I saw a thread recently where a member sent some chick a lame joke and she didn't respond.

Someone commented that if one joke lost her, she didn't like him much anyway. I wanted to address this.

  1. Women do not put up with many mistakes, not only because they don't want to, but because they don't have to

  2. The more she likes you, the more mistakes you are allotted, but this does not imply that girls should or will give guys many chances and that you shouldn't be improving upon every single minor mistake you make as a man.

If a girl was interested in you and somewhere along the line you didn't fuck her, you messed up.

Sure, logistics might have interferred or an unstoppable outside force might have interferred, but there was always something you could have done to buffer your resistance against said outside forces (i.e., she might like you enough to ignore the ex-boyfriend who randomly texts her).

If this sounds like a lot of work or overly harsh, you're not cut out for this game.

Why is it this difficult? For reason #1. Women have a ridiculous amount of options. Even a girl who is a 7 is getting BOMBARDED with attention through Instagram, Facebook, text, etc. Even if the majority of these men are completely worthless to her (unattractive, lame, desperate, etc), it will give her a rough estimate that she is at X level of attractiveness. That's her benchmark for even getting in the door, let alone fucking her.

The men that she fucks are then in the top 1% of the 1% of the men she's met. If you aren't at this level or comparable to him, she usually won't fuck you, or will fuck you after you give more investment to compensate for your lower value (e.g., she'll fuck a famous musician first night since he's higher value than average guy who romances her, but makes most other guys wait 2weeks+).

She's always calibrating her tolerance for mistakes based on how attractive she is, and how attracted to you she is. Her REALLY liking you will only give you maybe one or two mistakes before she's done with you, MAYBE.

But one or two awkward moments with a girl are usually enough to kill the entire seduction with the MAJORITY of women you meet, unless you can quickly turn awkwardness into humor or turn tension into sexiness (which would make it not a mistake, but a transition).

If your response to any of this is, "Well, she didn't like you much to begin with," you're not really helping anyone. It's about as helpful as telling someone, "Be yourself; when the right girl comes along, she'll like you for who you are."

Good luck with that.

Be critical. If you mess up and she stops returning your texts, you probably messed up with texting. If she never even returns one text of yours, it was something that happened in person.

Be hard on yourself. Learn. Push. Learn. Push.

Women have VERY little tolerance for weakness in men, thus you should have even less, or you're going to have a real bumpy ride.

To education,

Hector Castillo

EDIT: Apparently reading is hard and unless you cover every stupid misinterpretation possible, people will strawman an argument to fit the best counter-argument they can muster. I did not mean the financial top 1% when I said "she will only fuck the top 1% of the 1% of men she meets." This means that at her current state of self-value, based on her currently social circle hierarchy level and past history with men and current history of men who hit on her, she's only going to sleep with 1% of 1% of them. Quantifiably this makes sense, since if this wasn't true, almost every girl would have N > 100 lay counts.

Social value 1% of 1%, boys.

EDIT 2: Women always have and always will hold the key to sex. If you want to make yourself feel better with, "No she lost me" arguments or some "I'm the prize" argument, go ahead. Pride wise, emotionally, this should be your thought, but if this interferes with your ability to self-correct and improve, you will hit a plateau of sexual success. Ego > results, but you still need results or you're just some prideful guy with his dick in his hand.