner plate 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 08:04 PM |
| 78 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.This scrote is absolutely, aggressively terrified of women. And probably failed Biology | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:59 PM |
| 75 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.Someone protect this sweet summer child | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:56 PM |
| 217 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.You’d have to be daft and terminally nosy to realize a woman put trash in your bathroom trash can and fish it out to investigate. What did he think it would be? Buried treasure? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:53 PM |
| 76 | ..did anybody see this?They showered that post in awards 😂 Like awarding this take is going to make them look less pedophilic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:07 PM |
| 14 | Today's 👀 moment (can you spot the 🚩?)🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:58 PM |
| 139 | Today's 👀 moment (can you spot the 🚩?)“Tries” = spends 40 minutes doing angry curls at the gym because his wife said no choking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:36 PM |
| 62 | Not sure if this has been posted here yet but for goodness sake, men are so desperate to be oppressed. I just hope it helped some women find FDS 🤷🏼♀️Never. Meanwhile there is a guy who made a shitty inaccurate calculator to explain that 50% of women want .09% of men and everybody clapped | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:02 AM |
| 17 | Queen shit from Cecelia Holland’s novel Floating WorldsOh, This Shit Again, by Cecilia Holland | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:53 AM |
| 223 | It's a lonely fightI feel like I’m on here a lot 😅 because it’s just as you say; there doesn’t seem to be any other place to freely talk about our experiences as women and learn from each other, while actively working on improving ourselves and our dating lives in a safe, healthy way. These spaces do not exist, and I’m endlessly grateful for this one. (Nestled in the heart of scrote city, no less! The men of reddit can die mad) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:48 AM |
| 176 | Imagine needing pixels to get in the mood..I used to watch porn in my early twenties and notice that the woman almost invariably touched herself while the dude did his silly little jackhammer thing that my LVX thought was the shit. Nobody likes that. NO ONE. We have to take care of ourselves in hopes that he’ll eventually get to the fun part. Men need to realize that when both people are having a good time…it’s a better time. For BOTH of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:05 AM |
| 56 | Imagine needing pixels to get in the mood..This sounds awkward and sad. I’m so glad she’s considering divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:02 AM |
| 31 | Men Who Get Angry When You Express Unhappiness Are MisogynistsBut I’ve noticed a lot of men have this super binary thinking where you’re either 100% happy or they think you straight up hate them and the relationship. No room for any nuance inbetween. All of my exes and male family members do this. Not only could they not manage the faintest introspection of their own emotions, anything I said that could be perceived as critical or rooted in emotions was a "sudden attack out of nowhere." An attack on them, specifically, and not the action or situation that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:30 PM |
| 429 | Men admit to being sexually attracted to their 15 year old daughter’s UNDERAGE friends and gets THOUSANDS of upvotes. Honestly I think 99% of men are closet pedophiles and this is what most women with daughters will have to deal with.Having any inappropriate thoughts towards her would be in direct conflict of my hopes for her future. The whole first paragraph, but this line especially, is him reminding himself that he's not allowed to be attracted to his daughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:24 PM |
| 75 | Confused pickmeishas on social mediaOmg what is it with men and Olive Garden? 😂 It's not even good. Or expensive. There's nothing high-quality about this chain but they make such a big deal out of it. I once had a guy who used to come to my comic artist club hit me up to "catch up" and invite me out to dinner. I was in a relationship at the time and was overjoyed to reconnect with an old friend, so you can probably already tell how that went. He insisted on paying for my shitty cream sauce pasta and bread sticks, we took a walk th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:07 PM |
| 29 | Confused pickmeishas on social mediaThey’re just nails my dude 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:47 PM |
| 21 | It is ALWAYS about them.Ah, the first “link” that he probably sold to her as a date. Self-esteem so fragile he’s spending all of his time with a woman strategizing about how to make himself happier. That’s sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:46 PM |
| 14 | Having unrealistically high standards is an LVM/NVM trait, not a HVM trait.After a decade of pick-me life I stopped waxing (because it hurt), stopped blow drying my hair (took hours out of EVERY week), and started wearing bold eyeliner/nail colors that made me happy every once in a while instead of the “perfect girl-next-door no-makeup makeup” look every damn day. Creeps still stare out of their car windows and corner me in grocery stores, so unfortunately men’s “needs” for a made-up woman seem to be pretty unfounded. But I’m saving time and money! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:48 AM |
| 14 | Scrote keeps gf as bangmaid, grossed out by her wanting future with him?He seems stressed out by the mere thought of anything related to being in a healthy long-term relationship, so why is he pretending to be invested in this one? Dump her and live your worst life, king | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:29 AM |
| 384 | Single fathers will date women for free child care. Don’t let a man dictate which car you buy because they don’t want their child in it. This woman needs to 🏃♀️Men truly have nothing but the audacity, especially when it comes to women’s money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:16 AM |
| 25 | Understanding Men Who CompartmentalizeOof. The last paragraph literally says “ask him not to (???) and if he doesn’t, leave,” but she still wants to fix it. They went as far as getting married without him ever having to let her into his life, why would he stop now? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:09 AM |
| 288 | Today's crack-me-up - turns out even basic preferences like earning average pay and not being obese is statistically too much to ask (in the US). Stay strong, american queens!Scrotes’ to-do list: 1) Complain about FDS 2) Harass women on OLD 3) Prove “single tall male” is too high a standard ONCE AND FOR ALL 4) Fap | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:04 AM |
| 100 | Man leaves girl for someone else but tells her she still owes him her virginity“I’m [insert mental illness] so you have to give me [anything I want] or else you’ll make it worse.” She breezed right over her own genuine discomfort to mind his fake feelings. And you just know there’s a massive age gap. This post is painful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 02:57 AM |
| 67 | "I went to a doctor and he said it's normal because I'm stressed all the time!"The guy I was seeing last year blamed his limp dick on stress, drinking one (1) beer, my hair down there, the humidity, overeating, and “my cat was watching” before I saw myself out 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:19 PM |
| 20 | "I went to a doctor and he said it's normal because I'm stressed all the time!"I think so too. I would wager some of them like that it’s pretty much universally a taboo as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:16 PM |
| 38 | Responses to “what are you looking for in a partner?” (OLD report)Translation: “I’m looking for a video game NPC sidekick character I can fuck” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:07 PM |
| 47 | guys who try for sex at the end of an obviously bad dateTranslation: “Well, never going to get another date with this one. Might as well go for broke!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 08:38 PM |
| 6 | I am SO tired of the misogyny, negging, persistent pushy rape culture and cringey male princess demands peddled by so called ‘pick up artist guru’s’ online. Notice the tone of his language wreaks of perceived entitlement to womens attention.A lot of them they dole out shit “tactics” that don’t work so that the poor lil guys will return to them rejected and vulnerable to new, shittier advice…advice that you can only unlock with their new premium membership tier | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 06:09 AM |
| 6 | I am SO tired of the misogyny, negging, persistent pushy rape culture and cringey male princess demands peddled by so called ‘pick up artist guru’s’ online. Notice the tone of his language wreaks of perceived entitlement to womens attention.“Passionately.” Made out “passionately” 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:57 AM |
| 7 | Have you ever truly felt immediate "sparks", or was it just lovebombing/emotional vulnerability on your part?My bar for instant attraction is in hell. I’ve instantly fallen head over heels for three very similar men before. They all gave off a safe, consistent, emotionally stable demeanor, seemed to have lots of good friends, and were fine as hell to me. That’s apparently all it takes to set off my alarms 😂 One ended up being one of my closest friends, another turned into a long-term (but fraught) relationship. The common denominator with these guys was my willingness to do the initiating, legwork and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:20 AM |
| 27 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingSocial media manager here. Delete your accounts. Your quality of life will only improve. Your real friends will follow you to the messaging app of your choosing. You’ll be less inundated with marketing, depressing news and/or FOMO. The dead weight will either try to find you for a little while before giving up. Facebook/Snapchat/IG will never automatically unblock people you’ve blocked. Reopen your accounts again whenever you’d like but just so you know, I still have former dates trying to tag m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 04:48 AM |
| 146 | PiCk Me. I don’t require any effort or standards.Why didn’t she cOmMuNiCaTe that she wanted a pump and dump?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:01 AM |
| 73 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everYeah, the latter would be nice but it doesn’t make sense. Men couldn’t even finish writing the Bible without throwing in a few sentences about what kinds of r*pe and degradation of women are smiled upon by the lord 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:58 AM |
| 77 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everAnd sometimes we even fart and it doesn’t smell like roses | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:55 AM |
| 102 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everSplit a woman apart into convenient little niches that suit your individual needs and fancies, and of course so few of them see us as people. The process of turning us into tropes, from the professions we choose to the skin and hair colors we’re born with, is only made easier with porn and media stereotypes. Societies of LVM build little pedestals for women before getting to know them based on whatever respectable traits they see in us from afar, then pikachu-face when we don’t either use those … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:49 AM |
| 4 | Women are viewed as property by even self-proclaimed 'progressive' peopleThank you so much ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 02:08 AM |
| 16 | Women are viewed as property by even self-proclaimed 'progressive' peopleI’m working up the courage to go NC. I only have one living family member left and he’s subscribed to some pretty gross ideas of what it means to be a husband, brother, and man. I’ve tried to be tolerant but he’s cheating on his wife, makes an argument about everything I have differing opinions on, and basically leaves zero oxygen in the room unless he’s making himself useful in “manly” ways. All I have to do is hit the Block button but I can only bring myself to ignore him for now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:49 PM |
| 83 | He absolutely despises her.Is she dating my ex? I hope she saves a little bit from the new job and gets tf out of there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:40 PM |
| 11 | Hope you had a good day, vs How was your day?Eh…kinda reading into it, kinda not. Sometimes I’ll do this, when it’s the end of the day and I just want to let someone know I was thinking of them without starting a whole conversation. It’s only a problem (in my opinion) when people consistently don’t ask and don’t seem to care either way. More often than not, I tend to see men asking “How was your day?” as a sort of empty greeting. You can tell it’s empty by how they carry on a fresh conversation like they never asked at all. I could say my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:14 PM |
| 9 | Oh no…the NEST! 🤡That word is forever tainted 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 09:36 PM |
| 56 | the comments on this video i can’t😭 how do boys think a date in kfc is “making an effort”He looks like the google image search results for “skinny high school boy” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:14 PM |
| 65 | Sick of Tinder? Try OfferUp! Sell your vehicle and get laid !“$200 for this turntable, and I’ll throw in my dick for free.99” “Sir, this is a Best Buy” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:11 PM |
| 5 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I love this 🤣 good for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:10 AM |
| 3 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I’m not sure I want to know what that is 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 05:45 AM |
| 17 | Today a stranger man grabbed my friend's phone and opened her Gallery in public.“Don’t you know who I am?! I’m a YoUTuBeR” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:54 AM |
| 36 | Woman Refuses To Coddle Man-child on a Date, Comments Are Full Of Man Babies Saying She Has No Empathy for Mental HealthMy depression: Shit, I slept in again. Come on, you got this. Eat something. Doesn’t matter what. Good job! Put on clothes, go to this meeting, you’re doing great. Okay, work’s done, you get to feel like shit for exactly ONE hour, then it’s time to do homework. Oh, better eat. Okay, 8pm bedtime is early but you’ve earned it queen My ex’s depression: “There’s no food. Can you get me something? Just bring it to the room, I’m playing League with the boys tonight” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:40 AM |
| 23 | Woman Refuses To Coddle Man-child on a Date, Comments Are Full Of Man Babies Saying She Has No Empathy for Mental HealthI would’ve loved to have had a choice over whether or not to have chronic depression/anxiety/ASD. Meanwhile swathes of men are (possibly) out here pretending to struggle just to get women like us to take care of them on top of everything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:32 AM |
| 60 | Woman Refuses To Coddle Man-child on a Date, Comments Are Full Of Man Babies Saying She Has No Empathy for Mental HealthHe’s the type to remember his girlfriend’s offhand comment about Harry Styles or whoever from three months into the relationship, let it live rent-free in his head, and blow up at her five years later like she cheated on him. Maybe call her an ice queen for not wiping his tears after | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:27 AM |
| 31 | Too broke to dateHopefully he’s multilingual. If that’s the best he can do with his only language…oof. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:01 AM |
| 55 | The F*ck boy hotline. See? Men know what they’re doing.Brilliant 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡Honestly…..yeah. I moved here right before the protests so I figured everyone was just aggressive and shit because they were fired up over injustice, but that aggression never really went away. There’s just a constant aggro aura coming off of some folks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:53 AM |
| 10 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡“PoLy iS nAtuRaL! (Also one dick rule)” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:46 AM |
| 5 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I agree. He sounds terrifying. To crank out that many red flags in one phone call is almost impressive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:39 AM |
| 6 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡🍤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 01:41 AM |
| 6 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡😂 😂 😂 for real though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:45 PM |
| 5 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡It's more of a hilly park than a mountain. Flat trails, a rec center, lots of small children running around. I visit at least once a week; it's my favorite place to birdwatch! Which is why it's a shit first date, lol. If he's not going to plan something I'd rather ditch him to go birding in peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:23 PM |
| 11 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡The city itself is great. Beautiful place! I actually appreciate the dedication to protesting. Really sweet business owners, married folks, university students...but I can't get over how many Peter Pans of all genders live here. There's a ton of them in places like SF and Boston, but at least they have jobs. Portland has more grungepunks and hobosexuals than I was expecting. Hate to stereotype an entire city like this but if the shoe fits.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:17 PM |
| 18 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡You nailed it. It’s not just the men; everyone is trash here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:00 PM |
| 7 | Here’s what a HVM looks like in his own words, then shared by a guy friend who I know is a HVM to his wife.Ah, both good points. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:53 PM |
| 2 | Here’s what a HVM looks like in his own words, then shared by a guy friend who I know is a HVM to his wife.Fair enough 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:50 PM |
| 12 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡Yep! It’s a lovely, safe park that I visit all the time. Still a walk date. And I’ll bet he just so happens to live conveniently close by | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:48 PM |
| 12 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡yes, it takes 6 years so better get cracking right? …right?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:25 PM |
| 43 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I appreciate FDS so much because I never would have peeped this shit a year ago. I’d have gone on the walk date because I love walking! Turns out I love walking ALONE without scrotes trying to negotiate sex in return for accompanying me to a park I’ve already been to a dozen times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:22 PM |
| 37 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I hike this mountain all the time by myself to go birdwatching. He probably wanted to walk up the one main, flat loop that people take their toddlers on, then go “WOW that was strenuous, there’s a bar nearby, want to get a drink?” Or better yet, “I forgot my water bottle at home, want to come get it with me?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:15 PM |
| 98 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I’ve had a guy actually propose that: “Do you know XYZ Bar in the red light district? Want to meet me in the alleyway next to it around 9:30pm? I want to take you somewhere nearby but it’s a surprise 😛” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:07 PM |
| 20 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I had a pickme roommate once who blamed me for attracting men like this. She would have said, “You were probably being vague. You should CoMmUniCatE exactly what you want from him so he knows what to do!” Um no, I’ll just unmatch because I was crystal-clear about what I didn’t want and he doubled down on it. He knows what a safe date looks like - it looks like the opposite of what his pp wants, so my very clear statement went in one ear and out the other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:02 PM |
| 34 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡Past me made a brilliant move, choosing Portland to finish out grad school. I’ll never be distracted by the prospect of dating since there’s no one dateable here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:51 PM |
| 38 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡Tons of hipsters here (lol) but it’s more than just hipster culture; there’s a brewery on every block, weed dispensaries and strip clubs are ultra-prevalent too. People come here to skateboard and rave and “think about” their goals on Sunday night when all the fun stuff is over. If I meet one more hipster with a permanent bakeover looking for a mommy bangmaid to split the rent so he can “think about” getting a promotion or going back to school or starting a metal cover band, lol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:46 PM |
| 17 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡My ex complained that women were so “focused on their careers” and didn’t want to spend time with him Pretty sure he was coming up with the same shitty walk dates he took me on and suddenly “oops, I have to work, nvm” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:36 PM |
| 25 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡Live music in this area is abundant and often free but nope, drinks and walks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:32 PM |
| 83 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I’ve been here for over a year now, with ample disposable income and activities for myself, and no reliance on a guy to entertain or sustain me. I have not seen a single man better than what you described 💀 Every guy around here wants to move in with a girl to save money or meet someone who will be their mom while they “work on themselves” at 30+ years old | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 06:48 AM |
| 89 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I knew this as soon as I moved here. I KNEW THIS. But I had to see it for myself I guess. 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 06:19 AM |
| 198 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡Minimal money dates: Dinner. A movie. Theater. Museums. Classes. Amusement parks. Almost-broke dates: Book signings. Workshops. Church, if that’s a thing for you. Literally just tacos. But nah, let’s do something that affords me some control over your faculties or sense of stability right from jump | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 06:18 AM |
| 11 | Scrote pulled out of mens bathroom so me and my friend could pee at the barWhat a weird strategy on his end…what was the point of all that? To annoy you? Is publicity all that matters, even if it’s bad? Because if so…yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 06:03 AM |
| 113 | Some men just come right out and tell you that they would make your life miserable...Why would you open with this? What is your end game? W H A T | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:54 AM |
| 116 | Here’s what a HVM looks like in his own words, then shared by a guy friend who I know is a HVM to his wife.I’m always wary of these sorts of posts from men. The narrative here is that his friend is a bad man for seeking praise, but the post itself is seeking praise. “Look at this other guy, who doesn’t know to clean his own dishes. I clean MY own dishes like a big boy! Praise me, I am a man who understands shared responsibility!” Or you could just…wash your dishes and move on like a normal person, instead of posting about it? I know this is supposed to be a green flag, but why is it a cool special th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:46 AM |
| 94 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡If it’s good for anything, it’s block and delete practice. Source: Unmatched and block this guy seconds ago | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:35 AM |
| 389 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡“give me an opportunity to inebriate you” “nah” “oh okay let me lead you into the wilderness alone then?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:26 AM |
| 159 | Remember how I decided to go on OLD against my better judgment? First date proposals: drinks and walks 🤡I’m actually in grad school, he’s “applying.” I just paid $2K+ tuition for next term plus rent and bills, but how much you wanna bet he somehow “can’t afford” a real date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:16 AM |
| 19 | Daily dose of scrotityVia OLD I turned down at least 200 before my 9am meeting today. By the end of the day, the only two matches I liked devolved into “sex?” so I blocked them. But we’re sooo lucky to get matches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:53 AM |
| 7 | Daily dose of scrotityIn my area, if I spend more than 10 minutes outside alone, at least one dude is approaching me. And this isn’t a brag. More of a self-own, really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:50 AM |
| 30 | Daily dose of scrotityRealizing this helped me get over some serious angst I was having about breaking up with a LVM who was “nice” to me when he was in a good mood. Scrotes will sleep with you whether they like you or not. But do they treat you the way you want to be treated? Do YOU like THEM? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:46 AM |
| 6 | Daily dose of scrotityBlock anyone the moment they come up with some monolithic Madonna-whore bullsh*t. You just know they’re going to jerk you around, so why bother? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:44 AM |
| 16 | Daily dose of scrotityThis needs more attention. This brand of scrote can ruin your life from all sorts of angles and it’s important to know what he looks like before he’s in your bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:41 AM |
| 54 | Daily dose of scrotityCommunity dick is for the streets. I don’t care if he looks like Adonis, he’s not worth it sis. Trust me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:39 AM |
| 11 | “It’s men in their thirties with huge beards, and they’re pretty much all stay-at-home dads...Their wives work office jobs and they work on the vans so the family can go out and vanlife on the weekend.”I have a fully remote job too and would love to find a guy (or anyone, pans represent) who can manage the same. NOPE. Everyone is broke or an “entrepreneur” looking for a woman with a lease to fund their ill-fated business venture. I’ll be single, thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:34 AM |
| 21 | “It’s men in their thirties with huge beards, and they’re pretty much all stay-at-home dads...Their wives work office jobs and they work on the vans so the family can go out and vanlife on the weekend.”LVM don’t care about quality of life. They care about ease of life, as men who’ve been programmed to accept women’s labor as a means to easy street. It’s a given that women will enable them to live broke, happy, and free, because that’s what they’ve been raised to expect. We’re supposed to bUiLd TheM Up. Until a bold and brave woman steps up to “tame” him, they’re free to be wild assholes pouncing on us in the tall grass. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:28 AM |
| 8 | 😭😂 If you need any further motivation to delete those dating appsSo he brought nothing but flavoring for his own food, and his mother to silently and weirdly judge you for. Neat! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:58 AM |
| 26 | Can you even spell my name?I remember a roommate I slept with in my twenties - not even a long-term partner - being so offended when I misspelled his name in a group chat Mike instead of Myke (yes, for real) Meanwhile married men can’t remember their own wives’ full names……ok | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:54 AM |
| 50 | When Asks her husband to go Shopping, this is what requires *facepalm*My brother thought he was such a genius in high school when he figured out that pretending to not understand let him get away with so much…meanwhile I was the one picking up the slack every single time. Now his wife is doing the same for him and he’s wondering why she doesn’t seem to like him very much these days. Competent on holidays, competent at work, competent with friends…but when a woman is involved they suddenly don’t have half a brain to figure it out on their own? K. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:49 AM |
| 6 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayOne of his comments: "I caught it right as it started smoking, so it hadn't gotten to the point of setting off the alarm yet." Wow what a miracle, this hero got here JUST in time to SAVE the house from a pot that is slowly charring on its own, bothering no one and nothing! That's 100% believable and not hyperbole at all! I've caught a roommate's soup burning on the stove before. She was a postdoc at the time and busy as hell. I added more water in an effort to save it, and set it to simmer. If s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:08 AM |
| 29 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayTranslation: “Please appreciate and understand that my friends wouldn’t like knowing I’m a batterer and an abuser. That would be bad for me, since I value them far more than you.” Oof. Did we date the same scrote or something? 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 12:55 AM |
| 24 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayI applaud her instincts. Like a clap of lightning. You love to see it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 12:52 AM |
| 66 | 🤡🤡🤡On top of all the obvious terrible things about this I’m concerned for IRL Homer Simpson’s eyesight, that TV is enormous do you have to be literally one foot away from it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:19 PM |
| 261 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next day1 - Check on your living, breathing girlfriend who is more important than the house or the damn soup: “Shit, this soup is burning. My girlfriend is passed out on the sofa. Is she okay?!” 2 - Assess the situation and your trauma reactions yourself: “Okay this sucks, but it doesn’t look like it’s caused any major damage. The house has clearly not burned down. Everything is okay.” 3 - Respectfully explain your concerns to your girlfriend like a grown woman, not your bumbling teenage daughter: “Hey,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 02:51 PM |
| 28 | This is terrible advice and will just come off as a manipulation tactic. Just block and delete.she had it on the last one. ignore him, he’s fired. that’s what you should do with all three scenarios, right before blocking them. why waste your time with all of this? it’s like training a dog but way less rewarding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 02:41 PM |
| 65 | Can't even let go of your dog without being accused of trying to get men's attention. Actually saw this posted on Yahoo News first and fortunately she had a good deal of support at how crazy this guy is.“Her phone number is on the collar so she must want me!” “She’s not replying to my unsolicited texts so she must want me!!!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 02:08 AM |
| 96 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.Remember when women got mocked for marrying and becoming housewives right after university? They called it “getting her Mrs. degree.” My, how the tables have turned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:42 AM |
| 56 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.There it is. Men who are fine with being mommied while they game all day think everything is perfect the way things are. From his perspective she’s trying to ruin a beautiful relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:40 AM |
| 387 | This is enough internet for me today I’m done. Porn addicted scrotes are out here getting used items mailed to them from cam girls and giving themselves yeast infections and lord knows what other diseases. (warning extremely nsfw language)1) Why should she refund him? He got exactly what he paid for. 2) He’s worried about tr*fficking but not worried enough to stop using the site. 3) Imagine hanging out in communities whose “stay woke” posts look like this. 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 11:41 PM |
| 47 | Men will develop entire complexes over women who rejected them in high school. Then use that as motive to abuse women for the rest of their lives.It’s giving main character syndrome. I remember trying out Fetlife (🤡) and being absolutely aghast at how many doughy, balding, pimply, snaggletoothed men of all ages were looking for a beautiful woman to be their “slave.” Psychologically speaking…fetishes are actually fairly normal, for objects you’ve associated with a sense of arousal over time. But it’s telling how so many men’s “kinks” seem to require a woman’s disrespect or pain in order to be validated, and the men actively seeking to indu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:25 PM |
| 66 | Men will develop entire complexes over women who rejected them in high school. Then use that as motive to abuse women for the rest of their lives.Yeah, I dabbled too. Hovered around the BDSM community when I was 19, and again around 28. Lots of objectification and casual racism followed up with trauma dumping. The community was my crash course in learning how to exit conversations with LVM quickly and without incident, lest you find yourself hearing their origin story about being rejected in high school a dozen times a night. Not to mention I was a LOT more popular as a barely legal, and it never felt “empowering” either time. Just gross,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:11 PM |
| 2 | LVMs be likeIt is for me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:44 PM |
| 49 | Poor girl. This is what men can do to you.A cop 🚩 who invited her to fly out 🚩took her on a "date" without adequate gear/preparation 🚩decided to ditch her as soon as she was uncomfortable 🚩showing his whole entire ass within 24 HOURS of her touching down 🚩 I feel so awful for her. This is why it's so important to catch the red flags early and RUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 08:02 PM |
| 41 | Always Google Your DatesFriends can be so useful for vetting. If he’s rushing to make you a permanent fixture in his circle, rather than letting you get to know him as an individual, be wary. Some guys introduce you to all their friends to squeeze you into a false sense of intimacy - essentially using their friends and/or family as anchors to pin you down. “My friends all love you! You’re in a group chat with us now! My cat loves you too! You fit in perfectly with me! Ignore my red flags, this is where you belong! You … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:46 PM |
| 19 | How many red flags do you see? I wAnT tO eNjOy mY eArLy reTiReMenT (but my wife can still work f that)Assuming these are Americans, his colleagues have been giving their small kids college funds, inheritances and you know, A FUTURE, but this has “never been what he’s interested in” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:48 PM |
| 289 | LVMs be likeIt’s like they’re speedrunning getting blocked | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Scrote Translation: I’m going to wait for other men to work and erode your standards first, then swoop in and take advantage of you ;)Or I could just live like a sexy pragmatic sensible married adult………..the first time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:29 PM |
| 10 | Join a male dominated sportI’ve been looking for a sport to get into since my city reopened and I want to try muay thai, this gave me a push to look for a gym again 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:23 PM |
| 36 | He is LV or NV if you see any of these 🚩also, “sexual compatability” is a myth. Only a porn sick man or a man with bizarre kinks struggles to get and sustain an erection in the presence of a woman. Notice how the bumblers make basic dating etiquette and healthy sex/intimacy seem like rocket science.Or walk away because you know exactly what’s on his mind from jump | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:19 PM |
| 10 | Why is he single ladies??? Where is his queen??A mere ounce of his misplaced confidence can fuel a Boeing 767 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:17 AM |
| 21 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.That was a lovely story 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:26 AM |
| 5 | Markers of AbuseA hill I'd die on: The way to a woman's heart is a goddamn good night's sleep! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:01 AM |
| 11 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationI’m never moving in with another partner again until there’s a good reason, and saving money isn’t one of them. All my living arrangements with even a touch of male involvement became sad as hell: cheap, gaudy kitchenware, everything’s mismatched, bathroom’s always gross…but miraculously when I live alone or only with other women, the house is always cute, clean, and functional. (And no one’s pestering me to be their roommate-with-benefits 🙄) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:22 PM |
| 12 | Markers of AbuseHe got offended when I suggested that too 😂 The writing was on the wall by then, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 05:20 PM |
| 30 | Markers of AbuseI believe it. I lived with a NVX who heard me say when we first started dating that I can’t sleep with blue light in the room, so of course he installed a 60” TV in our bedroom with his gaming computer right next to it. And a 40-gallon tank with lights for his turtle. We had a living room. And a den. But nah, it all had to go in the bedroom so as not to disturb our housemates…A-OK to disturb me, though! On nights he wasn’t pestering me for sex he was gaming, screaming into his mic with headphone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 04:59 PM |
| 29 | Markers of Abusesleep disturbance This one really threw me for a loop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:12 PM |
| 100 | The date isn't happening until he contacts you ahead of time to confirmIn 2021, time means nothing! Scheduling dates means he deserves a play-by-play of every move you make up to an hour before your scheduled meet-up time so that he can finish watching one more episode of anime before heading out. If you can’t do that because you’re dRiViNg or whatever you are the rudest b*tch in the universe! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:09 PM |
| 21 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!“Hi I like you but anyway I have no money and want to visit this restaurant I like that’s far so please drive us and pay for everything thanks” She barely knows him 🤡 While men with jobs want to regale us with coffee dates | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:46 PM |
| 16 | Part of vetting is seeing if he can grocery shop and cook without being spoon fed like a toddler.I want to believe this is satire, but that handwriting and those manicured hands suggest that she is dead serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:37 PM |
| 57 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in dating“I’ve been SO BADLY hurt by my MONSTER of an ex-girlfriend. I need an angel to heal me 🥺” “What happened before the part you were hurt?” “NOTHING happened except for horrible thing she did out of MALICE” “What were things like in your relationship before that?” “Fine.” “…” “…” “…” “You know. Chill.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:56 AM |
| 36 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingHe even told me he knew he wasn’t ready to start dating but he was feeling lonely and I could help him heal Holy hell the fuck no Batman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:52 AM |
| 217 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.Coffee dates are for coworkers 👯♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:47 AM |
| 101 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieMA'AM, THANK YOU. Rape has always been a performance of power across cultures. Porn leans into power fantasies more often than not, but before porn there was colonization —just random men showing up to other people's cities and countries and exacting their "conquest" on every woman and child they could round up. It's still happening in the States and Canada for sure; black and indigenous women are the most likely to go missing, and the least likely to be searched for. Let's stop pretending porn … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:59 AM |
| 17 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?That’s really sad. I remember foreplay being a bit awkward to learn and all, but being asked to move past high school tactics broke his pp? 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 12:42 PM |
| 23 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?I used to have a high libido but didn’t go in for hookup culture, so I’ve had two FWBs at different times. We enthusiastically agreed on the arrangement, only for both of them to go out of their way to tell our mutuals we were exclusively dating? Then when I called them out started treating me like shit. It’s like immature men are diametrically opposed to ever being on the same page as a woman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 12:39 PM |
| 6 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?There it is! 🏆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 12:32 PM |
| 3 | Quit my LV job todayInspiring 😍 I’m glad you’re out of that mess! Start that business and be free. It’ll be a lot of work but so worth it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 09:29 PM |
| 218 | Angry scrote literally admits that only 25% of men are dateable and women aren’t settling. Proceeds to get roasted by one of our queens 😂I love her laugh and her energy 😂 Foreal, he missed the point so loudly. That “top 25%” of men aren’t even the same men on rotation. The good men don’t “rotate,” they graduate…into healthy long-term relationships. If he just went down to the store and picked up some Respect Women 24/7™️ for himself and maybe some Fix Your Attitude he could graduate too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 09:26 PM |
| 65 | Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burningIf you feel happier alone than with your partner, it’s time to choose happiness | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 09:16 PM |
| 44 | Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burningI’ve had a guy not “agree” with the breakup too. Where do they get the audacity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 09:13 PM |
| 11 | I’m really effing tired of the ‘give a short man a chance’ propaganda.If we really did entertain every short, broke, old and ugly man to approach us we’d be labeled “easy.” When we have standards we’re “fickle.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:54 PM |
| 31 | Scrotes wanting to split the bill always make me laughI came from poverty and you're exactly right; this is absolutely not a sustainable tactic for a lot of women! Even now that I'm financially stable, I'm sure as hell not about to do this with every scrote I accidentally date, all the time. I may be in a position to throw my weight around and shame them, but if you're not, THEY asked YOU on a date. It's not your job to deal with the consequences of their actions. > Especially if you are a woman who comes from poverty that is reading this, be cutth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 12:07 AM |
| 36 | Another example of OLD as a meat marketIt really do be like that. I've been disappointed by meetups too, although they are great for making friends. 🙂 I only have one friend who successfully found her husband on OLD. That's just not what it's designed for, apparently. The only thing it is good for, in my opinion, is a crash course in learning what you do and don't want in a partner, so you'll know a good thing when you see it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:58 PM |
| 36 | Another example of OLD as a meat marketYeah, I'm finding it pretty useful for that at least. It reminds me of this game "Papers Please" where you're basically a border control agent checking for fraudulent papers. "This one looks good...wait, his profile says 'wants kids' but he's dogging women with children? SECURITY! ...Next." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:50 PM |
| 18 | Another example of OLD as a meat marketSounds about right 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:47 PM |
| 68 | Scrotes wanting to split the bill always make me laughI can’t bring myself to do this; I worry that he really did show up with no money and full intent to mooch, which would be problematic for the server. So instead I pay the whole meal as soon as the server approaches with the check, loudly talking in front of them as if the date is my son: “You have to be more responsible with your money, kiddo, or you’ll never get a girlfriend” Edit for examples: On one occasion he got really sheepish and ran off as soon as possible. On another he got angry, sna… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 08:41 PM |
| 20 | Making excuses for men not approaching me (if he wanted to, he would).HV introverts still know how to express interest. Debilitatingly shy guys — people, really — unfortunately go in the LV pile. Well-adjusted people know that first impressions matter! As a neurodivergent I can understand needing a little help with the back and forth of first conversations, especially with someone new you’re attracted to, but to need significant nudging to even introduce yourself suggests you’re going to be dragging them along through the whole relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 08:32 PM |
| 55 | LVM wanting to be coddled when doing simple housework is so widespread they even pitched it on Shark Tank as a businessListening to LVM literally brag about executing one basic home maintenance task, then expect sex afterward, makes me feel gross. I’m not going to be your mommy and fuck you in the same breath. (Or probably ever.) The only thing I enjoy about this pitch is the “body double” 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 08:24 PM |
| 6 | Start embarrassing them for low effort or for seeking a mommy, calling it out helps combat some of the scroteryYep, this. I don’t want to give a scrote pointers on how to be scrotier. But it does help when it’s with a family member, classmate, coworker or someone you’re forced to interact with regularly. A little shaming goes a long way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 01:40 PM |
| 45 | How will men in a relationship try to seek other womens attention/validation without it qualifying as cheating?Collecting a slew of “activity partners” that you know are his type. Had a NVX who had two distinct hobbies that are mostly male-dominated, but SoMeHoW 90% of the people he hung out with from those hobbies were women. I shared one of those hobbies with him so naturally he had excuses for why I couldn’t join when any of those women were around 🙄 He probably hit on them as soon as we broke up, which I imagine would suck when all that time you’ve considered him a good friend | /r/askFDS | 28/07/21 01:17 PM |
| 134 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡The backwards snapback of wasted time strikes again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:05 AM |
| 89 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡It’s genuinely funny to me that she most likely tricked him into believing this was just for “funny content” and that she didn’t actually think he was as fucking useless as he is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:04 AM |
| 3 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"i love your style 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:25 AM |
| 5 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"My “father” literally told my mother that he didn’t want to play with my brother anymore and that if he needs this much attention they should make him a sibling. And then I was born! And then he ditched us, the end. I’m gonna explain to my brother about our new bonded-cat status tonight cuz I kinda love it 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:23 AM |
| 8 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"When a friend announces she’s pregnant I respond with, “Are we happy about this?” And only if yes, “CONGRATULATIONS! 🎉” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:18 AM |
| 7 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"I appreciate your comment so much. When I tell people in detail why I don’t plan on having kids, with these exact factors in mind, they act like I just kicked a baby. I’m sure you love your son so much and that there’s plenty of love and happy moments in your family despite the time constraints, but it’s not for everyone. Not in this, uh…gestures broadly at everything above | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:16 AM |
| 4 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"it’s the earth crumbling before my eyes for me 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else absolutely hate posts like these? There's just so much to unpack here.“I look like an intimidating bad boy but I’m a softy at heart. I wish women could be less afraid and give guys like me a chance 🥺” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else absolutely hate posts like these? There's just so much to unpack here.I want to take a wild guess about which creator you’re referring to, but honestly I don’t want to end up with you saying “Oh, not that predator, the other one. Ah no, the OTHER other one” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 09:22 PM |
| 63 | This is why women must be selective in what men we allow in our lives. Most men are jealous and possessive if women. They'd rather kill us than see us be happy without them or with another man.I made my social media accounts as difficult to find as possible (have to look up via an email I made specifically for this), required approval to add, and still don't post very often. Most because, who cares 🤷🏽♀️ but also since multiple exes have lurked my accounts and tried to "accidentally" meet up in the past. I also changed my number after the last guy I dated; I already had exes from 5-8 years ago hitting me with the "hey stranger" every six months, and he made it clear right away that he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 07:34 PM |
| 1 | One of my most important strategies in dating:I can see this scrote’s apartment full of those awful bounce letter decals saying “LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT” and “DO THE WORK” 😂😂😂 No shame to anyone who loves those decals, it’s the fact that he was only then beginning to understanding the concept of effort that floors me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:24 PM |
| 1 | One of my most important strategies in dating:I can see this scrote’s apartment full of those awful bounce letter decals saying “LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT” and “DO THE WORK” 😂😂😂 No shame to anyone who loves those decals, it’s the fact that he’s just now understanding the concept of effort that floors me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:24 PM |
| 72 | One of my most important strategies in dating:I believe it. Looking back at my relationships I was never in love with any of them, but I told them I loved them and took care of them all the time out of habit. I was more concerned with being a good girlfriend than being in love, because these dudes were not lovable and I wasn’t willing to face that fact 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:31 AM |
| 38 | One of my most important strategies in dating:He really thought you were going to put your hand to your heart, swoon, and affirm the extremely basic revelation he just made 😂😟 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:28 AM |
| 124 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"I had a “me too!” in my life last year as well. Woooow, you like hiking too despite your beer belly! And plants even though you don’t have any! And cooking even though your kitchen is a hotplate! And reading when all you own is comic books! And and and— | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:29 AM |
| 18 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingAnd he’s 40. Guys I’ve dated earned no less than $65K straight out of university... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:47 PM |
| 6 | Guy I was dating left me at 4 am alone in the middle of the city to go rescue his ex. WTF?“A significant other is needed to admit the patient?” What happens to single moms then? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 06:51 AM |
| 25 | looking for examples of hyper-competency and then low-value behaviorWe love to see it! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 06:31 AM |
| 83 | looking for examples of hyper-competency and then low-value behaviorWhen I was unemployed/underemployed, my NVX spared no expense belittling, abusing, and exploiting me. I asked him to be my reference for a great job, which he procrastinated on until the week and a half AFTER my last interview. When I finally got hired for the job, one that paid significantly more than his own business netted him, he got really clammy for a couple of days, then broke up with me in front of our roommates and told me I had two weeks to move out before I’m on the street. This was m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 06:30 AM |
| 1 | I am enraged.I’m sorry you had to go through that; going after the babies would have wrecked me too, but leaving them would have led to even more chaos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:16 PM |
| 85 | Have to come to this realisation that male friendships are pointless.It's so common for a "guy friend" to get into a long-term relationship, kinda disappear for a while (happens to all of us), eventually reconnect over drinks and spend an uncomfortable amount of time dogging the woman he supposedly loves. As if he's only allowed to respect one woman at a time. Even my own brother does it; when we're hanging out, all he wants to do is unload everything he hates about his wife. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:36 PM |
| 6 | "In my head, girls are clean"😒This story reminds me of grade school when my class got to watch a caterpillar in a tank form its little cocoon and eventually bust out as a butterfly. The magic of nature in action...except in this case the "magic of nature" is learning that tampons can really go *up there*! At any time! Even at school! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:26 PM |
| 62 | Anyone else absolutely hate posts like these? There's just so much to unpack here.I eventually had to distance myself from my best friend of 15+ years because he had SO MANY platonic female friends, and after all these years his response to women's harassment was always, "I was going to say something to him, but...I could have done something, but...I thought she had everything under control, so..." 👉👈🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:17 PM |
| 15 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.Not surprised at all 😂 (Good for them, though!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:10 PM |
| 30 | Anyone else absolutely hate posts like these? There's just so much to unpack here.Wow what a helpful guy, we stan a king 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:07 PM |
| 7 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!I was having a hard time putting my discomfort towards this concept into words, but your take nails it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:56 PM |
| 43 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.I know there are some good BM out there who actually like BW and won’t expect us to “build them up” or wipe their asses but like…WHERE tho | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:44 PM |
| 26 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.You love to see it! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:42 PM |
| 2 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"Nothing on this sub has screamed “he hates you sis” quite like your husband of eight years sleeping soundly next to you while you regularly cry yourself to sleep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:40 PM |
| 626 | Anyone else absolutely hate posts like these? There's just so much to unpack here.Wish I had a dollar for every time a man watched me get publicly harassed, only to wait until we get home or DM me privately to sympathize over how mean “some men” are, instead of doing something about it in the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 03:59 PM |
| 5 | I am enraged.Good for Mama Mouse for getting free. I’d watch a biopic about her life 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 04:24 AM |
| 5 | PSA: Beware of men who have Instagram accounts for their petsWhy did he bring his dog into this? 😂 😂 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 04:18 AM |
| 14 | Yes I’m sure he “deleted” the video 🤡She sounds incredibly naive. I’d bet money there’s a significant age gap | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 04:14 AM |
| 18 | Opening ceremony win for Tonga. What a man... 😛oh yeah? 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 03:53 AM |
| 23 | Why Is No One Preparing A Generation Of Women To Partner With The Brokest, Most Sexually Depraved, Infertile and Useless Generation Of Men?This woman and her baseball-cap boy aside, the whole article is an inspiration. I didn't know about some of these celebrities living the dream, living fully independent lives in and out of relationships and marital expectation. You love to see it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:04 PM |
| 41 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?I call it the "meat market stare." Once he gives me that look I know he's 1) not processing a single thing I'm saying to him, and 2) going to offer me a one-way ticket to trauma city if I don't run far and fast | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:55 PM |
| 25 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?He couldn't even hear through the sound of his own scrotery. I'm so sorry. I hope you found your cat! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:47 PM |
| 83 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?the men who run around claiming their "love language is physical touch" piss me off for this reason - because what they really mean is slapping ass, groping, and of course, sex, and not the sort of kind, caring touch someone who loves you might give. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:42 PM |
| 5 | Why does stuff like this always go viral? It’s just encouraging more women to accept less and “adjust” themselves to tolerate bs !! 😤😐"Instead of cutting them off, adjust the relationship" Okay I'll adjust it down to 0%, thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 06:53 PM |
| 15 | A common DM I get from scrotes - “you’ll be forever alone”. Let’s discuss this..Asking for the barest minimum here. I almost added "takes care of his body" but I thought "whoa let's not go crazy here" 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 04:00 PM |
| 80 | A common DM I get from scrotes - “you’ll be forever alone”. Let’s discuss this..Being single is better than being with a selfish, greedy, needy, grasping, smothering, draining, intrusive, boundary-violating, dirty, messy, lazy, whiny or angry man. There it is! ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 11:45 PM |
| 96 | A common DM I get from scrotes - “you’ll be forever alone”. Let’s discuss this..Definitely projection. Remember when all those sad "forever alone" memes came spilling out of reddit and 4chan? Bet you everything they were invented and popularized exclusively by men. Rejection is the boogeyman to terminally-online scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 11:00 PM |
| 282 | A common DM I get from scrotes - “you’ll be forever alone”. Let’s discuss this..I get triggered DMs from scrotes every time I post here. "No WoNDeR You'Re SinGle!1" I could restart my OLD accounts and glom onto any random guy I match with and boom, not single...but why? Most men are low-value. I'm choosing to be single until I can find a partner who can cook his own food; be respectful to women he's not sleeping with; keep a clean home; have hobbies, and live with integrity, among other things. Anything less means I'm going to have to take on that work for him, or spend the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:56 PM |
| 3 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?lies stretching for miles and miles. he was going to pester you for sex after buttering you up with a boxed meal for (mostly) kids 😟 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:35 PM |
| 3 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?I hope he and your brother are very happy together 🤣 /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:32 PM |
| 1 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Was his whole house painted purple too? Bordering on obsessed 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 17 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Men are SO weird about money; they never seem to have enough of it, like their wealth directly correlates to self-worth. The guys I’ve dated over six figures lived in some of the most expensive cities in the world but balked at the prospect of spending money on dates (or anything really). The ones who made less than me would talk about moving in with me to save money within the first two months of dating. I’m either a gold digger or a sugar mama, no exceptions 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 08:03 PM |
| 18 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?That’s horrible. And wtf with those mental gymnastics; why did he think the ring YOU paid for, for him to “give” to YOU, belonged to him? Hoooow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:55 PM |
| 7 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?And as long as you’re getting a crumb of regular sex everything else in life is smooth sailing /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:51 PM |
| 10 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?He went…to the wrong church? The church he purportedly goes to all the time?? With his family??? W h a t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:49 PM |
| 9 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Asking for surprises and getting nothing but extremely familiar, almost habitual experiences 💀 He had ONE JOB | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:46 PM |
| 62 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Sigh. If he wanted to, he would. If it works for her maybe it’ll work for me xD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 04:07 AM |
| 98 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?I have met exactly one (1) man who kind of knew what he was doing, meanwhile every dude in the country thinks he’s a god at it. How | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 04:01 AM |
| 79 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?I’m so glad you lifted up the hat 😂 Everything about this man sounds like a steaming hot mess but at least it’s a fun story now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:58 AM |
| 69 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Ah…you’re probably right. Homie had a hotplate, no oven and a sink under the staircase. That whole performance was a cope 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 02:27 AM |
| 61 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?OOF. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 02:23 AM |
| 152 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Definitely counts. He hasn’t even registered that doing laundry is a life skill and not some feminine hurdle you’ve arbitrarily placed for him to CoNQuEr 🏋️♂️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 11:14 PM |
| 54 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Ah…yeah, that’s not evil, just awkward lol. I’m a reformed member of the “People Pleasers Whom Everyone Comes To For One Specific Skill/Item Club” too 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 11:00 PM |
| 162 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?I am LIVID for you. Who disrespects books like this?! I mean he almost certainly didn’t do it on purpose, but at the same time…dude really didn’t have ANY packing material in that apartment? He couldn’t have fished a newspaper out of the recycling? All he has to work with was FUN. SIZED. CHOCOLATE BARS?!? 😳 Why is this making me so mad omg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 10:55 PM |
| 45 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Uhhhhh the fuck lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 10:50 PM |
| 129 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?MA’AM this is SO CLOSE. The first restaurant my “foodie” took me to was a Korean fried chicken place his coworker showed him! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 10:49 PM |
| 52 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?I suspect I already know the answer to this, but did he have any “evidence” to make a back-breaking reach like that, or was he running on confidence alone? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 10:02 PM |
| 34 | If women can go through the discomfort of being pregnant for 9 months, then men can go through the “discomfort” of not getting sex for the first 3months+ of the relationship.Incredible. He must be a supersoldier! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 12:39 AM |
| 225 | If women can go through the discomfort of being pregnant for 9 months, then men can go through the “discomfort” of not getting sex for the first 3months+ of the relationship.You can literally die from complications of pregnancy or childbirth but please, tell me more about how having a lonely peepee during the dating phase is sooooo uncomfortable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 10:48 PM |
| 199 | If women can go through the discomfort of being pregnant for 9 months, then men can go through the “discomfort” of not getting sex for the first 3months+ of the relationship.So many people think you need to have a LoGiCaL ReAsOn to not want to date, not want to fuck, not want to stay in a relationship, etc. when “I’m just not feeling it” is, and has always been, perfectly valid for any and all genders | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 10:43 PM |
| 9 | Always be vetting: Scrotes will make you their forever girlfriend, message other women while you pay the bills, then dump youHe deleted the thread and his whole account apparently so ya 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 01:53 AM |
| 9 | Always be vetting: Scrotes will make you their forever girlfriend, message other women while you pay the bills, then dump youAnd somehow thinks he can afford to continue going on his own, unemployed, without forever gf footing the bill | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 01:53 AM |
| 8 | Always be vetting: Scrotes will make you their forever girlfriend, message other women while you pay the bills, then dump you“why men great til they gotta be great?” 🙃 sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 01:51 AM |
| 13 | Always be vetting: Scrotes will make you their forever girlfriend, message other women while you pay the bills, then dump youEvery time I screenshot a scrote on FDS, I get a message hours later from Redditcare saying a “concerned redditor” flagged me for self-h*rm lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 11:57 PM |
| 15 | Always be vetting: Scrotes will make you their forever girlfriend, message other women while you pay the bills, then dump youHomie deleted not just the post, but his whole profile lol. He knows full well whose communication is off in this relationship. What a wimp. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 11:55 PM |
| 32 | Always be vetting: Scrotes will make you their forever girlfriend, message other women while you pay the bills, then dump youI go to therapy weekly and apply for jobs WHILE working a full-time job but somehow he’s just! Too! Swamped! With all those parties he’s not going to and bills he’s not paying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 11:47 PM |
| 10 | Always be vetting: Scrotes will make you their forever girlfriend, message other women while you pay the bills, then dump youYou can tell he needed to perform so much mental gymnastics to paint himself as the “caring boyfriend who holds himself back to protect the feelings of an old flame.” SO much work to dress up the lazy mooch he truly is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 11:45 PM |
| 1 | What do you ladies think about gaming? (Video gaming, phone gaming, computer gaming, etc)I used to love video games! Until I moved in with a guy who literally gamed himself sick 3-4 times a year. Like, SICK sick; eating too fast at his desk, giving himself cramps, choking, throwing up…Guy after that would invite me over for dinner, but first I have to watch him play FIFA with his online buddies for an hour or two until he’s ready to cook. Then a third guy, playing what I considered a “safe” mobile game, played it with every single free moment of his day. When I saw him trying to pla… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 03:13 PM |
| 22 | Never open up about your traumas until you know he's a HVM. Even then, be careful.Studying to be a therapist and you’ve nailed my reason exactly 😟 spooky | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:57 PM |
| 48 | Vetting Men by their job positionUgh…Disappointed but not surprised. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:58 AM |
| 179 | Vetting Men by their job positionMilitary men look down on women and froth at the mouth over the weirdest everyday topics. Startup guys are obsessed with gaming the system, gaming women, gaming in general. Obviously no to cops and lawyers. I’d like to date a firefighter tho. For reasons 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 01:54 AM |
| 142 | Vetting Men by their job positionI’m neck-and-neck for creatives in my life. Examples being one HV writer who’s very sweet and supportive of his fiancée, and one LVX writer who used me as arm candy/clout generator and dumped me when I started outearning him. Big no on startup bros - they’re all Peter Pans or inexplicably obsessed with billionaires and/or “hustle culture,” might start out generous with their tech bro money to lure you in but after the first few months they’ll expect you to go 50/50 on their lifestyles. Source: l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 01:47 AM |
| 76 | The uglies always have the most to say 🤡Back in college my guy friend used to be super overweight, complained about being a virgin, sent me pics of beautiful e-girls he considered his “standard” and made fun of all the “whales” on Tinder regularly. Eventually he went to therapy, lost a LOT of weight, and now gives off enough HV vibes to maintain a seemingly healthy relationship. Funny; the moment he did the work of feeling comfortable in his OWN skin, the shitty whale comments and projection simply ceased to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Watch how men treat you when completing tasks they want to “do themselves”They exist! 🤤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:13 PM |
| 49 | Watch how men treat you when completing tasks they want to “do themselves”Because “REAL MEN” do macho things like build(?) and lvm want to be the manliest realest men so fucking bad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 06:29 AM |
| 38 | Watch how men treat you when completing tasks they want to “do themselves”This is hilarious. Two pairs of hands should’ve made anything from Ikea a breeze. Only a truly skilled scrote can make it take longer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 06:28 AM |
| 101 | Male neighbor invited me to his daughter's birthday--red flag?HELL NO. NOPE. NAH NUH-UH. If you really have a roommate, let them know to avoid this man. For the love of god add a security camera. If he tries to talk to you again, grey-rock him; give absolutely no interesting information about yourself or what you’re into. If you have a porch or patio, leave a big pair of men’s shoes somewhere obvious. If he leaves any gifts, throw them away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 02:38 AM |
| 7 | In desperate need of help…You’ve already told us everything we need to know: you feel mistreated, and he “disagrees.” He’s gaslighting you and trying to convince you that the horseshit you’re being served is the product of your own mind. He’s deliberately causing you to doubt yourself and contributing to the deterioration of your mental health. We can only help you by reminding you to trust in this gut feeling you’re experiencing. You’re not crazy; YOU WERE RIGHT, THIS WHOLE TIME. Weaponizing your mental health to keep y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 02:25 AM |
| 10 | Beware of the over-helperTHIS. 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 02:15 AM |
| 9 | Meetup Groups and HobbiesAn ex I was stupidly trying to establish a friendship with after dumping (🤡) admitted to me that he uses Meetups as a more robust version of OLD — an avenue to, and I quote, "separate an ideal woman from the pack," aka find a female mirror of himself who's just as intense about his hobby as he is. Despite knowing people like that exist, I have ASD and deeply enjoy the purpose and straightforwardness of meetups. I don't meet a lot of men in them, and I think that's perfectly fine. Fewer to vet, a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 01:06 AM |
| 59 | Beware of the over-helperMom: "You don't need a therapist, you NEED to stay home and mind your business" [moves out, starts making friends] Ex: "You don't need a therapist, you NEED to spend more time with ME" [dumps ex, goes back to school] Doctor: "You don't need a therapist, what YOU need are these expensive medications you've tried before that turn you into a zombie" [gets second opinion, hires therapist] Therapist: "You don't need other people to tell you what you need" Not sure if this is true for others but when … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 12:44 AM |
| 21 | Beware of the over-helperOne of the most frustrating LV behaviors I've come across — the men who genuinely believe they can be the hero you "need" simply by taking up your time. They can't fathom you having your own problems that have nothing to do with them, so they ignore them and keep vying for your attention, or pantomime like they're single-handedly fixing it, or mansplain the surface-level of your problem. In the end, they're really only "helping" you to return to what they believe your real job is: spending more … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 12:30 AM |
| 343 | Watch how men treat you when completing tasks they want to “do themselves”"Why are you shopping for a desk? I'll build one big enough for BOTH of us. We'll save money, and then we can play League of Legends side by side! 🥺" "We don't have space in the bedroom for a...double desk. Besides, have you ever built a desk before?" "Jesus don't be such a nag, this is going to be fun!" He took a month to get around to building the fabled Double Desk. It was made of thin, unfinished plywood, was way too tall, gave me splinters when I touched it, and had a pair of "keyboard tray… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 12:02 AM |
| 10 | One of the Benefits of Living Together... Splitting the RentI’m not rich, far from it but I buy a good piece one at a time and I know it will last me years. Completely agree. Cheap pieces will fill out an apartment fast, but you’ll find yourself replacing them within the year. I moved into my first solo apartment last year with a handful of cheap/free “starter” furniture from back when I had roommates. I’m really enjoying replacing the old stuff one at a time with beautiful, functional, high-quality items that’ll hopefully last me through grad school and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:35 PM |
| 152 | One of the Benefits of Living Together... Splitting the RentNot to mention it sounds like the concept of you moving in with him never came up…most likely because you’re living better and holding yourself to a higher standard solo. LVM are gold diggers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 03:53 AM |
| 32 | “Water always meets its level”If dumping a scrote, or blocking and deleting, makes you feel guilty, remember that you’ve already learned the lesson you needed from that one! Time to level up and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 06:35 PM |
| 532 | Wait...what?On top of the obvious grossness here, that probably isn’t even him in the picture | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Moving cities for a better dating pool? Looking for advice on what to consider. (city ratio of women:men is too high)Oh wonderful. So I guess I have a tough decision to make: stay in a nation of overweight entitled social climbers looking to legally acquire a bangmaid, or learn the schtick of a nation of sex pest entitled Peter Pans who hunt women for fun into old age. Dating is great! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 02:27 PM |
| 89 | Could there be a more dumpster fire LVM tinder profile? I need to unpack with the FDS ladiesPolyamory sounded like a fantastic idea to me on paper, at first - a queer community of loved ones who shake off the yoke of societal norms to support each other! Then I tried dating one who was in a polycule, which is apparently code for “all of my girlfriends and all of their partners need to like you for this to work, so be extra nice to all of us until I say you’re in.” The pickme in me collapsed and died from the effort. I moved states without telling any of them 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:11 AM |
| 6 | Could there be a more dumpster fire LVM tinder profile? I need to unpack with the FDS ladiesOOF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 05:23 AM |
| 72 | Could there be a more dumpster fire LVM tinder profile? I need to unpack with the FDS ladiesAnd they’re called unicorns because finding a woman who is naive and attracted enough to both parties to put up with all the antics, jealousy, triangulation, objectification and second-class treatment is like finding a unicorn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 05:21 AM |
| 132 | Could there be a more dumpster fire LVM tinder profile? I need to unpack with the FDS ladiesAh, polys. The posers are just dudes cheating on their girlfriends, and the real poly people are too busy to go out because they’re “unpacking things” with their sixth ex of the year, or at their fourth girlfriend’s birthday party, or taking care of their kid with their definitely-not-“primary” live-in partner, or pretending to be getting an STD test they’ll definitely show you later, or sexting their neighbor, or any other number of ridiculous shit they get into. No drama at aaaaaall. The Uber … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 05:13 AM |
| 57 | Two men casually threatened to kill meHow are they expecting this to go? These men clearly don’t want to actually date us when they bring us to remote places and threaten us for fun, so what’s the goal? Is it seriously just to get off on frightening a woman? Even if they’re, ugh…_successful_…after she leaves the situation does he just…sit there in his car and fantastize about how, instead of forming a healthy bond with a woman, he got her to despise him instead? Is that really, truly, honestly the goal here? Because that’s fucking p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 05:02 AM |
| 40 | Could there be a more dumpster fire LVM tinder profile? I need to unpack with the FDS ladiesDrama-free, but wants you to be “ready for a challenge?” Challenges in relationships are supposed to come from external sources, which you then tackle as a team. He’s promising to make you eat shit before he’s even spoken to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 04:53 AM |
| 28 | If any lurkers are still on the fence about porn use please read. And please do your part and spread the word, online and offline.And for the weebs out there, most anime is low-value too. A lot of shounen and comedy titles these days attempt to tow the line between all-ages and hentai in order to cater to their main demographic (teen boys) and sell more merch. As a result you’ve got women designed to looked like prepubescent girls, bimbo character traits, all the women in the show salivate over the basic self-insert main character, sUrpRiSe wardrobe malfunctions and groping. Popular anime is infuriatingly stuffed with porn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 02:08 AM |
| 289 | How scrotes treat “The One that Got Away”“Whichever one hurts you more, m’ladyb*tch” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 11:58 PM |
| 29 | This is our dating pool 😂Yep, this just about covers it 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 11:54 PM |
| 16 | FDS & Anxiety / NeurodivergenceDiagnosed with ASD at 30. I've been learning to trust my body more — if someone's behavior has me feeling a lump in my throat or a stomach cramp, whatever it is they're trying to get me to do HAS to wait. Sleeping on it, talking with friends, or writing out every objective detail of the conversation usually snaps me out of it, but sometimes I have to do this with EVERY new person I meet on a given day because the fear of letting a manipulator back into my life is too strong. It can be exhausting… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:47 PM |
| 33 | What are some tell-tale/subtle signs of a LV/NV man “warming” you up to physical abuse?Silent rage is terrifying. He’s clearly pissed off, he wants you to feel like everything could fall apart at any moment, and he won’t tell you why, ratcheting up your anxiety and forcing you to find creative new ways to make him happy. Once he’s figured out he doesn’t even need to speak to make you his slave or bangmaid, why would he have it any other way? Pathological. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:28 PM |
| 33 | And people were praising his honesty 🤡🤡🤡.“I sure do wish someone, someone like you, would be kind enough to let me bang her daughter” 👉👈🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:20 PM |
| 18 | What does FDS think of men who post a lot on social media?I did social media for large brands for about seven years. Non-influencers who are "chronically online" tend to fit into three boxes: Insecure, pimping out their experiences/friendships for validation Bored, filling a void LARPing as an influencer, trying to establish/maintain an image I wouldn't say it's a red flag, but personally I avoid making friends with or dating people who live on social; I like to have some semblance of privacy and don't feel comfortable around folks who need to post eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 07:17 PM |
| 80 | And people were praising his honesty 🤡🤡🤡.“Sorry this is weird for me. Unless?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 06:40 PM |
| 36 | Proper posture is sexy!The wrong men will berate me for everything from my (bone-straight) posture to my physique to my extremely average, 5’4” height, which is reason 1 of 3,384 why they’re the wrong men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:27 AM |
| 694 | And people were praising his honesty 🤡🤡🤡.He could have found an alternative excuse to bail without casually admitting he watches mother-daughter porn and only showed up to fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Imagine your boyfriend telling you he won’t hesitate to hit you because he’s afraid you’re a psycho...In our twenties my brother and I were firm purveyors of the old adage “Our mom beat us and we turned out JuSt FiNe!” Spoilers: we did not, and the fact that people are still planning to discipline their kids like animals is deeply concerning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:19 AM |
| 3 | My adds on Youtube 🧓🏻🤮 Google knows I'm 27 and the company that bought these adds thinks it's fine to normalize dinossaurs on my age range“Become Super Attractive to 10/10 Geriatrics” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:09 AM |
| 3 | LDR Further than 300miles relationship adviceAll of this describes my LDR so well. I have an ex who lived 5,000 miles away, London > SF, and there was definitely pressure to turn every visit into a fake vacation. Short-term cohabitation with a little cultural exchange thrown in — we both felt pressured to be entertaining at all times in two of the world’s most expensive cities, which was romantic and all but like…there was no deadline. Lockdowns kicked in and suddenly we didn’t know what to do with each other. I can’t bring myself to block… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:06 AM |
| 8 | My friend matched with a guy on OLD. He sent her this..... what in the???I remember this OG meme. It was funny back in like 2005 but now it’s pure cringe. Multiple questions about her ears? Why??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:45 AM |
| 34 | Moving cities for a better dating pool? Looking for advice on what to consider. (city ratio of women:men is too high)15 years in SF. You’ve pegged that city perfectly. For the PNW, Seattle is very much like SF with the oversaturation of tech bros. Portland is a bit better, but the diversity and range of interests for both is awful. One week on OLD showed me 99% white dudes, most of them holding fish or chugging beers. Once I’ve finished grad school I’m moving to Europe to start a business and hopefully get back into the dating game. Everyone I’ve dated in Berlin and London have been clean, well-dressed, with h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:42 AM |
| 18 | Rejected a man due to his height - family are giving me second thoughts +gaslighting me!“He’s got it all!” A job? A degree? Basic respectful behavior for the whole day you’ve known him? Is that “all” a man needs to have to be a catch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:20 PM |
| 15 | ' gOlD DigGeR 'Damn. She’s never getting that loan back and that “relationship” is as good as over. She’s an ATM now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:17 PM |
| 5 | Queen mindset 👸Meeee? Too expensive?! Hark, I shall cry into my coffee, but not before pouring it through my $300 grinder with my manicured hands | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:47 AM |
| 2 | Queen mindset 👸“you’re weird” “you’re A LOT” “you don’t have to care so much” “can’t you be quieter?” can’t you be less of a buzzkill??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:44 AM |
| 5 | Queen mindset 👸FDS bedtime story podcast. Any takers? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:41 AM |
| 4 | Posted this on another sub and people defended this dude. Is this not weird behavior?Exactly! And same. Pets will love you til the day they die. LVM will pretend to love you until the first day you say “no” or even “maybe” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:34 AM |
| 100 | It isn't "classist" to want a guy who is financially stable. Some FDS followers are working class women. I cannot think of anything more privileged than telling women who have known poverty, that it is shameful to want a man who won't drag them back to poverty level.Ah, yes: “YoU WoULdN’T Be So StResSed iF YoU WoRkEd a LesS StReSsFuL JoB” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 02:42 AM |
| 8 | Posted this on another sub and people defended this dude. Is this not weird behavior?Decidedly, absolutely, without a doubt, not in any way shape or form a threat to a human male’s status or ego 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 06:23 AM |
| 11 | Its ok to feel bitterThank you. It’s been a journey for me but getting though the bitterness has helped me to understand what I do and do not deserve. Bitterness can be useful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 06:21 AM |
| 10 | How do you ladies feel about friends that prioritize their boyfriends?I’ve been this person. Had to learn the hard way that dick isn’t worth neglecting friendships over. Just move on. Eventually she’ll look up from her fairytale and realize the squad has left her behind. Maybe she’ll try to catch up and be a friend again! But you can’t make her, unfortunately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 06:17 AM |
| 21 | How do you ladies feel about friends that prioritize their boyfriends?Oh god, same. My roommate moved her man in during lockdown. They spent the next two months screaming at each other for hours a day before I moved into my own place. Every time I talked to her she found a way to flip the topic to what a terrible idea moving him in was. They’re married now 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 06:12 AM |
| 26 | Potent.This. Yes, he could be doing it for the clout - a lot of women followed him for this thread, myself included - but if he doesn’t practice what he preaches he’ll incur the wrath of twitter and be made into an example by drama youtubers like the other posers. If he actually knows what he’s talking about, he’ll keep going viral and exposing men to the concept of being decent people. Either way, we win. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 06:09 AM |
| 18 | Posted this on another sub and people defended this dude. Is this not weird behavior?“No dogs” is the brightest eye-searing red flag among them. So, no attractive human men IRL, in the past, or on-screen…but no attention to adorable, decidedly non-human animals either? Holy insecurity batman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 06:02 AM |
| 30 | Women are conditioned to think that their unhappiness in relationships is normalWhat really confuses me about the men who choose to be awful is, they know how not to be. All the men we've been in long-term relationships with, only to watch their masks fall off, knew how to LARP as a decent human being. But the privilege, the rumor that they can get more from us for doing less if they play a few manipulation games...I guess the allure of being "king of the castle" is too strong for LVM to resist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 12:03 AM |
| 41 | Women are conditioned to think that their unhappiness in relationships is normalYour dad's a real one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 11:54 PM |
| 2 | I salute this woman who built a fence. Good job lady.I’ve been “rescued” a lot by men too…mostly from problems those same men caused to give me something to worry about. One guy would wake up early and “discover” things around my apartment that need to be fixed. (My place is always clean unless I’m going through a depressive episode, so his discoveries would be like a piece of furniture that needs dusting.) Then he would wait for me to wait up, dust it, and brace for a heady outpouring of love and attention, then spend the next hour deflated when … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Lingerie is NOT a gift“For the fifth time, baby, you have a stomach bug from consistently eating food that’s been sitting out for hours after gaming all night. No, vitamin C is for colds. Drinking six packets in a row isn’t going to help. Yes, call your mom, she’ll agree with me. If you don’t want to go to the hospital again you could try putting the food I cooked for you in the fridge?” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 01:56 AM |
| 3 | Lingerie is NOT a giftNoooooo you’ve done this too? Oof. 😭 I cringe every time I remember something my pickme phase put me up to doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 01:40 AM |
| 13 | Lingerie is NOT a giftEVERY TIME I made a drink with pineapple juice this ex would say something like “does this mean I’m getting a BJ later???” No. It means I want a piña colada. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 07:25 PM |
| 15 | Online dating vs Online shoppingThis analogy is so accurate. With online shopping — especially swimwear imo — you can start to tell when something’s cheaply made, pinned on the model, or otherwise showing a fairytale version of itself that isn’t going to suit you in the slightest. So you pass on it, like you might pass on every guy who thinks lying about his height will effectively market himself to any and all women. A man on OLD seems to think women in his “wishlist” will be there for him forever (when in reality they probab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 07:21 PM |
| 63 | I am absolutely speechless. Tl;dr, if he can’t have sex with her after a surgery, she will not be allowed to use her cup/tampons. This is straight up abuse.Not sure what else there is to say to a man who’s clearly and loudly jealous of an elongated cotton swab. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 07:12 PM |
| 5 | Lingerie is NOT a giftThey really tell on themselves when they buy you clothes that aren’t even your SIZE though. Just fantasizing in front of the shoe aisle like a weirdo. Shockingly down bad to dress your girlfriend up like a celeb you’ll never meet 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 03:55 PM |
| 7 | Lingerie is NOT a giftLittle diddy? More like little don’t you f*cking dare 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 04:11 AM |
| 33 | Lingerie is NOT a giftOne flipped from lingerie to “holidays and milestones don’t really matter so why should we exchange gifts” and got dumped shortly after. Another one’s transformation is hard to explain: instead of buying me sexy things, he decided to buy me what I can only describe as “arm candy clothes.” Like, outfits that matched his work clothes, church dresses to impress his mom…stuff to impress everyone else in his ecosystem but me. Shit I would never wear in a million years, but he’d swear up and down they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 04:06 AM |
| 26 | Lingerie is NOT a giftSpencer's Gifts is this shop you'd find in American malls in the 90s — Halloween costumes, edgy t-shirts, joke mugs, shitty lingerie... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 12:44 AM |
| 127 | Lingerie is NOT a giftBromelain is supposed to help improve the taste of cum so I gave my ex a bottle to make his acid-rain Cheeto powder-ass flavor more palatable. He put it on the shelf and never so much as mentioned it again 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 12:42 AM |
| 44 | Lingerie is NOT a giftIt really is insulting for someone to give such a callous and self-serving gift. I never end up wearing them, either; the lingerie I enjoy are the ones I picked out myself, that go with a specific look or outfit I had in mind. I can even dress them up and wear them outside if I want! Scrotes' hard-pp lingerie gifts tend to look and feel like cheap Halloween costumes, tastelessly avoid any real aesthetic, and won't feasibly be seen by anyone other than the scrote "gifting" it to you. I've also no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 12:34 AM |
| 307 | Lingerie is NOT a giftScrotiest Gift of All Time 🏆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 12:20 AM |
| 47 | Never date someone who criticizes your fitness routine.I tried to get an ex to lift weights with me once, since I’m always doing outdoor hobbies with him I figured it’d be nice to cross-train together! Within ten minutes he was complaining about how my workout is “all legs” (it wasn’t; he just had weaker legs), making jokes about my ass, and eventually wandering away while I finish by myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 10:14 PM |
| 94 | Lingerie is NOT a giftEvery guy I’ve been in a long-term relationship with has tried giving me lingerie as a “gift,” and every one of them has been shocked and confused when I say “that’s more for you than it is for me and you know it.” My, how ungrateful I am! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 10:10 PM |
| 3 | This is from an Indian account but as a North African I can relate so much. They don’t want us to question things.Planning on moving to Germany from the US. Sounds like the way moms raised their precious little kings is pretty much the same, wish I could say I’m surprised 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 09:17 PM |
| 20 | I just did it.When you know your worth and drop people at your own leisure, you’ll get a lot of flack from people who had plans for you in THEIR life, which is why it’s so important to block and delete. Doesn’t matter if you only had marginal interested in them anyway; it’s so much more peaceful to just block and delete anyone who brings you undue stress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Cry me a river.“I just can’t believe you would leave me even though my dad never expresses affection and taught me staring a woman down like a brick wall was an effective way to communicate with loved ones, everyone always leaves me, you’re just like all the other crazy bitches I choose to date–“ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:03 PM |
| 41 | Truly embarrassingA combination of inexperience, porn sickness, and getting too excited/not pacing themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 11:35 PM |
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