This is a rant of course. I'm not even divorced yet but going through the process. My wife emotionally cheated on me posting nudes online and chatting with men. When she asked for the divorce about a week later I discovered her on dating apps and noticed some men she had began to follow on social media.

Long story short I am aware of one particular guy who lives nearby and I know she is with him. She has since moved out and was very slow to take her things until this last week when the guy in question delivered my food. At that point I reached a breaking point and texted her that she really needed to get her stuff out so I could begin to cook and make this my own home. I mentioned the guy delivering food to me being kind of the last straw.

Luckily she ended up coming to take the stuff and afterwards texted me asking what I meant about the guy delivering food. So I told her....he literally delivered food to the house and she acted confused. I sent her a screenshot of the message I got from the app where the name of the deliveryperson (in this case a Hispanic womans name) and the message saying that the individual speaks a particularly unique and uncommon language (not Spanish) so the app will autotranslate. She was like "oh it's probably someone else but he doesn't do food delivery" and it just drove me insane. It was 100% him and the language/nationality in question is not common to this area. I described his car and everything and she just gaslit the shit out of me and said he would have zero reason to lie her and basically making me feel crazy.

I know I shouldn't care but holy shit it drove me insane. Knowing I am right and knowing how shitty I felt during the entire ordeal was tough on me and for her to basically say "yeah he says that didn't happen and I don't believe you" was just ...argh.

I can't wait for this process to be over and her to be out of my life although I'd be lying if I said she didn't actually live rent free in my mind at times and have a ton of control over me and my emotions. It sucks.