Spotted in another thread. She needs FDS!

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-11-05T05:45:53+00:00

What are we conversations became " let's not put a name to ... This (waves hands erratically)" or were replaced by texts a few days after a date saying they are really really busy with work and life in general and not really ready for a relationship so that's appreciate if they kept things open.

Which is it, men?!?!!!

A virgin that fucks like a pornstar? A mommy mcbangmaid that gives you blowjobs f and leaves the food on a tray at the entrance of your gaming room? A free therapist that gives you live advice and also touches your dick? A "bro with a vagene/ vegana??" that pays 50-50 and sometimes pays all and even let's you live at their place so you can be as hobosexual as you want?

ifhewantedtohewould · 2021-11-05T01:32:58+00:00

There is no romance anymore because women have been brainwashed into pursuing men first, paying on dates and allowing the use of porn in relationships etc. men are SPOILED these days. They’re allowed to do anything they want to us and anything they don’t want with zero punishment and expect us to put up with it. And they know that one day a woman probably will settle for it. We all know a woman like that. Some of us used to be women like that.

ceramicunicorn · 2021-11-05T02:06:43+00:00

In today’s edition of It’s Not Unique to You, It’s Systemic!, we hear from a chivalrous young woman who courts her dates like the dear princes they are, while also managing to boost their masculinity (although no masculine traits are demonstrated, aside from aggressively pursuing sex). How long before a male Redditor- also on the hunt for a discount package of bundled services- asks “WhO aRe ThEsE GUYS yOuR’e TaLkInG tO?”, attempting to isolate her experience instead of acknowledging the dynamic’s pervasiveness, in order to avoid self-reflection?

Find out, on literally any fucking relationship sub on this site 🤡

Sekina7 · 2021-11-05T09:06:25+00:00

The sad reality is , even the most HVM is still a MAN and they are hard wired to be selfish and opportunistic about sex . Most men will only give you what they know have to and they can sniff out “nice girl” , naive, low self esteem and pick me tendencies from a mile off. They will give everything to the women who both know their worth AND who play the game , understand who men are at their core and used male shallowness against them. It’s sad but true , men KNOW women’s worth but they already feel the odds are stacked against them so they are not going to tell you if they can get you cheap.

Who do men reward ? It’s taboo to discuss but most wealthy men patronise high end sew workers and marry trophy wives of not the first the second time round. Most men follow, worship and spend at least some money on Instagram models and /or OF models. Most of the women who are living really well know their worth.

Disney/Hollywood & religion has done a number on women and it’s tragic. I haven’t paid for a single date in years and get spoiled whenever I’m actively dating and I never have to ask .

Men must know that YOU know who is chasing who, who has more options and who is willing to walk away…

blasthead99 · 2021-11-05T02:58:14+00:00

I disagree with comments saying it's because she's over 30 - I think porn is almost entirely to blame (and perhaps social media as well, which nowadays is basically the same thing). For absolutely zero dollars and no effort whatsoever, men can have any sexual experience they want in the privacy of their home. Meanwhile real women cost money and require them to put effort not only into the relationship but to themselves. They generally only dated us for sex in the first place and now they can access it without a woman physically there.

I know that may sound depressing or dramatic but I am thoroughly convinced it's true. And it got worse after covid because porn use went up even more during lockdown. Dating and marriage in this generation are ruined imo.

DuchessDurag · 2021-11-05T00:42:41+00:00

She’s spot on. Men cannot complain about being friend zoned if they make no effort to be romantic.

If men offer bare minimum dates, then I think it’s justified for women to turn their attentions elsewhere.

frogchickenhorse · 2021-11-05T00:03:37+00:00

It’s always been that way. Wouldn’t mind betting she is only noticing it due to being over 30, less easy to manipulate

apommom · 2021-11-05T00:15:55+00:00

I unsubbed from there today because of the comments on this exact post. The comments suggesting men should put in effort were downvoted to oblivion. So many women seem so lost and it genuinely breaks my heart.

muchtwojaded · 2021-11-05T02:30:18+00:00

I've noticed that reddit in general is becoming so increasingly sexist. Maybe it was always that way but some of the comments I've seen are just complete insanity. AITA, TIFU, relationships, relationship advice, pretty much any fitness subreddit, they're all completely relentless.

oceanbreeze88 · 2021-11-05T01:59:40+00:00

She has it backwards but I actually do agree with her the dating world has become more brutal, that’s for sure. I feel like it’s become more brutal in relationships in general, even with friends lately, or is that just me

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-11-05T04:25:10+00:00

The more slack women pick up on the dating front the more men slack off. Another reason why FDS is the future of dating.

nothingt0say · 2021-11-05T05:16:52+00:00

Nice to know I am not missing a damn thing by refusing to date now that I'm single again

prince7772 · 2021-11-05T02:49:38+00:00

Oh dear lord she is doing things beyond absolutely WRONG. Complimenting?Planning & PAYING?Sleeping with them? Oh no nooo never do any of these stuff this will make a guys see your standards are low and walk all over you.

Technusgirl · 2021-11-05T03:08:16+00:00

Don't waste your time with low effort men.

Ana_jp · 2021-11-05T01:30:58+00:00

This was the first thread outside of FDS that I tried to dive into. Seemed like it was going to go terribly at first, but the tide turned just enough that I have a smidge of hope.

S_C_U_MFem · 2021-11-05T01:56:27+00:00

“Mostly” dates men? That means she might have a chance at not dating them at all! I’m lucky enough to be into womenfolk and will be pursuing nobody else henceforth

sjpppppp · 2021-11-05T03:04:23+00:00

So many men seem to be inherently lazy and selfish.

GabbaG0ul · 2021-11-05T17:16:01+00:00

The biggest shift that happen in dating for me is when I wouldn’t give men the time of day unless they went over the top to get my attention. I don’t tell men, or anyone for that matter, how to treat me. I don’t demand respect in big long text messages. Either you step up to plate with the behavior I want, or I go else where. That goes for friends, family and employers too. Period.

Jandi18 · 2021-11-04T23:58:03+00:00

Can you message her? She really needs FDS

shockingupdate · 2021-11-05T04:24:25+00:00

I’m scared to check out what those 450+ replies look like

_ee_gg_ · 2021-11-05T09:55:50+00:00

All she needs to do is NOTHING! She needs to focus on herself and that’s plenty enough.

MsXxSelfDestructxX · 2021-11-05T18:37:30+00:00

I think somewhere around the time I was coming out of pick-me days and learned about the existence of FDS I went through the same thing where guys always kept expecting me to plan the dates, time, effort, conversations. It's absolutely not worth it.

Level-Up-Jas · 2021-11-05T06:46:55+00:00

My girlfriends and I always plan much better girl-dates for each other than most men I’ve dated. We usually choose thoughtful and scenic places with new activities to try or food to eat. And we all usually dress up and look lovely for ourselves!

Level-Up-Jas · 2021-11-05T06:49:46+00:00

And it’s literally not that hard to plan a nice date and be polite and chivalrous. Any sort of cultural event or new restaurant or show is a great idea, especially paired with some sort of thoughtful gift or gesture.

The level of effort is so sadly low, I miss romance. And they wonder why we won’t sleep with them 🙄 #thebarisinhell #icantellyourjustnotthatinterested

Prttykittenn · 2021-11-05T01:19:17+00:00

Pls, someone tell her than men can't heaar her because they are too busy enjoying all the easy sex they get thanks to liberal femisnism

applestorm · 2021-11-05T14:13:58+00:00

So I went on the OG thread to check the comments. They're all lamenting on how the dating pool is trash rn, most men have avoidant type of attachment etc. I agree with it but not a single soul points out that she does everything wrong.

I can't even. I guess they all think this is normal meanwhile you will never see a lioness running around lions, giving them meat to please them and whatnot. Instead they sit there and wait for lions to fight to be with them. It's a joke. So many women are disconnected from their nature.

SupremeDearLeader · 2021-11-05T21:19:41+00:00

Feminist media (and whatever else bad role modeling) convincing women to act like a man, take on his responsibilities AND to pay for him has really ruined a lot of women's happiness.

Title	Spotted in another thread. She needs FDS!
Author	LeaNoodles
Upvotes	1063
Comments	97
Date	November 4, 2021 11:55 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/qmy9tu/spotted_in_another_thread_she_needs_fds/
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