Boohoo! It's so hard to date as a wymynZ. There are literally too many men to choose from and NONE of them are good enough! C'mon, man! Won't someone be worthy enough to date her??? | WhereAreAllTheGoodMen

Impressive-Cricket-8 · 2022-02-21T17:40:21+00:00

You can't be used for sex if there was consent. You wanted it as much as the guy, you decided to take a gamble to see if things would go as you hoped they would and, when they didn't, you realised you made a bad choice. But, somehow, it was the guy's fault.

And if you're having that many horror stories, you really should analyse your selection parametres.

denvercaniac · 2022-02-21T17:44:49+00:00

So if online dating doesn't work, stop doing it?

WeRAllOnThisBlessedD · 2022-02-21T18:28:59+00:00

gets 100s of matches

still complains

What these women don’t understand is that at least they are getting some form of attention from the opposite sex. There are so many men out there who go months if not years with nothing. No matches, no texts, no likes on social media posts, nothing, and it takes a severe toll on their mental health (but we all know that nobody cares about men’s mental health). It leads to depression, anger, and even suicide.

Women, on the other hand, have no problem getting male attention. They’ve been getting it for so many years that they just take it for granted. That’s why they can get online and cry about “I’ve had so many dates but nothing seems to work out”, meanwhile there are guys that would love to get even 1 date a month. She complains about being “used” for sex, but for a man that could make his year, because even shallow attention from women is better than nothing at all.

Eterniter · 2022-02-21T17:49:27+00:00

Jumps from penis to penis and wonders why she can't find a quality man.

My guess is even all those men she jumped on hoping one would want something more with her, were selected with qualities such as looks and prestige and not character.

In short, she chooses men who can have almost any woman, and is astonished when said men don't want exclusivity. How does she choose to proceed with this newly acquired experience? By dating the next good looking and/or rich man.

Aldabruzzo · 2022-02-21T20:27:43+00:00

I personally am beyond tired of this shit. Dating, mating, sex, and marriage are all objectively more difficult for men by every conceivable metric. Always have been, always will be. It is not more difficult for women, at all, ever. Men have it harder, at all times, in every arena, in every possible way.

I am so tired of hearing women bitch about having to sort through chaff. At least they have things to sort through. At least they have men showing interest.

I am so fucking goddamn tired of hearing women bitch about mediocre sex, bad sex, weird sex, uncomfortable sex. At least they're getting sex with a minimum of effort. So you had to do some actual work. So it didn't work out perfectly. So he wasn't Henry Cavill. Boo fucking hoo. I don't feel bad for you, I don't feel sorry for you. At least youre getting sex. Sex is not nothing. Sex has worth and value and at least you're getting some.

Dating IS easier for women. in every possible way. The most difficult things women face in dating is whether to pursue Chad (again) for casual sex (again) or let any number of nonChads spend their money on her for maybe some sex or a pity handjob.

Invictus_44 · 2022-02-21T17:56:02+00:00

I really want a Ferrari

But I can only afford an average car

Life's unfair!

thedukeinc · 2022-02-21T17:39:53+00:00

Boohoo.. can some of you gentlemen start a pity party for these strong wyman who thinks none of her 100s matches are worth her time

lurkerhasarisen · 2022-02-21T19:14:13+00:00

So. Much. To. Unpack.

Where to begin? Oddly enough, good women (the women our critics claim we don't acknowledge), don't tend to have these sorts of problems. In any case, even if she's right about the quality of her matches it's still better to have 500 matches than five matches. Even if 99% of matches are bad, she still has five good matches, while most guys don't get any.

OLD turned dating into a numbers game. It's as simple as that, and young women love it. Mega-Chads like it, too, but everyone else gets hosed. The difference is that most men never get a turn at the top, while virtually all women do, but only for a while. If a woman who takes care of herself is complaining about OLD it's a cinch that she squandered her time at the top. People who are winning don't complain about the rules.

By what she admits we can surmise that she spent years plying certain guys with sex, and rather than going all-in with one good long-term man, she only went balls-deep with a bunch of "hawt" guys... the same guys all the other OLD thots were banging. Every woman has a choice, and she has to make it early (maybe they could use some of that "girls mature faster than boys" stuff they keep talking about). She can go the "modern" route of sexual liberation or the "traditional" route of giving her best years to her "forever man" in exchange for his lifetime protection and provision. What few women manage to get, however, is both. That's where "You can have it all" meets harsh reality, and by the time a woman like her has been ejected from the carousel it's too late to pick the other lane. Indeed, that's what this sub is all about, and why it is not a "hate" sub or an "anti-woman" sub. My wife made the traditional choice and she's certainly not complaining about bad matches on swipe apps... she's far to busy doing things like planing our overseas vacations and pondering whether we should buy the $5000 bed or the $4000 bed with cash. (We went with the $5000 bed.)

In any case, the preferences of women drive OLD just as they drove the dating market when I was in college (when dinosaurs roamed the Earth). The SexRev broke the cartel and now it's every woman for herself, and women collectively delegated all the power to the "hawtest" guys. That means that she either has to give those guys what they want (sex) and take what they give (not much), or she needs to pick men in her MMV category rather than just men in her SMV category.

Or she can resign herself to being alone. Whatever she decides, it's not my problem, nor is it the problem of women like my wife. I'm just here to warn people against making such mistakes.

SirLoose12 · 2022-02-21T18:32:40+00:00

"I don't like the consequences of my choices. I need someone else to blame!"

saucey_cow · 2022-02-21T19:58:42+00:00

If after hundreds of different men, and you are unable to find a single one that's worthwhile, are you sure it's THEM that's the problem? Because the common denominator here is that YOU'RE the problem!

This logic can be applied to most things in life. If everyone is bad or wrong, are you sure it's them, or is it really you?

I have no sympathy, and it's clear she's biased and trying to downplay certain things "It was just because of my glasses", lol, sure it was.

NBA_MSG · 2022-02-22T00:00:37+00:00

Make a profile pretending to be a guy. Then you can tell us all about how women have it just as bad

SwinginPastMyKnees_ · 2022-02-21T20:29:09+00:00

These women act like the few matches a man gets are all ideal. Some men are lucky to get a handful of matches. However, they are also unlucky in that they end up matching with these entitled princesses who expect the world.

V_M · 2022-02-21T20:21:30+00:00

Uses an app designed to facilitate one night stand hookups solely via visual first impression of one picture; acts surprised it doesn't also work at selecting guys into long term relationships or selecting guys whom have any quality of any sort other than looking nice in one picture at first glance.

The guys she met haven't been that great, but she needs to consider that if she's using a hookup app to find the hottest guys, she might not deserve great guys. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

flowingwisdom13 · 2022-02-21T19:38:40+00:00

She seems to be completely oblivious to the fact that at least she gets matches and therefore an entry point and the possibility to choose

OddBelt987 · 2022-02-21T23:22:13+00:00

The more you reward a certain behavior, the more you’re going to get.

If women en masse decided to stop rewarding Chad Thundercock and Harley McBadBoy with no-strings sex, and instead gave their attention to Steady Eddie who wasn’t pushing for sex on the first date, you would see the relationship marketplace turn on a dime.

But that’ll never happen as long as women continue to choose men with their groins and not their brains.

Nugundam0079 · 2022-02-22T01:26:20+00:00

Women telling me what a " real man" is and it's almost always in some way a benefit for them.

CarpAndTunnel · 2022-02-21T19:37:05+00:00

I know its true because they scream it in my face

Bob_and_Virginia · 2022-02-21T20:26:10+00:00

Once again, it's men's fault that women couldn't find "quality" matches on dating apps. /s

Profitglutton · 2022-02-21T22:58:36+00:00

Even if I tried my hardest I couldn't even begin to feel sorry for her "plight". Most men are living in the third world of dating and women like her are living in the first world with first world dating problems.

Nugundam0079 · 2022-02-22T01:21:47+00:00

I'm tired of women basically treating men with crap and not being able to vent about it without harpies screeching assumptions about how I pay for it

NBA_MSG · 2022-02-22T00:02:22+00:00

OK lady, matches=chances. You can't do anything if you don't get a damn chance. Just because you suck at managing your chances doesn't mean it isn't easier for women.

Boar_excrement · 2022-02-22T00:20:18+00:00

This missive is actually a plea for a good man to come and rescue this princess who is drowning in a sea of mediocrity.

Basically, it sounds like a post-Wall thot who could not stick the landing off the cock carousel and now finds her dating pool to be too mundane. Oh the agony of choosing among the average. C'mon men, we can shed a tear for this thot who has fallen on hard times (and into the dating pool of the mediocre.)

Mister_McDerp · 2022-02-22T11:36:49+00:00

Her last paragraph is actually the important one. Correct: Less matches don't make for better quality. So however you look at it: More matches is better if you're actually looking for success, simple math. Ergo: More matches = easier. Women HAVE it easier in dating. That doesn't mean they have it actually easy if they want a relationship. Just less hard.

MastermindX · 2022-02-22T11:47:43+00:00

If she's getting so many matches, there's no doubt she could match with hundreds of good, hard working men who want a relationship and get almost zero matches. She chooses to only swipe right with chads and players, and then acts surprised when they only want to hook-up with her.

Take some responsibility.

cautionTomorrow555 · 2022-02-21T19:54:21+00:00

The women as mens options are no better the only difference is their is less of them. Women are not automatically going to be higher quality.

throwaway63847362 · 2022-02-22T18:35:37+00:00

Women have it so much easier for online dating. Even the 1s get alot of matches. Because of that they only go for the top percentage of men. I've also been seeing alot of "I won't message first" in women's bios. To me that's a huge red flag. Now look at how many matches men get or how hard men have to work to even get a match.

SuicidalBeing · 2022-02-23T18:30:47+00:00

Spoiled ungrateful bitch.

Hy3w_mong0u5 · 2022-02-24T06:27:18+00:00

"Waahhh waaaaah waaaaahh every time I go to a restaurant I have waiters lining up to bring me food, but none of it is the food that I like. It's not fair, I'm literally STAAAAAAAARVING"

*literal homeless guy outside the restaurant*

Their lack of self-awareness is nothing new at this point.

PaulWrit · 2022-03-01T02:22:48+00:00

She gets matches though. When I tried OLD all I got was fakes and bots.

She's complaining because out of hundreds of matches she can't find anyone of quality she likes. That's a her problem. Too bad so sad. Cry me a river.

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