Hire an escort isnt advice, its an insult.

NJFlowerchild · 2023-07-07T21:35:57+00:00

It shows women dont enjoy sex, and that sex is such a laborious and miserable task for women that they want to be paid as much as an oil rig worker for like 2 hours of work.

Also, men... actually desire sex lol

Women want sex. Women don't want sex with a random man that they don't like and don't feel genuine attraction for as a partner. Women enjoy sex. Women won't enjoy sex with people that they don't want.

Why are you telling men to "just hire an escort" when they want dates and sex? What motivates that?

You have no other options than to see an escort that sells her consent to sex if you can't find a woman that wants you.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2023-07-07T21:28:44+00:00

what else can people tell a man who for whatever reason cannot make himself attractive enough to a woman that he cant have any sex in the mode he desires? like what do you want from people? you want sex and you cant get it, so pay someone for it, what is the problem

Worried-Smile · 2023-07-07T21:29:41+00:00

Of course sex is a natural want that I think most people experience, both men and women. However, if you realize you are becoming frustrated due to a lack of sex through 'normal' means, it is important to realize that hiring an escort is a possibility. That's all.

Sex isn't a resource, even if women do like sex. Everyone gets to pick who they have sex with. If that leaves someone without sex, they have the option to hire an escort, if they want to.

LoopyPro · 2023-07-07T21:46:57+00:00

The biggest reason people propose that as a solution to loneliness is because they want to make the point that sex on it own is not that much of a big deal, and that once they've done it, they can see that too.

What these people fail to understand is that most lonely men are not desperate for sex, but for sexual validation. A prostitute will not give that validation because it's explicitly transactional. Being genuinely desired by an attractive woman does give that validation, and ultimately boosts one's ego and self-esteem.

Gr4nd45 · 2023-07-07T21:27:03+00:00

Yes, desiring sex is natural. For both men and women (and yes, women do desire it). The desire is there to encourage reproduction.

However, you aren't owed sex or relationships, unlike what many TRP people here seem to think. When you shame women for having standards, i.e. not choosing you, you are implying you are owed sex/relationships. It's pathetic.

And dude. There's no more reasons needed to "hate porn". Porn is destructive. Physically and mentally.

baiser_vole · 2023-07-07T21:28:55+00:00

Women usually react that way when they are treated as a piece of meat. It is gross to be treated like that. We say that to direct you to women who do that for money.

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-07-07T21:47:49+00:00

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InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-07-07T21:24:17+00:00

People usually give the "hire an escort" advice when the guy has talked about how often he's utterly failed with women and its basically like "just go pay a hooker and leave regular women alone" because he seems like a social menace or complete idiot but we don't want to tell him he's completely hopeless. There is only so much belly aching you can do about this without us wanting you to just stop talking.

AstronautLoveShack · 2023-07-07T21:43:45+00:00

Personally, I LOVE sex. Can't get enough of it. But here's the rub - I want that sex with someone I'm attracted to and preferably that I am in love with. Attraction and love aren't as important to a lot of men, they are perfectly happy with the opportunity to have sex with a woman they are maybe not so attracted to and are definitely not in love with.

As far as "go see an escort", a lot of men aren't interested in women as individual people or as relationship partners. They just want the sex and aren't particular about how they get it. For those types of men, visiting an escort makes perfect sense.

totallyworkinghere · 2023-07-07T21:34:44+00:00

Sex IS work. It's a physical activity taking time and effort, and many women don't even get orgasms out of it. Plus, it's an incredibly vulnerable act both physically and emotionally. Why would we want to give that away to random men?

It's better to build a relationship with someone and grow to trust them so that you know the act of sex is going to be mutually beneficial and enjoyable.

Yeah there are women who like casual sex. I get it but that doesn't change the fact that it is a physical activity and the benefits don't always outweigh the negatives.

If you can only get sex by paying thousands of dollars, then you aren't offering enough benefits for the act to be worth it.

toasterchild · 2023-07-07T21:38:23+00:00

Its like somebody being upset that they could find a way to go to college for free but then getting mad at people who say that your only option left is to pay for it. What do you expect to hear?

Men day they just want women to empathize with the loneliness? Is that true? If i say yeah being lonely and unwanted really sucks does it make you feel better really?

misterhamtastic · 2023-07-07T22:07:08+00:00

Is there something wrong with hiring an escort?

KayRay1994 · 2023-07-07T21:37:22+00:00

for one thing there is no shame in hiring an escort, in fact i’d honestly rather you do that than consume porn (especially if prostitution is legal and regulated), i think you take it as an insult because at some level you’re ashamed of it and ashamed at yourself.

As for your response to “women don’t owe you sex” - i think you’re fundamentally misunderstanding what it means, the phrase isn’t saying that sex isn’t natural and that you shouldn’t desire it, but rather, that you shouldn’t expect it to happen because it comes from natural urges - essentially, that its the consensual act of two people, and you’re not entitled to the time or body of another person

Lift_and_Lurk · 2023-07-07T21:28:49+00:00

“You should get a hooker!”

“No thank you.”

Done

I don’t see why anyone would get insulted.

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Mrs_Drgree · 2023-07-07T21:21:26+00:00

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fakingandnotmakingit · 2023-07-07T22:09:17+00:00

I like sex just fine

I just only like sex if I have an emotional connection with a guy. Desiring a guy from a far is just an "oh he's hot" but push comes to shove I won't actually fuck him.

Some women are happy to fuck randos, provided they're hot.

Most women might have sex casually occasionally or every so often, but will often only do so in a relationship

Some onky have sex in relationships.

That doesn't mean women don't like sex itself. We probably want it less than men on average and even if we do we only want it in certain circumstances.

Lots of men here claim women are not interesting as people. Or not fun to hang out with unless they're fucking. In that case if your primary goal is sex and you don't actually like being with a woman, why not pay for it?

Ionicomica · 2023-07-07T22:09:48+00:00

So they tell these men just to pay for it, because in their eyes, sex is a commodity to be bought and sold, sex isnt a thing between two people, its a commodity.

Why are you telling men to "just hire an escort" when they want dates and sex? What motivates that?

No, we're told that sex for men is a NEED. So, like with other needs in life, just buy it. You buy your water, you pay for the gas that allows you to cook food, a roof over your head. If sex is a need like food, water, and shelter, then just treat it as such.

It isn't an insult. It's genuine advice. But many will say it's about more than just sex and about intimacy and a woman finding you attractive. If that's the case then the important part isn't sex, so don't put an emphasis on sex.

kochIndustriesRussia · 2023-07-07T22:20:24+00:00

Personally, I think women dont like sex too much.

Welllppp....clearly you don't know any women lol. Women are just as horny as men...often more. Single girls are putting new batteries in their vibrators every 5 days (married girls almost as frequently!) ....they wear those fuckers out!! They're just quiet about it because they don't want to be perceived as slutty (which is unfortunate, but a reality they have to deal with nonetheless)

TheSongsInYourHead · 2023-07-07T22:21:18+00:00

I think it can be both an insult and advice.

Like, the implication that you won't be able to find a woman any other way is insulting. But, it might also be true.

I believe that not everyone is cut out for romantic relationships, as much as that sucks. I have a hard time believing that men who struggle for female attention way more than the average are just going to one day have a functional relationship. Some will, sure, but we can't all be the exception.

With escorts you can at least get sex, sometimes people don't get to live their lives by the standard archetypes. Maybe you're more cut out for pets and hookers than a wife and kids.

I get that it hurts, but you can only live the life you have.

BatemaninAccounting · 2023-07-07T22:23:04+00:00

Literally telling men to pay thousands of dollars to go out for coffee lol and then even more thousands just to have sex is kind of odd.

Uhhhh what kind of whores are you fucking? Lol. It costs hundreds, not thousands in pretty much every place on earth for this service by a professional woman or man.

Also I'm pretty sure the same people also tell lonely sexless women to go get an escort too, especially if they have fetishes/kinks that are unusual.

Antisocialite99 · 2023-07-07T22:24:18+00:00

Women like sex,but there are some women these days who can't swallow their pride and therefore shame men who want sex.

You can have hookups without swallowing your pride but definitely not a relationship

Most men who bemoan their lack of sex dont really just want sex. They want connection love mutual respect and understanding. All things an escort or prostitute will not give.

Grand-Inspection2303 · 2023-07-07T22:49:11+00:00

"Personally, I think women dont like sex too much. So they tell these men just to pay for it...."

Except that the vast majority of them are having regular free consensual sex as are a strong majority of men. They're not saying men in general need to go out an hire and hire escorts, they're saying this to the men who take to the internet to complain that no woman wants to sleep with them. There are basically three solutions for the guys that women don't want to sleep with:

Change themselves so that they will better be able to find women who do want to sleep with them. This idea is poo-pooed by the complainers as unrealistic and unfairly placing all the blame on men; this implies women are doing something blameworthy by not sleeping with them, which is why you hear the response "men aren't owed sex.
Women could have sex with these guys that they don't want to. This seems to be what the incels want, considering they reject option 1 as totally unfair. But then they complain about how sex is really only meaningful if you're an alpha and the woman truly desires you solely for your body...So what exactly do they want? All women to undergo hypnosis so that they start viewing these incels as super-desirable "chads?" Regardless western society rightly rejects option 2 and dystopian.
So this leaves us with the third option: hire someone to do what nobody wants do for free. Option 1 is the most reasonable option but you've rejected that as unreasonable gaslighting, and option 2 doesn't fly in a free society.

Title	Hire an escort isnt advice, its an insult.
Author	Iamslightlysad
Upvotes	13
Comments	81
Date	July 7, 2023 9:14 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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