Why Guys Dump Girls They Dig

curiouskait999 · 2021-02-05T17:21:27+00:00

Old cosmo article with guys explaining their reasons for suddenly breaking up with women. I find myself disappointed in new ways every day.

2021-02-05T17:44:57+00:00

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Saitschik · 2021-02-05T17:31:20+00:00

All I read is bla bla bla bla bla from emotionally underdeveloped manchildren.

Honestly, I am so over it. All women they "bailed" on can thank the universe. Sad for the women who settled down with this creatures, tho. Past behavior towards other women matters.

UnstrirringCoffee · 2021-02-05T19:26:03+00:00

Okay, so all of these reasons are about guys not being really being into the women they dump. Even when a guy is trying to protect his ego by "dumping her first", it still makes his ego more important than having her in his life. Which translates into: "He was never into her in the first place."

Lazy-Design1979 · 2021-02-05T19:44:48+00:00

Yeah, these guys sound like losers. I'm ashamed to admit that in my late teens and early 20s I read that magazine religiously. Women as a whole will be much better off once we stop caring and prioritizing what men think. Maybe it's optimistic, but I do think we're getting to a tipping point...it feels like more women are realizing that they're better off just fending for themselves with even a mediocre job, instead of dating a guy and having a mediocre job + baggage. You get to a point where you're simply too busy to entertain anything less than a great offer from an even greater guy, and walk dates or coffee aren't going to be worth cancelling plans.

-LitmusTestX- · 2021-02-05T20:24:53+00:00

"dropping like flies" manspeak for getting married

How pathetic.

FluffandRainclouds · 2021-02-06T00:01:39+00:00

The end of the article is the only useful part IMO:

Are You About to Be Jilted? Signs that your man's getting ready to bail

His cell phone is always off. He might be spending time with someone he doesn't want you to know about...or he just doesn't want to make himself available.

He's reluctant to make plans. If he hems and haws about committing to anything — even if it's in the semi-near future — he's thinking about making a break for it.

He's meaner. The passive-aggressive breakup is a guy standby. Some men intentionally turn into a-holes to make sure you break up with them.

He's not into sex. He doesn't want to feel connected to you — or he's getting his needs filled somewhere else.

TL;DR: These things are not your problem. Believe a man is NOT into you when he acts lukewarm, confusing, or otherwise makes you question how much he likes you. Next!

GailaMonster · 2021-02-05T17:49:58+00:00

This article can be summarized as "men are literally 100% selfish, will dump you the second something better comes along, will dump you if they think they "deserve" more women, will dump you because you ate ice cream and now he's imagining you eating ice cream in excess and getting fat, will dump you if you have any standards at all about their behavior, will dump you if they like you a lot or not enough. Even if they love you "just right" they will still probably dump you." And it's true. unless they are pursuing you, they are taking you for granted (and will pursue anything they perceive as a step up, or even a step over that they haven't had, that is making them chase and thus tingling their competitive monkey brains.)

Man, it's amazing how men acknowledging to women that "men are trash you need to let us be trash with no consequences, let us sleep with all of you THEN we'll maybe marry one (but we'll totatlly be willing to ditch HER if something better comes along, and we don't marry hoes)" is received as for-profit dating advice TO WOMEN and not a therapy prompt for men to get their shit together.

also - if men need to sew their wild oats, and have a VARIETY of women, but then when they want to settle down expect a gal with a low partner count - how exactly is that supposed to work? who exactly do they think will give them a wide variety of partners except the pool of women, who they want to keep a low partner count to serve as a spouse selection pool (after being a jizzrag selection pool)?

This is why men do things like sleep with/fuck women they don't think are attractive enough to wife/date. They separate out these people in their head, whether they acknowledge it or not, and pretend that a marryable woman is somehow a different species of animal from the women they fuck until they're "Ready".

So you know what you do with that information? you BECOME a different species of animal. You don't participate in the nonsense, and you ignore men who you can detect are still of this mindset.

warinmymind94 · 2021-02-05T23:47:48+00:00

The title alone is a paradox - if a man actually digs you, really digs you, he wouldn't be dumping you.

LVM want hookups and free bangmaids- when the women/pickme starts requiring more effort (maybe she had a bad day and wants a phone call or you to come to meet her parents over dinner, or she "lashes out" at him for being a slob, etc) the LVM will either gaslight /neg and put her on the backburner but usually he will just dump her and be done, onto his next prospect which requires less effort.

Jiou112 · 2021-02-06T05:33:27+00:00

"Why he kicked you to the curb." Ah yes use language that makes it sound like I'm garbage, that will keep me engaged in this article 😑 Will women just STOP consuming crap like this??

anotherdamnloser · 2021-02-06T04:44:51+00:00

Cosmo isn’t worthy of wiping our asses. It’s all pickmeisha crap.

One_Olive_8933 · 2021-02-05T23:32:38+00:00

Why guys lead women on

There I fixed the title for you.

randomgirl34861 · 2021-02-08T16:40:19+00:00

From the times you chastise us for leaving a wet towel on the bed to those nights you rip through a pint of fudge ripple without stopping to breathe, we file each incident in a mental folder labeled Evidence She'll Change for the Worse

This is one of the most disgusting sentences I’ve ever fucking read

shaezamm · 2021-02-06T20:49:50+00:00

“Men get serious with whomever we happen to be dating when we're finally ready to settle down” Really?? Or do you just settle down out of desperation when you realise you aren’t god’s gift to women and you can’t get them all into bed like you thought you could?

Title	Why Guys Dump Girls They Dig
Author	curiouskait999
Upvotes	90
Comments	27
Date	February 5, 2021 5:20 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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