Help! Other Guys bombard every girl I approach

tunnelblick · 2024-02-20T17:08:44+00:00

Well, your buddies you need to handle yourself by just telling them.

When it comes to other men, you don’t need to focus on them. Focus on the girl. If you have a reasonably good conversation going, you can comment to the girl “we are getting company. Let’s see how this guy is!” Then you just keep calm. If the guy is annoying, you tell the girl “see you later” and leave her first. Later you can reapproach her or she will even come back to you.

mkkpt · 2024-02-20T16:54:47+00:00

It sounds like you're frustrated, but long term you're cruising. These other guys can only pick up your left overs. Keep approaching, keep making moves, it will pay off.

I'd challenge you to accept the disruption in momentum and flow as an opportunity to get better. Sharpen up your wit, roast out other guys (including your friend) who try to walk up. Other ideas could be make her so into you that she ignores them completely, or try to isolate asap for deep chat, or charm and enlist the help of her friends, or take her hand and lead her somewhere else. Research and try everything out, see what works.

Clubs are chaotic, you've got to be okay with things going not according to plan. Embrace the chaos that anything good, bad and boring can happen. See it as an opportunity to get better.

Even my own buddies will pull this move on me. Especially if they see ive been successful with many girls in the night.

You need to have a talk with them about this. Tell them you really value their friendship, be very clear with multiple examples and set boundaries of how you want things to be moving forward. Maybe you guys can come to an understanding. However if they keep crossing your boundaries, they are not good friends, work to cut them out. Good friends should be happy and be proactively trying to help you get laid.

flavoredcakesforB · 2024-02-20T19:00:48+00:00

Been there before. Most girls aren’t fond of other guys interjecting when you and her are having good conversations. I’ve found when I’m in that situation, I act like I’ve know her for a while. "So how’s your family?", "How’s the recovery process going?"… or something like that. She’s savvy enough to pick up on that and follow along. Those guys that want to interrupt only want one thing from her and they’re not interested in anything deep or handling real responsibilities of support, so they leave us alone.

DaygameCode · 2024-02-20T17:13:03+00:00

That’s very typical. It always happens and will always happens. It’s a competitive place, so you can’t really prevent it.

When you are the one to make a move and the girl doesn’t reject you immediately, other guys will use you as an stepping stone because she seems to be the receptive one, or the easiest to hit on.

Why risk going for other girls who might bite when you just show everyone that the one you approached is friendly and receptive?

It’s far less risky, all they have to so is to get rid of you which of course it is easier.

The reality is the clubs are not a good place to cold approach. You better do that during the day. In clubs, this will always happen and you are never gonna be happy about it.

silk_1233 · 2024-02-20T18:39:03+00:00

I love when another unknown guy approaches a set i am in.

My move is to let him talk to her for a moment, and then blow him out of the water.

After letting him talk for a minute i bud in and ask if they know each other. He says 'no."

I then ask if he is single, he says "yes" and i come back with "what a coincidence---so is she!!! Why dont you give her your best pick up line!"

I then sit back and watch his stunned silence as he slinks away. Never has failed.

riordanajs · 2024-02-20T19:30:45+00:00

Jeffy has a videos about this. His advice is basically to ignore them completely and only concentrate on the woman. You can find multiple of his videos about conflict in the club from here: https://www.youtube.com/@CharismaMastery

As for your buddies, they do this out of insecurity, take it as a compliment, you're better at game than them. And get better wingmen. The gay joke, for example, works fucking great if the vibe is right, the women will sense its a joke and roll with it. If it comes from your friends insecurity, of course it creeps the girl.

Charming-Cell-3595 · 2024-02-22T03:55:04+00:00

Hey Everyone! Quick update: Just had a 22-year-old German redhead leave my hotel room. All is good in the world. 😃 Was a bit in my feelings earlier, but went out solo tonight, ditched the dude from the other night. Thanks for all the input – definitely put those ideas to use. Had a tall guy try to butt in at the bar, but I just ignored him into oblivion and survived, haha.

letsgetwizzyy · 2024-02-20T23:04:08+00:00

As far as your friends go, tell them that is unacceptable behavior and to stop doing it. If it is annoying you, and is something you don't want them to do, create a boundary. If they cross it, you punish them for it by withdrawing your attention from them and not hanging out with them again. If they are your friends, they will respect you and not cross your boundaries. Otherwise, you have to cut them lose and make new friends who will not cockblock or disrespect you in front of women you're hitting on.

As far as other guys go, they interrupt your set because they envy the fact that you can approach women, but don't consider you physically intimidating enough to not disrespect you. Essentially, you probably look like a guy who is easy to pick on and someone who would tolerate disrespect (which you admittingly are). In the short term, learn how to create boundaries and if you need to tell a guy to leave, tell him to leave. Long term, put on muscle and learn self defense so you can be strong and know how to defend yourself physically.

This article discusses how to get other men to respect you: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-become-a-man-everyone-respects?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-02-20T18:40:07+00:00

You got nothing to be frustrated about.

You are the one opening the set, these other dudes are making themselves look like idiots who got no game because they have to advance on another guys target he is already engaging with.

I suggest don't even involve male friends at the clubs and bars if your looking for a woman. It's much easier to fuck up somebody that you don't know if you must.

TodayOrTmrw · 2024-02-20T20:31:44+00:00

I’ve had it happen to me many times at the club. The best part is the other guy usually gets ignored / rejected lol. So don’t worry too much about it.

burncushlikewood · 2024-02-21T00:51:11+00:00

Your "friends" are cockblocking, get some new friends or look into a wingman meet up in your city. In the pick up community we call it a lair, it's basically a place where only men are allowed, the only time women are permitted to enter the lair is if it is for seduction purposes only. It's like a lounge for men to share ideas and drink scotch and just bro down, look into if your city has one or there is one nearby

ell1s_earnest · 2024-02-21T03:45:26+00:00

There was a video Jeffy from RSD where was talking to a girl and a guy pull up so he pushes him and says "Get out of here Faggot".

Middle-Safe-1493 · 2024-02-21T12:46:34+00:00

Cock blocking been apart of the game since the beginning.. smh it’s a jungle out here

Awkward_Freedom_4551 · 2024-02-22T18:16:55+00:00

Set boundaries with your friends. Hard boundaries. Tolerate absolutely 0 AMOGing. If they are fucking up your sets continually, stop going out with them period.

ROBYoutube · 2024-02-20T17:01:02+00:00

If you are constantly being crushed by a stupidly unserious man joining the conversation maybe consider that you have serious strides to make in being an attractive person and skilled social actor.

If competition appears and I do not prevail, I probably need to work on myself or be at peace with winning some and losing some.

Historical-Jump958 · 2024-02-20T21:33:10+00:00

You sound like a simp. you probably have that same energy in person

NewOCLibraryReddit · 2024-02-20T19:50:39+00:00

Been here before. I get your pain. I've changed tactics. Good luck.

El_arizona · 2024-02-20T22:02:32+00:00

Lick them first and say my germs (it's a joke before anyone reads this and gets offended like a cunt)

faizy_25 · 2024-02-20T23:57:00+00:00

Leave them for good permanently . That’s the only way this will be fixed. Don’t be afraid to do this

Dcm210 · 2024-02-21T01:03:47+00:00

"Your buddies" are trying to take girls away from you. Go to the club or a different club and see what happens.

ballsmashergal · 2024-02-21T06:47:23+00:00

It is an opportunity to show you are a confident guy who can handle situations bro it will attract her more just handle situation efficiently

Raikkonen716 · 2024-02-21T09:34:01+00:00

Sometimes the girl ends up leaving and we all lose.

Governing dynamics.

It's funny cause you just explained the same concept that ultimately led Jonh Nash receiving a nobel prize!

This scene will sound all too familiar to you: A Beautiful Mind - Bar Scene John Nash's Equilibrium Game Theory [1080p english full scene] (youtube.com)

Remarkable-North-994 · 2024-02-21T13:29:40+00:00

I've got no advice unfortunately, but I'd like to know how do you approach and get them interested? brief advice would help.

HentaiMD · 2024-02-21T15:18:25+00:00

There is a good video on how to be a good wingman. Show this to your friends who destroy your sets

Radiant-Positive-582 · 2024-02-21T16:29:48+00:00

Lol, sometimes guys like to sit around and wait for another guy to approach as it signals "damn, if he can do it, why can't I?". There's really nothing you can do about it tbh, because it's still the women's decision to choose who she wants to engage with as well. Just don't think about it too much and just have the mindset that you bring the life to the party/club.

I'd def party with you though because I'm kinda the same lol way. I wouldn't hop on the girl you're talking to though, that's weird.

Victorinox2 · 2024-02-21T17:44:44+00:00

If someone else is trying to pick up a girl you've approached and are talking/dancing with, literally just tell them to please go away (I am always polite) and it works like every time. Maybe it helps I'm tall and jacked, though, but they back up immediately and apologize.

Advanced-Page8989 · 2024-02-22T00:45:33+00:00

confident and attractive guy doesnt mean anything. if it's that easy, everyone would be getting laid.

Title	Help! Other Guys bombard every girl I approach
Author	Charming-Cell-3595
Upvotes	118
Comments	55
Date	February 20, 2024 4:23 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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