As a woman, I want to apologize to all of you good men out there

arrouk · 2022-10-20T07:12:01+00:00

You shouldn't apologise for all women, you are not responsible for them.

Men also are not responsible for each other and should be judged as individuals.

If that standard was applied in society then many mens and womens problems would just melt away.

bottleblank · 2022-10-20T03:39:15+00:00

No need to apologise for something you didn't do, but the gesture is appreciated.

JustSomeYukoner · 2022-10-20T02:41:53+00:00

You’re a rare woman out there. I’m excited for your son and how he’ll be raised.

Keep being you. You’re heard, and appreciated.

Mycroft033 · 2022-10-20T07:42:50+00:00

I really appreciate your understanding of men’s issues, but please don’t apologize for your entire gender, there’s no need to. First, as you know, women aren’t a monolith, so it’s pretty hard to apologize for all of them. Second, you seem to be quite the kind and decent person, so I don’t see why you should apologize for things you didn’t do. I could kind of get your point if you were saying something like “I used to hate all men and now I realize how I was cruel to them because of my hatred”, even though it would be more of a “why not try to apologize to them or if that’s impossible, at least just vow to treat people better in the future, why bring the sub into it” reaction. But that would be at least understandable because you were actually involved.

I recognize that this is coming from a place of sympathy and empathy. For that, I appreciate it, and applaud your courage in thinking on your own. I understand you want to help men overcome these issues, and that’s awesome.

But this isn’t really going to help anyone because you can’t apologize for things you never did, and you don’t need to put yourself down like that. You survived abuse and didn’t let it scar you for life. That’s already amazing. You don’t need to do this. This post, while I understand it’s well-intentioned, isn’t the way to go about helping men.

Here’s how I would recommend you do it, and you’re probably already doing it. Treat the men in your life with kindness. Smile at them, compliment them, maybe even give them a hug once in a while, be gracious to them. You’ll make their week. Do it equally to all the men you know so they can’t mistake it for romantic interest. Seek out the ones who are shy and help them outgrow their boxes (but don’t force it lol, that’s a bit of a tightrope to walk to be honest). Maybe become like a big sister to a guy who doesn’t have one. Encourage the ones who are just “okay”. Go out of your way to appreciate the things they do that normally go unnoticed. The little things work wonders on the men around you. None of these are things you have to do, but all of them can save lives and pull men out of depression. If you help the men around you feel like they’re worthy human beings who deserve love and respect, that will do wonders.

I hope this helps a little bit. Thank you for your post.

UnfurtletDawn · 2022-10-20T03:44:18+00:00

No, you haven't done anything wrong.

Don't apologize for things you haven't done.

You are an individual not just part of 50% of population.

zulhadm · 2022-10-20T13:32:44+00:00

Great post, but OP is not a woman: https://reddit.com/r/bisexual/comments/y8xcnr/hey_bros_a_few_months_ago_i_came_out_to_my_dad_he/

pappo4ever · 2022-10-20T04:37:28+00:00

Be strong for your kid, most of us knows that the only woman that will ever love us for what we are, is our mom.

WayfadedDude · 2022-10-20T14:34:22+00:00

Is this you "woman"?

https://imgur.com/T1vhX1I

https://reddit.com/r/bisexual/comments/y8xcnr/hey_bros_a_few_months_ago_i_came_out_to_my_dad_he/

Alone-South3611 · 2022-10-20T02:53:22+00:00

Thank you for your words, and stay safe out there.

Raphe9000 · 2022-10-20T05:36:56+00:00

Just so you know, you don't owe anyone an apology. You aren't part of the problem due to something you have no control over, and acknowledging the issues at all makes you part of the people working for the solution.

AlarmedHomework1171 · 2022-10-20T07:47:04+00:00

Thank you very much, I just have one question: can you be more obviously fake?

DayvyT · 2022-10-20T18:28:05+00:00

I will give $1,000 if a woman wrote this. Spoiler alert, I checked OP's profile, hes a man.

Before I checked I was pretty damn certain it was a man. LPT for anyone reading this, women don't speak like this:

Women get everything they want just for being pretty. It’s stupid. Work hard and live a respectable life, men and women.

This was a dead give away to me that it was not actually a woman writing this. Not too surprised that reddit, of all places, fell for it

-EndMyLifeFam- · 2022-10-20T07:41:48+00:00

Lmao guss falling for this really haven't learned anything

Futureman999 · 2022-10-20T08:08:48+00:00

raging twats raise hell over how they think they have it worse.

I was just thinking that today when I saw this article:

Anne Hathaway reflects on the ‘hate’ she endured after winning her Oscar

Really? A beautiful, rich, famous actress gave a Brie Larson-style speech at "Elle’s Women in Hollywood event" to complain somebody said a mean thing to her that time after she hit a career peak goal at age 29 that many talented actors never do.

She must have reached DEEP to find a micro-trauma to talk about...

What would she have done if she had experienced 1% of the bloody violence I have in my lifetime? OD on antidepressants after decades of therapy? Really, some people encounter actual real world violence just once and they never recover. We've amplified women's micro-problems (somebody said mean words) beyond all reason, while men die all the time through violence or dangerous job accidents and nobody cares.

IntrospectiveCitizen · 2022-10-20T02:43:13+00:00

Thanks... I appreciate it.

Derpalator · 2022-10-20T10:29:36+00:00

"A girl can hit you, but if you do anything to stop her and don’t just take it, you’re the one who will be arrested."

Actually, if a girl hits you and you DON'T do anything to stop her, you will STILL be arrested. Law enforcement looks at the situation as thus: violence has happened, must protect the weaker of the two involved. THAT IS IT. Ask me how I know.

land_japan · 2022-10-20T12:28:29+00:00

Virtue signalling on this post is just too damn high.

Viesegel · 2022-10-20T05:27:09+00:00

It's well meant, but you don't need to apologize on behalf of others.

small-iq · 2022-10-20T15:23:43+00:00

Please don't. They're nothing more cringe than someone apologizing for other people who just happen to belong to the same physical category as them.

ManFromEire · 2022-10-20T05:49:11+00:00

Women are great too. I have never met women like the likes of the women in twox or the other ones we all know. They must live in the sewers.

I have nothing but positive interactions with women.

ReWildingOfMen · 2022-10-20T06:25:42+00:00

God bless you my love.

Your words are so appreciated.

And I'm sorry that terrible men have hurt you, I like to think that one day, such so called men will be made to pay a heavy price for such wickedness.

Take care of that son of yours. And find him a good man who can be in his life - maybe a friend or a brother to you. As your son will need a good man in his life, in order for him to become a good man.

And ofc safety first. Keep you and him safe first and foremost.

Much love to you

Lon3Wo1f-117 · 2022-10-20T06:46:49+00:00

I appreciate the gesture, but that's not necessary. I'd hope this group never demands for such a thing the way BLM and Feminists do.

ShwarmaMusic · 2022-10-20T14:15:45+00:00

This gives me the vibe of a troll

narfywoogles · 2022-10-20T06:55:39+00:00

So many women develop empathy for men only when they give birth to boys or are forced to see it.

It’s a highlighter on out matriarchy.

shit-zen-giggles · 2022-10-20T04:49:31+00:00

Glad you could overcome these abusive situations and also out grow them mentally.

Thank you for your empathy. It's sadly rare these days on both sides.

Much love and respect to you as well.

LionVenom10 · 2022-10-20T09:03:47+00:00

I’d appreciate this more of this wasn’t an “I’m not like the other women” post. If you have every right to hate men then hate us, instead of bragging about being too morally superior to be like that. Instead of fighting men all the time it or apologising to them so as to stand out, women should just mind their own business, and treat people as individuals, instead of generalising men and women, be it good or bad generalisations.

Professional-You2968 · 2022-10-20T08:54:33+00:00

Thank you! I personally appreciate that all of us have our struggles and that they shouldn't be in opposition, also nowadays it's a struggle to avoid generalizations due to our collective adhd.

needalife94 · 2022-10-20T09:07:06+00:00

Thank you for your understanding of mens issues. Really appreciate it.

Ramzabeo · 2022-10-20T09:12:04+00:00

Thank you for noticing, you sound like a damn fine woman

toph88241 · 2022-10-20T09:12:57+00:00

All the best to you and your boy.

Practical-Rooster691 · 2022-10-20T10:01:09+00:00

💛💛💛

ThrowAway29307845034 · 2022-10-20T11:31:07+00:00

Thank you. This means a LOT.

Fast-Mongoose-4989 · 2022-10-20T11:49:10+00:00

Thank you

AmazingFlightLizard · 2022-10-20T12:58:46+00:00

If you’ve done that stuff yourself, then sure. Apologize to the guys you’ve done it to, and I hope you can all come away smarter and feeling better about yourselves.

But no one person can apologize on behalf of an entire group of people to another entire group of people.

Florentinaonly · 2022-10-20T13:40:20+00:00

Is this a stupid feminists reunion talking bullshit about men?

mrmensplights · 2022-10-20T14:20:31+00:00

You've acknowledged that something is very wrong with how men are treated in society which is amazing. Instead of taking responsibility for that by apologizing, take responsibility by getting involved in men's rights and helping men. Apologizing is an injustice because you didn't cause the situation personally, but there's still so much work to do to get society to recognize and address these issues.

Thank you for acknowledging that men have issues they are dealing with as well. Take care.

traveller1976 · 2022-10-20T14:51:37+00:00

Thank you dear lady for your beautiful words. You can help by trying to reverse the brainwashing of your fellow females. In the meantime men should be very careful with their time, money and sperm.

AdamnEvey · 2022-10-20T14:57:40+00:00

War on men is crazy right now.. we need men.

_Renardeau · 2022-10-20T15:05:00+00:00

I hope you and your kid will be OK.

DurianOne7313 · 2022-10-20T16:00:31+00:00

Thank you for even thinking this. I was having a really horrible week, 3 kids and a marriage that is honestly dying right now. I don't know what to do but for some reason this helped a little for 5 minutes. Guess I'll just man up and get back to work

brandon24745 · 2022-10-20T16:56:17+00:00

Big Boys don't cry...

WasteDistribution738 · 2022-10-20T17:11:48+00:00

It's a trap fuck this woman she dosent give a shit about men just wants to look good fuck all woman

blaizken_420 · 2022-10-20T07:31:44+00:00

Oh my god. We get these virtue signalling posts every other week. Can you imagine posting the inverse in a feminist sub? No? Then go away.

Waratah888 · 2022-10-20T03:55:30+00:00

Your objectivity is refreshing

Albertsongman · 2022-10-20T04:02:20+00:00

Thank you for this. A much needed antidote to irascible behavior. I am by no means perfect but I am a good man. … Women should give men a chance. Men should give women a chance. We should all give each other a chance. 😊

somethingneet · 2022-10-20T03:55:24+00:00

The sad fact is that your kid will grow up in the same kind of world we did

mixing_saws · 2022-10-20T09:07:58+00:00

Society tells you you can’t get mad at a woman or she might say you hit her.

The only real solution is to avoid women altogether as much as possible.

Society says if you show emotion or cry, you’re weak

The only people you should show weakness to is your therapist or some very close friends. Otherwise you get eaten alive and your weaknesses exploited. Its like showing the enemy the secret entrance to your castle. Dumbest idea ever.

If a girl changes her mind after having sex with you, she can claim rape and turn your life upside down.

No onenight stands. Period. If you wanna fuck go get an escort. There are also lots of high tech sex toys and combined with VR it gets pretty close to the real deal.

A girl can hit you, but if you do anything to stop her and don’t just take it, you’re the one who will be arrested.

Again, avoid women altogether. Follow the pence príncipe. If that doesnt work consider a bodycam.

You can get a woman pregnant with your baby, but she can choose to end the baby’s life without your permission even if you want the baby.

Both persons involved need to want the baby. There needs to be some official legal binding form and ruley around that. If the man doesnt want the baby he should be able to opt out of paying child support.

If you want a baby as a man, the best way is surrogacy.

Moms automatically get custody unless it’s an extreme situation

Again go for surrogacy if you want a child.

Dads are lucky to get time off when their baby is born

There needs to be legal changes

All the pressure to provide for your family.

Surrogacy, you get the good stuff without the bad (insane wife ready to take you to the cleaners at her will because she will always be believed and doesnt even need any evidence)

Get your emotional needs met by some good friends and maybe a pet. Never ever marry! Its a contract that rewards the women when she breaks it. You dont sign contracts like that.

We men need to act like this if we want change! If we just play along with our female abusers nothing will change. Because why would they change anything if we always play along?

Shadowdragon409 · 2022-10-20T11:03:05+00:00

I really appreciate the support. We need more people like you.

I do however need to disagree with the idea that a woman must carry to term if the father wants it. I can agree that his wishes should be considered, but it's ultimately up to the mother whether she should carry to term or not. That being said, the father should also have the ability to cleanse himself of the responsibility if he so wishes.

koncernz · 2022-10-20T06:42:48+00:00

Thank you but it’s much worse than that.

Society tells you you can’t get mad at a woman or she might say you hit her.

No woman actually do this.

If a girl changes her mind after having sex with you, she can claim rape and turn your life upside down.

No, it wouldn’t “turn your life upside down”. It destroys you emotionally and sometimes drives men to suicide. It is rape.

Society says if you show emotion or cry, you’re weak.

No, women say this.

You can get a woman pregnant with your baby, but she can choose to end the baby’s life without your permission even if you want the baby.

No, that’s not the problem.
Women have the child whether you’re ready or not; they might have the child whether you even know or not. Then you are forced by law to help support it- even of it’s a one-night-stand from several years prior.

It sounds like exaggeration even just to say. But it happens. A lot.

IceCorrect · 2022-10-20T11:41:00+00:00

I pray that someday we have real equality. Men and women side by side.

This statements are contrary. Men and women dont need to be equal, but they need to be complementary, but women today proved that if they can outsource typical manly job from men they would rather be single, so I would say women dont want to be in relationship with men in the end

Significant-Walk7968 · 2022-10-20T03:13:44+00:00

Its your fault that you married an abusive man. And now youre raising a child in a broken home.

XxFIRE_GUYxX · 2022-10-20T02:41:42+00:00

You, maam, are a unicorn, and I haven't a clue how you are single.

heeroena · 2022-10-20T03:59:44+00:00

Society says if you show emotion or cry, you’re weak. Society doesn't tell is this. Society tells us to get in touch with our feelings or out feminine side (which doesn't exist) and completely ignoring the fact that men and women process emotions differently.

Florentinaonly · 2022-10-20T14:12:42+00:00

Feminist approach on life and men. So you loved an abusive men and now you complain about tour decisions.

TheHairyCooch · 2022-10-20T14:49:30+00:00

Save your crocodile tear for another beta buck

JACSliver · 2022-10-20T21:55:46+00:00

Never take responsibility for thoughts, actions or weaknesses that are not your own. There is no need for you to apologize (it is appreciated, though).

MiniatureMartian · 2022-10-20T21:59:33+00:00

This is a fake post. OP is a guy check his posts

crankybird999 · 2022-10-20T23:12:09+00:00

Wow. I didn't read all ur post ,I will but so far u are bang on.

crankybird999 · 2022-10-20T23:14:45+00:00

Again WOW!

crankybird999 · 2022-10-20T23:15:09+00:00

I concur

crankybird999 · 2022-10-20T23:18:46+00:00

Amen were supposed to support one another., not undermine. Battle of the sexes nonsense!

crankybird999 · 2022-10-20T23:23:19+00:00

Thank u!!! Same to u!!! Are u still single! Joking . Love to u too

crankybird999 · 2022-10-20T23:25:44+00:00

Were gonna have to fight for equality, just like the woman's movement. Take some pages from their book.

SecondEldenLord · 2022-10-21T00:20:20+00:00

As long as you understand male issues, then you have nothing to apologise for. Men's issues exist and society doesn't give a shit, so a few women actually caring is good enough.

Gpda0074 · 2022-10-21T04:27:00+00:00

Thanks. Forgive me if I keep ignoring women and grinding and saving for early retirement though.

idontevenknowhmm · 2022-10-21T13:40:17+00:00

this cant get anymore real bro

ImplodedPotatoSalad · 2022-10-25T02:13:36+00:00

As a woman, you are inherently guiltt of being part of the problem. Apologies have zero value.

Embarrassed_Poet_947 · 2022-10-25T13:27:35+00:00

Man, it's so refreshing to hear a woman say this. As a man in the modern world, many of us are constantly made to feel like we're the villain in any story

Title	As a woman, I want to apologize to all of you good men out there
Author	Kaylagfrt
Upvotes	637
Comments	118
Date	October 20, 2022 2:11 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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