Come back from a bad reputation?

Morokweng · 2015-08-05T09:17:06+00:00

Its possible yeah. But maybe over a long period of time.

If you're hoping that she'll become receptive to you, I'd seriously consider just meeting other girls. Its a lot less effort.

well_done_mate · 2015-08-05T06:41:07+00:00

Only if you work on yourself and genuinely change. It won't happen overnight either.

HelicopterSack · 2015-08-05T07:02:09+00:00

I guess if you didn't see here for quite some time it may be possible that her impression of you changes like " Wow, cant remember him being like this!"

But why care? This non boring/serious/needy guy shouldn't have any problems getting to know other girls, eh?

SpinCity07 · 2015-08-05T08:15:59+00:00

You have to use other people to influence her. If she sees you being fun and attractive with other people she will have to question her opinion and probably join the crowd.

CrushHazard · 2015-08-05T09:30:15+00:00

Can't speak for anyone else, but in my experience no. Not possible. Start over with a different girl, and if that doesn't work out, move on to another until you get it right. Reputation is a very big deal.

cmiovino · 2015-08-05T12:35:16+00:00

Lifting

Going out and making new friends

Having more interesting experiences (think traveling, etc.)

Eye contact, better style, better in-person vibe

Abundance mentality, talk to more women

... basically, things you can't change overnight. But it really seems like you're doing this to get one girl who's already formed an opinion about you. Sure, it can happen, but the odds are stacked against you. It's better off just learning from it, knowing you have to improve, and doing XYZ to get there.

Other women will then sense this and want to be with you. If said girl also picks up on this, awesome. Don't count on it though.

DailyManliness · 2015-08-05T14:26:53+00:00

The more changes you make for the better the more opinions can change..I don't care how long you know someone, if you gain 50lbs of muscle, learn martial arts, get rich, and have women all over the place, the opinion is going to change, that's how it goes..Nothing is ever set in stone and while I just went to the extremes of things any and all changes are noticed, the better you become for yourself the more opinions will change

bigstupidassmoron · 2015-08-05T15:21:38+00:00

just move on

slurmfactory · 2015-08-05T15:24:17+00:00

i did it. change yourself and let them see it. by then you wont be pressed on one girl anyway.

arbivark · 2015-08-05T17:33:47+00:00

Let her catch you at your secret life. you're superman and she's only met clark kent.

Rayjaysdick · 2015-08-05T20:18:20+00:00

No dude, just find new women. There are a lot.

Scaro066 · 2015-08-05T12:56:25+00:00

I think it can be as fast as having an appearance change (new body, hair style, cologne, clothing fashion) some of these elements could have a shock effect on a girl and make you a totally different person. ex. Girl: What's up with him? he looks different.. I'd like to know the new him.. I think I like his new style.

This is what I personally think however.

Chad_Thundercock69 · 2015-08-05T06:33:23+00:00

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Brainwash_TV · 2015-08-05T12:39:27+00:00

The easiest way to look at this question is to ask it in reverse. What would it take for YOU to fall for a woman in the same situation you are? Would it require her to have a makeover, more outgoing personality, be more fun and spontaneous, be a better listener? Think of the things you'd need to have someone sway your opinion then apply those changes to yourself.

If nothing would sway your opinion or you're simply not capable of those changes then you've answered your question.

TheDisillusionist · 2015-08-05T13:57:05+00:00

Be fun and non-serious. She'll either pick up on it or she won't. Either way don't sweat it.

Because sweating it wouldn't be fun, and would be too serious.

DaygameCoach · 2015-08-05T14:15:08+00:00

That's not really a "bad reputation." That's that attracted to you, which is different. Spend a year or two working on your conversational skills (including teasing, banter, roleplay, future project, improv, etc,) without contact with her and you can try again, but really...you are better off working on this stuff and approaching new girls like crazy (and not worrying about this particular girl). You don't want to keep her around if you are really into her and get oneitis and this is too close to (ok, it's actually worse than) the common beta question of how to get your ex back). Move on with your life, improve your game, be more assertive with women and clear in your intent, get new girls and gain confidence, and then women wont think you are boring.

Cuisine, daygamer.net

xeka22 · 2015-08-05T15:16:37+00:00

You used the wrong word, you're looking to change poor past precedence.

There're a few methods here, you can come from a frame of "temporary insanity"; e.g. "Hey, I was going through something personal and emotional and I was handling it pretty poorly." then go out and meet new women, get tons of preselection, drop contact. You'd be amazed what preselection does for girls, it brings girls who're like "Um... what the hell happened to this guy?/He's my best friend!" dropping all over you. If the girl's keeping tabs on you (I hope she is because you've been "talking" to her for a year...).

Short answer: Call out the weak behavior, apologize, drop contact, get preselection - and maybe even a better girl on your arm. Then she'll start chasing you, or you'll end up with a better girl. I like both of those options!

nighthawkphenom · 2015-08-05T17:33:53+00:00

Yes. I did it in a year or so. You have to genuinely be more fun though. Not just when you're around her. Go do things and invite her. Do them regardless if she comes or not.

Brazilianimproving · 2015-08-06T00:51:34+00:00

I see no problema. If you looked and acted beta and now look and act alpha, truly, I believe it's possible.

The problem is, you'll probably have your new "alphaness" tested. And if you're asking this question you probably: 1- have oneitis and cares too much about what one girl or group of people think 2 are insecure

Therefore you'll most likely lose your frame and look like a beta trying to act cool.

Not trying to offend you here. I also care about what one specific girl thinks and I want to be seen as alpha but in the end that's your (mine) ego talking and shows i havê insecurities to work on and a girl to forget.

Title	Come back from a bad reputation?
Author	Chad_Thundercock69
Upvotes	49
Comments	26
Date	August 5, 2015 6:10 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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