Contemplating Divorce

JD-Anderson · 2022-09-25T16:48:11+00:00

So, your wife has given you 2 options and you are trying to decide which one is best. Remove your kids from their home and move them across the country without their father, or don’t have a job or income or a place to live and drive around with the kids. Do any of these options sound like a good idea to you?

If the answer is no, then you produce some options. Maybe she can leave the house and rent an apartment while she gets her act together and you keep the kids in the primary residence? Maybe another option, idk all the details of your life.

Point is, her happiness is not primary, it’s your kids’ welfare that is primary. She doesn’t seem to care about that, so secretly lawyer up if you need to and take the advice from the other men on here as how to proceed. I don’t know why you are letting her dictate everything in your family’s life. That’s gonna need to stop quickly.

furiousmustache · 2022-09-25T16:40:24+00:00

Pretty sure she cant just take your kids away to California like that. Talk to a lawyer about it ASAP.

Electronic_Savings71 · 2022-09-25T17:37:42+00:00

I would speak with an attorney to see if she can even move them across the country without your consent. That doesn’t seem like she’d be able to make that decision unilaterally. I wouldn’t concede to either of her options. She is controlling the entire situation and that is entirely unfair. You should have a say in this as well.

Character_Hippo90 · 2022-09-25T18:09:21+00:00

You should be scrambling to alter your finances so she only has limited access to household expenses solely. Next, contact an attorney to learn your liabilities. Reveal nothing to her. Also, her weekly therapy sessions might really be another affair happening.

cdjohnny · 2022-09-25T19:10:45+00:00

I’d take option 3. Stay where ur, keep making money and she finds an apartment to live in. This is in the best interests of the kids.

Character_Town_3983 · 2022-09-26T00:16:55+00:00

As others have said: talk to a lawyer. She probably can't do what she's saying she can and you need to protect your assets and your relationship with your kids. They will let you know what could realistically happen and what you should do next. There's good advice here as well, but a lawyer is what you need.

jc1744 · 2022-09-26T04:56:48+00:00

Know that she can take the kids wherever she wants without your consent until you file for divorce. Once you file, she can't take them anywhere without your consent.

blndrchf · 2022-09-25T17:18:11+00:00

This sounds eerily similar to my situation. Except my ex wife wanted to move our 12 and 15 yr old kids from the us to the Uk which has a completely different secondary education system. I tried to reason with her and was not successful. I filed for divorce in the state we reside in and that pretty much stopped her moving away with the kids.

captainchippsixx · 2022-09-25T19:47:24+00:00

Lawyer can protect your parental rights. She can’t just move with the kids. You should probably see one anyway and get a good one. Get ahead of this now to prevent bs accusations and protect the finances. I spouse that talks about leaving with kids usually takes a big chunk of money. She may have a plan in place already. Don’t drag on this. Do it. You can always stop a divorce. But once they wipe accounts and flee the state, it makes it very hard to hold her account accountable. She can invent all sorts of stories.

Get ahead of this.

CRobinsFly · 2022-09-25T20:40:48+00:00

Once you file, she can't just up and leave and take the kids to CA, that's a great way for her to lose custody and even be charged with parental kidnapping. She sounds stupid to even threaten you with that - a lot of women now-a-days are truly delusional regarding their "power" as a parent.

Like other comments have said: you need to adjust your financials to protect yourself, she's gonna come for them for sure. Secondly, and I hate to echo this: her therapy sessions are likely an affair on the side; she's proven she's unfaithful and "therapy" is just a cover.

RideATX · 2022-09-25T21:20:17+00:00

Texas is pretty good about not letting the custodial parent relocate with the children as long as you are involved in their life. Talk to a Lawyer, but it should be pretty unlikely can can carry out that threat.

upvotersfortruth · 2022-09-26T03:27:13+00:00

she’s recently quit her job and trying to make herself better.

If you're gonna file, file before that becomes the new normal. She needs to be working.

Title	Contemplating Divorce
Author	BigdogAnon23
Upvotes	11
Comments	31
Date	September 25, 2022 4:38 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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