Seriously though, this is such a sad truth

ultblue7 · 2022-02-14T16:14:35+00:00

Has anyone been watching Love is Blind Season 2?—This reminded me of the one brown dude who kept harping on about only dating white girls and giving the brown girl hes dating a chance even though “he’s not sexually attracted to her.” I almost threw my laptop out a window at the portrayal of this relationship. Finally hoped for some brown representation and this is the shit I get.

MsWriteNow07 · 2022-02-14T15:43:18+00:00

Two things have helped me with this: 1. Divesting and 2. Realizing that they do not treat the light brites of their dreams any better. I have a friend now who is their fantasy video vixen. Gorgeous, fit girl, light enough to pass with loose curls down her back. when I tell you this girl is forever telling me about her dating woes. And they sound just like the ones I had back when I dated those men. They are cheap, don’t appreciate her, want to rush sex with no commitment, try to rotate her and triangulate her. Being their physical ideal means you’ll get more attention, not that they will treat you better. Look at Rihanna and Beyoncé. There’s literally nothing to be gained by suiting these men’s taste

fireforestfairy · 2022-02-14T16:02:26+00:00

LVM will even treat supermodels with Eurocentric features like shit. They will neg anyone they can about anything they can.

fireforestfairy · 2022-02-14T15:30:21+00:00

Oh yes, a lot of POC men have internalised colourism (and racism), negging women of their own race by telling them how white women are more likely to be beautiful (or maybe they truly think like that).

LoudAdeptness_2 · 2022-02-14T15:47:17+00:00

I want to also state that even being lighter skinned comes with its share of issues

My husband comes from a fairly lighter skinned ethnic group(Pashtuns) and his female relatives often get messaged and even one time stalked by other Pakistani's, overall here in the diaspora community and in Pakistan, Pashtun women get fetishized by many Pakistani and Indian Muslim men, marrying a Pashtun or Turkish woman would be a dream for many south asian Muslim men

so it's either disdain for your natural skin-tone or fetishization

galian84 · 2022-02-14T21:42:26+00:00

Yup. My scrote ex’s “standards” were young women >10 years younger than him and petite Asians 😖

overthinker4444 · 2022-02-15T11:34:58+00:00

My own brother said to me: "Well, you do realize that every man's fantasy is to marry a white woman? White woman are the beauty standard." Why would a guy say this to his own sister?🤣 Am I a threat to him? Loooooool

LoudAdeptness_2 · 2022-02-14T15:00:42+00:00

As awful as my paternal south asian family can be, I'm really glad they weren't colorist like most other families, they had loads of other issues and bigoted views but I never saw any of them expresses colorist views

I guess I'm thankful for that cause I'm a bit darker then most of my family members and no one in my family ever pressured me into using skin whitening creams or remedies

SnooPickles7369 · 2022-02-14T18:19:33+00:00

White men do this too, they idealize “petite, asian women” and take every chance to compare their white gfs to that. So nobody wins, no matter your appearance, skin color, ethnicity etc. You could look like Bella Hadid and a man will still try to bring you down a peg

vagina_shutdown · 2022-03-06T18:38:12+00:00

*ageism and fatphobia

Title	Seriously though, this is such a sad truth
Author	LoudAdeptness_2
Upvotes	1449
Comments	39
Date	February 14, 2022 2:56 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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