You don't.

That's it. That's the thread.

 

 

 

But 3KL, lol, isn't MRP dedicated to fixing sex in relationships? Rule zero and all that?

No it's not.

I'm going to have to rehash previously explained topics again, aren't I?

 

Actively fixing sex

What do people mean by fix? It's usually either increasing the frequency of sex that they have, or improving the quality of sex.

How do people conceptualise fixing it? Most idiots seem to think it means that if you do x, y and z, the result will be that your wife will want to have sex with you more. That's just not how it works.

But why doesn't it work like that? Because it's not a fucking slot machine where you just do x and get y. There's no magic bullet. Stop looking for one.

You can't make a goal of 'fixing sex in my marriage'. Why? Because it doesn't fucking work. You end up doing the Dancing Monkey attraction program instead. And boy do guys at MRP love trying that. It never works. It won't work. Stop doing that. Alright? Is that clear? Do we all understand now?

 

Ok then, so what the fuck can I do?

You can't 'fix' sex in your marriage. But you can improve your sex life.

But 3KL isn't that the same thing?

No it's fucking not. In the first situation, you are trying to make someone do something. Last I checked you can't make people do what you want them to. In the second scenario, the only person you're changing is you. That's the fucking difference.

When you do all the basic shit on the sidebar like:

  • Lift regularly
  • Take control of shit
  • Get rid of covert contracts
  • Stop feeling guilty when you say no
  • Establish boundaries and fucking enforce them
  • Start being attractive, stop being unattractive etc.

Then you end up being someone who is actually, you know, attractive. Then you get to make a choice as to what you do. Your wife gets first crack at your libido. And if she doesn't want to play ball, then you find someone else to have sex with. That's it. That's how you improve your sex life. This is what the whole 'fix the man' shit means.

 

But I don't want to cheat on my wife

Cool. Then don't. I don't care. If you want things to improve, you need to be a man who's worth a shit, i.e. has options. Most people who make the 'I won't cheat' statement typically aren't at a stage where they have options. So how about you get to the point where other women actually want to have sex with you, and then you make the call.

 

I don't have options yet but I still want more sex with my wife

Nobody cares. Do the work first.

 

That's it. That's the thread. I'm keeping it short because yes, I am aware of the subtleties and the various other topics that surround this (frame, game, shit tests blah blah). It's simple, but it's not easy. But that's how it works. If you find yourself writing in your OYS that 'I'm trying to fix sex' or 'I tried to fix sex', or 'How do I fix sex', then this thread is to remind you that you've missed the fucking point.