Today I put on a sexy dress got dolled up BC I wanted to feel good about myself. Men noticed and all I wanted to do was approach one that caught my eye..

psych-dive · 2021-06-06T07:31:52+00:00

Follow the 3 second rule. If you approach within 3 second you win or else anxiety rule over you.

renegade453 · 2021-06-06T07:39:20+00:00

I always imagine and play it out ss if me and whoever i approach being best friends since highschool. Works everytime. Just dont go overboard with it

El_Vicente · 2021-06-06T06:10:25+00:00

We're all strangers at some point . 👍 well said, never thought about it like that .....

zhantoo · 2021-06-06T10:33:29+00:00

Everyone is scared. Bravery is when you do it anyways.

Dakessian · 2021-06-06T07:27:26+00:00

try saying hi or good morning to people when you are walking about in public, a lot of game gurus say the best thing to do is go up and start a conversation right away don't give yourself time to psych yourself out, just count to 3 and go

also maybe temper your expectation, maybe it could have been full of passion maybe it would have been a friendly conversation where he told you he had a girlfriend

loofyd · 2021-06-06T14:59:55+00:00

Men don't always have to initiate the conversation

Spread the word among your fellow women !

Popthecoin · 2021-06-06T06:48:30+00:00

Use an excuse to start the conversation like the weather, food, and music. If he doesn't take part in the topic. It would be his loss.

heraldos · 2021-06-06T09:35:00+00:00

You need say hi thats all. But takes courage bc we fear the rejection. After 100-200 hi You Will be ok with that and become in a better person.

neondream666 · 2021-06-06T08:15:40+00:00

Smile and make eye contact

007kian · 2021-06-06T10:56:16+00:00

If you make eye contact and smile at each other it would be more weird for either of you to not approach. Worst thing that can happen is a random stranger isn’t into you and who tf cares if you get rejected cuz you shared a moment with someone randomly

Interesting-Brief202 · 2021-06-06T18:20:18+00:00

Now you know how it feels to be a man, except you have to feel that way all day long

Global-Bridge-6787 · 2021-06-06T05:32:42+00:00

All the best. I can tell you care a lot and I wish you all the luck in the world.

IhateRush · 2021-06-06T17:46:06+00:00

It’s been brought to my attention recently that some men are super impressed with a bold woman.

jestercake · 2021-06-06T17:51:20+00:00

If a guy is checking you out, just approach. I guarantee you he'll be happy with that.

KillerBBQSaucyQueen · 2021-06-06T12:13:16+00:00

This may seem like a weird question at first, but do you have a specific “look” that you give men when you are interested in them? When I say “look,” I don’t mean just a small smile and then instantly look away.

It might be better if some of them men on here could explain it to you more thoroughly bc they are the ones who are actually reacting to it. (So if you are a man on here and you know what I’m talking about, please elaborate.)

When I was single and interested in a conversation with a man, I would give him a “look” where I maintained eye contact for a bit longer than usual, narrowed my eyes a bit, tilt your head down and to the side (but be in the right position where you can maintain eye contact and look up at him while doing this), and gave a sneaky little half smile. If he smiles back, I would do a quick look down and up as if checking him out and then do the half smile a bit more.

When I did this, I never had to worry about approaching the man or coming across like a crazy sex kitten. It was always much easier bc then the man would approach and begin the conversation.

—That being said, when I did not want a man to approach, if I accidentally caught his eye, I would immediately do a closed lip, “polite” smile and immediately look away. This was basically my “oops, I accidentally caught your eye when I wasn’t trying to and am not interested.” Sometimes men would still approach, but most of the ones more adept at body language would understand. (I only say this in case you might accidentally be sending out the “please don’t approach” signal.)

I hope this helps and perhaps a man can explain further from his side.

verboze · 2021-06-06T09:50:29+00:00

How do ppl work up the courage?

What's the worst that could happen? They'll either reject or friendzone you. Then all you have to do is go to the next one. It's not like they're the only men in the entire world.

If you approach 10 and even one accepts, you're still winning. If multiple accept, you get to choose.

Also, rejection might set you back in the short term but inaction will only leave you with regrets on the long term.

PaintingCool · 2021-06-06T16:09:36+00:00

Thank you for this, I learned a lot from it

Killz4Thrillz954 · 2021-06-06T16:43:19+00:00

I love when women approach me. It’s such a turn on. I’ve had women that I typically wouldn’t go for approach me and it made me look at them in a sexual way

Mob_Rules1994 · 2021-06-06T14:34:19+00:00

At first you don't succeed; try, try again. Also, listen to your intuition about bad dudes...

Coffee116 · 2021-06-06T15:33:25+00:00

You go girl!!! But I do agree with you, make the first move!! Switch it up! ❤️

_insomagent · 2021-06-06T16:12:20+00:00

At least you tried, dude.

OneEyedKing808 · 2021-06-06T16:16:23+00:00

If she anxious next time, write your name down on a piece of paper with your number and say to him call me. It’s cool that you’re pushing social boundaries not waiting for a guy to approach you

Dr_mombie · 2021-06-06T16:30:13+00:00

Send him a drink next time! Dude will get the hint.

Violinist-Novel · 2021-06-06T16:54:03+00:00

Good for you for getting out and feeling good about yourself!

Note - If you gave a clear sign of interest and they did not act on it, they probably had a reason. (Significant other, not able to handle a relationship, moving soon, etc.) You’ll be better off focusing your attentions elsewhere and more likely to find someone ready for some afternoon delight.

krispykreme01 · 2021-06-06T16:55:22+00:00

Take notes on the interesting psyche of modern women. Except of course approaching guys most never do that. Thx for the post and good luck

SettingIntentions · 2021-06-06T17:45:33+00:00

Get into the habit of saying "hi" to people and being conversive. Then when the opportunity finally comes around you'll flow right into it.

coldhandsandersen · 2021-06-06T18:15:34+00:00

Don't think just do. Life is too short. I'm a female with serious social anxiety but am somehow usually the one that initiates. Feeling panicked is one thing but wondering for months what would have happened is worse

BL00DINMYEYES · 2021-06-06T18:28:52+00:00

Say “You can’t just smile at me like that and not say hello”. Gives him permission to chat you up.

revente · 2021-06-06T23:13:24+00:00

How do ppl work up the courage?

Courageous people aren’t the ones that don’t feel fear, but the ones that can push through it. By the end of the day you have 100% control if you’ll approach or not, so say fuck it and do it.

GracieFairmont86 · 2021-06-07T00:42:22+00:00

Take comfort in the fact that literally anything you say to a man will work as long as he ain't truly committed to someone. Men need timing, luck, skill, chemistry, looks, charisma, and 2000 other factors, a woman just needs to dress nice and be willing to talk.

dPensive · 2021-06-06T15:20:20+00:00

I'm honestly a bit scared to approach women given my size. I'm an absolute teddy bear, but I've had incidents where people looked scared or tried to call the police when I approach them. Sucks. Plus with how many men are harassing women anymore, feels aggressive to even approach.

So all my relationships (a total of maybe 3 at 34, sadge) have been from a woman initiating. And that's sexy as hell to me.

Informal-Industry-89 · 2021-06-07T00:29:45+00:00

Oh well.

Mastersinjutsu · 2021-06-06T14:07:36+00:00

Give him what I call a IOI (Indicator Of Interest). I.E. "the look", the smile, the complement, etc, etc.

You won't have a problem with an Alpha male after this as he will know your sexual interest and he will most likely approach YOU and follow through and create 'rapport' with you. Uninhibited.

If it's a timid insecure man (beta) he will most likely look at you, smile, wait for something to happen (letting you take the lead) and then look down at the floor or somewhere else.

Although NOT ALWAYS so black and white but reference experience points to this.

Example

A woman walks into a bar with some of her friends. She engages in a long, steady scan around the room, ultimately fixing her gaze on a man she finds attractive. Gaze is important here, and a key component of signaling interest. The woman maintains an extended gaze at the man until he notices her, she smiles, then she breaks the gaze, returns the gaze again, smiles, and again breaks the gaze. A woman interested in a man then might primp or self-groom, fixing her hair a bit, adopting an open body posture (I.E ., arms away from the body), or starting to orient her body to face him.

A man who KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS will respond and approach. This man knows the subtleties of body language and sexual tension and will LEAD from there.

Optymistyk · 2021-06-06T09:25:24+00:00

I always thought dating and seduction has to be so much easier for women. Like, us guys are horny all the time. An average man has several times higher drive than the average woman. And most guys never have enough sex to satisfy their needs. So honestly, as long as you take good care of your body and the guy is single I reckon you should have extremely high odds of at least getting him interested in sex

-WolfieMcq · 2021-06-06T15:51:36+00:00

While I see the need for a real connection you think choosing a stranger to jump in a janitors closet (pounced as soon as we’re we’re alone) will get you “taken seriously”. You think that to“up your game” can’t get you herpes, yeah...boring, right? Impulsive hump and the guy is gonna wanna stay cause that isn’t their preferred way?? Of course it is. Say what you will: your dream guy didn’t even say hello, did he? He let you walk away. Humping cowards in closets for the memories? I’m worth lots more than that. Good luck dear. You’ll need it. Reality bites hard.

pearllovespink · 2021-06-06T12:02:16+00:00

Where did you go?

Title	Today I put on a sexy dress got dolled up BC I wanted to feel good about myself. Men noticed and all I wanted to do was approach one that caught my eye..
Author	Informal-Industry-89
Upvotes	696
Comments	95
Date	June 6, 2021 5:26 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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