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mercush · 2022-02-01T13:02:29+00:00

More than half of the unattractive shit is born and raised through your mind. Just because you believe you ain't worth it, the game is already over bro and the winner in all this interaction or hookup game is by default a woman.

pokemonpokemonmario · 2022-02-01T12:41:28+00:00

I feel like you got two choices. Actively look for the type of women that want a man with no experience or fake it till you make it.

mercush · 2022-02-01T12:29:00+00:00

I was in your exact situation, and I understand these thoughts very well.

What I would recommend you do is be more outgoing and social. If you're no longer at university/ college go out with friends more, join interest groups whatever.

From a situation of social abundance you can start first getting comfortable talking to strangers, then get your feet wet with flirting.

From there I got lucky one or two times and gradually you build that expectation within yourself that success (however you define it) can and will happen.

From there go on a lot of dates (you can try online dating, social circle or even cold approach if you want to invest the time) and figure out what kind if women you like and what works and doesn't work.

Or you meet someone you click with and get until a relationship right away. It's not how it worked for me btw but I imagine that's an easier way of getting rid of the insecurity around being inexperienced.

erarjorin · 2022-02-01T13:18:32+00:00

Someone who was on this situation and then went to an escort, how did it change things?

Yourbunny3 · 2022-02-01T12:14:59+00:00

I am a woman and I don’t think men with no experience are unattractive. Your future girl will even like it maybe. Just take your time and don’t pressure yourself.

ZosoWicca · 2022-02-01T14:50:16+00:00

Fuking pr0s is more interesting than dealing with hoes if the only thing you want is sex. Meanwhile, you can be practicing social dynamics with other girls, without the pressure to get Sex. This way is more funny, you dont pedestalize pussies.

dheidjdedidbe · 2022-02-01T17:44:38+00:00

The way you solve your problem is by going out there and approach 100 attractive girls.

Tell them straight way you think they are attractive so she knows exactly what you are up to

twistedtowel · 2022-02-01T15:17:52+00:00

Read ‘She comes first’ book. Seriously just read a few books on how to please a woman, then you can be confident. You can then lie to yourself if you need to but you can just focus on being a horndog. Thats my strategy for you. Know how to do all the right foreplay, drive her crazy before finally getting in there. 1) know the “technical skills”, through reading/research. 2) focus on being horny and her body and nothing else. Shut that brain down. Focus on boobies. In a way mindfulness which removes anxious thoughts, but perve style. Practice meditation too for further anxiety removal, thats your only issue here. Obviously consent and read the situation, any hesitation from her and just focus on talking/chilling. It doesn’t matter at all whether you have experience. But i know for you, you are going to have anxiety so focus on 1&2 and nothing else and you KNOW you are doing your part and don’t have to blame yourself for any wrongdoing (i guess 3) is obviously consent in the back of your mind constantly).

No-Department6252 · 2022-02-01T19:24:39+00:00

Wrong, being attractive makes you attractive to women. just use common sense. think about the guys you know who have a high lay count. what do they all have in common (for the most part obviously there will exceptions but it's mostly the same thing)? they are all good-looking correct or at least above average in looks. simple, so what's the solution? become more attractive to the woman visually and the rest is cake. then just look at the women body language around you and you will see that women actively seduce the men they want to fuck

2022-02-01T15:03:04+00:00

Escorts. Bang a few you like. Then get out there.

bee_eazsy · 2022-02-01T20:44:29+00:00

Go to a whore house and pay for sex Jesus Christ my cousins were taking me to whore houses since I was 15. It’s not that hard to fuck

AlexLookUp · 2022-02-01T15:52:51+00:00

It's all in your mind. The human brain is extremely powerful and when you convince yourself of something, your mind will believe it and will behave in that way.

I promise most of y'all just need a make-over. Reinvent yourself and get back out there,because why not? Your old style wasn't selling to the ladies. Accentuate your features with styles you've always wanted to try, keeping it natural to you as a person. Get out there with confidence and some people are going to see that and find you attractive.Redo your hair, outfit, grooming style, body posture, and facial expressions. Eye-contact and smiling are important. Form habits to engage people and read their level of interest so as to know when to exit gracefully. Practice is the key like most things in this world.

Silent_Length · 2022-02-01T16:20:00+00:00

Feel like it’s as if I’ve just typed this post, just wanna lose it now

Ares762 · 2022-02-01T17:36:12+00:00

Seems to be a self confidence issue. Lifting weights raised my libido and confidence a lot, which led me to more "success" overtime. The key is to not stay "idle" and keep moving, not worrying about hooking up all the time. Don't know if it made sense, english is my second language.

the-vh4n · 2022-02-01T19:59:22+00:00

Look, i'm 31 i was 24 when i've lost my virginity. It happened in a brief moment in which i stopped thinking about girls or caring about what they tought of me. I haven't had sex since because i still don't really believe in myself and i'm having therapy to correct this, but that girl i had sex with at the time was really beautiful in my eyes and if i look at a picture of myself from that time i see myself a lot uglier than i'm now but i was in a different state of mind so it didn't matter at all. The moral of this story is that you have to believe in your self worth either by yourself or aided by a professional if it's necessary

nightshade249 · 2022-02-01T20:21:57+00:00

Lol, you’re walking around with a tape recorder on loop going “fuck I’m a Virgin omg I’m not good enough, what if she finds out?!” when instead you should be listening to “I’m a boss ass mothafucka who doesn’t need anyone and women should be lucky to be with me”.

Either way, in this analogy whatever track you choose to listen to they can hear it too… because it shows. No man or woman likes an anxious nervous wreck.

Rainmaker0102 · 2022-02-02T01:09:03+00:00

I can relate to your position, however I'm not a virgin, so your mileage may vary.

A lot of other people have said it's mental and they're pretty right. Have an idea of what you want to do and communicate that. Don't be afraid to try things, but also make sure communication is a priority. Last thing you want is someone to get hurt, so make sure there's communication on both sides so that you both know what's going on.

As to attracting them, that's another story. Only because there's literally a million ways, all are good for some people, but not others. Tinder can be hit or miss, but feel good about yourself, at least a little bit, and you'll be on your way in no time.

SafeConfusion7208 · 2022-02-02T02:20:09+00:00

What works for me is challenging them to a competition/ arm wrestling/ gambling and NOT treat them like the price (i guess some girls like to feel like the price but idk)

I will try my hardest and not let them win. Some times you lose, some times you win. They like feeling like you take them seriously enough to try your hardest.

It also gives you something to talk about yk

devolve79 · 2022-02-02T02:48:24+00:00

In any endeavour you start small and then organically grow. Start with talking on tinder or whatever. Then maybe phone conversations. Get comfortable with meeting people. Same thing with sex. Start with kissing. Move on when you're good and ready. Hell. If you have to. Pay for it a couple times.

Also you don't start with a ten. You build up to a ten.

pkuforlife · 2022-02-02T03:24:52+00:00

Read models by mark Manson. I was a virgin at 20 years old. I was honest about it. Lost it at 21 by following its teachings.

Alive_Occasion8966 · 2022-02-02T03:49:19+00:00

Dude, you’re trying hard (stressing out your brain) rather than trying hard (dressing up good, body posture and odour, approaching with strong eye contact, talking and bantering playfully letting them know your intentions, not giving a fuck mindset)

chocolex23 · 2022-02-02T07:43:20+00:00

What's up with ppl having sex before getting married ? Don't you get worried that when you'll marry someone and they are not virgin it'll be bad that they had sex with someone before you or they got around before marriage ? Which country you guys live ? Why isn't it possible here ?

Sigh I wish i was born in a western country. You guys have it so much easy and fun there.

ohropax · 2022-02-02T08:32:50+00:00

Fly to Frankfurt Germany with 500 Euro in Pocket. Visit FKK Sauna Club and have Sex with 5 girls in one evening.

There ya go.

CautiousAbility5963 · 2022-02-02T10:18:02+00:00

You need to start viewing women as human beings. They all fart, poop, pee, get messy once a month, they are not very confident in their body, etc. Talk to them like you would talk with your male friends, tease them, be a gentleman and I'm sure you will do great.

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