I started balding at in my early 20's and by my mid - late 20's it was really bad. It was something I was really insecure about and 5-6 years ago when I was getting serious about getting laid, it became something I would obsess about. I really thought no women would like me because of my hair. I would wear hats or beanies constantly out of insecurity, sometimes I'd even wear a beanie during sex - yes I know that's fucking weird. I would have nightmares about going bald, I was afraid people would find out I was a balding fraud when I wore hats. You get the point, I was a bit of a train-wreck when it came to balding. I could go on and on to try and give you a sense of how insecure I was and it'd only be a fraction of how much I obsessed about it on a daily basis.

I though if I accepted the fact I as balding and shaved my head I would be accepting that I was getting old and dying. I know this is a common thing for guys. I built balding up in my head to be a huge monster. At the time, my biggest fear (as I was in the middle of trying to get my shit together with my sex life) was that women would never like me.

Eventually after years of tormenting myself with insecurity, after weighing up the options of taking out a loan for a hair transplant (amongst every other option I could think of) I said fuck it and shaved my head. When I first did it I felt like a fucking teenage girl crying at the hairdresser after a bad haircut - minus the crying. But I slowly got used to it, and a lot of people said it suited me, and I realise it was one of the best things I could have done for myself.

I had all these weird fears after I shaved my head similar to when I was balding and trying to hide it. But nobody even noticed. Other than people that knew me, nobody said anything. Why would they? You probably walk past hundreds of bald people a day. None of my insane fears came true. Nothing bad happened. Good shit happened. I let go of a lot of my insecurity, I let go of all of my bullshit. I stopped looking like a balding old man and instead, I was just a bald guy.

It was actually really fucking validating because I knew the girls that fucked me because they liked me, not because I was masquerading as a man with a full head of hair. I didn't feel like I had anything to hide anymore.

As a guy that now gets laid easily and as a guy that has accepted that he's bald, I'm here to tell you all the insane self talk is not fucking true. If you're a guy that can relate on any of this, I PROMISE, women will still fuck you if you're bald. To prove my point I've got a mate who has a killer transformation story and guess what, he's bald. He gets laid a tonne and women fucking love him. If you want to hear his story and see some pictures as proof check this out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=42hOWqZW1Vk&t=653s

If you don't believe you could be the bald guy that gets laid, brainwash yourself until you do. Find as many examples as you can of bald guys that can get laid. Find bald athletes, Hollywood actors, any bald celebrities or even just guys you know that have an abundance of women. There's a tonne out there. If you're about to say it doesn't count because they're rich, or look like gods, or those guys are famous then shut up and accept your miserable bald life. If you actually want to have a great sex life as a bald motherfucker then get yourself to a point where you have everything else going for you.

If you're not a bald guy and somehow reading this, yes, I'm aware this may sounds fucking insane. Reflecting on how I used to be, even I think my old paranoid thoughts sound insane. But if you're bald, and can relate, trust me when I say I've have had every irrational through about balding you could possibly have. I want to help any guys out there going through the same thing. If you're bald, I fucking promise you can get pussy.

In short, my advice:

  • Shave your head if your balding is really bad, trying to hide it is so much worse (and it probably makes you look older than you are)
  • Then go out there and start showing yourself you can get laid

I talk about this way more in a video I did: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=amlFgqqxuDM

- Andy