Seddit, what advice would you give your 17yo self?

DikembeMutumbo · 2010-11-01T06:53:45+00:00

Don't think your first girlfriend has to be perfect. Find someone doable and get some experience being intimate rather than trying to get that one girl. That girl will come later down the road. Don't let your jealousy consume you and accept your defeats. Realize that girls are unpredictable and are highly illogical at a young age.

MothershipConnection · 2010-11-01T09:18:44+00:00

I would seriously kick the ass of my 17 year old self (as a 25 year old now) with regards to anything regarding girls. I deserved better back then.

1 that overrides all: stop trying so hard. No one believes that soft gifted classes Asian you is an gangsta, you're going to end up listening to the Smiths in a few years. It's way cooler to be weird ass you and be happy with it, instead of trying to be everyone else.
Don't follow all your dumbass friends for approval about girls. These guys know jack shit about girls as well and some of these girls that are crushing on you will end up way cool or way hot just a few years from now.
Relatedly, the girls you think are hot now? Probably not hot a few years from now. That twiggy girl you never really thought about? Smoking at 21. The point isn't to hopelessly wait around for that ugly duckling, it's to be good with everyone, not just someone you think is hot at the moment.
Don't dress like an idiot, and stand straight like your pops told you to.

NoShirtNoShoes · 2010-11-01T14:51:21+00:00

Break up with your girlfriend before leaving for college.

MagType · 2010-11-01T09:40:10+00:00

Embrace life.

Don't take shit from men or woman.

Travel

Don't let society make you embarrassed about being a man. You owe no-one an apology for having balls.

Chicken-n-Waffles · 2010-11-01T04:32:29+00:00

Stay in college. Maximize the tail potential. And don't say no to the open relationship girl that will hit on you in 2 years.

baultista · 2010-11-01T04:46:18+00:00

She just wants to be your friend. See that other girl over there? Yeah, she really digs you. Oh, and join a club to meet some more girls.

Close · 2010-11-01T05:06:42+00:00

"You need confidence, go out and do something that scares you"

Spurnout · 2010-11-01T05:07:18+00:00

Stop being depressed and make more friends

yokhai · 2010-11-01T14:15:01+00:00

fuck bitches get money

intjpua · 2010-11-01T09:25:44+00:00

Fuck that girl Jamie who wants to lose her virginity. Fuck that girl Rebecca who invites you out to a field at night to "hang out", and brings a blanket. Fuck that girl Cynthia, when she asks you to go to the cemetery with her less than an hour after explaining to the group that she wants to have sex in a cemetery. Fuck that girl Ruth because she digs you, and she's beautiful and awesome and smart and one year older than you and more experienced, and you've had a huge crush on her since the day you met her...and she's grown to reciprocate it.

Holy shit. 17 would have been such a good year for me, if I'd just had the balls to pursue any of those girls (especially Ruth; she was just lovely). It wouldn't have taken anything to bed those girls. I just needed to pull the trigger. But, I didn't...with any of them. Regret is a nasty motherfucker.

In short: If you want it, make the attempt, because the alternative is horrifying.

2010-11-01T14:10:31+00:00

Girls aren't into the nice guy. Be a good person, but don't offer an imbalanced amount of respect, attention, favors to try to get her to like you.

Quit it with excuses and meet as many people as possible in college.

myaccountforschool · 2010-11-01T16:39:35+00:00

Feign slight disinterest
Hook up with whoever you think is sexy, even if others do not share this view
Stop getting high before dates

philoponeria · 2010-11-01T11:13:35+00:00

When you meet the one dressed like a witch. RUN!!! She may still chase you down but at least make it more of a challenge.

MisterWanderer · 2010-11-01T14:19:36+00:00

Stop eating so much and hit the gym.

frank62609 · 2010-11-01T15:26:43+00:00

truthfully, don't date seriously in your teens/early twenties.. Its not worth the heart ache and honestly you have no damn idea what you want, so explore it all. It'll save any possible regrets you may have in the future with commitment because you don't know 'what you're missing.'

philosarapter · 2010-11-01T16:38:15+00:00

Have some balls, say what you feel like saying and don't back down.

takfam · 2010-11-01T18:58:49+00:00

See those girls over there? Talk to them and stop apologizing for yourself!

Also, ignore everything your mother ever told you. She's a crazy, workaholic bitch and she doesn't have the first clue what well-adjusted women want from a man.

kruunch · 2010-11-01T23:07:23+00:00

Exercise. Exercise. Exercise.

Don't give a fuck of what everyone thinks of you.

She's not the only girl in the world, there's gonna be more girls 4 years from now who are more awesome and enjoyable to hang out with. Don't get stuck on this one. TRUST ME.

And stop being every girl's shoulder to lean on and cry on.

strongoaktree · 2010-11-01T14:51:30+00:00

Stop playing video games religiously.

Eschewy · 2010-11-01T05:02:26+00:00

When you break up with this girl, just be persistent about finding someone else. Don't let the first few failures throw you off track.

okcspecialist · 2010-11-01T14:17:54+00:00

If the 17-year old me had read http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671723650 I'd be much further along.

Reading http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Yes-Negotiating-Agreement-Without/dp/0140157352 about ten years earlier would have been helpful too.

I would also spend a bit of time explaining to the 17-year old me how seduction actually works. At the time, I was prone to crushes that would last months and end when I finally professed my undying love and affection for this poor unsuspecting girl.

In reality, seduction works by taking VERY SMALL risks right away, and watching and paying attention as to whether those are rewarded or not, and escalating.

It ratchets comfortably and quickly from there. First, take a tiny risk. "Wow, great shoes!". Or even just holding eye contact for a bit too long and doing an eyebrow raise. See how she responds. If you get a reward, escalate, iterate. Do this immediately with anyone you find attractive. Before you know it, game is on (for both of you).

I think those insights would have been enough to make the next five years a lot, a lot better.

ArBair · 2010-11-01T14:35:43+00:00

I would punch myself in the face, tell myself to sleep more and stop being such a pussy. That would pretty much do it, even as non-specific as that is :/

Mouthpiece · 2010-11-01T16:46:11+00:00

That girl? She's interested. Learn to recognize IOI's and you'l miss fewer opportunities.
That other girl? Talk to her.
That haircut? Waaaaay less cool than you think it is.
You will never be fitter than you are now. Don't piss it away in college by slacking off.
All those assholes you're in school with will mellow with age, and some will even become friends. But right now? Learn how to neutralize those AMOG's.

Your 17yo self may differ from mine.

2010-11-01T17:10:26+00:00

Do not be deceived - swagger does matter in life, both personal and professional.
Drop the nice guy bullshit. Once you get girls, you will realize that you are in fact not nice at all.
That girl you're chasing now? She's playing you, dude. Better you know this now than a few years down the road when you try to make a move.
College will not be the sexual paradise you imagine it to be unless you take care of the above issues.

new_player · 2010-11-01T17:18:05+00:00

Stop being so stuck up/elitist. Step out of your comfort zone, and exercise for fucks sake.

GhostSonata · 2010-11-01T18:00:07+00:00

Sorry, couldn't resist dropping some Cypress Hill on this one:

Fuck slangin' on the corner, don't let the pigs get you

Not like these fools who don't comprehend

You end up doing a twenty-five bid in the pen

You got that? Getting your cup, I took a swig

The bitter taste of the 'mezcal', free worm shit

Droppin' a lesson, he slapped my face, he said listen

Pay attention brotha, you're my ace, but don't ever question

Just do what I say, and you'll be rich

And keep this in your mind: rats lay in a ditch with no spine

Don't ever forget that golden rule in the game

Cheers, they all know your name, it's like fame

Why, women and money don't mix, like drinking an' driving

Watch those conniving women and keep your eye out

Always be aware of what's around you

They wanna down you, and fuckin clown you

Keep your shit in order the money won't stop

Pretty soon you'll be on top

cheddarchexmix · 2010-11-01T20:05:00+00:00

Stop being a shy loser, talk to everyone you ever can. And you know that super hottie who sits next to you in math? In 5 years she becomes a hooker!

kalash47 · 2010-11-02T15:50:30+00:00

Slap myself hard couple of times to make sure that I follow these:
Start doing a powerlifting routine at the gym regularly
Not sure if she is interested? Go for it. Crash and burn gives experience like no other.
Stop playing video games
Do NOT go for that crazy cunt, she was drugged and raped - damaged personality that should be avoided

Kancho_Ninja · 2010-11-01T10:08:52+00:00

Every great romance starts off as a friendship. Don't worry about getting in her panties; make her want to get in your boxers. Just talk, make her laugh, be interested in her.

And when Apple stock dips below $11, buy 1000 shares and hold until it's over $350 :D

LordRandomcat · 2010-11-01T09:01:30+00:00

Grow the stones you're going to have in 2+ years now, stand up to your parents, drop that worthless/shitty high school and get the GED with minimal waiting time, acquire a part-time job for moneymaking, and god damn it, when you meet that one gal again for the first time in years, jump on the opportunity and ask her out.

Title	Seddit, what advice would you give your 17yo self?
Author	myaccountforschool
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Date	November 1, 2010 4:29 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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1 that overrides all: stop trying so hard. No one believes that soft gifted classes Asian you is an gangsta, you're going to end up listening to the Smiths in a few years. It's way cooler to be weird ass you and be happy with it, instead of trying to be everyone else.