Disrespect will be your Downfall

canadian12371 · 2023-01-19T02:34:07+00:00

Well said. A man is already tussling and competing with a world full of testosterone all day. There’s no bigger turn off/headache then coming back to more masculine energy at home and in personal life.

Imagine running a marathon and when you come back home your partner makes you run even more.

Flat_Shower · 2023-01-19T02:20:32+00:00

you don’t need to do anything special to deserve gifts

Actually, and from personal experience, I’d suggest that be changed to

the only thing you need to do to be deserving of gifts is to be appreciative of gifts

HumanSockPuppet · 2023-01-19T06:47:05+00:00

Good post.

What we try to emphasize here at RPW is the power of gratitude.

Men have a powerful instinct to look after women. Women cannot even imagine how powerful and pre-logical the drive is. Only mothers can begin to understand it, because the same drive that women have to protect their own children is the drive that men have to protect women - ALL women.

The worst part of modern society, however, is that women are not taught to express gratitude for the care they receive. So men give is begrudgingly, or not at all out of spite.

But a woman who shows gratitude? She can make a man feel loved and valued, and that feeling of appreciation drives him to be better and stronger. It is a tremendous feedback loop where femininity and masculinity uplift one another.

Practice gratitude.

cast-away-ramadi06 · 2023-01-19T03:47:05+00:00

One of the things that's important is to distinguish between feminine strength vs masculine strength.

cam-berger · 2023-01-19T03:23:26+00:00

I really agree with all of this! One question I’ve struggled with, what is the line between nagging and speaking up for yourself. Things like - “hey I don’t want to sweep every day can you take your shoes off at the door”, if not well received can seem nagging, but if I am the one taking care of the house I think respect for me and the house in that scenario is healthy?

LateralThinker13 · 2023-01-19T20:23:36+00:00

When a woman shows respect for her man and not for herself, she shows that she is less valuable than he is. And the opposite is true. When a woman shows respect for herself and not her man, she is showing that he is less valuable than her. A woman that does both, shows respect for herself and her man, can inspire a man to be a man.

More specifically: A woman who respects herself but not her man is a narcissist. A woman who respects her man but not herself is a doormat. A woman who respects both is someone who actually cares about the world, people, and the future. And a woman who respects neither herself nor her man is a nihilistic psychopath.

If he's in charge, he's in charge! - No nagging.

And accept here and now that if he's doing a task, he's doing it HIS way, NOT yours. If you're so OCD that he has to load the dishwasher your way, YOU do it. You can tell him WHAT to do, or you can tell him HOW to do something; only a micromanaging shrew who is doomed to be single does both.

hissyyfit1 · 2023-01-19T05:35:01+00:00

Lovely post, thank you 💕

ninodelumbre · 2023-01-19T12:52:21+00:00

Thank you..

for giving me a little hope, in this hopeless world.

WiseAndWhimsical3799 · 2023-01-19T13:04:33+00:00

This is a very traditional view of how women should respect men/themselves, and is skewed in favor of the man, with only a chance of benefitting the woman if she submits to him first - This keeps up a toxic relationship, toxic mindset for wo/men, and toxic masculinity+patriarchy+hierarchy (in the household/relationship, and serves only the hierarchy of the patriarchy and keeping it's status quo in society.

Men, women may 'inspire' you to be manly, but do NOT make your actions+attitude dependent on the actions/attitudes of women. It is not their burden to bare, control, or dictate.

Men who are manly are (also) able to inspire and dictate themselves accordingly of their own volition, also with help and inspiration from other men of good quality. Men, control yourselves by taking control of yourself (women, same).

Non-traditional, modern relationships are done in a way where both wo/men give respect equally at the same time, neither submit to each other, both take on leadership roles and responsibilities, and share in tasks; Which alleviates the strain of roles in the relationship and of on each other.

Women, do not (for your safety):

Yield (slow/submit) to him: Your goals/choices matter, as well as your ability to lead and make decisions.
Recognize manipulation is not the same as doing things to incentivize the man to change (for the better).
Let the man know he is NOT 100% in charge, and if it seems like he is, it's because the woman only allows it (through her submission that alleviates her of duty by her choice).

4.'Nagging' is simply complaining (usually about one subject) without the means/desire to a solution: It's NOT raising issues, asking questions, demanding/expecting things (especially proper answers/personal actions), bringing the same issue up again and again until it's resolved, ect.

Women, trust yourself and your abilities; If you see you're acting in a manner that is better than the man, then you take charge, and you be the leader; Conduct others if you must, to get things done that need to be done.
Do NOT accept a man as he is if it affects you/others/himself in an unhealthy/negative way. If he. A man's abilities CANNOT be TRUSTED 100% of the time.

Women, take an active role in the relationship and put yourself in a leader position for the health of the relationship, dynamic, and everyone involved.

AutoModerator · 2023-01-19T01:58:01+00:00

Title: Disrespect will be your Downfall

Full text: Warning: long post ahead Let me start off by saying I'm not perfect.

I was raised with a stay at home dad (due to cancer giving him some hefty disabilities) and a working mother. I'm not saying that dynamic can't work, but I saw my dad and mom fight and argue in their struggle to establish who was the masculine one in the relationship before his death.

I say all this to show that I had no feminine role model to base my exchanges with men on. And I had no father to guide me on what a man wants. It wasn't until I was well into my college years that I realized I was acting like my mother... I was acting like I wanted to be a man. Thus, I started my journey to get in touch with my feminine. To LIVE in it. And, on this journey, I want to share what I learn with this community because I feel like we learn better if we learn together.

So today, I learned that a woman who can inspire a man to BE a MAN (you know...devoted, leader, provider, etc.) must have two things: 1. Respect for her man. Why? Because he is worthy and has value...we often hear this a lot and understand it in this sub. 2. Respect for herself...which a lot of women that are submissive sometimes end up lacking. YOU are also worthy and have value!

When a woman shows respect for her man and not for herself, she shows that she is less valuable than he is. And the opposite is true. When a woman shows respect for herself and not her man, she is showing that he is less valuable than her. A woman that does both, shows respect for herself and her man, can inspire a man to be a man.

So how do you show respect for your man? - Yield to him. He is a leader. - Be grateful. Show you appreciate him. - NO MANIPULATION. If he's in charge, he's in charge! - No nagging. Show that you trust him and his abilities. - Do not try to force him to change who he is. You must accept him.

Easy enough. But how do you show respect for yourself? - Trade submission for devotion. You deserve devotion, so when you have it is when you submit. - Remain a receiver, not a giver. You don't need to do anything special to deserve gifts. - Express yourself openly AND healthily. Your needs do matter. - Speak up for yourself. Your feelings do matter. - Establish boundaries, and be prepared to walk away if your boundaries are being crossed or needs aren't being met.

All in all, unknowingly showing disrespect to your man or to yourself can lead to problems in a relationship.

But, again, this is just what I've learned. I'd love to hear y'alls opinion based on what you know and/or what you think about the information I've provided!

Have a wonderful day (or night).

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Alternative-85293519 · 2023-01-19T23:59:09+00:00

What do you mean when you say don't be a giver be a reciever. Can't I do something nice for my man?

libertygal76 · 2023-01-20T18:51:24+00:00

Reading this just reminded me why I haven't bothered to try for the last three years. Exhausting.

Title	Disrespect will be your Downfall
Author	Automatic-Praline568
Upvotes	87
Comments	52
Date	January 19, 2023 1:58 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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