The media has made women truly fear men.

No_Discipline_7867 · 2023-06-26T00:50:17+00:00

The ironic thing is that men now fear women. As a man, you used to think “what’s there to lose?”. Now you know what’s to lose. I think I’d have a better chance of survival if they put me in a cage with a tiger at the zoo.

Jammapanda · 2023-06-26T04:30:44+00:00

yeah, as a woman, i fear women a billion times more than men. i am uncomfortable around people in general being autistic and having social anxiety, but i'm actually scared of women, and disgusted by the majority of them

flossraptor · 2023-06-26T00:25:17+00:00

Women conflate unattractive and dangerous, as if the wires get crossed and they experience an entirely different emotion than the one appropriate to the situation. That may just have been their reaction to a short man. (Sorry.) Because any man they do not find immediately attractive is a threat.

Present_League9106 · 2023-06-26T00:26:12+00:00

I know it's still media, but do you think social media is more to blame? It's like echo chambers make people go haywire.

2023-06-26T08:41:08+00:00

My thoughts exactly. In places like Colombia, men actually beat their women and men in general commit a lot more crime. But the women in Colombia aren't afraid of men nearly to the extent that they are in America. I've had numerous encounters where I've had women flinch from me just being near them. Yet to experience that in Colombia.

Media brainwashing is a bitch.

2023-06-26T00:30:13+00:00

Social media benefits from clicks.. the more clicks the more advertising dollars. Happy stories about loving couples working together as a team do not generate clicks. Controversy, vitriol, antagonism, and conflict generate clicks. Content pitting men and women against each other as adversaries creates clicks which leads to greater revenue, but also leads to fear, division, tribalism, and men vs. women. Sad but true.

denisc9918 · 2023-06-25T23:16:02+00:00

It's a campaign of division that plays very effectively on the female victim complex.

pearl_harbour1941 posted a good comment on it recently with a video which looks interesting.

ResEngineer · 2023-06-26T15:05:39+00:00

Around 30% of the time when I walk to school and there are women student in front of me they’ll change sidewalk to continue in the same direction and change side again later to enter the school.

They do the same at a way higher percentage when we go opposite direction so we dont pass each other on the sidewalk.

They feel safer taking the chance to maybe get hit by a car by crossing the boulevard than crossing path with me or walking with a guy behind them.

StripedFalafel · 2023-06-26T03:21:07+00:00

Another factor is that women are just more fearful in general - it's not just about fearing men. Just google "women more fearful". Women are less likely to be victims of pretty much any crime but they still fear crime more. Also, illness, spiders, accidents etc etc

Vegetable_Ad1732 · 2023-06-26T02:40:15+00:00

Yup. The few times I've been to the store at night, I've never once seen a woman who was not accompanied by a man. You'd think the parking lot was full of rapists. lol Then have you noticed most women are afraid to go walk on the street at night. lol Weird. And I had an experience like the one in the OP too. Mine was even weirder. I was walking towards 6 girls, and one of them was talking about this guy walking towards them. Then I heard another girl say "You know, there's 6 of us, I think we could take him", then they all laughed.

ABlindCookie · 2023-06-26T05:17:15+00:00

Let them fear, its not my problem. Live your life as if nothing happened. If they want to spend their time and energy trembling, so be it 💁‍♂️

Codename-18 · 2023-06-26T09:47:55+00:00

Their problem. Why do you care?

Whenever I walk at night and women behave as if I were a rapist I keep behaving normally and don't care if they're startled. In my brain it registers as them being the bad guys for thinking bad stuff about me. Do that with regard to any other category and you're something that ends in ist or phobe.

They wrong us by thinking that way, never the other way around.

Cruxito1111 · 2023-06-26T05:46:03+00:00

Fear men? ha!

more like “dehumanize” men.

First the media emasculated men by using reverse psychology; calling everything a man is and labeled it as Toxic masculinity. Now men have been dehumanize to mere paychecks and seen as criminals. Look at statistics of divorced men losing everything, and i mean E V E R Y T H I N G! Just type these words in google “of false allegations….” and you see the percentage of men being falsely accused of the dumbest things by women.

Working-Independent8 · 2023-06-26T16:37:22+00:00

That's a very reasoned response, and I thank you for it. I genuinely love men and, like I said in my original comment, have actually paid for therapy to deal with my fears. Mine were based on real things that happened to me, so had basis in reality; however, it is on ME to deal with that and not scapegoat all men. Trust me, I'm no raging leftie feminist. I firmly believe that men and women have equal value, but I'm not one of these "toxic masculinity is EVILLLLL" people. I married a beautiful, kind, and very multifaceted, interesting man who accepts me for me. I could not ask for more in my life and will spend the rest of our lives making him feel loved, as every man on the planet deserves.

A lot of you here have been very badly treated by women, and I can only apologise for us! Like you, we're also complicated and nuanced but a lot of us are trying to get through life without letting our past traumas dictate our present state of wellbeing. I am :)

Working-Independent8 · 2023-06-26T18:05:30+00:00

I think what I'm trying to say is that I hear you. I'm here to learn more about men and understand life more from your perspective. I've met some lovely people here and hope you don't mind my chiming in occasionally ❤️

Current_Finding_4066 · 2023-06-26T05:57:15+00:00

Exactly! We mostly talk about how toxic feminist rhetoric is harming men, but it is also harming women. They live in unfounded fear of men. Imagine feminist propaganda. 25% of female students are allegedly raped! Being a woman at college believing that, you must live in fear.

Working-Independent8 · 2023-06-26T16:39:23+00:00

Also, as a woman, I abhor other women who make false accusations and think that a proven liar should be sent straight to prison for a very long time. No excuse for ruining someone's life

TheMindflare6745 · 2023-06-26T00:04:00+00:00

They don't make them fear men instead they make them think they're better than men which obviously they're not.

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Difficult-Lion-1288 · 2023-06-26T17:24:06+00:00

We both fear each other, downplay each other’s problems, and struggle to get along. Just like they wanted….

readitreddit240 · 2023-06-26T07:19:10+00:00

I agree but I also think that some of the most horrendous crimes are done to women by men (not all!) so personally when we see these horrible online news reports gang rapes sexual assualt in public etc it's only normal to be on guard and careful. I agree 100% that not all men are like this but I know that most men are physically stronger than me so I will be careful around men in certain situations like walking in the park if no one else is near by etc especially now that I have a toddler and he's usually with me.

pappo4ever · 2023-06-26T22:16:03+00:00

Last week I had a work video call to talk about some new business. A couple girls in their 20 had their webcam on but pointed to the ceiling. I was told it was to avoid harassment from strangers in video calls.

Aware188 · 2023-06-25T23:08:15+00:00

women don't fear men look at the divorce rates and who benefits . It's an image for women to conquer men

Working-Independent8 · 2023-06-26T07:34:59+00:00

I appreciate the insight, so thank you. This is your space, and I'll politely withdraw.

FrolickingTiggers · 2023-06-26T05:12:15+00:00

It's not the media, it's experience. Personal and that of one's friends.

Working-Independent8 · 2023-06-26T04:05:46+00:00

We're smaller and weaker than you are. That's pretty much it. I'm not as afraid as I used to be, but I've been harassed, followed home, felt up, and all sorts by random men at different times. I'm 164cm tall and 120 lbs. I would stand NO CHANCE of successfully defending myself against a dude who decided I was on the menu on that particular day. Men talk about how women are not as logical but doesn't it make logical sense to be cautious of strange men when these things have happened to you? I'm not a dickhead about it. If I'm on my way home from going out and a man is walking closely behind me on the street, I stop and let him go past so that I can see him. It says "I can see you", "please move on".

"On the menu" is how it feels sometimes. You feel like you're being sized up as some sort of entree sometimes. It's harder to understand as a man (not generalising).

That deep, primal fear is hard to describe and even harder to get rid of. It's not our fault, it really isn't. I'd be an idiot to walk to the store at 10 pm without someone to keep me company. Honestly, when we get murdered, it's all "what was she doing out and alone at that time." When we're cognisant of the world around us and potential threats, we're the problem. Not all men are going to harm us, but ANY MAN COULD.

Having said all of that, I totally get it must be shit to be a bloke just going about your daily business feeling like random women are afraid of you. I'm sorry it happens and I'm also sorry it's so necessary. I think men are brilliant - absolutely brilliant. Our differences make us beautiful.

I have two lovely, massive brothers ❤️ and they know they can be intimidating to strange women. They will cross the street if they find themselves walking behind a woman at night, let women take their place in a lift if she'd be alone in there with him otherwise etc. I'm not saying that all men should do this but there are men out there who respect that we're smaller, weaker and deal with different fears.

Ok-Negotiation6436 · 2023-06-26T03:24:02+00:00

I honestly don’t understand why it bothers you they were being cautious. We live in an age in general where men and woman sexually harass and verbally harass a fair bit. If being a little cautious makes them feel better who is that possibly hurting.

Au3theAmazing · 2023-06-27T22:47:15+00:00

No, MEN have made women fear men. A little less than half of my friends who are women have been assaulted, even more than half have been harassed in some way or the other, by a man. 85% of victims of domestic violence are women. A large portion of these women have families, they have children. The children often witness these acts of violence first hand. The average man is stronger than 97.5% of women. So, even after all this, why do you still blame them for being scared? They understand that a majority will not even try to hurt them, they're not "brainwashed" like you think they are, but how do they discern the "bad guys" from the "good guys"? There isn't a way, so, that leads them to fear everyone, regardless. The media doesn't cause fear of men. Personal experiences and the accounts of friends and family causes them to fear men.

2023-06-26T05:53:23+00:00

Media is only telling people what they want to hear. Women have ALWAYS feared men. Seriously, if you’ve ever tried talking to a woman who didn’t notice your presence, you’ll be surprised how often you accidentally scare them. Women are more vulnerable to violence, especially rape which can cause pregnancy - their inherent suspicion of men is an unfortunate relic from an earlier age when such things were far less uncommon.

AdamChap · 2023-06-27T05:47:52+00:00

Why are you even looking random women in the eye? I wouldn't even bother at this point. If you aren't looking at them and are just minding your own business:

you wouldn't even know what they looked like
they would presume that you aren't noticing them

You look my girlfriend in the eye and she'll be scared. That's how majority of women are in my experience.

Horror-Newt108 · 2023-06-27T22:47:44+00:00

Men made women afraid, not the media. The media reports crimes, it doesn’t create them.

Also, that’s a lot of subjective “evidence” you’ve got going on. Sounds like you were paying those “girls” a lot of attention? I’d be so busy crossing the busy street, I can’t imagine I’d even notice them, much less read so much into their body/facial expressions.

JustJ42 · 2023-06-26T12:50:49+00:00

It’s kind of a double edged sword and women can’t really win in either situation. If she’s too cautious y’all complain because women are wary of y’all and yet whenever a woman gets assaulted or murdered, the first thing people are gonna say are “why was she out at night? Why didn’t she take precautions against the bad men?” So which is it? Should women be cautious of strangers or not?

meganano · 2023-06-26T19:51:14+00:00

MEN (maybe not you, but other men) have made women fear men. The over the years it has fluctuated, but about 75-88% of violent crime against women is committed by men. Even with unreported female crime against men, there's still a huge difference.

Even without statistical reporting and media attention on certain crimes, EVERY WOMAN has been harassed by men more than men ever experimented, every woman knows a woman who has been assaulted by a man, even if she herself has not. The stats and anecdotes bear out, regardless of what you think the media is all about.

Incidentally, all the major media companies are still owned by and mostly run by men, so I'm not sure where you think this media conspiracy against men is coming from.

Prestigious-Hippo950 · 2023-06-27T02:27:12+00:00

Dude I was in a bookstore today and I had a book and a women turned the corner into my aisle and then stopped, looked at me, and walked around to the next aisle.

BlessdRTheFreaks · 2023-07-02T00:58:50+00:00

It's deeply sad. Men and women are now both terrified of each other.

Unfortunately, we respond to fear and outrage more easily than anything else, so the news cycle propagates itself by feeding that.

I think that's why for all of us the first task should be maintaining your humanity. Surround yourself with love and understanding so that this stuff, for the most part, falls away.

Milathevillain · 2023-07-03T18:38:45+00:00

Not really.

I'm 21 female, I fear men the most. Since the moment I started to attend elementary school until this day, men had shown me how scary they can be. All of my first experiences were stolen (SA) i've been catcalled in the middle of the day in streets filled with people when the sun is shining the most by man who were three times older than me since I was 12 and it keeps going until this day. When I was 14 yo one of my besties who was 14 yo also got kidnaped by a 23 yo man cause he was obssesed by how pretty she was. The other day at the bank a very old men started to overly compliment me in a weird way and followed me for 2 streets, we were at down town in the middle of the evening. I pretended not to listen cause it can be worse. My point is: none of this were social media experiences, none of them were posted, i've been experiencing this since I was a 6 yo by different type of men. What's worse is i'm not the only one with experiences like that, all of the females I know, friends or not friends had experiences like that and they keep experiencing stuff like that each second we dare to live.

The only thing that keeps me going and keeps me sane is thinking ‘not all men’ but all my experiences keep shouting in my head ‘but most men’. I want to share my point of view as a female just for you to truly know: we want to belive in all of you, but we just can't and we can't be sorry for that, cause this is all men doing. So please don't be harsh at girls if they fret each time you walk by next to them, is not cause they don't find you attractive, not because you're short, tall, not because of your race, they probably went through something. Just keep in mind the next line:

Not all men, but enough men for them to be like this. Please be safe out there.

Title	The media has made women truly fear men.
Author	User673412
Upvotes	372
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Date	June 25, 2023 11:06 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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