Party Invitations…Ex-wife on E-mail List

Uranusisntmyhome · 2023-12-27T19:15:01+00:00

Thanks to all who commented and shared their wise advice. I decided to not attend for the sake of sanity and to be honest, I had a great time by myself…I packed myself into my cozy cabin, books, a nice warm wood fire, oldies playlist a pot of slowly cooked pork loin and veggies, and a special gift from a good friend…coffee flavored moonshine….all is well. Happier New Year wishes to you and yours.

capitalawesome2016 · 2023-12-21T04:31:57+00:00

If you want to go, go, have fun, catch up with your old friends and simply ignore her. You don't have to say hi or acknowledge her. Let everyone see how happy you are. Be well groomed. If she comes up be cordial. You can do this!

Hopefully she doesn't do this, but if she tries pushing your buttons don't engage her. Ignore it or walk away. She'll end up making herself look bad as the aggressor.

Good luck.

Visual-Effect-3340 · 2023-12-21T03:24:37+00:00

Attend but avoid her

Brilliant-Tomorrow55 · 2023-12-20T20:52:50+00:00

If you two are just friends, it would be like going to a party where a friend goes as well. Except you two are upset with each other. You would still go on that scenario right?

Ambitious-Cheetah-36 · 2023-12-19T18:34:40+00:00

Find the hottest arm candy and party on....

RossTheDivorce4ce · 2023-12-19T11:38:37+00:00

I most certainly would not attend. I wouldn't even think twice about it

Legitimate-Match2675 · 2023-12-19T02:26:05+00:00

Hire a date to go with you.

No-Big7797 · 2023-12-19T00:55:29+00:00

Yes I would. . And if you’re allowed bring a date.

mehmench · 2023-12-18T22:44:25+00:00

Wont there be enough people there that you don't have to spend time with or around her?

That's what I find happens for me.

Lumpy-Prior3261 · 2023-12-18T22:15:13+00:00

Well the thing is your hiding in the corner this is a great opportunity to make yourself shine brighter than her you get cleaned up looking all god smelling good and you fo to the party if she sees you just nod you don't need to talk to her the best thing you can do is go and have a great time the reason is it will probably make her jealous bc she will see. You don't need to be with her to move on and enjoy life man take it from a guy first wife if 12 years cheated married again less than 5 years later she passed away with an illness now I'm with my of 13 years she had cancer if she passes away I will move on find a woman and have fun I'm 54 almost 55 yrs old it won't stop me

ABBucsfan · 2023-12-18T19:32:19+00:00

Tbh I can't think of any friends I have that didn't basically to no contact with her the moment we divorced. Even the couple I can think of where his wife had sorta hung out with her once or twice without husband's around even said they haven't talked to her since. Only thing j can think of is a couple that invites kids to bday party and it's just based on who has the kids that day.

Could be partially due to us not being cordial I guess... But it seems bizarre they would just invite both of you with zero consideration it could be awkward at the very least

Final-Attempt95 · 2023-12-18T18:17:25+00:00

Don't think about her , go to the party , socialize and have fun.

l3tsR0LL · 2023-12-18T17:40:45+00:00

We are still "keeping up appearances" as we work through the divorce

I used to be a wallflower at parties and be sad when she was talking with people and I was alone.

But now I walk around and talk to people. I make them laugh and make sure I am having fun. I don't do it for her to see, I do it to practice being social so I can survive and thrive after this process is over.

fishingforthought · 2023-12-18T17:21:45+00:00

No I would not. I don’t want any contact. I made new friends.

warrior_up · 2023-12-18T16:39:16+00:00

Bro. Come on. Go get you a tailored outfit, haircut, show up like a boss.

I love this shit, I’d bring a hot late 20s chick and introduce her as the “nanny”

James Bond, quit putting the pussy on a pedestal

euphramjsimpson · 2023-12-18T16:33:21+00:00

I had a similar situation recently, where some old friends of ours had a get together.

For a long time we had a beach trip with a big group of friends, them included. Now, 4 of 5 of the women have dumped their husbands, but one of them was the point person for the rental, so they are going to the same house with all the kids but with all new men. It was a trip I loved - it's so messed up.

The party was at the home of one of the women who hadn't done that, and we were neighbors and close and I wanted to go, even though it was going to be small. I found out that my ex was going with her little boyfriend (our old neighbor who HaD nOtHiNg To Do WiTh OuR dIvOrCe) and all the kids. At first I declined because I cannot stand to be anywhere around that lowlife who now lives with my kids as much as I do.

But I ended up going. The hosts were so glad to see me. I got to see my kids. I got to see quite a few people that I hadn't in a long time. It was so good. I just stayed far away from that dude and I didn't speak to my ex either. It was fine and heartening really to see so clearly that he is the interloper and that even though he's basically replaced me in so much of what was my life, those folks are my friends and they love me, regardless of what my ex has done and what she tries to pretend is okay.

Character_Hippo90 · 2023-12-18T16:11:23+00:00

The invite is nice but the atmosphere it presents is abysmal. Reply back that you appreciate the invitation but you have other plans.

darweter_DPI · 2023-12-18T16:05:30+00:00

Yes, absolutely. Just don't interact with her/ignore her if you feel like it and give your undivided attention to anyone you like. You'll enjoy it!

Title	Party Invitations…Ex-wife on E-mail List
Author	Uranusisntmyhome
Upvotes	18
Comments	28
Date	December 18, 2023 3:59 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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