Hopeless dude.

Kukantiz · 2021-11-02T12:48:39+00:00

Are you the best version of yourself? Work on that first. The closer you are to that person, the easier it will be to attract people to you

krispykreme01 · 2021-11-02T18:08:54+00:00

Get off dating apps it’s a struggle for avg to even above avg guys. It will make you frustrated.
Get in shape go to gym.
Talk to women in real life.
Work on yourself improve yourself.
Meditation and stoic practice if you want.

Such_Ad_2442 · 2021-11-02T11:22:38+00:00

Try to go out and start talk with someone in bar you dont have to drink if you dont like it just start conversstion and you will see how things will play out

little_asian_man_89 · 2021-11-02T15:06:49+00:00

One trick that works for me,

Is to get a hobby that has both men and women in it.

Martial arts is a good one, and maybe even gymnastics.

Or, ever try dancing?

If you're looking to play the long game, it's definitely what I would do.

Pain_Tough · 2021-11-02T13:28:06+00:00

I had amazing luck with ballroom dancing. Like I was one of three men, over 30 women showed up, I was getting passed around like a slave. It was great!

capconv · 2021-11-02T13:48:47+00:00

I would suggest picking up a hobby or a sport, if not hit the gym. Please work on your body and be in a good shape, you will start gaining confidence and this will give you a head-start in the dating game.

Tinder is one of many ways. My friend had got many dates by going to Zumba classes.

BrownnPickup · 2021-11-02T17:49:32+00:00

A girl won’t stop you from watching porn and jerking off. Focus on that first. You are literally putting yourself in your anxious and depressed state.

JMichelleK · 2021-11-02T20:01:20+00:00

Echoing the advice of a couple others, being in a relationship won’t make you stop looking at porn and masturbating. My husband doesn’t drink, smoke, do drugs, etc and I met him when he gave me a ride to an activity a mutual friend was hosting. Look for people in locations you would want to be with someone from. By that I mean do you like people who drink? If you don’t then don’t go to clubs looking for people. Do you like people who work out? Then look for people at the gym. I’ve never tried online dating but it definitely seems superficial, my husband is tall but also overweight so on an online dating app he wouldn’t have had much luck but in person he is sweet, strong, amazing voice etc. it’s a lot easier to get to know someone in person and when people don’t judge based on looks. My husband was 22 when he had his first kiss and 24 when he had sex for the first time, so just because you are in your mid 20s doesn’t mean you are behind.

stanthemilkman88 · 2021-11-02T15:51:16+00:00

Are you a fat neet with no hobbies though?

SylAbys · 2021-11-02T17:30:11+00:00

That's the problem... your looking at a girl as a sex object . Your going to remain hopeless dude with a strong grip

Theory_Agile · 2021-11-02T19:27:59+00:00

You need to go approach girls in perosn The apps are bullshit

pp604977 · 2021-11-03T01:05:00+00:00

Say you have a friends wedding coming up and a bunch of dudes are throwing a bachelor’s party. You are going too!

smoothfucker420 · 2021-11-02T16:44:59+00:00

Thats your problem. You should start doing drugs

neoda1 · 2021-11-02T17:55:09+00:00

go watch the fresh and fit podcast .

ItIsICoachCal · 2021-11-02T18:08:03+00:00

It's kind of interesting that only things you volunteer about yourself are that you don't drink or do drugs, which is really besides the point, especially since you're only talking about online dating.

What are your basics? What is your job and living situation? Fitness level? Hobbies? Dress sense/hygiene/grooming? What social circle can you leverage?

jane_m7 · 2021-11-02T15:02:30+00:00

babyarmnate · 2021-11-02T15:48:22+00:00

Focus on bettering yourself. Don’t make getting women a priority. Better yourself and women will come with time.

Geekedphilosophy · 2021-11-02T20:52:34+00:00

Did not read any other comments so if this has been said already I apologize but perhaps the fact that you DON'T "drink, smoke or do any drugs" is why you have trouble with women. Please do not take that to mean you should do anything you are not comfortable with just to get laid or that living a clean lifestyle is a bad thing just that in all honesty bro you sound boring and that is not attractive to the ladies. Women like risk takers and someone who they can have a good time with not someone they can detox with...just speaking from experience as someone who has been both clean and sober at times and geeked out of my mind at others. Live a little and take some risks in life and the ladies will see you as a man who's company they want to keep. Good luck bro!

Donthehobbit · 2021-11-02T20:58:22+00:00

Have you tried drinking and doing drugs? Or one of them. I joke. Idk what to tell you man its hard out here but not that hard.

WetPaint099 · 2021-11-02T21:17:16+00:00

“I don’t drink, smoke, or do any form of drugs.” There you have it, folks! Mystery solved! Yw.

GandhiTheHoleResizer · 2021-11-02T22:55:36+00:00

No drugs? There’s your problem

Throwaway4dat1ng · 2021-11-03T00:18:17+00:00

Have you tried going out meeting women?

Y_Moya_C · 2021-11-03T02:16:23+00:00

This helped me... lets say for a fact that you can't meet anyone ever, and that you will live alone and die alone... What would you do with your life then? What life would you live?

SnoLeppard13 · 2021-11-03T02:40:50+00:00

If you don’t drink you probably don’t socialize. If you don’t socialize you probably don’t have social skills. If you don’t have social skills you’re probably unattractive to women.

smind893 · 2021-11-03T03:36:09+00:00

Go outside

ooogabooogaboooga23 · 2021-11-03T03:37:59+00:00

As a virgin who is moving his way up, I highly recommend that you learn to be comfortable with yourself, be satisfied with who you are.

TheBurgessChurchill · 2021-11-03T04:04:21+00:00

If you want to become good with women it requires learning body language, social skills, social intelligence, the ability to calibrate, and frame control. I can help you. I can tell you exactly what to say step by step and give you a roadmap so you know which direction you want to go in and which directions to avoid. Send me a direct message. I'll be happy to help. It will take too long to explain here.

AmjadG29 · 2021-11-03T06:45:04+00:00

Do drugs.

damiancontrol · 2021-11-03T07:10:51+00:00

There a whole lot to it than just being straight edge lol

Title	Hopeless dude.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	46
Comments	104
Date	November 2, 2021 11:08 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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