Is it worth having a girlfriend like this?

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MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-09-11T02:46:49+00:00

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mabden · 2022-09-11T02:49:54+00:00

The measure of a girl friend is how she treats you

The girl you are describing is full of red flags, so be prepared that the "relationship " will end in a moments notice. IOWs protect yourself mentally and emotionally.

SagaciousElan · 2022-09-11T02:54:30+00:00

If being hot is the one thing she's got going for her then in a few years she won't even have that and you'll just be left with everything you hate about her.

JWho1337 · 2022-09-11T02:55:43+00:00

Satisfying temporary loneliness for an inevitable heartbreak. Would you marry this women? Be proud for your children to call her mom? Sorry man but she's not sounding like strong long term material. Have your fun sure but don't catch serious feelings.

yeetorbeyeeeeeeeted · 2022-09-11T02:43:01+00:00

Bruh you got a girl this hot - you can do it again.

However, I would use this as a springboard. Take social media pics with her, learn how to get good at sex, make friends with all her hot friends, etc.

Dump her after 2-3 months if it’s not working and capitalize on your new found social credit.

On the other hand - if you like her a lot - that’s all that actually matters. Her kill count doesn’t matter and what matters is if you like her and like what kind of person she is deep down. I have a high count and it’s mostly because I was really insecure and thought my self worth was tied to what women I slept with 🤷‍♂️. Now I base it on worse things but I digress lol

kitoplayer · 2022-09-11T03:01:56+00:00

Seems like there are some base conflicts of your own security and value that ought to be looked at first, maybe before looking to get serious with someone.

NinetailsDestruction · 2022-09-11T02:53:45+00:00

op close your heart and soul to this woman. Seek forgiveness for lusting after such woman. Don’t try to seek poison. Don’t drink poison. Salt and sugar look the same. Just because she looks good doesn’t mean she is.

311unity13b · 2022-09-11T02:59:27+00:00

Honestly you might want to seek professional therapy. I don’t mean this in a bad way at all, it helped me a lot.

yiggaman · 2022-09-11T02:52:45+00:00

Why do you think she is with you? Serious question

kassra25 · 2022-09-11T03:20:30+00:00

Trust me dude. She will turn your life into a living nightmare. Stay far far away from her.

sadmoonbaby · 2022-09-11T03:38:37+00:00

Like judge Judy always says “beauty fades, dumb is forever.”

zapadz · 2022-09-11T02:25:17+00:00

No, it isn’t.

1) your attitude being “I can’t get anyone like this” is desperation and neediness, she will abuse this and you will double down because you will feel you “need her”. Most women are repelled by such neediness and even worse narcissistic predatory women are attracted to it and will prey on you.

2) her behavior you describe shows signs she has emotional issues, perhaps very insecure or somewhat narcissistic.

You can become more attractive and have more options. Also you should try and mature to not primarily pick women based on if she is the hottest you can possibly get, that doesn’t mean a lot for a long term relationship.

TerminatorReborn · 2022-09-11T03:16:44+00:00

Sounds like a great idea my dude. The move is to get her pregnant and marry her.

EmptyBarrel · 2022-09-11T03:22:21+00:00

Bro. Life is a series of small events that tie together in some intense or deafening ways. As long as you know you’re in a space where you’re getting the best things you want, who cares. If you don’t like it speak up and make a change. If you don’t care take what you want and wait for it to burn if you know it’s a sinking ship. No relationship is perfect. The sweet spot is finding one where the shit you don’t like doesn’t matter and where you get what you do like.

deznue · 2022-09-11T03:23:19+00:00

Well, shit… rather fuck a prostitution and prevent the headache this girl will cause you 😆

Moodybleu44 · 2022-09-11T03:38:45+00:00

If you are embarrassed to be with this woman, then you should not be with her. If it bothers you to be with a woman who has had a lot of partners, then you should not be with her. Also, I hope you grow to realize there’s more to women than how hot they are. And if you think she’s a slut for having slept with 100 guys, then you better also consider a guy that’s slept with 100 women a slut too. Do not prolong this “relationship”, break up, work on yourself. As others have said, seek therapy. I think that could really help you.

Lorien6 · 2022-09-11T03:46:55+00:00

Is the only reason you want to be with her because she is hot? Who is SHE? What are some things she cares about?

Show an interest in her. Not just her body.

Who cares how many men she has slept with. If you end up with her, you’re the one she IS, and that’s her choice. That means she’s choosing you over all “those other guys.”

kcquail · 2022-09-11T03:09:25+00:00

Not worth it imo. You’ll probably be miserable with her.

Ok-Marionberry-8669 · 2022-09-11T03:41:19+00:00

Other people's opinions are useless, ask yourself, what do you think?

alent3976 · 2022-09-11T03:49:05+00:00

bro she ain’t the one fam

SlashfIex · 2022-09-11T04:02:16+00:00

Dude your post history is all over the place. I think you 2 deserve each other. Clearly you just want attention.

heavychugs81 · 2022-09-11T04:20:39+00:00

Are you a strong man? Can you lead a woman to virtue? If not, walk away.

dons90 · 2022-09-11T05:00:38+00:00

She's for the streets my guy. You'll learn quickly why she has such high numbers.

Alternative_Pin5925 · 2022-09-11T05:02:20+00:00

Keep her as a booty call not a wife🤦🏽‍♂️

faker2030 · 2022-09-11T03:53:34+00:00

I’ve been in a situation where the girl has a similar count

I understand that the sex is amazing but it comes at the cost of your self respect.

I can’t judge you tho I was there and she broke up with me.

DontCallMeTopher · 2022-09-11T02:42:32+00:00

You’re already way more into her than she is into you, sorry bud but you’re already screwed. Which isn’t a bad thing, you won’t want to wife this type of girl up. Take it from me, don’t fall in love with a slut

PaleoPimp · 2022-09-11T02:35:46+00:00

Bro you're asking for problems with this girl...if anything, just fuck her and make her a plate... Because that's what she is... A prostitute, prostitutes aren't LTR material.

cobraCL · 2022-09-11T04:58:27+00:00

The problem isn't what she posts or what she wears, it runs much deeper than that.

She has serious emotional issues and her broken outlook on love and life will suck you in like a vacuum.

If all her exes were abusive, that means she is attracted to dysfunction and chaos and does not know how to love in a healthy way. She will create the dysfunction if things are too peaceful in the relationship and it will be ugly, and frankly she may even be the narcissistic abuser herself. (Do some research on the 'Vulnerable Narcissist', aka perpetual victim. Highly emotionally manipulative.)

The fact that she is addicted to male validation online is a dead give-away that you are a placeholder for a permanent hole in her heart. Individuals with such low self esteem and high need for attention from others are unfortunately prone to cheating, because they use sexual attention as an emotional regulation tool.

I understand that this girl is beautiful and I can even extend her some sympathy and hope she gets some help. But OP, no amount of sex with worth your time, dignity and sanity. You are going to get hurt.

D3vi1b0y · 2022-09-11T05:00:44+00:00

I'm a lonely dude and not very attractive I met a girl who is attractive i do like her, but i feel a bit embarressed to be with her

This is bad from the start my friend. Don't put yourself down we tend to be more attractive than we assume we are. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

she has slept with well over one hundred guys, she posts her ass/body on social media in her underwear,

This is a red flag for many men some no but other's it's a red flag. I stopped seeing a girl one of the reasons was her only fans page and how she sold her body easily. This was one of her issues another was her sexual past, and her addiction.

she also tells me how all her ex's are abusive narcissists

Some guys could be idiots or even narcissists. Don't take this part personally we all have toxic ex's we don't ever want to see again. It happens sometimes speaking about ex's could mean you want them back sometimes we just vent because we are thankful to be away. This has nothing to do with you.

she dresses extremely provocatively, when my parents met her they even told me what the hell i'm doing with this trashy girl.

She can dress as she wants but she should dress for the occasion. Is she a sex worker or your girlfriend?

But she is attractive and i don't think ill ever get a girl as hot as her to like me.

If this is the reason you're debating to stay with her break up now. Being a hostage in a relationship because you fear you'll never find someone is a sign to get out immediately.

Looks die out quickly. Do you see a future with her when she starts looking old? Probably not if you're already saying the wrong things. If all you have is sex and looks you have absolutely nothing.

In a real relationship materialistic, looks, sex don't mean as much as you think.

You need to first connect with the person. Obviously looks will attract you to a person but if you can't connect past the looks it's already over. Think of looks like the first door that opens up it helps you walk right through but do you continue to go deeper and open more door's or do slam that door shut and run never looking back? I've dated hot girls before trust me when I say a 10/10 is meaningless past the sex it's really empty and shallow. Wait till you see what she looks like by the time she's 30 or 40.

I once met a former playb0y bunny(no I didn't date her) she looked like she could be my grandma and she was 38. Seriously don't search for people just for looks you won't like what you find.

I say break up.

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-09-11T03:58:28+00:00

I say you should have her as a girlfriend.

A- you think she is hot. B- She has a lot of experience in giving and receiving pleasure. C- since she gets validation online, you can focus on improving your tongue/dick skills. D- best case you get a hot girlfriend, worst case, you learn not to Go only for looks.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-09-11T02:55:44+00:00

Umm … no. Return this girl to the streets

BlvckSkin · 2022-09-11T03:06:02+00:00

Nope

CanUnusual8729 · 2022-09-11T03:11:49+00:00

Well you’re obviously aware of what it is, if even from a bit of a distance. It’s going to go exactly how you think. It’s only a matter of time before you’re anxieties are confirmed so the question is, do you enjoy the physical side until then or dump her and walk away with a bit of an upper hand? Just know this, trust me on this… if you break up with her or show her any sign of rejecting her, she will unleash the a narcissistic cruelty like you can’t imagine. If you do turn away, do not look back. Choose wisely.

ParticularAmazing112 · 2022-09-11T03:52:41+00:00

I think you need to learn to value and respect yourself bud. Have a sit down and ask yourself if she’s truly making you happy. I know from your description, it seems like you won’t be able to find anyone else but that’s not true. The time you’re wasting here could be use to find someone that’s more compatible with you.

Also ONE HUNDRED? seriously?

testfreak377 · 2022-09-11T03:54:02+00:00

How did you meet her just curious ?

Delicatestatesmen · 2022-09-11T04:01:09+00:00

No you shouldn’t wife a ho. Next question please. Don’t you have friends other then reddit to stir you away from promiscuous dumpster fires?

organbakery · 2022-09-11T04:02:10+00:00

Gross dude, gross. Have some self respect.

ant2k15 · 2022-09-11T04:05:40+00:00

Don’t get her pregnant fool.

Nice_Calligrapher452 · 2022-09-11T04:06:33+00:00

Gonna sound fucked up, but if its not so bad, then just keep piping until you get tired of all the negatives about her. Or just keep piping until she cheats on you idk. But if you had to make a post about it, then maybe ur already fed up n wanna break up. Also if u scored a hottie, it means u can score again. Dont be so negative. Stay in the positive cuz ur a king.

-Bana · 2022-09-11T04:14:05+00:00

Sounds like you are on the younger side so if I were you I would have fun, learn from the experience and when the time comes don’t deal with her inevitable bullshit and learn from the experience.

KeyTransportation204 · 2022-09-11T04:24:09+00:00

Just smash and keep it casual bro

lamahopper · 2022-09-11T04:32:17+00:00

I left my ex-girlfriend for less, who was a 9 or 10. Follow your principles, your gut dosnt lie. Don’t accept this bs.

You can do far better than this, especially if you sharpen up your look and game.

Influential337 · 2022-09-11T04:32:32+00:00

I dated a prostitute. She had slept with over 3000 guys. It did go well for a while. She stopped posting on instagram and stuff like that. She did become a good little housewife and was loyal. Some stuff happened which was partly my fault and she went back to working and it all fell apart.

It can work, but they can always revert. So be prepared for that. Also the more controlling you are the more likely it is to go wrong.

It's a tough position your in, but I have the feeling your gonna try and make this work so good luck my bro.

EmrysAllen · 2022-09-11T04:33:52+00:00

This the same girl you were talking about a couple days ago? It seems like you got some pretty clear answers then.

Rheastar · 2022-09-11T04:44:49+00:00

I think if you like her embrace it and have fun. No one else’s opinion matters except yours.

AiDueDeclaire · 2022-09-11T04:51:30+00:00

I don't believe anything here.

onisoyyc · 2022-09-11T04:53:25+00:00

Better to be alone/single than dating someone who worsen’s your self esteem. Maybe just stay as friends bruh. If you can get one girl to like you its almost guaranteed that you can get another right?

Heres a test. If you told her exactly how you feel i stead of reddit how would she react? Would she hear you out and try to find a middle ground?

But hey if she makes you happy and your with her because you genuinely like her and not because you feel you can’t do better than fuck everyone else and do you. Ill say i would be genuinely be surprised if this kinda relationship ends well for you.

MayhemReignsTV · 2022-09-11T04:58:22+00:00

I bet you think all of those red flags are a carnival. Definitely not girlfriend material. Not because of how many people she has slept with. That’s honestly not an issue on its own. Usually when every single one of her exes are douche bags, in someway she is the problem. Either she is making bad choices in people she chooses to be with, or she is causing the relationship problems and won’t own up to her part. Neither scenario is good. The fact that she seems to be talking about her exes a lot is another red flag. The social media is yet another red flag but really, how she describes her past boyfriends is really the biggest red flag, along with what your parents are telling you. Normally, I would say opinions are like assholes. But your parents clearly have much more experience in life and you really need to get yourself a lot more self-confidence. This situation is easy as it gets. She’s not girlfriend material. It’s up to you. You can hit it and quit it but make sure you wrap up tight. Or you can just quit it. But her being hot is not worth the carnival that you’re running headfirst into. But this reminds me of somebody and there might be fun to be had but definitely do not make this anything long-term.

unsaerme · 2022-09-11T04:58:43+00:00

Have you ever had an argument or fight? How does she respond or behave?

What did she like about you? Are there any materialistic things?

Beauty fades one day. On that day, what else matters to you? Generally, what matters to you other than beauty?

Are you insecure that you won't get any other hot girl? Do you think she's the only god-made soul who's chosen you, that if you lose her no one will ever care to look at you? There are plenty of hot and gorgeous girls who might like you, who don't care about appearance in a boy.

Beauty is for girls. Confidence is for boys.

What's your definition of feminity that you look for in a potential life partner.

You think about all these and then make a logical decision mate.

AlmondCave · 2022-09-11T05:00:01+00:00

You're looking for a life partner, not eye candy. You need to be thinking of if you want to spend your life with this person or not. Looks fade.

Joel504 · 2022-09-11T05:02:52+00:00

Sounds to me like you already know the answer.

Title	Is it worth having a girlfriend like this?
Author	CaptainSaveBPD
Upvotes	55
Comments	102
Date	September 11, 2022 2:20 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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