Does a girl expect you to become angry when she rejects you?

hunterpua · 2022-04-23T16:04:20+00:00

So this is what 'being a jerk' is all about?

No. For most girls it's refreshing when guys are unfazed by rejection.

The guys that get annoyed turn women off because it usually comes from a place of desperation and weakness.

Bad boys don't get angry because they can't give 2 shits about rejection because they genuinely don't care what other people think and they aren't desperate too because they know that if they get rejected they're just gonna immediately walk up to a new girl right in front of the one that just rejected them.

great_account · 2022-04-23T17:33:49+00:00

Alot of men have no game and will get mad when they get rejected. Imo a big part of being an attractive man is taking rejection gracefully. It opens up more doors than you would think.

ecish · 2022-04-23T19:27:44+00:00

Some guys cannot handle rejection. I see it all the time in r/niceguys and a few other subs here. Plus my best friend is obsessed with dating apps and sends me convos with guys she rejects. It’s absolutely embarrassing seeing how guys react

Impressive_Sport_713 · 2022-04-23T14:45:11+00:00

Most guys are soo uncalibrated and will then flip the fuck out if they get shut down once. Is what shes referring to

Its guys who escalate quickly but have the patience to get shut down several times who will hook up with the girl. Theyre typically the "nice guy..." On the surface

longbrownjohnson · 2022-04-23T14:48:03+00:00

It's an unfortunate truth that certain men out there will lash out at women when they're rejected.

2022-04-23T15:56:55+00:00

She’s probably experienced a guy getting angry ,or abusive in the past. I know some guys can’t seem to take no for an answer.

geardluffy · 2022-04-23T15:20:16+00:00

Probably about 50% if men in real life, 90% of men online. (If I was better looking those stats would probably be higher).

It’s REALLY common, and I think if men understood this they would realise why women do some of the things they do (like ghosting rather than having conversations face to face, or why often a woman may feel pushed into sex when a man thought there was full consent- it’s so regular that’s it’s a fear a lot of women have)

Even if you just don’t respond to something like a cat call or a DM it’s goes form ‘hello beautiful’ to ‘fuck off you ugly slut’ in about 30 seconds 😬😂

modidlee · 2022-04-23T19:06:16+00:00

Yes. And it makes them rethink the rejection when your reaction is “oh well, ok bye.”

BitchLetEmKnow · 2022-04-23T16:28:08+00:00

Online its much more abundant to get an angry reaction towards rejection no matter how nice you are. In person if you try to be nice about it, some men will push cause you're smiling or making eye contact. All we're doing is acknowledging you and trying to respectfully decline. Some men don't get that hint and then we have to be mean or "a bitch" for them to leave us alone. Which can also result in an angry response.

So honestly everytime a girl actually declines you instead of ghosting or going along for the moment, they're taking a chance on an angry outcome but felt comfortable enough to take a chance and properly turn you down.

TealTriangle · 2022-04-23T15:12:23+00:00

I don't get angry, I just won't talk to her anymore. They take that as being angry often.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-23T15:55:14+00:00

No, a girl isn’t gonna be attracted to you just because you get angry. If she is surprise it had nothing to do with her attraction level, but more because most guys get angry.

mabden · 2022-04-23T20:08:29+00:00

Yes, it validates why they rejected you in the first place.

It is also an ego boost, since she has the power/value to make you react so strongly.

2022-04-23T21:53:26+00:00

An ex-coworker/classmate invited me over once, we cuddled, watched a movie then we kissed and she stopped and said she couldn’t go further. We carried on watching the movie.

Night ends all cool, then a few days later I text her just to say hi and she was genuinely shocked she told me she thought I would hate her after she rejected me.

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2022-04-24T03:24:15+00:00

"Did you reject me... or were you just slowing things down?"

She could either be shit testing you, showing last minute resistance or really rejecting you.

Your response is correct. Never get emotional or tied to an outcome. From initial meeting to the day you go your separate ways you and your actions are "on trial".

non-angry behavior maybe makes me too much of a nice guy?

Makes you a man with personal authority. It also builds trust. (Don't forget the game is played in Comfort).

guys are so aggressive with sex

There's a fine line between pushing for sex and being aggressive. You need to find that line then calibrate. It's better if you obtain better push/pull skill that way you up her buying temperature so that she's the one who can't keep her hands off you instead of the frame that she has something you want.

Nice guys don't playfully flirt/tease her or get her excited for sex. Run a search on Women are inductive amplifiers to learn how to speak to women.

toebob · 2022-04-23T14:47:03+00:00

Sadly, many men do get angry when rejected or they continue to push at boundaries after being told no. This happens so often that women are afraid to tell men “no” unless there is a good exit plan. It also explains why so many women ghost men. It can by physically and emotionally dangerous to reject a man.

That said, you can also project confidence while respecting their “no.” By responding with something like “I’m a patient man. We’ll do that when you’re ready for it and not before,” projects strength and safety. Those are often turn-ons.

Edit: I would add that I’ve also had success by turning the concept of consent around. Rather than asking for permission to do this or that you can say something like “Do you want this? Then you’ll have to ask me nicely.” It’s a bit of a playful power dynamic that sometimes works wonders.

hagakurejunkie · 2022-04-23T17:55:57+00:00

Most guys are weak ass and they get angry.

Understand also that she doesn't like you. She rejected you. Just staying cool doesn't automatically make her say "Oh, such a chill man, please have my vageen now!"

You're missing the whole point of the conversation.

You ARE a pathetic nice guy in this case because you're supplicating your conversation and hoping to be rewarded for it.

Why are you even still talking to her, you don't care if she's comfortable and she doesn't like you, which means she's about to head over to a guy she does like and bang him.

The actual dude who doesn't give a rats ass if she likes him or not would be like

Her: "I don't think this is going to work out."

Dude: "Cool, bye." and turn around and walk away. Because Dude knows that he is finished wasting his time with a woman who doesn't like him and he is headed to find a woman who does.

Once she says she doesn't like you, you LEAVE! You have no further interest in her, you delete her number, erase her texts and move on with your life. You simply do not have time to waste thinking over women who don't like you.

Contango6969 · 2022-04-23T16:06:56+00:00

Me every time

https://youtu.be/sQDggdQ-eUo

2022-04-23T16:46:56+00:00

Honestly man that is a confusing situation. It would have been better to ask her by what she means. It could be many things...could be

1: That she wanted you to be aggressive and "take her" (extremely risky)

2: She has had experiences in the past with guys who got upset and you are the first one that isn't and its a good surprise...and this whole thing is a test to see if you can handle rejection the way she wants you to

3: Who knows...

Sex is different around the world and some women want the idea of being "taken". Others want to be selective and make the choice themselves. I also personally think it depends on the guy...I believe that a women will switch from submissive to dominant depends on the energy that the guy is giving off...some guys can pull off the physical thing with no effort...others not so much. Different cultures value things differently. In spanish culture women want you to be more physical in northern culture women want to test you mentally...

jackzander · 2022-04-23T16:07:06+00:00

Straight up: Some chicks love conflict and feed off it (argue, fight, make-up, repeat). I find that kinda weird and exhausting and personally I don't play into it.

But: I don't think Understanding Nice Guy gets very many women rolling, either. It's good within a healthy relationship, but isn't likely to build initial attraction.

If I'm faced with this, I usually roll it into humor. Like, "Oh yeah I forgot. Yes, I am quite angry with you actually. Aaaaand now that I think about it I should probably go to therapy."

And then just fucking leave lmao

God, that would be so worth it.

dodged_that_one · 2022-04-23T15:57:14+00:00

Sounds like girls who like games and drama for validation. You're being a good guy, not a "nice guy". A "nice guy" would get upset because they would feel that they are playing their part and the girl had gone off-script with a rejection, when their entitled to whatever was going to come next.

These girls probably aren't worth your time, but if you don't want to walk away immediately, have something to say like, "You were right to slow things down, I'm not sure I'm that serious about you yet." This softens "rejection" to "slowing down" and makes her think that she's not in as much control of the situation as she had assumed.

HowToStud · 2022-04-23T18:15:59+00:00

It’s a good thing!!

It’s because all guys do it, when you’re calm about it you stand out and look like a g. You’re basically telling her I’m not desperate aka you’re not the only one

tangyjam · 2022-04-23T21:09:28+00:00

Idk bro this PUA and seduction is incel level,shut. U don’t get some w logic as they are emotional creatures

take this from a junkie whom may gave u the best advice u read

girls like to test you. with this they can see if youre a man whom let anyone walk ovee. U also gotta read the room and see if your reaction was appropriate if it was poking fun rather than a shit test to see or gauge ur sense of humor/

as a good looking guy with zero confidence in Hugh school I had chicks chase me even tho I was quiet due to congenitally missing teeth/ lateral incisors . Once I had those fixed senior year pussy was easy. I went through pua shit and tried it and it just made me feel creeepy and had ’wtf’ vibess from the targets.

what works? Girls are humans but emotional ones/. They only care about how you make them feel. They like hot guys bcus being with them makes the, feel special that they tamed a chad

be a high value man. Be funny and just not boring. do pua andseduction which is snumbrrs game if u rly Think this witchcraft cringe shit works/. All pua is good for is to give you courage to breakout and atleast attempt/ then u can reflect back on how cringe you were

she stopped you because it was awkward (U made it sound like hooking up is a formula with step) when romance is based off the vibe and all about timing which comes with experience/. Or you we’re in public and public affectionate is next level cringe . U should have joked or amused her saying ‘i cant tell you bcus the last woman I did that to isnt here anymore ‘ or play it off as ‘oh you didn’t know I’m gay?

she soundslike a low value slut to me anyways used to jerks. U should have shown u don’t give a fuck and left the date if she doesn’t feeel the same about u. With that move u can see if she’s interested indicated by reaching out to u

anyways good luck bro . Pm me if you want a guys advice. I’m pretty successful with women even tho I have had a substance abuse problem/. I was able to land hot with a crippling dr ug issue as well

ShameAffectionate15 · 2022-04-23T22:40:59+00:00

Paradox of choice. More options means less activity. Its real. Loyalty is a principle and principle is what defines us. So like men women will stay loyal on principle because thats who they are.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-04-23T22:54:36+00:00

There’s definitely a sizeable subset of guys who flip out if a girl rejects them, I’m surprised you haven’t seen it before.

Cowboylion · 2022-04-23T23:12:28+00:00

No they want you to get over them. Obviously they’re not reciprocating the same energy. They don’t want you obsessing over them.

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-04-23T23:40:36+00:00

Lots of "nice guys" out there who get angry when a girl rejects them. They're not the norm, but common enough that most women have encountered at least one.

cass2769 · 2022-04-24T07:27:55+00:00

Women are used to toxic men and that’s too bad. Keep doing what you are doing.

pollyanne1209 · 2022-10-27T06:52:29+00:00

No. She just isn't interested

Title	Does a girl expect you to become angry when she rejects you?
Author	Yellow_Squeezer
Upvotes	66
Comments	37
Date	April 23, 2022 2:39 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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