I started watching sex and the city (lol) and right of the bat, I don't like Carrie Bradshaw very much, she is a pick-me of the highest magnitude. But this post is less about her and more about the dismal situation of dating in big cities like NYC.

In one of the episodes titled "secret sex", a male friend of Carrie's confides in her how the woman he's dating who's (in his own words)

  1. Smart
  2. Incredibly sweet
  3. The sex is the best sex he's had

BUT isn't gorgeous enough for him to imagine a life with and hence he wouldn't introduce her to his friends or be seen in public with her.

This isn't something new/ ground breaking, I have been on the receiving end of it unfortunately and it honestly baffles me. Men would continue to date you "in the meantime" EVEN marry you while all the while thinking he can do better -- PHYSICALLY.

On the other side of the spectrum, is Charlotte (another of the main characters) who ends up with a man WAY below her league physically, she's absolutely gorgeous but the guy is unfit, hairy and bald. She marries him and has a family with him.

The double standards are where it gets me. MeN aRe viSUaL CreATurEs, evolutionarily? Socially? Culturally? BIOLOGICALLY?

(The worst part is, I have deigned myself enough to date men who were physically beneath me and THEY WERE AS MUCH OF AN ASSHOLE AS THE 6'+ MUSCULAR ONES, if not MORE. Except I didn't date them KNOWING it was going nowhere and to hide them.)

Ah, perhaps women actually treat men as humans while expecting the same is too much to ask, clearly.

I wish, men stopped viewing women as guilty pleasure objects they wouldn't be caught dead with. Like hiding a bar of chocolate from people you'd want to think highly of you.

Anyways, this was my opinion, what do you ladies think about this dynamic?