How to deal with the high energy overly flirty girls?

r1bb1tTheFrog · 2021-07-22T04:53:18+00:00

That sort of personality is no indication of their actual interest in dating or sex. Some of the most flirtatious and outgoing girls I knew like that were virgins until 25 or later.

MisterShogunate · 2021-07-22T06:44:40+00:00

Don’t overcomplicate things. It doesn’t matter what her personality is. If she allow you to escalate then you’ll be able to gauge her interest based on that.

Don’t be an orbiter who never pulls the trigger. For example, she flirty with everyone but would she go out with you alone. If she’s flirty but never let’s you be close to her than it’s obviously just fake interest.

AvatarReiko · 2021-07-22T04:20:41+00:00

Two ways around this; chances are she’s extraverted. Depending on your nature, if you’re introverted she will naturally find your aloofness to her attention to be alluring. This form of “ignoring” can work.

As an introvert it’s worked for me. On other cases what I’ve see the opposite is that the guy out does her at her own game. The overly flirtatious type does what she does because she enjoys the game but escalate it/ challenge her forwardness in a playful way can fluster her will make you stand out more.

At this point, when you’ve out done her is when you pull away. I think the term in psychology is refraction.

mandoa_sky · 2021-07-22T05:16:43+00:00

your problem is that flirt and extovert can overlap.

i agree with the prev comment that you have 2 options:

a) act aloof and see what happens

b) "outflirt" her and see what happens

ItsMeMsG · 2021-07-22T09:09:45+00:00

It's a matter of perception actually. You may see it as being overly flirty while it's just her nature to be affectionate. If you see that she does this with everybody, men or women then it's definitely her nature.

2021-07-22T03:45:03+00:00

Don't let it phase you. Let her truly earn your flirtatious attitude.

asyd0 · 2021-07-22T09:32:10+00:00

Those are the best girls out there, according to me. As an extrovert but shy person, I thrive in that energy, and I'm able to really be myself more easily. The only two serious relationships I've had, have been with this kind of girls. But in both cases, they were into me from the very beginning, way before than I realized.

Unfortunately, it looks like a more introvert approach works better with them.

Embarrassed_Fix_7278 · 2021-07-22T06:59:53+00:00

As one of those girls my whole life, we just like to enjoy life. It is our nature! We laugh and joke, we might touch your arm, tell you you look nice. So how do you know we like you? When we are more serious around you. If you see a pattern, look for the break in that pattern. That will tell you everything. The guy I am seeing now is not one everyone thinks is completely attractive. He studied me, learned me, watched my personality, and figured out who I am without me having to tell him. And he did it without being creepy. He would just start a conversation with me, and an hour later we would still be talking. We both love history, we are both highly intelligent... and that is a fact no one else could see past the blonde hair and bubbly personality. We still laugh about it, and no one who knows us even suspects our relationship because we are so different on the surface.

Heheheneral · 2021-07-22T07:51:42+00:00

hey bro, if you feel confused on her, leave her alone, be with someone who gives you no hard feelings or time.

audiophilistine · 2021-07-22T05:47:43+00:00

I have had some minor success dealing with women like this. A girl might snuggle close and put my arm over her shoulder saying she's cold or something. I'll look down at her and say simply, "I'm not that easy, you know." It flips the script on her making it seem like she's the one chasing. Also, by saying no early, you're telling her she can't have you. It's human nature to want what you can't have...

Tiny_Category1506 · 2021-07-22T07:11:38+00:00

How lucky you are))) good luck, bro)

rookieMale · 2021-07-22T08:39:41+00:00

Tell her you are not my type while pulling her close

ohthatgirlshere1 · 2021-07-22T04:13:41+00:00

as a flirty girl, I just try to practice being flirty as a way of being likable perhaps. With girls it’s another type of energy but also fun. If you want her interest just ask for it. Let her know you’re interested and be honest bc vulnerability is hot!

2021-07-22T05:43:50+00:00

Be flirty back but don't get attached. That'll be like hooking a speeding car bumper and holding onto the rope.

Arabella_oh · 2021-07-22T08:38:55+00:00

As a very flirty woman, I do it because it feels natural to me to be flirty with people around me. It is no indication of whether I want to sleep with them or date them. I do not do it in order to get something from anyone. I don’t really think about it, it’s just my personality. I am fiercely loyal to my partner and would never cross any boundaries. So don’t overthink it, just be confident, nice and be yourself!

Domin8u315 · 2021-07-22T08:50:41+00:00

Yeah some are just flirty in general but yeah I may use it like a tool when I need something off a top shelf, a jar opened, a tire changed, etc. but I can generally tell that the guy may have the “hero complex” and likes to come to my rescue. I think there is too much negativity in the world so why not be a bit flirty and make someone smile.

mdr615888 · 2021-07-22T08:54:32+00:00

You 100% shouldn’t give them what they want. Lol why would you want to just because of the potential of an actual relationship. If the potential was really there you wouldn’t be writing this you’d be talking to her lol. That I’m no way means stop talking to her, just don’t get caught up spending on her, giving her all your attention etc. I know this isn’t the advice you want but just seek a different girl why would you want a girl who flirts with everyone. Unless you’re not the jealous type but it seems you are so why waste your time and hurt your ego by allowing it to bother you when she isn’t your girl or even a potential girl. Maybe ask her out see if that changes

Manwombat · 2021-07-22T09:42:52+00:00

Maybe they think you’re gay and treating you like a buddy.

LagomFem · 2021-07-22T04:35:22+00:00

Ghost them

Teamtoast · 2021-07-22T08:30:00+00:00

I think you need to keep your interactions with her as man-to-woman. Don’t reciprocate in a friend-way… but I would flirt in more obvious ways to not get sucked into the friend-zone

iAM_A_NiceGuy · 2021-07-22T11:30:16+00:00

Been with one, she loved to talk so I just asked questions. Debated playfully if she was wrong, she pinged me on Insta but she had a boyfriend so I didn’t escalate things. Don’t come from a place of getting girls, come from a place of getting to know people, if she is meant to be you will feel it.

daysinnroom203 · 2021-07-22T11:35:49+00:00

They use flirting as a tool to get what the want…. The way you use seduction to get what you want. Yeah.

Sweet-Tomatillo-9010 · 2021-07-22T13:11:35+00:00

What exactly is this person doing to be "flirty"?

Interesting-Brief202 · 2021-07-22T14:47:45+00:00

Ask them out. If they say no, they are fake flirting for attention. Easy.

greyman0425 · 2021-07-22T16:19:26+00:00

You treat it by letting it go in one ear and out the other. If a girl is flirty with everyone means you are in the friend zone. Just be friendly back, yank her chain a bit, ask her to wing man, ask her to introduce you to other girls etc....

Flirting with everyone is that particular girl's base line. Look for a changes in behavior. Big changes means something is up. When she stops flirting with you, she likes a guy and it ain't you or anyone else that was in that group. Or she is pissed at you for some reason.

If she gets nervous around particular guy, that is the target of her affections and she hasn't reeled him in yet.

BluePsychosisDude2 · 2021-07-22T16:21:31+00:00

In the book "Sixty Years of Challenge", he talks about how this type of girl might do basically everything: kissing, grinding on you, etc. but if you try to get her to caress your hand, she will recoil because that's a thing that couples do, and she doesn't actually feel a connection to you.

narcissistic889 · 2021-07-22T18:37:27+00:00

I don't go for those girls, usually they are the type that go for every guy and have poor boundaries. Look for a quality woman who doesn't just flirt with everyone lol

mdr615888 · 2021-07-22T19:41:17+00:00

Just because a girl is nice to you doesn’t mean she’s flirting, she’s just being a decent human being. You literally sound like a predator

Edit: if you wanna fight me on my statement just take a look at the language you chose to use “against her” “, “combat”, You literally sound like you hate women

Personal_goal21 · 2021-07-22T20:10:28+00:00

I will solve that for you.

Be the alpha.

I stayed with a girl like this, and i said come on! And finally I did it.

The solution was "be honest with her (you like her touch) and be the alpha." (if you don't know what an alpha do, i recommend a movie of young Brad Pitt. He is the Death and try to seduce her).

If a person is really touchy with you is clamming your attention. It doesn't really matter if this person do the same with all the other people because that person is "low value in the deepness of her own mind".

All the girls will say "this is not true". Do it, and tell me later.

autogizmo · 2021-07-23T02:03:24+00:00

It really depends on the perception. You might view her as being flirty but for her, it's just normal and extroverted. As for differentiating yourself from other guys, don't reciprocate her flirtiness or don't give her the attention that other guys do.

Early-Lock-9322 · 2021-07-23T06:05:55+00:00

Within the first 5 min of idle flirting or chit-chat, ask them tactfully, politely, honestly, and discreetly for sex. If they are truly interested, and say yes congratulations you win. If they aren't, you still win, because now your finding out within the first five minutes of an interaction with a woman if she's truly interested in you. As opposed to multiple dates, weeks, or months, and dollars later just to find out that a girl isn't interested in you. This way it saves you the most valuable and finite resource you have. Time.

2021-07-23T10:43:39+00:00

In my opinion very flirty women need approval from everyone and that's why they do it. So you really need validation from that person? Imagine the best woman you know, or the future mom to your kids, you want it to be that type of person? Just because someone is different does not mean that person is better. Easy way to deal with that girl, either just ignore and do your own thing and find a better woman or just talk to her straight and be assertive and ask on a date, flirt back, see if anything happens. Don't play games, try and see if anything sticks, if not move on, seriously, she is just looking for simp validation

Title	How to deal with the high energy overly flirty girls?
Author	mdr615888
Upvotes	299
Comments	83
Date	July 22, 2021 3:13 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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