Is it normal as you get older to become numb to women's feelings (for heterosexual men, specifically)?

GridReXX · 2022-03-09T17:51:19+00:00

Q4M and Q4M OPs have to be posed by the opposite gender.

KirthWGersen · 2022-03-09T16:45:09+00:00

Over time, I have come to find women's emotional swings more amusing and cute than anything else.

If you can't do that, then indifference is definitely better for both you and her than having your own emotions swayed by hers.

Malgurath · 2022-03-09T16:59:18+00:00

Depends on the woman, I've found most women's emotions pretty easy to read, but once women start playing that "You should know" card I check out, not willing to put up with a 23 year old child who can't communicate.

InfiniteEating · 2022-03-09T16:59:55+00:00

because they were missing her favorite Ben and Jerry's flavor for example

Who the fuck are you dating??????

modidlee · 2022-03-09T16:45:38+00:00

Yes. Because you realize many of the problems you have with your girlfriend/wife/ etc come from her being upset about you not catering to her needs and wants. Many of them try to make you feel that they’re not happy because you’re some bad person. But once you get to the point where you realize it’s not your life purpose to make a woman happy you become numb to the insults and guilt tripping

ex_red_black_piller · 2022-03-09T17:03:46+00:00

> Last girlfriend crying in my car because they were missing her favorite Ben and Jerry's flavor for example

Wut

LeadInfusedRedPill · 2022-03-09T16:57:49+00:00

People naturally empathize with the emotions of people around them, especially those they care about. As we get older our emotions generally become a bit more stable, so we aren't tugged around by emotional tides as much.

2022-03-09T17:32:18+00:00

I ignore women's tears after I learnt that (a) they can just do it to manipulate us and (b) how easy it is to make them cry.

With the exception of my friend who's uncle died.

I've ignored women crying for like 5 years now can't say my life hasn't improved greatly tbh.

2022-03-09T16:50:54+00:00

..what the fuck?

EstablishmentKooky50 · 2022-03-09T17:11:23+00:00

Yeah, it's normal. Emotions are not the ground to build your world on. Men have to perform, we must understand that reason and logic is the no1. tool to achieve success and that requires us to be in control of our emotions. Women are not required to be emotionally stable on the same level as men, so - generally - they will lead with emotions, they will make decisions, based on emotions first. One way to overcome the problems coming from this is to become numb.

2022-03-09T17:19:45+00:00

Sounds like you're developing into more of a "man" and slowly becoming more red pilled inadvertently.

caption291 · 2022-03-09T17:18:05+00:00

I know this is a little much for this sub but I believe this piece by Nietzhe might be able to answer your question about the nature of empathy in an antifragile manner.

There's a simpler version for those who don't fully comprehend the first.

SuspiciousRule · 2022-03-09T17:21:07+00:00

Just curious but why women specifically. Like if it was child or male friend would you still be empathic. Is it really just the gender or is it the circumstance, like you become less tolerance to issues and emotional reponse you find are stupid.

afkawayrn · 2022-03-09T16:48:36+00:00

Yes. And if you’re becoming more and more higher value will increase it as well.

Life is all about experiences, when you’re young and naive you make tons of relationship mistakes. When you’re older you know what you want and won’t let anything away that, when you’re younger you will go with the flow of your girl. You’re just happy to have it when you’re young and simping

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-09T17:44:33+00:00

Women often use manipulation and emotional blackmail to get what they wants being immune to it is probably the hottest thing a guy can do.

geometersbane · 2022-03-09T16:51:19+00:00

Men naturally assume a parental role. The crying over nothing won't stop.

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RandomAttackHelpMe · 2022-03-09T17:38:42+00:00

Oh I’ve always or long felt that way over peoples petty shit.

bubble_gummmmm · 2022-03-09T17:41:18+00:00

Im still young(22) but i can say that back in my teenage years i had way more admiration towards the opposite gender than i do now.

I think become aware of things like "Woman are Wonderful Effect" and exposed to the girls room talk on social media makes man see that bitterness, shallowness and hate are not exclusive to man, and its way more tied to the opposite gender than you have ever thought before.

Yes, its common knowledge that online places are more often than not, surrounded by toxicity, so you must know how to filter but IOH sometimes you can learn something relevant.

Slyfer_Seven · 2022-03-09T17:41:53+00:00

You learn how to better filter what's real vs what's not. In my 20's I wouldn't realize just how emotional women are and would take it at face value whenever they'd breakdown. Now, the first thing I do is think of what the date is and 9 times out of 10 it's just cycle related emotions which just requires steadfast calmness to not get roped into whatever shit they're feeling and then feeding them chocolate.

So I'm not numb to it, I'm just more aware of what it actually is...

Sad_Top1743 · 2022-03-09T17:45:40+00:00

I think people just give less fucks about shit the older we get. Perhaps you had an ex that cried a lot so you know where it’s going.

DiscoVersailles · 2022-03-09T17:54:05+00:00

Well this is a depressing thread, though I’m not sure what I expect from PPD.

I cry easily around my fiancé. Sometimes it’s about serious emotional stuff. Sometimes it’s, in retrospect, complete nonsense. I’ve never been much of a crier, in my edgy teenage years I prided myself on not crying much, and my upbringing didn’t match tears with much coddling.

I feel emotionally safe around my fiancé. I don’t have to put on a stone faced, girlboss front like I tend to do in daily life. There’s emotional safety in our relationship that allows the both of us to feel the full breadth of our emotions and express them to each other.

So yeah, I don’t think it’s normal to see your girlfriend crying, for any reason, and a nuisance. You should still feel empathy in some way, and want her to feel better. You might have a different way of approaching a situation like an ice cream flavor being sold out. Your solution might be to get a different brand or flavor, maybe she just needed to let the feelings get out and pass before moving on. Either way, if someone you allegedly love is in distress you should care about them.

noocaryror · 2022-03-09T19:08:35+00:00

Woman tears are really watered down compared to man tears.

Title	Is it normal as you get older to become numb to women's feelings (for heterosexual men, specifically)?
Author	Archon-Draigo
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Date	March 9, 2022 4:40 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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