Mini Golf/Kayaking First Dates

Space_Gators · 2021-08-24T22:40:57+00:00

I’m a kayaker and a safety nut; I’ve had so many bad experiences kayaking with new people there’s no way I’d consider it until being months into a relationship. I’ve taken out friends only for them to flip in still water on a lake. There’s also a ton of work involved with a kayak outing loading/unloading boats and gear.

Something about it makes you feel closer than you should to a new person if it goes well. My hair also looks like Medusa’s by the end of a trip, I smell like sweat and sunscreen, and if it’s hot or sunny I’m bushwhacked afterwards and not up for anything but an early bedtime.

Not a good date. That’s a boyfriend girlfriend activity. No guy I’ve never/barely met gets to see me with no makeup, in kayak clothes, with Medusa hair. At the very least, I need to determine if he’s an idiot first.

lilac-hiraeth · 2021-08-24T16:30:59+00:00

I would laugh at a mini golf date. I hate mini golf so much. It’s tedious, hot, boring, not good to have flowing communication. Personally I think it’s so creeps can stand behind you and try to “position” you during the game. Nope!

rideoffalone · 2021-08-24T21:11:32+00:00

Because they're cheap.

thighsmatch · 2021-08-24T22:06:26+00:00

I think this is also an orange flag for a certain type of insecure/Peter Pan guy that wants to be quirky and fun and doesn’t want to be basic by asking a woman on a traditional date. The harder a man tries to come up with a super fun original date, the more I figure he just wants to avoid real conversation.

thepsychopathhunter · 2021-08-24T16:24:57+00:00

I believe those activities should be reserved for later dates not first dates and even if it’s a future date it should be combined with something else (so mini golf might be a supplement to a third date dinner for example — something to end the night on a fun note, or kayaking as a romantic outing AFTER dinner on a third date).

Dinner dates where men treat you are best as they are high effort, show the man is interested/willing to invest and you’re in a setting where you can properly focus on getting to know one another. Activity first dates only benefit the man (they’re usually doing something they would do anyway, you’re just along for the ride).

apple_cores · 2021-08-24T20:00:18+00:00

I love mini golfing, bowling, arcades and other activities like that. They’re a good indicator also of how he handles being competitive and losing and/or winning. But I agree, those things alone are not dates, they’re what you do after dinner. Mini golfing in the evening is more fun since it’s cooler and the atmosphere is better with all the lights.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-08-24T23:42:51+00:00

It seems tacky and very young to me. Hold no appeal for me at all. High school stuff.

KevlarSweetheart · 2021-08-25T02:38:54+00:00

The mini golf date just reminds me of Adam Sandler movies. Yuck

Peak_Tree · 2021-08-25T04:18:41+00:00

I'd never go on a kayaking date with an unknown man...sounds potentially dangerous tbh.

fireforestfairy · 2021-08-24T16:26:25+00:00

To portray themselves as sportive men (as many men stereotype women to be only into sportive guys). As for the mini golf part, I suspect they're trying to create the impression that they're into the "high culture" of golf and how they're aiming to play real golf in the future. Not that different from men on OLD describing themselves as business owners and how they aspire to become millionaires.

carmen_sandiegos_hat · 2021-08-24T17:15:23+00:00

I don't even like mini-golf with friends. Also kayaking sounds horrible for a date whether you used a double or single. You're right that it can be stressful with the weather and also with what kinds of sea life exist.

I can't answer your question. I don't know why they choose these. My guess is they wanted to do it anyway and didn't want to go alone.

dancedancedance7 · 2021-08-25T05:21:43+00:00

Lol I love both of those activities with a fiery passion, so I can see the appeal. That being said, a first date is an interview and there need to be zero fun dutch windmill distractions. The man has to be able to carry a conversation without any fun activity crutches.

You have to do what works for you. A HVM won't die of disappointment if you hate mini golf and want a dinner date 😂

Determinedblonde · 2021-08-24T19:49:28+00:00

I find kayaking stressful. These sound like dates when you’re more committed. What’s wrong with these guys that they can’t do the old fashioned dinner and a movie?

comet2004 · 2021-08-25T03:44:30+00:00

Well...its better than a coffee date. But in all seriousness I love mini golf lol but it has to be paired with dinner or something else. One of those things thats great for third dates I feel like.

peaches88888 · 2021-08-24T19:58:33+00:00

Because they want to do things that they are interested in for their own entertainment to avoid having a face to face conversation over dinner. He wants to avoid it looking like an actual date.

I went on a beach/walk date and the guy brought some cider. Then he asked me out again to go kayaking, and I wasn’t available. And then he asked if I wanted to go on a drive to a nearby town. I thought it was weird he wanted to put me in situations that would isolate us.

queenofswordsxxx · 2021-08-24T16:35:15+00:00

Golf is a class signifier.

But maybe they just want you to bend over and show your ass. Then mansplain how to golf and teach you by feeling you up.… you can imagine

Title	Mini Golf/Kayaking First Dates
Author	bonzo0
Upvotes	143
Comments	23
Date	August 24, 2021 4:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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