Serious question: Body hair?

peachez200 · 2020-04-07T16:12:58+00:00

My boyfriend is hairy and I love it. It is masculine and attractive.

Fiebre · 2020-04-07T19:47:40+00:00

As long as it's clean, body hair doesn't bother me so much as to dump someone if I find out they have a hairy back. Again, clean. Especially in places that get stinky or dirty.

madamejesaistout · 2020-04-07T16:13:53+00:00

Do what you feel comfortable with. Try different kinds of hair removal like waxing or Nair, see what works best.

Different people have different preferences, so figure out what you want to look like and be confident in your choice.

nurseratchet1212 · 2020-04-07T16:20:15+00:00

Honestly body hair is a personal preference. I think the "preference to hairlessness" you sense is less about our actual preferences and more about the hypocrisy of LVM to want a women perfectly hairless whilst they won't even do the bare minimum in grooming their facial/pubic/anywhere hair.

FWIW, many think body hair is masculine and attractive. Just practice proper hygiene so you don't look greasy or smell like stank.

grimreapersdtr · 2020-04-07T17:49:40+00:00

I personally don’t mind body hair.

I often wonder when the hairy chests of the 70s will come back in “style”.

The extreme smoothness of men depicted in images often strikes me as unnatural.

I kind of think if you’re a hairy guy to begin with, you might as well embrace it— if a woman insists that you need to wax everything to be attractive, she’s probably not the woman for you. That would be like a short woman trying to win the affection of a man who likes tall women.

I only say that because many hair removal methods are painful, expensive, or cause obnoxious side effects like painful ingrown hairs. I’ve had countless horrific experiences with waxing— I think some people’s hair follicles/skin types simply can’t handle it.

Obviously, if you have wild hairs growing in strange places— like your ears/nose— or you have extremely long eyebrows— trim them.

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-04-07T20:49:43+00:00

Extreme amounts of body hair is gross, sorry.

petaline555 · 2020-04-07T22:59:47+00:00

The best thing is professional laser hair removal, which is the most expensive. Everything else goes down in both price and results. And it's near impossible to get your own back or bottom.

But, seriously only do it if You want less body hair. I personally like a man who can be described as hirsute and so do a lot of people. Like everyone else said just be clean and don't demand hairlessness from your love interest.

greenishpixie · 2020-04-07T17:04:13+00:00

I love a hairy guy haha

throwaway64857 · 2020-04-08T04:39:01+00:00

As long as you are hygienic it doesn't really matter. I've never really heard a woman not like a guy because he was too hairy or not hairy at all, unless he was a literal unwashed ape who's never seen a razor. Dont be a wild animal about it and you're good.

Soulsalts · 2020-04-13T23:52:56+00:00

I've got hair on the tops of my feet too. In fact, I'm extraordinarily hairy all over, for a woman, and have had boyfriends who were naturally less hairy than me. It was shame-inducing and upsetting when I was your age, but I got over it when I slowly learned that none of them cared.

Personally, if I were a very hairy guy, I wouldn't worry about any of it except the back hair. Back hair is the only kind of dude-fur that I hear women complain about.

I would go to a salon and get it waxed once a month or every other month. Depending on where you live, this should cost maybe $15-$40 each time. (Hint: it is considered appropriate to tip). After you've done this enough times, the hair will stop coming back. (What "enough" is differs by person and body part.)

Soulsalts · 2020-04-07T17:19:29+00:00

I had a man who was great at sex, accomplished, and confident. Never thought I'd be into it but his whole personality was so sexy that I LOVED how hairy his body was (he was arab, so very hairy). It wasn't my fav thing at first, but after I fell more in lust with him I lovvved it.

Elegant_Flight · 2020-04-07T16:33:40+00:00

You can buy personal laser hair removal machines. They work really well. Cheap and you can do it yourself.

learningtoquestion · 2020-04-09T02:51:34+00:00

Many women like some fuzz, to varying degrees. It's also worth asking yourself things like : what do YOU like? How much maintenance do YOU want to put up with?

Often, all you're looking to do when it comes to beauty standards is finding the golden mean between the tastes of others and your own. And it takes some trial and error.

Mostly, the key is to groom yourself to a state of balance where you look like you're clean and you care about yourself, but it's not to the point of intricate alien crop circles (...unless that is what you like.) Most people like things to look "natural", even if it's not actually natural at all. These looks also tend to require less upkeep than crop circles. A plus for you. :)

I will tell you right off the bat: the hair on the feet and the back have to go completely. Back hair, especially the top of the back, is something that we tend to think belongs on 60+ year old men. You're young! So lop it off. Hair on feet, for both men and women, personally makes me think of hobbits. So unless your life revolves around the Shire, that foot hair has to go.

For the rest (ie. your chest) I recommend starting with trimming, not shaving. You're grooming while accepting what you have. If you have lots of dark hair high on your chest (around your clavicles), I would recommend trimming the most there and then letting it get a little darker as it goes down. Get a good electric shaver with the trimming extension heads and look at pictures of cool, fuzzy guys. Sean Connery was notorious for his chest, but loads of women liked it. The way it looks here seems well-maintained: https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-E7jSzGLk_3c/UHKXbGpX24I/AAAAAAAAjvk/Ojz6wIRdAWU/s640/vlcsnap-2012-10-08-10h52m55s95.png

Here's one of Chuck Heston that's not bad : https://classicmoviemonsters.blogspot.com/2013/10/chuck-heston-omega-man.html

Notice that in these two pictures, my pointer applies: less hair around the clavicles, letting it get thicker as it goes down. Make sure the chest hairs overall are not so long--remember Austin Powers?

Build up a little library of research to help you, then go and slowly learn. :) Just like anything else!

Tbh it's the same process for a lot of us too. Good luck :) Let me know if you have more questions.

(edits: trying to fix my picture links.)

ErikaNaumann · 2020-04-09T10:49:22+00:00

Different women will have different preferences. So do what you feel comfortable doing, for yourself.

If you do want to go the hair removal way, consider waxing (you will need to go to a salon for that. But it will be painful and something you will have to do monthly). For the long term the best option is laser. It is more expensive but it will be more permanent.

As previously mentioned, whatever you decide, good higyene is the most important thing.

SpiderrG · 2020-04-11T23:26:36+00:00

Trim your beard/don't grow a neck beard. Trim your bush, your junk shouldn't be hiding in it. If your chest hair is excessively thick/long, trim it. Make sure you shower every day at least once because you probably smell if you're super hairy and sweating.

Otherwise, body hair is great and masculine. I prefer it to hairless.

daniell61 · 2020-04-07T19:02:18+00:00

Male here. In my experience hairy isn't an issue. Being unkempt or unclean is.....

I started seriously redoing my hair every where. Better lines better fades better looks and I got more attention and compliments on it. A good hair cut and beard can definitely. Help

E. My so agrees with this as well. And I'm. Borderline a wookie

radical__daphne · 2020-04-07T19:53:11+00:00

I would wax your stomach and back. Most women don't like that despite what the pickmes here are saying.

Title	Serious question: Body hair?
Author	throughcracker
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Date	April 7, 2020 11:16 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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