Help, I’m disgusted

VelvetKnuckleduster · 2021-10-16T12:52:37+00:00

The time of my life when I got the most attention from random men was when I was about 14. Girls and younger women are often conditioned to be meek and timid and accept bad behaviour from men, and definitely not to defend themselves. Creeps prey on that, they can smell that lack of resistance the way sharks smell blood in water. As women get older, for most of, even when we're still very attractive or young looking, something hardens within us where we become less receptive to shittiness from men and a lot of them can sense that before they even try or they know they'll need more sophisticated methods. There are paedophiles who like young girls just because they're young, but I think more often it's run of the mill entitled predators probing for a soft target, which younger women are more likely to be.

thenotoriousaep · 2021-10-16T13:22:33+00:00

Think of how many men go to Thailand every year for sex tourism. Lots of pedos out there unfortunately :(

londochig · 2021-10-16T14:47:41+00:00

You should loudly and publicly express disgust. Loudly shout "I'm 15 what is wrong with you, pedo creep! I am going to call the cops and my parents if you keep harassing me especially as I am a minor!" Maintain a disgusted facial expression the whole time. Claim you're 15. There's hardly much of a different between 15-19 year olds.

This happens to a lot of women. I'm in my 20s but I get mistaken for an 18- 19 year old and I've had men as old as 50-60 try to prey on me. It happens to a lot go women. They target anyone who they think is passive and sweet. Make sure to humiliate them in public by saying you're a 15-16 year old minor and tell them that they look older than your dad.

When I was in college Iooked 16 and I had 35-40 year old men creep on me at work and ask me out. I think I've experienced sexual harassment by men from the age of 8. When I was in high school we wore school uniforms and it was obvious were high school kids but my friends and I still had men who were 30+ harass us and ask us out. Now if I'm in a public place I tell older men that they look older than my dad. Make sure to express your disgust to them.

honeybadgerattitude · 2021-10-16T13:53:05+00:00

It’s all about control. They’re not looking for a partner, they’re looking for a bangmaid to control and abuse. Younger women are easier to control just because they have less life experience. All you can do is stay safe and avoid them as much as possible. Depending on your culture, some things work better than others. Have you thought about getting a pretend boyfriend? He could be in the army and a very jealous man. If it keeps you safe, do it.

XNjunEar · 2021-10-16T12:01:29+00:00

There are lots of paedos and depraved men out there and I suspect things are now worse than when I was your age. Always stay alert, be careful where you go and with whom. Be very careful in clubs with your drink, never leave it within reach of anyone not even a friend. You are young and society should be protecting you but seems it's not the case.

Being afraid of leaving the house at some hour after noon because a man is harassing you is frightening! Is there a way to notify the police and make an official report of this driver?

Jandi18 · 2021-10-16T13:51:26+00:00

There is nothing wrong with you, It’s them!! Most of us ladies all went through that when we were younger. These pedos are drawn to children like shark to blood. I’m sorry you have to go through this. Enjoy your life and please be careful when you go out clubbing. They tend to spike drinks ( even your age mate). You are that age where they come running in doves thinking you are naive enough to accept their advances. I remember how they used to chase me when I was 14 🤮. Life gets gets better.

Inspection-Critical · 2021-10-16T17:46:13+00:00

Get loud. Humiliate them in public. "Ewww, you pervert, I'm 15!" They fuck off quick.

Also, subtle but important language distinction here:

YOU do not attract older men. They're attracted to you.

It's like the difference between saying "zebras attract lions" vs "lions are attracted to zebras."

It puts the onus where it belongs - squarely on the predator.

YOU are not doing anything wrong.

giftofnocondemnation · 2021-10-16T13:50:13+00:00

You are not safe in this world unfortunately. Stay close to women, try not to go places alone, because you are prey amongst a world of predators. Men that bother you don’t want to provide for you, they don’t want to add value to your life. They just want to use you for their selfish desires. They have no empathy, they don’t care how they will damage you. Men work for the devil. God put enmity between the devil and women, that’s why men hate us so much. When you take Lyft’s, be antisocial when it’s a man driver. Just be antisocial around men period. Let them think you are stuck up, who cares? You will be safer.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-10-16T14:27:28+00:00

This is typical. Every woman here has had that happen to them at your age. They think you're jailbait. You'll age out of that target group soon enough. As long as you don't have daddy issues you'll be safe. Just make sure to act appropriately grossed out when they approach you. Even ask, "How old are you?!" To deflate their egos. Those guys are vampires.

WorkaholicParty · 2021-10-16T20:59:29+00:00

I'm so sorry. I'm disgusted for you just reading your post.

I don’t know why it’s never guys my age but these creepy uncles that KNOW I’m significantly younger are tying to get at me, it’s ridiculous at this point.

They get off on it. I've been mostly catcalled and harassed when I was 12-16 by a bunch of significantly older scrotes. They're pedophiles, it's absolutely not you or any energy that you give off.

ever since then I get scared to go out of my house at s specific time in the after noon

I can feel this is going to give you anxiety in the long run. It's good for you to vent, I hope you have friends as well you can talk to (as long as they are mature enough not to dismiss you).

I don't know what advice to give, it's probably going to be bad advice. What I did was dress kind of elegant, always looking a bit pissed off, walk decisively and if a strange man starts approaching me I look like I want to vomit of anger. If people are nearby either talk out loud about how disgusting he is or even yell at them. I pretend not to be scared because that's what they like.

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2021-10-17T01:36:25+00:00

It's not anything you are doing that is attracting them, it's because these men are sick. They are the ones that are causing this problem, not you. I've also had grown adult men start leering at me since I was a teenager, you are not alone.

Vivierex · 2021-10-16T22:13:42+00:00

I don't know what it is with really young girls attracting old creeps but it should be punished by law and men should stop other men from being fcking creeps. When I was a teenager me and my classmates would always attract attention from this type of pervs. The worst is they have wives and the wives see it as just innocent "men being a men staring at pretty girls" but ffs we were underage. You being 19 doesn't make any difference that it's just disgusting and sick that some old weird thinks he can just hit on you.

shockingupdate · 2021-10-17T04:25:50+00:00

I hate to say it but this is incredibly common; ooooold geezers hit a certain age, lose all rationality, and decide their “experience” should grant them access to extremely young women (and girls). My age of peak popularity was about 12, but I remember creepy uncles relentlessly offering me rides between 11-20. One of them found out where I lived and parked out front once. From that year until adulthood I wasn’t allowed out of the house without a chaperone.

ilovewinniethepooh · 2021-10-18T08:34:26+00:00

“For some odd reason” = you are at the prime age for older predators to target you.

It’s in the playbook of shittier men to look for women who they can manipulate. If you don’t have a lot of life experience, you are a prime target. Finding a late-teens/early 20s woman to slowly abuse until you are basically their slave/incubator/pornstar/maid/second mother, is an absolute dream for them. There is a reason they will refuse to date women their own age. You have to remain careful even until your late 20s.

Stay safe.

Title	Help, I’m disgusted
Author	AppointmentOver1657
Upvotes	370
Comments	38
Date	October 16, 2021 11:45 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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