Back again! I like posting here. Plus, I've been on a total dating rampage this past month and it's fun to chat with y'all and reflect, without my friends, on things that have worked/haven't worked.

It's important to note that rapport should already be built at this point. Also, these stories are not prescriptions on how must one start the first kiss, but just various instances from my life that might help you/give you some ideas into a lady's thought process. A few of these times are from when I initiated the first kiss successfully with a girl.

So to start...here's sort of my M.O., and how first kisses frequently happen with me. The infamous Netflix and chill. Hopefully it's happening on your bed. I detailed this before in a previous post, but it's good to slowly up the physical ante here instead of just gunning straight for it. Rest your hand on her leg, or if your arm is around her shoulder, squeeze her arm gently, maybe draw little absentminded circles. Leg is best, I've found. You can sexily inch your way up, dig your fingernails in a little, squeeze, maybe throw in a comment: "wow, someone doesn't skip leg day," etc. Whatever suits the particular girl! The one I've done is, after a good deal of leg squeezing/touching, I'll turn towards her and say, "I have a confession to make. I'm not even watching this show anymore. It's incredibly distracting, just....this." And I'll squeeze her leg, and look her straight into her eyes. Every time, a hot makeout session has ensued. The important thing is, though - this is never a canned line from me, I really mean it, and I'll tailor it around to suit the girl/the situation. Occasionally a guy will say something similar: "I'll be honest, I'm not really watching this anymore" or "Look, you don't know how hard it is to focus with my hand right here, why don't we do something about it?" Appreciated, every time.

I'm personally conflicted about a first date kiss. I know the majority of y'all are pretty big fans of it, and it works well for a lot of you - so I'm definitely not going to argue! The one thing that works the best, though, is to have a clear leadup to it. Don't go for the kiss unless there's been some kino beforehand. Don't make it unexpected. This isn't true for every girl, but for many, attraction is such a mental issue of tension and expectation. So you have to build that - makes the kiss 100x better.

Two first date kisses come to mind. I'll start with the not good one. There was almost no kino developed throughout the date, and he had some other personality issues I didn't like (seemed a bitter about his job, even though I didn't think it was uncool or anything, so he really shot himself with the foot when I saw his insecurity here). When walking back to my car, I said, "Well, it was nice to meet you! I hope you had a good time." He said "Yeah!" And then he literally grabbed my arm, pulled me to him, and kissed me hard. NOT COOL BRO. It definitely felt like a checklist moment.

Another time I got kissed, it was actually an incredibly short date and both of us were tired. This guy seemed pretty nice, and I won't say that there were fireworks, but I did think he was pleasant. He did a great job of touching me throughout the date. "Oh, you're going to love this story," he'd say, and briefly touch my wrist. He knocked knees with me a few times under the table, and once or twice, pressed his leg into mine. Comfortable with physical contact? Major plus. Also, I played with his watch and took his hand to take a closer look, and when I was letting go he squeezed my hand and gave me a flirty smile - really hot, that he was comfortable acknowledging that and it didn't make him nervous to look at me. (I should mention here - this guy was great. I actually wasn't as physically attracted to him initially as the first guy but by the next morning, I was already having some serious fantasies about second guy). On the way back to my car, we were chatting about when to meet next. Now, at this point, I wasn't expecting him to actually go for a kiss, although I wouldn't have minded it. I really liked what he ended up doing though - we were standing very closely at my car, and I said, "So yeah, I'll see you Friday then?" And he said, "Yes, I'd love to," while looking at my lips. Then he grabbed my hips to gently pull me forward, and said, "Just first, humor me for a moment." Lifted my chin with his finger and kissed me right there. Guys, I thought I was going to cream myself right there, it was one of the hottest, most unexpected first kisses I ever experienced. And this guy is GOOD at initiating makeout sessions - another time, I had invited him over to my place and I was fretting about some inconsequential work thing, and he looked at my lips again and said, "Hey, you'll be okay, you'll be great." Took my face softly in one hand, stroked my cheek with his thumb, and kissed me. (What cracks me up about both these instances is how gently he goes in with the kiss and how ridiculously roughly he fucks me after.)

Occasionally some guy will use a pickup line on me for a kiss, but this only works on me if they acknowledge it as such. One guy had fun laying a whole bunch on me at once: "Oh hey, you got ice cream on your lips" (we weren't eating ice cream) and then "Look, I'm making a shadow on the wall" "oh what's that" "it's mistletoe." I made fun of him relentlessly, and finally he said, "Okay, last one. I had a really fun time tonight. And you're cute and cool." Me: "Aww, thanks, I think-" Him: "Why don't you show me what you think?" Looked at my lips (do you see a trend, here).

I think my most favorite recent first kiss was with this incredibly charming guy, who I've mentioned previously. We were doin' the Netflixnchill routine, hand on my leg, etc. Except the problem was, I could feel him turning to look at me, but when I turned to look back at him, he'd look away. While his hand was infuriatingly squeezing my thigh at ever-increasing heights. He didn't really acknowledge what he was doing, but he was definitely smirking a bit and making me more and more turned on/frustrated. Finally, after I had turned around and huffed a second time, he asked, "Did you need something?" with the most infuriating grin. Me: "You know exactly what you're doing to me." Him (sneaking his hand almost against my cunt, squeezing hard): "Are you going to be difficult?" Me: "Try me." Then ensued one of the hottest fucks of my life.

But looking back at all of my dates, I would have to say that maybe 50% of them ended up with us kissing because one of us turned to the other and said, "Hey, you're hot. I really wanna kiss you." or even just "Hey we should just make out, like right now." Sometimes you just don't need the routine and shit if you know it's there - but yanno, it's fun to take it to the next level too!