Rejection depression

gbizzle2 · 2021-06-28T01:08:17+00:00

Get professional help. Most people on reddit are depressed themselves. So this is a terrible place for counseling in that regard.

ifoundthetomatoes · 2021-06-28T01:35:54+00:00

I agree, get professional help. Work on yourself before trying to get into a relationship. You need to be happy and love yourself first before anything else. Hope you get better with time!

Western-Bite1759 · 2021-06-28T03:52:18+00:00

Getting out of a vicious cycle like that is hard. Try to do things that get you in a good mood. Working out helped me a lot for example. Then try to talk to people. Not girls. People. Learn to be a bit more socially active with everyone. With good practice it will come naturally and won't feel like an act anymore.

It's not easy. Especially nowadays. Everybody seems to live in their own bubbles it's crazy. At least were I live. Not good for anyone if you ask me unless you really are a lone wolf.

Get to know girls that you aren't interested in too. Being around girls helps you understand them even more.

Legitimate-Lies · 2021-06-28T04:14:47+00:00

I suffer from this. Monk mode is the answer. Dating burn out is real

Centurion562 · 2021-06-28T04:19:58+00:00

I think of it as an athlete - he has to practise and when he comes second or third - he reflects on what went wrong, and endeavours to do better next time. He

I think of it as an athlete - he has to practise and when he comes second or third - he reflects on what went wrong, and endeavours to do better next time. He brushes off the defeat and gets back to practise - so he can do better next time. This "failure" leads to success over time. That's what you are looking for greater success over time.

There are lots of things you can do to shift depression - exercise is good, getting regular sleep and eating well helps. But there is no quick fix. I take Vit D and swear it helps my mood and productivity. Seek professional help as you require.

If you need reach out and chat.

WhatWeCanBe · 2021-06-28T04:27:43+00:00

Are you exercising? Are you sleeping well? How’s your diet?

Exercise can have the biggest effect, followed by sleep. Make-sure you not lacking essential vitamins, minerals, or omega 3.

Take time to focus on yourself as others have mentioned. Throw yourself into your work. These things make you more attractive. Have a reset and come back to dating with a fresh mind.

VDKay · 2021-06-28T05:06:17+00:00

Yes, what others say actually. You have to break out of that circle manually. Think about it as a train going round and round on a circular track (that's depression). You'll have to introduce some disturbance to make the train derail. You can't wait to feel better. You have to act now! Maybe a professional can help, but you have to be clear about the help you want.

How am I suddenly suppose to feel happy?

You don't suddenly become happy. You feel the pain and sadness like everyone else. You just deal with it and you get back up to fight as soon as you can. First time, it might knock you out for a week, then for a day, and if you do press on and you do, say cold-approach, that rejection depression will last for 10 minutes until you go talk to the next girl.

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2021-06-28T08:41:26+00:00

Stop chasing women. Chase excellence. If you do that and you do far better than most men in 6 years, women will flock towards you. Problem solved.

JHibbz91 · 2021-06-28T12:24:54+00:00

I have been single all my 20 besides one girlfriend, who cheated on me because I wouldn't drink every weekend. I was great at picking up girls as a teen, but struggled in my 20s. Admittedly I have had a very tough ten years, not to do with relationships and stuff, but I still was hard on myself for my failures to get any woman to like me or even wanna have a chat with me. Still currently in this problem and, yes it is depressing. But you got to live your life regardless because nobody is going to turn it around for you.

I just hope the right woman comes along still and is happy to talk to me as I would be with them. Good luck OP. Try be comfortable with your own company, and hopefully one day our outcomes will be different.

GracieFairmont86 · 2021-06-28T05:45:01+00:00

Just stop getting rejected, and your mood will improve..

There is no way to guarantee zero rejection but it can be cut in half.

This is done by only approaching women that show you the green lights. The first words usually need to come from men, but women usually give the first non verbal signal to show they want you to talk.

Dress up nice and just go shopping like normal, you aint there for women so pay attention, you see green lights all the time when you are on a purpose other than chashing women and aren't attainable. I'm 5'7" and thicc, if I get these signals you definitely will. Women will subtly put themself near you multiple times, or reach for a close item to something u are grabbing, they will smile or laugh at nothing or play with their hair, cashiers will "accidentally" hold your hand with 2 hands while giving change, etc

Shadow__Account · 2021-06-28T08:49:31+00:00

By Not letting your happiness be based on you succes with women. You make your own metrics for happiness and succes. Maybe you don’t need food, maybe the thing you think you need isn’t all that and there are other things that you are unaware of and of their importance for your happiness that you could be pursuing

greatgagan · 2021-06-28T08:57:46+00:00

Set goals for yourself. Getting a women should be one goal but not the only one. Some goals take longer than others. Doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Just hone your craft on whatever goal(s) you have in mind. Trust me theres more to life than just women mate.

RedFalcon_1235 · 2021-06-28T10:35:53+00:00

Hey there! I highly recommend checking out a guy called Geoffrey Setiawan. He'll help you to really change your mindset and see all these rejections (Stonewalling) as an opportunity. Allowing you to love the process and not become fixated on the final outcome. Hope this and his videos help!

Mutiu2 · 2021-06-28T11:58:31+00:00

Yes you should always focus on yourself.

But to take the professional athlete analogy, you need to go down to the lower leagues and work on your game. Spend some time going for the ones that you think are a "6" or a "7" and learn what works and what doesn't. This will build up your knowledge and confidence.

Then move up to the "9" or "10" when you understand yourself and the women better.

Alex_O7 · 2021-06-28T12:57:02+00:00

You don't have to do nothing. Take a break. Then ask yourself is it really better not even trying vs gets rejection?

I'm assuming you have studied the basis of seduction, otherwise use the gap time to study, ready and Wath as many material as you can about seduction. Then put yourself out there again.

Because the worst rejection and failure you will ever get is from not even trying to do something. That's a live advice as much as it is a seduction matter. Never forget the goal is to enjoy your life.

nanis_m · 2021-06-28T21:46:32+00:00

I was somewhat in the same boat as you.

I then learned that we’ve been going about life the wrong way. We use our exterior world to tell us how to feel. When actually, your inner world influences your outer world.

To change this, I meditated to rewrite my subconscious mind. I’d do it about 3 times a day for about 10-15 mins.

Once I calmed my mind, I’d visualize something that makes me happy and sit with that feeling as if it were true. Your subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between an actual lived experience to a thought. The power of imagination is grand!

If visualizing isn’t natural, come up with a phrase that helps. Everyday in every way I’m getting better and better. Or isn’t it wonderful that I’m now…. Or, I remember when…(current situation) and now I’m ….(intended situation).

It’ll slowly bring you back to a good place where you’ll now be able to see yourself in a new light.

Try mirror talking too. Look at yourself, like really, and go off on how amazing you are. Even if it feels like a lie at first.

Everything in this life has been made up. Why not live the reality you want. Consciously create it from within, and see how your world changes without to conform to your new beliefs :))

TaylorW711 · 2021-06-28T01:59:03+00:00

If you do your best when you approach, in the end you did your best and the girls are too shallow to realize you are a man with balls and courage to go up and ask one out. Also you need to be outcome independent. No matter what happens you still live your life trying to improve everyday. Use women as a way to improve your life, but it does not depend on it.

Red1791 · 2021-06-28T03:41:54+00:00

Stop worrying about women and pour your self into your work

StayBrief8560 · 2021-06-28T07:08:23+00:00

Keep in mind that the right person for you is out there. Gust go with the flow of life. Don't search for love. Juts enjoy life day by day. Hang in there and be who you are as you. It will works out

Bitchy_bear · 2021-06-28T07:19:46+00:00

Drink beer (talk with you friends) Don't think much about it, it happens You will forget about it in a day or two

Jintoad1970 · 2021-06-28T10:15:14+00:00

Gbizzle2 was correct in that reddit’s not the best place for counseling, but i do have SOME experience as a lot of rejection happened to me in highschool back to back, it’s probably why i got so attatched to those who DID accept me.

The thing is. You’re gonna be hella tempted to become angry, jaded, and masturbate your feelings away. Surely you’d know as well as i that it’ll lead to addiction if you’re depressed enough. And i was. Still kinda am.

You’ll feel like it’s your fault but really that’s not true unless you purposefully like didn’t shower or brush teeth or something. It’s not your fault mate. You’re a decent...human? I think?? You’re not some kinda robot tryns trick the captcha system yeah? Ok, good.

99% not your fault, i’d say 100 but nothing’s ever guaranteed in life so you need room for error. Because some people are specific bitches

Borgheu · 2021-06-28T10:26:44+00:00

Do cocaine

peaceful_friend · 2021-06-28T02:00:08+00:00

Agree about getting help. This meditation can lift mood rather profoundly https://vimeo.com/245422628

Jintoad1970 · 2021-06-28T05:06:14+00:00

It might be that you expecting women's acceptance to make you happy, and not having that makes you unhappy. I would spend time with some friends/family that make you feel valued.

Jintoad1970 · 2021-06-28T06:21:12+00:00

keep lowering your standards til you can get laid

Ok_Fortune_9149 · 2021-06-28T08:07:41+00:00

Yes work on yourself. But also in the meantime lower your standards a bit, to get things in motion, and break the cycle. Man I was dry for I don't know at least one or two years at one point, after a bad break-up. Banging some random (not so hot to say the least) chick got things back on motion. Gives you a lil boost to know you can at least always have someone. It's probably not "good" or anything, but still helps.

Jintoad1970 · 2021-06-28T09:59:44+00:00

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theblackwaltz72 · 2021-06-28T10:00:13+00:00

22M here i got the same thing i was scared and stressed in first 2 weeks after that stress load up and turn out to be a bad mood about 1 months 15 days was bad 15 was good it just keeps going better in each day.You have to try to solve it on your own and take time if you need.After some point my brain doesnt allow me to feel stressed about it.After that moment i have started get healed in each day passes.

bornprebridged24 · 2021-06-28T15:05:01+00:00

Same here but honestly there's no way around the pain except drugs which only numb you temporarily.

2021-06-28T17:48:57+00:00

It’s all in the mindset. Don’t go out looking to make girls your GFs or dates. Also Being rejected is all apart of the process. Just go out looking to have a great time or even just have a positive experience or chat. And I’m talking about every where the store the gas station work. Once you shift your mindset and accept that there will always be some form of rejection in life it makes things a lot easier. As males I feel like we over complicate things when we see every female and say “maybe she could be something with me” Instead of just smiling and say hi how’s your day been wether she says good or bad you can always make the out come positive by telling them “well my days been great ever since I met you” both have a laugh and keep the conversation going. Confidence and learning how to converse goes a long ways. With women you need to make it positive. I’ve had days where I felt like I had been forcing a smile or not enough energy. That’s okay the main point is identifying what’s bringing you down and if it’s a girl or past rejections you just tell your self today’s a new day with new opportunities and whether I meet a girl or not imma make today a positive experience. Focusing on positive interactions will attract women as well as being clean dressing well and having a sharp haircut. People can feel the energy you give off. It’s also good to have a stress release out let like going to the gym maybe taking a drive or just getting away from the busy life cycle.

Imreallytired2301 · 2021-06-28T20:55:36+00:00

You have to realize sometimes it's gonna be a yes and sometimes it's. Going to be a no, rejection doesn't faze me at all anymore if it's not gonna be that person that says yes then it'll probably someone else keep going!

Humble-Language1269 · 2021-06-29T20:30:50+00:00

There are some universities who offer free counseling and therapy to non students. You can find psychologists in training, who have a licensed psychologist watch all interactions to make sure things are going well, who will charge you near nothing to help you with your inner thoughts. It's going to take some dedication, I did it for a year and it made me much happier. I can't even believe how much better my life is now. I went to UNT in Denton for help. https://www.aptc.org/?module=Members&event=Clinics But this list is a good tool to see what's near you. I hope it helps.

This guy was also a great catalyst to helping me escape some bad mindsets. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KKXtPcnBk4

GroundbreakingAd8077 · 2021-06-29T21:13:05+00:00

I honestly don't pick up chicks, but I do talk to strangers, I think a wing pulling you into social situations would help, and I think not focusing on seduction will help, then eventually you will have a bunch of proof that strangers like you, then you can try and seduce them... I'm no pua

theblackwaltz72 · 2021-07-05T23:37:10+00:00

Hey i am going on same situation right nkw and got curious about you.How was your week gone so far how do you feel right know?

Title	Rejection depression
Author	Jintoad1970
Upvotes	56
Comments	83
Date	June 28, 2021 12:41 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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