Do women only want alpha men?

MilkchocolateHero · 2021-08-21T08:19:06+00:00

In my experience, women do not only want "alpha" men. There are women who are exclusively attracted to those kinds of guys. There are women who have no interest in the same type of guys.

If you try to be someone you're not, eventually the facade will break. Faking your personality can't be kept up forever and will make you miserable.

JoaoRuivoIII · 2021-08-21T09:13:42+00:00

Do men only want female IG models? Same logic...

maliapani · 2021-08-21T09:19:19+00:00

No, not all women want alpha men. What does alpha even mean? If alpha man means a man who's masculine, have a high physical strength, a leader, and a highly resourceful person (well he sounds like a perfect man, this is unrealistic) many women would want him but not all women. An average woman like me would feel anxious around him because he gets to choose a much better woman than me. An 'alpha' man can be a narcissist too, which is a turn off for me.

AvalancheReturns · 2021-08-21T11:22:14+00:00

Venustarr_777 · 2021-08-21T15:48:12+00:00

"Alpha males" don't exist.

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_myth_of_the_alpha_male

bishounensupremacy · 2021-08-21T13:04:50+00:00

how do you define 'alpha men'? confidence, masculinity, independence? arrogance, impulsiveness, aggression? having money and status? pretending to be someone else just to get laid sounds pathetic and it sure as hell isn't gonna work in a long term relationship if you ask me. if your whole identity is being an alpha male who pumps and dumps women you can probably attract the kind of women who'd be into that. even if you're the opposite of an alpha there are still people who'd be interested in you if you properly take care of yourself. role reversal and femdom communities exist for a reason, there are all kinds of women out there

RedPillDetox · 2021-08-21T12:29:48+00:00

Well, hows acting alpha been working for you?

HappyRainbowSparkle · 2021-08-21T08:03:34+00:00

Women want different things much like not all men like the same type of woman, the exact idea of what an alpha male is seems to vary anyway

Kr7731 · 2021-08-22T09:54:51+00:00

It isnt about alpha,it is about being an attractive man. You can be shy or insecure, so long as you are attractive women will fuck you. .

Jgamesworth · 2021-08-22T02:55:01+00:00

It honestly depends on the female, most as a collective I would say many women like men whom of which are a mix of masculinity and femininity. They like men who are natural amd comfortable not men trying to be something they're not. Too many men spend they're lives faking everything, just be yourself bro...as long as you're not an asshole.

perla-madonna · 2021-08-22T13:21:51+00:00

I know short dicked medium ugly losers who are full of girls because they just dont give a damn like I know tall good looking muscular guys with good careers or whatever who cant get laid to save their lives because they get stuck. Really depends what you mean with alpha. IN reality, it just means being able to communicate ur emotions withotu shame or fear, doesnt mean being an asshole, doesnt mean having good genes whatever that means, doesnt mean being rich or strong or whatever. It is a variable which is observed, like honor. SOme guys admire a guy who gets laid a lot (probably because they cant get laid, see forum dwellers and redpillers) and decide he is alpha and place some kind of honor on him.

dunndundun0601 · 2021-08-22T14:54:52+00:00

No. The concept of "Alpha males" is completely subjective. What you think SHOULD be attractive in a mate may be the complete opposite of what the woman ACTUALLY finds attractive in a mate.

The "alphas" are usually throwing money around, talking about all the women they COULD have and are usually empty beneath the surface to me... but to someone else that's extremely attractive.

FastMoneyRecords · 2021-08-22T17:35:38+00:00

I think the foundation of "alpha" is ideal to most women (ie protect, provide, change a tire, fix things around the house, etc.). Over time, ego got infused into alpha talk, and turned it into something different (ie playing mind games, being emotionless, etc.) which not all women will be into.

Women have different tastes and expectations from their dudes, and I believe it's mostly shaped by their upbringing or whatever makes them happy. For example, if you have a woman that's career driven and goal oriented, she might want a man who's very supportive and encouraging, and overall comfortable dating an ambitious woman. On the other hand, you might have a woman who grew up with a stay at home mom, and may want the same for herself one day.

What all women want is a man to be himself and be comfortable, and if y'all are compatible then y'all are set.

JohnWilder1 · 2021-08-21T09:57:44+00:00

Honestly, I feel most people really misunderstand or just don’t get what an alpha male actually is. Being an alpha male dosen’t mean that you gotta be the literal Terminator or The rock. Being an alpha male, at least to me and to a lot of people that I know within the PUA community ( not redpill) means being the best version of yourself. Pursuing and actually reaching the goals you set out to do. Taking care of yourself, your style and your health. Learning how to be confident and feel confident around women and people in general. Being able to approach a woman or a guy and Just Start a conversation and make knew friends or partners this way. If you sleep with a lot of women and you brag about it, then you are not an alpha male because being an alpha male means that you’re responsible and an adult. Having you’re life in control and order. There’s a lot of bullshit about what being an alpha male actually means unfortunately. So yes, most women, at least high quality women, want someone like that. Wether you call that alpha or not dosen’t matter. Women want a guy that can take of himself and of them. They want guy who’s confident and passionate about what he’s doing, job, hobbies, etc. They don’t want a dude who sits at home all day, jerks off to porn, dosen’t work out or at least keeps himself in alle way or form fit, a guy who eats crap all the time and who behaves like a man child. And let’s be honest, we all either have been that person or know that kind of person. And there’s plenty of women like that.

Oistcute · 2021-08-21T10:49:51+00:00

everyone has different tastes. don’t be an “alpha male” just to get a girl, that’s fucking stupid.

PutsWomenOnPedestal · 2021-08-21T12:48:15+00:00

What counts as female attraction though? Is it willingness to date a man? To marry a man? How do you know if any woman is actually attracted to anyone? Without access to a woman’s internal state you can never be sure anyway.

ShesGotSauce · 2021-08-22T02:29:43+00:00

"Alpha" men disgust me. More than anything in the world I like kindness and gentleness. Shared compassion and commitment make me happier than anything you can buy with money.

bmcapers · 2021-08-22T05:05:41+00:00

Dude, alpha is just a made up word to form a hierarchy among men, so they can be able to identify and track one another. Same with the term masculinity. It’s how men with greater resources control men with less, so that they can feel secure about their position and their ability to find and maintain partners. It’s how words like red pill, manosphere, and hypergamy are formed in the YouTube-verse. Don’t give a shit about this matrix and just be true to yourself.

BiWomanHealing · 2021-08-23T04:26:44+00:00

LadyKitana · 2021-08-23T20:49:46+00:00

I have never heard of men using that term “ alpha male”. I saw certain words like “ high value” on dating sites and I immediately swiped left. Thanks to my discovery of this whole red pill movement. Everyone woman is different just like every man.

However if we are going by the typical standard a woman like a man who is confident in who he is, it don’t matter if he is wearing a suit or coveralls. In terms of making money yes there are gold diggers or women in seek of a certain lifestyle but most women want to know if they are going to raise a family and stay at home at least for their mat leave the bills will be paid. Most Women like guys who are kind loyal and have a sense of humour someone they can trust.

Women don’t sit with their girlfriends talking about which man is alpha and who is not. Please don’t get discouraged by this idea.

The red pill definition of a “ alpha male” is a man who is an arrogant selfish man who he believes he is above everyone. Sleeps with multiple woman without any regard, even if they are married. These are the dudes flashing money at the bar talking loud and are Obnoxious women run from these guys. Or take advantage and bounce especially at the club!

They glorify cheating on their wives, they call it “ Exercising options” but for women it’s “cheating”. One thing I find funny is that they call it arrangements however while this is true some of these women also have “ options” they never talk about that lol … it’s called an open marriage , no judgment but these dudes seriously think a lot of women will tolerate their man sleeping with other women while they sit at home the ones who do don’t really care about the guy just his money and again they may cheat on them too it’s too funny! .

2021-08-27T01:19:48+00:00

If given the choice a girl will pick drake over joe schmoe everytime.

That is it in a nutshell.

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HotelAlphaPapaYankee · 2023-10-13T20:33:36+00:00

All women do not want relationship with the alpha male. Yet, all women desire to breed with the alpha male. Their are so many men out their raising kids that are not their it is absolutely disgusting. Appalling.

Delicious_Hand5349 · 2024-10-24T10:34:56+00:00

Men prefer Alpha Males or Rich Beta males all other men stand no chance of getting a woman.

Title	Do women only want alpha men?
Author	spankyourkopita
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Date	August 21, 2021 7:56 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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