Women have a pass to be delusional about dating and romance

Reisiluu · 2022-02-08T21:10:59+00:00

How can they be delusional if they get what they want and fulfill their expectations? You just stated that they are delusional without explaining how their views differ from reality or how they have faulty judgement. Thinking differently than men isn't the same as being delusional.

delusional /dɪˈluːʒ(ə)n(ə)l/

characterized by or holding idiosyncratic beliefs or impressions that are contradicted by reality or rational argument, typically as a symptom of mental disorder; based on or having faulty judgement; mistaken

DianeticDelight · 2022-02-08T20:58:01+00:00

Use Tinder with an instagram model as pfp and suddenly womens Personality Detectors™️ all malfunctions.

2022-02-08T21:14:43+00:00

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freespirit1963TJ · 2022-02-08T21:07:30+00:00

Here it is 2022, and people don't realize to an extent dating, relationships and people's roles in them are still guided by old, traditional societal norms and religious beliefs. There probably are more progressive thinking (about this topic) people than there were 25 years ago, but the bottom line is men(not all) are driven by ego and testosterone, and women (not all)are driven by romance and feelings. If you struggle with this idea, go to a social gathering attended by a large group of college age kids. Especially if they're consuming, truth serum......I mean alcohol. It would be much like discreetly watching animals in their natural habitat. There are some individuals who don't fit the mold, but the higher % will.

cowfishAreReal · 2022-02-08T20:44:20+00:00

Wouldn't what you just wrote mean that this only applies to good looking women?

There aren't enough desirable men for all women, so not all of them can get a "pass" mathematically. And you seem to have forgotten that also happens to good looking men. It's almost like being hot is useful in dating, who would have guessed

quiditplomb · 2022-02-08T21:23:46+00:00

Why would it be a delusion if my standards of love and romance have been fully achieved by a LTR? I love having certain standards because it has achieved me pure happiness, and vice versa in my relationship.

“Women’s dating advice is very rarely concrete, pragmatic, and direct” Absolutely not. Too many a time have my girlfriends told me something along the lines “I told him exactly what I want (usually a frequent sex life, effort in household chores, etc.) in a very direct and blunt way, through a sit down conversation and it’s usually met with offence taken or straight up ignorance.

Men claim women try to make them guess what’s going on in their head but when we’re blunt and direct, we’re demanding bitches for wanting the bare minimum in a relationship. That’s just the reality of the situation.

TheRedPillRipper · 2022-02-08T21:31:02+00:00

they can always play the numbers game

Whilst true it doesn’t mean they always win. As regardless of delusion; the market always dictates.

Godspeed and good luck!

Bubbly_Taro · 2022-02-08T20:40:15+00:00

You are allowed to hit the enter key on this subreddit. Makes reading a nicer experience.

As for the OP, I would say that women generally have more inherent value compared to a guy. Write a headline about 104 men and 2 women dying and people will immediately feel sorry for the women.

Imagine the Kursk submarine disaster but all personnel on board are women. This would be a talking point forever. Now most of y'all don't even know it without googling.

The problem is that women are humans, and humans are stupid critters. This is why there is little rhyme or reason on human relationships.

High value women marry low value fatasses. High value men end up on the side of fat country potatoes.

There are a lot more women that are considered high value in the eyes of men than there are men who are considered high value in the eyes of women.

This makes the game stacked against women. So while women are assumed to be higher in value than men they still end up on the side of a person who is perceived to be less valuable.

sarkington · 2022-02-08T20:47:51+00:00

Only if you believe men have no interest in relationships and romance

OneDumbPony · 2022-02-08T20:34:38+00:00

The issue is that the type of men who work on themselves only to hit on "hot" women are not the types of men many "hot" women want.

Pola_Lita · 2022-02-08T20:42:41+00:00

Women have a pass to be delusional about dating and romance

Why would you post this here?

You've already excluded 1/2 the membership from participation. Whatever we might say about romance and dating would instantly be invalidated by our "delusion pass."

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januaryphilosopher · 2022-02-08T20:47:25+00:00

You can find a partner on the basis of your looks, sure. But you can't be successful (have a desirable relationship) based on looks alone. Success simply isn't a given for anyone.

Tiny-Pigeonss · 2022-02-08T21:54:09+00:00

"woman bad"

"Why?"

"WOMAN BAD"

Lateralanouncer · 2022-02-08T20:40:06+00:00

No, social constructs such as contraception, abortion clinics, std clinics and laws are protecting female hypergamouse interests. All have remove/lowered the costs (responsibility) of sex, babies social stigma and etc. I believe instinctively woman can not tell the difference from being used as a fuck AF (F gatekeeper of sex) or being valued (M gate keepers commitment BB) as a wife, mother and etc. It's obvious in male and female comments about the subject. It doesn't matter It's just how it is we need to Adapt.

JacobMugatu666 · 2022-02-08T20:46:41+00:00

I wish one day men would understand that walking around feeling like they have no worth on this planet is what is causing the majority of their problems. The reality is women are merely reacting to what we sub communicate to them. If you sub communicate that you are a worthless piece of shit unfit for human companionship, chances are they will stay away from you. If you find yourself worthy and are satisfied with who you are without any neuroses or insecurities, chances are women and people in general will love being around you, because self accepting, genuinely happy people are rare and inspiring.

cautionTomorrow555 · 2022-02-08T20:54:42+00:00

because by and large they are desired for their appearance

Women have higher appearance requirements for men than men have for women so that shoots a hole in the entire argument.

wtknight · 2022-02-08T21:07:54+00:00

Picking the wrong partner isn‘t much of a dilemma as well, because due to their abundance of options they can always play the numbers game, which women inevitably do.

That would imply that many men get chances at dating, which kind of negates the idea that men have to put a lot of work into attracting someone.

The truth is, men do have to put action into finding casual sex, but for just dating, average men don’t have put in much effort. If a man does have to put in a lot of effort just to date, then he is likely below average in some way.

The OKCupid study shows the reality of this. Women find a minority of men very attractive, but then eventually sent messages to the men who are actually in their league.

This is how dating works. Average men don’t get the hottest women. Average women could get the hottest men for casual sex, but that’s all they’d get.

Because of this, women’s need to optimize their actual dating choices is important, so women’s dating advice involves not as much being proactive like advice for men, but how to screen to find the best man that she can find.

KaleidoscopeEyes12 · 2022-02-08T21:45:26+00:00

studying what the male ideal is and working to fulfill it.

I’ve never met a woman outside of FDS who holds this belief

AnonRb6 · 2022-02-08T21:53:51+00:00

GO watch a Fresh & Fit podcast episode where theres women and yeah, a lot of them are delusional from the get go when it comes to dating...

One episode I recall a women stated that she thought about 90% of guys where having sex, when in reality 1/3 men under the age of 25 are sexless the past year alone... > Very very VERY delusional.

ExtremeNihilism · 2022-02-08T22:01:58+00:00

No, nobody gets a pass not having a personality. It's just easier for women since they get valued on a different metric. I met a woman late last year and traveled a little bit with her, and let me tell you, she was the kind of girl men talk to for her looks, not her personality. As with her and so many (but not all!) women before, they are so used to being rewarded merely for sitting there and existing that they have never worked on themselves, never bothered becoming decent people... they shouldn't get a PASS on that, it's just a useful way to know who is superficial, hypergamous, and sexually excessive. Giving people a pass on bad behavior because it's easier for them to be bad doesn't help them or you.

freespirit1963TJ · 2022-02-08T22:03:03+00:00

Not that it isn't possible, but you are battling a myriad of forces to the contrary. Deep seeded religious indoctrination, tradition and deeply imbedded culture.

Master-Edward-3 · 2022-02-08T23:54:20+00:00

Ah In other words dating tougher for men than it is for women. I am aware of this. Seems like it’s just what it naturally is though. I can’t see an era of mankind history where it’s the reverse and women have courtship harder than men. It’s always been more difficult for men at every time. Even if the man is gifted in most areas he’s still only the anomaly.

Title	Women have a pass to be delusional about dating and romance
Author	Ok-Talk-4303
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Date	February 8, 2022 8:23 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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