During the first initial stages of dating and getting to know someone, it is important to establish that you are viewed in a romantic/sexual manner, not simply as a friend.

Sometimes, there will be a great conversation and personalities will gel, yet a spark of sexual tension fails to ignite, because the dynamic of the interaction skews more towards friendship.

A key component of ensuring that things progress in a manner that promotes a sexual tension and playfulness is touch.

This can be tricky, because if you are unsure of yourself, or become too eager and rushed, it will backfire and appear creepy or needy. You need to pay attention to how she is interacting with you, and the context of the situation.

For instance, if you immediately try to touch her hands as you sit down on your first date, it will appear desperate and unnatural. Or if she is displaying a low level of attraction or interest, it will likely repel her even further.

A good way to establish a natural, yet subtle touch is hugging when you initially greet each other. The initially hug is light anyway, never a full bear hug or embrace. If you place your hand LIGHTLY on the side of her hip or lower back as you hug, it will subtly reinforce that you are comfortable and confident being close to her without being a creep. Don’t make it a big deal.

As the night (nighttime dates are always better for first initial dates to establish a romantic dynamic) progresses, if you have good chemistry and have a playful vibe, continue with light hand touching. Authentically compliment her on her nails or jewelry, as you lightly put your hands under hers.

There a several other examples. If you are crossing the street, you can gently lead by placing your hand on her lower back. If things progress and the chemistry is there, hand holding, more intimate or playful hugging, and kissing. Paying attention to her body language and mannerisms are key. If she is maintaining eye contact, is talkative, or orienting her body in a manner to get closer, these are typical indicators that you are on the right path

The key is to be natural, light and subtle initially, and of course respectful. You also want her to feel comfortable and safe around you. If done correctly, along with a fun, flirtatious attitude, touch will help establish her perception of you as a potential romantic partner, not a buddy who is fun to talk to.

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