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[–]tony18215 106 points107 points108 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good Job
[–]NofapandalsoNosurf52 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Nice!
I actually really liked that
[–]Leo215 38 points39 points40 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks to everyone for the kind words :)
[–]qotob20 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
This was both masterful and wholesome.
If she didn't have a partner I'd 10/10 believe she'd have said yes to such heartfelt talk.
Keep it up OP and have a great day!
[–]danielcraigmannabe 25 points26 points27 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
killin it son
[–]ErrorLoadingUsername 67 points68 points69 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This title was so clickbait. I expected something else. Still a good job.
[–]ishfish111 14 points15 points16 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hmmm,
Natural progression would be something like this
Just my hypothesis Keep it up!
[–]8YearOldCodPlayer3 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
stuck on #3
fuck, love this progression though
[–]headspacemonk 13 points14 points15 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Its a great start mate. Just keep it up . Have a nice life.
[–]im_unseen 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Have a nice life.
lol
[–]LukeSkyLurker 8 points9 points10 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I can even feel the calm in your writing. Amazing
[–]Lead ModeratorThrowawayPUA 19 points20 points21 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is good. BUT..
Always have situational awareness. Approaching in a busy Target parking lot near a busy store entrance is OK. But approaching in an isolated location far out in the parking lot with no one nearby can make women fearful.
[–]ChaseMeadows15 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
But its all about the implication
[–]Iamflirtingwithyou 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Excellent!
Everyone who is afraid to approach should read this. Some guys are going to say "but he got rejected". She had a boyfriend and there isn't anything any guy could have done to "pickup" or seduce her. And it would have been unethical to do so.
You approached immediately and stated your intentions directly. You don't have to change a damn thing. Keep going like this and your success is inevitable.
[–]jetsetter883 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Isn't it a bit out of place to ask if she has a boyfriend right off the bat? I would imagine most girls assume you just want to bang them if jumping right into those requisite questions
[–]Iamflirtingwithyou 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
The point is not asking about the boyfriend. The point is expressing your thoughts and feelings honestly. If you are not thinking it, don't say it. What I say and what you say are going to be different. People like honesty. They respect it. Relationships are built on communication. It's healthy to be emotionally expressive. By expressing yourself in a direct and honest way you demonstrate confidence and the above traits. Even if she's not interested in you romantically, she will trust you and respect you more than a guy who's lying or trying to be clever in picking her up.
There is no shame in wanting sex or liking sex. If a woman mentions or asks me if I want to have sex I don't deny it. Example: I was talking to a woman and sitting right next to her so that our legs and arms were touching side by side. Occasionally I would hug her from the side or squeeze her thigh when she laughed at my jokes. She then said with a smirk, "You want me don't you." I responded honestly "Yes I do. I want you really bad." Her with a smile, "Well, I'm not having sex with you." Me-"I didn't say we were going to have sex." I look her up and down and bite my lip, "But I really want to." Because I had already done kino enough for me to whisper in her ear, I leaned in and whispered "I really... want to fuck you." She hit me playfully and said I was "so bad." And "are you drunk? Do you talk to all the girls like that?" After more talking and more kino we left the venue and I kept escalating physically until kissing, massaging, and more. Again, keep in mind that I didn't memorize any lines. I don't have a "plan" in my head about what I'm going to say. I just feel the situation and say what's honestly on my mind at the time. I also usually don't talk about sex unless she mentions it or there is some kind of innuendo in what she's saying. Usually I just talk to her and escalate kino-wise until I can kiss her.
[–]jetsetter883 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Interesting story. Did you guys end up having sex?
[–]Iamflirtingwithyou 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
She was "worried" about me being drunk and insisted she walk me to my car. I was sober. I lied and said I needed to check something in my trunk. I was really taking a condom from my trunk and placing it in my pocket. She was from out of town visiting her sister. I offered to drive her to her sisters car. The chick I was talking to basically ditched her sister for me. So the sister was actually taking a nap in the car. We started kissing. I was kissing her neck once we parked. Eventually I was sucking her nipples and rubbing her pussy through her jeggings. Her petite body was what attracted me in the first place. I liked the way her ass and legs looked. I enjoyed caressing them in my car. I kept trying to go down on her and she didn't let me. She was moaning and being kind of passive to me so I said let's get in my backseat. It was late and she seemed a little tired. So said I would do all the work. We got in the back by crawling over my armrest between my driver and passenger seats. Her biggest concern was us getting caught having sex by people walking by. Every so often we stopped so as not to invite attention from our movement. She took off her socks, shoes and jean looking leggings. She left her top on. I pulled my jeans down and stuck my dick through my boxers. I was worried about leaving shit streaks on my car seat. I left my button up shirt on. I put my condom on and she got on top facing me. She actually did all the work. Lol. I didn't last long because she was going fast. She was from out of town so I didn't get her phone number. She put her clothes back on and said "drive safe" before leaving me forever.
[–]jetsetter883 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Fantastic and highly inspirational. Appreciate you sharing it. Goes to prove that they really do want sex much as they try to hide it. Out of curiosity, what do you think made her "submit"? Were you particularly aggressive?
[–]Iamflirtingwithyou 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I got her comfortable with my touch. Hand holding, hugs, knees touching, etc. I got her horny with my talk. Then when we were alone I escalated more, kissing her neck, massaging her shoulders, then back, then legs. Sucking her nipples. I eventually rubbed her between her legs. If you can get to rubbing her pussy it's practically a done deal. Hell. If I can kiss a women on her neck and suck her earlobes, she's probably going to let me do anything. But only if we're close to a place where sex is allowed.
Sex is natural. Orgasms are pleasurable. But in the United States (I don't know about other places) sex among non married people is frowned upon. Teenage sex, at least for women is taboo and forbidden. Girls are shamed and bullied if there is even an untrue rumor that they did anything sexual with a guy. It can even be a death sentence with lots of bullied girls committing suicide. So if you were a teen girl, wouldn't you hide your desire for sex too?
Girls try to find a guy they can trust to keep the secret or they wait until they have a very serious boyfriend to lose their virginity. By the time college comes around it's expected that a girl has had sex. Most virgins even females want to lose their virginity. Think of the tv trope of married ladies who have to practically beg their husbands for sex. The vibrator was invented by doctors about a hundred years ago to help women with "hysteria". Before the vibrator, doctors would pleasure women by hand to give them relief. As it was thought to be a medical condition no one raised an eyebrow or thought it was cheating.
When I'm attracted to a woman I try to turn them on. Describing sexual scenarios can work but I typically just use kino escalation. My first physical contact with a woman is usually a handshake. I'll try to sit or send as close as she's comfortable. If a woman isn't comfortable shaking my hand, I leave. It's easier to find a receptive woman than to change someone's mind. I am always ready to walk away. I'm not afraid of rejection.
I was fully prepared for the woman to tell me to go away when I was telling her I wanted to fuck her. When she challenged me by saying we wouldn't have sex I was unfazed. I had no shame about wanting to fuck her and I let her know it. By telling her I'm ok either way, it builds trust. It's letting her know that even if I were putting the condom on my dick she could say no thanks and I would respect her decision not to have sex. I would show no anger or resentment to rejection even if I were mid thrust.
Another way to build trust is if you try to kiss her and she says no, you back off and say ok. You're letting her know that you respect her boundaries. And you can try to kiss her again later. One thing that I believe lead her to want to have sex was because I brought it up and she could then imagine it as a possibility. She also knew we would never see each other again. There was no way anyone could shame her for sleeping with me so quickly.
I think a lot of hookups boil down to opportunity. If she can have sex with a guy she likes, without any problems, she's more likely to do it. That's why the joke about fucking the plumber exist. The plumber can fuck the horny housewife and nobody has to know about it. If you meet a girl and invite her over to your place for dinner or a movie she doesn't necessarily want to fuck but it's easier to have sex with her than if you go to a bar/restaurant and later ask her to come back to your home. It's what they call "logistics" in pickup.
So my steps are as follows: Be honest and direct. Don't worry if you get rejected. Escalate physically or verbally. Relaxed persistence. Be ready to walk away at any time. Try to set up situations where sex is convenient. For example, it's always best to meet a woman at your home or near your home/hotel/car/sex location so you can lead her back there.
[–]Lumbergh7 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I second this question
It's only out of place if you think it's out of place. It's not about saying certain words. It's about saying your words. The words that are true to you. Say what's really on your mind. For example if I'm Kanye West I can say "I'm dope and I do dope shit." But it would sound lame and dishonest if my boss said it. Be genuine and authentic. That's what girls mean when they say be yourself. If you're uncomfortable asking a girl for her relationship status, don't. As someone else mentioned, when you ask her on a date or indicate in a way that you're romantically interested "I think you're pretty." Then she might bring up the boyfriend without you asking.
That happened to me twice today by the way. I went to a casino and saw 2 beautiful women (both alone). I approached one and said "wow I love your fashion sense, I think you're gorgeous." She smiled and said thank you. She seemed happy to talk so I asked for her name and what she was up to. She said she was applying for a job as a waitress. And she was waiting for her boyfriend who is a bartender at the casino. I said "oh I'll be leaving you alone then. Goodbye."
The other woman was playing a slot machine and had a beer in her hand. I walked up and said "Hi! I really like your hair. I think you're very pretty." Like the first woman, she thanked me for the compliment and seemed very happy to talk. Her hair and her finger nails were both blue so I commented that I bet blue was her favorite color. It shockingly was not. I asked her how much her beer cost and if I could join her after buying one for myself. She said it was happy hour but she had a boyfriend. So I left her to get my beer.
I got 2 rejections. But the interactions were very pleasant and I was happy to talk to incredibly beautiful woman. I was honestly shocked to find 2 so quickly. One after the other. And guess what? When I got my happy hour beer I met another gorgeous woman. One who didn't reject me.
[–]zbf 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not as hard as it sounds huh
[–]narrowcock 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nice shot!
[–]8483 8 points9 points10 points 9 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
"So are you seeing anyone?"
Don't you think this is a bad thing to ask so bluntly.? Especially when no rapport is built?
I applaud your courage and I understand that it was popping your cherry... I am just not sure if it's smart to ask this, like ever.
[–]Iamflirtingwithyou 20 points21 points22 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's a great thing to ask because it's honest. Many women you meet already have a boyfriend. They will never say yes to a date no matter what you say or do. Isn't it better to find out sooner than later?
If you get rejected, wouldn't you want it to be quick and painless? I guarantee that if you approach women like OP did, you will find a woman who wants to date you. And you will know very quickly the more honest you are.
Honesty is blunt. But it's efficient. Even if you get rejected, women will respect you for it. But when a woman likes you, you will know it immediately. Try it some time.
[–]8483 10 points11 points12 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Isn't it better to find out sooner than later?
Most definitely. It is crucial to polarize as soon as possible in order to avoid friend zones / wasting time.
I am just not sure bluntness is needed in that part. I'd much rather just escalate until stopped. If you ask a girl out, it is pretty much assumed what you mean.
You say that girls can accept dates EVEN while dating. Wouldn't she just lie about the boyfriend if you asked?
I don't know man... It kinda kills the suspense to ask it straight. At least don't ask it within 5 minutes of meeting someone.
Maybe I'm wrong. I just think there is no need for that question.
You're not wrong, it's really just a personal preference. It's fine if you don't like it. I'm more like you, I also don't ask if a woman is single but there's nothing philosophically wrong with it. Its just another way to escalate and it follows your "escalate until rejection" philosophy.
It's not wrong, it's just not your cup of tea.
[–]luaudesign 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Congrats!
[–]PM_ME_UR_TECHNO_GRRL 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Awesome dude! Now just keep going.
This is all the game is. Your success, however you want to define it, will be directly correlated with the number of times you do just that.
Awesome field report.
[–]taylortob 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It is really satisfying to go home knowing you struck up a conversation with a girl you thought was cute.
Good on ya, mate. Keep it up!
[–]RespondsWithImprov 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey I met someone I dated for 2 months at Target. Good stuff man.
[–]CibrecaNA 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The clickbait is real. Expected a young woman boasting about bleeding after an intense masturbation session.
Was going to say pics or it isn't real that's not seduction . . . that's why I clicked . . . to say it isn't seduction.
[–]SyrusDrake 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow, that's pretty amazing! I could never even imagine doing that. Keep going, OP!
[–]AnonUser8509 9 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Good job! But didn't you post a video of this a few weeks ago?
[–]Leo215 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nope not me.
[–]AWildMatt 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good job!
You didn't come off creepy. You gained confidence afterward. Everything turned out well
[–]pointguard2534 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good job bro
[–]solidsteak 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Read it as "Pooped my cherry". Was delighted on the story and not grossed out.
[–]tjger 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nice freaking job. You took a step forward, and now you are literally better than a whole bunch of dudes out there who don't even try.
[–]rohan417 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Awesome, I started about a month ago too and I would like to tell you that slowly you will see the development within you.
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I then ask her "So are you seing anyone?" She tells me yes, that she has had a boyfriend for 2 years.
This was handled pretty smoothly and with class, but keep in mind, that the question is a moderate waste of time in some ways.
If a girl is deceptive, she won't answer this question honestly anyway.
If a girl is honest, she'll find a way to mention that she has a BF, the longer that some dude is talking to her.
I guess having a sales background really helped as I'm good at talking to people one on one.
Well of course! :) The "seduction" skill set has a LOT of overlap with sales.
[–]MonkeyFist4150 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well at least you talked to a girl. We must crawl before we walk, and walk before we run, and run a lot before we marathon.
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[–]Leo215 17 points18 points19 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Wow looking at your post history I could not find one positve thing you said to someone.
Anyway she probably has heard that many times because she is a cute girl, but better that I approached than said nothing. I of course want to get better at this with more practice.
[–]TheArabianPizzaGuy 9 years ago* [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
You would be surprised, lots of very cute girls I've known don't get called cute that often, everyone likes a compliment anyway.
[–]Venusian_Artist 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Read this
[–]TheArabianPizzaGuy2 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I see your point, I tend to compliment specific things especially things that I like that's they do, kind of reinforcing it. I've never approached and complimented though, I just start a conversation.
I see the point of the article and makes sense. Now that I think about it, it's probably true in some cases. They already feel like they have your approval and they don't need to earn it.
[–]Astralogist 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why did you make a Reddit account just to be a dick on /r/seduction and /r/socialskills? Did somebody hurt you?
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